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| #121: Hot Doctor, Big Dick… and I Was Still Bored | 09 Sep 2026 | 00:36:40 | |
I’m back! After a couple of months away from the podcast, I’m finally behind the mic again. In this episode, I’m sharing where I’ve been, what I’ve been working on, and the story of why, even when I was dating a hot, well-hung doctor, I almost gave up on sex entirely... We talk about why “doing sex right” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having sex that actually works for you, the shame I used to carry around my fantasies, and the moments that helped me finally understand what made my whole body go: Fuck yes. THIS. And if this episode has you wondering, Okay, but what actually is my Fuck Yes?, I’ve just released a new 90-minute training called Find Your F*ck Yes. It’s designed to help you get curious about what genuinely lights you up, understand the erotic experiences you’re craving, and start exploring them in simple, realistic ways. You can find Find Your F*ck Yes here for $27. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #120: Degradation vs Humiliation — What’s the Difference? 🪱 | 03 Jun 2026 | 00:25:56 | |
What’s the difference between degradation and humiliation? While these kinks often get grouped together, they actually tap into very different emotional experiences. In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores:
Harley also shares personal experiences with degradation play, discusses humiliation kinks like sissification and exposure, and unpacks the psychology behind why taboo emotions can become such powerful turn-ons. If you’ve ever wondered why these dynamics feel so hot, or whether there’s something wrong with you for being into them, this episode is for you. Explore coaching with Harley: xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #119: New Erototypes for Taboo, Sensation & Transformation | 13 May 2026 | 00:29:39 | |
Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one. Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and it's so much better. I've added four brand new erototypes (hello Monkey, Horse, Octopus and Stag 👀), made some tweaks based on your suggestions, and built something new that I think you're going to love. Download the free updated guide at harleyrabbit.com. And once you've picked your cards, head to harleyrabbit.com/my-erototypes to generate your shareable hand. 🃏 xx Harley 🐰 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #118: Where Fetishes Come From – And Why I'm Now Into PJ's | 22 Apr 2026 | 00:22:41 | |
This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including steel, and possibly Formula One cars. Whether you've got a fetish you've never quite understood, or you're just kink-curious, this one's for you. Grab your comfiest PJs and tune in. 🐰 Don't forget to grab my free Erototypes guide here, or visit harleyrabbit.com — a new updated version is coming soon! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #117: Kink Isn't Just About Pain (The 4 Types of Turn On) | 01 Apr 2026 | 00:27:37 | |
Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of several. That’s the point. Desire isn’t one thing — and the more you understand your own, the more fun this whole world becomes. 👉 Download your free Guide to Erototypes xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #116: Introducing Erototypes: A Playful Way to Understand What Turns You On | 25 Mar 2026 | 00:21:03 | |
Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroticism. Because the truth is, most of us aren’t just one thing. Our desires are layered, complex, and often a little contradictory… and that’s exactly what makes them so interesting! If you’re curious to discover your own erototypes, you can download the free PDF guide or visit harleyrabbit.com and start meeting your own naughty little spirit animals. 🐰🐶🦁 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #115: What Actually Makes Kinky Relationships Feel Secure | 11 Mar 2026 | 00:19:20 | |
Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules. More often, it grows through the small rituals and routines we share every day — the little ways we show up for each other that quietly build trust over time. I share a few examples from my own relationship and invite you to notice the tiny moments that might already be strengthening yours. Mentioned in this Episode: Polysecure - by Jessica Fern xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #114: Wearable Claws: The Primal Toy You Didn't Know You Needed – with J from Claws & Clamps | 25 Feb 2026 | 00:58:07 | |
Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down might be the sexiest move you can make. If you’re curious about trying claws yourself, you can check out J's work at clawsandclamps.com.au and use the code HARLEY for 10% off. Mentioned in this episode: Viroclean - hospital grade disinfectant Are Nylon Claws Safe? - article Book recommendation: Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams Follow Claws & Clamps: xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #113: I’m Pretty Sure the World Is Secretly Kinky | 18 Feb 2026 | 00:20:24 | |
Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven into our culture all along. Keep your eyes open. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Vote for Harley: It’s an honour to be shortlisted for Black Noise Magazine’s Kink Educator of the Year award. Huge thank you to Black Noise for supporting kink educators and helping our voices be heard. If you’d like to vote for me — or any of the other incredible nominees — click here. From our Sponsor: This episode of Turns Out I’m Into It is sponsored by Nothosaur, a fantasy toy brand bringing erotic imagination to life. If you’ve ever been turned on by mythical creatures, powerful beasts, or otherworldly encounters, Nothosaur creates beautifully handcrafted fantasy toys designed to match those desires. With a wide range of designs — and customisable options for size, firmness, and colour — you can create something as unique as your own imagination. Visit nothosaur.com xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #112: Using Kink to Stay in My Body When I’m Not Okay | 04 Feb 2026 | 00:23:17 | |
This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening. Sponsor Message Thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping keep these conversations alive. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #111: Let’s Talk Wax, Impact, and Sensation Play — with El from Collared Foxy | 28 Jan 2026 | 00:58:35 | |
In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours. We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, how different sensations land in the body, and how to intentionally build a scene from start to finish. El walks us through everything from choosing candles and impact toys, to setting the mood, pacing a scene, and closing it safely and beautifully. If you’ve ever wanted to expand what’s possible with sensation play — or understand why it can feel so powerful — this episode is packed with ideas you can actually use. Mentined in this episode: The Professional (Game Maker Series) by Kresley Cole The Brie Collection by Red Phoenix Pain Play for Everyone by Luna Carruthers Claws and Clamps - Australian Kink Markers Find Collared Foxy Website: collaredfoxy.com.au Etsy: CollaredFoxy Message from our Sponsor xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #110: Why I Started Feeling Weird About Being Sexual Online | 21 Jan 2026 | 00:20:22 | |
I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble. This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post. Mentioned in this episode: Fetlife writing: "Why I still Share Naked Photos on Fetlife (And Why It's Not Unprofessional)" This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #109: How to Make Kink Fit Into Your Busy Life | 14 Jan 2026 | 00:18:58 | |
For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the joy out of your kink life. I share how I’ve started redefining my own kink practice, shifting toward something more sustainable and supportive. We look at how small, simple forms of play can still meet your core desires, and why everyday kink absolutely counts. Because kink isn’t just for people with endless time or energy. It’s for real people with real lives, who still deserve pleasure, play, and connection. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur are the creators of beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed to help you explore the wilder corners of your imagination without shame or judgement. Each toy comes with its own rich lore and story, making play feel creative, immersive, and intentional. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com — and a huge thank you to Nothosaur for supporting the show and keeping these conversations going. Visit nothosaur.com. Check out the Kohana here. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #108: Christmas Special – A Very Adult Christmas 🎅✨ | 24 Dec 2025 | 00:29:14 | |
Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you. Curl up, get comfy (no kids allowed!), imagine a crackling fire, and let Aunty Harley read you “A Very Adult Christmas.” 🔥 If you want more festive kink inspo… Check out Episode #106, where I share 12 different Christmas-themed kinky activities to spice up your holidays. From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #107: Why High-Achieving Women Crave Surrender – with Julieta Chiara | 17 Dec 2025 | 00:59:01 | |
If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home. Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go. We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who “run the show” in our everyday lives are drawn to dominance and submission. That moment where your brain finally switches off… the delicious relief of not making decisions… the thrill of being overpowered in a way that feels chosen, safe, and wildly sexy. Julieta and I talk about the internal battle between being competent, self-led adults and the part of us that fantasises about surrender. We explore psychological kink, degradation, rope, CNC, subspace — and how all of these can become powerful pathways into rest, intimacy, and embodiment for women who otherwise never stop thinking. If you’re a high-achieving woman who struggles to relax, who secretly wants someone to take the reins, or who feels confused about what “submission” really means… this episode will feel like someone finally translated your inner world into words. Mentioned in this episode: From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #106: Twelve Naughty Ideas for a Very Kinky Christmas | 03 Dec 2025 | 00:29:51 | |
It’s officially December, which means two things:
In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, and some even work for long-distance. I didn’t expect Christmas and kink to be such a perfect combination… but once you start thinking about it, they pair beautifully. Kink is playful, cosy, connective, and full of imagination — which is exactly what this time of year is supposed to be. Whether you try one or all twelve, these ideas are designed to bring some fun, play, and pleasure back into a season that can be… a lot. Even if you adore Christmas, it’s still busy, emotional, and chaotic — so think of this as your little permission slip to create a moment of joy for yourself. If you end up trying any of these (or inventing your own twist), please tell me! I love hearing what you get up to. Mentioned in this episode: Harley's tentacle toy review on Fetlife From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #105: Tentacle Erotica — The Art, the History, and My First Toy Review 🐙 | 26 Nov 2025 | 00:31:47 | |
Hey friends, Harley here! This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica. From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise. In this episode, I explore:
Explore fantasy toys at nothosaur.com. Mentioned in this episode:
xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #104: Inside the World of Nothosaur Toys - with Kingsley | 19 Nov 2025 | 00:41:54 | |
Hey friends, it's Harley here. In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur, the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality. Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We talk about how toys are designed, tested, and refined (yes — real testers around the world give feedback!), how Nothosaur balances creativity with comfort, and what it means to “make toys unique and make sex free.” Mentioned in this episode: Sponsor: xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #103: Evolution of a Shibari Master — with Kazami Sensei | 12 Nov 2025 | 01:05:33 | |
In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei, one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu. Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong. In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-teaching, drawing inspiration from the late master Randa Mai, and how his own style gradually developed into what is now known as Kazami-ryu. He shares how shibari has evolved over the decades, what continues to drive his innovation, and the philosophy that keeps his practice alive after thousands of performances. We talked about:
Mentioned in this episode: Photos of his performance at the Cabaret can be found on instagram. Follow @evilgirls.hq, @miss_gen_does_rope or @das_puppy. Follow: You can also follow Kazami Sensei @kazamiranki_shibari Learn more: If you’re interested in learning Kazami-ryu, visit kazami-ryu.com for links to schools across the world. If you're based in Australia or New Zealand, you can study Kazami-ryu through Miss Gen. Visit evilgirlshq.com.au xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #102: Three Ingredients for a Seriously Hot S&M Scene | 05 Nov 2025 | 00:36:57 | |
Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt? In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender. I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly breathtaking. Seeing those performances — including one by Kazami Ranki himself — gave me so much to think (and feel!) about when it comes to the psychology of pain and kink. In this episode, I share what I discovered about:
If you’ve ever wondered how S&M can feel loving, connected, and insanely sexy all at once — this one’s for you. Mentioned in this Episode Deadmaxis - follow on Intragram @_deadmaxis xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #101: Rope School! What We Learned from a Level 1 Shibari Intensive – with Slade | 15 Oct 2025 | 00:54:06 | |
This week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1, a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville. Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope. We explore:
This one feels like you’re sitting down with us for a casual chat about rope over a few drinks. Neither of us are experts — but sometimes that makes the experience even more relatable for those who are also new to this world. From bleeding fingers and proud time-trials to unexpected moments of calm and connection, this episode is both an inside look at structured rope education and a love letter to the art of learning together. Special thanks to Basanos and Angel for bringing their amazing skills and tuition to our little town! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #100: Episode 100! Let's Celebrate Together 🎉 | 01 Oct 2025 | 00:39:59 | |
We did it! Turns Out I’m Into It has officially hit 100 episodes. This week isn’t just about celebrating the podcast milestone, it’s about celebrating you and everything you’ve achieved in your kinky journey so far. From building the courage to reach out to new partners, to finding your voice around desires and boundaries, to embracing your kinks without shame—these are massive wins, and today we’re raising a glass (or a cup of tea, in my case) to every step you’ve taken. In this episode, I share:
And of course, I’ll invite you to take a moment to celebrate yourself—whether that means a fancy coffee, a cheeky night out, or yes, maybe even some dirty fun! Thank you for being here, for listening, and for being part of this community. Here’s to the next 100! Mentioned in this epsiode: #32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator #49: How to Give INSANE Blowjobs - Even if you Can't D********t #54: I Had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened #67: My Schoolgirl Fantasy - Exploring Middlespace #80 Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass - with Miss Gen #87: The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey #93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charles xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #99: Roleplay Lite - An Easy Guide for the Roleplay-Curious | 17 Sep 2025 | 00:34:45 | |
When most people hear roleplay, they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom! But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level performance. I’ll walk you through:
By the end of this episode, you’ll have plenty of ideas to bring a little fantasy into your sex life in ways that feel authentic and playful—without all the cringe. Prompts to Explore
If you enjoy the episode, a 5-star rating really helps more people discover the show. And if you’d like to see a more personal side of me, DM me (@harley_rabbit) the word “playful” on Instagram and I’ll add you to my Close Friends group. Further Listening: #28: Sleep Play - The Gateway Kink to CNC? #90: Behind the Mask - A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #98: Why do we Celebrate Risk Everywhere Except in Sex? | 03 Sep 2025 | 00:31:49 | |
In last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices. Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is more than just the right to say no. It’s also the right to say yes to risks that matter to you. Here’s what I cover in this episode:
I’d love for you to reflect: What does agency mean to you? Where’s your line between whats ok and not ok in kink? And do you think we sometimes rely too much on safe words? 🔗 Don’t forget to take part in my listener survey (link in the show notes). Your feedback helps me keep shaping this podcast for your journey. Further Listening
xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #97: Who Are the Kink Police and How Do You Avoid Them? | 27 Aug 2025 | 00:29:31 | |
Ever met someone in the kink scene who acts like they invented BDSM? Yeah… those are the kink police. 🙄 In this episode, I’m breaking down elitism, rope snobbery, and why anyone telling you there’s a “right” way to do kink is full of it. We’ll talk about:
Whether you’re brand new or a seasoned kinkster, this episode is here to remind you: you are the authority on your own kink. 🪢 Want to level up your rope skills? I’m hosting a Kazami-Ryu Shibari intensive in Townsville this October! Only 3 tickets left and early bird pricing ends this Sunday. Grab your spot through this link. Or find the Fetlife event here. 📝 Take my listener survey! I want to know more about you—your interests, your kink journey, and what you love about this podcast. It only takes a few minutes and helps me make even better episodes for you. Click the survey link here. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #96: What Music Taught Me About Sex (Plus a Special Request!) | 20 Aug 2025 | 00:29:56 | |
This week, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my journey — from being a guitar-obsessed, heavy metal teenager to chasing a music career, and eventually finding my way into sexology. On paper, those two worlds couldn’t be more different… but in this episode, I share why they’re deeply connected for me. I talk about the moments that made music feel like my safe place, the way eroticism reaches the same deep, hidden parts of us, and how both music and sex have taught me about connection, vulnerability, and being truly seen. It’s a personal one, and I think it might help you understand a bit more about who I am and why I do what I do. Plus, I’ve got a special request: I want to know more about YOU. We’re coming up to 100 episodes, and your feedback will help shape the next 100. It’s quick, fun, and an it would mean the world to me. 🙏 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #95: Floggers 101: Design, Technique, and Play with Chainwire | 06 Aug 2025 | 00:55:45 | |
Ever wondered what makes a great flogger—and how to actually use one? In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by local kink maker Chainwire, the man behind Hurty World’s handcrafted floggers, to explore the artistry, technique, and sensation behind one of kink’s most versatile toys. We dive into:
Whether you’re brand new to impact play or looking to refine your technique, this episode is packed with practical advice and hot tips to level up your flogging game. Where to find Chainwire:
Play safe, have fun, and stay curious! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire | 23 Jul 2025 | 01:07:12 | |
Welcome to Turns Out I’m Into It. In this unforgettable episode, I’m joined by special guest Cruciator to explore one of the kink world’s most taboo topics: fear play. Cruciator has been active in the BDSM community since 1992 and is the owner of Fetlife’s Fear Play group. With decades of experience conducting high-intensity scenes—including multi-day abductions—he brings a grounded, thoughtful approach to a kink that is often misunderstood. He’s also a seasoned educator, offering in-depth online classes on the psychology, technique, and safety of fear play. We explore:
🎓 Want to explore further? You can also find Cruciator's Extreme Scenes Protocol here, as well as more information on his negotiation word. 📚 Book Recommendation: The Lover’s Pinch – a fascinating history of BDSM across cultures and eras. 🎧 Whether you’re fear-curious or simply fascinated by the deeper psychological layers of kink, this is one of my favorite conversations on the podcast so far! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charles | 09 Jul 2025 | 01:14:05 | |
In this extra juicy episode, I am joined by sex and intimacy coach Sam Charles for a very hands-on dirty talk masterclass. What starts as a playful lesson turns into a real-life demonstration of navigating boundaries, expressing desire, and negotiating a spicy scene in real time. I open up about my own edges when it comes to using words during sex, and Sam creates a beautifully safe space to explore those vulnerabilities. Together, we co-create a scene that goes from light flirting to full-blown cock worship—sharing authentic erotic energy along the way! You’ll learn:
Content Warning: This episode includes real-time erotic role play and authentic sexual energy. If you're not in the headspace for sexy content today, feel free to skip or come back later. Resources Mentioned:
If you loved this episode… xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #92: My Brisbane Trip – Navigating Nerves, New Experiences, and My Favourite Rope Scene Yet | 02 Jul 2025 | 01:07:12 | |
In this episode, I’m sharing some honest reflections from my recent trip to Brisbane—where I pushed through some big travel anxiety to have one of my favourite rope scenes yet. I open up about what it’s like to manage anxiety while trying to do the things you really want to do, and how I’m learning to meet that part of myself with more compassion. I also talk about the rope scene I did with Deadmaxis (who we had on the show on episode #87), and what made it feel so safe and connected—even with power dynamics in play. This episode is pretty raw. I recorded it while everything was still fresh. But I hope it helps normalise the behind-the-scenes struggles that don’t always get talked about. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too anxious to explore kink, I hope this gives you a bit of encouragement and a reminder that you’re not alone. Mentioned in this episode:
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| #91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (That You Can Learn Right Now) | 18 Jun 2025 | 00:48:10 | |
What if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes? In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink: attunement. We explore: 🔹 What attunement is 🎁 This episode includes TWO free guided exercises you can use to start practising attunement today—either solo or with a partner. These are powerful tools to help you tune in, connect, and get more out of your kink scenes right away. Whether you’re brand new to kink or have been in the scene for years, this episode is a powerful reminder that technique means nothing without genuine connection. Mentioned in this Episode
1) Self Attunement Exercise
2) Attuning to a Partner Exercise
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| #90: Behind the Mask – A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash | 11 Jun 2025 | 00:56:56 | |
I’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded… a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible! In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash. Desmond is a passionate pony player who generously opens up about his journey, the beauty of pony play, and what it means to fully embody an alter ego with power, grace, and heart. We explore: 🔹 What pony play is (and what it isn’t) Desmond’s description of pony play as a living work of art—and Rapidash as a grander, more majestic version of himself—will stay with me for a long time. Whether you’re totally new to this kink or simply intrigued, this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation is a beautiful window into an often-misunderstood world. 🐴 Follow Rapidash:
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| #89: Kink in a Small Town, and Finding my Brave | 28 May 2025 | 00:31:33 | |
In this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next. You’ll hear about:
This is a soft, honest look at what happens when your kink journey keeps growing—and you're not quite sure where it's going to take you. Mentioned in this Episode xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #88: I’m a Grown Man. And I Wear Nappies - Inside ABDL with DaddaG | 21 May 2025 | 00:53:52 | |
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined once again by the incredible DaddaG—event organiser behind KangaCon and long-time member of the ABDL community. With over 20 years of experience as both a diaper lover and caregiver, DaddaG brings a deep, compassionate perspective to the world of age play. We explore: 🔹 Different age play roles – AB, DL, Daddy, and switching DaddaG shares personal stories from his decades in the community, including what it means to see someone fully relax into their little self, how to read cues in a scene, and why honouring vulnerability is at the heart of good caregiving. Whether you’re brand new or deeply immersed in this world, you’ll find plenty to reflect on in this thoughtful and heartwarming episode. 🌐 Follow DaddaG on FetLife: 📚 Book recommendation: 🔗 Mentions & Resources:
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| #87: The Love Language of Rope — with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey | 14 May 2025 | 01:24:07 | |
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by Deadmaxis and Aura Grey—partners in life, kink, and the art of rope. Known for their stunning suspension performances at events like Hardbeat Byron and Berlin’s Dark Circus, this couple brings over a decade of love and a deep connection to their rope journey. We explore: 🔹 How they went from a vanilla marriage to exploring kink together 🌐 Follow Deadmaxis & Aura Grey: 🔗 Resources & Mentions: xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #86: How Old Do You Feel in the Bedroom? | 23 Apr 2025 | 00:36:28 | |
What happens when your birthday brings up more than cake and candles? In this raw and personal episode, Harley opens up about what it’s like to navigate aging as a sexual woman in a culture obsessed with youth. From noticing lines in the mirror to feeling like time is running out for certain fantasies, this episode is a vulnerable look at the internal stories we carry—and how kink can help us rewrite them. You’ll hear:
Whether you're in your 20s or your 60s, this episode is a celebration of growing into your sexuality—not out of it. 🔗 Links + Resources
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| #85: I’m Not Ashamed to Love Masculine Men | 16 Apr 2025 | 00:38:48 | |
In this episode, I explore the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity—and why I’m tired of pretending that being attracted to masculine men is something to be ashamed of. Inspired by a scene in Beastars (an anime on Netflix), I unpack what it means to celebrate masculine power without excusing harm. We talk about violence, tenderness, emotional maturity, and why the sexiest men are often the ones who could fight—but don’t need to. From MMA rings to Formula One tracks, this is a heartfelt and primal love letter to healthy masculinity—and an invitation to let men be tigers again!
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| #84: What Turns You On—and What Turns You Off! Understanding Your Sexual Brakes and Accelerators | 02 Apr 2025 | 00:27:14 | |
Do you ever feel like your body just isn’t showing up for sex—even when your mind is totally on board? Maybe you want to feel turned on, but nothing’s happening down there. Or maybe you feel ashamed, confused, or frustrated when your desire doesn’t match what your partner (or you!) expect. In this episode, Harley Rabbit introduces the dual control model, a powerful framework from the world of sexology that could change the way you think about arousal forever. You’ll learn how your sexual accelerator and brakes work, and how understanding these systems can help you navigate issues like low desire, erectile difficulties, body shame, and performance anxiety with more compassion, clarity, and confidence. Journaling Prompts: 📝 Do I know what my core desires are? Am I getting them met in my sex life? Resources Mentioned:
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| #83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas | 19 Mar 2025 | 00:32:24 | |
Ever felt too self-conscious to fully enjoy sex? Maybe you struggle to switch off from life stress, or you find yourself stuck in your head during intimate moments. In this episode, Harley Rabbit shares a powerful technique for breaking free from insecurity and fully immersing yourself in pleasure—by stepping into a kink persona. A kink persona isn’t just roleplay—it’s a way to tap into different aspects of yourself, experiment with new fantasies, and unleash parts of your sexuality you may never have explored before. Whether you're a creative storyteller, a fantasy-driven thinker, or just someone who struggles to stay present in sex, this episode will help you unlock new ways to play. Journaling / Discussion Prompts
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| #82: Sub or Bottom? Exploring the Many Flavours of Submission | 12 Mar 2025 | 00:34:48 | |
When you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control? In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whether you’re a good sub, brat, masochist, or rope bunny, this episode will guide you in discovering what truly excites you—without forcing yourself into a box that doesn’t fit. This one is for both subs and dominants, as we’ll also discuss how to recognise different submissive styles and find play partners who are the right match. Journaling / Discussion Prompts:
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| #81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from Stereotypes | 05 Mar 2025 | 00:30:29 | |
Have you ever wondered if you're kinky enough to belong in the kink community? Maybe you feel like you don’t fit the stereotypical Dominant/submissive (D/s) mold or that your desires aren’t “intense” enough to count. In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the many ways people explore kink—whether through full-time dynamics, occasional play, private fantasies, or even solo experiences. Kink doesn’t have to look one way, and there’s no test you need to pass to belong. We'll also explore some of the lesser-known types of kink, such as sensation play, fetishes, and solo kink practices, to highlight just how broad and personal kink can be. Whether you're just beginning your journey or questioning where you fit in, this episode will help you embrace your unique desires with confidence and curiosity. Journaling / Discussion Prompts:
If you enjoyed this episode, consider:
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| #80: Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass – with Miss Gen | 19 Feb 2025 | 01:55:18 | |
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by the incredible Miss Gen—Shibari educator, performer, and rope sadist. As head of Evil Girls HQ in Brisbane and a Shihan (Master Instructor) in Kazami Ryu Shibari, she has 25+ years of experience training with top rope masters and performing in Japan. We explore: 🔹 Miss Gen’s journey into rope – From self-tying as a child to discovering her dominant side. Miss Gen shares why patience, negotiation, and connection are essential in rope. If you’re curious about Shibari, this episode is a must-listen! 🌐 Follow Miss Gen at
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| #79: How to Play with Gender in BDSM | 12 Feb 2025 | 00:29:44 | |
Most people don’t realise just how much gender shapes the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re leaning into traditional roles—like masculine dominance and feminine submission—or subverting them entirely, gender dynamics influence kink in ways we often don’t even notice. In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, we dive into: 🔹 How gender roles show up in BDSM Journaling Prompts from This Episode 🖊 Want to explore gender in your BDSM play? Use these prompts to reflect on your desires:
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| #78: Religious Shame, BDSM, and the Psychology of Power – With Shelby Devlin | 05 Feb 2025 | 01:04:14 | |
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by the incredible Shelby Devlin, a sex and intimacy coach with nearly a decade of experience specializing in BDSM and kink. With a master's degree in sexuality studies and a role as an advanced instructor at the Somatica Institute, Shelby brings a wealth of knowledge to our conversation. We dive into two powerful topics: Shelby shares her personal journey into kink, how she helps clients navigate shame, and why pleasure is the antidote to shame. We also discuss 24/7 dynamics, the importance of trust in BDSM, and the real difference between dominance and just being selfish. Plus, Shelby gives us a sneak peek into her upcoming book on BDSM! If you’ve ever struggled with internalized shame, questioned your desires, or wanted to deepen your understanding of power exchange, this is an episode you won’t want to miss. 🔗 Resources & Mentions: 🔥 Loved this episode? Leave a 5-star review and share it with your kinky friends! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #77: How to Tell Your Partner What You're Really Into... (Even If It Feels Super Scary) | 29 Jan 2025 | 00:39:11 | |
Sharing your sexual fantasies with a partner can feel incredibly vulnerable... maybe even terrifying! In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives deep into why it’s so hard to open up about our desires and offers practical, no-pressure strategies to help you navigate these conversations with confidence and curiosity. Whether you're hoping to act on your fantasies or simply share them for deeper intimacy, this episode will equip you with the tools to hopefully make it a positive experience! Discussion Prompts:
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| #76: Are my Sexual Fantasies Normal? Here's What Science Says | 15 Jan 2025 | 00:34:24 | |
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| #75: Santa's Little Helpers: Naughty Sex Toy Secrets Revealed - with Wendy Setless | 18 Dec 2024 | 01:19:12 | |
It’s time to add a little extra joy to your holiday season! In this special Christmas episode, I’m joined by the fabulous Wendy Setless, a Somatica-trained sexual health, pleasure, and relationship coach, and the resident sexologist at her local adult store. Wendy brings her infectious enthusiasm and deep knowledge to help us navigate the world of adult toys—from vibrators and strokers to kegel balls and vibrating cock rings. Whether you’re looking to explore solo or spice things up with a partner, Wendy shares practical advice for finding the perfect “hardware” and discovering what makes your body tick. This episode is packed with laughs, insights, and encouragement to embrace pleasure, own your desires, and have a very merry holiday season! Mentioned in this episode:
Contact Wendy
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| #74: My Secret "Cock Worship" Fantasy: How Fantasies Unlock Better Sex | 11 Dec 2024 | 00:35:53 | |
In this week’s episode, Harley Rabbit takes a deep dive into the world of sexual fantasies and reveals one of her most provocative ones—a cock worship scenario rooted in her submissive desires. Harley discusses how fantasies can unlock deeper arousal, help you connect with your core desires, and transform your sex life—whether you're indulging solo or with a partner. She explores why fantasising is healthy, how it doesn’t reflect your real-life values, and how to incorporate your imagination into sex without needing an elaborate setup. Plus, Harley shares practical tips on using props, positions, and gestures to amplify your fantasies and make them even more immersive. Mentioned in this episode:
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| #73: 4 Common Beliefs About Women’s Sexuality You’re Probably Getting Wrong | 27 Nov 2024 | 00:28:39 | |
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, Harley Rabbit takes on some of the most stubborn myths and misconceptions about women’s sexuality. Whether you’re a woman navigating these expectations or a man eager to understand your partner better, this episode is for you. Harley shares her personal experiences and insights from studying sexology, conversations with clients and friends, and challenges commonly held beliefs that might be holding you back from a more fulfilling sex life. You’ll hear about:
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| #72: Permission to be Sexy! Lessons from a Burlesque Class | 20 Nov 2024 | 00:35:59 | |
In this empowering episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the topic of sex positivity and overcoming shame around sexuality. Sharing personal stories, including a formative memory from high school and a transformative recent experience in a burlesque dance class, Harley explores how societal messages shape our views on expressing sexuality. Harley reflects on reclaiming self-confidence and finding permission to be authentically sexy in a world that often discourages it. Referenced in this episode
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