Explore every episode of the podcast The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce
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| Receiving: The Radical Act Women Are Denied (+ Our Move to Substack) | 26 Aug 2025 | 01:28:47 | |
Episode 72: Y’all… this episode is a BIG one! 🎉✨ The anticipation has been real, and I’m finally sharing all the juicy details about the podcast’s move to Substack—plus, a chance for YOU to win a free 90-minute coaching session with me! 🎁🔥 But let’s be real—this episode is about so much more than a platform shift. This is a deep dive into something that’s been transforming my life: RECEIVING. 💌 I’m talking about how hard, uncomfortable, and even vulnerable it can be to receive love, support, help, praise—and why it’s absolutely essential if you're going to become the woman you’re meant to be. Especially for those of you stuck in caretaker roles, exhausted from constantly pouring out without ever being poured into… this episode is your wake-up call. 🛑💡 We unpack why patriarchy has stolen women’s ability to receive, what happens when we start reclaiming it, and how receiving isn't just some fluffy self-care vibe—it's RADICAL and NECESSARY. 💥💪 And, in a moment that had me fully practicing what I preach, I read your beautiful listener emails aloud. 🥹💖 I let myself receive your gratitude, your love, and your stories—and babes, it was a full-body experience. Vulnerable as hell and SO powerful. Then, of course, I walk you through what Substack is, why I’m moving there, and how this shift is deeply aligned with my next evolution—more connection, more intention, more YOU. 💫 👀 Don’t miss the deets on how to subscribe (there’s even a founding member option for my legacy-building babes 🙌) and how to enter the 90-minute coaching giveaway! So if you’ve been feeling worn out, unseen, or like your needs have been pushed to the backburner for way too long… this is your episode. 🎙️💥 Show Notes: Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack Email for questions: decide@stayorgocoaching.com Dying for Sex - Hulu Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| The Life You Want Most IS Possible, but it Takes Choosing YOU First | 19 Aug 2025 | 01:10:49 | |
Episode 71: Hey babes 💛 This one poured out of me on a Friday night with dusk falling outside my window 🌅 because I couldn’t not record it. This episode is my full-body YES to the truth that the life you want most? It's not only possible—it’s happening faster than ever before 🚀💥 I’m opening the door and letting you peek into a totally ordinary, magical day in my life—one I never would’ve dreamed was possible back when I was considering divorce. You’ll hear about everything from flashbacks and Five Guys 🍔 to tarot cards and raising our black cat baby 🐈⬛ with Joe, and how I’ve built a life that feels like me in all the right ways. I’ll also share the stories of two beautiful women, one client and one new community member, who reminded me just how brave, powerful, and world-changing this path is when we start choosing ourselves first 💖 PLUS I’ll let you in on a big shift coming to the podcast 👀 (no more cliffhangers, I promise!) and how we’re building something so much bigger than just our own healing. It’s a movement, and I’m honored to be in it with you 🙏🔥 Whether you're in the thick of deciding, knee-deep in grief, or just catching glimpses of your power again, I want you to know: you’re not crazy, you’re not alone, and the life you want most is already whispering your name ✨ Let’s dive in, babes 🧡 Show Notes: Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Unmasking Covert Narcissism: Part 2 | 17 Jun 2025 | 01:33:48 | |
In this second deep-dive into covert narcissism, I unpack the remaining techniques and traits that make this kind of abuse so uniquely painful… and so hard to name. From gaslighting and emotional blackmail to the crazy room and love bombing, I break it all down—raw, unfiltered, and straight from lived experience 💔. I’m not holding anything back in this episode. I share real-life stories—mine and others’—about being trapped in the invisible cages built by covert narcissists. I talk about what it costs us, what it steals from us, and how easy it is to believe you’re the problem when you’re just trying to survive. And I get really honest about the shame, confusion, and grief that come with realizing someone you love is emotionally harming you 🧠😔. But I also bring the hope 🌱. I walk you through the 10 tangible steps you can take to start healing, reclaim your voice, and ground back into your own reality. If you’re in it, if you’ve lived it, or if you’re afraid to say the words out loud—this episode is for you. You are not alone, and there is a way out. 🦋 Show Notes: The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family - Eleanor D. Payson Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype - Clarissa Pinkola Estés Live Awake Podcast - Sarah Blondin To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| You Might Be Married to a Covert Narcissist (and Not Know It): Part 1 | 10 Jun 2025 | 01:24:59 | |
Episode 61: This one’s been a long time coming, y’all. I can feel it in my bones—this is some of the work I’m most proud to bring into the world. In this two-part series (yep, there’s more coming next week!), I’m diving deep into covert narcissism—what it is, how it operates, and how it might be silently shaping your relationship. This week, we’re laying down the foundation: I’m sharing the two core identifiers I use to spot covert narcissistic abuse and walking you through the first 7 of 14 psychological techniques covert narcissists use to maintain control. These aren’t just concepts—I’m pulling from personal experiences, years of coaching, and gut-wrenching stories from brave women navigating this exact terrain. We’re going to explore what makes covert narcissism so sneaky and so damaging, why it's so often misunderstood, and most importantly, how you can begin to make sense of what’s been happening to you 💔🧠. If you’ve ever felt like you were “crazy,” like you couldn't quite explain the emotional whiplash you’ve been living through, this episode is for you. 🧩✨ And remember—just because your partner might not be diagnosable doesn’t mean the impact isn’t real. The confusion, the guilt, the feeling of being emotionally obliterated—it’s not in your head. You are not alone. At the end of the episode, I share a book that cracked open my own understanding and a way to work with me directly if this is landing deeply and you need more support. 📚🤝 Let’s get into it. This is a clarion call. 💥 Show Notes: The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family - Eleanor D. Payson To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Rooms We've Inherited + Summer of Transformation | 03 Jun 2025 | 00:42:42 | |
Episode 60: Hey sis! 👋💞 Before diving into today’s episode, I took a moment to feel into all of you — whether you're cooking dinner 🍳, running 🏃♀️, or driving 🚗. Just know: I SEE you. You are not alone. 🤗 This episode is a bit of a soul drop-in. I'm sharing some of my most recent and raw inner work 🌪️ — specifically, a powerful metaphor that came through during deep shadow work. Imagine your consciousness like a huge mansion 🏰 with countless rooms, each built around different beliefs we've picked up — many from childhood, religion, or past trauma. Some of those rooms? Super painful 😞. Some? Brand new and filled with self-trust, joy, sisterhood, love, and abundance 🌷🌟. And what I’m realizing is: we don’t have to stay trapped in the rooms we didn’t consciously build. We get to create NEW rooms. New realities. Whole new wings of our inner mansion that feel like home. 🏡💗 PLUS — I share all the exciting details of what's launching in the Stay or Go Community: 🎉 Camp NVC (Nonviolent Communication)! 🌞🏕️ This summer camp is unlike anything we’ve done before — full of fun, healing, connection, and practical tools to help you communicate with more clarity, vulnerability, and power 🔥🗣️. If you’re ready to not just listen but actually do the work this summer — to build those new rooms inside yourself and connect with your sisters 💕 — Camp NVC is waiting for you. 🏕️✨ And of course, thank you to every single one of you who has rated, reviewed, and shared this podcast 🙏💖 — your support is literally helping other women find these resources when they need them most. I can't wait to see so many of you at camp this summer — and remember: you do not have to stay in the rooms you were handed. You get to build your own. 🗝️✨ Show Notes: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Continuing the Conversation: What Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown Brought Up With Guest Quinn Otrera | 27 May 2025 | 01:49:35 | |
Episode 59: Wow y’all… this one is a wild ride. After the energy of being on Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown, Quinn and I just had to circle back. You know those moments when you’re like, “Wait! I wasn’t done!”—yeah, this episode is all that and more. 😅✨ We’re diving into the real talk that didn’t get airtime—reading through your 🔥comments, confronting trolls 🧌, and expanding the convo on divorce, identity, and the emotional minefield that women walk when considering leaving a marriage. We talk about the empathetic Achilles heel that keeps so many women stuck, the grief of leaving—and staying—and why “just lower your expectations” is NOT the move (no, thank you! 🙅♀️). From the ways society tells us to shrink and submit, to reclaiming our main character energy 💃🏽, this episode is all about being deeply, soulfully YOU in a world that often asks you to disappear. Whether you're in a small town with zero support or deep in your own freeze response, you're not alone. We’re here to talk it through—with truth, tears, laughter, and that fierce compassion I know you’re craving. 🧡 ⚡️We cover:
This one is messy, raw, and rich with truth. And babe, if you’re feeling that “I can’t keep going like this” vibe… hit play. 🎧 You're not alone—and you're more powerful than you know. 💥 Show Notes: Relationship Expert: You’re Not Lost — You’ve Been Programmed to Fail - Mayim Bialik's Breakdown From Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond - Apple From Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond - Spotify From Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond - YouTube To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Behind the Scenes: Nerves, Doubt, and a Secret I’ve Been Dying to Share | 20 May 2025 | 00:23:05 | |
Episode 58: Oh y’all… this episode is straight from my still buzzing heart 💓 because I just got done recording with Mayim Bialik and Jonathan Cohen for the Mayim Bialik's Breakdown podcast!! 😱✨ Yes. THAT one. It was magical, it was real, and it was absolutely a moment I’ll never forget. So naturally, I had to jump on the mic and share the aftermath glow with all of you—while still in my podcast outfit, no less! 😄🎧 In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of how this incredible opportunity unfolded (spoiler alert: divine timing + deep soul alignment), and also sharing the very real emotional journey that came with it—hello imposter syndrome, vulnerability, and the voice of that old Mormon girl who was taught to stay small. 😮💨🙏 But here's the magic: this episode isn’t just about me—it’s about us. It's about what happens when we say yes to our truth, even when our voice shakes. It’s a celebration of growth, of all the tiny moments that led to this big one, and a reminder that you too are worthy of being heard 📢💖. If you’ve ever wondered if your inner voice matters, if you’re really ready, or if your healing is actually “working”... this one’s for you. 🫶 So come vibe with me, celebrate, reflect, and maybe journal with this question: What part of me is ready to be heard—even if it shakes? 💭🖊️ P.S. The episode with Mayim drops this week, so keep your eyes on my IG (@consideringdivorce) and FB for the big announcement! 🚨🎉 Show Notes: Mayim Bialik's Breakdown on YouTube Mayim Bialik's Breakdown on Apple Podcast Mayim Bialik's Breakdown on Spotify To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Your Body Knows: Discerning and Speaking Your Truth with Carmina Becerra | 13 May 2025 | 01:34:40 | |
Episode 57: Hey loves 💕—this one is a powerhouse episode that’s been a long time in the making! I finally get to sit down with the incredible Carmina Becerra (activating your voice coach, truth-teller, and all-around force of nature 🌪️🔥). This conversation is deeply personal for both of us, and I want to lovingly name upfront—it’s got a LOT of Go energy in it. For those of you still in the Stay phase, I see you, I honor you, and your path is just as sacred. 🌿 Please take what serves you and leave the rest, knowing I’ll have more conversations directly speaking to your experience soon. Carmina takes us on a raw, courageous journey through her marriage to a fellow facilitator and TV host—how what looked like the perfect power couple from the outside became a story of losing herself in order to keep the peace, dimming her own radiance to protect his insecurities, and ultimately, the wild, painful, and liberating path of choosing herself again. We talk about: ✨ How she lost—and reclaimed—her voice inside her marriage. ✨ The lie so many of us buy that we can "love someone enough" to do the work for them (spoiler: we can’t). ✨ Why divorce can sometimes be the most compassionate choice for both people. ✨ Somatic tools to help you access your inner knowing when your mind is spinning in stories. ✨ The delicious freedom and fullness waiting on the other side of bravery. 💡 And loves, if you’ve ever found yourself making yourself small to keep the peace, or waiting for a partner to rise with you while you’re stuck in the blender of survival mode—I want you to know: there is another way. You are allowed to be fully you. To shine bright AF. To take up all the damn space. 💃🔥 This is one of those episodes where I had chills the entire time. I know it’s going to resonate deeply for so many of you navigating that edge between love, loyalty, and self-abandonment. You do NOT have to choose between your truth and love. 💗 There are partners (and communities!) who will celebrate all of you. Come soak up Carmina’s potent medicine. And if you’re craving more, she’s leading a workshop in our community this month AND has a gorgeous retreat coming up in Mexico that I cannot recommend enough. 🌸🎉 Let's go, loves. Let’s stop managing everyone else’s feelings and start choosing ourselves. 👑 Show Notes: Free Your Voice Online Program To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Feeling Lost While Considering Divorce? Use this Bi-Weekly Ritual to Ground Yourself | 06 May 2025 | 00:22:15 | |
Episode 56: Hey my beautiful loves! 💖 In today’s episode, I’m pulling us back into a softer, more mystical vibe 🌙 — one that feels like curling up with a cozy blanket for your soul. After some heavier episodes, I was aching to share the deeper practices that have truly carried me through all the ups and downs of my journey. 💫 I'm inviting you into one of my absolute favorite rituals — my New Moon and Full Moon Inner Quest spread 🌑🌕, inspired by the Pattern app and the Wild Unknown Oracle deck by Kim Krans (seriously, y'all, her art is pure magic 🎨🖤). This isn't just a "pull a card and move on" practice — it's a two-week journey with your soul, rooted in art, intuition, and divine connection. 🦋 I'll walk you through how I use these spreads to stay anchored during even the messiest times 🌊, how the archetypes and energies guide me (hello, Venom card 🐍), and why creating a visual, mystical connection with your growth is one of the yummiest gifts you can give yourself. 🎁 If you've been craving more grounding, intention, and a little more woo magic 🔮✨ in your life — this one's for you, sis. Let’s make the journey yummier together. 💖 Don't forget to DM me and send me pics of your spreads 🃏🧡 — you know I'd die to see them!! Sending you so much love, magic, and maybe a few new decks or crystals from your next shopping trip! 😉💎 Show Notes: The Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck by Kim Krans The Hero’s Journey Dream Oracle Deck by Kelly Sullivan Walden To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Why Letting Go Feels Impossible (Even if You Know It's Right) | 29 Apr 2025 | 00:42:56 | |
Episode 55: Hey my loves 💕 This week, we’re keeping things punchy and powerful as I break down something I see all the time in my community and my coaching sessions—when you know a relationship isn’t right for you, but you just can’t seem to leave. Whether it's your spouse, your affair partner, or both, this episode is a loving and truth-filled deep dive into the real reasons why letting go feels impossible. (Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re broken, weak, or indecisive. It’s your nervous system, babe. It’s trauma. It’s biology. And it's very real. 😮💨) I’m walking you through the 4 biggest reasons that might be keeping you stuck and offering tangible tools for working through each one—including somatic practices, nervous system support, and some beautiful reparenting work. And yes, this one goes out especially to my affair girlies 💋 who are feeling deep connection and deep confusion. You're not alone. You're not crazy. You're just wired for connection—and we’re going to talk about how to gently untangle those wires and come back home to YOU. 💫 If you’ve been layering on shame because you know you should leave but your body won’t cooperate, this is your episode. This is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself and start understanding yourself. 🌿💗 Let’s reframe “letting go” as a process—not a lightning bolt moment. You are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be. Show Notes: Attached - Amir Levine Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma - Pete Walker Breathwork - Allison Alexander's Website To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| When the World Feels Unsafe | 22 Apr 2025 | 00:35:28 | |
Episode 54: Whoa 😮💨 this episode came in hot, y’all. It was not the one I had planned—but sometimes the universe throws something at you that cracks your heart open in just the right way, and you’ve got to go with it. 💥 So today, I'm taking you inside a real-time nervous system ride—from receiving a message in my DMs that hit me right in my childhood wounds, to processing an emotional flashback, and coming out the other side feeling grounded and so connected to my purpose. 💫 This one’s for every woman who’s been told she’s too much, too slow, too sensitive, too anything… and showed up anyway. 🙋♀️ I walk you through how I handled that CPTSD moment, what I really think about patriarchal standards of efficiency, and how our current political climate in the U.S. is activating all the old stuff for so many of us. We talk about what it’s like to question your path when everything feels uncertain, and why staying human—with humor, music, and dance parties—is a radical act of resistance. 💃🕯️ I’m sharing a gorgeous list from Paul Shattuck called “80 Tiny Moves for Everyday Resistance,” and how I'm using it to reclaim my energy and purpose. You’ll hear some of my fave tips (like wearing something meaningful or creating a playlist that reminds you who you are 🎶), and how even the smallest acts can reconnect us to our power. Whether you're leaning toward staying or going, this episode is a reminder that this work matters—and you are so not alone. 💖 Come breathe with me, laugh with me, maybe cry with me a little too. We’re in this together, babes. Show Notes: The Harms Are Cumulative. Your Overwhelm Is the Goal. Let’s Get Unstuck - Paul T Shattuck, MSW, PhD Stay Human: 80 Tiny Moves for Everyday Resistance in the Authoritarian Harm Complex - Paul T Shattuck, MSW, PhD To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Stop Settling: What A Great Marriage Actually Looks Like | 15 Apr 2025 | 01:18:31 | |
Episode 53: Hey y’all 💛 I am beyond excited to share this juicy episode with you because we are going all in on a topic I feel SO passionate about—what actually makes a marriage GREAT. Not “fine,” not “meh,” not “just surviving”—but truly great. ✨ In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own love story 💕, share how my definition of a great marriage has radically changed, and break down what I believe is actually required for a deeply connected, life-giving relationship. We're diving into: 💡 Why emotional adulthood is non-negotiable 🛡️ What it means to be a “secure base” for each other 🧠 How trauma, codependency, and attachment styles affect our marriages 📉 Common myths we’ve all been fed (like “staying no matter what” equals success—nope!) 🔥 The difference between surviving a marriage vs. thriving in one PLUS—I spill the tea on the real work my partner Joe and I have done to build the kind of connection I used to dream about 🌈. This episode is a rallying cry to stop settling, start being radically honest with yourself, and dream bigger when it comes to love. You deserve a relationship that helps you soar—not one that holds you back. 💻 Don’t forget to check the show notes for links to my newly refreshed website (hello, branding glow-up!), past episodes that connect with this one, and where to watch the pod on YouTube (yes, VIDEO is here! 🎥). 🧠💗🔥 This one’s a game changer. Let it land. Come back to it. And most of all—know that you’re worthy of a love that feels like home. Show Notes: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love - Amir Levine YouTube Episodes That Relate: Episode 4: The 50-Year Marriage Myth 💍 | Time Doesn’t Equal Success Episode 7: Guilt Is Keeping You Stuck—Here’s How to Break Free Episode 12: Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Change Everything Episode 16: True Love or Trauma Bond? How to Tell the Difference 💛 To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Considering Divorce? Your Check Engine Light Is ON: Don’t Wait for the Breakdown | 12 Aug 2025 | 01:37:55 | |
Episode 70: Hey babe 💛—whether you’re out walking, driving, curled up in bed, this one’s for you. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing the story of my own “roadside test” last week—when my middle son broke his arm at football practice—and the big wake-up it gave me about what happens when we ignore the check engine lights in our lives. 🚨 From cars to life to marriages, those little warning lights are trying to tell us something… and pretending they’re not there doesn’t make them go away. We’re talking: 💪 Why it’s time to stop waiting for the breakdown before we take action. This is part rallying cry, part heart-to-heart, and part practical “get under the hood” moment. You’ll walk away with a loving push to handle what’s asking for your attention—so that when life throws the next roadside test at you, you’re not running on fumes. So, deep breath, big girl panties (or not—your choice, babe 😏), and let’s get into it. You’ve got this. 💛 Show Notes: Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| The Sex Talk You Were Never Supposed to Hear With Quinn Otrera | 08 Apr 2025 | 01:41:33 | |
Episode 52:🔥 Buckle up, babes! In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m teaming up with my soul sister Quinn for a full-on, no-holds-barred intimacy chat. We're diving DEEP into the orgasm gap, the tragedy of hetero sex myths, and what it really means to reclaim your body and your pleasure—especially after divorce. 💦 We’re pulling back the curtain on everything we were never taught to talk about—from painful sex and religious shame to mind-blowing orgasms and the freedom that comes with saying “I deserve more.” 💥 This one’s juicy, unfiltered, and straight from the heart—and yes, the fireworks were literally going off in the background. 🎆 (You’ll see what I mean! 😂) Whether you're considering leaving your marriage, already divorced, or just feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, this conversation is a permission slip to put YOUR desires at the center. 💖 We talk: ✨ The orgasm gap (and why it’s so damn real) ✨ What makes sex worth having (spoiler: it’s not a hard dick) ✨ Religious and cultural programming that’s kept us silent ✨ The power of community in healing and reclaiming pleasure ✨ And why post-divorce sex can be the best sex of your life 🙌 This is the sex talk we all deserved but never got. You ready? Let’s go. 💋 Show Notes: The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera Vitamin O: Get Yourself Off, Get Your Life Back - The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward Vitamin O: Why Orgasms are Vital to a Woman's Health and Happiness, and How to Have Them Every Time! - Natasha Janina Valdez Do Straight Women Really Exist? - The Cut Maria - Dua Lipa To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Put Your Oxygen Mask on First: Why Supporting Yourself Comes Before Others | 01 Apr 2025 | 01:11:52 | |
Episode 51: Buckle up, babe—this episode is a straight-up download from the universe ✨ and I am OBSESSED with what came through. Today, we’re diving deep into something so many of us as women struggle with: putting everyone else first…and losing ourselves in the process 💔. I’m unpacking why you’ve got to put your oxygen mask on first 🛑✈️ before trying to change the blueprint for your kids, your marriage, your mama, or anyone else. Through powerful client stories, my own raw truth (including a super emotional share about my oldest son 💔), and real-time realizations, we’re exposing how unprocessed trauma—ours and others’—quietly hijacks our present-day decisions. And the kicker? Most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. We're talking inner child healing, boundaries with moms who “mean well,” and why over-functioning is NOT the badge of honor we think it is. By the end of this, I hope you’ll feel deeply seen, wildly empowered, and reminded that you are allowed to prioritize yourself without guilt. Actually—scratch that—you must. Show Notes: No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Untamed - Glennon Doyle To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| You Can’t Logic Your Way Out of a Marriage (And What to Do Instead) | 25 Mar 2025 | 00:52:34 | |
Episode 50: Hey loves! 💕 Oof, what a week. Between spring break chaos and some big personal shifts (more on that later 😘), I feel like I time-traveled and landed back in my body just in time to record this super juicy episode. And let me tell you—it’s a goooood one. 🔥 If your brain is in total overdrive trying to figure out whether you should stay or go, this episode is for you. I’m diving deep into why over-relying on logic might be the very thing keeping you stuck. 😩🧠 Because sis, your brain isn’t neutral—it’s been programmed by culture, patriarchy, trauma, and all the things. So of course it's confused. In this episode, we explore how to tap into your true inner knowing—your soul compass—and why that matters so much when making life-altering decisions like divorce. And the best part? I’ve got a gorgeous, powerful little gift waiting for you at the end... 🌈🔮 A PDF guide to help you create your very own daily tarot reading tool using ChatGPT. Yup, we’re using AI to access your divine feminine wisdom—how cool is that?! So if you’ve been trying to think your way to clarity, babe, it’s time to try something new. 💫 Breathe. Pause. Tune in. And let’s begin this journey back to you together. And hey, if this episode speaks to your soul, take a moment to pause and let it sink in. Maybe even shoot me a review—it truly means the world. 🌍💗 With so much love, Show Notes: For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Reclaiming Pleasure: A Deep Dive Into Desire & Embodiment with Ranelle Chapman | 18 Mar 2025 | 01:07:40 | |
Episode 49: Ladies, get ready for a deep, juicy, and transformational conversation! This week, I’m bringing on my gorgeous and radiant friend, Ranelle Chapman, a transformational coach and founder of Tantra Maha. 🌿✨ We are diving into something that so many women struggle with but rarely talk about—desire, embodiment, and the power of reconnecting with your body. If you've ever felt disconnected, numb, or like something is missing when it comes to intimacy, this episode is going to be a game changer. Ranelle shares her journey of overcoming shame, healing from trauma, and embracing her full sensual self. 💃💖 We talk about: We also get into the juicy details of tantric practices that can help you feel more alive, turned on, and fully present—not just in the bedroom, but in every aspect of your life. 🌊🌙 Plus, Ranelle is hosting a special workshop inside the Stay or Go Community, where she’ll guide us through deep, embodied practices to awaken our desires and step into our feminine power. Don’t miss out! ✨ Ready to break free from old narratives and embrace your full, radiant self? Tune in now! 🎧💫 🎙 P.S. Don’t forget to text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 if you’re ready to join an amazing group of women supporting each other through this journey of considering divorce! Join now and get in before our amazing workshop with Ranelle Chapman on March 23rd! Show Notes: Text “90Min” to 33777 to schedule a session with me. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Lost in the Divorce Decision? Try This Game-Changing Tool for Clarity | 11 Mar 2025 | 01:06:07 | |
Episode 48: Hey my lovelies! 💛 Let’s get cozy and take a deep breath together because today’s episode is a game-changer. I’m sharing a powerful tool that I created this week—one that has already been giving me massive shifts. And now, I’m passing it on to YOU! 🎉 Here’s the deal: So many of us are just coping—putting out fires, managing chaos, running on fumes. But what if instead of constantly trying to “handle” life, we deeply resourced ourselves so that we didn’t need to cope as much in the first place? 🤯 This shift is EVERYTHING, especially for those of you stuck in the cycle of trying to gain clarity about whether to stay or go in your marriage. In this episode, we’ll break it all down: If you’re tired of feeling exhausted, stuck, and unsure of your next move, this episode is for you. And if you try out this worksheet, I want to hear from you! Drop me an email at decide@stayorgocoaching.com and tell me how it goes—I seriously love hearing from y’all. 💌 Ready to go from coping to thriving? Let’s dive in! 🚀💖 🎧 Listen now, and if you love this episode, don’t forget to rate, review, and share—it means the world to me! 💫 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Why My Power and Politics Are Inseparable—and Yours Might Be Too | 04 Mar 2025 | 00:54:44 | |
Episode 47: I’ve been getting messages asking me to “just talk about divorce” and leave politics out of it. But here’s the truth: personal power is political.🔥 The same fire that helps you leave a suffocating marriage is the fire that makes me speak up. 💥 In this episode, I share my own messy awakening—how I went from staying small to reclaiming my voice. And why I refuse to shrink for anyone. If that hits deep, this one’s for you. Let’s dive in. 🎙️💪🔥 Show Notes: Where Trump policies and Project 2025 proposals match up What To Read Before Donald Trump’s 2025 Address to Congress D.L. Mayfield: Recovering Autonomy After Religious Authoritarian Parenting Post from last week's episode “White Women Need to Focus on White Women.” Powerful Resources for Educating Yourself on Others Experiences Outstanding: A Comedy Revolution Accounts to consider following: https://www.instagram.com/50501movement/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/jesscraven101/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/workingfamilies/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/xavier.ramey/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/thehumanityarchive/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/raytrospectively/ https://www.instagram.com/dasiadoesit/ https://www.instagram.com/thesimpleenvironmentalist/ https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon/ https://www.instagram.com/ezraklein/ https://www.instagram.com/adriennemareebrown/ https://www.instagram.com/everydayactivist.co/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/pattiegonia/ https://www.instagram.com/thebeeandthefox/?g=5 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| The Dream You Inherited vs. The Dream You Create | 25 Feb 2025 | 00:53:23 | |
Episode 46: Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t actually feel like yours? Like maybe the decisions you’ve made—your marriage, your career, your whole damn life—were handed to you rather than chosen by you? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is exactly for you. 💡 Today, I’m diving deep into The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz and unpacking the life-changing concept that so much of what we believe about ourselves isn’t even ours. We’ve been programmed—from childhood, from culture, from religion—to follow a script we never agreed to. And when we start to question it? That’s when the real magic happens. ✨ We’re talking: 🔥 The lies you’ve been taught that keep you stuck in your marriage (and in life) And yes, I’m getting vulnerable as hell about my own journey—how my political and personal evolution has changed everything about how I show up in the world. Next week, I’ll be sharing an episode that dives even deeper into that transformation in honor of the protests happening on March 4th. So, if you’ve ever felt like you’re at war with yourself, if your inner voice is screaming that something isn’t right, or if you just need to hear that you are not crazy for wanting more, then hit play, my love. This episode is for you. 💛 P.S. If this episode speaks to you, share it with another woman in your life who might be feeling stuck in someone else’s dream. And if you haven’t yet, hit that subscribe button and drop a review—it helps so much! 🎧💖 Show Notes: Don't Believe Him - The Ezra Klein Show Ezra Klein - NYT Opinion The Voice of Knowledge - Don Miguel Ruiz The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| “Something Had to Die for More to Be Born” With Guest Allison Alexander | 11 Feb 2025 | 01:13:08 | |
Episode 45: Y’all, this episode is something truly special. I’ve been hinting at it for a while, and the moment is finally here—I’m joined by the incredible Allison Alexander! 🎉 Allison’s story is powerful, raw, and so deeply resonant for anyone who has ever questioned whether to stay or go. She takes us through her journey, from the moment she first felt the whisper that something wasn’t right in her marriage, to the radical self-discovery that followed. Through breathwork, movement, and deep inner work, she found clarity, peace, and ultimately, the courage to choose herself. We talk about: And here’s the best part—Allison is bringing her magic directly to our community with an upcoming breathwork workshop on the 21st of this month! If you’ve been considering joining, now is the time. Because trust me, this is going to be next-level transformative. 🌿✨ 🔗 Join us for the workshop: Text STAYORGOCommunity to 33777 to apply! Also, don’t forget to check out Allison’s work—she offers intuitive coaching, tarot readings, and so much more. Connect with her through the links in the show notes! This episode is a must-listen for anyone craving clarity, embodiment, and deep self-trust. You are worthy of choosing yourself. 💛 Show Notes: Allison Alexander's Instagram The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Divesting Your Energy from Toxic Systems and Relationships | 04 Feb 2025 | 01:15:36 | |
Episode 44: Okay, y’all… this episode has been weighing heavy on my heart, and I need to talk about it today. 💔 A new bill in Oklahoma is trying to repeal no-fault divorce—and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. Christian nationalism is gaining power, pushing laws designed to trap women in unhealthy marriages, and if you think this won’t affect you… think again. But this isn’t just about politics—it’s about power. 💪 The same toxic dynamics playing out on a national level are the exact ones keeping so many of you stuck in marriages where you’re not seen, valued, or free. This episode is a wake-up call to divest your energy from systems that don’t serve you and reinvest it into what actually supports your freedom and well-being. 🚫 We are not going back, and we are not staying silent. 🔥 Tune in, get informed, and let’s start building the communities that will keep us strong—because we’re going to need them. 🔗 I’m linking must-read resources in the show notes—please check them out. And if this episode speaks to you, share it, rate & review, and let’s get this message into the hands of every woman who needs it. 💜✨ Show Notes: Support for Christian Nationalism in All 50 States Article Christian Nationalism Wikipedia How to Challenge Christian Nationalism - Drew Strait Podcast: For Trump’s Evangelicals, the Inconvenient Teachings of Christ Deevers Introduces Slate of Legislation to Restore Moral Sanity in Oklahoma Take it From a Divorce Coach and Attorney: Ending No-Fault Divorce Is a Scary Suggestion A Thousand Little Moments: The Insidious Loss of Women’s Freedom to Christian Nationalism End The Drama With The Empowerment Dynamic The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Why ‘I Love My Husband’ Isn’t Enough: Changing Your Reality Without Empty Affirmations | 28 Jan 2025 | 01:04:11 | |
Episode 43: Hey there, lovely listeners! 💛 This week’s episode is a big one—I’m diving deep into the phrase “Your thoughts create your reality” and unpacking all the nuance behind it. If that statement has ever made you feel overwhelmed, shamed, or even a little stuck, you’re in the right place. 🌀 We’ll explore the emotional traps of shame and spiritual bypassing, and why simply swapping your thoughts for “better” ones doesn’t work. Instead, I’ll walk you through what it really looks like to reclaim your power and transform your beliefs from the ground up. Think of it like tending to a garden—you’ve got to dig up those old roots before planting something new. 🌱🌸 I’ll also share insights into how our subconscious programming shapes so much of our lives and why releasing trauma is the key to truly shifting your reality. If you’ve been feeling stuck, this episode might just be the clarity you need. 💡 As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts—subscribe, rate, and share with someone who needs this! P.S. Don’t forget, you can text “90Min” to 33777 to schedule a session with me. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Why You Give Grace to Everyone but Yourself & the Mindset Shift from Expectation to Exploration | 05 Aug 2025 | 01:20:29 | |
Episode 69: Hey, my loves! 💕 This week’s episode emerged from a comment shared with me by one of my community members and I cannot wait for you to dive into the goodies that came out of it with me. We’re talking about something BIG—moving from an expectation mindset (hello control + perfectionism 👋) into an exploration mindset that gives you SPACE to breathe, play, and actually be human. 🌱 So many of us, especially as women, are living under crushing double standards. We give everyone else so much grace—our kids, our partners, even strangers—yet hold ourselves to impossibly high bars. And when we dig deeper, we see how this is rooted in childhood trauma, cultural programming, and patriarchal BS. 🙅♀️ I’m going to share: This episode is part pep talk, part permission slip, and 100% your reminder that you were never meant to be perfect—you were meant to BECOME. 💫 Grab your headphones, take a deep breath, and let’s reclaim that juicy, curious, messy, ALIVE version of you. You deserve this. ❤️ Show Notes: The Man Music Video - Taylor Swift Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion - Gabrielle Stanley Blair The Crane Wife - CJ Hauser The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships - Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Three Life-Changing Concepts for Your Considering Divorce Journey | 21 Jan 2025 | 00:58:50 | |
Episode 42: Oh, y’all, this episode is buzzing with energy because I’m back in my flow! 🌊 After a few weeks of slowing down and leaning into the ebb, I’m here to share what it feels like to embrace the natural rhythms of life—and how that can completely transform the way you approach challenges like divorce or deep personal decisions. 💫 This week, I’m diving into three foundational principles that have been life-changing for me and my clients: We’re going deep, so you may want to listen to this one twice! 🎧 Next week, I’ll break down actionable steps to shift your vibration and start creating the life you want, but for now, this episode sets the stage with powerful insights and inspiration. Remember, my loves, the flow always returns after the ebb. 🌺 Let’s lean into the divine feminine and trust the journey together. 🎙 P.S. Don’t forget to text 90Min to 33777 if you’re ready to book a transformative 90-minute session with me. Let’s create the shift you’ve been waiting for. ✨ The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| When the Pain Feels Too Big: Navigating Depression and Connection | 14 Jan 2025 | 01:26:41 | |
#41: Hey there, loves. This week’s episode is raw, real, and deeply personal 💔. I’m diving into something I’m currently in the thick of—navigating the waves of depression through the lens of complex PTSD and the abandonment depression cycle, inspired by Pete Walker’s incredible book. I share how a tough week with my oldest son has brought up layers of emotional triggers that connect back to deep childhood wounds. Together, we’ll explore what this cycle looks like—emotional flashbacks, spiraling shame, inner critics—and, most importantly, tools for working through it. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt overwhelmed by emotions that seem so much bigger than the moment in front of them. It’s a reminder that healing isn’t linear, but it’s worth every step. 🌱 We also talk about the connection between parenting and our own inner child, and how facing the hard stuff can unlock profound growth—both for ourselves and our relationships. It’s messy, it’s real, but there’s beauty in it, too. Grab your favorite cozy spot, and let’s walk through this together. You’re not alone—I promise you that. 💛 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| There Is a Better Way: Reclaiming Women’s Desires and Soul Calls in 2025 | 07 Jan 2025 | 00:50:37 | |
#40: Welcome to the first episode of 2025, y’all! 🎉 I’m already obsessed with this year. In this episode, I’m reflecting on the magic of 2024—the year that showed me just how life-changing healthy, secure relationships can be. 💖 From deep personal growth to experiencing what it’s like to truly thrive in love and partnership, last year was a game-changer. And yes, I’m spilling all the details, including my rom-com-worthy New Year’s Eve moment. 🥰✨ But this isn’t just about me—it’s about what’s possible for you. I want this episode to be a reminder that life can get better than you can imagine right now. Five years ago, I couldn’t have dreamed of being where I am today, and that’s the hope I want to share with you. Plus, I’m kicking off the new year with three tools to help you reconnect with the deepest parts of yourself—books, resources, and even a tool to make sense of your dreams. Because, my loves, this is your year to step into your power and create a life that honors your desires. 🌟 Let’s make 2025 a year of big, bold, beautiful growth—together. 💪💫 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Why Your Timeline Is Perfect: Reframing Divorce Decisions for the New Year | 31 Dec 2024 | 01:02:16 | |
#39: ✨ Hey, beautiful souls! As we stand on the threshold of a brand-new year, this episode is your heartfelt invitation to pause, reflect, and exhale. 🧘♀️ Together, we’ll unpack some of the sneaky feelings that tend to creep in around this time—like frustration with your timeline, shame about where you think you "should" be, or the endless loop of comparison to others. I’m sharing a transformative tool I’ve been loving lately, inspired by 10x Is Easier Than 2X, to help you reframe your perspective and celebrate your progress instead of focusing on what feels missing. 💡 Plus, I’ll sprinkle in some fun, soulful resources—because stepping into 2025 should feel expansive and magical. 🎇 And can we take a moment to celebrate this podcast’s incredible first year? From over 2,230 recorded minutes to being listened to in 110+ countries, I am in awe of this journey and all of YOU for being part of it. 💖 Let’s make 2025 a year of softer beginnings, lighter hearts, and deeper self-connection. 🌟 Ready to honor where you are and trust the timing of your journey? This one’s for you. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| When Staying Feels Wrong: Trusting Your Intuition Over His Efforts | 24 Dec 2024 | 01:27:51 | |
Episode 38: Have you ever wondered, If he’s trying so hard now, why don’t I feel like staying? You’re not alone, my loves. In this fiery and truth-packed episode, I tackle one of the most confusing and emotionally draining dynamics I see in women considering divorce: when your partner suddenly does a complete 180—but your heart and body still say, “No.” ❤️🩹 Together, we’ll explore the emotional rollercoaster of guilt, relief, and self-doubt, uncovering why his efforts might feel too little, too late. I’ll break down the spectrum of relationships, from the truly toxic to those that look good on paper but lack the deep connection you deserve. Most importantly, I’ll show you how to stop silencing your intuition and start trusting your values and priorities for your life. This isn’t about whether he’s changing; it’s about whether the relationship aligns with the real you. 💪✨ If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the merry-go-round of confusion, guilt, and misplaced responsibility, this episode is your guide to clarity and courage. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| The Stay or Go Community | 17 Dec 2024 | 01:28:13 | |
Episode 37: 🎉 Today’s episode is a heartfelt, behind-the-scenes dive into something truly special I’ve been building—a space that’s more than a community; it’s a movement. I’m peeling back the curtain to share the vision, the energy, and the life-changing experiences inside The Stay or Go Community. 🌟 From the courage to embrace your bigness to finding joy and support while navigating one of life’s hardest decisions, this episode is all about creating a revolutionary sisterhood for women like you. 💪✨ Whether you’re just starting to wonder if divorce is the right path or you’re ready to redefine what’s possible for your future, this space is designed to empower and celebrate your journey. I’m sharing why this community is so unique, the tools and support you’ll find here, and why considering divorce doesn’t have to mean going it alone. 💕 Together, we’re breaking generational cycles, rewriting the narrative around divorce, and building lives that feel unapologetically ours. 🎙️ Join me to hear all the juicy details, the personal reflections, and why applications to this space are officially opening for YOU today! 🎉 Let’s create a life that’s not just aligned but radiant. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| The Bold Vision: Expanding the Stay or Go Mission and Impact for 2025 | 10 Dec 2024 | 00:47:32 | |
Episode 36: Hey, y’all! 🙋♀️ Today’s episode is a heart-to-heart about evolution, intuition, and embracing where our soul is calling us. ✨ I dive into the big shifts happening in my work and vision for the Stay or Go community, along with how listening to your inner voice transforms not just your decisions but your entire life. 💪 I share what led me to this moment—from reflections on trauma healing, trusting the soul over fear, and finding clarity on how I can best serve YOU. Spoiler: the podcast and the community are where it’s at! 🎙️🌟 We’ll talk about making brave leaps, living in alignment with your desires (not scarcity), and what it truly means to shift from “What do I need?” to “What do I most want?” 💭💖 Plus, I’ll tease some exciting changes and projects ahead for 2025, including deeper podcast content, retreats, and new offerings. This episode is all about building a life that makes you say, “Holy shit, I LIVED!” 🤩 Whether you’re on the brink of a big decision or ready to expand your vision for the future, this one’s for you. 💕 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| From Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond | 03 Dec 2024 | 01:08:05 | |
Episode 35: Hello, hello, y’all! 🌟 I am beyond thrilled to bring you today’s episode—this one is truly special. I finally got to sit down with Stephanie, a woman I had the honor of coaching through one of the hardest decisions of her life. In this heartfelt conversation, she bravely shares her journey: from navigating the darkest moments of her marriage to slowly, deliberately building a life she loves after divorce. Stephanie’s story is raw, real, and oh-so-inspiring. We talk about everything—from what it’s like to be a stay-at-home mom with five kids to finding her voice and ultimately stepping into her own power. 💪 She also opens up about the emotional complexity of her journey, including moments of guilt, resilience, and discovering that the grass is greener when you water it yourself. 🌱 Whether you’re in the thick of considering divorce, feeling stuck in the “how,” or just need a dose of empowerment, this episode is a must-listen. Plus, Stephanie’s reflections on life post-divorce (including finding love again! 😍) will leave you feeling hopeful and energized. 🎧 So grab your favorite drink, find a cozy spot, and join us for this powerful episode. Let Stephanie’s story remind you that transformation is possible, one small step at a time. 💛 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Following the Call of Fear Into Your Brilliance | 26 Nov 2024 | 00:55:08 | |
Episode 34: Hey loves! This week, we’re wrapping up a month-long theme in the community that has been absolutely transformational: Dancing with Fear. 💃✨ While we often view fear as something to avoid, I’m inviting you to see it as a sacred signal—a call to grow, expand, and step into your brilliance. This episode is packed with insights from my own journey, community breakthroughs, and powerful tools to shift your relationship with fear. We’ll dive into: Whether you’re staring down the fear of the unknown in your marriage or learning to trust yourself again, this episode will inspire you to see fear as a catalyst, not a cage. Trust me, there’s a path forward—you just need the courage to step into it. 💖 Listen, reflect, and remember: you’ve been doing this dance for longer than you realize. You are already braver than you think. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Election Results 2024: A Pause for Grieving and Holding Each Other in the Face of Oppression | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:39:50 | |
Episode 33: Hey love — this one’s tender. 💔 After a week full of big feelings, I’m inviting you into a much-needed pause. The 2024 election stirred so much grief, rage, and reflection on what it means to live in a world still shaped by patriarchy 🌍🔥. If your nervous system feels fried or your heart feels heavy, please know: you're not alone. 💞 In this episode, we’re talking about the radical power of rest 😴💪. How choosing stillness in the face of chaos isn’t weakness — it’s strength. It’s protest. It’s survival. Sometimes, the most revolutionary thing you can do is stop, feel, and breathe. 🌬️🌙 ✨ What we explore:
So grab a blanket, light a candle 🕯️, and come sit with me in this gentle space. Let’s remember together that even when the world feels like too much, you are allowed to rest. You are allowed to feel it all. You are still whole. With deep love, fierce truth, and soft strength, Show Notes: The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned: How to Detox From Your Favorite Drug: Control | 29 Jul 2025 | 01:09:09 | |
Episode 68: Hello, my loves! 💕 This week, I’m coming to you straight from the messy middle—yep, that foggy, disorienting space where life says, “LOL, nope!” to all your perfectly laid plans. 😅 If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “How the hell did I end up here?” or if you’re navigating the collapsing scaffolding of a life you thought was secure (hello, divorce consideration crew 🙋♀️), this episode is for YOU. We’re talking about: I’m sharing my own real-time journey of uncertainty, grief, and yes… hope. 💫 If you’re in the in-between right now, feeling like you’re free-falling without a net, please know you are not alone. There is refuge. There is magic ahead. And spoiler alert: the magic always comes when we lean into trust. 💖 Take a deep breath with me. You are safe in this moment. Let’s walk this unknown road together. 🌈 Show Notes: Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Dancing With Fear: 3 Tips to Help You Get Unstuck and Take the Next Right Step | 05 Nov 2024 | 01:10:46 | |
Episode 32: Hey beautiful souls! 💫 Imagine this: Texas skies moody and foggy 🌫️, setting the scene for some deep truth-telling. In this episode, I’m not avoiding fear—I’m inviting it in for a dance. If you’re on the edge of a big decision—like whether to stay or go in your marriage—fear can feel paralyzing. But what if fear isn’t the villain? What if it’s your greatest teacher? I’m sharing 3 powerful tips to help you:
This episode is real, raw, and packed with heart. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself and ready to trust your own knowing again—this one’s for you. Let’s stop freezing in fear and start moving with it—boldly, bravely, beautifully. You’ve got this, babe. 💖 With fierce love and steady trust, Show Notes: Existential Kink - Carolyn Lovewell Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving - Pete Walker alex@stayorgocoaching.com - Waitlist for community The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Kids and Divorce - Part 2: Post-divorce Outcomes (With Quinn Otrera From the Post-divorce Glow-up Show) | 22 Oct 2024 | 02:04:03 | |
Episode 31: Hey loves!! 💕 Grab a cozy blanket 🧣, light a candle 🕯️, and let’s dive into the juicy, raw, realness of what comes after divorce with my bestie Quinn from the Post‑Divorce Glow‑Up Show 🎧💫 In this heart-filled convo, we’re unpacking all the layers of life post-divorce — from identity shifts 🌪️ to parenting pivots 👩👧👦, new love ❤️ to career clarity 💼🌟. 💬 In this episode, we chat about: 🌋 That chaotic “crisis period” — the first 1–2 years when everything feels like it’s falling apart You’ll laugh 😂, maybe cry 😭, and definitely feel seen 👁️. Whether you're in the thick of the transition or a few steps ahead, this episode is packed with hope 💓, truth bombs 💥, and that empowering reminder that you are not broken — you're becoming. 🦋 So take a breath 🌬️, turn the volume up 🔊, and let’s walk this path together — with honesty, humor, and hell yes energy. 💃💪 Sending you so much love, grace, and glitter for the road ahead 💖🌟✨
This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life - Lyz Lenz The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Kids & Divorce - Part 1: Disadvantages and Benefits (With Quinn Otrera from The Post-Divorce Glow-up Show) | 15 Oct 2024 | 01:54:11 | |
Episode 30: Hey loves! Grab a cozy blanket, a warm cup, and settle in—because this episode is a soul‑to‑soul chat I’m having with my bestie, Quinn Otrera (yes, that Quinn from The Post‑Divorce Glow‑Up Show podcast). We’re unpacking the question that crushes so many hearts: Will divorce ruin my kids’ lives? 💔👶 What We’re Diving Into:
Why You NEED to Hear This: If you’re sitting with that fear of hurting your kids by choosing divorce, this episode is your permission slip to walk gently into that fear—without shame, without pretending you’re unbreakable. You’ll hear from two real women who still wrestle with the unknown—and still believe in the strength of the heart. Lean In With Us: This is Part 1 of our series, and it’s just the beginning of unpacking the sacred and shadowy truths of parenting through splits, healing through transitions, and thriving despite broken expectations. So let me love on you through this episode. Let’s collect the whispers of hard-won grace and hope together. With heart-full stories, fierce compassion, and radical hope— Show Notes: The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| How Your Journey Through Considering Divorce Teaches Resilience for Every Chapter Ahead | 11 Oct 2024 | 01:41:17 | |
Episode 29: Hey loves! 💖 Whew... this week has been a whole vibe 🔥 and not the chill kind. If life feels like it’s tossing you around in the emotional spin cycle — whether you’re considering divorce, navigating big shifts, or just trying to keep your head above water — you are SO not alone. 💫🌊 ✨ In this episode, I’m opening up about: I’m sharing raw moments (yes, even as a coach I’m still in this with you 😅) and what it means to ride the waves instead of letting them drown you. 🌊✨ 💭 This episode is your gentle reminder: So take a deep breath with me 🌬️, grab your cozy blanket 🧣, light a candle 🕯️, and let’s hold space for all that’s swirling. You are powerful, even in the storm. You are steady, even when everything feels shaky. And babe — you're evolving in real-time. 🌟 Sending you so much love, fierce support, and an anchor of calm in this wild ride 💓🌙🪷 With you always, Britta 💕 Show Notes: Braving the Wilderness - Brene Brown The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Releasing the Fear of Making a Wrong Decision | 24 Sep 2024 | 01:09:30 | |
Episode 28: Hey loves! This episode feels like a warm hug to your worried heart. Have you ever hesitated because you feared screwing it all up? I’ve been there—and so many times, the only reason we don’t move is cooling fear… not our reality. 🌸 I share how stepping into a new relationship changed not just my love life but my whole experience of motherhood. That move wasn’t neat, graceful, or planned—it was wildly imperfect, deeply real, and totally worth it. It reminded me that when we release fear, life gives us space to bloom. 🌱 What We’re Opening Into Today:
You might be here because something’s tipping. Maybe you’re stalled. Maybe you’re afraid of regret. Maybe no one else gets why this choice matters deeply to you. This episode is your reminder: You get to move even if it’s messy. You can feel scared and brave. You can trust yourself. And if it all goes sideways? You’ll still learn, grow, and land in more alignment than standing still ever gave you. Take a breath, beautiful soul. Let’s lean into this moment together. The fog lifts when we decide—messy, wild, real—all of you, stepping into your path. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Trusting the Timing of Your Journey in Divorce Decisions | 17 Sep 2024 | 00:59:02 | |
Episode 27: Hey loves! If your heart is full of big questions—“Should I stay or go? Am I missing my moment?”—this episode is your cozy blanket of permission to pause and feel. Processing your story gently is not wasted time. It’s sacred space, and you deserve every moment of it. 🌿✨ I share a deeply personal moment from my life—knowing in my gut that divorce was coming fully a year before I filed. That wasn’t months of confusion—it was a soft landing drawn with healing, growth, courage, and grace. It was preparation, not delay. And I’m so grateful for that quiet unfolding. 🌱💪 Also, I’ll tell you about the brunch I canceled on a whim … that led me into the most unexpectedly magical evening. Those spontaneous turns? They remind us that missing what wasn’t meant for us opens the door to what’s waiting. 🌙💫 What we’ll dive into together:
Sweet soul, you are uncannily on time. Life isn’t a to-do list—it’s a sacred unfolding. You don’t need to sprint forward—you just need to come home to your heart. Let’s breathe into that truth together. Take this episode, lean back, breathe deep, and let love guide your pace. You’re not late—you’re being cultivated. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| My Life Post-Divorce: Better Than I Ever Imagined | 03 Sep 2024 | 01:43:13 | |
Episode 26: Hey there, beautiful souls! 🌟 In this episode, I’m sharing the powerful transformation I’ve experienced since my divorce—from fear and uncertainty to a life filled with joy, freedom, and deep connection. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Embracing Anger as a Catalyst for Change (With Quinn Otrera from the Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show) | 27 Aug 2024 | 01:21:45 | |
Episode 25: Hey loves! 💛 Ever notice how angry can sound scary or shameful—like it’s the villain in our emotional lineup? Especially when we’re facing big decisions like divorce, we’re taught to swallow it, hide it, feel guilty about feeling it, or even worry it’ll push us into doing something regretful. Guess what? That’s a load of BS—and Quinn and I are here to lovingly dismantle the shame around anger and show you how it can actually be one of the most powerful signposts on your path to freedom. 🚀🔥 What’s Inside This Episode (That Feels Like a Soft Hug)
You’ve been led to believe anger is ungraceful, unsafe, undesirable. But here’s the radical truth: it’s your voice calling you home. Home to your boundaries. Home to your truth. Home to your power. So ease in, put the headphones on, and let’s reframe anger together—not as a curse, but as a birthright of the passionate, fiercely compassionate woman you’re becoming. You’re not alone. I’m with you. And Quinn—oh, she understands you, loves you, and is right there with me, holding space. Let’s rise through the rage—and find clarity on the other side. With love, fire, and deep, real tenderness, The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Feel First, Decide Later: Emotions as the Key to Divorce Clarity - Part 2 | 13 Aug 2024 | 00:19:01 | |
Episode 24: Hey loves, in this episode, we’re diving deep into the sacred art of being with our bodies. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed or disconnected, this guided journey will help you ground down, tune in, and just breathe through whatever is coming up for you. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Feel First, Decide Later: Emotions as the Key to Divorce Clarity - Part 1 | 13 Aug 2024 | 00:35:52 | |
Episode 24: Hey loves, it's been a minute since I last recorded, and today's episode is all about getting real and raw. I'm diving deep into the messy, uncertain parts of my own journey—especially around what it means to live a good life, and how to handle all the emotions that come with it. If you're considering divorce, you're really going to connect with this one. The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Permission to Be in Process | 22 Jul 2025 | 00:13:29 | |
Episode 67: Hey loves 💗, This week’s episode is a little different—short, unfiltered, and deeply vulnerable. I hit record right in the middle of my own "tower moment" (yep, for my tarot friends out there, that card 🌩️), where everything feels like it’s crumbling... and I’m letting it. Instead of packaging my process into a neatly wrapped episode with clear takeaways, I’m inviting you into the middle of the mess with me. This is me practicing what I preach—laying down the role of the “one who always holds it together” and learning to surrender to what I can’t control 😮💨💔. If you’re also in a season of uncertainty, fear, or raw transformation, I hope this gives you permission to breathe, to stop fixing, and to just be where you are. Sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is admit we’re not okay... and trust that it’s still enough 💞. I love you all so much. Thanks for being part of this sacred space. May you feel seen, held, and deeply worthy—even in the mess. xo, Britta 💕✨ Show Notes: Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨ Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️ Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| A Love Letter to My Pre-Divorce Self | 23 Jul 2024 | 00:55:46 | |
Episode 23: Hello, beautiful souls! 💖 I’m diving deep in this spontaneous, heart-to-heart episode. Reflecting on nearly five years since my divorce, I share the messy, beautiful roller coaster of emotions I've experienced. 🌈✨ In this heartfelt chat, I open up about:
You'll hear about my recent trip to Vegas, deep connections with loved ones, and a song that encapsulated my feelings, leading to a profound realization. This episode is a call to give yourself the love and compassion you deserve. 🌟 We’ll explore the impact of childhood trauma, emotionally abusive relationships, and the importance of filling ourselves up, not just others. I reflect on living a deeply fulfilling life, understanding complex attachment styles, and building a life where you feel truly safe, loved, and deserving. 🌸 Let's embrace the ups and downs together, knowing every step forward is a triumph. Whether it’s the chaos of a late morning or the joy of creating a better life for our children, it's all part of our healing and growth. So, grab a cozy spot, maybe a cup of tea, and join me on this beautiful, imperfect journey. Remember, it's okay to feel everything—it's what makes us truly alive. 🌟 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Dating After Divorce (With Quinn Otrera from the Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show) | 09 Jul 2024 | 01:37:19 | |
Episode 22: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Affairs Part 2: Five Mistakes Husbands Make When They Find Out & What Women Really Want in Relationship (hint, you'll find it in the ACOTAR series) | 02 Jul 2024 | 01:10:13 | |
Episode 21: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||
| Affairs Part 1: The Pros and Cons | 18 Jun 2024 | 01:19:55 | |
Episode 20: Hello, my lovelies! 💖 The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribe | |||