Explore every episode of the podcast Unfollowing Mum
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
|---|---|---|---|
| EP70 Covid weddings & cutting contact whilst pregnant | 13 Nov 2024 | 00:35:41 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with guest Alyssa about her experience of cutting contact contact with her toxic mother. If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can order here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP69 Coming out, lack of acceptance and moving on with life | 06 Nov 2024 | 00:39:45 | |
On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Sariah about her lived experience of growing up in a Mormon home as a member of the LGBTQIA community and what that meant for her relationship with her parents, sense of self and how she found empowerment. If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP60 What comes after the confrontation? (TW: Covert SA) | 10 Jul 2024 | 00:39:02 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with an anonymous guest about their experiences of covert sexual abuse at the hands of their mother and step father, what happens AFTER you confront the enabling parent and how you maintain a relationship IF you choose to. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP59 Breaking cycles, boundaries & repair with Natasha Nyeke | 26 Jun 2024 | 00:53:07 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with therapist and coach Natasha Nyeke about breaking the cycle, repairing the relationship with your emotionally immature parent and feeling your feelings. You can find Natasha here: https://www.instagram.com/theimperfect.therapist https://www.natashanyeke.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep58 Father's day - the aftermath. | 19 Jun 2024 | 00:33:29 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about Father's day and what that might have looked like for different people. Remember: you're not alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP57 Religious abuse & estrangement | 12 Jun 2024 | 00:42:35 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to author Lyn Smith Gregory about religious trauma, abuse and the resulting estrangement from stepping out of the church. You can find more about Lyn here: https://lynsmithgregory.com/about/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP56 Bi cultural straddling & the unhealthy family dynamic with Sahaj Kohli | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:34:00 | |
On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Sahaj Kohli, therapist, author of But what will people say? and founder of @browngirltherapy. Sahaj shares her wisdom about setting boundaries and navigating dysfunctional family dynamics as a bi-cultural child of immigrants and breaking generational trauma cycles within collectivist, multicultural families. You can find Sahaj's book here: https://amzn.to/3Vawj0N And follow @browngirltherapy on instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP 55 Scapegoating, estrangement & lies with Harriet Gleeson | 22 May 2024 | 00:40:54 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks to psychotherapist Harriet Gleeson about her experiences of estrangement due to lies and scapegoating. You can find Harriet at https://www.harrietgleesontherapy.co.uk or follow her on instagram at @the.good.enough.therapist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep54 Fight response, anger & shame | 15 May 2024 | 00:27:58 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about fight response, anger and shame. You can find her here: https://www.instagram.com/unfollowing_mum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep53 Self care, boundaries & guilt for cycle breakers with Emma Benyon | 01 May 2024 | 00:37:56 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with coach Emma Benyon about self care, guilt and setting boundaries as a cycle breaking parent. You can find Emma here: https://www.instagram.com/emmabenyon.coach and https://emmabenyoncoaching.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP52 Generational trauma & toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants | 24 Apr 2024 | 00:55:39 | |
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Rachel Varkey, host of It's Fine! Pod, about her experiences of generational trauma and toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants. They talk about the 'that's just white woman stuff' myth that surrounds cycle breaking and challenging our generational trauma. You can find Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/itsfinethepod?igsh=N3Fjdmp5ZXRtNXE1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP 51 Why is setting boundaries with your partner's family SO tough? | 17 Apr 2024 | 00:27:32 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about setting boundaries with your partner's family and why it's so tough - from when they won't to navigating healthy reactions when you've never experienced them before, she breaks it down in this short episode. You can get in touch with Harriet at @tobyandroo or harriet@tobyandroo.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep68 Breaking the cycle when you're not a parent with Angèle Cristina | 30 Oct 2024 | 00:49:14 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with life coach Angèle Cristina about breaking the cycle for YOU without being a parent. You can find Angèle here: https://www.instagram.com/angelecristinaofficial/profilecard/?igsh=dG5rOHQ2OHhxdm9l If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep 50 Late ADHD/ASD diagnosis and childhood trauma | 10 Apr 2024 | 00:26:17 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of late ASD/ADHD assessment and how that feels as someone who grew up with a toxic parent. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo on instagram and tiktok or email her at harriet@tobyandroo.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep49 F.O.G - Fear, Obligation & Guilt: a narcissistic parent's toolkit | 12 Mar 2024 | 00:34:05 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats about FOG - Fear, obligation and guilt, and how this is an essential part of the narcissistic parent't toolkit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP48 Complicated feelings that come up around Mother's Day | 06 Mar 2024 | 00:28:51 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith shares insights into Mother's day from the perspective of an estranged or low contact adult children from her instagram community and her own experiences. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP 47 Baiting - what is it & how do we stop it? | 28 Feb 2024 | 00:27:15 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about baiting - why narcissistic parents do it and how you can combat against it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP 46 Ending relationships and attachment styles | 20 Feb 2024 | 00:22:29 | |
On this week's episode host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about endings - her relationship with them, how that is impacted by attachment styles and why it relates of our toxic parents. As promised the recommended quiz for attachment styles is: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP45 Birthdays - mine, theirs and why they are complicated | 07 Feb 2024 | 00:29:38 | |
On this episode of the podcast, host Harriet Shearsmith is talking birthdays - her birthday, her children's birthdays and why birthdays are complicated when you have had a traumatic or difficult childhood. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP44 Emotionally immature parents, emotionally dismissive fathers & post-accountability repairs | 31 Jan 2024 | 00:49:10 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to anonymous guest Victoria about her lived experience with emotionally immature parents, toxic, dismissive fathers and what relationships can look like with parents after accountability and when a repair has been made. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum via tiktok or instagram. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP43 TW Normalised sexual abuse & life after | 24 Jan 2024 | 00:38:16 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to an anoymous guest about her experiences with sexual abuse growing up and how life looks after healing work. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum on tiktok and instagram. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep42 New Year pressures, toxic positivity & post-Christmas chaos | 17 Jan 2024 | 00:31:12 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the pressures of post-christmas chaos, new year new you and toxic positivity in January. She shares some tops tips for working with the negative inner critic, and offers some advice around a new estrangement with parents. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep 41 Setting Boundaries at Christmas | 13 Dec 2023 | 00:43:51 | |
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith answers your boundary questions for the festive period and offers some advice on how to navigate an often challenging time. You can find her online at instagram.com/tobyandroo or instagram.com/unfollowing_mum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep67 Jealousy and shame from narcissistic mothers | 23 Oct 2024 | 00:35:21 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with an anonymous guest about her lived experience of growing up in the 80s with a toxic mother and the shame surrounding sex, jealously of joy and how unhealed trauma impacts the parental role. If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep40 Self discovery, being LGBTQ+ & neurodivergent with a toxic parent with Cara MacB | 06 Dec 2023 | 01:02:50 | |
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Cara MacB about her lived experienced as a non-binary, neurodivergent person growing up with a toxic parent and how that stifled her sense of self. You can find Cara at Instagram: https://instagram.com/cara_macb Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP39 *TW* Narcissistic fathers, enabling mothers & childhood sexual abuse | 29 Nov 2023 | 01:05:54 | |
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to an anonymous guest who shares her lived experience with an abusive narcissistic father and enabling mother. TW for conversations of childhood sexual abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP38 *TW* Toxic motherwound, invalidation & silencing sibling sexual abuse with Christie Hayes | 22 Nov 2023 | 00:48:25 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Christie Hayes, toxic mother wound coach and therapist about sibling sexual abuse, invalidation and toxic mother wounds. You can find Christie at: https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery and via her facebook group Adult daughters breaking free from toxic relationships with their mother. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP37 Trauma responses & C-PTSD trigger reactions | 15 Nov 2023 | 00:40:09 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about trauma and some of the lesser known trauma responses that we experience after surviving childhood trauma. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP36 Toxic mothers, Spiritual abuse & Hispanic generational trauma with Rebecca Dominguez | 01 Nov 2023 | 00:59:31 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to Rebecca Dominguez about her lived experiences with childhood trauma from an abusive mother, the pressures of "family" within the Hispanic community and spiritual abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP35 Weaponising single parenthood, society's bias & toxic divorce | 25 Oct 2023 | 00:27:10 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of growing up with a single mum after her parent's bitter divorce and the weaponisation of single parenthood by toxic parents. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP34 The Mother wound & challenging the inner critic with Marie Selleck | 18 Oct 2023 | 00:48:28 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Marie Selleck, a licensed therapist and mother wound coach, about the power of thoughts, the mother wound, challenging our inner critic and breaking the cycle with our own kids. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP33 Dissecting "An Estranged Parent's POV" Meme | 11 Oct 2023 | 00:43:06 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith looks at a meme entitled "The estranged parent's perspective" and discusses why it's damaging to rebuilding relationships or validating adult children's feelings of hurt following abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP32 Narcissistic fathers & invalidating teens | 04 Oct 2023 | 00:56:32 | |
On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats to "Jasmine" who shares her lived experience story living with a toxic and abusive father, and how she often felt dismissed and invalidated when she reached out for help as a teenager. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP31 :: Health scares when estranged | 27 Sep 2023 | 00:31:35 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of a recent health scare and the impact being estranged from her mother had on her fears, resentment and anger. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP66 Emotionally unavailable and abandoning fathers | 16 Oct 2024 | 00:41:23 | |
On this episode, host and empowerment coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with Emma about her experience of abandonment from her father. If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP30 TW: Covert sexual abuse & toxic parents dating | 16 Aug 2023 | 00:41:08 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of covert sexual abuse, her mother's toxic dating behaviours and the childhood trauma that comes with parentification & instability. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep29 Golden children, spirituality & healing with Stephen | 08 Aug 2023 | 00:46:42 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Stephen who has shared his lived experience story of a narcissistic mother, childhood trauma and life after estrangement. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep28 Victim mode, toxic positivity and surface level healing with Triinu | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:46:05 | |
On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to women's transformation and empowerment coach Triinu Uprus about healing and moving forwards after trauma. You can find Triinu on instagram at @triinu.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep27 Financial impact of estrangement | 26 Jul 2023 | 00:28:07 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the financial implications of estrangement - a taboo topic within an already taboo topic! Student support, estrangement bursaries, childcare impact and more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep26 Toxic parents, narcs in disguise & weaponised trauma with Josh Connolly | 19 Jul 2023 | 00:58:50 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Resilience coach and podcaster Josh Connolly about toxic parents, addiction, weaponised trauma and how narcissistic people disguise themselves. You can find Josh at @josh_ffw on instagram and tiktok. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep25 Jonah Hill, weaponising "therapy speak" & grief after estrangement | 12 Jul 2023 | 00:30:20 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about Jonah Hill and THAT boundaries text drama, weaponising therapy terminology and the grief after estrangement. You can find Harriet on instagram, tiktok and threads at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum You can also book a 1:1 empowerment coaching session with Harriet at https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep24 Long term estrangement & consciously parenting teens with Katie Pratley | 05 Jul 2023 | 01:00:19 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to parent/teen coach Katie Pratley about cycle breaking parenting of teens and her lived experience with parental estrangement over the last two decades. You can find Katie at @thehappywellbeingclub on tiktok and instagram, at her FREE FB group Calm Connected Parent Club as well as her website thehappywellbeingclub.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP23 Emotional abuse, faking illness & guilt trips with Alexis Higgins | 28 Jun 2023 | 01:10:06 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Alexis Higgins about her lived experience with a toxic mother and childhood trauma. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep22 Consumed by trauma, self responsibility & self blame | 21 Jun 2023 | 00:25:52 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks self responsibility vs self blame, challenging the inner critic and why we are so quick to tell people they are "consumed by trauma" when they discuss their experiences. Find Harriet @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum on instagram and tiktok or email her at harriet@tobyandroo.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep21 Importance of talking, toxic parents & trauma with Ben Cole Edwards | 14 Jun 2023 | 00:51:04 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to author and life coach Ben Cole Edwards about the importance of breaking stigma and talking about our trauma, toxic parents and how it impacts us as adults. You can find Ben at Ben Trauma Corner on tiktok, instagram and youtube. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep65 PMDD & weaponised mental health conditions | 09 Oct 2024 | 01:12:08 | |
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks with integrative psychotherapist and PMDD advocate Josie about her experiences with PMDD and how easily mental health conditions can be weaponised in toxic family dynamics. If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP20 Court, access requests & grandparents rights with Alisha | 07 Jun 2023 | 01:00:37 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Alisha, who shares her lived experience with a toxic parent who took her to court to gain access to her 3 month old grandchild. Alisha shares the court process, from mediation meetings to dealing with CAFCAS and the eventual outcome for her family. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP 19 Boundaries with Dr Deering | 31 May 2023 | 00:28:46 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to psychologist and Mother/daughter relations personal trainer Dr Michelle Deering about boundaries. Find Dr Deering at: Instagram: https://instagram.com/motherdaughterconnections Coffee chat: https://calendly.com/motherdaughterconnections/coffee-chat?month=2023-05 Diffuse arguments: https://curativeconnections.ac-page.com/less-arguments Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP18 Trauma, cycle breaking & overwhelm with Libby Ward | 24 May 2023 | 00:57:01 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Libby Ward, digital content creator known as Diary of an Honest Mom, about childhood trauma and overwhelm as a cycle breaking mother. You can find Libby on Instagram at https://instagram.com/diaryofanhonestmom or buy her journal here: https://amzn.to/3VWtz7p Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| EP 17 Was it neglect or just "a different time?" | 17 May 2023 | 00:35:28 | |
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience with neglect as a child and why growing up with narcissistic parents makes that so difficult to reconcile. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||