So there are two things about my message that can get you in a little bit of an ackward place. First, I tell you all live your life outloud. Then I also say….. Dig Deep and find out your WHY! Why do you do what you do?, Why do you want to change? What do you value most? Figure out your own core values and stick to them.
So here’s the thing… I’m struggling with something right now that’s caused me to want to not live outloud, it’s caused me to want to run and hide from the world and truth be told has caused me to find my way to the bottom of many fast food drive thru bags. So when you think… I haven’t heard much from Keatha lately, It’s true I’m somewhat on sabbatical.
I took my own advice and dug deeper to figure out WHY I was responding to certain situations the way that I was and why I was feeling so lost. What I found was that there was unresolved trauma from my past that triggered me in ways that maybe other l people wouldn’t respond to in the same way.
But more importantly, I found myself living incongruently to my own core values. one thing I have learned in my personal journey is that any time you are going against your own core values, chaos emerges. This is exactly what was happening, there were just things that go so deeply against my core values that my spirit and soul just reacted so badly. But understanding the WHY behind it allowed me to love myself and give myself some grace. The famous words of Jane Pilgner that have brought me so clarity is a statement she taught me in a class many years ago and if you are a client of mine and you’ve experienced an overeat, I often referred you back to this statement…. Well of course LOVE you feel _ insert emotion______________ because of __situation______.
A lot of times that first feeling in the blank causes us to eat. Sad, lonely, disappointed, neglected, left off, alone, miserable, out of control… the list goes on and on. Just google emotion wheel and you'll get a ton of free ones, even YouTube videos on how to create your own.
Of course, you are thinking, well just stay away from those situations. That's exactly what I did, For YEARS I avoided this type of situation. Unfortunately, recently I’ve been faced with the situation repeatedly. I found myself feeling traumatized and almost wounded and felt like I couldn’t control my own environment to protect myself from this reoccurring feeling.