Explore every episode of the podcast Time to Lean
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
|---|---|---|---|
| am I the a-hole for divorcing over tightened lids? | 04 Sep 2024 | 01:14:20 | |
This week's episode, we cover an absolutely WILD RIDE of an Am I The Asshole where a woman runs to the internet to ask if she's the asshole for divorcing her husband over lids that are too tight. This may be a spoiler... but in this episode, we also delve into the topic of GASLIGHTING!! A link to the original post Wikihow resource on gaslighting For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how is care the highest form of capitalism? an interview with Toi Smith | 28 Aug 2024 | 00:51:44 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal are joined by Toi Smith to discuss capitalism, motherhood, and collective liberation. How are they related, and how do we see them affect our day-to-day as we provide care in our homes? Toi Marie Smith is a growth and impact strategist whose work centers on doing life, business, and motherhood differently. She works with people whose work is countercultural, liberatory, and revolutionary in nature...or people who desire and are committed to moving their work or lives in that direction. You can find Toi @toimarie on Instagram and at ToiMarie.com. Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how can we get the whole family to see the work? | 26 Jun 2024 | 00:44:50 | |
In this week's episode, we discuss how we can course-correct when balance arrives, but the perception of it is still skewed. What work is being noticed? What is being ignored? What can we do to shift the narrative, especially with kids? To use the Persist web app and get a discount, use code DANGER15 https://www.timeforpersist.com/ Referenced in the episode: Releasing the Mother Load by Erica Djossa Parenting Beyond Power by Jen Lumanlan Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is it "over-packing" or is it making sure we have a good time? | 19 Jun 2024 | 00:55:31 | |
In this week's episode, we discuss the challenges of packing! Why do we pack what we pack? What goes into the process, and why? Packing is a task that's full to the brim with care, consideration, and preparation. A well-planned, well-packed trip means everyone has a better time. Referenced in the episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| RE-RELEASE: someone on the internet said screens were BAD, is that true? with the Gamer Educator! | 12 Jun 2024 | 00:50:31 | |
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if my needs are making him want to crawl out of his skin? | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:41:42 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener question. She had a friend to visit for a few days and it ended very poorly. What is she supposed to do if she's dying for connection and the way she's getting those needs met are making him a bit miserable? Get ad-free episodes and join the conversation over on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| isn't that just called being a mom? | 29 May 2024 | 00:50:54 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal dive into executive function, anxiety spirals and the complicated space of trying to emotionally regulate as a parent with your emotionally dysregulated kids. Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is the diabolical lie that we can work or stay home? | 22 May 2024 | 00:59:47 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the speech Kansas City Chiefs kicker, Harrison Butker, gave at a Catholic university's commencement ceremony. In it, he states that women have been "diabolically lied to," and we agree, but not in the way you think. You can read the full text of Butker's speech here! Listen to Black Disability Politics here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| are "boy rooms" really all that messy? | 15 May 2024 | 00:56:32 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about "Boy Room", a show by Rachel Coster. It's an Instagram series that explores the messy and often disturbing world of boy bedrooms in New York City. Comedian Rachel Coster interviews men in their 20s and 30s about their messy living spaces. The rooms are filled with clutter, trash, and filth. The videos have gained a large following and have sparked discussions about messy habits, gender stereotypes, and the dynamics of relationships. Answer our prompt. Do you think these videos are FUNNY or SAD? You can read about Boy Room here! You can get your own copy of All About Love by bell hooks for your side table here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| the best part about being a dad is not being a mom. | 08 May 2024 | 00:53:05 | |
In this episode, we hear a clip from a podcast where a man VERY PROUDLY explains that he only changes diapers if he's in a good mood, doesn't wake up with the babies during the night and acts like a child. We talk about the importance of reciprocity and the value of care. Fill out our feedback form here! Here's the video of the podcast we play on this episode! Mentioned: Disability Intimacy, edited by Alice Wong We Do This Til We Free Us by Miriame Kaba Constellations of Care by Cindy Barukh Milstein Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer Data on parenting!More Data on Parenting! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| why is knowing everything MY job? | 01 May 2024 | 00:38:25 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the mental load of parenting and the learning that is often assumed by partners socialized as female. We also talk community building through gardening, and, of course, neurodivergence! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am i the a-hole for choosing the bride over my friend? | 17 Apr 2024 | 00:39:59 | |
In this week's episode, we look at an AITA where someone's caught in a sticky friendship/family situation chock full of emotional labor. We talk about friendship, family, communication and empathy and all of the nuance that exists in our relationships. Read the AITA here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| will an equitable chore split save us? | 21 Aug 2024 | 00:49:44 | |
In this episode, we chat about the often-overlooked value of care work and the challenges of juggling work and family life. We share our personal stories about dealing with job insecurity, finding affordable childcare, and the mental toll it all takes. We also touch on how the pandemic has affected women’s roles at home and why it’s so important to push for fair pay and better support for care workers. It’s all about recognizing the value of care work and coming together to create a more balanced and caring society. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if i sacrificed my identity to serve my family? | 10 Apr 2024 | 00:34:27 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss submissions from our audience concerning loss of identity through self-sacrificing. Can we serve others, enjoy it, without sacrificing or losing who we are?Mentioned in this episode: Financial Abuse ResourcesFresh Starts Registry Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is it a case for older men or is it a case for girl bossing? | 31 Mar 2024 | 00:52:40 | |
Crystal and Laura discuss a viral article from The Cut titled 'The Case for Marrying an Older Man'. The article argues that marrying an older man provides women with ease, flexibility, and liberation from the burdens of womanhood. Is that what's it doing?Mentioned in this episode:Rose Hackman's article, I was 14. He was 22. If it wasn't grooming, what is? bell hooks ain't I a womanHow to rent without credit! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLBowGyy/ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if he's trying, but it still isn't working? | 27 Mar 2024 | 00:43:10 | |
In this episode, we discuss a listener's email--she wants to know what to do if her partner is on board but, because of his ADHD, isn't able to follow through. We also touch on our own examples of how each of our neurodivergence shows up in our partnerships--how can we take responsibility for our actions and behaviors while also balancing disabilities and deficits? Mentioned in this episode: You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| i'm fine, so why are you mad? | 13 Mar 2024 | 00:43:30 | |
In this episode, we discuss common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk! Mentioned in this episode: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Is Love truly Blind?? | 06 Mar 2024 | 01:08:09 | |
By popular demand, Laura and Crystal review Love is Blind, season 6! Just in time for the finale, get all the hot takes on the newest season! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| but what if they're doing it the wrong way? | 28 Feb 2024 | 00:46:35 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a comment left on Instagram--what happens when a partner insists on doing something in the house the "right" way? How do you tell if it's for a bigger reason than preference? Listen to find out! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| wait, what is the internet for? | 21 Feb 2024 | 00:50:57 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video, separation anxiety, and the existential crisis that is the internet. Join us in the fray! Mentioned in this episode:
You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| shouldn't i just be grateful? | 14 Feb 2024 | 00:46:16 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a listener's question that we hear all. the. time. "if my partner is better than they used to be, shouldn't I just be grateful?" You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if your values don't align? | 07 Feb 2024 | 00:31:11 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the reality show 'Welcome to Plathville' and the recent divorce of Olivia and Ethan Plath. They explore the high-control environment and fundamentalist Christianity portrayed in the show, as well as the impact of coercive control and gender roles on their relationship. The conversation delves into the importance of autonomy and principles, highlighting Olivia's bravery in standing up for her beliefs. They also discuss the negative reactions from the media and comment section and the culture of othering and self-hatred that often arises in these situations. The episode concludes by reflecting on the need to question traditional roles and beliefs and the importance of ethical alignment in relationships. You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| why are love languages so insidious? | 31 Jan 2024 | 00:47:25 | |
In this episode, Laura interviews Crystal about the Love Languages episode (yes, we're still talking about it!) And they also discuss how "checklist advice" hurts men more than women. Mentioned in this episode: You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how do you decide who should decide? | 14 Aug 2024 | 00:50:47 | |
Join us as we dive into the rollercoaster ride of decision-making in relationships! We tackle the hot topic of who does what at home and the mental juggling act that often leaves one person feeling like a circus performer. We'll chat about why it's crucial to have teamwork and open communication and explore the difference between handling the practical and emotional sides of a partnership and the art of finding a balance that works. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Listen to A Fresh Story Podcast Join us on Patreon! Get ad free episodes, exclusive updates and resources! Register for upcoming book clubs! Links to register and for info on the books here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if love languages are bulls**t? | 17 Jan 2024 | 01:02:17 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Michael Vaughn (@world.shaker) discuss the Five Love Languages, and how it has the potential to damage your relationship! Find Michael at beacons.ai/worldshaker Mentioned in this episode:
You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what does a woman drive you to do? | 10 Jan 2024 | 00:40:59 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a WILD answer to a question on an old episode of Family Feud. Why isn't it funny? Mentioned in this episode: Emotional Labor Workshop Recording and Resource with Rose Hackman Teaching To Transgress by bell hooks You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what happens when your partner lets you down? | 03 Jan 2024 | 00:43:34 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video when a partner asked her husband to do ONE THING--and he couldn't do it right. What do you do when you ask for help and are let down? Mentioned in this episode: The Most Hated Man On The Internet Documentary (CONTENT WARNINGS ALL OVER THE PLACE HERE GUYS) You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Can a situational hostage ever really win? | 27 Dec 2023 | 00:40:39 | |
In this week's episode, we talk about the pillars of the "Man Box", discuss a viral prank and cover the topic of "situational hostages". Have you ever been put into a position where you have to suppress your own discomfort in order to keep safe? In this episode, we reference an event we hosted with Rose Hackman, author of Emotional Labor. You can access the replay on our website! You can pick up a copy of Rose's book here! Watch I Think You Should Leave on Netflix. :) You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Should you lie about who's giving you gifts? | 20 Dec 2023 | 00:27:38 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a listener question. If you've been lying about getting gifts from your spouse for years, at what point do you stop? Your kids probably know by now, right? Maybe? What would YOU do? Some things mentioned in this episode: You can find resources for talking about the holidays ahead of time here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Do You Have Oldest Daughter Syndrome? | 13 Dec 2023 | 00:47:07 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss Oldest Daughter Syndrome, enmeshment, boundaries and Mama's Boys. As a reminder, information presented in this podcast is NOT a replacement for individualized mental health treatment! Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, SmartLabels! Find them here! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Is it funny to joke about domestic violence? | 07 Dec 2023 | 00:33:18 | |
**TW: Domestic violence and sexual assault In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura talk about Matt Rife's now-famous domestic violence joke from his Netflix special and provide an example of an how a comedian can make a joke about something challenging and do it well. We also discuss the phenomenon of the missing stair! STICK AROUND UNTIL THE END TO HEAR THE MISSING STAIR! You can see Matt Rife's joke here! You can see Daniel Sloss's joke here! You can watch Daniel Sloss's comedy here! You can listen to "The Missing Stair" by Phoebe Hunt, Melody Walker and Bonnie Sims here! Check out RAINN for resources for victims of DV and sexual assault. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Introducing: Time to Lean | 06 Dec 2023 | 00:00:32 | |
Educator Laura Danger and therapist Crystal Britt tackle your household messes. We provide unsolicited advice to tiktokers and reality tv couples and answer anonymous calls and questions from listeners like you! Send in an anonymous question and we'll propose solutions. Send in your questions! Follow us on IG! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| I have anxiety and he has ADHD! Now what? | 30 Nov 2023 | 00:29:49 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a caller question about ADHD, executive function and standards. They also chat about "sad dad apartments" and share a few resources like their holiday toolkit and Crystal's Fair Play for Neurodivergent Couples Workshop!Referenced in this episode:Miserable Shrew shirtKarl Havoc from I Think You Should Leave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Do you HAVE to have sex? | 22 Nov 2023 | 00:39:42 | |
We can't wait for you to listen to this one--are you obligated to have sex with a partner, just because they're your partner? In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about the nuances of consent, pillars of safe sex, and bodily autonomy.Referenced in this episode:Red Flags of Abuse From NNEDV Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what is the back-to-school mental load? | 07 Aug 2024 | 00:44:57 | |
On this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss all things Back-to-Schoo! If you have kids or teach them or babysit them or are around them, you have felt the heavy mental load of this time of year. Join us in discussing this episode in our Patreon, meet up with us on Tuesdays to connect and ask questions-AND you can listen to our episodes AD-FREE for as low as $5 a month! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Am I a Bad Wife, Bad Mom, Bad Feminist BAD BAD BAD? | 16 Nov 2023 | 00:33:02 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about a trending video where a mother-in-law takes over when the wife is away! They also talk about the self-loathing trap when everyone and everyone encourages you to "just be grateful" for what you've got, even when you notice there might be some room for improvement. To watch the trending video referenced: Matty J's Single Mum video Mentioned in this episode: Zach Watson of @realzachthinkshare Clare Brown of @ClaraBelleToks Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| What if my life changed and theirs stayed the same? | 09 Nov 2023 | 00:38:30 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal share a clip that celebrates all of the things working mothers do and share an email from a follower. The topic: my life is different, but theirs is the same as it always has been. A link to the video from the episode! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| What's Your Tolerable Level of Permanent Unhappiness? | 02 Nov 2023 | 00:41:36 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal take a listener message and discuss what happens when a partner isn't interested in your hobby. We talk about different types of problems in relationships, as well as personal examples of these problems in our own lives. You can find the Gottman article discussed: Here! Here's Shar Henley's video! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Men Get to "Opt Out" of Childcare? | 26 Oct 2023 | 00:33:51 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss two articles that are VERY different in the way they talk about men and women and childcare (or lack there of). Don't forget to rate and subscribe wherever you listen! Resources from this Episode: National Domestic Workers Alliance Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Who Gets a Sick Day? | 25 Oct 2023 | 00:35:18 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal take a listener message and share a viral video. The topic: what's the deal with some people having access to rest and others not? Is it fair that one person can step away and the world falls apart and the same isn't true for the other? You can find the viral video discussed: Here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| What would you do if your partner kept something BIG from you? | 19 Oct 2023 | 00:31:59 | |
In this week's episode, Laura tells Crystal all about what happened in a bombshell episode of 90 Day Fiance, The Last Resort. Have you ever made a decision you've kept from a partner? What happened when they found out? Videos from this episode: Yara's video here and Jovi's video here! You can watch clips of The Last Resort here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ **We do not endorse any kind of harassment or bullying of anyone mentioned on our podcast!** --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Are you hiding out in the bathroom right now? | 11 Oct 2023 | 00:32:45 | |
Laura and Crystal talk about hiding out in the bathroom! They do a bit of over-sharing but in the name of discussing the old trope that dads are always hiding out in the bathroom. They also talk about the value of equal autonomous time and the benefits of identity outside of your roles. "While Daddy Was Pooping" book Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| What if I can't leave?--Building Community | 28 Sep 2023 | 00:31:32 | |
This week, Crystal and Laura take a question from a listener who is wondering how to keep herself afloat because her partner isn't interested in changing. Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Dealing with a father-in-law | 21 Sep 2023 | 00:23:14 | |
Laura & Crystal discuss a listener's question, where her FATHER-IN-LAW suggests her kids need her to work less...but she and her husband split work evenly. What now? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Why are we obsessed with Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner? | 13 Sep 2023 | 00:41:25 | |
Why are we obsessed with divorce? And why did dresses not have pockets until recently?! These answers and more on this week's episode with guest Olivia Dreizen, CEO of Fresh Starts Registry. Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what's going on down at Ballerina Farm? | 31 Jul 2024 | 00:44:09 | |
On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers. Mentioned on this episode: The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Does capitalism ruin everything? | 07 Sep 2023 | 00:27:17 | |
A listener writes in to ask if there's any other recourse when her partner will only take on domestic labor if his family is watching 👀 Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| When is it okay to "blast them" on the internet? | 31 Aug 2023 | 00:42:07 | |
How do we feel about wife strikes? How do we feel about shaming partners on the internet? All your burning questions answered in this episode! Resources Mentioned: Cindy Ditiberio's Post Post-Partnership Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| All Moms Work: Debunking the Scams of Motherhood with Raena Boston | 23 Aug 2023 | 00:56:59 | |
We're so excited to welcome Raena Boston to the podcast! This episode has everything--gentrification, capitalism, racism, unpaid maternity leave that leads to paid paternity leave, and the scam of having it all. Resources Mentioned: Raena Boston - The Working Momtras Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Is housework skilled work that's worth learning? | 16 Aug 2023 | 00:33:59 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a voicemail submitted by a male listener--who says he never considered that caregiving work could be a skill that could be practiced and learned. Is it worth learning? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/messageHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||