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#104: Inside the World of Nothosaur Toys - with Kingsley19 Nov 202500:41:54

Hey friends, it's Harley here.

In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur, the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality.

Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We talk about how toys are designed, tested, and refined (yes — real testers around the world give feedback!), how Nothosaur balances creativity with comfort, and what it means to “make toys unique and make sex free.”

Mentioned in this episode:

Sponsor:
This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur — fantasy art you can feel. Each toy is body-safe silicone and fully customisable in colour, firmness, and size. Explore the collection at nothosaur.com and let your imagination run wild!

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#103: Evolution of a Shibari Master — with Kazami Sensei12 Nov 202501:05:33

In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei, one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu. Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong.

In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-teaching, drawing inspiration from the late master Randa Mai, and how his own style gradually developed into what is now known as Kazami-ryu. He shares how shibari has evolved over the decades, what continues to drive his innovation, and the philosophy that keeps his practice alive after thousands of performances.

We talked about:

  • How he creates such emotionally alive performances without rehearsing
  • What he’s really focused on while performing (it’s not just technique)
  • The evolution of shibari across three decades — from VHS tapes to global schools
  • The story behind his signature L-locks and how Kazami-ryu developed
  • Why his ties are always changing and improving
  • How riggers can bring out their model’s beauty through awareness and intention
  • And yes, the unforgettable story of the time a rope actually caught fire mid-performance đŸ”„

Mentioned in this episode:

Photos of his performance at the Cabaret can be found on instagram. Follow @evilgirls.hq, @miss_gen_does_rope or @das_puppy. 

Follow:

You can also follow Kazami Sensei @kazamiranki_shibari

Learn more:

If you’re interested in learning Kazami-ryu, visit kazami-ryu.com for links to schools across the world. 

If you're based in Australia or New Zealand, you can study Kazami-ryu through Miss Gen. Visit evilgirlshq.com.au

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#94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire23 Jul 202501:07:12

Welcome to Turns Out I’m Into It. In this unforgettable episode, I’m joined by special guest Cruciator to explore one of the kink world’s most taboo topics: fear play.

Cruciator has been active in the BDSM community since 1992 and is the owner of Fetlife’s Fear Play group. With decades of experience conducting high-intensity scenes—including multi-day abductions—he brings a grounded, thoughtful approach to a kink that is often misunderstood. He’s also a seasoned educator, offering in-depth online classes on the psychology, technique, and safety of fear play.

We explore:

  • Why fear can be intensely erotic—and even healing
  • The altered states and flow experiences fear play can evoke
  • The arc of a scene: from immersion to cathartic release
  • The neuroscience of subspace 
  • How to evoke realism in long-term dynamics
  • How tops manage responsibility, subtle cues, and emotional safety
  • Why cultural fear of dark fantasies causes more harm than the desires themselves

🎓 Want to explore further?
Cruciator is offering an online class on fear play in August—designed for tops, bottoms, and anyone curious to go deeper. You can find the Fetlife event here. Tickets are available through Eventbrite here. I’ll be attending too.

You can also find Cruciator's Extreme Scenes Protocol here, as well as more information on his negotiation word. 

📚 Book Recommendation: The Lover’s Pinch – a fascinating history of BDSM across cultures and eras.

🎧 Whether you’re fear-curious or simply fascinated by the deeper psychological layers of kink, this is one of my favorite conversations on the podcast so far!

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Ep2: Look at my tits, not my face - Privacy and anonymity in kink02 May 202300:18:16
Show notes

Welcome back to "Turns out I'm into it!" In this episode, we're diving into the world of privacy and anonymity in kink. We'll explore why privacy is so important, and how you can protect yourself while still putting yourself out there. 

Protecting your privacy doesn't have to feel super serious. From choosing secret code names, to being part of a secret underground subculture - there are plenty of great reasons that keeping things anonymous can be super fun! 

So come join us for another exciting episode and learn how to navigate privacy and anonymity in the world of kink. Don't forget to leave a review and let us know what you think! (did that just rhyme?). 

Mentioned in this episode

Get in touch!

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Ep1: Let’s talk about kink!02 May 202300:17:55
Show notes

Welcome to the first episode of "Turns out I'm into it!” This podcast is about having open and honest conversations about sex, BDSM, and kink. 

Your host, Harley Rabbit, shares her own personal story of discovering her kinks at a young age, and how exploring them has become an integral part of who she is today.

Through her own experience, Harley explains how exploring kink became the foundation of trust and openness in her current long-term relationship. She discusses how BDSM helped to create strong bonds and intimacy from the very beginning.

Join Harley on this exciting journey of self-discovery and acceptance, and learn how to embrace your kinks and desires to have the sex life you truly deserve.

Welcome to the show!

Mentioned in this episode

  • Ethical Slut by xx (Book)
  • Feeld (dating app) 
  • Sex Education (Netflix TV Show)
  • How to Build a Sex Room (Netflix TV Show)

Get in touch!

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#93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charles09 Jul 202501:14:05

In this extra juicy episode, I am joined by sex and intimacy coach Sam Charles for a very hands-on dirty talk masterclass. What starts as a playful lesson turns into a real-life demonstration of navigating boundaries, expressing desire, and negotiating a spicy scene in real time.

I open up about my own edges when it comes to using words during sex, and Sam creates a beautifully safe space to explore those vulnerabilities. Together, we co-create a scene that goes from light flirting to full-blown cock worship—sharing authentic erotic energy along the way! 

You’ll learn:

  • Four practical structures to build your dirty talk confidence
  • How to use sound, breath, and tone to express desire
  • What it looks like to communicate boundaries while staying sexy
  • Why asking for what you want can feel vulnerable—and how to do it anyway
  • The power of names, roles, and real-time feedback in turning fantasy into reality

Content Warning: This episode includes real-time erotic role play and authentic sexual energy. If you're not in the headspace for sexy content today, feel free to skip or come back later.

Resources Mentioned:

If you loved this episode

Share it with your partner or bestie and try the exercises together! Want more support navigating your own erotic edges? Book a coaching session with Harley via harleyrabbit.com

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#92: My Brisbane Trip – Navigating Nerves, New Experiences, and My Favourite Rope Scene Yet02 Jul 202501:07:12

In this episode, I’m sharing some honest reflections from my recent trip to Brisbane—where I pushed through some big travel anxiety to have one of my favourite rope scenes yet.

I open up about what it’s like to manage anxiety while trying to do the things you really want to do, and how I’m learning to meet that part of myself with more compassion. I also talk about the rope scene I did with Deadmaxis (who we had on the show on episode #87), and what made it feel so safe and connected—even with power dynamics in play.

This episode is pretty raw. I recorded it while everything was still fresh. But I hope it helps normalise the behind-the-scenes struggles that don’t always get talked about. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too anxious to explore kink, I hope this gives you a bit of encouragement and a reminder that you’re not alone.

Mentioned in this episode:

  • #87 The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey 
  • #89 Kink in a Small Town, and Finding my Brave (thoughts leading up to this trip)
  • #54 I had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened (episode about my not so great experience last year)
  • Body Worlds Exhibit -Brisbane 
  • @_deadmaxis on Instagram
  • Scene photos on my Fetlife

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#91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (That You Can Learn Right Now)18 Jun 202500:48:10

What if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes?

In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink: attunement.

We explore:

đŸ”č What attunement is
 đŸ”č How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others
 đŸ”č Why attunement is crucial for both Doms and subs
 đŸ”č What gets in the way of staying present during play
 đŸ”č How attunement makes scenes hotter, deeper, and more emotionally fulfilling

🎁 This episode includes TWO free guided exercises you can use to start practising attunement today—either solo or with a partner. These are powerful tools to help you tune in, connect, and get more out of your kink scenes right away.

Whether you’re brand new to kink or have been in the scene for years, this episode is a powerful reminder that technique means nothing without genuine connection.

Mentioned in this Episode

  • Episode #89 Kink in a Small Town and Finding My Brave

1) Self Attunement Exercise 

  1. Set a timer for 5 minutes.
  2. Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes.
  3. Gently scan your body from head to toe.
    • What sensations do you notice?
    • Are there any areas of tension, warmth, pressure, openness, tingling?
  4. Pick one sensation that stands out. Stay with it for a minute.
    • Does it shift? Intensify? Fade?
    • What emotion might be connected to it?
  5. Ask: What does this part of me need?
    • A breath? Movement? A hand placed there?
    • Respond with a small, compassionate action.

2) Attuning to a Partner Exercise

  1. Sit facing each other. Set a timer for 5–10 minutes.
  2. Choose one person to be the "noticer" and one to be the "receiver."
  3. The noticer silently observes the receiver’s body—posture, breath, expression, energy.
  4. Ask internally: What do I notice? 
  5. Offer your observations gently (e.g., “I noticed your shoulders softened when I smiled.”)
  6. Swap roles. At the end, reflect:
    • What was it like to be seen that way?
    • What did you learn about your partner?

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#90: Behind the Mask – A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash11 Jun 202500:56:56

I’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded
 a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible! 

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash. Desmond is a passionate pony player who generously opens up about his journey, the beauty of pony play, and what it means to fully embody an alter ego with power, grace, and heart.

We explore:

đŸ”č What pony play is (and what it isn’t)
 đŸ”č The difference between cosplay and full pony embodiment
 đŸ”č Asexual kink and why eroticism isn’t always the goal
 đŸ”č The psychological state known as “pony headspace”
 đŸ”č What it feels like to transform into Rapidash
 đŸ”č Tack, hooves, and creating a beautiful visual aesthetic
 đŸ”č Types of scenes – from carting and dressage to solo play and bondage
 đŸ”č Finding community and navigating rare kinks in Australia

Desmond’s description of pony play as a living work of art—and Rapidash as a grander, more majestic version of himself—will stay with me for a long time. Whether you’re totally new to this kink or simply intrigued, this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation is a beautiful window into an often-misunderstood world.

🐮 Follow Rapidash:

  • FetLife: -Rapidash-
  • Intagram: @-rapidash_1

📚 Book recommendation:
 The Human Pony by Rebecca Wilcox

🔗 Mentions & Resources:

  • Cpony.com – A detailed educational site about pony play
  • Etsy – For custom hooves and pony gear
  • Wild Gas Masks, Bob Basset, Fury Fantasy – Gear creators mentioned
  • HorseLand (AU) – Mainstream horse supplies that double as tack
  • FetLife Pony Play groups – Great for community, education, and connection

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#89: Kink in a Small Town, and Finding my Brave28 May 202500:31:33

In this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next.

You’ll hear about:

  • The beautiful and frustrating reality of being a regional kinkster
  • How my dynamic with Slade is evolving after four years together
  • Why craving more doesn’t mean something’s wrong
  • What we’ve been experimenting with using bamboo poles
  • Reclaiming independence as a submissive—and why it’s complicated

This is a soft, honest look at what happens when your kink journey keeps growing—and you're not quite sure where it's going to take you.

Mentioned in this Episode

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#88: I’m a Grown Man. And I Wear Nappies - Inside ABDL with DaddaG21 May 202500:53:52

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined once again by the incredible DaddaG—event organiser behind KangaCon and long-time member of the ABDL community. With over 20 years of experience as both a diaper lover and caregiver, DaddaG brings a deep, compassionate perspective to the world of age play.

We explore:

đŸ”č Different age play roles – AB, DL, Daddy, and switching
 đŸ”č Consent, boundaries, and what to ask before your first scene
 đŸ”č How to approach a partner about your age play desires
 đŸ”č Emotional connection in caregiver/little dynamics
 đŸ”č The importance of balance, realism, and self-care
 đŸ”č How KangaCon is evolving—and what’s next

DaddaG shares personal stories from his decades in the community, including what it means to see someone fully relax into their little self, how to read cues in a scene, and why honouring vulnerability is at the heart of good caregiving. Whether you’re brand new or deeply immersed in this world, you’ll find plenty to reflect on in this thoughtful and heartwarming episode.

🌐 Follow DaddaG on FetLife:
@DaddaG (Daddy/Caregiver profile)
@ToddlerBoyGis3 (Little side profile)

📚 Book recommendation:
 Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb – Sexologist and author supporting ABDL and age players in embracing who they are and overcoming shame. Check out her books 'You're Not Broken' and 'No More Hiding'
🔗 thediaperdoctor.com 

🔗 Mentions & Resources:

  • KangaCon – Australia’s first age play convention
  • CapCon, Tomcat, TeddyCon – Community ABDL events
  • Dark Age Play – A growing area of interest for future events. You can find an excellent description here. 

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#87: The Love Language of Rope — with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey14 May 202501:24:07

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by Deadmaxis and Aura Grey—partners in life, kink, and the art of rope. Known for their stunning suspension performances at events like Hardbeat Byron and Berlin’s Dark Circus, this couple brings over a decade of love and a deep connection to their rope journey.

We explore:

đŸ”č How they went from a vanilla marriage to exploring kink together
 đŸ”č The emotional and psychological impact of rope in their relationship
 đŸ”č Developing trust through suspension—and what it takes to play at the edge
 đŸ”č Performing vs. private scenes – how intention and connection shift
 đŸ”č Why rope isn’t just beautiful—it’s physically intense, deeply intimate, and always evolving

🌐 Follow Deadmaxis & Aura Grey:
 FetLife: @Deadmaxis | @AuraGrey
 Instagram: @_deadmaxis | @isee.grey

🔗 Resources & Mentions:
Hardbeat Byron – Australia’s underground kink rave & performance event
BRLN Dark Circus – A European style vent blending fetish, art, and performance
Yugen Studio SM Magazine
Polysecure - by Jessica Fern
The War of Art - Steven Pressfield 

xx Harley 🐰

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#86: How Old Do You Feel in the Bedroom? 23 Apr 202500:36:28

What happens when your birthday brings up more than cake and candles?

In this raw and personal episode, Harley opens up about what it’s like to navigate aging as a sexual woman in a culture obsessed with youth. From noticing lines in the mirror to feeling like time is running out for certain fantasies, this episode is a vulnerable look at the internal stories we carry—and how kink can help us rewrite them.

You’ll hear:

  • Why the sex Harley has now is so much better than what she had in her twenties
  • How fantasy, age play, and Core Desires can help you stay connected to the younger part of yourself
  • What men can do to genuinely support and desire women as they age
  • The powerful role kink plays in transcending physical age and reconnecting with play, innocence, and turn-on

Whether you're in your 20s or your 60s, this episode is a celebration of growing into your sexuality—not out of it.

🔗 Links + Resources

Journaling / Discussion Prompts

  • What age do I feel when I’m having sex?
  • How has my sex life changed in the last 5–10-20 years?
  • What do you, or could you find attractive about older women, if you look beyond the cultural lens?

🌟 If you loved this episode, don’t forget to rate, review, and share it with someone who needs to hear this today.

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#85: I’m Not Ashamed to Love Masculine Men16 Apr 202500:38:48

In this episode, I explore the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity—and why I’m tired of pretending that being attracted to masculine men is something to be ashamed of.

Inspired by a scene in Beastars (an anime on Netflix), I unpack what it means to celebrate masculine power without excusing harm. We talk about violence, tenderness, emotional maturity, and why the sexiest men are often the ones who could fight—but don’t need to.

From MMA rings to Formula One tracks, this is a heartfelt and primal love letter to healthy masculinity—and an invitation to let men be tigers again!

📚 Resources Mentioned:

  • Beastars – anime series on Netflix (Season 1)
  • Men, Women & Worthiness by BrenĂ© Brown (short audiobook on Audible)
  • @harley_rabbit on Instagram – DM TIGERBITE to join my close friends circle
  • SubscribeStar After Show – for bonus reflections and behind-the-scenes thoughts

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#102: Three Ingredients for a Seriously Hot S&M Scene05 Nov 202500:36:57

Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just
 well, hurt?

In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender.

I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly breathtaking. Seeing those performances — including one by Kazami Ranki himself — gave me so much to think (and feel!) about when it comes to the psychology of pain and kink.

In this episode, I share what I discovered about:

  • Why power and vulnerability create such intense erotic charge.
  • How attention — not just pain — is the secret sauce behind hot S&M.
  • What surrender really feels like and what makes it possible.
  • Why teasing, torment, and fear can actually feel incredible.

If you’ve ever wondered how S&M can feel loving, connected, and insanely sexy all at once — this one’s for you.

Mentioned in this Episode

Deadmaxis - follow on Intragram @_deadmaxis

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#84: What Turns You On—and What Turns You Off! Understanding Your Sexual Brakes and Accelerators02 Apr 202500:27:14

Do you ever feel like your body just isn’t showing up for sex—even when your mind is totally on board? Maybe you want to feel turned on, but nothing’s happening down there. Or maybe you feel ashamed, confused, or frustrated when your desire doesn’t match what your partner (or you!) expect.

In this episode, Harley Rabbit introduces the dual control model, a powerful framework from the world of sexology that could change the way you think about arousal forever.

You’ll learn how your sexual accelerator and brakes work, and how understanding these systems can help you navigate issues like low desire, erectile difficulties, body shame, and performance anxiety with more compassion, clarity, and confidence.

Journaling Prompts:

📝 Do I know what my core desires are? Am I getting them met in my sex life?
 📝 Are there any external or internal threats pressing on my brakes right now? Can I do anything about them?

Resources Mentioned:

  • Emily Nagoski’s Book: Come As You Are
  • Previous Episode: #83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas

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#83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas19 Mar 202500:32:24

Ever felt too self-conscious to fully enjoy sex? Maybe you struggle to switch off from life stress, or you find yourself stuck in your head during intimate moments.

In this episode, Harley Rabbit shares a powerful technique for breaking free from insecurity and fully immersing yourself in pleasure—by stepping into a kink persona.

A kink persona isn’t just roleplay—it’s a way to tap into different aspects of yourself, experiment with new fantasies, and unleash parts of your sexuality you may never have explored before. Whether you're a creative storyteller, a fantasy-driven thinker, or just someone who struggles to stay present in sex, this episode will help you unlock new ways to play.

Journaling / Discussion Prompts

  • If I could be anyone in a fantasy, who would I be?
  • What kind of personality excites me in a sexual scenario? Am I dominant, submissive, playful, shy, aggressive?
  • Write a short erotic fantasy from the perspective of your character

Resources Mentioned:

Support the Show:

If you enjoyed this episode, consider:

  • Sharing it with a friend
  • Leaving a 5-star rating or review

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#82: Sub or Bottom? Exploring the Many Flavours of Submission12 Mar 202500:34:48

When you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control?

In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whether you’re a good sub, brat, masochist, or rope bunny, this episode will guide you in discovering what truly excites you—without forcing yourself into a box that doesn’t fit.

This one is for both subs and dominants, as we’ll also discuss how to recognise different submissive styles and find play partners who are the right match.

Journaling / Discussion Prompts:

  • Do I crave giving up control, or am I more drawn to sensory experiences?
  • Do I get turned on by praise, punishment, resistance, or being cared for?
  • How can I communicate my unique submission style with my partner(s)?

Resources Mentioned:

  • Previous Episode: #81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from the Stereotypes
  • Join my Close Friends circle on Instagram @harley_rabbit. Password: Sleepybunny đŸ€«

Support the Show:

If you enjoyed this episode, consider:

  • Sharing it with a friend
  • Leaving a 5-star rating or review

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#81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from Stereotypes05 Mar 202500:30:29

Have you ever wondered if you're kinky enough to belong in the kink community? Maybe you feel like you don’t fit the stereotypical Dominant/submissive (D/s) mold or that your desires aren’t “intense” enough to count. In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the many ways people explore kink—whether through full-time dynamics, occasional play, private fantasies, or even solo experiences.

Kink doesn’t have to look one way, and there’s no test you need to pass to belong. We'll also explore some of the lesser-known types of kink, such as sensation play, fetishes, and solo kink practices, to highlight just how broad and personal kink can be. Whether you're just beginning your journey or questioning where you fit in, this episode will help you embrace your unique desires with confidence and curiosity.

Journaling / Discussion Prompts:

  • Do I ever compare my desires to others and feel like I don’t measure up?
  • What lesser-known kinks am I curious to explore?


Resources Mentioned:


Support the Show:

If you enjoyed this episode, consider:

  • Sharing it with a friend
  • Leaving a 5-star rating or review

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#80: Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass – with Miss Gen19 Feb 202501:55:18

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by the incredible Miss Gen—Shibari educator, performer, and rope sadist. As head of Evil Girls HQ in Brisbane and a Shihan (Master Instructor) in Kazami Ryu Shibari, she has 25+ years of experience training with top rope masters and performing in Japan. 

We explore:

đŸ”č Miss Gen’s journey into rope – From self-tying as a child to discovering her dominant side.
đŸ”č The psychology of rope play – How energy, connection, and anticipation shape a scene.
đŸ”č Shibari vs. Western bondage – Key differences in style, structure, and emotional depth.
đŸ”č Performing in Japan – The world of Japanese rope bars, pink theatres & cultural attitudes.
đŸ”č Building a rope community – How Miss Gen helped shape the Brisbane rope scene.

Miss Gen shares why patience, negotiation, and connection are essential in rope. If you’re curious about Shibari, this episode is a must-listen!

🌐 Follow Miss Gen at 

  • FetLife @MissEvilGen
  • IG: @miss_gen_does_rope
  • Web: evilgirlsHQ.com.au

🔗 Resources & Mentions:

  •  Nuit de Tokyo – A must-follow on Fetlife for Shibari history & education
  •  Bar Ubu (Tokyo) – A famous rope bar in Japan

📚 Books

đŸ”„ Loved this episode? Leave a 5-star review and share it with your rope-loving friends!

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#79: How to Play with Gender in BDSM12 Feb 202500:29:44

Most people don’t realise just how much gender shapes the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re leaning into traditional roles—like masculine dominance and feminine submission—or subverting them entirely, gender dynamics influence kink in ways we often don’t even notice.

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, we dive into:

đŸ”č How gender roles show up in BDSM
đŸ”č Masculine dominance vs. feminine submission – Why it turns us on
đŸ”č Subverting gender norms – Femdom, feminisation, and sissification in play
đŸ”č The shadow self & kink – Why our desires often contradict our vanilla life values
đŸ”č De-shaming gendered kinks & embracing what excites you
đŸ”č Practical ways to explore gender roles in BDSM

Journaling Prompts from This Episode

🖊 Want to explore gender in your BDSM play? Use these prompts to reflect on your desires:

  • Do I feel more aroused by reinforcing traditional gender roles or subverting them—or both?
  • Are there fantasies I’ve been afraid to explore because they challenge how I see myself?
  • What aspects of gender am I curious about playing with in a kink setting?

If you loved this episode, leave a 5-star review and share it with your kinky friends! 💜

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#78: Religious Shame, BDSM, and the Psychology of Power – With Shelby Devlin05 Feb 202501:04:14

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by the incredible Shelby Devlin, a sex and intimacy coach with nearly a decade of experience specializing in BDSM and kink. With a master's degree in sexuality studies and a role as an advanced instructor at the Somatica Institute, Shelby brings a wealth of knowledge to our conversation.

We dive into two powerful topics:
đŸ”č Religious shame & sexuality – How religious conditioning shapes our sexual identities, and how to reclaim pleasure while maintaining faith.
đŸ”č The psychology of dominance & submission – Why BDSM is a form of psychological eroticism, and how understanding power dynamics can deepen trust and connection.

Shelby shares her personal journey into kink, how she helps clients navigate shame, and why pleasure is the antidote to shame. We also discuss 24/7 dynamics, the importance of trust in BDSM, and the real difference between dominance and just being selfish. Plus, Shelby gives us a sneak peek into her upcoming book on BDSM!

If you’ve ever struggled with internalized shame, questioned your desires, or wanted to deepen your understanding of power exchange, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.

🔗 Resources & Mentions:
📖 Sleeping Beauty series by Anne Rice
📖 Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller
📖 A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas
🌐 Find Shelby at shelbydevlin.com

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#77: How to Tell Your Partner What You're Really Into... (Even If It Feels Super Scary)29 Jan 202500:39:11

Sharing your sexual fantasies with a partner can feel incredibly vulnerable... maybe even terrifying! In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives deep into why it’s so hard to open up about our desires and offers practical, no-pressure strategies to help you navigate these conversations with confidence and curiosity. Whether you're hoping to act on your fantasies or simply share them for deeper intimacy, this episode will equip you with the tools to hopefully make it a positive experience!

Discussion Prompts:

  • What feelings do I want to experience through my fantasies?
  • How can I support my partner’s desires even if I don’t share them?

Resources Mentioned:

  • Previous Episode: #76: Are My Fantasies Normal? (Recommended as a precursor to today's episode)
  • Precious Episode: #74: My Secret "Cock Worship" Fantasy: How Fantasies Unlock Better Sex

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#76: Are my Sexual Fantasies Normal? Here's What Science Says15 Jan 202500:34:24

Episode Summary:
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, Harley Rabbit dives deep into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies, exploring why so many of us feel shame about them and how science challenges the idea of “normal” fantasies. Harley breaks down a landmark study, “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?”, which surveyed over 1,500 people to determine which fantasies are rare, unusual, common, or typical. Along the way, Harley shares personal insights, busts myths about fantasies, and offers practical tips for embracing your desires without shame.

Discussion & Journal Prompts:

  1. What are some sexual fantasies I’ve had that I’ve felt shame about, and where does that shame come from?
  2. How do I feel about sharing my fantasies with a partner? What fears or hesitations come up?

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#75: Santa's Little Helpers: Naughty Sex Toy Secrets Revealed - with Wendy Setless18 Dec 202401:19:12

It’s time to add a little extra joy to your holiday season! In this special Christmas episode, I’m joined by the fabulous Wendy Setless, a Somatica-trained sexual health, pleasure, and relationship coach, and the resident sexologist at her local adult store.

Wendy brings her infectious enthusiasm and deep knowledge to help us navigate the world of adult toys—from vibrators and strokers to kegel balls and vibrating cock rings. Whether you’re looking to explore solo or spice things up with a partner, Wendy shares practical advice for finding the perfect “hardware” and discovering what makes your body tick.

This episode is packed with laughs, insights, and encouragement to embrace pleasure, own your desires, and have a very merry holiday season!

A video version of this episode is available on our Youtube channel. 

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#101: Rope School! What We Learned from a Level 1 Shibari Intensive – with Slade15 Oct 202500:54:06

This week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1, a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville.

Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope.

We explore:

  • Slade's lessons in persistence as an aspiring rigger 
  • Harley's insights on how mindset can have a major effect on pain tolerance
  • The difference between playful rope and “lab-mode” learning
  • How rope journaling can be a creative way to integrate learning
  • When to upgrade your rope
  • Navigating comparison and confidence in group learning
  • The importance of having fun and being a supportive partner

This one feels like you’re sitting down with us for a casual chat about rope over a few drinks. Neither of us are experts — but sometimes that makes the experience even more relatable for those who are also new to this world.

From bleeding fingers and proud time-trials to unexpected moments of calm and connection, this episode is both an inside look at structured rope education and a love letter to the art of learning together.

Special thanks to Basanos and Angel for bringing their amazing skills and tuition to our little town!

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#74: My Secret "Cock Worship" Fantasy: How Fantasies Unlock Better Sex11 Dec 202400:35:53

In this week’s episode, Harley Rabbit takes a deep dive into the world of sexual fantasies and reveals one of her most provocative ones—a cock worship scenario rooted in her submissive desires.

Harley discusses how fantasies can unlock deeper arousal, help you connect with your core desires, and transform your sex life—whether you're indulging solo or with a partner. She explores why fantasising is healthy, how it doesn’t reflect your real-life values, and how to incorporate your imagination into sex without needing an elaborate setup.

Plus, Harley shares practical tips on using props, positions, and gestures to amplify your fantasies and make them even more immersive.

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#73: 4 Common Beliefs About Women’s Sexuality You’re Probably Getting Wrong27 Nov 202400:28:39

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, Harley Rabbit takes on some of the most stubborn myths and misconceptions about women’s sexuality. Whether you’re a woman navigating these expectations or a man eager to understand your partner better, this episode is for you.

Harley shares her personal experiences and insights from studying sexology, conversations with clients and friends, and challenges commonly held beliefs that might be holding you back from a more fulfilling sex life.

You’ll hear about:

  • Why being multi-orgasmic isn’t the ultimate goal for everyone.
  • Why “She Comes First” is well-intentioned but not always the best approach.
  • How objectification, when done consensually, can actually boost confidence and connection.
  • Why putting women on a pedestal creates imbalance and prevents authentic intimacy.

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#72: Permission to be Sexy! Lessons from a Burlesque Class20 Nov 202400:35:59

In this empowering episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the topic of sex positivity and overcoming shame around sexuality. Sharing personal stories, including a formative memory from high school and a transformative recent experience in a burlesque dance class, Harley explores how societal messages shape our views on expressing sexuality. Harley reflects on reclaiming self-confidence and finding permission to be authentically sexy in a world that often discourages it.

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#71: Overcoming Old Stories - How Kink Helped me get my First Tattoo!13 Nov 202400:42:24

In this episode, Harley Rabbit opens up about finally getting her first tattoo—a significant milestone that stirred up childhood memories and beliefs. Harley reflects on how her journey into kink and pain play has reshaped her understanding of resilience, pain, and bravery. Sharing stories about childhood fears, needle phobias, and reclaiming agency through kink, Harley discusses how these experiences helped overcome lifelong limiting beliefs.

Tune in for an honest, empowering discussion about using kink as a way to challenge old narratives, embrace your strength, and celebrate your journey. Plus, hear updates on Harley’s coaching journey, Somatica training, and her battles with challenges in the adult industry. 

Resources Mentioned:

  • Book Recommendation: The Way Out by Alan Gordon for chronic pain management.
  • HarleyRabbit.com – Book a free connection call.
  • Find tattoo pictures on Harley’s Instagram and Fetlife profiles.

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#70: Harley Ruins Your Favorite Love Songs - Teddy Swims, Sia, Bruno Mars30 Oct 202400:33:36

In this episode, Harley dives into a fun yet insightful analysis of three popular love songs that might make you rethink your playlist: I Lose Control by Teddy Swims, Elastic Heart by Sia, and Grenade by Bruno Mars. Taking on the role of a relationship coach, Harley imagines these song lyrics as if they were clients sitting in a therapy session, sharing their romantic struggles.

Harley explores how these songs, while catchy and romantic on the surface, often glorify toxic behaviors that we’ve come to accept as ‘normal’ in love stories. From possessive jealousy and feeling out of control to shaming, blaming, and self-sacrifice, these songs highlight common patterns that are often romanticized in music but can be damaging in real relationships.

Tune in for a mix of humor, raw honesty, and relationship wisdom as Harley breaks down why we should pay closer attention to the messaging in the love songs we adore. You'll never hear these tracks the same way again! (Written by AI)

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  • Loose Control - Teddy Swims
  • Elastic Heart - Sia
  • Grenade - Bruno Mars

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#69: How Men Can Start Exploring CNC- Interview with Dotch16 Oct 202401:11:08

CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) is often discussed from a woman’s perspective, but what about men? In this episode, I’m joined by Dotch, a Somatica¼ practitioner who once saw CNC as a hard limit but has since learned to enjoy facilitating these fantasies. Dotch shares his journey, from initial discomfort to embracing CNC in a way that feels safer, consensual, and exciting. We discuss the challenges men face, including shame and the fear of crossing boundaries, and offer insights on how to explore CNC responsibly. Tune in for a thoughtful, candid conversation on navigating CNC from a man’s point of view.

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#68: Romance vs BDSM - Which is More Intimate? 25 Sep 202400:31:38

In this episode, Harley Rabbit delves into the concept of intimacy within the kink and BDSM communities, challenging common misconceptions that equate kink with violence and degradation. Harley emphasizes that true intimacy in kink is built on trust, vulnerability, and open communication. The discussion explores various forms of intimacy that can arise in kink, including the exploration of personal limits and the importance of aftercare. Harley also shares personal experiences that highlight how kink can foster deeper connections and accelerate feelings of intimacy between partners.

If you are interested in exploring some CNC roleplays with a trusted partner, I am hosting an online workshop in October. You can get tickets here:

Beginner’s CNC Play for Couples Eventbrite (Book tickets)

Beginner's CNC Play for Couples (Fetlife Event)

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#67: My Schoolgirl Fantasy - Exploring Middlespace11 Sep 202400:52:23

I got up to some exciting kinky shenanigans this weekend and I can’t wait to share! Slade and I did our most elaborate roleplay yet, which was a CNC schoolgirl fantasy. This has been a fantasy of mine for a long time, and was also my first time exploring middlespace. In this episode I share the details of the roleplay and what I learned, as well as how it felt to explore a more complicated for of ageplay where I was actually getting to sooth some old wounds using the repetition with agency pathway. 

If you are interested in exploring some CNC roleplays with a trusted partner, I am hosting an online workshop in October. You can get tickets here:

Beginner’s CNC Play for Couples Eventbrite (Book tickets)

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#66: Dipping Your Toe Into BDSM: Ideas for Beginners - with Jeanne Baade28 Aug 202401:03:45

In this episode, I talk with Jeanne Baade, a sex and relationship coach who discovered her sexuality later in life after growing up in a conservative christian household. Jeanne shares how she first experienced a clitoral orgasm at 48, and her journey into kink and BDSM. We explore simple ways for beginners to dip their toe into BDSM, like using blindfolds, scarves and rope harnesses to build trust and connection with a partner.

Jeanne’s humour and storytelling make this conversation both insightful and engaging, offering relatable advice for anyone curious about exploring kink. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to reignite your relationship, Jeanne’s wisdom provides a welcoming introduction to this world.

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#65: The STI Questions You’re Too Afraid to Ask – With Dr Sara21 Aug 202400:48:00

In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that might not be the sexiest, but it’s crucial for anyone exploring their sexuality, especially in non-monogamous relationships. I’m joined by Dr. Sara Whitburn, a General Practitioner specialising in sexual health and the Deputy Medical Director at Sexual Health Victoria, to tackle all the awkward questions about STIs.

We’ll be covering what you need to know about common STIs, including what you should be testing for and how often. Dr. Sara answers those burning questions like, “How risky is oral sex without condoms?” and “Can I get genital herpes if my partner gives me oral with a cold sore?” 

If you have an active sx life with multiple partners, or just want to stay informed, this episode is a must-listen. Being educated about STIs allows us to make informed decisions about the risks we’re willing to take and how we negotiate boundaries with our partners.

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#100: Episode 100! Let's Celebrate Together 🎉01 Oct 202500:39:59

We did it! Turns Out I’m Into It has officially hit 100 episodes. 

This week isn’t just about celebrating the podcast milestone, it’s about celebrating you and everything you’ve achieved in your kinky journey so far. From building the courage to reach out to new partners, to finding your voice around desires and boundaries, to embracing your kinks without shame—these are massive wins, and today we’re raising a glass (or a cup of tea, in my case) to every step you’ve taken.

In this episode, I share:

  • Highlights and behind-the-scenes moments from 100 episode.
  • The hardest episode I ever recorded (and why it mattered so much)
  • The most popular episodes to date—including the one about blowjobs that has now had 4,000+ plays 😉
  • My reflections on how the show has grown, how I’ve grown, and where we’re heading next

And of course, I’ll invite you to take a moment to celebrate yourself—whether that means a fancy coffee, a cheeky night out, or yes, maybe even some dirty fun!

Thank you for being here, for listening, and for being part of this community. Here’s to the next 100!

Mentioned in this epsiode:

#32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator

#49: How to Give INSANE Blowjobs - Even if you Can't D********t

#54: I Had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened

#67: My Schoolgirl Fantasy - Exploring Middlespace

#80  Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass - with Miss Gen

#87: The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey

#93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charles

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#64: Igniting Libido - Bringing Desire Outside of the Bedroom 14 Aug 202400:33:59

One of the most common challenges people experience in their sex life is issues with libido. Whether it's a mismatch with their partner's libido or a sudden drop-off, these issues can be frustrating and confusing. In today's episode, I introduce a controversial exercise called “Keeping Your Pilot Light On.” This exercise focuses on finding ways to comfortably tap into your arousal in your day-to-day life, outside of the bedroom.

We delve into the ethical questions this topic brings up, particularly regarding sexual fantasies and keeping them separate from reality. It's an important discussion for anyone on their kink journey, providing valuable insights and practical advice on maintaining a healthy and balanced approach to arousal.


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#63: Mastering Fetlife Profiles for Men - with Slade (Part 2)07 Aug 202400:53:08

Get ready for part 2 of our conversation about men’s profiles on Fetlife. If you're a man on Fetlife struggling to represent yourself authentically, these episodes provide invaluable tips and advice on how to do just that. 

In today’s episode, Slade shares how he implemented the changes we discussed last week, including doing his first writing, updating and refining his bio, and being more intentional about his photos. Finally, we explore Slade's vision for using Fetlife as a platform to genuinely connect with the kinky community, rather than just another form of social media.

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#62: Mastering Fetlife Profiles for Men - with Slade (Part 1)31 Jul 202400:54:24

Ok guys, if you're on Fetlife and not having much luck with the ladies
 How much effort have you really put into your profile? Be honest! In this episode, I'm joined by my Dom and long-term partner, Slade, as we dive into men's profiles. Slade himself is guilty of not keeping his profile updated, and like many men, has a lot more to offer than his current profile showcases. Together, we go through his profile piece by piece, incorporating valuable input from female Fetlife users about the red and green flags they look for when connecting with men on Fetlife.

Tune in for practical tips and insights that will help you revamp your profile and increase your chances of finding meaningful connections.

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#61: The Art and Connection of Rope Bondage - with Ravel24 Jul 202401:01:42

If you are interested in rope bondage, you need to listen to this episode! Ravel is an experienced rigger from Brisbane Australia, who understands that rope is so much more than just technical skill. With a background in theatre, dance and performing arts, Ravel talks about bringing intention to your rope scenes - that is, knowing what kind of experience and emotions you are wanting to cultivate, before you even touch a rope. Throughout the episode, Ravel offers loads of practical tips and ideas, as well as talks about the subtlety of non-verbal communication during a rope scene. I am so excited to share some of Ravel’s wisdom and experience on my show. Do not miss this one! 

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#60: Slade and I had our First FMF Threesome! 10 Jul 202400:32:03

I know this is an experience on a lot of people’s ‘Fuckit lists’ so I thought I’d share some details that might help you in organising a similar experience... đŸŒ¶ In this episode I start by talking about the planning process, recognising agency, and some key factors that helped me transition into the right headspace for kinky play. I also share about what it’s like to include a CNC / free use type of role-play, as well as suggest using props to indulge all your senses. Lastly, I have a chat about what it’s like to be in an open relationship, the frustration I feel about the lack of acceptance when it comes to non-monogamy, and and the joy of “compersion.”

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#59: The Dynamic Mind of a Pleasure Sub - with Chained Valkyrie03 Jul 202401:17:05

I am super excited to have the incredible Chained Valkyrie on the show today. Valkyrie identifies as a pleasure sub, and as you’ll find out, there are many different kinks she enjoyed as part of her submissive identity. These include Impact, pet play, ABDL, degradation, and many more. We also cover the use of intermediate safewords, comparing yourself to others in kink, as well as the good and bad of sharing so much of yourself on Fetlife. Valkyrie is so open about her kinks and clearly has a lot of experience navigating this scene. It was an honor to have her on the show!


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#58: Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn? People Pleasing in Kink26 Jun 202400:33:17

What the hell is “fawning” and what does it have to do with kink? Well, that’s exactly what we are talking about on today’s episode. If you are someone who struggles with people pleasing to the point of crossing your own boundaries, this episode may be especially relevant to you. Also in this episode I share my recent experiences joining a yoga studio to improve core strength and flexibility for my rope bunny practice. I also share some surprising other benefits that are helping me experience more pleasure in sex.  

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#57: Empowerment through Dominance - Interview with Jessica Langley 19 Jun 202400:54:40

I have an exciting guest for you today. She is another friend from my Somatica course and her name is Jessica Langley. Jessica is a somatic sexologist, based in Colorado and she is dedicated to liberating humans from toxic shame and helping people live more authentic lives. She believes that embodied pleasure is a birthright, and she can help you reclaim your sacred eroticism. Jessica is queer and polyamorous, and if you’d like to learn more about her services you can visit her website https://versicolorcoaching.com/

Separate from her coaching business Jessica also works as a dominatrix. As we’ve never had a domme on the show before, I took this opportunity to ask her lots of questions about this! As always, I learned a lot from this chat, and I’m sure you will as well. We cover a lot of topics from polyamory, empathy, what it’s like from the Dominant perspective, and lots more. 

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#56: Reflections on Speaking Out, and Cultivating Your Feed12 Jun 202400:37:08

In this week's episode I reflect on the responses I got from speaking out in episode #54. I am so grateful to everyone who has reached out to me, shared their stories, or told me the episode had an impact on them. I was very nervous about how the episode would be received and this really goes to show that most people in this community are good humans! 

Also in this episode I reveal some of my favorite profiles to follow on Fetlife and Instagram! This is just one of the ways we can be proactive about cultivating a positive community around us. See the list of profile names below if you’d like to follow these amazing people yourself. 

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  • Erenisch_Comics
  • ChainedValkyrie
  • Gary-whitehouse
  • MrG__ and PropertyofMrG
  • Thingsmyd**kdoes
  • _MrV- and Darkmole
  • Mostlybicpics
  • Bettersx.blog
  • Disabled_Eliza
  • Lainey.molnar
  • Kimoftheinternet

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#55: Saying No - The Power of Setting Boundaries05 Jun 202400:43:42

Setting boundaries might seem straightforward, but it’s often challenging to recognise and communicate them, especially in the context of kink. This week's episode dives into the complexities of identifying and asserting your boundaries, with a particular focus on the struggles faced by those with anxiety who may have become adept at ignoring their body’s warning signals. I share insights from my recent experiences at a weekend rope workshop that showed me that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to more fun! Special thanks to Evil Girls HQ and Miss Gen for an incredible workshop – if you have the chance to take a class with Miss Gen, don’t miss it! Links below.

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#99: Roleplay Lite - An Easy Guide for the Roleplay-Curious17 Sep 202500:34:45

When most people hear roleplay, they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom!

But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level performance.

I’ll walk you through:

  • Why roleplay isn’t about “faking it”—it’s about giving your hidden selves permission to take the lead
  • Easy components (like collars, boots, glasses, or positions) that can spark whole fantasies
  • How to use mini-scenes (short, playful roleplays that last just a few minutes) to take the pressure off
  • Why solo roleplay can be an amazing way to explore on your own, no judgment required

By the end of this episode, you’ll have plenty of ideas to bring a little fantasy into your sex life in ways that feel authentic and playful—without all the cringe.

Prompts to Explore

  • How do you feel about roleplay right now—excited, nervous, silly, curious?
  • What hidden selves could you lean into?
  • What’s one simple component (a prop, a position, or a mood shift) that you’d like to try?
  • Can you imagine a short mini-scene, either with a partner or solo, that feels fun or intriguing?

If you enjoy the episode, a 5-star rating really helps more people discover the show. And if you’d like to see a more personal side of me, DM me (@harley_rabbit) the word “playful” on Instagram and I’ll add you to my Close Friends group.

Further Listening:

#28: Sleep Play - The Gateway Kink to CNC? 

#90: Behind the Mask - A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash 

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#54: I had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened29 May 202401:00:20

This week’s podcast was the hardest I’ve ever recorded. It’s easy to share the positive aspects of kink—the great experiences and the joys of exploration. What’s hard is sharing the negative experiences. It would have been much easier to keep this private, but my podcast is about sharing my kink journey openly and honestly. I can't do that if I’m only highlighting the good parts.

In this episode, I discuss a recent experience where my vetting process failed, and I ended up trusting someone who caused me significant harm. This experience was confusing and required a lot of reflection and conversations to understand fully. I share all of this on the podcast as openly and accurately as I can. This isn't about pointing fingers but rather an honest exploration of the risks we take in this community and how we can better protect ourselves.

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#53: Surprising Lessons from Floor Ropes!15 May 202400:48:31

In this episode, I dive into a recent adventure that took me to Brisbane, where I explored rope suspension for the first time. While I successfully achieved my suspension goals, it was the floor rope scenes with a talented rigger named Ravel (@ravel_shibari on Instagram) that truly transformed my perspective on rope.

Join me as I share about these floor scenes, revealing what they looked like, how they felt, and the crucial elements of successful scene negotiation and trust-building with a new play partner. In line with our show’s ethos, I also peel back the curtain on some of the less glamorous aspects of kinky play—like stress, expectations, and fatigue—helping to normalise the full spectrum of experiences that come with exploring our kinks.

Tune in to learn why sometimes the most insightful lessons come from unexpected places!

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