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| Building Resilience: DBT Techniques for Overcoming Adoption-Related Challenges with Sharon Stein McNamara - Ep 184 | 17 Feb 2025 | 00:26:58 | |
"So the piece that I most resonate with the Dialectical Behavior Therapy is it's one of the therapies that really understands this core feeling of feeling overwhelmed and like you don't want to be alive." - Sharon Stein McNamara EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Sharon Stein McNamara, a licensed psychologist and adoption-competent therapist. Sharon, an adoptee herself, shared her personal journey and the profound impact of adoption on her life, particularly during her adolescent years when she faced suicidal thoughts after a breakup. We delved into the complexities of adoption and how they can lead to feelings of self-loathing and overwhelming distress, especially among adoptees. Sharon introduced us to Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a therapeutic approach that has been particularly effective for adopted adolescents and young adults. She explained how DBT incorporates mindfulness and distress tolerance skills, which are crucial for individuals who may feel their emotions are too intense to manage. Throughout our conversation, Sharon emphasized the importance of recognizing and validating these feelings rather than dismissing them. She shared her own experiences with DBT and how it helped her and her clients navigate the challenges of attachment and self-worth. We discussed the significance of shifting core beliefs about oneself, especially for adoptees who may struggle with feelings of being unwanted or unworthy. Sharon's insights provided hope and practical tools for families and individuals impacted by adoption. She encouraged listeners to never give up hope on adoptees, as the right support and understanding can lead to healing and growth. I hope this episode resonates with anyone who has been touched by adoption or is seeking effective therapeutic tools to support themselves or their loved ones. Thank you for joining us, and please share this episode with anyone who might benefit from Sharon's expertise. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Sharon's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption | |||
| Breathwork and Healing: A Journey Through Adoption Trauma with Kellan Bacon - Ep 183 | 10 Feb 2025 | 00:24:16 | |
"I was one of these slight skeptics; I was like, well I've been breathing all my life, what can breathwork do for me?" -- Kellan Bacon Hear the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JKBNQJYFFZT18Z0XSMHHTH37 EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Kellan Bacon, a gender-expansive, transracial adoptee from China, who was adopted as an infant in 1998 and now resides in Cardiff, Wales. Kellan has recently launched a professional practice called Kai Ming Holistics, where they utilize breathwork and other embodied modalities to support others on their healing journeys. Kellan shared their personal adoption story, highlighting the complexities and challenges they faced growing up in a transracial family. They discussed the common narrative of being "saved" through adoption and how they eventually came to realize the profound impact of adoption trauma on their life. This awakening occurred during a mental health crisis around the age of 20, leading Kellan to explore their identity and the interconnectedness of their experiences as an adoptee and a queer individual. We delved into the transformative power of breathwork, a healing modality that Kellan discovered during the COVID-19 pandemic. They explained how breathwork can help individuals access and process trauma stored in the body, particularly for adoptees who may have pre-verbal or pre-cognitive trauma. Kellan emphasized the importance of having a trained guide during breathwork sessions to ensure safety and support. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kellan's information:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Welcome and Introduction 00:01:05 - Meet Kellen Bacon 00:01:48 - Kellen's Adoption Story 00:03:15 - Coming Out of the Fog 00:04:30 - Transracial Adoption Experience 00:06:04 - Exploring Gender Identity 00:07:01 - The Intersection of Identities 00:08:34 - COVID and Breathwork 00:10:01 - Understanding Breathwork 00:11:08 - Demonstration of Breathwork 00:12:24 - Safety in Breathwork 00:15:09 - Breathwork for Adoptees 00:16:39 - Trauma in the Body 00:19:30 - Kellen's Offerings 00:20:20 - Root Cause Healing 00:22:26 - Kellen's Journey and Age 00:23:30 - Closing Thoughts
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| Navigating Identity: A Korean Adoptee's Journey with Nathan Nowack - Ep 174 | 09 Dec 2024 | 00:26:12 | |
"I...sometimes I forget that I'm Asian unless I see myself in a mirror." -- Nathan Nowack Read the Transcript: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JEAFSD4KFY07AFGENGAPDN7A EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Nathan Nowack, a Korean adoptee, professional photographer, and co-host of The Janchi Show. Nathan shared his adoption story, having been adopted from Korea at just five and a half months old and raised in a predominantly white community in Oklahoma. He reflected on his childhood, noting the lack of cultural representation and the challenges of navigating his Asian identity in a world that often sees him as different. We discussed the complexities of transracial adoption, including the impact of his parents' approach to race and culture. Nathan emphasized the importance of understanding and acknowledging one's racial identity, especially in a society that often overlooks these nuances. He shared his experiences with microaggressions and the emotional toll they can take on adoptees, highlighting the need for greater awareness and sensitivity. Nathan also spoke about his involvement with KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network) and how connecting with other adoptees has been instrumental in his healing journey. He described the sense of community he found there and the importance of sharing diverse adoption stories, acknowledging that each experience is unique. As a father of three multiple-ethnicity children, Nathan is committed to helping them understand their cultural heritage. He shared how he incorporates Asian traditions and celebrations into their lives, ensuring they have a strong sense of identity. This conversation was rich with insights into the complexities of adoption, identity, and community. I hope listeners find Nathan's story as inspiring and enlightening as I did. Be sure to check out The Janchi Show and connect with Nathan on Instagram for more of his journey and perspectives. Thank you for joining us, and I look forward to our next episode! =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Nathan's information:
=============== =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:26 - Nathan's Adoption Story 00:02:50 - Cultural Representation in Upbringing 00:03:50 - Transracial Adoption and Parental Awareness 00:05:32 - The Melting Pot Mentality 00:06:52 - Microaggressions and Identity 00:08:38 - Community and Connection 00:09:18 - Involvement with KAAN 00:10:56 - Upcoming KAAN Conference 00:11:41 - Healing Through Shared Stories 00:12:30 - The Complexity of Adoption Stories 00:13:44 - Reunion with Biological Family 00:15:17 - Communication Challenges with Siblings 00:16:37 - Sibling Trauma and Adoption 00:17:45 - Parenting Mixed-Race Children 00:19:15 - Cultural Education for Children 00:20:37 - Food and Cultural Connection 00:21:50 - Living Through His Children 00:22:45 - Closing Thoughts and Resources | |||
| Behind the Scenes with Unraveling Adoption - Ep 87 | 03 Apr 2023 | 00:22:10 | |
This week's Unraveling Adoption podcast episode is unique because I am traveling to an adoption conference the week before this episode's release. So instead of editing a regular episode, I put together a short behind-the-scenes episode, highlighting all the things we offer to adoptive families and the larger community.
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| Adoption from 3 Perspectives with Kevin Burgart - Ep 86 | 27 Mar 2023 | 00:45:18 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Kevin Burgart from the Nashville area. He's an adoptee, adoptive parent of two children with significant special needs, and recently he became the adoptive parent of his grandchild as well. Since Kevin has been on both sides of this equation, he has a unique perspective on adoption. His life has been more challenging than most in many ways. We will dig into the obstacles he's faced, and talk about what resources he's found to help him cope. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kevin's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Kevin's adoption story and childhood 2:53 How adoption affected Kevin's teen years with emotional and behavioral issues 3:38 The start of Kevin's search for his biological family, then blocked for 41 years 6:24 Adoptive parents were loving and helpful with search 8:04 New research about biological family in 1991, more falsehoods, adoptees beware! 9:21 Registration with databases, a few teasers 10:20 Finally received birth certificate after 48 years, but all his parents were gone by then 12:45 Pursuing other family members through DNA, expectation v. reality 17:35 Does Kevin feel "lucky" to escape being raised by his birth family? 19:05 Connections with Kevin's 15 bio siblings 21:52 Deciding to adopt older children with special needs 24:10 Disruptions and chaos with adopted siblings 27:20 Major struggles with adopted son because of so much trauma in his life 33:55 Adopting their son's infant child 37:30 How Kevin reckons with parenting these troubled children 39:00 Resources that have helped Kevin, and advice for adoptees in search | |||
| Retreats for Adoptees with Cindy McQuay - Ep 85 | 20 Mar 2023 | 00:41:49 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Cindy Olson McQuay, an adoptee from Pennsylvania who is the co-founder, with Erin Cosentino, of Hiraeth Healing Retreats for Adoptees, DCPs (Donor Conceived People), LDAs (Late Discovery Adoptees), and NPEs (Not Parent Expected). Cindy is a baby scoop era domestic infant adoptee, and she had a rather idyllic childhood with well-informed and open adoptive parents, which was somewhat unusual at the time. Besides her work for Hiraeth, she advocates for adoption law reform and educates the public about separation trauma. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Cindy's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:25 Cindy's adoption story and childhood 6:40 Cindy's search for her birth family 10:35 Does a "good adoption" preclude adoption trauma? 15:44 What prompted Cindy to become an adoption activist and search angel? 16:58 Adoption v. Guardianship 18:46 The problems with intercountry adoption and surrogacy 21:49 What is Hiraeth Hope & Healing? 25:25 The overlaps between adoptees, LDAs, DCPs, and NPEs 27:03 What do people experience at Hiraeth retreats? 31:40 Scholarships ARE available! And help them find mansions to host these retreats 35:17 Advice for non-adoptees and adoptive parents | |||
| Adoptee Peer Support with Greg Gentry - Ep 84 | 13 Mar 2023 | 00:45:59 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Greg Gentry, a domestic baby scoop era adoptee, born in California in 1969. He has been in reunion with maternal family members since 2006, and in 2021 also connected with his paternal side. Greg is a facilitator and interviewer for Fireside Adoptees, a private Facebook group founded in 2021, which is committed to additional outreach through its Fireside Adoptees public Facebook page and the Fireside Adoptees Constellation private Facebook group. Greg is also an administrator and facilitator within the Adoption Trauma Network and a leader for the New Hampshire chapter of Adoptees Connect. He enjoys connecting with others in the online adoptee community, and has found these interactions to be richly rewarding and supportive. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:26 Greg's adoption story and childhood 9:30 Greg's first blood relative he met - the importance of mirroring 11:50 The pros and cons of open adoption 13:50 Greg's reunion experiences 19:10 "Coming out of the fog" 25:45 How Fireside Adoptees helped Greg transition out of the fog 32:00 Adoption Trauma Network description 34:50 What makes Adoptees Connect so special? 43:20 Greg's advice to adoptive parents | |||
| Exploring Healing Arts to Process Trauma with Kelsay Elizabeth Myers - Ep 83 | 06 Mar 2023 | 00:37:25 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Kelsay Elizabeth Myers, a professional writer, artist, and somatic movement educator living in Marin County, CA. She is passionate about personal and social transformation for trauma healing. She's a Korean transnational adoptee who has been on a healing journey the last several years, after spending the first 32 years of her life in self-destructive behavior patterns. Kelsay founded Dialogical Persona Healing Arts where she offers individual and group coaching programs and online courses that use expressive arts and transformational processes to help others discover new ways of understanding themselves, reclaim their creative flow and feel more settled in their whole system, so they, too can experience more power, excitement, and joy in life. She is currently a Ph.D student of Transformative Inquiry at California Institute of Integral Studies where she uses a variety of psychological approaches and arts-based research practices for trauma integration and wholeness. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kelsay's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 Kelsay's adoption story and childhood, including racist microaggressions and bullying 4:58 Kelsay's racial identity 7:20 Which was worse, racial trauma or adoption trauma? 10:40 How Kelsay's trauma manifested in abusive relationships 13:20 Intuitively realizing her sexual abuse in foster care through her "felt sense" 15:26 Conscious dancing to begin her healing journey 18:05 Kelsay's training in somatic movement healing modalities 22:45 How somatic movement has helped Kelsay deal with racism triggers 24:39 Somatic movement to help kids 27:37 Autoimmune conditions and somatic movement 30:57 Our culture's mind/body split 32:05 Kelsay's advice for transracial/intercountry adoptive parents | |||
| We Are Not Our Trauma with Simon Benn | 27 Feb 2023 | 00:29:48 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Simon Benn, an adoptee living near York, England and host of Thriving Adoptees podcast. I was recently on his show, so I wanted him to be on our show as well. Trading podcasts across the globe. Simon has been on a healing journey for the last 13 or so years, after a discovery about his adoption that rocked his world. He wants to help other adoptees move toward healing with his podcast and webinars. =============== 💌 Sign up for Unraveling Adoption's email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Simon's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:18 Simon's adoption story and childhood 4:14 What Simon's adoption file revealed about his birth mother 7:35 Revelations and epiphanies 10:05 What is the primal wound? What is wounded? Simon's new metaphor 18:55 There's no such thing as a second-hand insight 21:23 Simon's advice for adoptees coming "out of the fog" 25:05 Simon reading his poems "Beneath" and "After the Fog" | |||
| Engagement Journalism to Elevate Voices of Adoption with Amanda Kari McHugh - Ep 81 | 20 Feb 2023 | 00:47:45 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Amanda Kari McHugh, an adoptee and an engagement journalist who is making her mark on the adoption community with her project Voices of Adoption which you can find on TikTok, Instagram, and Substack. In this project she elevates the voices of adoptees and birth mothers. Stay tuned for ways you might be able to participate in this project! Amanda is pursuing a double masters in journalism and engagement from grad school at the Craig Newmark Graduate School of Journalism at CUNY. She hopes to be a resource to help other adoptees and also to help other journalists find good adoption data. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Amanda's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:25 Amanda's adoption story and childhood 4:25 Kudos to Amanda's school counselor for knowing about adoption-competent therapists 5:50 Amanda's attachment style is complicated 7:09 How lack of family medical history impacts adoptees 10:00 Advocating for adoption reform and dealing with pushback 12:00 Blasting apart adoption myths, getting people angry at her 14:35 Pushback has improved Amanda's reporting 15:20 Where does Amanda find adoption data? Who keeps track of "goods transferred?" 18:50 Privacy laws - are they a farce? 20:00 The Yelp of adoption agency databases idea 20:44 Voices of Adoption on TikTok and Instagram 22:38 Objectivity is a myth but we can try to understand the other points of view 24:11 What exactly is engagement journalism? 25:00 "Domestic supply of infants" necessitated discussion about adoption and abortion 27:12 Amanda's TikTok video (audio only) 29:25 The aftermath of the viral video 32:37 How the Voices of Adoption on Substack will create community-sourced resources 35:50 Amanda's dream for collective members to get paid for their emotional labor 39:09 How to participate in Amanda's projects and join the Voices of Adoption community 41:04 The importance of moderators in social media 44:11 How we can share our stories safely and authentically to help people coming out of the fog | |||
| Music That Connects and Heals with Paul Kimball | 13 Feb 2023 | 00:29:26 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption Podcast, Beth talks with Paul Kimball, an adoptee from Northern California and author of the memoir We Are All Human Beings: An Adoptee Ponders. Music has always been a huge part of his life, and he currently works as a conductor, horn player, and school music teacher. He didn't realize it at first, but when he reunited with his birth mother, the passion for music made sense. In this episode, we talk about the power of music to transcend time and space and connect individuals deeply. =============== 💌 Sign up for Unraveling Adoption's email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Paul Kimball's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:35 Paul's adoption story 4:10 Paul's magnetic attraction to all things Armenian 5:40 Paul's love for classical music, especially cello music 7:29 Finding Paul's birth family 9:52 Paul's adoptive family's support of his music aspirations 11:30 Paul's dream to perform with his birth mother 12:25 Spending time with Paul's mom and half-sister, then his secondary rejection 15:44 Honoring his mother with a memorial 17:45 How music has kept Paul connected to his mother, and keeps Beth connected to her adopted son 21:45 The importance of family preservationism and listening to adult adoptees 23:35 How Paul and Joey process their intense emotions | |||
| Moving Beyond Adoption Using Magnetic Mind with Kat Linquist - Ep 79 | 06 Feb 2023 | 00:54:40 | |
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: On Saturday, March 11, Unraveling Adoption is hosting a free webinar called Moving Beyond Adoption - An Immersive Experience with Kat Linquist so you all can experience this amazing work that Kat does. It's 10am-noon PST on Saturday, March 11, 2023. Tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/moving-beyond-adoption-an-immersive-experience-with-kat-linquist-tickets-532651855037 If you are curious about how Magnetic Mind can help you in your adoption journey - or with any blockage in your life - come on over on March 11 to check it out. The event is open to anyone 18 and older. You don't have to be an adoptee to attend. =============== In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Kat Linquist, an adoptee, an intuitive, and a practitioner of a transformation modality called Magnetic Mind. She has done her own release work around her adoption trauma using this process based on neuroscience. She will be sharing her adoption story and how she helps adoptees heal with this healing modality. At the end of this episode we will be telling you about a free workshop where Kat will be demonstrating this technique. So stick around to the end to hear all the details. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kat's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS 2:02 Kat's adoption story - the big disconnect 8:00 What prompted Kat's search for her birth family? 11:00 Kat's first experience with Magnetic Mind - a major transformation and reunion 22:00 No human can escape without some sort of trauma. How can we rewrite our trauma narrative? 28:51 Magnetic Mind can take people back into their lineage to repair damage done 30:57 Does Kat consider herself healed from adoption trauma? 34:25 Focusing on what we want to create through Magnetic Mind 36:53 Beth shares her experience with Kat using Magnetic Mind on her 46:25 What modalities are wrapped into Magnetic Mind? 49:35 How Kat works with people who want to heal using Magnetic Mind, including a FREE webinar we're hosting on March 11 (Get FREE tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/moving-beyond-adoption-an-immersive-experience-with-kat-linquist-tickets-532651855037)
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| Can a Foundling Find Himself? with Paul "Jack" Fronczak - Ep 78 | 30 Jan 2023 | 00:35:33 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Paul "Jack" Fronczak, a military veteran, musician, published author, executive producer, and former actor, who now works for a non-profit organization devoted to changing lives. An avid bass guitarist and motorcyclist, Paul now lives in Las Vegas, and has a teenage daughter he calls "the greatest kid in the world." Eleven years ago, Paul took a test that disproved the story he'd been told about his identity—that he was "Baby Fronczak," the infant who'd been kidnapped from a Chicago hospital in an infamous 1964 crime. In an instant, he became a man without a name, birthday, or medical history—an "unidentified living person," in official terminology. Paul has spent the last ten years searching for answers—and looking for the real Paul Fronczak. Jack's story is about identity - or lack thereof. I bet most people struggle with questions of identity - Who am I? What makes me me? What traits of my ancestors are carried on with me? Adoptees, Donor-conceived people, and Not Parent Expected individuals struggle with identity quite a bit more. And Jack's identity is the biggest mystery I could think of. In this conversation with Jack, we talk about how his lack of identity has affected him, so we can learn how better to take care of our other-than-biological children in our community. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Paul "Jack" Fronczak's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:39 Jack's continuously unraveling life - Cliff's Notes version of Jack's life 5:35 Did Jack find the "real Paul?" 11:35 Did Jack feel like an adoptee growing up? 13:25 The student nurse who helped Jack's mom after the kidnapping 14:34 Jack's infancy with his twin Jill 17:20 Jack's relationship to his [adoptive] parents, foster family, and first family. 2 out of 3 ain't bad?? 20:30 Jack's lifelong effects of early chaos and abandonment by his first family 23:50 What is it like being an "unidentified living person?" 26:49 What adoptive parents and allies can do to help adoptees and other "unidentified living person"s 32:20 Jack's ongoing mysteries make for an interesting life, and we're all discovering who we really are
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| Adoption Songs: Exploring the Complexities of Adoption Through Music with Lori Evans Ermi and Kate Ermi | 02 Dec 2024 | 00:25:10 | |
"I think now that we have this knowledge, then we can use our story to help create awareness." - Lori Evans Ermi Read the transcript here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JDRMT4Z5RGJ6SD35WBFBT4PM EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of welcoming Lori Evans Ermi and her 17-year-old daughter, Kate Ermi, both of whom are adoptees and co-wrote their new book, Adoption Songs. Our conversation delved into the complexities of adoption from their unique perspectives, highlighting the emotional layers that come with their experiences. Lori shared her journey as a domestic adoptee from the baby scoop era, detailing her late discovery of her adoption at the age of eight and the trust issues that arose from that revelation. Despite having loving adoptive parents, she faced challenges in her identity and connection to her biological roots. Kate, on the other hand, has always known she was adopted and has navigated her own path of understanding her heritage, which was further illuminated through DNA testing. We discussed the creation of Adoption Songs, where each chapter is framed as a track, with contributors choosing songs that resonate with their adoption stories. The book aims to provide a broad perspective on adoption, acknowledging both the joys and the inherent losses that come with it. Lori emphasized the importance of music as a healing tool, and Kate shared her lifelong passion for music, which has been a source of comfort for her. Throughout our conversation, we touched on the significance of community and shared experiences among adoptees, as well as the need for more resources and support for young adults in the adoption community. Lori and Kate's commitment to raising awareness and fostering understanding about adoption's complexities is truly inspiring. I encourage listeners to check out their book and visit their website, adoptionsongs.org, for more information and resources. Additionally, I shared details about an upcoming event, Adoption Healing Quest, which will take place in February 2025, aimed at exploring various healing modalities within the adoption community. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation, and I hope you find the insights shared by Lori and Kate as enlightening as I did. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lori and Kate's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Welcome to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:10 - Adoptee Stories: Lori's Journey 00:04:47 - Adoptee Stories: Kate's Journey 00:06:45 - The Complexity of Adoption 00:07:33 - Creating Adoption Songs 00:10:43 - The Primal Wound Concept 00:11:45 - Future Plans for Adoption Songs 00:12:38 - The Role of Music in Healing 00:14:40 - Untangling Our Roots Experience 00:18:03 - Navigating Complex Emotions 00:21:29 - Mainstream Adoption Narratives 00:22:30 - Finding Resources and Support 00:23:26 - Upcoming Events and Closing Thoughts
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| What's the Big Deal About Birth Certificates? with Ann Weaver-Melendy - Ep 77 | 23 Jan 2023 | 00:37:22 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Ann Weaver Melendy from Oregon, a baby scoop era adoptee who was taught by her adoptive family to not speak about her adoption and to not ask questions. Well that backfired big time, because not only is she now sharing her story on this public podcast and elsewhere, but she is also an adoptee rights advocate. Ann is particularly bothered that adoptees' vital records often don't include the true data about their birthdate, birth parents, and more. She has fought for her own birth certificate to list the correct information - and she won! Her ingenious approach to adoptees' rights will inspire other adoptees to fight for their own corrected documents. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ann's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:30 Ann's childhood and basic adoption story 2:46 When's her birthday? A complicated question! 5:55 Why her birth certificate lists the wrong birth date 9:07 Meeting her birth father 14:14 Synchronicities of genetics 15:25 Original Birth Certificate (OBC) and other types of birth certificates 19:24 Birth certificate as receipt 22:56 How the LGBTQ+ community benefited Ann and other adoptees in Oregon with the tri-party adoption bill 29:13 How Ann's new bill differs from the tri-party adoption law 31:14 Why is it so important for adoptees to have the correct information on their birth certificate? 33:00 Is Ann available to help other adoptees navigate vital records? | |||
| A Complicated Adoption Reunion Story with Alex Baquero - Ep 76 | 16 Jan 2023 | 00:44:06 | |
In this week's Unraveling Adoption podcast (formerly Safe Home Podcast), Beth talks with Alex Baquero, a 31yo from Philadelphia who was adopted at 6 months old from Colombia. His adoptive parents are white, and he started reuniting with his birth family 12 years ago. He shares his adoption story and his complicated reunion story, plus he lets us know what tools have helped him along the way. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption's email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Alex's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Alex's adoption story as a child 5:15 Both extremes are invalidating to adoptees 6:46 Growing up Colombian in a white family and white suburbia 8:02 Alex's initial search for his birth family 10:30 How adoptive parents often get in the way of adoptees' healing and reunion 16:10 Reuniting with his Scandinavian sisters 19:24 How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has helped Alex 21:30 How Alex got connected with his birth mother in Colombia 24:22 The complexities of traveling in Colombia 25:35 How Covid added to the complexity of reunion with his mother 28:25 Meeting Alex's father's side of the family, unexpectedly 31:10 How Alex managed his emotions and thinking during his time in Colombia 33:35 Aftermath back at home 37:55 Telling his adoptive parents about his reunion 39:03 Going forward…what are Alex's future plans? | |||
| A Birth Mother's Perspective with Leslie Pate Mackinnon - Ep 75 | 09 Jan 2023 | 00:48:09 | |
We are just switching our name from Safe Home Podcast to Unraveling Adoption, and this is the first full episode under our new name. In this week's episode, Beth Syverson chats with Leslie Pate Mackinnon, a licensed clinical social worker and an adoption activist for the past 30 years. Leslie is a seasoned and well-respected therapist in the adoption community. She is a nationally known trainer who travels across the country training therapists, agencies and child welfare workers about the psychological issues inherent in adoption and third-party reproduction. Following four decades of successful practice in Atlanta, Leslie and her husband relocated to Asheville, NC. Leslie comes to this work by way of being a birthmother in the 1960s, the Baby Scoop Era. She understands adoption trauma deeply, both as a lived experience and as a therapist for all members in the adoption constellation - adoptees, birthparents, and adoptive parents. On Safe Home Podcast, we've had 8 episodes so far with adoptees, and 1 episode with another adoptive parent, but this is our first episode from the birth mom's perspective, which is a super-critical piece of this puzzle. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Leslie's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 All voices in adoption matter, and adoptees' voices come first 3:16 Positive adoption language and listening to adult adoptees 6:35 Birth parents' stories are often suppressed 8:16 Leslie's birth parent experience #1 16:08 Adoptees and birth parents both get stuck in culture's judgements about adoption 17:03 Coping with trauma with substances, the intersection between adoption and addiction 25:30 Adoptive parents talking openly with their children about their adoption 28:35 Leslie's birth parent experience #2 33:25 Birth parents' difficulties, then and now 39:00 The importance of family preservation, and Follow the Money 44:10 How Leslie & Beth are dealing with their past regrets | |||
| Transitioning from Safe Home Podcast to Unraveling Adoption - Ep 74 | 02 Jan 2023 | 00:21:25 | |
In this very special episode, Beth Syverson, host of Safe Home Podcast, explains her pivot to Unraveling Adoption. This is the last episode of Safe Home, and the first episode of Unraveling Adoption. She explains what the new title means, what the future plans are, and she provides ways for everyone to help get the new podcast launched. =============== 💌 Sign up for our email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Beth's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome Unraveling Adoption is created by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Amanda Mullins Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Thanks to all those who've helped make Safe Home Podcast happen, and some stats 9:17 Why are we making the pivot to Unraveling Adoption? 10:50 What does Unraveling Adoption mean? 13:05 What are our plans for the future? 16:26 Ways you can help --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Partnership Parenting with Lainie Liberti & Her Son Miro Siegel - Ep 73 | 26 Dec 2022 | 00:45:44 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lainie Liberti and her 23yo son Miro Siegel. Lainie Liberti is a best selling author, international speaker, teen mentor, worldschooler, partnership parenting paradigm advocate and mother. In 2012 Lainie co-founded Project World School with her son and has lived in community with over a 100 teens in over 20 international locations. Lainie founded Transformative Mentoring for Teens in 2020 in response to the growing need to support teen's mental health. Lainie just released her first book, Seen, Heard & Understood, Parenting and Partnering with Teens for Greater Mental Health, the number 1 best seller on Amazon in the Parenting New Releases. Her book is right in line with what we've been advocating here at Safe Home - that parents do their own work and partner with their kids instead of being an authoritarian figure over them. Beth talks with Lainie and Miro about unschooling and worldschooling because they lead a fascinating alternative life. But over the top of everything is the partnership that they've nurtured which allows them to both live as their fully authentic selves. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lainie's & Miro's information:
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| Neurodiverse Family Adventures with Carolyn Balagot - Ep 72 | 19 Dec 2022 | 00:40:34 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Carolyn Balagot, an advocate for neurodiverse people. In her family, she, her husband, and her 3 kids are all neurodiverse in one way or another - primarily with ADHD or Autism Spectrum Disorder. She has worked at her children's school as a 504 case carrier, advocating for students' needs. Her kids all went to school at Orange County School of the Arts, where I used to teach and which I highly respect and admire. Especially in an arts school, all kinds of diversity are celebrated, including neurodiversity. Carolyn will talk to us about her family's challenges and triumphs, and help us know how to better advocate for our neurodivergent loved ones or community members. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Carolyn's information:
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=============== Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:52 Carolyn's family's background and diagnoses 8:20 High-functioning and low-functioning are outdated. What vocabulary is correct nowadays? 9:50 Autistic people? Or people with autism? 12:35 504 v IEP accommodations 13:55 Is anxiety a neurodivergence? Is a student with anxiety eligible for accommodations? 15:48 Cum. files and labeling in school 18:33 What is ableism? What are some examples of ableist policies in school and work? 21:20 Did Carolyn's child's diagnosis make things better or worse? 22:30 Carolyn and her husband are waiting to get their own diagnosis of autism confirmed 25:40 How job interviews are challenging for autistic people and how to make them better 27:30 The powerful concept of universal design 28:43 Carolyn's advice for parents who think their child might be neurodiverse 30:10 Why to steer clear of ABA - listen to adult autistic people 35:15 Why Autism Speaks is problematic 37:40 Carolyn's advocacy for the LGBTQ community too --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Destigmatizing Mental Illness with Amanda Lipp - Ep 71 | 12 Dec 2022 | 00:39:48 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Amanda Lipp, a documentary filmmaker and social entrepreneur working at the intersection of mental health, storytelling, and technology. Amanda has produced over 80 short documentaries about mental health and social impact - covering topics such as youth psychosis, schizophrenia, art therapy, cyberbullying prevention, and housing relief from wildfires. A passionate mental health advocate, she has given over 150 speeches around the U.S. since age 18 sharing her journey navigating the mental health system. Amanda is passionate about mental health leadership, policy change, and tying films to mental health research studies. She serves on the Mental Health Advisory Panel at Google, and the Interdepartmental Serious Mental Illness Committee (ISMICC) created by Congress to advise on federal mental health policy. Amanda formerly served on the board of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), the largest grassroots mental health nonprofit in the U.S. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== RESOURCES: Amanda's information:
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=============== TIME STAMPS: 2:09 Amanda's lived experience with mental illness 6:05 Sports injuries and Amanda's depression 9:50 Using drugs like an emotional credit card 11:05 Amanda's support system and challenges of parenting a "problem child" 12:55 Amanda's major mental breakdown as a college freshman - The Truman Show Delusion 15:08 Psychiatrist ICU and outpatient services from induced psychosis 17:50 Amanda's daily regimen to maintain her mental health 22:40 Behind the scenes in mental health organizations 24:00 Amanda's reprise of The Truman Show Delusion and how her parents handled it 26:37 The danger of cops responding to mental health crises, and the hope of the new 988 lifeline 28:50 The importance of compassion and curiosity in responding to psychiatric emergencies 31:50 Advice for how to be supportive to your loved one struggling with mental illness 33:46 How Amanda's sexual identity intersected with her mental health 35:50 Seek out access points for professional help before a crisis occurs 36:43 Befriending all parts of ourselves with grace, and lean on community
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| An Unforgettable Adoption Reunion Story with Doris Blumenthal - Ep 70 | 05 Dec 2022 | 01:00:14 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Doris Blumenthal, an adopted person who lives in Northern California. Her adoption story is one of the adoptee narratives in the documentary Reckoning with the Primal Wound, which you've probably heard me talking about before. The filmmaker Rebecca Autumn Sansom was on this podcast in Episode 30. If you haven't seen Reckoning with the Primal Wound yet, I highly recommend it, and I also want to let you know that this episode contains spoilers. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Resources mentioned in this episode:
=============== Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 Doris' adoption story, crossing paths with birth mother in the early days 6:40 The overwhelming need to know one's biological roots 9:16 Doris' adoptive parents' attitude about adoption 11:54 The mysterious photograph and the broken relationship with Doris' bio brother 13:35 Complex emotions with Doris' paternal sisters 14:36 Starting the pre-internet search process 18:50 First attempt at finding birth mother 20:15 How DNA searches help 21:11 A common problem for adopted people: lack of health history 21:56 Minnesota sisters and other maternal relatives 22:54 How Arizona's open records laws enabled Doris to find her birth mother 25:05 Finding Doris' birth mother's home - and SPOILER ALERT if you haven't seen the Reckoning film yet 28:00 Doris' brother's attitude toward Doris, privacy v. right to know 31:35 Another amazing coincidence 33:40 More details about the reunion day 38:45 Did she find the mysterious photograph or any other mementos? 40:35 How Doris handles her complicated grief 43:45 Most adopted people have a deep desire to meet their natural parents 45:05 Doris' dream of ideal records for adopted people 47:33 Backlash from sharing her story in the Reckoning with the Primal Wound documentary 51:34 Doris' advice for adopted people who are contemplating reunion, and book recommendation 53:30 Doris' book recommendation - The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier 56:37 Doris' advice for adoptive parents regarding reunion --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Connective Parenting with Bonnie Harris - Ep 69 | 28 Nov 2022 | 00:46:15 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Bonnie Harris, a New Hampshire-area director of Connective Parenting, where she is a parent educator, counselor, coach, and speaker. She wrote two parenting books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You'll Love to Live With. AND she has her own podcast Tell Me About Your Kids where anyone can listen in on her parent coaching sessions. Bonnie has a master's degree in Early Childhood Education And is the proud mother of two adult children raised with her connective approach. In today's episode, Bonnie will help us answer the question: HOW CAN WE BE MORE CONNECTED WITH the KIDS in our lives? =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Bonnie's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:26 How Bonnie parented her own (now grown) children 6:08 How Bonnie developed her connective parenting model by learning about herself 9:25 The Dandelion Child and the Orchid Child 13:00 Bonnie's own terms: The Harmony Child and The Integrity Child 13:50 Characteristics of The Harmony Child - compliant but harbors shame 16:40 How Connective Parenting focuses on the parents, not the child 22:56 Connecting with your child's emotional state instead of their behavior 28:17 Connective parenting as an investment for your child's self-confidence 31:04 Characteristics of The Integrity Child - demanding but knows what they want 36:07 How to turn the parenting ship around 40:26 How did Bonnie's orchid daughter turn out? 44:10 "My child is having a problem, not being a problem." --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Coping with OCD's Intrusive Thoughts with Katherine Osborne - Ep 68 | 21 Nov 2022 | 00:32:02 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with a family friend of hers from church - Katherine Osborne. Katherine shared with the church that she was recently diagnosed with OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I thought it might be good for our audience to learn from an eloquent teen how OCD feels. Nowadays people joke that they have OCD when they're bothered when something doesn't quite line up, or if one tile is a different color. You see memes about OCD all the time. But that's a very simplistic view of OCD that doesn't honor the lived experience of people who struggle with this disorder every day of their lives. In this episode, Katherine explains her own lived experience of OCD, and she mentions things she's learned so far. But of course neither of us are OCD experts or healthcare professionals. We recommend getting professional help if you or someone you know might be struggling with OCD or any mental health issues. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Resources about OCD that Katherine recommends:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS 1:12 Katherine's hobbies & college activities 2:25 When did Katherine's OCD symptoms start? (Thank you, COVID. ☹️) 3:46 How Katherine experiences OCD in cycles - obsessions and compulsions 6:30 What are intrusive thoughts? 8:54 How does Katherine manage her OCD? 10:22 How Katherine was diagnosed with OCD. Did her diagnosis make things better or worse? 14:00 How OCD has affected Katherine's social life 15:45 How do Katherine's family and friends support her when she's having a bad OCD day? 18:11 Is OCD more common for adults and teens? Is it growing? 19:40 Katherine's advice to parents of teens? 24:13 Can someone pull an OCD sufferer out of an OCD cycle? 27:20 First steps if you're curious if you might have OCD --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| The Male Adoptee Experience: Understanding Anger, Vulnerability, and Community with Tim Perdion - Ep 172 | 25 Nov 2024 | 00:32:29 | |
"I almost feel like there was a blueprint, and I was a character to fit into that blueprint." -- Tim Perdion Episode Summary:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the opportunity to speak with Tim Perdion, an adoptee from Ohio who has spent the last decade navigating his journey of self-discovery and healing. Tim shares his experience of being adopted shortly after birth and the feelings of not belonging that plagued him throughout his childhood. Despite growing up in a loving family, he struggled with anger and a sense of isolation, which led him to seek validation through sports and relationships. As a teenager, Tim turned to substances to cope with his internal struggles, leading to a reputation for overindulgence in high school. After facing personal crises in adulthood, including two divorces, he sought help at a trauma and addiction clinic, where he began to confront the deeper issues related to his adoption. Tim highlights the lack of focus on adoption-related trauma in traditional recovery settings and emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and community for male adoptees. He introduces the concept of the "orphaned heart," describing the emotional barriers adoptees build to protect themselves from feelings of abandonment and rejection. Tim encourages younger male adoptees to explore their inner worlds and seek support, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the complexities of adoption, the significance of community, and the power of vulnerability. I hope Tim's story resonates with many and inspires others to seek understanding and connection in their own journeys. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tim's information:
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| Grandparents Raising Grandkids with Catherine Becker - Ep 67 | 14 Nov 2022 | 00:52:09 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Catherine Becker, founder of the support group called Joys and Challenges of Relative Caregivers. She's a grandma who is raising her three young grandkids while her daughter struggles with addiction. When she tried to find a tribe of other relatives in her same situation, she didn't find a group that went deep enough or that was small enough to create personal connections. So she made her own group. Her organization is raising money to provide financial assistance to grandparents and other relatives who are caring for or who have adopted their family members' children. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Catherine's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS 1:26 Catherine's daughter Katie's journey with addiction and incarceration 6:07 How Catherine plans to keep her young children away from drugs 8:50 How Catherine gained custody of her children 13:03 The boundaries Catherine has drawn with her daughter while incarcerated 16:45 How Catherine manages her emotions and gets support 19:11 How Catherine avoids feeling resentful toward her daughter 22:13 What kind of support do relative caregivers need? 24:26 Struggles Catherine has with her other adult children 26:40 Katie's relationship with her kids 29:25 Family preservation, open adoption, and relinquishment trauma 33:23 How common is relative caregiving? 36:44 How can allies help relative caregivers? 41:08 Catherine's advice for parents with teens 43:33 Katie's mental health challenges 46:03 Catherine's advice for relative caregivers --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Chronic Suicidality with Frank King - Ep 66 | 07 Nov 2022 | 00:40:37 | |
**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode will be talking directly about suicide, so this might not be for everyone to listen to right now. But we at Safe Home believe this is a very important topic so we hope you'll listen when it's safe for you to do so. In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Frank King, a comedian who wrote for The Tonight Show for over 20 years and who performs standup worldwide. Along the way, he focused his creative attention on the topic of mental health, and specifically suicidality. Now known as the Mental Health Comedian, he talks openly about his own suicidality and, using humor as a tool to open up the conversation, he informs people about suicide prevention, destigmatizes mental illness, and helps people feel seen and heard. He has a few wonderful TED Talks: including A Matter of Laugh or Death, Mental with Benefits, and Born To Be Funny. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Frank's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:30 Frank explains creating a career from comedy about suicide 7:48 Vulnerability is Frank's superpower 9:58 Dentists, veterinarians, and construction workers have the highest incidence of suicide deaths 11:17 Frank's mental illnesses - Major Depressive Disorder and Chronic Suicidality 15:35 Mental with Benefits - what if mental illness is a desirable disadvantage? 17:30 Frank's self-care plan - 5 daily requirements to maintain his mental health 20:40 Suicide prevention tips 22:20 Does talking about suicide make it more likely someone would attempt suicide? 23:48 We're not saying "commit suicide" anymore - what do we call it now? 25:08 The new 988 suicide prevention lifeline 28:02 **TRIGGER WARNING** Frank's intergenerational depression and suicide stories 32:09 Sugar addiction as a long-term death sentence 33:15 Ambivalence about suicide means most people can be saved from suicide; what are the warning signs? 36:33 Lock up your medications, parents!! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| A Recovery Journey with Veronica Silva | 31 Oct 2022 | 00:33:59 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Rev. Veronica Silva, a New Thought minister and a nurse who has struggled with alcoholism since she was young, but who has been in recovery for 26 years. Veronica has been on a spiritual journey since June 24th, 1996, when she got sober from alcohol and drugs. She has had a passion for spirituality as a result of attending AA meetings and finding a God of her understanding. She is SO passionate about God that she recently became a Minister in 2020 - right in the middle of the pandemic. She is a true believer in going right into the discomfort of life to free ourselves from our suffering. She is a registered nurse and works at a cardiac procedures unit and loves helping others during their times of fear and anxiety. Here at Safe Home, one of our biggest priorities is to destigmatize addiction and mental health, so by hearing stories from people like Veronica, we are able to humanize addiction, find commonalities, and discover the way others have found their healing path. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Veronica's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:40 Veronica's childhood and early introduction to alcohol 3:16 Spinning all the plates during high school, self-medicating for anxiety 4:38 Unconscious intergenerational rage and machismo 7:30 How spirituality helped Veronica 9:50 Being a young mom in recovery and later supporting her son in recovery 13:22 Tools that helped Veronica with the initial stages of recovery 16:30 Stay-at-home drunk 17:33 Going back to school to become a nurse 19:12 Another new career as a minister 20:20 Veronica's advice for family or friends of addicted people, setting boundaries with love 22:19 High-functioning alcoholics 24:25 Alcohol's prevalence in our culture 25:34 Meditation as a recovery tool 27:25 Learning how to set boundaries, resentment as a boundary indicator 29:05 Each personal growth journey looks different for everyone, just take a step any direction --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| More Than Sex Ed with Emmalinda MacLean - Ep 64 | 25 Oct 2022 | 00:49:07 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Emmalinda MacLean, co-founder of More Than Sex-Ed, a Los Angeles-based non-profit whose mission is to nourish healthy development through honest conversation about sex. She is the Director of Curriculum & Instruction at More Than Sex-Ed plus she wrote a children's book around the topic of consent called "Everybody, Every Body!" =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Emmalinda's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:42 How Emmalinda landed a career in sex ed 4:24 Gender diversity is NOT a new thing 7:21 Parental backlash? 8:22 Beth's sex ed experience at church 10:33 Teaching consent 12:00 Questions about "gay sex" 14:00 What is sex? 15:52 Can parents rely on school or church to teach about sex? 17:53 Don't Freak Out! 19:33 Acknowledging pleasure reduces victimization 20:25 At what age can kids start learning about sex? 22:30 The topic of menstruation and Turning Red 25:23 How does gaming and social media affect our kids? 27:30 What's the deal about furries? 30:18 Anonymous question box and porn 33:31 What about sexting? 35:19 What should parents do regarding phones? 36:03 How the fall of Roe will affect our teens 39:19 Emmalinda's best piece of advice for parent 42:10 LGBTQ+ identities 44:00 What services does More Than Sex-Ed provide? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| BEST OF: Cough Medicine and Other OTC Drugs - Ep 2 REPLAY | 17 Oct 2022 | 00:36:18 | |
Safe Home is on vacation this week, so we're replaying one of our favorite episodes. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Open-Hearted Adoption with Lori Holden, AKA Lavender Luz - Ep 63 | 10 Oct 2022 | 00:47:17 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lori Holden, an adoptive mom of 2 teens, author of the book The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, written with her daughter's birth mom and featured on required reading lists with adoption agencies across the country. She's also a blogger at LavenderLuz.com, and host of the podcast Adoption: The Long View. Lori is an influential voice in the adoption world, advocating for openness in all kinds of adoption relationships. She often keynotes at adoption conferences and speaks to new and prospective adoptive families, helping them realize the benefits to EVERYONE of maintaining transparency in the adoption process. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lori's information:
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TIME STAMPS: 1:50 Parents doing their own work 3:39 How Lori learned adoption wasn't all unicorns and butterflies 5:05 Getting curious about adoption 6:40 A new child can't cure infertility grief 9:35 Lori's family's adoption story 13:45 The importance of the biological bond 16:52 "You are mom" 19:38 Both-And 20:58 Adoptive parents that are closed off completely 22:37 What should adoptive parents say when their child misses their birthparent? 27:10 Open adoption's trajectory 30:35 What if… 34:18 Listening to birth parents more 35:55 Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency 36:26 Constellation v Triad 38:35 Adoptive parents as the "bad guys" 41:38 Is Lori anti-adoption? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Fentanyl Harm Reduction for Families with Nicole Miller - Ep 62 | 03 Oct 2022 | 00:44:30 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Nicole Miller, a certified drug and alcohol counselor and coach from Oregon who teaches addiction pharmacology at Portland Community College. Even though she's very knowledgeable about all kinds of drugs, I brought her onto Safe Home Podcast to help us focus on fentanyl. It's such a dangerous drug, and deaths from fentanyl poisoning have skyrocketed in just the last 2 or 3 years. Our family really wants to raise awareness about fentanyl, so Nicole will help us all understand the risks and what we can all do to prevent deaths caused by fentanyl. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Helanna Johnson, our life coach Heather Ross's daughter who died in December 2021 from fentanyl poisoning. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Nicole's information:
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| Writing Poetry to Process Depression with Colin Parrott - Ep 61 | 26 Sep 2022 | 00:26:29 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Colin Parrott, a 16-year-old from Huntington Beach who has been struggling with depression. He has gotten help with his mental illness from his awesome mom Debbi and from modern medicine. But perhaps the best tool he's found has been poetry. He's written a whole book of poetry about his depression called Shards. The process of writing poetry has not only helped him make sense of his mental health, but his poems help others understand what he and others with depression go through. Near the end of the episode, Colin will be sharing a poem or two from his new book, so stick around until the end! Joey and Beth both also struggle with depression, which you can hear about in Episode 11. It is something that our family is very open about, because you know what - depression kills! We're very glad that Colin was willing to come on Safe Home Podcast to share his story. We believe that the more people talk about things like depression and other mental health issues, the more we'll be able to help each other, and the more lives we'll save - quite literally. =============== RESOURCES: Colin's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:36 Colin's poetry-writing and other writing experience before his depression 3:32 How Colin's depression and self-harm started and what it looked like 6:26 What Colin's parents did to cause Colin to feel safe to tell them when he was self-harming 8:14 How meds worked for Colin's depression 10:36 Colin's poetry-writing in NYC 14:48 Colin's advice for kids who are struggling with depression symptoms 17:30 Colin's advice for parents of struggling kids 19:52 Colin reads his poem "Sunrise Relapse" --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| A Transracial Adoption Story with Darcy Mittelstaedt - Ep 60 | 19 Sep 2022 | 00:48:47 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Darcy Mittelstaedt, an adult adoptee originally from Korea, and adopted into a dysfunctional family in Nebraska at age 2. Once she came out of the fog, as they say in adoption-land, and came to terms with her relinquishment trauma and chaotic adoptive family life, she turned toward her adoption agency. She now helps inform the adoption agency's families about relinquishment trauma and the struggles that interculturally adopted people have. Hers is a story of resilience and hope that I'm sure everyone, whether or not you are affected by adoption personally, will appreciate hearing. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Darcy's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:50 Darcy's difficult childhood story 5:00 Darcy's parent's controlling style 7:49 Food control 10:33 The impact of Darcy's parents' divorce 12:14 The end of the road for Darcy 15:45 The family that rescued Darcy 18:05 Darcy's compliant temperament and the role of the church 24:58 Darcy's job at Boys Town 27:01 How Darcy collaborates with her adoption agency 32:15 Growing up as an Asian in a Nebraska farmtown 39:58 The importance of mirroring for adoptees 44:58 Hope for anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Being on the Receiving End of the CRAFT Method with Joey and Heather Ross - Ep 59 | 12 Sep 2022 | 00:49:13 | |
This week's episode is very special because #1 Joey is with us for this one. And #2: It's going to be a 3-way conversation with me, Joey, and our life coach Heather Ross. If you've listened to any of our episodes, you've probably heard me mention her, or you might have heard one of her 2 episodes we've already published - #10 and #34. In this Safe Home episode, we will be talking about how the CRAFT method has helped our family, and you'll hear from both sides - the parents' side and the teen's side. CRAFT is an acronym that stands for Community Reinforcement and Family Training. This is the approach that is scientifically proven to get more people into recovery than the old-fashioned approaches like tough love and interventions. The basis of CRAFT is the positive rewards that the loved one heaps on the addicted person when they are doing favorable behaviors. A key concept in CRAFT is that the relationship is more important than their sobriety. This method shifted our family so much that I credit it to keeping our son alive for these past few years. I'm very excited to share some details of the CRAFT approach with you. =============== RESOURCES: Heather's information:
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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson TIME STAMPS: 3:30 Overview of Joey's struggles 6:40 Joey's new job has helped stabilize him 7:40 Alternative healing we've found to be helpful 11:32 How Heather and CRAFT helped save our family 16:24 Putting our kids under the microscope 19:29 Addiction causes hiding and masking 21:20 Changing the conversation with our addicted loved one 23:28 What Joey and Helanna received from substances 27:04 The goal is CONNECTION, not sobriety 33:25 Why some parents have trouble with the CRAFT Method 36:30 Sliding through life pre-crisis, asleep at the wheel 39:08 What our kids want from us 41:16 Enabling, Narcan, "rock bottom," and stigma | |||
| The Plants Are Calling for the Adoption Constellation with Mee Ok Icaro - Ep 171 | 18 Nov 2024 | 01:29:51 | |
"The plants are always turning everything upside down because our culture is upside down." -- Mee Ok Icaro EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I, Beth Syverson, welcome back Mee Ok Icaro, a previous guest who has shared her profound insights on adoption and healing through plant medicine. This episode is particularly special as we recorded as we prepared for an ayahuasca retreat in Costa Rica, where I participated in my first ceremony under Mee Ok's guidance. We begin by discussing our feelings as the retreat approaches. I express my excitement mixed with a hint of fear, acknowledging that this experience is far outside my comfort zone. Mee Ok shares her own anticipation and the unique challenges of leading a retreat for the first time, emphasizing the importance of focusing on personal healing rather than taking on the burdens of others. Mee Ok elaborates on the concept of leadership in the context of plant medicine, contrasting it with traditional views. She explains that true leadership often involves humility and a willingness to learn from others, rather than a desire for power or control. This perspective shifts the narrative around what it means to guide others in their healing journeys. As we delve deeper into the preparations for the retreat, we discuss the rigorous dieta we have both been following. This dieta involves strict dietary and behavioral restrictions designed to prepare our bodies and minds for the transformative experience ahead. I share my struggles with giving up my phone and certain foods items and the impact of reducing external stimuli on my mental clarity and emotional well-being. Mee Ok and I also touch on the broader implications of accessibility to plant medicine, particularly for marginalized communities. We discuss the challenges faced by individuals from lower-income backgrounds in accessing these healing modalities and the need for a more equitable approach as psychedelics become more mainstream. Throughout the episode, we reflect on the importance of integration and preparation in the healing process. I share my personal journey with ketamine treatment and how it has helped me move away from antidepressants, highlighting the significance of active engagement in one's healing journey rather than passively relying on substances. As we conclude, we express our excitement for the upcoming retreat and the potential for profound transformation. We plan to record a follow-up episode after the retreat to share our experiences and insights gained during this journey. Join us as we explore the complexities of adoption, healing, and the transformative power of plant medicine in this thought-provoking episode. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Mee Ok's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:02:00 - Preparing for Ayahuasca Retreat 00:03:30 - Emotional Readiness and Expectations 00:05:30 - Redefining Leadership in Healing Spaces 00:09:00 - The Role of Ego in Leadership 00:12:00 - Accountability in Healing Environments 00:15:00 - The Importance of Preparation and Integration 00:20:00 - Challenges of Accessibility in Psychedelic Healing 00:23:00 - Personal Healing Journeys 00:27:00 - The Process of the Dieta 00:32:00 - Transformative Effects of Disconnecting 00:35:00 - Commitment to Healing Work 00:40:00 - The Role of Tobacco in Healing 00:45:00 - Building Relationships with Plants and Healers 00:49:00 - Conclusion and Future Intentions
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| Framework to Improve Mental Health with Renee Knapp - Ep 58 | 05 Sep 2022 | 00:50:32 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Renee Knapp, a vice principal at a high school - or she would call it a deputy principal at a district high school where she lives in SW of Western Australia. But on top of that, she's an independent consultant at Think Effective Consultancy, where she works with schools, communities, and passionate individuals to improve mental health and wellbeing outcomes through a proven process and framework for change. She is the Chair and co-founder of a Community Based Mental Health Action Team and she's an Ambassador for the Australian & New Zealand Mental Health Association. RESOURCES: Renee's information: Think Effective Consultancy website: https://thinkeffective.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/www.thinkeffective.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thinkeffectiveconsultancy/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn8qrZZ0hmktyC7Ot0QIXuw
Other resources mentioned in this episode: Mind Matters (Australia): https://www.positiveschools.com.au/2012%20Mind%20Matters.html GoZen videos for kids: https://gozen.com/ Reach Out for teens and young adults: https://au.reachout.com/ New 988 mental health crisis line: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988
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TIME STAMPS 1:50 The Big Picture work that Renee is doing to help kids' mental health 2:20 Renee's background and interest in mental health 7:30 Behaviors are not the problem 11:05 Common mental health problems in high school 15:00 Advocating for a CULTURE of well-being at school and Beth's horrible experience with Joey's high school's culture 20:23 Examples of Renee's framework in action 27:10 Finding passionate individuals who can hop on board 29:50 Framework instead of programs 32:40 Suicide as leading cause of death 37:35 Creating a plan for well-being in the school and community 39:13 Belonging and connection is the cure --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Marriage Under the Influence of Alcohol with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry - Ep 57 | 29 Aug 2022 | 00:44:40 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry, a married couple from North Dakota who are bringing alcoholism out into the light with their podcast, Daily Dose of Dr Marry & DD. They are here on Safe Home Podcast to talk about how addiction affects everyone, not just the person struggling with addiction. They, like our family, believe that the opposite of addiction is connection, and they are aiming to destigmatize addiction so we can all heal. =============== MOVIES & CONVERSATIONS about addiction and shame event With Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 10-11:30am PST $15 (Half off for Patreon members, Open House attendees come free) Get your ticket here: https://ofsubstance.eventbrite.com =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Dayna & Mazz's information: Daily Dose of Dr. Marry and DD: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF3myrebU1m8PhVe1HutQ2w Website: https://daynadelval.com/category/dr-marry-and-me/ Other resource mentioned in this episode: IGNTD Recovery: https://www.igntd.com/ Other Resources: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome www.SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:16 Why Dayna & Mazz decided to share their story on their podcast 4:03 How Dayna & Mazz met and their early years together 6:27 Early signs of alcohol derailing Mazz and their marriage, "married to a newborn" 10:11 Dayna's reaction to the negative aspects of alcohol on their marriage 12:06 How Mazz's body made him rethink his relationship to alcohol 15:15 The overwhelming worry about cost of treatment 20:46 What Mazz's rehab was like 23:45 The benefits of having a late-onset addiction 25:20 Dayna's quirky addiction 26:54 The culture around alcohol 31:46 What was underneath Mazz's alcohol misuse? 32:34 Redefining marriage after Mazz's recovery and getting support for the spouse of the addicted person 41:28 Getting rid of shame --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Disordered Eating with Sue Bowles - Ep 56 | 22 Aug 2022 | 00:43:39 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Sue Bowles, an Ohio-based master certified life coach, memoirist, and public speaker focusing on the topics of disordered eating, anxiety, depression, and sexual assault survival and recovery. Her company is called My Step Ahead, whose motto is "you only have to be a step ahead to help the person behind you." That is certainly how we operate at Safe Home, too. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Sue's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Sue's childhood 4:45 Sue's sexual assault at 7yo, "Don't tell anyone!" 7:33 Ways Sue acted out in high school 9:08 How Sue's eating disorder began, atypical anorexia 13:01 Physical and mental effects of her disordered eating 17:16 Sue's opinion about BMI 19:29 What prompted Sue to get help for her disordered eating? 21:25 Sue's advice to parents of a teen with disordered eating 28:55 Where do people go to get help for eating disorders? 29:55 Sue's role as a life coach 35:00 Eating disorders resources 38:11 A sliver of hope can be cultivated --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Families in Recovery with Pam Lanhart - Ep 55 | 15 Aug 2022 | 00:54:32 | |
OfSubstance.EventBrite.com - 9/10 In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Pam Lanhart. She's the Director of the Minnesota based non-profit organization "Thrive Family Recovery Resources" that she started in 2016 to help families with addicted loved ones. She's a certified recovery coach, peer specialist, speaker, author, and advocate for those dealing with substance use disorder - and their families.. She has a book and a FB page called "Praying Our Loved One Home" that our Christian audience members will especially love. She recently lost her young adult son Jake to the disease of addiction, but like our dear friend Heather Ross, she is forging ahead, more determined than ever to help families so they can help their struggling teens and young adults who are battling with addiction. Pam subscribes, as I do, to the CRAFT approach of treating our addicted loved ones with unconditional love and positive regard, no matter where they are in their sobriety. RESOURCES: Pam's information:
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| Mindset Shifting with Tiffany Gay - Ep 54 | 08 Aug 2022 | 00:31:24 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tiffany Gay, a Philadelphia entrepreneur, mindset coach, and public speaker. Several years ago she experienced severe depression and anxiety, but through prayer, a shift in her mindset, and identifying her "Why" she was able to survive through her mental health breakdown. She regained everything back that she lost, including her mind, and now she helps others shift their mindset and find the root cause of their struggles. Her mission is to serve, support, coach, and mentor individuals with shifting their self-defeating, unfulfilling, unproductive, and unhealthy patterns of thinking. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tiffany's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:13 Tiffany's childhood, one of 8 kids 2:44 How Tiffany's father's PTSD affected her family 5:20 Unfamiliar simultaneous lack - in full survival mode 8:48 How Tiffany managed her economic struggles 12:05 Tiffany lost hope for 2 years 14:15 TIffany's turning point 16:00 The 5 steps Tiffany took - Identify her WHY, shift her mindset, reactive her faith, incorporate prayer, identify a support system 17:18 Why Tiffany found her healing path outside the healthcare system 18:25 How Tiffany got back on track 20:00 Tiffany is the CEO of her own life 24:11 How has Tiffany's experience affected her parenting of her 12yo daughter 27:27 Breaking generational patterns --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Self-Care for Moms with Yvette Harpootian - Ep 53 | 01 Aug 2022 | 00:38:31 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Yvette Harpootian, a certified life coach from Rhode Island who is passionate about helping women get out of overwhelm, get more done, and release anxiety and self-sacrifice in order to feel better. I thought her message would be welcome here on Safe Home Podcast since many in our audience are parents of adolescents. I know when Joey was in crisis mode, I almost completely lost myself for a while there, before I got connected with Heather Ross, OUR life coach, who BTW went to the same coaching school as Yvette. In this episode, you will receive practical tools from Yvette that you can put into practice right away. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Yvette's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:18 Why Yvette focuses on moms in her life coaching business 2:08 Key areas that moms can focus on to improve their relationship with their kids 4:52 Women's invisible workload 6:58 Keeping up with the "perfect" class mom + toxic comparing 8:02 "I don't have time for self-care!" 12:30 What does self-care encompass? 15:28 How does Yvette convince moms to engage in self-care? 18:40 Avoiding getting "hangry" (hungry + angry) and prioritizing sleep 20:30 Scheduling self-care in the calendar 21:31 What does life coaching look like? 22:41 The Model that Yvette uses in her coaching - how to control your thoughts 32:18 What's the difference between coaching and therapy? 34:06 "My son got better when I got better" and "Nurturing and Love are the keys to healing" --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Creating Wellness with Leela Davis - Ep 52 | 25 Jul 2022 | 00:39:26 | |
OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Leela Davis. She is a neurodivergent who combines her lived experience self-healing her Bipolar 1 and CPTSD symptoms and managing ADHD symptoms with training in the healing modalities that she found the most powerful in her own healing journey. She is certified: as a Holistic Health Coach, in Somatic Attachment Therapy, as a Yoga of Sound and Vinyasa Instructor, in Astrology and Human Design, and has spent decades as a multi-passionate creative finding healing in the process of art-making-performing. Her mission is to mentor and support folks with emotional and mental health challenges or diagnoses and live a meaningful and beautiful life beyond the limitations ascribed to certain diagnoses. Her vision is a world where all medical and healing practitioners will learn to heal by addressing the roots of symptoms rather than covering up the symptoms. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Leela's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:34 What is the difference between Bipolar I, Bipolar II, and depression? 5:35 Leela's diagnosis at age 37 7:44 Childhood trauma and genetic predisposition to mental illness 10:41 Did Leela's Bipolar diagnosis help or make things worse? 12:40 Leela's Bipolar medication hijacked her body and mind 21:21 How Leela found healing without meds 24:55 Meditation and yoga are key tools, incl. Yoga of sound 28:55 How Leela evaluates medication and substances now 31:15 What does Creative Wellness coaching look like? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Transformation and Healing with Jude Gorini - Ep 51 | 18 Jul 2022 | 00:43:17 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Jude Gorini, a Brazilian who lives in Northern Italy. He identifies as gender queer, and works as an author, podcaster, intuitive coach, and creative artist. He has struggled with Bipolar, addiction, and gender identity issues and shares his life story openly in order to help others. I met Jude recently when I recorded on the podcast that he co-hosts with Leela Davis, What I Didn't Tell My Therapist. He really resonated with our family's story, which intersects in many ways with his own. You will love his warmth and honesty, not to mention his sexy accent. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jude's information:
What I Didn't Tell My Therapist Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-i-didnt-tell-my-therapist-reboot/id1473447399 Other resources mentioned in this episode:
=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:26 Around the world with Jude - Brazil, Italy, UK, Italy 2:39 What's wrong with Italy? 5:50 Jude's LGBTQ+ status and coming out story 11:33 Jude's career path 13:19 How and when did addiction come into Jude's life? 18:56 What was the catalyst for his addiction recovery? 22:35 Start of holistic healing and coaching to help others 24:54 How Jude has managed his Bipolar I 26:20 Bipolar and addiction 28:55 What is Jude's favorite tool for balancing his life? 30:20 Jude reads his poem "Today" 32:25 Nature as a tool for healing 33:54 Jude's advice for parents of LGBTQ+ teens --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Yoga for Healing Trauma with Lorah Gerald - Ep 50 | 11 Jul 2022 | 00:49:21 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lorah Gerald, an adoptee, an intuitive, a Kundalini Yoga Instructor, and writer. Lorah hopes to help others heal their trauma, adopted or not, by sharing her lived experiences as an adoptee as well as her education in breath work, energy healing and natural intuitive abilities. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lorah's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Holding feelings about adoption trauma inside v. healing in community 2:49 Lorah's adoption story as a Baby Scoop Era domestic adoptee 4:40 A better life or just a different life? 6:40 What Beth was told about adoption trauma when she adopted Joey 8:32 What Lorah's adoptive parents knew about adoption trauma 9:20 How Lorah acted out as a teen and how she avoided addiction 10:38 Lorah's reunion story 15:34 Lorah's mother's forced hysterectomy 16:46 Lorah's reaction to her adoption story as told by her parents 20:28 Lorah's reunion story, continued 26:40 Lorah's healing path - yoga, reiki, reading, etc. 28:35 Kundalini yoga & processing trauma through our bodies 34:55 Other physical trauma-healing tools that Lorah uses 39:03 Adoptee-only yoga sessions 41:43 How yoga has helped Lorah with trauma and well-being --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| A Courageous Spiritual Journey with Bobbi Becker - Ep 49 | 04 Jul 2022 | 00:49:26 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Rev. Bobbi Becker, the Senior Minister and Spiritual Director at Namasté Center for Spiritual Living in Long Beach, California. In this episode, Bobbi tells her story of being a gay New Thought minister who grew up in the Mormon church and whose whole family was touched by addiction and mental health issues. You will be inspired by her commitment to her own spiritual growth which included the acceptance of her sexual orientation. She is not afraid to speak out and take action within social structures about women's rights and LGBTQ+ rights. You will find out what saved her from the addiction route that many of her family members took. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Bobbi's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:18 Bobbi's unique childhood 2:44 Being raised in the Mormon church 5:00 Bobbi's excommunication 10:36 Coming out as gay and getting involved in diversity training 13:46 Bobbi's mother's mental health trifecta and family secrets 20:01 How Bobbi escaped her family's dysfunction 22:36 Where Bobbi found support as a young adult 25:30 What are you giving power to? 26:25 Bobbi lost 2 brothers to addiction and mental illness 30:18 How Bobbi's 2 surviving siblings are doing 33:54 How Bobbi avoided addiction to substances 37:25 Bobbi's transition from corporate executive to minister 39:05 How Bobbi's life has affected her parenting 44:59 Dealing with family trauma 47:06 The best thing parents of struggling teens can do --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Finding Empowerment through Sex Work as a Korean Adoptee with Kayla Tange - Ep 170 | 05 Nov 2024 | 00:39:45 | |
Finding Empowerment through Sex Work as a Korean Adoptee with Kayla Tange "I can be in my body, and in that moment, I feel safe." -- Kayla Tange
EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Kayla Tange, a Korean adoptee raised by Japanese-American parents. She has navigated a unique and complex journey through life as an exotic dancer, performance artist, and sex worker. Kayla shared her adoption story, detailing her early life in an orphanage in Seoul before being adopted at six months old. We explored how her experiences with ADHD and autism influenced her career choices and her desire for connection. Kayla candidly discussed her entry into the world of sex work, revealing how it provided her with a sense of empowerment and control over her body—something she felt was taken from her during her adoption. Throughout our conversation, we touched on the themes of identity, belonging, and the emotional complexities that come with being an adoptee. Kayla's reflections on her work and the connections she forms with clients highlighted the often misunderstood aspects of sex work, challenging stereotypes and emphasizing the agency she feels in her choices. Kayla also read a powerful piece from her contribution to the anthology Whorephobia, which delves into her experiences and emotions surrounding her adoption and her work. Her insights offered a profound understanding of the intersections between adoption, identity, and the search for belonging. This episode is a deep dive into the complexities of adoption and the ways in which individuals navigate their identities and experiences. I encourage listeners to reflect on Kayla's story and the broader implications it has for understanding adoption and the diverse paths that adoptees may take. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kayla's information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:00:34 - Today's Topic: Sexuality and Sex Work 00:00:56 - Introducing Kayla Tange 00:01:52 - Kayla's Adoption Story 00:02:32 - Early Interest in Performance 00:03:20 - Career Path and ADHD Diagnosis 00:04:49 - Transition to Sex Work 00:05:59 - Job Satisfaction and Flexibility 00:06:33 - ADHD and the Nature of the Job 00:08:06 - Connecting with Customers 00:09:06 - Adoption Trauma and Connection 00:10:25 - Empowerment through Sex Work 00:12:17 - Commodification of Bodies 00:13:24 - Feelings of Displacement 00:14:01 - Experiences in Korea 00:15:11 - Creating the Film "Dear Mother" 00:16:28 - The Power of Performance 00:17:56 - Family Dynamics and Support 00:19:13 - Community and Support in the Industry 00:20:12 - Advice to Her Younger Self 00:21:45 - Advice for Parents 00:23:49 - Reading from Whorephobia 00:37:04 - Closing Thoughts and Future Plans | |||
| Trauma and Resilience with Cheyanne Alsop - Ep 48 | 27 Jun 2022 | 00:50:45 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with one of Joey's friends, 19yo Cheyanne Alsop. Like Joey, Cheyanne was adopted, her adoptive parents later got divorced, and she struggled with mental health issues throughout her adolescence. Cheyanne's harrowing childhood would leave most people completely paralyzed emotionally. But because of her willingness to get help and to work on her own emotional toolbox, Cheyanne has graduated high school, she's got a job, and she's on her healing path. Her story gives us all hope for our struggling kids, and she and Joey give some great advice to teens and parents at the end of the episode. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Cheyanne's contact info: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cheyanne_autumn1618 Other Episodes mentioned during this episode:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 0:30 A little update with Joey 3:17 Cheyanne's infancy and first relinquishment at age 3 4:42 Cheyanne's childhood trauma with her grandparents 11:15 Moving to her aunt's in foster care system 13:45 Getting matched with Cheyanne's adoptive parents 16:55 Cheyanne and Joey talk about adoption trauma 22:20 Adoptive parents' divorce created more pain and caused first hospitalization 25:00 Cutting and self-harm, Cheyanne's rock bottom 27:58 Cheyanne and Joey's advice to teens considering going to residential treatment programs 29:25 DBT - Dialectial Behavior Therapy, working hard in treatment 34:37 Things that have helped Cheyanne survive 36:38 How Cheyanne's steered clear of the addiction route 41:23 Cheyanne's plans for the future 44:13 Cheyanne's advice for adoptive & foster parents 46:25 Cheyanne's advice for teens 47:30 What Joey admires about Cheyanne --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Anxiety Toolbox with Jeanette Matthew - Ep 47 | 20 Jun 2022 | 00:55:46 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Jeanette Matthew. She lives in North Yorkshire in the UK, and she is a coaching psychologist who helps individuals and organizations transform their uncertainty, overwhelm, and lack of clarity into goals, action plans, and confidence. Her specialty is helping people deal with anxiety. Jeanette has delivered workshops around the world offering psychological hacks to managing and preventing anxiety, and teaching people the mindset tools we can adopt preventatively to see every day triggers through a different lens. In this episode, Jeanette gives plenty of practical tools to help our teens - and ourselves - manage anxiety. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jeanette's information: Other Resources:
=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon Website: SafeHomeFamililes.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:37 Jeanette's career background 8:00 Coaching v therapy 13:40 What is causing anxiety for our teens? 17:31 Learning to release outcomes 18:35 Sense of permanency of one's life choices 25:30 Jeanette's favorite tool for anxiety - a simple question to ground you in the present moment 34:45 Mindfulness tools 44:25 Choices over one's own behavior gives us autonomy 49:02 Getting active and getting outside for anxiety relief --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Recovery Coaching with Tracy Struckman - Ep 46 | 13 Jun 2022 | 00:39:51 | |
In this week's Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tracy Struckman, an Indiana-based recovery coach who has 8 years of recovery from a destructive heroin addiction. She now helps others who are struggling with addiction to find long-term recovery. She is just completing her licensure to become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and she does online consulting and workshops for people who struggle with addiction as well as their families. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tracy's information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:35 Tracy's childhood and adolescence and background of her heroin addiction 3:35 The addiction process - alcohol→marijuana→then heroin 5:41 Fentanyl's dangers and access to Narcan to prevent overdose deaths 10:19 Addiction as a symptom of an underlying problem 13:32 Tracy's rock bottom 14:57 A chance of rehabilitation in the criminal justice system? 16:23 What happened to cause Tracy to become sober 19:00 Tracy's parenting and Tracy's parents 25:10 What Tracy wishes would have happened differently when she was a teen 27:30 What is a Recovery Coach? 31:23 How parents can shift their focus off their kids and onto themselves 33:27 How is Recovery Coaching structured logistically? 36:22 Parents, don't blame yourself! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||