A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time.
We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you.
New episodes every Monday.
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30. Too Passionate to Play it Cool - The Joy of Being Deeply Interested in Things
Episode 30
Monday, March 16, 2026 • Duration 51:40
Ever felt like you’re too passionate to just play it cool?
Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about loving things deeply. The kind of enthusiasm that makes you dive headfirst into hobbies, interests, research, fandoms, or ideas… and then suddenly wonder if you should tone it down because everyone else seems a lot more chill.
We talk about what it’s like to be the kind of people who don’t do things casually — who get excited, curious, invested, and sometimes a bit obsessive — and how that can feel embarrassing in a culture that values being cool, detached, and effortless.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello hyperfixations, falling down research rabbit holes, and accidentally making a hobby your entire personality for three months.
👀 What it looks like in real life: Getting wildly excited about things other people seem neutral about, feeling self-conscious about your enthusiasm, or trying to act less interested than you actually are.
🧠 Why our brains do it: Curiosity, pattern-seeking minds, dopamine, and the nervous-system joy that comes from deep engagement and learning.
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: For some people it’s creative projects or learning new skills, for others it’s books, fandoms, research spirals, niche interests, or intense phases of curiosity.
🧰 Coping mechanisms: Trying to play it cool, downplaying your excitement, pretending you’re less invested than you are, or saving your enthusiasm for “safe” people.
🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe the goal isn’t becoming less passionate — it’s finding spaces where enthusiasm is welcome instead of embarrassing.
This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
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29. Too Scared To Be Seen - Vulnerability, Rejection Sensitivity & Hiding Your True Self
Season 1 · Episode 29
Monday, March 9, 2026 • Duration 55:47
Ever felt too scared to be seen - like longing for connection but the moment someone actually looks at you, you want to disappear?
Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about vulnerability, being perceived, and why letting people truly see you can feel more like a threat than a gift — even when you desperately want it.
We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want connection while also wanting the ground to swallow you whole.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello rescheduling this episode because it felt too vulnerable to record, singing perfectly alone and freezing the moment someone watches, and sharing something honest then immediately wanting to delete it
👀 What it looks like in real life: Avoiding eye contact, clamming up when eyes are on you, hiding from people after a moment of "too much," and post-socialising rumination that goes on way too long
🧠 Why our brains do it: Relational trauma and rejection experiences that taught us being seen is dangerous, internalised shame from critical or dismissive environments, and a nervous system that learned to protect you — even when you don't want it to
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Performance anxiety, hypervigilance to facial expressions and tone, grey-tinted glasses that find danger even when it isn't there, and quietly making your world smaller and smaller
🧰 Coping mechanisms: The "I am only acceptable when..." exercise to uncover your hidden rules, setting non-argumentative internal limits with your inner critic, building your compassionate voice alongside the critical one, and finding the people and spaces where it actually feels safe to try
🌱 Start with the lower-risk moments — one small, honest thing at a time — because being seen isn't something you leap into, it's something you practise slowly.
20. Too Tired to Transform - “New Year, New Me” Fatigue and the Myth of the Fresh Start
Episode 20
Monday, December 29, 2025 • Duration 50:55
Ever hit January feeling like you should be setting goals… but you’d rather hibernate? Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) talk about what happens when New Year, new me culture collides with exhaustion, perfectionism, and the pressure to always be improving.
We explore why so many of us begin the year already running on empty — and how to approach change gently, without the shame, guilt, or burnout spiral that comes with “failing” your resolutions.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): guilt about not setting goals, the urge to buy four planners, and wondering why everyone else seems motivated when you’re just tired.
👀 What it looks like in real life: forcing positivity, overcommitting, chasing transformation when you actually need rest.
🧠 Why our brains do it: the “fresh start” effect, perfectionism, capitalism, and the illusion of control that planning gives us.
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻The different ways it shows up: rigid goal-setting, self-shaming, comparing, and turning on yourself instead of staying with yourself.
🧰 Coping mechanisms: gentler intentions, flexible goals, curiosity, and permission to pause.
🌱 How to make peace with it: maybe you don’t need to become a new you — just stay with yourself as you already are.
Thanks for listening.
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19. Too Miserable to Be Merry – Turkey, Tinsel & Family Trauma
Season 1 · Episode 19
Monday, December 22, 2025 • Duration 59:47
Ever felt like you’re too much, too sensitive or too difficult to just enjoy Christmas? Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about why Christmas can feel unbearable when family trauma, old dynamics and unspoken roles come back online.
We talk honestly about what happens when you’ve grown, done the work, built a life that fits you… and then go home and suddenly feel small, reactive or like you’ve undone years of healing. Not because you’re failing, but because your nervous system remembers.
We unpack how family systems, emotionally immature parenting and trauma get amplified at Christmas, and why “just enjoy it” is one of the least helpful things anyone can say.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this too (and we still do):Dreading going home, feeling guilty for wanting space, bracing yourself emotionally before seeing family
👀 What it looks like in real life:Regressing around parents, slipping back into old roles, being labelled the problem, performing calm or cheerfulness to keep the peace
🧠 Why our brains do it:Family trauma, emotional flashbacks, nervous system activation, loyalty binds and growing up with emotionally immature parents
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up:People pleasing, shutting down, snapping, overthinking every interaction, feeling like a child in an adult body
🧰 Coping mechanisms:Emotional masking, over-functioning, numbing out, avoiding conflict, telling yourself you “should be fine”
🌱 How to make peace with it:Understanding that struggling at Christmas doesn’t mean you’ve failed at healing — it means you’re human in a relational system that still affects you
18. Too Philosophical to Function - Finding Meaning When Your Brain Won’t Stop Asking “Why”
Episode 18
Monday, December 15, 2025 • Duration 57:43
Ever caught yourself wondering what the point of life is — while unloading the dishwasher? Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists, overthinkers, and recovering existential spirallers) explore what it’s like to live with a brain that won’t stop zooming out to ask, what’s the point?
We talk about curiosity, meaning, mortality, free will, and the chaos of trying to do the laundry when your mind is contemplating the universe. It’s part philosophy chat, part therapy session, and part gentle reminder that maybe we don’t need all the answers to live meaningfully.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): having existential crises mid-dishwasher unload, questioning reality mid-email, and overthinking the meaning of everything (including birds).
👀 What it looks like in real life: living as an observer instead of a participant, zooming out until life feels absurd, and longing for connection in a world that seems chaotic.
🧠 Why our brains do it: curiosity, sensitivity, metacognition (thinking about thinking), and that human awareness of our own mortality.
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: philosophical spirals, nihilism, late-night dread, or searching for purpose in sunsets, science, or spirituality.
🧰 Coping mechanisms: therapy, humour, humanism, small joys, and accepting that maybe the point is to live anyway.
🌱 How to make peace with it: we might never find one big meaning — but we can still find the little ones.
Thanks for listening
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17. Too Festive to Be Fine – Navigating Sensory Overload, Social Pressure and Christmas Burnout
Season 1 · Episode 17
Monday, December 8, 2025 • Duration 46:16
Ever felt like you’re too overwhelmed, too overstimulated or too burnt out to enjoy something that’s meant to be magical?Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about sensory overload, festive pressure, and why so many sensitive or neurodivergent humans quietly fall apart during December.
We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time about supermarkets and Christmas markets, and share what it’s like to want a cosy, joyful season while also being desperate for silence, space, and absolutely no more flashing lights.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do):Hello crowds, blaring music, intense smells, frantic shoppers, and the pressure to be “festive enough”.
👀 What it looks like in real life:Christmas markets that feel like chaos, supermarket sprints, gift-giving panic, sensory hangovers, food stress, social fatigue.
🧠 Why our brains do it:Neurodivergent sensory processing, nervous system overwhelm, masking, emotional labour, pressure to perform festive joy, December burnout.
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up:Snappiness, headaches, shutdowns, avoidance, irritability, overstimulation, guilt, and the urge to hibernate until January.
🧰 Coping mechanisms:Online shopping, sensory breaks, simplifying traditions, boundaries with events, regulating routines, choosing comfort over expectations.
🌱 How to make peace with it:Honouring your nervous system is more important than performing festive cheer.
Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡
16. Too Smart to be Struggling - When Insight Isn’t Enough to Make Life Easier
Episode 16
Monday, December 1, 2025 • Duration 55:32
Ever felt like you’re too smart to be struggling? Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) unpack why intellect doesn’t protect you from emotional pain, and why being “high functioning” often means hiding distress really well.
We explore the tension between looking capable on the outside and quietly falling apart on the inside — and the shame that creeps in when your life looks fine but feels impossible.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being praised for coping, hiding exhaustion behind achievement, and feeling like a fraud for struggling.
👀 What it looks like in real life: clean houses on Instagram, messy kitchens offline, and high achievers who secretly can’t cope.
🧠 Why our brains do it: perfectionism, masking, trauma, rejection sensitivity, and social conditioning that equates success with worth.
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: overworking, comparing, self-criticism, and chasing the next “fix” of validation.
🧰 Coping mechanisms: therapy, slowing down, compassion, redefining success, and learning to accept being ordinary.
🌱 How to make peace with it: you’re not broken for struggling — you’re human.
Thanks for listening
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💬 New episodes every Monday.
15. Too Autistic to Be a Therapist? - The Empathy Myth, Pattern Recognition, and the Depth That Comes From Feeling Different
Season 1 · Episode 15
Monday, November 24, 2025 • Duration 45:28
Ever worried that being "too different" means people won't trust you to do your job? Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about being autistic therapists in a field that still believes we lack empathy.
We unpack harmful stereotypes, challenge the "blank slate" therapist ideal, and share what it's like to be the therapist who asks "what does that face mean?" — and why that might actually make us better at this job.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): The worry about outing ourselves professionally, wondering if being autistic makes us "less than," and that moment of realizing "wait, autistic people can't be therapists… but I'm a therapist?"
👀 What it looks like in real life: Not assuming what facial expressions mean, asking clients to explain their metaphors, being deeply focused on people and relationships as a special interest, and bringing blankets and fidgets to sessions
🧠 Why our brains do it: Pattern recognition, hyper-focus on human behavior, heightened sensitivity to others' emotions, vivid imagination for metaphors, and a lifetime of studying social dynamics to understand a world that felt confusing
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: The "Cassandra complex" of seeing patterns others miss, depth over small talk, asking clarifying questions instead of assuming understanding, and embodied knowledge of what it feels like to be misunderstood
🧰 Coping mechanisms: Shaping your practice around your needs (hello flexibility), modeling self-care and boundaries, using self-disclosure appropriately, and creating therapy spaces where masking isn't required
🌱 How to make peace with it: Recognizing that your difference isn't a deficit — it's often exactly what your clients have been waiting for
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14. Too Late to Find Out - The Relief, Grief, and Self-Doubt of Late Neurodivergent Discovery
Episode 14
Monday, November 17, 2025 • Duration 56:44
Ever wondered if it’s too late to finally understand yourself?Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists, friends, and neurodivergent deep thinkers) talk about the emotional rollercoaster that follows a late autism or ADHD discovery — from the ohhh, that explains everything moment to the doubt, imposter syndrome, and slow acceptance that follow.
We unpack the mix of relief, grief, and validation that can arise when you start seeing yourself through a new lens — and how to navigate the noise around “overdiagnosis,” self-realisation, and belonging in a medicalised world that often misses the nuance.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this too (and still do): The mix of relief, confusion, and grief after a late diagnosis or self-realisation.
👀 What it looks like in real life: The back-and-forth between “it makes sense” and “am I just making it up?”
🧠 Why our brains do it: Imposter syndrome, internalised stigma, and how the medical model shapes our stories.
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Self-diagnosis vs formal diagnosis, late discovery through your children, and navigating others’ scepticism.
🧰 Coping mechanisms: Self-compassion, research rabbit holes, trusted support, and permission to explore.
🌱 How to make peace with it: You haven’t wasted time — you’ve survived without a translation. Now you’re finally learning your language.
13. Too Cosy to Care - A Highly Sensitive Guide to Hygge Hibernation
Season 1 · Episode 13
Monday, November 10, 2025 • Duration 46:34
Ever felt like you're too tired to function when the clocks change? Yeah. Us too.
In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about what happens when autumn hits, the dark nights arrive, and your entire personality becomes about blankets, hot drinks, and avoiding the outside world.
We unpack why fighting the seasons makes us miserable, celebrate the art of cosy hibernation, and give ourselves permission to slow down when the world expects us to maintain summer-level productivity.
This time we talked about:
🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): The pull to hibernate, mourning summer's end, and feeling "wrong" for needing more rest when it gets dark
👀 What it looks like in real life: Putting pajamas on at 5pm, losing all motivation after sunset, craving mashed potato and casseroles, and driving to friends' houses in your dressing gown
🧠 Why our brains do it: Seasonal energy shifts, our bodies being naturally connected to light cycles, the winter solstice and returning light, and how modern life ignores natural rhythms
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Some people barely notice seasonal changes while highly sensitive and neurodivergent people feel them intensely — from mood shifts to craving different foods to needing radically different social rhythms
🧰 Coping mechanisms: Survival plans, hygge practices, hibernation kits, crafting, fairy lights, tracking sunrise/sunset times, embracing pagan solstice rituals, and adjusting work schedules for winter
🌱 How to make peace with it: Stop trying to maintain summer productivity in winter, honor your body's natural need to slow down, find joy in seasonal rituals, and give yourself permission to hibernate
Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡
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This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.
This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: This podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service near you.
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This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
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This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
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This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we're here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn't therapy, and it's not a substitute for professional support. We're here to share ideas and experiences, but if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday
This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we're here for it.
Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn't therapy, and it's not a substitute for professional support. We're here to share ideas and experiences, but if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.
