Explore every episode of the podcast Till The Wheels Fall Off
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| #262 - Are You Coping or Are You Healing? | 05 Nov 2025 | 01:10:28 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Matt and Paige take a deep dive into the difference between coping and healing. From self-care routines to emotional boundaries, they explore how coping can be both a bridge and a trap—necessary for survival but not meant to last forever. They share personal stories about burnout, triggers, and stress, discuss concepts like allostatic load and polyvagal theory, and offer real-world examples of when it’s time to stop managing chaos and start creating change. This conversation is a reminder that while coping helps us find peace, only change allows us to keep it. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| # 261 - Mindset Monday: Rehab Q&A; Thoughts on Treatment | 03 Nov 2025 | 01:04:35 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Rehab is a reset, not a miracle. In this straight talk Q&A, Matt answers the questions we hear most from spouses, partners, and people heading to treatment. What actually happens day to day, how detox works, why some centers involve family and others do not, what to expect while they are inside, what to plan for after discharge, and the red flags that predict a quick return to old patterns. You will hear Matt’s 30 day inpatient experience, the lessons that stuck, why aftercare matters more than the stay, and how families can support without micromanaging or losing themselves. Clear expectations, simple next steps, and real hope tied to action. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #252 - Paige's Perspective: When “Just Stay Positive” Stops Working | 10 Oct 2025 | 00:14:08 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the difference between toxic positivity and the power of pivoting. Then we’ll reframe it. Pivoting is about being honest and grounded — holding two truths at once: “This is hard, and I can handle it.” This one’s for anyone who’s tired of pretending they’re okay and ready to learn what real peace actually feels like. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #162 - Put the Shovel Down: Insights from Amber Hollingsworth on Addiction, Accountability, and Support | 22 Jan 2025 | 01:35:48 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we are joined by Amber Hollingsworth, the creator of the YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down and founder of Hope for Families Recovery Center. Together, we explore the misunderstood role of spouses in the recovery process, the power of influence over control, and why tough love often misses the mark. Amber shares insights on using accountability tools like SoberLink, balancing empathy with boundaries, and how to recognize genuine effort in recovery. Whether you're in the midst of addiction, supporting a loved one, or seeking clarity in chaos, this conversation is packed with honest, actionable advice. Don't miss this deep dive into what really works in recovery for individuals and families. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #161 - Paige's Perspective: Anxiety, Authenticity, and Acting on Your Values | 17 Jan 2025 | 00:11:19 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into the essential question: Are you living by your values? Drawing inspiration from a Freya India article on anxiety and values, she reflects on how self-love and self-respect aren’t given—they’re earned through action. Paige breaks down how values like honesty, health, and personal integrity serve as an inner compass, helping us make decisions and create a life we’re proud of. She emphasizes that living by values isn’t about perfection; it’s about small, intentional steps that lead to big changes. Whether it’s teaching kids the importance of values by example or questioning societal conditioning around health, Paige reminds us that we always have the power to realign. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected, this episode will inspire you to pause and ask: Am I living by my values? Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #160 - Earning Back Trust: Sheri and Matt Salis on the Pain and Power of Recovery | 15 Jan 2025 | 01:33:07 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we sit down with Sheri and Matt Salis from the Untoxicated Podcast to explore the complexities of addiction, recovery, and the profound impact these experiences have on relationships. Sheri and Matt share their journey, starting from the early years of their marriage, through the decade of Matt's active addiction, and into the challenging process of rebuilding their lives and relationship. We dive deep into topics like natural detachment, resentment processing, and how addiction reshapes not just the addict but also their partner. Sheri opens up about the anger and resentment she carried while navigating life with an addicted partner and the turning point that led her to seek her own recovery. Matt reflects on the pain of early sobriety, the humbling process of earning back trust, and the realization that love wasn’t enough—respect and healing were just as crucial. Together, they discuss the often-overlooked trauma that partners endure, the importance of individual growth, and why validation, empathy, and independent recovery are at the heart of healing. Whether you're the partner of someone in addiction or someone striving for sobriety, this conversation offers hope, insight, and actionable wisdom for anyone walking this difficult path. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #159 - Paige's Perspective: The Hard Truth: No One Can Save You But You | 10 Jan 2025 | 00:23:45 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! It’s a week into the new year, and while resolutions are fresh on our minds, some of you may already feel yourself slipping. This is the perfect time to confront a reality that can change everything: no one is coming to save you. If you’ve been waiting for someone to fix your life, make decisions for you, or pull you out of the tough situations you’re in, it’s time to stop. The truth might feel harsh, but it’s also freeing—because the power to change your life has been in your hands all along. In this episode, I’ll unpack why we often believe someone is supposed to save us, from cultural conditioning to the fear of independence. For some, this waiting game looks like hoping a partner will change—believing that if they just get it together, everything will fall into place. But that’s another way of handing over your power. When we pin our happiness on someone else’s actions, we give them control over our lives instead of taking responsibility for our own growth. I’ll also challenge the myth of rock bottom and the excuses we use to avoid responsibility, while exploring how to break free from the victim mindset and start building the skills to save yourself. Along the way, I’ll share examples, practical steps, and a message of hope: you don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to take action. Because here’s the hard truth: no one else can live your life or make your decisions for you. But that’s also the good news—you have everything you need to become your own hero. So let’s talk about how to do the damn work and reclaim your power. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #158 - Stop Digging: How to Create Your Own Rock Bottom | 08 Jan 2025 | 01:19:11 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive into the paradox of lukewarm lives and why sometimes, when things get worse, it can actually be the catalyst for positive change. We explore how challenging times teach us about relationships, resilience, and what truly makes a great partner. From navigating emotional rock bottoms to questioning what we tolerate in life, we discuss the "Region Beta Paradox" and why tolerable discomfort often leads to prolonged stagnation. With personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and a focus on challenging your comfort zone, this episode is a wake-up call to take charge of your happiness and embrace the discomfort of growth. We also touch on gratitude in relationships, the cost of inaction, and why some couples thrive through hardships while others falter. Whether you're in recovery, supporting a partner, or seeking clarity in your life, this episode offers valuable perspectives and encouragement to stop digging and start climbing toward something better. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #157 - Paige’s Perspective: Are You Asking the Right Questions? | 03 Jan 2025 | 00:13:55 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the power of the questions we ask ourselves and how they shape our lives. Are your inner questions keeping you stuck, or are they guiding you toward growth? Learn how to identify disempowering questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” and reframe them into empowering ones like, “What can I learn from this?” Through real-life examples, journaling prompts, and practical strategies, you’ll discover how to challenge negative narratives, focus on your personal growth, and reclaim control over your mindset. Sometimes, all it takes is the right question to turn a struggle into a breakthrough. Tune in and start shifting your perspective today! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #156 - Recognize How Far You’ve Come: A Two-Part Reflection on Growth; Plus Hard Truths On Communication, and Compatibility | 01 Jan 2025 | 01:24:12 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this two-part New Year’s special, we dive deep into the lessons, challenges, and victories of the past year. We reflect on our personal growth, professional milestones, and the hard truths that shaped our journey—and maybe yours too. Part one kicks off with a powerful year-end review exercise, designed to help you reflect on how far you’ve come—because, yes, you’ve accomplished more than you think. Plus, we share our own goals for 2025, lessons learned, and how we plan to keep showing up authentically in every aspect of our lives. In part two, an insightful acid test for spotting poor communication and the reality of incompatibility in relationships. Can dismissive avoidant behaviors and everything-is-an-argument mindsets be navigated? We break it down. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #155 - Paige's Perspective: Balancing Empathy and Boundaries | 27 Dec 2024 | 00:14:33 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Empathy is a beautiful quality, but when it starts to overshadow your self-respect, it can become a trap. In this episode, Paige explores the fine line between caring for someone and enabling them, unpacking why letting people face the consequences of their actions is often the most loving—and respectful—choice you can make. Through relatable examples and practical advice, she dives into how unchecked empathy can erode your boundaries, delay someone else’s growth, and leave you feeling drained. Tune in to learn how to balance compassion with accountability and maintain healthy, respectful relationships. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #154 - Paige’s Perspective: Complaining – Are You Venting or Staying Stuck? | 20 Dec 2024 | 00:11:45 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we’re getting real about complaining—why we do it, when it’s healthy, and when it becomes a trap that keeps us stuck. Complaining isn’t the enemy; sometimes, you need to let off steam and call out the frustration. But here’s the truth: if all you’re doing is talking about the problem without taking action, you’re just spinning your wheels. We’ll dive into:
Because complaining feels productive in the moment, but progress only happens when you’re ready to stop rocking in that chair and take a step forward. “It’s okay to hate where you are. Just don’t plant roots there.” Let’s talk about getting out of the complaining trap and back into action. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #153 - The Year We Made Things Right: Facing Holiday Tension Head-On | 18 Dec 2024 | 01:06:54 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The holidays can get messy when unspoken issues come to light. In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive into the complexities of accountability during the holiday season. When a spouse or partner’s actions have rippled out and hurt family or friends, how do you navigate the awkward tension? Matt shares actionable advice for those on the recovering side of addiction, urging them to take ownership and repair the damage they've caused—no matter how difficult it feels. Paige provides insight for partners who find themselves caught in the middle, carrying the burden of smoothing things over. Together, they explore what true accountability looks like, why it's essential, and how partners can protect themselves if accountability never comes. Plus, they discuss why shame can be a powerful driver for change and challenge the illusion of loyalty when enabling becomes mistaken for support. If you're facing difficult family dynamics this holiday season, this episode offers clarity, validation, and steps forward—whether together or alone. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #251 - Why “One Day at a Time” Isn’t What You Think | 08 Oct 2025 | 01:10:37 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! “What if” feeds anxiety. “Even if” builds a plan. In this episode we unpack what “one day at a time” actually looks like for both spouses and people in recovery. We break down how to use it as a call to action instead of a reason to wait it out. You’ll learn how to swap future-tripping for present-focused steps, set values-based boundaries, and stack micro wins that add up to real change. We also get honest about the ways this phrase gets misused in relationships, how accountability fits in, and what “recovering separately, together” can look like when both people are doing their part. If you’ve ever wondered when “one day at a time” helps and when it keeps you stuck, this conversation brings clarity and practical next moves. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #152 - Paige's Perspective: Optimism Theatre | 13 Dec 2024 | 00:18:23 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Paige shares thoughts on Optimism Theatre—a concept Matt explored in a recent TWFO article. While he told the story from his perspective as someone in recovery, Paige focuses on why it’s so difficult for spouses and partners to set boundaries and be assertive in these relationships. I dive into how the addict’s performance of optimism—promising change, saying the right things, and creating false hope—can keep us stuck in cycles of waiting and second-guessing. Actions speak louder than words. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #151 - Celeste Yvonne - A Conversation on Sobriety, Motherhood, Reconnecting Emotionally and Breaking Societal Norms | 11 Dec 2024 | 01:37:05 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with the brilliant Celeste Yvonne, celebrated author of It’s Not About the Wine and a powerful voice in the conversation on sobriety, motherhood, and societal expectations. Celeste shares her deeply personal journey of quitting alcohol, navigating the mental load of motherhood, and confronting the harmful messaging of “mommy wine culture.” We explore how women often turn to alcohol to cope with the crushing responsibilities of parenting, the role of societal conditioning, and the deeper truths about emotional labor in traditional partnerships. Celeste candidly discusses her unconventional path to sobriety, the challenges of rediscovering herself without alcohol, and the importance of building supportive communities like the Sober Mom Squad. This episode is both validating and thought-provoking as we challenge gender norms, discuss the necessity for systemic change, and explore actionable ways partners can better support one another. Whether you’re a parent, in recovery, or simply someone seeking more balance and authenticity in life, this conversation is a must-listen. Links and Resources:
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| #150 - Paige's Perspective: Regulating Your Nervous System | 06 Dec 2024 | 00:09:29 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we’re breaking down what it really means to regulate your nervous system—and why practices like mindfulness and deep breathing won’t cut it if you’re still stuck in toxic situations. Paige explores how your environment and relationships shape your stress response, why temporary fixes can only take you so far, and the real changes you need to make to feel safe and stable. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re still on edge no matter how many yoga classes you’ve taken, this episode is your wake-up call to start creating the kind of life your nervous system can actually relax in. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #149 - Dr. Jake Porter -The Truth About Sex Addiction, Betrayal Trauma, and How to Rebuild Trust | 04 Dec 2024 | 01:25:07 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships. Together, we explore:
Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:
Join us for this impactful conversation about recovery, relationships, and finding hope after betrayal. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #148 - Paige's Perspective: Celebrating Your Hidden Wins | 29 Nov 2024 | 00:19:21 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we shift the focus from what we haven’t done to the unseen victories we’ve achieved. Paige opens up about her year, one filled with challenges, growth, and stepping outside her comfort zone. From professional milestones to personal wins like reconnecting with old passions and finding balance in family life, Paige highlights the importance of reflecting on accomplishments big and small. This episode challenges listeners to take stock of their own year—not through the lens of setbacks, but by recognizing the resilience, boundaries, and growth hidden in life’s toughest moments. You might feel like you’ve just survived, but survival itself is an accomplishment. From setting boundaries to navigating difficult conversations, every step forward is worth celebrating. Tune in for inspiration to see your own growth and find gratitude in the grind. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #147 - Stop Fexting: How Text Fights Are Ruining Your Relationship | 27 Nov 2024 | 01:05:18 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige dive headfirst into the digital dumpster fire of text fighting—aka "fexting." They tackle why arguing via text rarely accomplishes anything productive, how it’s become the modern default for conflict, and why it’s often a sign of deeper communication issues. They explore why text fights are emotionally exhausting, miscommunication-prone, and give manipulators an easy playground. Plus, they ask the big questions: Is texting making relationships worse? Are you addicted to the back-and-forth drama? And why do we think texting someone into submission will actually work? Matt and Paige also share tips to break free from the cycle, challenge listeners to stop fexting for 24 hours, and drop some truth bombs on why face-to-face conversations build real intimacy. With humor, personal anecdotes, and a few controversial hot takes, this episode will have you rethinking your text habits—and maybe even putting down your phone. Also on the docket: Thanksgiving food debates, ambrosia salad, and why mashed potatoes don’t belong at the holiday table. Don’t miss this one—it’s time to text less and talk more. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #146 - Paige's Perspective: Is Happiness a Choice? | 22 Nov 2024 | 00:21:08 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the age-old question: Is happiness a choice? Inspired by a recent conversation with Dr. Taylor, we explore what it really means to choose happiness, especially when life feels overwhelming or relationships are challenging. Spoiler: happiness isn’t the goal—it’s about living authentically. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #145 - Dr. Christopher Taylor: Attachment Styles, Narcissism, and the Rise of Over-Labeling | 20 Nov 2024 | 01:11:49 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige are joined by Dr. Christopher Taylor to explore the impact of labeling behaviors in relationships, from attachment styles to narcissism. They discuss how these labels can either empower or trap us, depending on how they're used, and examine the role of resilience, the pitfalls of toxic positivity, and the fine line between understanding and enabling. With insights on navigating relationships thoughtfully, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a balanced approach to self-growth and mental health in today’s label-heavy culture. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #144 - Paige's Perspective: Navigating the Holidays | 15 Nov 2024 | 00:11:20 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dive into the ups and downs of the holiday season and how to handle them with strength, self-care, and realistic expectations. The holidays can be tough—shorter days, overwhelming demands, and the stress of dealing with family dynamics can easily throw us off balance. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I’ll share practical tips to help you stay grounded, from setting healthy boundaries and managing expectations to connecting with others and finding gratitude in the small things. We’ll talk about shifting from a “poor me” mindset to embracing challenges, making self-care non-negotiable, and focusing on emotional regulation rather than chasing perfect happiness. This season, let’s put ourselves first, find peace amidst the chaos, and make the best of every moment—even the messy ones. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #143 - Pain and the Past: How We Faced Opiates Together After Years of Sobriety | 13 Nov 2024 | 01:05:32 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we share our personal journey through Matt's recent surgery and the challenges of managing pain with opioids - his past drug of choice. This was scary, new territory for us and it's a slippery slope given the history of addiction. We discuss the emotional complexities surrounding the surgery recovery, how we planned in advance and discussed the decision to treat the pain with a dangerous substance, the accountability built into the situation, the importance of open communication, and how we navigated the fears and realities of pain management together. Opiates in an emergency setting are tricky in recovery, and we believe this conversation will be helpful and insightful for couples and individuals that are navigating difficult emotions around pain treatment in sobriety as well as those that have faced a relapse. This candid conversation highlights the significance of trust, accountability, and the growth that can come from facing difficult situations as a couple. We navigated this one successfully and we're both incredibly proud of how we faced it and we think you'll gain quite a bit from this one too if you find yourself having to go down this road. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #250 - Mindset Monday: Shame | 06 Oct 2025 | 01:16:12 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Shame can keep you stuck in self-judgment or help you grow, depending on what you do with it. In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about what shame really is, where it comes from, and how to move through it without collapsing or running from it. You’ll learn how to handle the first wave of emotion when it hits, reframe the thoughts that follow, and turn that discomfort into accountability instead of avoidance. Matt also shares how shame shows up in relationships during recovery and repair, how to stay grounded when a partner spirals, and how to face your own shame for staying, tolerating, or being connected to addiction. This episode is a practical guide to turning pain into progress and rebuilding self-respect one honest moment at a time. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #142 - Paige's Perspective: Why Self-Care is Essential for True Healing | 08 Nov 2024 | 00:17:13 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're diving deep into the true power of self-care—not as a luxury, but as a crucial foundation for healing and growth. Self-care isn’t about spa days or quick fixes; it's about rebuilding from within and learning to prioritize ourselves so we can face life’s challenges with clarity and strength. We’ll explore how self-care helps us understand who we are, what we need, and what we stand for. Think of it as self-maintenance, like tuning up a car or maintaining a home—it’s ongoing, it’s essential, and yes, it takes effort. But by investing in physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual self-care, we empower ourselves to set boundaries, make healthier decisions, and break out of old cycles. This episode is here to remind you: self-care is the backbone of healing, and putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Let’s get excited about building the best version of ourselves. So, Wheelies, let’s get rolling! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #141 - Everything Will Be Okay: The Hope You Need to Hear | 06 Nov 2024 | 01:01:22 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we dive into the idea of hope that doesn’t rely on perfect conditions or external circumstances—a hope that’s rooted in resilience and meaning. We share a deeply personal story about a friend who found the strength to keep going after unimaginable loss. Together, we’ll talk about the concept of “reservations” in recovery—those mental escape hatches we keep in case things get tough—and how letting go of them opens the door to real growth and peace. Listen in as we explore practical ways to find purpose in pain, make choices that honor your values, and live with a hope that isn’t dependent on anyone else. Whether you’re working on a relationship or building a life of your own, this episode will inspire you to move forward with courage and clarity, embracing life’s challenges as opportunities for growth. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #140 - Paige's Perspective - Substance or Not: Why Behavior Defines Your Relationship | 01 Nov 2024 | 00:28:50 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we explore why focusing on substance use keeps partners stuck in unhealthy dynamics and how shifting attention to behaviors leads to real growth and change. Paige breaks down the common societal trap of thinking sobriety will fix everything and highlights why manipulation, dishonesty, and emotional neglect must be addressed—whether or not the substance is involved. Through personal insights, practical exercises, and reflection prompts, Paige encourages listeners to reclaim their power by focusing on their values and setting boundaries that align with who they are. Sobriety isn’t the finish line—behavioral change, accountability, and emotional maturity are what really matter for a healthy relationship. Tune in to learn how shifting from helper to leader and detaching from outcomes empowers you to build a life based on your values, rather than waiting for someone else to change. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #139 - Abby Eckel - Equal Partnerships, Marriage, & Asking for More | 30 Oct 2024 | 01:29:28 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we sit down with Abby Eckel, a powerful content creator who highlights some of the most pressing issues women face today—unequal partnerships, the mental load of motherhood, how addiction and mental health disorders give context - not excuses - she gives her opinion on whether you can train someone to change, and discusses the complexities of navigating relationships in a patriarchal society. Together, we dive into what it means to have a truly equal partnership, why men often perceive equality as oppression, and how societal conditioning plays a role in perpetuating these dynamics. Abby shares her thoughts on weaponized incompetence, the undervaluing of women’s work, and the emotional toll placed on partners in relationships with addiction and mental health struggles. We also explore the challenges women face when trying to enact change in their relationships, how to balance compassion with accountability, and what minimum standards of care every partnership should strive for. Abby offers candid insights on where the ‘good guys’ are, whether partners can realistically change, and how to manage frustration with people who refuse to act on their issues. This is a thought-provoking conversation for anyone who has felt the weight of unequal expectations or struggled to communicate their needs in relationships. Join us for a deep dive into the realities of modern partnerships and what we can do to foster change. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #138 - Paige's Perspective - Stop Thinking, Start Growing: Lessons from Life-Changing Reads | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:29:52 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into some of the most impactful books that have shaped my journey through life’s toughest moments. Instead of focusing solely on addiction or codependency, I recommend books that emphasize personal growth, shifting perspectives, and stepping out of comfort zones. I walk you through key takeaways from works by Lundy Bancroft, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, David Goggins, and many others. These books are designed to push boundaries, encourage self-awareness, and challenge limiting beliefs. They remind us that life isn’t about avoiding struggles but growing through them. Books Covered:
We explore essential lessons, like recognizing toxic patterns, taking ownership of your life, and understanding that action is the antidote to fear. I share how these books have helped me overcome challenges, reframe my mindset, and find strength. Listen in to learn practical strategies and discover why embracing discomfort is the key to transformation. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #137 - The Questions You Should Be Asking: A Candid Q&A with Paige | 23 Oct 2024 | 01:27:40 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this special episode celebrating 250,000 downloads, I sit down with Paige for an honest, no-holds-barred Q&A. Together, we reflect on the journey through addiction, recovery, and what it took to rebuild our marriage from the ground up. Paige answers the questions people should be asking about recovery and what she has done to find success through a difficult journey —offering raw insights into the patience, struggles, and victories that come with loving someone through addiction. From moments of doubt to the habits that made us stronger, we dive deep into what it really takes to survive and thrive on the other side of addiction. Whether you're navigating recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation is packed with valuable lessons, practical advice, and a glimpse into what’s kept us going through it all. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey—you are the sole reason we are here and we cannot thank you enough for listening along. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #136 - Paige's Perspective: Anger vs. Aggression: Finding Strength Without Losing Control | 18 Oct 2024 | 00:13:17 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Paige explores the difference between anger and aggression, helping listeners understand how to express anger without letting it control them. She acknowledges that anger is a natural response to betrayal, harm, or crossed boundaries, but warns that reacting aggressively—yelling or lashing out—often shifts the focus away from the real issue and gives others an excuse to dismiss your needs. Paige discusses how aggression can leave us feeling disconnected from our authentic selves, trapping us in guilt and shame. Instead of trying to change others with anger, she emphasizes the importance of using anger constructively: setting boundaries, communicating assertively, and taking intentional action to protect yourself. Standing up for yourself isn’t about forcing others to see your point of view; it’s about honoring your own needs, values, and worth, even if others refuse to listen. She encourages listeners to pause before reacting, use “I” statements to stay in control of their emotions, and recognize that true power lies in how they respond—not in mirroring the chaos of addiction or manipulation. Paige reminds everyone that anger, when managed well, can become a powerful force for growth and change. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #135 - Sobriety Doesn't Fix Unequal Partnerships | 16 Oct 2024 | 01:28:04 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode tackles the real issue behind many struggling relationships—unequal partnership. It’s not just about addiction or bad behaviors, but the mental toll of a one-sided relationship. We explore the emotional impact of carrying the mental load—chronic stress, burnout, resentment—and highlight what true equal partnership looks like: shared responsibilities, open communication, mutual involvement in home life, and respect. We also challenge the myth that women “picked” unequal partners—society has normalized these imbalances. If you’re in an unequal partnership, it’s time to demand more. You deserve equality, respect, and a partner who shares the load. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #134 - Paige's Perspective: Anger - Own It, Don’t Let It Own You | 11 Oct 2024 | 00:20:24 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode , Paige dives deep into the power of anger—how it can be both justifiable and destructive depending on how we manage it. Paige shares personal experiences of waking up angry, snapping at her kids, and the realization that controlling her reactions is key to healthier relationships and self-growth. She explains the difference between justifiable anger—when we’re betrayed, manipulated, or taken advantage of—and unjustified anger, which often stems from unmet expectations, insecurities, or misplaced frustration. Paige also discusses how emotional healing impacts our ability to regulate anger, especially during intense periods like PMS, and offers insights on how to pause, reflect, and choose better responses when anger arises. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict or struggling with unresolved feelings, this episode highlights the importance of understanding where you're anger is coming from. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #133 - Life Isn't Black & White - Embrace the Gray | 09 Oct 2024 | 01:40:20 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we explore the concept of “Gray Area Thinking”—a mindset that embraces nuance, complexity, and multiple truths in life. While we dive into the challenges of rigid, black-and-white thinking, we also recognize that in some instances, black-and-white thinking is necessary. We discuss when having clear, binary thinking can provide structure, safety, and clarity, particularly in situations involving boundaries, moral decisions, or safety concerns. However, we also highlight how adopting gray area thinking in other areas of life can improve decision-making, reduce anxiety, and lead to personal growth. We’ll share real-life examples, discuss the balance between black-and-white and gray area thinking, and provide actionable tips for shifting your mindset to embrace life’s complexities when needed. Tune in to learn how to let go of rigid judgments, find peace in the gray, and understand when clear lines can still serve you. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #249 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Not Overreacting: Why We Minimize Instead of Catastrophize | 03 Oct 2025 | 00:12:29 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Many spouses believe they’re catastrophizing — blowing things out of proportion, imagining the worst — when in reality, they’re minimizing. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we explore how minimization shows up as a survival strategy, how addicted partners manipulate us into shrinking the truth, and how society reinforces it with messages like “at least he’s not hitting you” or “forgive and forget.” I’ll share real-life examples of what minimizing looks like, why we’re so afraid of facing reality, and how recognizing the truth — even when it’s scary — can set us free. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #132 - Paige's Perspective: Recognizing Growth | 04 Oct 2024 | 00:16:56 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Paige explores how to recognize personal growth, inspired by a community question. She shares ten key signs of growth, from handling once-overwhelming tasks like social anxiety, to responding to emotions with more patience, and developing healthier coping mechanisms. Paige reflects on her own journey, emphasizing how changes in communication, a reduced need for external validation, and even phases of cynicism can mark significant personal development. She encourages listeners to recognize that growth is a continuous process, often uncomfortable but necessary for self-improvement, and reminds them that the journey is worth it. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #131 - A Discussion on Healthy Communication | 02 Oct 2024 | 01:30:52 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we explore the fundamental differences between conflict in healthy relationships and marriages affected by addiction. Drawing on Dr. Gottman’s research, we unpack the “magic ratio” of 5:1 and how positive interactions can make love last, while also delving into the chaos and unpredictability that addiction brings into a partnership. We’ll discuss the key elements of healthy communication, how flaws differ in stable versus addictive relationships, and offer practical tips for fostering empathy, respect, and connection in any marriage. Whether you’re seeking to strengthen your relationship or understand the impact of addiction, this episode offers valuable insights. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #130 - Paige's Perspective: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities: The Power of a Challenge Mindset | 27 Sep 2024 | 00:11:52 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige explores the power of viewing obstacles as challenges instead of letting them consume us. Inspired by Matt’s journey in addiction recovery, Paige shares how adopting a challenge mindset can transform difficult situations into opportunities for growth. From finding new routes on the way to school to cooking creatively with limited ingredients, she demonstrates how embracing challenges in everyday life leads to surprising solutions. The episode delves into how this mindset applies to bigger challenges like unequal partnerships, job loss, breakups, and health setbacks. Paige encourages listeners to reframe obstacles as opportunities and find empowerment in life’s most difficult moments. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #129 - What Ifs: The Unanswered What-If Questions of Addiction and Relationships | 25 Sep 2024 | 01:31:32 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we dive deep into the tangled web of "what if" scenarios that haunt spouses and partners of addicts. From "What if they change?" to "What if I leave and somebody else gets the version of them I always wanted? to "What if I lose myself completely by staying?" we’ll explore these questions using razor principles, cognitive biases, common sense and insights from personal experience to bring clarity and understanding to the fears and doubts that keep you tethered to uncertainty. We’ll address the most common anxieties surrounding addiction, including relapse, enabling behavior, boundary-setting, and the impact on children and family dynamics. This episode is all about facing the uncomfortable truths, challenging the cognitive distortions that hold us back, and offering a grounded, compassionate perspective for anyone struggling to navigate a relationship impacted by addiction. Whether you’re wrestling with the fear of leaving, the hope of change, or the guilt of enabling, this episode will help you cut through the chaos and find a path forward. Join us as we unravel the "what ifs" and empower you to make decisions rooted in logic, love, and self-respect. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #128 - Paige's Perspective: What Does Your Rock Bottom Look Like? | 20 Sep 2024 | 00:11:41 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the concept of "rock bottom" and what it looks like for each of us. Paige brings some tough love, helping listeners recognize when they've hit their lowest point and offering practical advice on how to rise from it. She highlights the importance of clarity and commitment in these moments, challenging her audience to stop making excuses and start taking action. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #127 - Beyond Sobriety: The Hard Truths of Recovery | 18 Sep 2024 | 01:34:32 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we dive into the hard truths of what it’s really like to be with someone in recovery. Recovery isn’t a magical reset button; it's a long, painful process filled with challenges. You can’t just “start over” once someone gets sober—years of emotional immaturity, anger, and resentment come to the surface. It's not just about substance use, but about dealing with stunted growth and the unhealthy behaviors that persist or worsen even after sobriety. We'll tackle the complexities that partners face, from letting go of hypervigilance to managing the fear of relapse. We explore why setting boundaries is crucial, how building trust takes time, and the waves of resentment that often surface. You’ll hear about the difficulties of adjusting to an alcohol-free lifestyle, mourning the old life, and feeling isolated as your partner connects with a new sober community. This episode is packed with real-life questions from our community, addressing the fears, challenges, and emotional realities of being with someone in early recovery. Together, we’ll discuss what it means to truly heal and how to navigate these issues as a partner. Recovery is hard—emotionally, mentally, and relationally—but it’s possible to find a path forward, even if that means walking away to protect yourself. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #126 - Paige's Perspective: Finding Clarity in Chaos - How to Make Decisions When You’re Overwhelmed | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:23:06 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into what it means to feel overwhelmed, especially when carrying the mental and emotional load of an unequal partnership or living with a partner struggling with addiction. Paige shares her personal experience with overwhelm, offering practical tips for finding clarity in the midst of chaos. From acknowledging your emotions to taking small steps, and clarifying your values, this episode gives listeners actionable advice for regaining control. Tune in to learn how to break through the fog of overwhelm and make empowered decisions for your well-being. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #125 - Understanding Addiction: A Tool for Healing or a Trap of Inaction? | 11 Sep 2024 | 01:03:07 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode we discuss the natural tendency to want to understand what is affecting your loved one if they struggle with addiction. Often times the journey of education is enlightening and fosters empathy and understanding, but it can also be a trap which keeps people stuck in a pattern of inaction. While understanding is important, it is not sufficient to "fix" anyone and runs the risk of keeping spouses and partners stuck in a loop of seeking to understand rather than taking action. We discuss benefits and possible dangers of over-intellectualizing addiction, we discuss separating the behaviors from the substance, and how you can take action to protect yourself and your family from an abusive situation that may cause you harm. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #124 - Paige's Perspective: Recognizing the Spouse During National Recovery Month | 06 Sep 2024 | 00:14:13 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode highlights National Recovery Month, with Paige focusing on the recovery journey not only for addicts but also for their spouses and partners. She discusses the often-overlooked struggles of spouses, who experience emotional abuse, loss of their sense of self, and the need to rebuild their identity. She shares a letter from a spouse of an alcoholic, illustrating the emotional toll they endure. Paige also discusses the Independently Strong program, which guides spouses through their own recovery using the VEER method (Validate, Educate, Empower, Recover), offering an alternative to traditional programs like Al-Anon. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #123 - Making Changes: Impermanence, Acceptance, and Growth | 04 Sep 2024 | 01:02:39 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In the beginning, validation is KEY to the healing process, but at some point a decision has to be made. In this episode we discuss how to get from validation to making real changes in your life with the help of acceptance, impermanence, and the adoption of a growth mindset. So often our minds are geared toward guarantees and permanence so much so that we sacrifice the things we need for what is simply familiar. Come along with us as we discuss how we tackled growth within our marriage after addiction as well as in our personal lives and adopted a growth mindset. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #248 - Is What They Say When They’re Drunk True? | 01 Oct 2025 | 01:04:04 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! You’ve probably heard the saying, “A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts” But is that really true? In this episode, we break down drunken honesty and get real about what alcohol does (and doesn’t) change. From the science of lowered inhibitions to the deeper beliefs and resentments that surface when the filter drops, we explore why it’s not just about what was said in the moment but about the patterns that reveal who someone really is. Most importantly, we shift the focus away from dissecting intent and toward the impact these words and behaviors have on you. Whether they meant it or not, the harm is real and you don’t have to play detective to figure it out. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #122 - Paige's Perspective: Exploring Optimism, Pessimism, and Realism | 30 Aug 2024 | 00:11:51 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode focuses on understanding the roles that optimism, realism, and pessimism play in handling life situations. Paige emphasizes that each perspective has its place and that balancing them is crucial for making informed and healthy decisions. She shares personal experiences, including being overly optimistic in the past and learning the importance of realism and even pessimism in certain situations. Paige encourages listeners to reflect on their own tendencies and to integrate aspects of all three perspectives to effectively navigate challenges. The episode underlines the importance of facing reality, acknowledging both positive and negative aspects of life, and using this balanced approach to empower oneself and make better decisions. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #121 - "Weaponizing" Support - When Does Asking for Support Become Manipulative? | 28 Aug 2024 | 01:03:33 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Many people have experienced a situation where they are asked by someone struggling with addiction for "support." They will tug at heartstrings, elicit sympathy, ask for loyalty, and beg for support- but what are you supporting? If someone is asking for your support, but they are not making a recovery effort, is that really support? In this episode we talk about our own experience where asking for support was little more than leading someone on and asking for dismissal rather than asking for support for a genuine recovery effort. We dissect the various meanings of the phrase "I need your support" in our own past in hopes to validate many that are experiencing similar circumstances. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||
| #120 - Paige's Perspective: People Pleasing | 23 Aug 2024 | 00:13:33 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode from Paige's Perspective discusses the human tendency to care about what others think and the roots of people-pleasing behaviors. Paige reflects on how historically, humans lived in small, interconnected communities where fitting in was essential for survival. This instinct to please others was ingrained as a means to avoid ostracization. However, in the modern world, with access to diverse perspectives and communities, the need to conform to one’s immediate environment is less critical. Paige encourages embracing authenticity and going against the grain, even when it feels uncomfortable or when it goes against societal norms. She emphasizes the importance of finding a community that aligns with one’s true self, rather than trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t resonate personally. Paige also touches on how this mentality can be applied in daily life, such as making healthier lifestyle choices despite societal pressures and raising children to be authentic and independent thinkers. Ultimately, she advocates for letting go of the need to please others and living a life true to one’s values, even if it means standing out or facing criticism. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! Online Program: Soberlink Device: | |||