Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex – Details, episodes & analysis

Online dating: Is it worth it? Well… that really depends on your "worth it." In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get real about the highs, lows, and “what even is this?” moments of dating online. Charlie shares why online dating hasn’t worked for her, while Dr. Sue brings in perspective from her work with students, seniors, and curious minds of all ages.

We talk about setting realistic expectations, navigating dishonesty (hi, bots), and why knowing what you want before diving in can save you a lot of heartache. From ethical non-monogamy to decoding bios and red flags, we cover the good, the bad, and the confusing parts of digital dating.

Whether you're new to online dating or feeling jaded by the apps, we’re here to help you check in with yourself, stay grounded, and figure out what your version of “worth it” really looks like.

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Is honesty always the best policy in relationships? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unpack the gray areas of truth-telling—exploring when full transparency strengthens trust and when it might do more harm than good.

We explore the nuances of disclosure, personal boundaries, and the idea that not everyone has earned the right to know certain details about your life—especially when it comes to topics like sexual orientation, past experiences, and personal choices. We also examine the difference between thoughtful honesty and brutal truth, discussing how timing, context, and emotional safety all play a role in communication.

From small white lies to life-changing disclosures, honesty in relationships isn’t always black and white. We break down how navigating these tricky conversations with intention, and respect, can help you foster deeper trust without unnecessary harm.

To see the question that prompted today's episode, you can read it on Substack or listen to it on YouTube

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In this episode, we unzip the often-overlooked topic of aging and its impact on sexuality. We discuss the physiological changes associated with menopause in women and andropause in men, exploring how these transitions affect sexual functioning, relationships, and self-image. Dr. Sue explains the importance of understanding changes like testosterone decline and lubrication challenges, while Charlie highlights the cultural stigmas that discourage open conversations about aging and intimacy.

We also talk about practical considerations such as finding the right lubricant for postmenopausal vaginal health and the importance of exploring pleasure beyond traditional norms. Through stories, we emphasize the value of better education, open communication, and positive role models to break down taboos and empower individuals to embrace their evolving sexuality. Whether you're navigating these changes yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers empathy and insights to help you thrive.

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What are the questions about sex you’ve always wanted to ask but felt too awkward to say out loud? In this open and insightful episode, we take on seven of the most common—and most avoided—sex questions, inspired by this Buzzfeed article featuring Dr. Sue herself. Using our signature mix of expertise, humor, and candor, we shed light on topics many are too shy to talk about.

The questions we talk about are: 

• “What comes out when I squirt? Is it just pee?”

• “Am I masturbating too much?”

• “Will my vibrator desensitize me?”

• “Do my weird sexual fantasies mean there’s something wrong with me?”

• “Is there anything I shouldn’t be putting in my butt?”

• “If I enjoy butt play, does that mean I’m gay?”

• “How can I make my penis bigger?”

Through it all, we point out the importance of open communication, breaking down taboos, and embracing curiosity about your body and your pleasure.

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What is the “mating crisis,” and what does it really mean? In this episode, we unpack the complexities behind this increasingly popular term used to describe shifting dynamics in modern heterosexual relationships. We challenge its implications, questioning whether it reflects a genuine societal issue or simply perpetuates fear and blame—particularly targeting women.

We delve into the evolving concept of male loneliness, especially among straight men, and how it has been reframed as a "mating crisis." Our conversation explores how societal changes, including women’s growing autonomy and empowerment, have disrupted traditional relationship expectations. We also discuss the backlash women face, such as being labeled “childless cat ladies,” and how these narratives pressure women into relationships while ignoring men’s responsibility to themselves to evolve and adapt.

Dr. Sue and Charlie highlight the importance of embracing paths that align with personal desires and values, free from societal pressure. With a focus on rethinking harmful language and fostering honest conversations, this episode invites listeners to challenge outdated norms, redefine relationships on their own terms, and celebrate the beauty of autonomy and self-discovery.

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In this episode, we get real about the frustration, determination, and unwavering commitment it takes to keep pushing forward in a world that often tries to silence necessary conversations. From the political attacks on marginalized communities to the spread of misinformation, we explore the challenges of staying informed, the power of community, and the importance of resisting fear. We discuss why self-care isn’t just personal but political, how to support those most affected, and why we refuse to back down. Tune in for an unfiltered, passionate conversation about fighting for truth, justice, and the right to speak freely.

With the current political climate threatening access to accurate information and open discussions, we dive into how fear is used as a tool of control—and why it’s crucial to push back. We also emphasize the need for collective resilience, allyship, and finding strength in numbers, even if it’s just one trusted person. This episode is a reminder that questioning sources, seeking diverse perspectives, and holding space for difficult conversations are acts of resistance. 

This episode serves as a call to action—because when we fight for truth, justice, and freedom of speech, we all rise together.

What you can do:

• Share the podcast with others and on social media to help spread the word.

• Those with podcast promotion knowledge, consider lending a hand to amplify our reach.

• Prioritize self-care while continuing activism, recognizing the balance is vital for long-term resilience.

• Find your community—whether online or offline—to provide support and solidarity during these trying times.

• Use your power and privilege to support targeted communities through actions, not just words.

• Be critical of information sources and make a conscious effort to seek out diverse, factual perspectives.

• Diversify your social media feeds to include voices from communities outside your own.

• Contact your elected representatives and speak up about the issues that matter.

• Take the initiative to educate yourselves on how to best support marginalized communities.

• Older listeners, keep engaging with activism and stay informed about current issues to continue being a force for change.

• Send questions or topic suggestions to us to help shape future episodes and contribute to ongoing conversations.

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In this episode, we dive into the critical but often overlooked topic of sexual health in healthcare settings. Did you know that only 6% of healthcare providers start conversations about sexual health? We highlight why this needs to change and discuss ways the system can do better—starting with medical school and advocacy programs. We talk about the gaps in training for medical professionals, the discomfort many of us feel when raising concerns with our healthcare providers, and the challenges of dealing with gender and racial bias. 

We also share insights on the importance of treating the whole person and fostering open communication. On the patient side, we talk about how to prepare for appointments, advocate for yourself, and push back when your concerns aren’t being taken seriously.

This conversation is packed with practical advice, personal stories, and a call to action for providers to prioritize sexual health as a vital part of overall well-being. And we want to hear from you! Share your experiences and help us keep this conversation going.

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Statistics cited: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7177861/

National Coalition for Sexual Health https://www.nationalcoalitionforsexualhealth.org/

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the often-asked question: What is the “normal” frequency for sex? *Spoiler Alert*—it’s different for everyone. We explore how individual preferences, partner compatibility, and life factors like stress, health, and age play a role in what feels “normal.”

The conversation delves into the motivations behind questions about sexual desire and frequency, the importance of open communication in relationships, and how to address differing libido levels. We also chat about challenges like the impact of medications on sex drive and navigating conversations about sexual needs in a vulnerable, non-judgmental way.

Whether you're curious about your own experiences or wondering how to have better conversations about sex and intimacy, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand what your “normal” is and what it can be for your relationships.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, we dive into the essentials of reproductive health, focusing on the teenage years and the transformative changes of puberty. We discuss why understanding the basics—like the reproductive system, the hormonal shifts of adolescence, and when someone can get pregnant—is crucial for everyone. 

The conversation explores common misconceptions about reproductive health, emphasizing the importance of empowering people with accurate information, and highlights the role of empathy in bridging the knowledge gap. Whether you’re a parent, a teen, or just curious, this episode is packed with insights to help foster informed and respectful conversations.

Tune in to discover why education and understanding are the keys to fostering a healthier, more informed future for all.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, we dive into the evolving landscape of relationship structures, focusing on consensual non-monogamy (CNM) like open relationships or polyamory, and the importance of clear communication and boundaries. We talk about how societal expectations around marriage and commitment are shifting, creating space for people to redefine what partnership means to them.

From defining terms like monogamy, polyamory, and monogamish to addressing the complexities of jealousy, family dynamics, and social stigma, our conversation emphasizes the value of honesty, self-awareness, and proactive communication. We also share how these relationship styles challenge societal norms while offering opportunities for personal growth and deeper connections.

Whether you’re curious about non-monogamy or exploring it yourself, this episode provides insights into what non-traditional relationships can mean, and offers tips for fostering healthy, communicative partnerships in today’s evolving world.

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If you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question