Explore every episode of the podcast The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast
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| 414. Ladies Turn... The Things That She Wants In The Bedroom | 04 Nov 2025 | 00:30:09 | |
In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Amy and Nick turn the tables to talk about what wives really want in the bedroom, and it’s probably not just what you think. Drawing from listener feedback, polls, and real conversations, we uncover the deeper desires that make intimacy meaningful for women. Join us for an open, encouraging, and funny discussion that might just change the way you think about connection in your marriage. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 413. The "Other" Things That Husbands Want In The Bedroom That Might Surprise You | 31 Oct 2025 | 00:37:00 | |
In this candid episode, Amy and Nick share 5 things about each other that you probably didn't know about them, before diving into the “other” things that husbands secretly crave in the bedroom .. and no, it’s not what you might think! Based on polls, real listener feedback, and honest conversations, we’re unpacking the other desires that often go unspoken. From deeper connection and affirmation to playfulness, curiosity, and feeling pursued, this episode goes beyond the physical to explore what truly makes intimacy fulfilling for men. Tune in as we share insights, laughs, and a few surprises along the way. We think most husbands will be nodding along.. and we’d love to hear if you agree! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 404. Breaking Free From The “Score Keeping” Syndrome In Your Marriage | 30 Sep 2025 | 00:29:06 | |
In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into one of the most common struggles couples face: keeping score in marriage. So many couples reach out to us feeling overwhelmed and frustrated because things don’t feel “50/50. in their marriage. One spouse feels like they’re doing more, and resentment begins to creep in. The harder they try to keep score, and keep things equal, the more discouraged and disconnected they become. When you keep score, you are competing agains each other and no one wins. We’ll talk about why keeping score is so damaging to intimacy, how it slowly erodes trust and love, and why the more you strive for perfect equality the more disconnected and resentful you will become. We'll share healthier ways to approach balance, teamwork, and appreciation in marriage. If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving more than your spouse or wondered how to stop the cycle of frustration, this episode is for you. Join us as we uncover how to move away from scorekeeping and toward a marriage filled with gratitude, unity, and joy. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 314. Which Is More Important, A "Need" Or A "Want" In Marriage? And How Do Couples Find Balance When Their "Needs" And "Want's" Are So Completely Different? | 15 Nov 2024 | 00:38:41 | |
In the past few episodes, we have talked about what men need and what women need in marriage, and we also discussed how men and women are so different when it comes to sex. When you can understand how men and women are so different and what each spouses needs are, then you can implement things to help your relationship. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 313. Things You Should Do As A Couple At Least Once A Year That Will Really Make A Difference | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:31:23 | |
It is amazing how many of us don't do the things that could drastically improve our relationships, that are pretty easy to do. Whether we get lazy, fall into bad habits or whatever it may be, we stop doing the simple things that would make our marriages so much better. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 312. Understanding Why Sexual Intimacy To Your Wife Is Not A "Need" ... And For Many Wives, Not Even A "Want" In Your Marriage | 08 Nov 2024 | 00:36:04 | |
Sexual intimacy for most women is not a need but a want, and let's be honest, for many women, it's not even a want. Their bodies are typically wired completely differently than a man's body. They react to sexual intimacy completely differently than most men do. For most women, they are only going to want sex or be willing to have sex if their emotional needs are being met and when they feel trust and respect in the marriage. Join us for this great episode where Nick and Amy (mostly Amy) will share valuable insight as to why most women don't need sexual intimacy like their husbands do, but what good husbands can do to get their wives to want sexual intimacy more often. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 311. Understanding Why Sexual Intimacy To Your Husband Is Absolutely A "Need" And Not Just A "Want" In Your Marriage | 05 Nov 2024 | 00:55:44 | |
It drives us crazy when we hear wive's say "my husband just wants sex!" and they treat it as if it is something strictly physical for him. Nothing could be further from the truth. If sex for a husband (man) was just a physical want, and not a need, he would just "take care of himself" and never bother his wife for sex ever again, and would he be content and happy in the marriage. But no man is happy with that! They want to feel connected, desired, safe and loved in the relationship. Sex is the way they feel and express love. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 310. Keeping It Simple - What Men "Need" And What Women "Need" In Marriage! | 01 Nov 2024 | 00:46:23 | |
As you know, we cover just about EVERYTHING a married couple deals with in marriage in our podcast episodes. There are a lot of things to remember, and sometimes it can get very overwhelming. In this episode, we decided to keep it simple and share, based on all the feedback we receive from husbands and wives, what men need and what women need in marriage to be happy. We recognize that this isn’t universal and that different marriages need different things. But for most men and most women, these are the things our audience has expressed they need to be happy. This episode sponsored by vitalhealthproductsusa.com Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 309. Incorporating The 5 Senses Into Your Love Making For AMAZING Foreplay And Intimacy | 29 Oct 2024 | 00:21:26 | |
Think about how powerful our five senses are. What we see, feel, hear, smell, and taste makes life so gratifying and amazing! Take away any one of those, and life becomes a completely different experience. So how many of us shut down our senses when it comes to foreplay and lovemaking? Many of us turn the lights off, removing our sense of sight. We try to be quiet instead of verbally expressing how much we’re enjoying each other through words and sounds, limiting our hearing. Some of us don't touch each other enough, kiss enough, or incorporate smell or taste into our lovemaking. Instead of using our senses to enhance and make our sexual intimacy more enjoyable, we often turn them off, leading to less sexual fulfillment. In this episode, we discuss the importance of incorporating the five senses into your foreplay and lovemaking, and introduce our new SENSES foreplay card deck and intimacy box so you can make your intimate life even more fulfilling! This episode sponsored by vitalhealthproductsusa.com Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 308. Is It Healthy To Have Disagreements In Your Marriage? What The Experts Say | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:39:47 | |
We had someone message us stating that we sounded like we were fighting in one of our previous podcast episodes, and they asked if we were okay in our marriage :) Amy and I laughed when we got the message and decided that we needed to do this episode on why it is healthy to have disagreements or to see things differently in marriage, and the difference between fighting and having disagreements. Because... it is totally normal AND healthy to have disagreements. So, in this episode, we discuss why you will have a much better marriage if you do have disagreements, because many good things happen when you have disagreements and discuss them together. Let us know what you think at amy@ultimateintimacy.com. This episode is sponsored by vitalhealthproductsusa.com. If you feel like something is off with your energy or health, check out all the great vitamins and dietary supplements to help improve your overall health and well-being. This episode sponsored by vitalhealthproductsusa.com Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 307. Really Fun Ways To Initiate Sexual Intimacy With Your Spouse According To A Husband... What Does My Wife Think? | 22 Oct 2024 | 00:46:17 | |
In this episode, we dive into playful and creative ways to initiate sexual intimacy with your spouse! Whether you're looking for fun ways to break the routine, build anticipation, or make the moment fun or special, we've got you covered. From lighthearted flirting to exciting surprises, we share practical ideas that will help you reconnect emotionally and sexually. Join us in this episode as Nick shares the fun things he has done (or attempted to do) as well as other ideas and gets Amy's reaction to them :) These fun ways to initiate are for both spouses to try! This episode sponsored by vitalhealthproductsusa.com Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 306. Why Good Emotional Intimacy Keeps You From Having Bad Sexual Intimacy | 18 Oct 2024 | 00:39:55 | |
We spend a lot of time talking about how, when a couple has a good emotional connection, they are much more likely to have a good sexual connection! Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy really do go hand in hand. Unfortunately, what often happens is that when a couple's emotional connection starts going downhill, the sexual connection almost always follows, and vice versa. We hear from so many people in our audience sharing that their sex life is a wreck or that their spouse never wants to connect sexually. In this episode, we discuss why, for most spouses, when you have great emotional intimacy, it typically prevents bad sexual intimacy. If you are in a marriage where your emotional and sexual intimacy are suffering, this podcast episode is for you. This episode sponsored by vitalhealthproductsusa.com Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 305. You're Panicking About Everything In Life You Can't Control, When You Should Be Panicking About The Things You Can Control... Like Your Marriage | 15 Oct 2024 | 00:32:31 | |
There are so many crazy things going on in the world. We are facing wars, an invasion of our country, inflation, potential port strikes, division like we have never seen before, natural disasters, and so much more! These are things that we spend so much time worrying about, but have very little control over. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 403. Are Your Eyes Wandering? Lusting In Marriage | 26 Sep 2025 | 00:25:24 | |
Mathew 6:28 "But I say unto you, That Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in is heart." We have got a ton of people contacting us about this subject so we decided we needed to share our thoughts on this with you. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into the tough but important topic of lusting after someone other than your spouse. We open up about why wandering eyes can quietly erode trust, intimacy, and connection with your spouse, and the dangerous paths it often leads to if left unchecked. Most importantly, we share practical ways to protect your relationship, and refocus your desires where they belong, which is back on your marriage and your spouse. We should only have our eyes on one person, and that is our spouse. If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with this temptation of lust for someone other than your spouse, and outside of your marriage, this episode is for you. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 304. The Signs You Are In A "One Sided" Marriage... And What You Can Do About It | 11 Oct 2024 | 00:38:14 | |
Ever felt like you're doing all the heavy lifting in your marriage? You're not alone. This episode discusses the signs you are in a "one sided" marriage, and what you can do about it. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 303. PART 2 - The Ways Men And Women Are Wired So Differently When It Comes To Sex, And Why It Is Important For Both Spouses To Know The Differences! | 08 Oct 2024 | 00:29:39 | |
This is part 2 of the ways men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex. In this episode we continue our discussion and offer insight as to why men and women are so different and why instead of looking at it in a negative way, you should look at the differences in a way that can bring you closer together. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 302. The Ways Men And Women Are Wired So Differently When It Comes To Sex, And Why It Is Important For Both Spouses To Know The Differences! | 04 Oct 2024 | 00:36:00 | |
When you look at how men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex, it is easy to understand why it is a source of contention in so many marriages. Couples don't understand, nor do they talk about the ways they are wired differently. If couples better understood how each spouse is wired when it comes to sex, and talked about it together, marriages would be so much different... and better for so many couples. Instead of a spouse just saying, "they just want sex," they would understand why their husband has the strong sexual desire that he does, or why their wife needs the things she does prior to wanting to be intimate. In this podcast episode, we discuss how men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex. This episode comes from the article that marriage and sex expert Laura Brotherson put together. If you want to better understand how men and women are typically wired differently when it comes to sex, and you are wanting to improve your sex life, then this episode is one you will want to listen to. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 301. 20 Things To Talk To Your Spouse About On Date Nights! | 01 Oct 2024 | 00:33:03 | |
When we go on date night, it is astonishing to look around and see how many people are on their phones instead of talking to their spouse. Is it because they don't want to talk to their spouse? Or is it because they don't know what to talk about with their spouse? We don't know the answer, but we hope it is the latter. In this episode, we give you 20 things you should be talking to your spouse about on date nights. These topics will not only make for great conversations that are fun but also help your marriage in many ways, including emotional and sexual intimacy. When you are better connected emotionally, you will most likely be more connected sexually. So join us for this great podcast episode. You just might find out how great it is to have deep, meaningful conversations that bring you closer together as a couple. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 300. Drawing the Line: How To Establish Healthy Boundaries With Extended Family And Friends | 27 Sep 2024 | 00:31:27 | |
Establishing boundaries with extended families and friends is vital to a happy marriage. Most couples state that extended family and friends cause issues in their marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 299. Why The Word "Help" Is So Triggering For So Many Couples | 24 Sep 2024 | 00:29:20 | |
It is amazing how certain words can be so triggering for some spouses and the word "help" is one of these words that can have good intentions, but can also be very triggering. For example, when one spouse says, "How can I help?" it may unintentionally create a hierarchy where one spouse is the "manager" and the other the "assistant." If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 298. Why You Need To "Pursue" Your Spouse Both Sexually And Emotionally. And What Does That Look Like? | 20 Sep 2024 | 00:35:22 | |
What does it mean to "pursue" your spouse emotionally and sexually? There are so many things in life that we pursue. We pursue better jobs, pursue our hobbies and interests, pursue better things in life. What happens if we stopped just stopped pursuing those things? How would our lives change? If we stopped pursing things we would probably loose excitement, ambition or even purpose in our lives. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 297. When One Spouse Wants To Try New Things In The Bedroom, But The Other Spouse Doesn't | 17 Sep 2024 | 00:37:12 | |
It is amazing how many people reach out to us, saying things like, "I want to do _________ in the bedroom, but my spouse isn't open to it or doesn't want to try new things. What can I do?" It is important to recognize that we all come from different backgrounds and have different experiences growing up (or even as adults) that shape our thoughts, beliefs, and comfort levels when it comes to sexual intimacy. This means it's fairly common for couples to have different comfort levels regarding things in the bedroom, where one spouse might want to do or try things the other spouse does not feel comfortable with. In this episode, we talk about the things couples can do to approach this very sensitive topic and find a balance that works for both spouses. We also discuss why being open to new experiences in the bedroom can be a good thing. There is however a right and wrong away to approach this with your spouse. If this is something you've experienced in your relationship, then this episode is for you. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 296. How Toxic Masculinity And Feminism Could Be Dividing Your Marriage | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:59:08 | |
In today’s fast-paced world, many couples face the challenge of balancing career demands and family life, often leading to a shift in traditional gender roles. As a wife who has experienced this firsthand, I’ve come to realize that toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are not just abstract concepts but real issues impacting our marriages. When I started working full time and juggling the responsibilities of raising kids, I felt a shift in my role and identity. I found myself adopting more traditionally masculine traits—assertiveness, independence, and a focus on achieving career goals. While these traits helped me excel in my professional life, they began to clash with my role at home and, ultimately, with my marriage. Toxic masculinity often manifests as the belief that men must be dominant, unemotional, or the sole provider, which can put immense pressure on both spouses. On the other hand, toxic femininity can involve the expectation that women should be nurturing, submissive, and solely responsible for home life. When both spouses feel pressured to conform to these outdated roles, it creates tension and dissatisfaction. For many women working full time, like myself, the struggle is real. We’re balancing careers with home responsibilities, and this shift can make us feel like we need to adopt a more masculine approach at home, which may not always align with our spouse’s expectations. It’s easy to slip into a cycle where work pressures and domestic responsibilities lead to frustration and conflict. So, how can we find a healthy balance in our marriages amidst these challenges?
This is an episode you won't want to miss! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 295. "Get In The Fight" To Become A Better Husband With Nate Whitson | 10 Sep 2024 | 00:37:27 | |
In this podcast episode, we talk with Nate Whitson, the founder and owner of Get In The Fight, an organization that helps men become better husbands and fathers, and also overcome addictions and struggles. Nate shares his journey and experience, and what inspired him to build this company focused on helping men realize their true purpose and become better in every way. Whether you are a husband or wife, this is an episode you don't want to miss. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 402. What Does Emotional Safety Look Like In Marriage.. And What Are The Things That Destroy It? | 23 Sep 2025 | 00:49:45 | |
Emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy and trust in marriage. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into what it really means to feel safe with your spouse, and being able to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rejection. We’ll explore the signs of emotional safety, the common behaviors that destroy it, and practical ways to create a safe space where both spouses feel understood, respected, and supported. From breaking patterns like criticism, stonewalling, or dishonesty, to building habits of empathy, validation, and open communication, this conversation will help you strengthen the bond in your marriage and deepen your connection. If you want more trust, better conflict resolution, and deeper intimacy with your spouse, this episode is for you. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 294. Can Treating Sex Like A Hobby Vastly Improve Your Sex Life? Nick Thinks So.. But Does Amy? | 06 Sep 2024 | 00:43:56 | |
You hear us talk about sex ALL the time on the podcast and the things couples can do to have an amazing sex life. So many couples look at sex completely differently and have a hard time understanding the things they can do to have a better sex life. Nick recently heard a lady give a 6-minute talk on YouTube about how treating sex like a hobby can completely change your sex life with your spouse. So naturally, he sent it to Amy to get her thoughts, and her reaction wasn't what he expected... So we decided we needed to do a podcast on this and see what you think! We thought this video presented it in a very clear and precise way with examples and reasons why it works so well, and so we wanted to share what she said with you through this podcast episode. We will also put a link to the video below. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-3CANRKuAM&t=331s Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 293. The 4 H's To A Passionate Intimate Life | 03 Sep 2024 | 00:27:40 | |
We do podcasts on all sorts of subjects and issues that most couples face... and there are a ton of them. For many of us, it may seem overwhelming thinking of all the things we as couples need to do to have a great marriage! We hear a lot of couples say they feel like it is just too much and they don't think they can do everything, or ever get to having the marriage they want. While all good marriages do take work, there are a few foundational and fundamental things that are proven to help couples have a great marriage! So in this episode, we outline the 4 H's couples need to do to achieve a great marriage both in and out of the bedroom. Simply do these things, and you are most likely going to have an amazing relationship! Yes, you are going to have ups and downs as life is full of those, but your relationship will be able to handle those times. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 292. Answering More Of Your Very Tough Questions on Intimacy | 30 Aug 2024 | 00:32:43 | |
We got some emails back from our audience on our newsletter and podcast episode 282 where we answered many of your tough questions. Some of you didn't like the way we answered some of the questions, and we also got a bunch more questions that you wanted us to answer... so in this episode, we respond to your emails, and answer more questions. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 291. Are Different Political Views Causing Conflict In Your Relationship? | 27 Aug 2024 | 00:23:38 | |
Ever wondered how political differences can coexist within a loving relationship without causing constant conflict? Our latest episode promises to equip you with the tools and insights needed to navigate these challenging waters. Join us as we uncover the secret to maintaining respect and open communication when political views clash. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 290. Why When A Husband Has The Low Sex Drive, It Negatively Impacts MANY More Things Then Just The Sex For A Wife | 23 Aug 2024 | 00:28:00 | |
We talk quite often about the negative consequences of a wife having no sexual desire, but what about the negative impacts on a wife when the husband has no sexual desire? We hear from many women that their husband doesn't have any sexual desire, and therefore they aren't romantic, don't fulfill emotional needs, don't pay compliments, etc. For many men, their sexual desire drives them to be more romantic, fulfill their spouse's emotional needs, have better communication, etc. A husband's desire for sex causes him to strive to be a better husband in every way! Sex drives men to be better husbands. When you take that desire away, what then drives him to do the things his wife needs? In this episode, we not only discuss the consequences of a husband having a low sex drive but also the reasons why, and the solutions for how to resolve it. This is an episode you won't want to miss. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 800,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 289. How To Balance BOTH Your Work And Your Relationship When You Are Both Career Driven | 20 Aug 2024 | 00:35:26 | |
We got this idea and topic from someone who emailed us about something they are struggling with. This is absolutely a topic we can discuss because we are both very career-driven, love to work hard, and we work together EVERYDAY. It is often very tough to balance things when life gets extremely busy and when you are both career driven. For a while in our relationship, we didn't have things balanced, as we put our dreams and ambitions above our marriage, and it really hurt us as a couple. But there are always lessons to be learned from every mistake, and we are much better now at not only managing our "career-driven" mentality but, more importantly, focusing on being "marriage-driven" because no amount of success will matter if you don't have someone you love to share it with. In this episode, we share the things we have learned and done in our relationship to balance work and our relationship as career-driven people. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 288. If Your Wife Isn't Interested In Sex, Maybe You Should Look "Inward" Instead Of Blaming Her | 16 Aug 2024 | 00:38:33 | |
Okay, before we jump into this episode, we do recognize that there are women out there who just don't want to have sex and do have AMAZING husbands. We totally get that, and our hearts break for the husbands because sexual intimacy is so vital and important in marriage. But... what if there are things that some husbands are doing (that they don't realize) that are causing their wives not to want to be sexually intimate? We had a wife reach out to us and express that her husband has a temper, gets angry at her, talks down to her in public, and doesn't treat her very well. She expressed that she feels broken by her spouse's behavior, and because of this, she has a hard time opening up and wanting to be intimate with her husband/the person causing her pain (who is supposed to love her and make her feel safe). Some women also want sex to be emotionally and spiritually connecting as well, and when they feel it is only physical for their husbands, that also erodes the desire. The bottom line is, when a wife is not feeling safe, secure, or respected by her husband, she is not going to want to be intimate with him. It is just that simple! In this episode, we talk about the things husbands might do (without even knowing it) that cause their wives to withdraw and not want to be sexually intimate with them. Can we look inwardly and be open and honest with ourselves about the things we might be contributing to that? Join us for this very important episode where we discuss the things some husbands do that cause their spouses not to want to be intimate. We pray it can help your marriage. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 287. The Tools And Strategies That Work To Overcome Porn With LMFT Austin Ellis | 13 Aug 2024 | 00:42:53 | |
Have you ever wondered how unresolved emotional pain can manifest into destructive habits like pornography addiction? Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 286. Answering The Most Common Questions We Get From Couples With LMFT Austin Ellis | 09 Aug 2024 | 00:53:05 | |
We get so many of you reaching out to us with questions and concerns or stating things that you are facing in your relationships. The 4-5 questions or statements we get are almost always the same things that couples are navigating or seeking answers and solutions to. To help us answer these important topics, we wanted to bring on a marriage expert who deals with thousands of couples that also struggle with many of the same things. In this episode, we talk with Austin Ellis (LMFT). Austin offers great advice and solutions to resolve these common issues that so many couples are dealing with. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 285. Morning And Evening Routines For Better Intimacy And Connection | 06 Aug 2024 | 00:22:01 | |
In this episode, we explore how establishing thoughtful morning and evening routines can significantly enhance intimacy and connection in your relationship. The way you start and end your day together sets the tone for your relationship and can create a deeper bond between the two of you. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 401. "Do You Love Me As Much As The Kids?" A Common question many husbands are wanting to ask | 19 Sep 2025 | 00:39:15 | |
Do You Love Me as Much as the Kids? A Conversation Every Couple Needs One of our friends recently asked his wife, “Do you love me as much as the kids?” and it sparked a powerful conversation about love, priorities, and intimacy in marriage. Many husbands have shared with us, through messages or emails, that sometimes they feel like they come after everything else, especially the kids. And yes, this can go both ways, of course. Instead of quickly answering, “Of course not! Duh!”, take a moment to reflect on your own marriage. Does your spouse feel the need to ask this? Why? It’s not a bad question, it’s deeply important. When discussed in a loving, thoughtful way, it can strengthen connection, clarify needs, and prevent resentment. In this episode, we dive into:
Plus 5+ Questions Couples Can Ask Each Other on this episode:
Tune in for honest, heartfelt advice that will inspire you to keep your marriage at the center of your life. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 284. 15 Ways To Become Irresistible To Your Spouse | 02 Aug 2024 | 00:30:06 | |
In this episode we talk about the 15 ways to be more attractive to your spouse. Do we get ready for them and look good on date nights, or put forth and effort, or do we go out looking like we just got done waking up from a 3 day nap? Do we take care of our hygiene, are we exercising and trying to stay in shape? Do we have positive attitudes and treat our spouse good? Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 283. Do We Make Marriage Harder Than It Needs To Be? | 30 Jul 2024 | 00:22:24 | |
Do we make marriage harder than it needs to be? For most of us, the answer is a resounding yes. It's easy to fall into patterns and habits that complicate our relationships, often without even realizing it. Drawing from personal experiences and observations, we delve into the common ways couples inadvertently make marriage more challenging. In this episode, we explore the specific behaviors and mindsets that add unnecessary stress and strain to marriages. From communication breakdowns to unrealistic expectations, we cover a range of topics that often turn small issues into significant obstacles. Join us as we share insights, stories, and tips to help you recognize the ways you might be complicating your marriage and provide you with tools to create a more joyful and fulfilling partnership. Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, this episode is packed with valuable advice to help you navigate the complexities of married life with greater ease and satisfaction. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 282. Ask Us Anything Part 2. We Answer More Of Your Tough Questions | 26 Jul 2024 | 00:31:04 | |
Part 2 of ask us anything. We continue our conversation and answering questions that you as an audience submitted to us. Some of the questions we received and answer in this episode are:
If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 281. Ask Us Anything - Your Tough Questions Answered.. Or At Least Try To Answer | 23 Jul 2024 | 00:29:15 | |
In this episode, we dive deep into the questions you submitted on social media, and no topic was off-limits. We encouraged you to ask anything, and you delivered with a wide range of insightful, thought-provoking, and sometimes challenging questions. From dealing with conflict resolution and communication barriers to managing finances and balancing personal and relationship goals, we tackle the real issues that many couples face. Each question opens up a discussion that not only provides answers but also sheds light on common struggles and triumphs in relationships. Join us for this raw episode! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 280. The 6 Types Of Wive's Who Don't Enjoy Being Sexually Intimate With Their Husband | 19 Jul 2024 | 00:28:14 | |
Yes, we know this can go both ways and it's not always the wife, but in this episode, we tackle the 6 types of wives who don't enjoy being intimate with their husbands. We discuss the reasons why women make excuses to not be intimate with their husbands, and many of them are valid excuses. As we always talk about, we are trying to help marriages become more connected and find "Ultimate Intimacy." For that to happen, sometimes we need to recognize the mistakes or things we are doing that keep that from happening. Join us for this informative episode. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 279. The Habits A Husband Should Stop Doing For A More Peaceful And Intimate Marriage | 16 Jul 2024 | 00:25:37 | |
In Episode 277, we explored the habits wives should stop doing to foster a more peaceful and intimate marriage. Now, it's time to turn the spotlight on husbands. There's no question that as men, we can develop some bad habits or make mistakes that create conflict in our relationships. Nick can personally attest to this. Often, we don't even recognize these habits or the impact they have on our marriages. In this episode, we will identify the common habits that husbands tend to fall into that prevent marriages from reaching their full potential. From neglecting communication and emotional expression to avoiding responsibilities and taking our spouse for granted, we will discuss the behaviors that can create distance and tension. Join us as we delve into the ways men can improve their marital relationships by recognizing and addressing their own behaviors. This episode is an opportunity for husbands to reflect, learn, and grow, paving the way for a stronger and more fulfilling marriage. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 278. 8 Questions You Should Ask Each Other When Your Marriage Is Struggling | 12 Jul 2024 | 00:27:14 | |
Ever wondered how a simple query like "What do you need from me right now?" can revolutionize your marriage? In a heartfelt exchange, we unravel the complexities of marital intimacy and uncover the keys to a deeper connection. We discuss how open communication and teamwork are essential in understanding and fulfilling each other's needs. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 277. The Habits A Wife Should Stop Doing For A More Peaceful And Intimate Marriage | 09 Jul 2024 | 00:24:00 | |
There are many habits that a wife can get into if they are not careful, that can cause disconnect and conflict in the marriage. Habits are things are being done or said constantly and could include, nagging, complaining and other things. Sometimes these habits are completely understandable and justified... but often times can turn into "habits" that occur regularly and become normal in the relationship. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 276. Every High Libido Husband Needs To Know These Things About His Low Libido Wife | 05 Jul 2024 | 00:29:32 | |
This is an episode that both the high desire and low desire spouse (every couple) is going to want to listen to. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 275. Being A Good Provider Doesn't Make You A Good Husband... There's So Much More | 02 Jul 2024 | 00:28:04 | |
The big myth that a hefty paycheck equals husband of the year. We get a ton of men telling us on our social media, "My wife should be intimate with me because I provide for the family," not realizing that there is so much more to being a good husband than just providing for the family, although that is very important. Although bringing home the bacon is a great thing, there is much more, which we unpack in this great episode. So if you are a husband who is a good man and wants to connect more with his wife, then this episode will provide some great insights into what you can do to be a better husband and what your wife really thinks makes a great husband. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 400. Answering Your Questions About Intimacy Aids And Why We Believe They Can Be "Game Changing" For Your Marriage | 16 Sep 2025 | 00:29:28 | |
In this episode, we dive into a topic that’s often whispered about but rarely discussed openly—sexual intimacy aids and the powerful role they can play in relationships. Far from being just “toys,” these tools can help couples communicate better, deepen emotional connection, and reignite passion that may have faded into routine. We explore ten key ways intimacy aids can strengthen partnerships—from boosting confidence and balancing different desire levels, to helping couples explore new sensations together and maintain intimacy as needs change over time. Along the way, we also answer some of the most common (and sometimes awkward) questions couples ask: Are intimacy aids only for couples with problems? How do we bring them up without embarrassment? Do they replace closeness, or can they actually bring us closer? A couple of things that shifted our mindset on intimacy aids were setting two simple boundaries: “Does it bring us closer together?” and “Is it only used together?” Framing it this way helped us see these tools not as replacements for intimacy, but as bridges that deepen connection, playfulness, and trust. Whether you’re in a brand-new relationship or decades into one, this conversation is all about breaking taboos, normalizing pleasure, and reminding couples that intimacy should be fun, evolving, and deeply connecting. Check out our great vibrating ring and lubricant we discussed on this episode HERE. Check out this great article "Can Using Sex Toys (intimacy aids) Really Make Your Marriage Happier?" If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews.
Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 274. The 10 Mistakes You Might Be Making During Foreplay | 28 Jun 2024 | 00:27:40 | |
Can you really mess up foreplay? Oh yes, you can! In this episode, we discuss the 10 mistakes you might be making during foreplay and how to have much better foreplay in your marriage, because better foreplay leads to better intimacy! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why over 700,000 couples have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews! Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 273. The Benefits Of Making Love In The Morning And Why It Could Be Very Beneficial For Your Marriage | 25 Jun 2024 | 00:23:42 | |
We must admit that we are not morning people and typically don't make love very often in the morning, but after this podcast episode and understanding all the benefits, we are going to re think our lovemaking, and when we do it. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||
| 272. The Ways To Be More Attractive To Your Husband... And We Are Not Talking About Physically | 21 Jun 2024 | 00:25:41 | |
Your first thought is that this is a podcast on how to be more physically attractive to your spouse... right? Wrong! This podcast episode focuses on the various other ways to be attractive to your husband, such as self-confidence, and other ways like:
Your husband is already physically attracted to you, and that is one of the reasons he fell in love with you. In this podcast episode, we discuss the "other" ways to be more attractive to your husband. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message! | |||