Welcome to Three Percent. This is your space if you’re on a journey of pursuing holistic masculinity, growing your emotional awareness, and cultivating deeper relationships and an authentic faith.
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We aren’t here to give you gimmicks or superficial “hacks.” We’re not telling you who to be, we're helping you uncover what gets in the way of being the man you want to be and offering you the authentic tools needed for tangible growth.
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In this soul-shaking episode, we sit down with therapist, trauma practitioner, and spiritual leader Rachel Clinton Chen to explore the sacred, painful, and courageous work of healing. Rachel guides us into the realities of trauma, powerlessness, spiritual abuse, and what it takes to become whole. We talk about the cost of integrity, the betrayal of our bodies, and the profound invitation to let lament and grief become doorways to hope. With honesty, wisdom, and fierce gentleness, Rachel names what so many are afraid to say aloud—and calls us to be people of truth and love in the face of harm.
Takeaways
Trauma is not just what happens to you—it’s what you carry when you’re alone in it.
Integrity has a cost, especially in spiritually abusive systems.
Grief is not the end of the story—it’s the beginning of embodied hope.
Healing often begins with naming what is true, even when it’s disruptive.
Your body keeps the score, but it can also be the site of redemption.
We need language, witness, and safety to metabolize harm.
When we stop trying to hold everything together, we begin to heal.
(12:00) The Cost of Integrity in Religious Systems
(15:30) The Body Knows What the Mind Tries to Hide
(19:00) Naming the Truth and Being Witnessed
(22:30) What Is Lament and Why Does It Matter?
(26:00) Becoming People Who Can Grieve and Hold Hope
(29:00) From Dissociation to Embodiment
(34:00) Holding Complexity in a Black-and-White World
(38:00) Rachel’s Own Healing and Leadership Journey
(41:00) Why She Still Believes in the Church
(46:00) A Word for the Tender and Tired Listener
(49:00) Where to Find Rachel and Her Work
Keywords
Rachel Clinton Chen, Three Percent, trauma healing, spiritual abuse, integrity, grief, lament, The Allender Center, Dan Allender, embodiment, Christian trauma, spiritual formation, emotional health, mental health, religious harm, narrative healing, counseling, black-and-white thinking, abuse recovery, faith and pain, hope, integrity, safety, truth-telling, nervous system, therapeutic practices, power and vulnerability, shame and resilience, holistic masculinity, tenderness, church healing
What's the Point in Changing?
Monday, August 11, 2025 • Duration 41:19
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In this deeply personal episode, Jamie and Blake step away from interviews to reflect on one of the most important and tender questions they ask as therapists and friends: What’s the point in changing? Recorded during a 3% planning retreat, they share the raw stories of their own healing journeys—from addiction, numbness, and rage to freedom, connection, and hope. Whether you’re seeking freedom from a behavior or freedom for deeper relationships, this episode offers both encouragement and honesty for anyone in process.
In this episode, Brian Lee discusses the often-overlooked topic of spiritual abuse and its profound impact on individuals' lives. He shares his journey from being a pastor to creating the nonprofit Broken to Beloved, which aims to support survivors of spiritual abuse. The conversation delves into the definition of holistic masculinity, the importance of safety and trust in relationships, and the healing process that involves recognizing one's story and integrating all parts of oneself. Brian emphasizes the need for community support and grace in the journey of recovery, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of faith and belonging.
Takeaways
Holistic masculinity means integrating all parts of oneself.
Spiritual abuse uses God's words to dehumanize individuals.
Healing requires recognizing and naming trauma.
Safety in relationships is foundational for trust.
The journey of healing is often long and complex.
Community support is vital for recovery from spiritual abuse.
Understanding one's story is crucial for healing.
Grace and compassion towards oneself are essential.
The hierarchy of belovedness includes safety, connection, trust, vulnerability, and intimacy.
Healing from spiritual abuse can lead to a deeper understanding of faith.
Our Most Vulnerable Episode with Dr. Andrew Bauman
Season 1 · Episode 13
Monday, June 2, 2025 • Duration 53:15
In this episode, we engage in a deep conversation with Dr. Andrew Bauman about holistic masculinity, vulnerability, and the importance of self-compassion. We explore the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, the significance of engaging with one's inner child, and the role of embodiment in therapy. The discussion also touches on the challenges of fatherhood, navigating shame, and the necessity of truth in relationships. The episode concludes with insights into workshops and resources available for men seeking healing and integration.
Takeaways
Holistic masculinity involves embracing vulnerability and healing.
Self-compassion is essential in overcoming shame and self-contempt.
Childhood experiences significantly shape adult behavior and relationships.
Embodiment practices can enhance therapeutic experiences.
Navigating fatherhood requires awareness of one's own wounds.
Truth-telling is a powerful tool for liberation and healing.
Workshops can provide valuable resources for men seeking support.
The journey of healing is ongoing and requires commitment.
Creating safe spaces for men to express emotions is vital.
In this episode, Zachariah Thompson, founder of Scatter Joy, shares his journey of creating a mental health nonprofit aimed at making mental health resources accessible and affordable. The conversation delves into personal struggles with mental health, the impact of grief, and the importance of empathy in fostering emotional health. The hosts discuss the mission of Scatter Joy, the significance of community support, and how individuals can get involved to help others while also taking care of their own mental health.
Takeaways
Scatter Joy aims to make mental health resources accessible.
Mental health is a continuous journey, not a one-time fix.
Grief plays a significant role in mental health struggles.
Empathy is essential for personal and communal healing.
The repair of relationships is more important than the rupture.
Creating a supportive community is vital for mental health.
Men often struggle with expressing emotions and vulnerability.
Storytelling can enhance empathy and understanding.
Joy can be a form of resistance against mental health stigma.
Engaging with meaningful stories can improve empathy.
07:04 Understanding Mental Health as a Lifelong Journey
09:49 The Role of Fear and Emotional Awareness
The Codes We Live By with Propaganda
Season 1 · Episode 11
Monday, May 12, 2025 • Duration 57:34
In this engaging conversation, Propaganda, a multifaceted artist, discusses his journey through music, coffee culture, and the complexities of masculinity and spirituality. He reflects on his influences in hip-hop, the challenges of entrepreneurship, and the importance of teaching and community. The dialogue explores how personal experiences shape artistic expression and the significance of accessing prior knowledge in learning and growth. In this conversation, we delve into the complexities of masculinity, the challenges of navigating the Christian music industry, and the importance of engaging with one's pain to foster personal growth. We explore the impact of societal expectations on male identity, the significance of storytelling in understanding oneself, and the need for emotional expression. The discussion highlights the journey of self-discovery and the role of music as a medium for exploring these themes.
Takeaways
Propaganda discusses the evolution of hip-hop and its social consciousness.
Teaching is a core aspect of his identity and artistry.
He believes in accessing prior knowledge to enhance learning.
The conversation touches on the complexities of masculinity in today's world.
Propaganda's new music explores themes of masculinity and spirituality.
Understanding what masculinity is not can clarify what it is.
Engaging with pain is essential for personal growth.
Emotional expression is often limited by societal norms.
In this conversation, we talk to filmmaker Eric Floberg and explore the challenges of balancing parenthood and work, the importance of authenticity in creative endeavors, and the role of vulnerability in storytelling. Eric shares his journey as a filmmaker and runner, emphasizing the need for intentionality in both personal and professional life. We discuss how running serves as a metaphor for life, highlighting the mental benefits and discipline it brings. The conversation also touches on the impact of community in running and the evolution of Eric's creative career, ultimately questioning the purpose and intent behind creative work. In this conversation, we explore the intricate balance between personal relationships and the discipline required in both running and life. We discuss the importance of prioritizing relationships, the compounding effects of consistent effort, and the necessity of embracing the process rather than focusing solely on outcomes. The dialogue also touches on the significance of community, collaboration, and emotional intelligence in navigating life's challenges, particularly in the context of masculinity and personal growth.
Takeaways
Parenthood often requires a delicate balance with work.
Creativity thrives on authenticity and vulnerability.
Vulnerability can lead to deeper connections in creative work.
Finding purpose in creative endeavors is essential for fulfillment.
Fatherhood can significantly influence personal growth and perspective.
Running serves as a powerful metaphor for life's challenges.
The process of creating is often more important than the outcome.
Building a supportive community enhances creative work.
Navigating relationships in a creative environment can be complex.
Emotional awareness is crucial in collaborative settings.
In this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie Haigh and Blake Roberts engage in a deep conversation with David Thomas, co-executive director of Daystar Counseling and co-author of 11 books, including ‘Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son can Build on for Life,’ and the best-selling ‘Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys.’ The discussion revolves around the importance of vulnerability and honesty in parenting, the challenges parents face in today's world, and the significance of modeling emotional regulation for children. David shares insights from his new children's book, which aims to teach resilience and emotional understanding through the story of a therapy dog. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to reflect on their own stories and the impact of their parenting on future generations.
Takeaways
Vulnerability and honesty are crucial in parenting.
Parents should trust their instincts amidst overwhelming information.
Modeling emotional regulation is essential for children.
Apologizing to children can strengthen relationships.
Children's books can convey complex emotional themes simply.
Therapy dogs can play a significant role in emotional healing.
Building resilience in children starts with acknowledging fear.
Parenting is about cleaning up our side of the street.
Understanding one's own story is vital for effective parenting.
In this conversation, we explore the intersection of therapy, masculinity, and personal growth with Sam Eldredge. Sam shares insights from his background, discussing how his upbringing influenced his approach to emotional intelligence and healing. The discussion delves into the concept of Noble Workshops, a unique experiential therapy program designed to help individuals engage with their personal stories and foster deeper connections with themselves and others. Throughout the conversation, the importance of storytelling, vulnerability, and beauty in the healing process is emphasized, inviting listeners to reflect on their own journeys. We delve into the themes of nostalgia, healing, and the importance of curiosity in understanding our emotions. We also explore how past experiences shape our present feelings and the significance of connecting with our inner child. The discussion emphasizes the need for kindness, courage, and curiosity in the healing process, as well as the role of vulnerability in forming genuine connections. We also want listeners to check out Noble Workshops as a resource for those seeking deeper emotional work and community support.
Takeaways
The importance of pursuing holistic masculinity in today's world.
Noble Workshops provide a space for deep emotional healing.
Curiosity is essential in understanding our own stories.
Vulnerability allows for genuine connections with others.
Engaging with our inner child can lead to profound insights.
Progress in personal growth is often incremental, not all or nothing.
Storytelling can help us connect with our own experiences.
Compassion towards ourselves is crucial in the healing process.
The environment and community play a significant role in personal growth.
Being present and attentive to beauty can be healing.
In this conversation, we speak with Chuck DeGroat and explore themes of self-awareness, trauma, and the compassionate nature of God. We discuss the importance of understanding one's own experiences and how they shape perceptions of God and self. The dialogue emphasizes the need for deeper self-regulation rather than just self-awareness, highlighting the complexities of navigating personal trauma and the journey towards healing.
Takeaways
The Genesis story can be reframed to highlight God's curiosity and compassion.
Questions like 'Where are you?' can foster deeper self-reflection.
Understanding early experiences is crucial in shaping our view of God.
Dysregulation can manifest in both harmful and seemingly positive behaviors.
Self-awareness is only the first step; self-regulation is essential for healing.
Therapy can help individuals navigate their unique trauma stories.
Compassionate questions can lead to profound insights about oneself.
The journey to healing requires slowing down and being intentional.
Not all therapeutic practices work for everyone; personalization is key.
The shift from hyperarousal to self-regulation can be disruptive but necessary.
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