Explore every episode of the podcast The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast
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| Episode 190 - Fear | 08 Nov 2026 | 00:33:44 | |
In this episode I am exploring the word Fear and what it really means when we bring it into the conversation about pregnancy, labour and birth. Fear has an important purpose. It can alert us to genuine danger and encourage us to pay attention when something needs our attention. But fear can also develop around something that hasn't happened, something that may never happen, or something that happened to somebody else. And this distinction matters enormously when we are preparing for birth. In this episode, we look at the difference between being informed and being frightened, and why knowing that something can happen is not the same as believing that it will happen to you. We explore how fear can grow through stories, warnings, previous experiences and the way birth is talked about, and why it is worth asking ourselves an important question: Is this my fear? For birth partners, there is another layer to consider. They may have fears of their own, particularly around seeing someone they love in pain or worrying that they won't know what to do if circumstances change. Understanding their own fears and preparing for labour can help them become a more supportive and reassuring presence. The aim isn't to become fearless, it is to become curious about our fear. Where did it come from? Is there something we need to understand? Is it connected to our own circumstances, or are we carrying somebody else's story? Fear deserves to be listened to and understood. So a question to ask yourself when fear appears is: “Is this my fear, and what is it trying to tell me?” If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 189 - Consent | 01 Nov 2026 | 00:37:41 | |
Consent is often reduced to a simple question: “Do you agree?” But meaningful consent involves much more than that. It is about having enough information to understand what is being proposed, having the opportunity to ask questions, being free to make your own decision and knowing that you can change your mind. Throughout this episode I look at the important difference between consent and compliance, because two women can both say yes while experiencing very different levels of choice. One may have listened to the information, considered her options and genuinely decided that something is right for her. Another may agree because she is frightened, feels pressured, doesn't want to be seen as difficult or believes she has no real alternative. That distinction becomes particularly important in maternity care, where decisions can sometimes be made in circumstances involving fear, uncertainty, time pressure and enormous concern for the wellbeing of a baby. I also explore the relationship between fear and consent, and why being frightened can affect the way we process information and experience our choices. This is why birth partners can play such an important role, not by making decisions for the woman, but by helping create enough space for her to understand what is being suggested and decide what she wants to do. Ultimately, consent is about recognising that professional expertise and personal autonomy can exist together. You can respect your midwife or doctor, value their knowledge and listen carefully to their recommendations while still understanding that decisions about your body belong to you. Here is an episode I mentioned in the podcast which I recommend you listen to:- Episode 178 - The Survival Response in Birth: Fawning and Cognitive Dissonance Explained If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 188 - Risk | 25 Oct 2026 | 00:42:09 | |
Risk is a word that is often used to describe a particular type of pregnancy, but how often do we actually stop to think about what that word means, and what it really tells us about the pregnancy? In this episode, I explore what happens when a pregnancy is described as high risk or low risk, and how easily these labels can begin to influence the way we think about pregnancy and birth. Once a pregnancy has been given a particular risk label, it can be very easy to hear that label as a prediction of what is going to happen, rather than an assessment of the likelihood of particular outcomes. I look at the difference between possibility, probability and certainty, and why being told that something is more likely does not mean that it is inevitable. I also explore why the word risk can feel particularly powerful during pregnancy, when the possibility of something happening to your baby can carry an enormous emotional weight. A significant part of the episode looks at absolute risk and relative risk, including why the phrase “double the risk” doesn't tell you enough on its own. I share a few examples to understand why the starting point matters, how the same relative increase can represent very different absolute changes, and why asking “doubled from what to what?” can be such a useful question. Another important question throughout the episode is risk compared with what? Pregnancy and birth rarely present us with a completely risk-free option. An intervention may reduce one particular possibility while introducing other potential consequences, while choosing to wait or continue with physiological processes also involves uncertainty. Understanding the risks and benefits of the different options allows you to see the whole picture rather than focusing on one possibility in isolation. Because risk is not a prediction of what will happen. It is information about what might happen, and understanding the difference matters. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 187 - Environment | 18 Oct 2026 | 00:29:55 | |
Where you give birth matters — but environment is about much more than the room you give birth in. In this episode, I’m looking at what Environment really means within the SPACE Framework™ and how the physical and emotional environment around you can influence how you feel, respond and participate during labour. The people in the room, the atmosphere, privacy, noise, interruptions, lighting, equipment and the way you are spoken to can all become part of your birth environment. And sometimes that environment will change during labour. Knowing what matters to you, and understanding what you can ask for, can help you remain involved even when circumstances change. This is the final episode in the five-part SPACE series: Safety. Privacy. Advocacy. Conditions. Environment. You can find the 28-page SPACE Framework™ document via the link in my bio or in the podcast show notes. Listen to the episode and consider: what kind of environment helps you feel safe, informed and able to respond to what is happening? Explore the SPACE Framework™ - https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/the-space-framework--digital-pdf (This is FREE within the Discover Your North Star Course) If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 186 - Conditions | 11 Oct 2026 | 00:29:36 | |
CONDITIONS - What are we asking your body to do within? In this episode, we're exploring the fourth word in my SPACE Framework™: Conditions. When we talk about preparing for birth, much of the focus is placed on what you can do. You can learn about the physiology of labour, understand what your body is doing, practise breathing and relaxation, think about movement, explore your options and prepare yourself for the experience ahead. But your body doesn't experience labour in isolation from everything around you. It is doing the work of labour within a set of circumstances, and those circumstances can influence the way you experience what is happening. The people around you, the language being used, whether you feel safe or exposed, whether you are being interrupted, whether you understand what is happening and whether you feel rushed or supported all become part of the conditions in which you are experiencing labour. The question I want you to take away from this episode is: Are the conditions around you supporting what you're asking your body to do? Because we can spend a great deal of time preparing for labour, learning about physiology and thinking about how we want to approach birth, but it is also worth considering the circumstances surrounding you while you're asking your body to do that work. Your body doesn't labour separately from you, and you don't experience labour separately from the conditions surrounding you. Explore the SPACE Framework™ - https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/the-space-framework--digital-pdf (This is FREE within the Discover Your North Star Course) If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 185 - Advocacy | 04 Oct 2026 | 00:34:03 | |
ADVOCACY - Who protects your space when you can't? And why does that matter? In this episode, we're exploring the third word in my SPACE Framework™: Advocacy. When we think about advocacy in birth, it can be easy to imagine confrontation, challenging every decision or having a birth partner who is prepared to fight the maternity system. But advocacy is about something much more important than being the loudest person in the room. It is about protecting your autonomy. During labour, there may come a point when you are deeply absorbed in what your body is doing and simply don't want to manage the conversations happening around you. You may still want to understand what is being proposed and remain involved in decisions about your care, but you may need someone beside you who can help create the time, space and opportunity for you to do that without taking over or making decisions for you. Therefore the question I want you to think about this week is: Who protects your space when you can't? And why does that matter? Explore the SPACE Framework™ - https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/the-space-framework--digital-pdf (This is FREE within the Discover Your North Star Course) If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 184 - Privacy | 27 Sep 2026 | 00:29:47 | |
PRIVACY: What Do You Need to Stop Feeling Observed? What does privacy actually mean during labour? In this episode, we move to the second word in the SPACE Framework™: Privacy. Privacy isn't simply about being alone or having a closed door. A woman can have people she trusts around her and still feel completely private, while being physically alone doesn't necessarily mean she feels unobserved or protected from interruption. During labour, a woman may gradually become less socially aware and more absorbed in what is happening within her body. She may become quieter, close her eyes, move instinctively, make sounds without thinking about how she appears, and become far less interested in conversation or what is happening around her. So what happens when she is continually brought back into the outside world? The question I leave you with this week is: What do I need in order to stop feeling observed? Explore the SPACE Framework™ - https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/the-space-framework--digital-pdf (This is FREE within the Discover Your North Star Course) If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 183 - Safety | 20 Sep 2026 | 00:25:27 | |
SAFETY: What Does Safety Actually Feel Like? What do we really mean when we talk about safety in birth? In this episode, I introduce the first word in the SPACE Framework™: Safety. When we talk about safe birth, we often think about physical or clinical safety, and of course, the wellbeing of both mother and baby matters enormously. But safety is not only about clinical observations, equipment or the ability to respond if something changes. A woman is also experiencing birth through her nervous system. She is constantly responding to the people around her, the information she receives, the way she is spoken to and whether she feels able to relax, ask questions and let go. The question I leave you with this week is: What will I need to feel safe enough to let go? Explore the SPACE Framework™ - https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/the-space-framework--digital-pdf (This is FREE within the Discover Your North Star Course) If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 182 - Curiosity | 13 Sep 2026 | 00:25:09 | |
CURIOSITY: What Don't You Know Yet? How do we prepare for birth when we don't yet know what we don't know? In the first episode of Season 7, I'm exploring the word Curiosity and why I believe it may be one of the most valuable things you can bring into pregnancy and birth. We are surrounded by information, advice, opinions, recommendations and stories, but being given information isn't always the same as understanding it. Curiosity allows us to look a little deeper, ask better questions and remain open to learning something new, even when that new information challenges something we previously believed. I also reflect on these words from Maya Angelou: "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better." Perhaps we don't need to know everything before we begin preparing for birth. Perhaps we simply need to remain curious enough to keep learning. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 181 - Words | 06 Sep 2026 | 00:17:54 | |
Words Welcome to Season 7 of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast. This season is a little different. Rather than focusing on one particular aspect of pregnancy, labour or birth in each episode, I’m taking a single word and using it as the starting point for a much bigger conversation. The words I’ve chosen have come from decades of experience as a doula and antenatal educator, as well as from everything I have learned from the women, partners and families I have supported over the years. Because sometimes one word can change the way we think about something. A word can challenge an assumption. It can open up a new perspective. It can give us language for something we have experienced but never quite understood. And sometimes it can make us question something we have simply accepted as normal. That is what I want Season 7 to do. These episodes are not about giving you a list of things you should or shouldn’t do. They are about thinking more deeply about birth, about the systems and environments in which birth takes place, and about the experiences of the women and partners at the heart of it. My hope is that these conversations bring wisdom, encourage curiosity and develop your thinking. Because preparing for birth is about much more than knowing what happens during labour. It is also about understanding yourself, understanding your choices, recognising what influences the way you experience birth, and thinking carefully about the conditions that can support you. So, this season, we are going to slow things down. One word. One conversation. And perhaps one new way of thinking about birth. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 180 - It’s Not Just About the Destination – It’s About the Journey as Well | 26 Apr 2026 | 00:28:11 | |
In this final episode of the season, I’m bringing together many of the themes we’ve explored over recent weeks and looking at one central idea: birth is not just about the destination — it’s about the journey as well. So often, birth conversations are reduced to outcomes. Was the baby healthy? Did everything go okay? Was everyone safe? And while those things absolutely matter, they are not the full story. In this episode, I explore what gets lost when birth is viewed only as a medical event. When the focus stays solely on monitoring, managing and achieving an outcome, women can disappear from the centre of their own experience. Birth can start to feel like something that happens around them rather than something they are actively moving through. I reflect on how this links to many of the topics we’ve covered this season, including decision-making in labour, consent, subtle pressure, nervous system responses and what it means to feel safe, informed and included during birth. I also explore why two women can experience similar births on paper and walk away feeling completely differently about them. Our previous experiences, beliefs, fears, nervous system responses and sense of self all shape how birth is experienced in real time. We also touch on the idea of birth as a rite of passage and how this connects to matrescence — the transition into motherhood. Birth is not simply an event to complete. It is part of a much bigger identity shift, and how women move through that process can shape how they step into motherhood afterwards. This episode is a reminder to prepare for more than just the outcome. To understand yourself. To recognise how you respond under pressure. To stay connected to what matters to you. And perhaps most importantly, it’s an invitation to stop treating birth as something to simply get through. Because how you experience birth matters. And that experience stays with you long after the baby is born. Thank you for listening this season. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 179 - The Truth About Breathing and Relaxation for Birth | 19 Apr 2026 | 00:45:53 | |
In this episode, I take a deeper look at breathing and relaxation in preparation for labour — going beyond the simple advice to “just breathe” or “try to relax.” These are not magic fixes, but skills that reflect how your nervous system responds to stress, intensity, and the sensations of labour. I talk about how the modern world keeps our bodies in a constant state of alert. Our bodies are always scanning for threat, and for many of us, a slight state of tension has become normal. This affects how we experience birth, because labour is a deeply mammalian process that relies on the body feeling safe, supported, and able to drop into an instinctive state. I explain the difference between physiological pain, which is expected and manageable, and pathological pain, which indicates that something in the body or the baby’s position is creating extra intensity. The baby is navigating your body’s infrastructure — the uterus, musculoskeletal system, fascia, emotional state, and even placental position — and sometimes that can lead to sensations that cannot be handled by breathing alone. I also explore how the mind interacts with the body during labour. By the end of this episode, you’ll understand that breathing and relaxation are part of a bigger picture — a skill set that develops over time, incorporating your body, mind, and nervous system — giving you confidence and practical tools to navigate labour more effectively. Purchase my 1 hour track Breathe Episode 9 - Breathing and Relaxation Skills for labour Episode 107 - More Breathing and Relaxation Skills for labour Episode 121 - FREE Somatic Guided Relaxation for your nervous system Episode 141 - Simple strategies for a calm and empowered labour If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 178 - The Survival Response in Birth: Fawning and Cognitive Dissonance Explained | 12 Apr 2026 | 00:37:29 | |
Why do so many women leave their birth experience wondering, “Why did I agree to that?” In this episode, we explore a rarely discussed but deeply important aspect of childbirth — the body’s survival response, and how it can shape decision-making in labour in ways we don’t always recognise at the time. Through a powerful listener story, this conversation gently unpacks what can happen when a woman is in a highly vulnerable, hormonally driven state, and how her nervous system may respond to pressure, authority, or perceived threat. We explore the concept of fawning — a natural, biological response where the body seeks safety through compliance — and how this can lead to saying “yes” in moments where there may not have felt like a real choice. We then move into cognitive dissonance, the psychological process that often follows birth, where the brain works to make sense of decisions that may not have felt fully aligned in the moment. This can leave women feeling confused, questioning themselves, or quietly unsettled — even when everything appeared to go “well” on the surface. This episode is not about blame or criticism. It’s about understanding. We also explore what this means in the context of autonomy and consent, and why awareness of these responses before birth can be so powerful. When women understand how their body and brain may respond under pressure, they can begin to prepare — not to control birth, but to stay more connected to themselves within it. If you have ever felt unsure about decisions made during your birth, or if you’re preparing for birth and want a deeper understanding of how to protect your space, your voice, and your autonomy, this episode will offer a new lens — one rooted in compassion, not judgement. Because this isn’t about getting it “right.” If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 177 - Breastfeeding - Essential information for supporting a new parent with Maddie McMahon (Replay) | 05 Apr 2026 | 01:05:27 | |
I’m taking a little break over the Easter holidays, but I didn’t want you to miss this episode, because it’s the final one in our postpartum series, part of this season on The Reality of Birth. Across this series, we’ve explored what life is really like after birth—the joys, the challenges, the surprises, and all the moments in between. We’ve talked about sleep, emotional shifts, body changes, identity, and the real realities of those first few weeks with a newborn. For this final episode, I’m revisiting a conversation I had with fellow doula Maddie McMahon, all about breastfeeding—one of the most rewarding, yet often misunderstood, parts of postpartum life. We get into the practical challenges, the emotional highs and lows, and what it really takes to navigate feeding in those early weeks. Sit back, relax, and enjoy this important discussion while I recharge over the holidays. 💛 You can find Maddie - developingdoulas.co.uk Maddies Miracle - https://maddiesmiracle.org.uk/ Breastfeeding helplines:-
The 4 Keeps:
https://youtu.be/WmOvR8Om79Y (me - bottle top latch) If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 176 - Becoming a Mother: Understanding Matrescence | 29 Mar 2026 | 00:42:53 | |
Motherhood is more than a role—it’s a profound transformation. In this episode, I explore matrescence, the process of becoming a mother, and what it really means for your body, your relationships, and your sense of self. I talk openly about reconnecting with your postpartum body, navigating intimacy and sex after birth, and adjusting to the new dynamics in your relationship. I share reflections on shifting priorities, managing guilt when taking time for yourself, and learning to let go of control while trusting others with your baby. I also explore the delicate and personal decisions around having another child, including balancing fear and desire and honouring your own readiness. This episode is honest, grounded, and compassionate. It’s a reminder that motherhood isn’t about getting it right—it’s about understanding the changes you’re going through, moving through them with awareness, and integrating them into your new life. I also discuss what to do if you’re struggling and why asking for support is a sign of strength, not failure. By the end of this episode, I hope you feel seen, validated, and reminded that you’re not just learning how to care for a baby—you’re learning how to live as a mother. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 175 - Welcoming a New Baby – Preparing Your Family and Supporting Your Older Child | 22 Mar 2026 | 00:55:40 | |
Bringing a new baby into your family is often described as a joyful and exciting time — but the reality is far more complex. In this episode, I share an honest, real-world look at what it’s like to welcome a newborn into your home and your family, whether this is your first baby or you already have children. We explore the emotional, physical, and practical realities of the early weeks — from sleep deprivation and feeding challenges to the intense sense of responsibility and constant worry that many parents experience. I also share the importance of managing expectations — including why I often say that babies are boring — and how understanding the reality of newborn life can make the transition feel more manageable. For those with older children, this episode is packed with practical strategies to help them feel secure, included, and valued, rather than pushed aside during this big change. We also look at how to involve family members and visitors in a way that supports your older child, protects your space, and creates a calmer environment in those early weeks. This episode is full of practical tips, real-world examples, and simple strategies you can implement immediately to make the arrival of a new baby a positive experience for everyone. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 174 - The Fourth Trimester and Postpartum Planning | 15 Mar 2026 | 00:48:07 | |
Since last week’s episode was released, I’ve received so many messages from listeners asking for more information about the fourth trimester and postpartum planning that I decided to record this extra episode to explore these topics in more depth. The weeks after birth are often overlooked in birth preparation, yet they represent one of the most significant transitions for both mother and baby. In this episode, I talk about the biological realities of the fourth trimester, why newborn behaviour often makes perfect sense when we understand human development, and why planning for postpartum can make such a difference to recovery and wellbeing. I also explore how cultural expectations in modern Western society can sometimes clash with biology, particularly when it comes to rest, recovery, and the close contact that newborn babies instinctively seek. During the episode, I walk through a practical framework for a postpartum planning conversation. If you are preparing for birth, this is something I encourage you to discuss with your partner or support network before the baby arrives. Taking time to think about support, rest, feeding, emotional wellbeing, and household responsibilities can help protect the early weeks and reduce unnecessary stress. I also explain why postpartum rest is not simply a luxury, but an important part of physical recovery. Giving the body time to heal after pregnancy and birth supports long-term health, including pelvic floor recovery and overall wellbeing. The fourth trimester matters. When we understand the biology behind newborn behaviour and maternal recovery, we can approach this period with more realistic expectations and greater compassion for ourselves and our babies. Episode 172 - Relationship Circles - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-ultimate-guide-to-being-a-birth-partner/id1541228817?i=1000752253453 Episode 149 - Postpartum Prolapse - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-ultimate-guide-to-being-a-birth-partner/id1541228817?i=1000706091689 If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 173 - Specialist Midwife Lara - The Postpartum Period | 08 Mar 2026 | 00:55:00 | |
In this episode, I’m joined by specialist postpartum midwife Lara for a thoughtful and honest conversation about what really happens after birth. Recorded last summer, this discussion explores the often-overlooked realities of the postpartum period — not just physically, but emotionally, relationally and hormonally. Together, we unpack:
Postpartum Planning is something I teach extensively and have dedicated the final chapter to in my book: Labour of Love - The Ultimate Guide to Being a Birth Partner - UK Labour of Love - The Ultimate Guide to Being a Birth Partner - US You can find Lara here - The Specialist Midwife If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 172 - Relationship Circles – Planning Postpartum Support | 01 Mar 2026 | 00:31:54 | |
Preparing for birth is only half the story. What happens in the weeks after your baby arrives can be just as challenging — and often more overwhelming than labour itself. That’s why I teach the Relationship Circle in my antenatal classes, a practical way to map your support network, set boundaries, and clarify who does what. At the heart of the circle is Mother + Partner + Baby, because postpartum is a shared journey. Around that centre, the circles show both parents’ families and friends, making it easy to see who will help, who needs boundaries, and where conversations are essential. In this episode, we talk about mapping your network, having important discussions during pregnancy about visits, practical help, and boundaries, and navigating common challenges — like the now very common “no kissing the baby” rule. Planning this way helps reduce overwhelm, prevent conflict, and protect your recovery, so you can focus on what matters most: your new family. A practical tool to map your postpartum plan with confidence and clarity. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 171 - Safety: Why Continuity of Carer Changes Everything | 22 Feb 2026 | 00:31:52 | |
Last week I talked about hypervigilance — what happens when a woman’s nervous system doesn’t feel safe in pregnancy, birth or postpartum. This week, I explore one of the most evidence-based ways to reduce it: continuity of carer. Continuity is not just about seeing the same service. It’s about being known. It’s about relationship. And decades of research show that when women receive continuity of midwifery care, outcomes improve across the board — including lower rates of preterm birth, fewer interventions, and better mental health outcomes. But this conversation goes beyond statistics. I look at why birth is relational and hormonal, why oxytocin depends on safety, and how familiarity in the room — whether from a midwife, a prepared partner, or a doula — can change the entire physiological landscape of labour. I also ask the uncomfortable question: if continuity is so well evidenced, why is it still treated as optional? Because safety in birth is often framed as machines and monitoring. Yet the evidence is clear. Safety is relationship. And continuity changes everything. Access the Discover Your North Star Course Here If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 170 - Hyper‑Vigilance in Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum | 15 Feb 2026 | 00:41:54 | |
Hyper-vigilance is common in pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period — but rarely named. In this episode, we explore what hyper-vigilance really is, why so many women experience it, and how it impacts mothers, partners, and babies. We talk about nervous system safety, surveillance culture in maternity care, why reassurance often doesn’t help, and what truly supports healing — without pathologising women or telling them to 'just relax'. This episode is for:
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Aimee and Tom's story - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-ultimate-guide-to-being-a-birth-partner/id1541228817?i=1000536622734 If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 169 - Your Questions Answered: Birth, Babies & Early Parenthood Q&A | 08 Feb 2026 | 00:45:18 | |
This episode is a little different! I decided to answer a batch of listener questions that were shorter than the single-question episodes, and they fit perfectly with what’s coming up in the coming weeks. As I went through them, I noticed quite a few shared a common theme, and it reminded me just how important it is to dedicate some episodes specifically to postpartum experiences, because there is so much to unpack in those first days, weeks and months. I hope you enjoy this Q&A — it’s honest, practical, and grounded in real experiences from real listeners. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 168 - Beyond the Headlines: Freebirth, Preparation, and Choice — Fenja’s Story | 01 Feb 2026 | 01:23:22 | |
In this episode, I’m joined by Fenja, who shares her freebirth story with honesty, depth, and clarity. At a time when freebirth is being widely discussed — and often misunderstood — Fenja’s experience offers a grounded and much-needed perspective on what informed, conscious birth preparation can look like. Fenja speaks openly about the extensive work she did during pregnancy: building physiological understanding, engaging in emotional and mental preparation, and developing a deep trust in her body and decision-making. Her choices were not made lightly. They were rooted in knowledge, reflection, and personal responsibility. During her pregnancy, Fenja chose to hire a doula — not as someone to direct her birth, but as optional, woman-led support. When labour unfolded, she recognised that what she needed most was solitude and privacy, and she chose not to call her doula to the birth. This decision was hers alone, made in the moment, based on what felt right in her body and nervous system. With recent media coverage and coroner’s reports attempting to suggest that doulas are influencing women to make unsafe decisions, Fenja’s story provides an important counterpoint. It clearly demonstrates that women are capable of making informed, autonomous decisions about their own births, and that doulas do not make decisions for women — they support them, when and if that support is wanted. This episode is not about persuading anyone to freebirth. Fenja’s story is thoughtful, grounded, and a deep reminder that birth choices cannot be reduced to headlines or assumptions. You can find Fenja and her work at helikraft.co.uk On Instagram @heilkraftosteopathy If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 167 - Self-Gaslighting – When You Silence Your Own Instincts | 25 Jan 2026 | 00:30:35 | |
In this episode, I am exploring the hidden and often overlooked phenomenon of self-gaslighting—when women dismiss their own instincts, feelings, or inner knowing. Self-gaslighting can show up during pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood, quietly eroding confidence and disconnecting women from their power. I will break down:
This episode is about reclaiming your voice, your instincts, and your power—so you can navigate birth and motherhood with clarity, confidence, and self-trust. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 166 - The Ten Commandments of Birth: Why Inner Work Matters More Than Technique | 18 Jan 2026 | 00:32:04 | |
So much of birth preparation focuses on what to do — how to breathe, how to move, how to plan. But none of that works if a woman doesn’t trust herself. In this episode, I’m sharing my Ten Commandments of Birth and explaining why I believe inner work is the missing piece in so much birth preparation. I talk honestly about what I’ve seen shift in women since creating Discover Your North Star, and why no breathing technique can undo years of self-doubt. This episode is about preparation that goes deeper than checklists and protocols — preparation that changes how a woman meets her birth, whatever path it takes. ✨ The Ten Commandments of Birth (PDF) - Download here ✨ Discover Your North Star - Online Course If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 165 - The Baby I Dreamed Of — And the Feelings I Didn’t Expect | 30 Nov 2025 | 00:34:10 | |
In this final episode of the year, I’m talking about something I see all the time in my work — but something women rarely feel able to admit out loud: that the desperate longing for a baby doesn’t always match how they feel once they are actually here. After more than two decades supporting women through pregnancy, birth, and those early vulnerable weeks, I’ve heard this story in so many different forms. Today, I’m sharing the experience of a mum I met at a recent coffee morning — Emma — who gave me permission to talk about her journey. Emma had two miscarriages before this pregnancy. She spent months just trying to get to the birth, believing that once her baby was safely here, everything would fall into place. But her birth ended up being long, heavily managed, and exhausting, leaving her feeling out of control. She also struggled with the after-effects of the pain relief she received. And when she finally held her baby, she didn’t feel the rush of emotion she’d imagined. Her question to me — quiet, honest, and full of guilt — forms the heart of this episode. Together, we unpack why so many women feel this way, why these feelings don’t mean anything is wrong, and how the emotional transition into motherhood is far more complex than most people prepare you for. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 164 - Beyond the BRAIN Acronym – Rethinking Communication in the Birth Room | 23 Nov 2025 | 00:22:05 | |
In this episode, we dive deep into communication in the birth room — going beyond the widely taught BRAIN acronym. While BRAIN (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing) can be a helpful tool, waiting until labour to rely on it often means you’ve already been pulled into reactive decision-making. We discuss how true advocacy, sovereignty, and physiological birth are protected long before labour begins, through preparation, clear values, and embodied support. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
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Key Takeaway: If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 163 - Why Early Labour Matters More Than You Think with Jen Culley | 16 Nov 2025 | 01:09:38 | |
In this episode, I sit down with my friend and fellow birth worker Jen Culley to talk about the reality that early labour is often overlooked in modern birth preparation. We explore how early labour is represented on social media and how these portrayals can unintentionally shape women’s expectations in unhelpful ways. While short clips and reels can beautifully capture the moment a baby is born, they rarely show the quiet, powerful, and often lengthy process that leads up to it. Early labour can take hours — sometimes days — and it’s during this time that your mindset, support, and environment matter most. Jen and I reflect on how, in the past, women would have grown up seeing birth unfold — as daughters, sisters, or friends. That shared experience built instinctive knowledge and trust in the body’s rhythms. Today, many of us enter labour without ever having witnessed it, and that loss of communal wisdom can make early labour feel confusing or even frightening. We talk about how this lack of understanding can impact the rest of the birth, and why the way early labour begins often sets the tone for how the rest of labour unfolds. We also discuss what early labour support looks like today, especially the variation in NHS care, where women are often left to navigate this phase alone. Jen and I highlight how the presence of a doula can transform this stage — offering reassurance, practical guidance, and emotional steadiness when it’s needed most. And finally, we dive deeply into the partner’s pivotal role — how they can support progress, protect space, and bring a sense of calm and safety that allows oxytocin to flow and labour to build naturally. If you’ve ever wondered how to make early labour work for you, not against you — or if you simply want to understand this phase in a deeper, more realistic way — this episode is for you. Contact Jen Culley - Instagram Website Memoirs of a Doula If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 162 - Is My Lived Experience More Important Than Your Future One? | 09 Nov 2025 | 00:24:55 | |
In this episode, I explore one of the most delicate and important questions in birth work: Is my lived experience more important than your future one? So many women feel torn between wanting to share their birth story — whether it was empowering, challenging, or deeply traumatic — and wanting to protect others from fear or unrealistic expectations. But how do we find the balance? How do we share truthfully without limiting what’s possible for someone else? This conversation unpacks the tension between past experience and future potential. Together, we look at how to reflect on your own birth, what to learn from it, and how to share your story responsibly — so that both honesty and hope can exist side by side. Key Takeaways:
If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 161 - The Waiting Game – Why Patience in Late Pregnancy Matters More Than Ever | 02 Nov 2025 | 00:45:47 | |
In this episode, I talk about one of the most emotionally testing times in pregnancy — the waiting game. When your due date is approaching, or has come and gone, it can feel as though the world is on pause while everyone keeps asking, 'Have you had the baby yet?' I explore what this waiting period can really feel like — the impatience, the frustration, and the mental tug of war that happens when your baby still isn’t ready to arrive. I also talk about the pressure that can build when conversations about induction of labour start, and how those offers can influence how you feel about your body, your baby, and the timing of birth. We chat about the idea that 42 weeks is often considered the outer limit of pregnancy — but how that’s not true for everyone. For many women, birth can unfold safely and beautifully beyond that point. Still, talking about 42 weeks helps shift the focus away from the growing trend of early induction at 39 weeks, which can interrupt the natural rhythm of both mother and baby. I also share some of the incredible support available during this time from myself, Shellie Poulter, and Kemi Johnson, who all offer services to help women navigate these later stages of pregnancy with confidence and calm. I’ll include their links below. If you’re currently waiting — or supporting someone who is — this episode will help you find reassurance, perspective, and patience in those final days. Your baby will come, and how you navigate this time matters just as much as the birth itself. Mentioned in this episode: If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 160 - Sliding Doors – When Chance Determines Your Antenatal Advice and Birth Outcome | 26 Oct 2025 | 00:27:39 | |
Have you ever wondered why two women can walk into the same antenatal clinic and have completely different experiences? In this episode, I explore what I call the 'Sliding Doors' effect in maternity care — how the door you walk through, quite literally or metaphorically, can shape your confidence, choices, and ultimately your birth outcome. I unpack how seemingly small differences in care — the tone of a conversation, the attentiveness of a practitioner, the questions asked — can either empower you or leave you questioning your instincts. This episode is a deep dive into how chance encounters at antenatal appointments can ripple through an entire pregnancy and birth journey. You’ll hear about:
Listener reflection: If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 159 - Kintsugi and Birth Healing – How Trauma Can Make You Stronger | 19 Oct 2025 | 00:35:16 | |
In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I am exploring the Japanese art of kintsugi — repairing broken pottery with gold — as a powerful metaphor for healing after a difficult or traumatic birth. Instead of hiding the cracks, kintsugi honours them, turning them into the most beautiful part of the story. And birth can be the same. Your previous experience, however painful, does not make you broken. It makes you wiser, clearer, and stronger as you prepare for your next birth. Through real stories of women she has supported, Sallyann shares how birth trauma can become a source of insight, boundaries, and courage — and how you can approach your next birth as a reclamation, not a repeat. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✨ Why minimising or dismissing birth trauma can be damaging Resources & Links 💛 Join Discover Your North Star — my course for preparing mentally, emotionally, and spiritually for birth → https://payhip.com/b/8PSYi Share the Love If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or leave a review on your favourite podcast platform. Every share helps more women discover that they are not broken — they are whole, and capable of creating their own kintsugi birth. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 158 - The Four Tendencies in Birth: How Knowing Yourself Shapes Your Experience | 12 Oct 2025 | 00:41:23 | |
The Four Tendencies in Birth: How Knowing Yourself Shapes Your Experience In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I explore how Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework can help women, partners, and birth professionals better understand how we respond to expectations — and why that matters so much in pregnancy and birth. I share real-life examples of how each Tendency (Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel) might prepare for birth, how they may respond in the moment, and the unique challenges or strengths they bring into the birth room. You’ll hear: This episode is full of stories, practical strategies, and even scripts you can use to explain yourself to others, helping you strengthen your inner compass and stay aligned with what matters most. Resources & Links:
If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 157 - Beyond the Headlines: Paracetamol in Pregnancy and Early Childhood | 05 Oct 2025 | 00:35:13 | |
In this episode, I’m speaking openly about the ongoing debate around paracetamol (Tylenol), especially its use during pregnancy and in young children. Headlines and politics — including Donald Trump jumping on a microphone with bold claims — have left many people either dismissing concerns outright or panicking. But if we throw the baby out with the bathwater, we risk missing the real science that deserves our attention. I explore:
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If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 156 - The Wobble – How to Feel Supported in Labour if You Say 'I Can’t Do This Anymore' | 28 Sep 2025 | 00:24:57 | |
Every birth has a moment that feels impossible. For many women, it comes right before the pushing stage — a sudden rush of overwhelm, doubt, or fear. This is what I call 'The Wobble'. In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I’m diving deep into this essential topic. You’ll learn:
The Wobble can sound like: * 'I can’t do this anymore'. * 'Something’s wrong'. * 'I want to stop'. But instead of signalling failure, these words often mean she’s closer than ever to meeting her baby. With the right support, the wobble passes — and she finds her strength again. If you’re a birth partner, this episode is also for you. Your steady presence in this moment can make all the difference. Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode
💌 If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend or partner who’s preparing for birth. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 155 - Are Doulas Guardians or Gatekeepers? | 21 Sep 2025 | 00:29:50 | |
In light of the recent NMC and Doula UK video, I decided to record this special episode as I felt it relates this this season's theme: The Reality of Birth. The video tried to define the role of a doula but missed the mark — suggesting we simply reinforce what midwives advise. That’s not the truth. You can watch it here - https://youtu.be/bXqIBMTZHDs Many care providers still remain confused about the role of a doula — despite us providing care for 25 years or more in some cases. But that confusion isn’t what matters. What matters is that you and your partner are crystal clear on why you’ve chosen your doula, and how their continuous support aligns with your birth vision. In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I explore: I also share how a group of local doulas in my area have been working collaboratively with the hospital to build stronger relationships with midwives — and why this kind of real-world connection is far more valuable than any video. 💡 Key Takeaway: A doula is neither a guardian nor a gatekeeper. The woman is both. Everyone else — doulas, partners, midwives, and doctors — are there in service to her. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 154 - Expectations vs. Reality — The Untold Elements of Poppy’s 2nd Birth Story | 14 Sep 2025 | 00:57:21 | |
In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I’m joined by Poppy Child from Pop That Mumma, who shares parts of her second birth story that she has never spoken about publicly before. Poppy went into her pregnancy journey believing that a pain-free birth was achievable, but the reality unfolded in ways she hadn’t expected. In this conversation, she opens up about the untold elements of her experience, offering an honest reflection on how expectations can differ from reality in birth. We explore:
Poppy’s openness is a true gift, and I’m so grateful for her courage in sharing the sides of her story that have remained unspoken. Her reflections will reassure and support anyone who has felt the gap between what they imagined birth would be and the reality they experienced. Resources & Links:
If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode - 153 - The Romanticism of Birth – Beyond the Picture-Perfect Vision | 07 Sep 2025 | 00:27:22 | |
Season Six - The Reality of Birth Today Welcome to a brand-new series of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast In this first episode, I am exploring the romanticised idea of birth that we can sometimes hold. I share
Whether you’re planning a freebirth, a homebirth, a midwife-led birth, or a hospital birth, this series will guide you through the truth of birth today — so you can prepare with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Resources & Links:
If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 152 - Dr Rachel Reed - Meconium Stained Amniotic Fluid: variation or complication? | 25 May 2025 | 01:05:03 | |
It's the season finale, and I’m delighted to wrap up with a powerful and thought-provoking conversation featuring the incredible Dr Rachel Reed - midwife, educator, author, and advocate for physiological birth. In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of Meconium-Stained Amniotic Fluid something that often triggers alarm bells during labour. But should it? Rachel helps us unpack the physiology, the myths, and the medical responses surrounding meconium in the waters. This conversation is essential listening for anyone preparing for birth, especially those wanting to feel informed and empowered in situations where the language of risk is used to justify intervention. We explore:
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Thank you for joining me this season. If this episode spoke to you, please leave a review or share it with someone preparing for birth. Your support helps this podcast reach those who need it most. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 151 - Amelia's Story - MLU Birth with High BMI and Gestational Diabetes | 18 May 2025 | 01:08:42 | |
In this inspiring episode, I’m joined by Amelia, who shares her powerful birth stories - welcoming both of her daughters in a Midwife Led Unit, despite being labelled ‘high risk’ due to a high BMI and insulin-controlled gestational diabetes. Amelia’s journey is a testament to what’s possible when a woman is supported to trust her instincts, advocate for herself, and remain at the centre of her care. In our conversation, Amelia reflects on:
This episode offers hope to anyone who’s been told their body isn’t capable of physiological birth - and a reminder that evidence-based care and personal autonomy can and should go hand-in-hand. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 150 - Why I Left the NHS - Midwife Insights with Rosemary | 11 May 2025 | 01:21:02 | |
In this powerful episode, I’m joined by former NHS midwife Rosemary, who bravely opens up about her time working within the UK’s maternity system - and why she ultimately made the difficult decision to walk away. With her knowledge and experience of women-centred care, Rosemary speaks candidly about the challenges she faced as a midwife, from rising pressures to the emotional toll of witnessing care that didn’t align with her values. Rosemary shares what it means to support physiological birth within institutional constraints, and why leaving was the only way to stay true to herself - and what she’s doing now Whether you’re pregnant, a birth worker, or simply curious about what happens behind the scenes of the maternity system, Rosemary’s story will stay with you. You can find Rosemary here Or on her website here - https://houseofrosemary.com If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 149 - Postpartum Prolapse - And Why We Need to be Talking About It! | 04 May 2025 | 01:06:55 | |
In this essential episode, I open up a conversation with Hayley Schoenberg and Dr Margo, where they explain, that far too many women are suffering from postpartum prolapse - in silence. Despite how common it is, prolapse is rarely discussed during pregnancy, and even less so after birth. Yet it can have a profound physical and emotional impact on a woman's life. It's time to break the silence. In this episode, we explore:
Whether you're a birth partner, a birth professional, or someone navigating your own postpartum recovery, this episode is for you. Let’s shine a light on this hidden struggle and advocate for real change in postpartum care. Get support: Reach out to pelvic health specialists or women's health physiotherapists in your area. Contact Hayley on Instagram - @thebadassbirthcompany Contact Margo on Instagram - @pospartum_pop_pt Margo's Website https://www.p4moms.com for her membership community and resources. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this. Let’s change the narrative - one birth at a time. If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 148 - Why a Physiological Birth in 2025 Requires More Than Just a Birth Plan | 27 Apr 2025 | 00:32:14 | |
In today’s episode, I explore one of the most profound truths about birth - the fact that you are the creator of life. I dive into how modern maternity services undermine women's instincts, why doubt is a normal part of labour, and how the subconscious work of pregnancy is what truly saves women in the birth room. I explore why achieving a physiological birth in 2025 is about more than just having a birth plan. While a plan is a great starting point, it’s not enough to guarantee a hands-off, natural birth experience in today’s birth landscape. If you are preparing for birth and ready to reconnect with your instincts, I strongly recommend you join Discover Your North Star - my unique birth preparation course designed to help you do the inner work that will carry you through birth and beyond. It's aim is to empower you by transforming your mindset, and delve deep into your subconscious to reframe limiting beliefs and unlock your true potential. Unlike traditional antenatal programs that primarily focus on the physical aspects of childbirth, this course offers a holistic approach, addressing the mental and emotional facets of the journey into motherhood. You will engage in self-reflective exercises and mindset-shifting techniques, equipping you with the tools to navigate motherhood with confidence, clarity, and a profound sense of purpose. In addition, you will create a Birth Manifesto® - a personalised declaration that articulates your values, desires, and intentions for your birth experience. This powerful tool empowers you to:
By crafting your Birth Manifesto®, you take an active role in shaping your birth journey, aligning it with your personal beliefs and aspirations. Learn more about the course here If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 147 - The First Moments of Life – How Your Body Supports Your Baby’s Transition to the World | 13 Apr 2025 | 00:28:26 | |
In today’s episode, I am sharing the incredible biological design of birth and how your body naturally prepares your baby for life outside the womb. Modern maternity care often disrupts this process, but when we understand how nature intended birth to unfold, we can make informed choices to protect it. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Many modern birth practices - like routine early cord clamping, unnecessary C-sections, and immediate baby separation - are based on outdated protocols that don’t support physiological birth. In this episode, I’ll help you understand what your body already knows how to do and how you can advocate for your baby’s best start in life. Resources & Links: Discover Your North Star – My course on mental, emotional, and spiritual birth preparation. Click here to learn more! Read the BLOG post that accompanies this episode 📲 Follow me on Instagram for more birth wisdom: @theultimatebirthpartner 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts! If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend and leave a review - it helps more women learn to trust the wisdom of their bodies. ❤️ If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 146 - Doulas Can’t Protect You from the System, But They Can Help Protect You from Yourself | 06 Apr 2025 | 00:26:46 | |
In this powerful episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, we dive into a topic that may challenge how you think about birth support: the role of a doula or birthkeeper. While many believe our job is to shield you from the medical system, the truth is more complex. My role isn’t to control external factors or guarantee a specific birth outcome. Instead, it’s to help you overcome self-doubt, navigate fears, and trust your body. Together, we’ll work to build the resilience, mindset, and advocacy skills you need to stay grounded in your values - no matter what comes your way. Listen in as I share real-life insights, why birth preparation requires more than a plan, and how your inner work can be the foundation for a truly empowered birth experience. In this episode, we’ll cover:
🎧 Ready to take control of your birth experience? Tune in now to learn how inner strength and preparation can make all the difference. ✨ Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review. Every share helps more women feel empowered for their birth journey. Here is the BLOG post that accompanies this episode And another Blog post about Doulas If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 145 - The Power of a Full Body Yes - How to Make Decisions with Confidence and Clarity | 30 Mar 2025 | 00:28:29 | |
In this episode, I explore the concept of the 'Full-Body Yes' and its profound impact on decision-making, particularly in the context of childbirth. Key topics include: Understanding the Full-Body Yes: Recognising when your entire being - mind, body, and spirit - is in complete alignment with a decision, leading to a deep sense of certainty and peace. The Role of Intuition in Childbirth: Emphasising the importance of trusting one's instincts during pregnancy and labor, and how the Full-Body Yes can guide expectant mothers toward choices that resonate with their true desires. Practical Steps to Cultivate the Full-Body Yes:
Overcoming External Pressures: Strategies to maintain personal integrity and confidence in your choices amidst societal expectations and external opinions. Call to Action: Reflect on your current decision-making processes. How can embracing the Full-Body Yes transform your approach to choices in childbirth and beyond? Resources Mentioned: If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 144 - Why Long Contractions are Not Necessarily a Sign of Progress in Labour | 23 Mar 2025 | 00:33:45 | |
In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I am diving into the idea that intense, long contractions don't necessarily indicate progress in labour. I’ll take you through why contraction length alone isn’t a reliable indicator of progress and what actually matters more in birth. Tune in to discover: Whether you’re preparing for birth or supporting someone through labour, this episode will help you feel more informed and empowered as you navigate the twists and turns of birth. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to share, leave a review, and follow the podcast for more insights on empowered birth. You can find Shellie Poulter here - The Serenity Doula You can read the BLOG post that accompanies this episode here Read a similar BLOG post about Prodromal Labour and The Latent Phase If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 143 - What is the Privacy Instinct - And Why it Matters for Neurodiverse Women | 16 Mar 2025 | 00:32:14 | |
In this episode, I explore the 'privacy instinct' and its profound significance for neurodiverse women during childbirth. I delve into how an innate desire for privacy and autonomy can influence birth experiences, especially for those with heightened sensory sensitivities and unique communication needs. Episode Highlights:
Listen to the full episode to gain a deeper understanding of the privacy instinct and its impact on the childbirth experiences of neurodiverse women. Empower yourself with knowledge and advocate for a birthing environment that respects and honors your innate needs. Read the BLOG post that accompanies this episode here Read more about the Privacy Instinct here If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 142 - Why You Need to Interview Your Hospital or MLU | 09 Mar 2025 | 00:42:05 | |
In this episode, I’m diving into the importance of thoroughly researching and interviewing your chosen place of birth. Many women assume that midwife-led units or hospitals will automatically align with their birth preferences, but policies and practices can vary widely. I’ll be sharing: ✔️ Why hospitals and MLUs don’t always provide the experience you expect. ✔️ The key questions you MUST ask before choosing a birth location. ✔️ How to spot red flags that indicate your birth preferences may not be honoured. ✔️ Tips for advocating for yourself and ensuring your chosen setting supports your vision. By the end of this episode, you’ll understand why making an informed choice about where you give birth is crucial to having an empowered experience. Read the BLOG post that accompanies this episode here If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||
| Episode 141 - Simple Strategies For a Calm and Empowered Labour | 02 Mar 2025 | 00:24:29 | |
In this episode, we are diving into two game-changing strategies for labour: STOP and FLOP. These simple, yet powerful tools can help you navigate your birth journey with a sense of calm, control, and empowerment. Developed through years of experience in the birth space, these methods are designed to help you release tension, trust your body, and create the right conditions for oxytocin to flow. Whether you’re planning a hospital birth, home birth, or anything in between, STOP and FLOP can make all the difference in how you experience labour. In this episode, you’ll learn:
🎧 Tune in now for simple strategies that can transform your birth experience. ✨ Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review. Every share helps more women feel empowered on their birth journey. Read the Blog Post that accompanies this episode If you want to access any of my free resources click here:-https://stan.store/sallyannberesford If you want to learn more about my Discover Your North Star Course then read more here:- https://stan.store/sallyannberesford/p/discover-your-north-star- If you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesford Follow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpar... | |||