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2 ~ Eline's full story with chronic pain & illness (CRPS & FND). Part 213 Jan 202600:50:50

The podcast episode continues on where Eline & Marcus left off: right at the second accident. Eline & Marcus delve into the experiences of living with chronic illness, reflecting on past challenges, navigating through hospitalization, new diagnosis and treatment, the impact on daily life, challenges with recovery, taking control of the situation, and finally the way into a new direction towards acceptance.

The conversation provides insights into the complexities and resilience required to navigate life with chronic illness. Eline & Marcus cover the challenges of balancing work and caregiving, the journey of recovery and rehabilitation, the theme of acceptance and a new direction, and the pursuit of personal growth in the face of hardship.

Takeaways

  • Living with chronic illness
  • Navigating life with chronic illness
  • Supportive work environment for the caregiver
  • Challenges of caregiving
  • New directions in the face of hardship

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction to Chronic Illness
  • 06:13 Second Accident and Hospitalization
  • 13:02 Impact on Daily Life
  • 21:27 Taking Control of the Situation
  • 28:32 Recovery and Rehabilitation
  • 42:22 Seeking Personal Growth
1 ~ Eline's full story with chronic pain & illness (CRPS & FND). Part 107 Jan 202600:45:46

The podcast episode delves into the personal journey of Eline, living with chronic pain and illness, covering the challenges, setbacks, and moments of progress. It explores the impact of the accident, hospitalization, surgery, recovery, and the pursuit of a diagnosis. The narrative also touches on the emotional and physical toll of the journey, as well as the resilience and hope for a better future.

Takeaways

  • Living with chronic pain and illness
  • Navigating the challenges of chronic pain and recovery

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction to Chronic Illness Journey
  • 06:12 Hospitalization and Surgery
  • 13:17 Rehabilitation and Progress
  • 19:08 Engagement and New Beginnings
  • 39:26 Return to Rehabilitation and Massive Setback
13 ~ How to talk about your chronic illness without letting the story define you29 May 202600:40:55

This week on The Spoonies Community podcast, Marcus is back and we recorded the day after our 9-year anniversary, which felt like the right energy for a conversation this honest.

We get into something that doesn't get talked about nearly enough in the chronic illness space: how do you actually tell your story to people? Not the watered-down version you give a taxi driver. Not the full version that leaves your nervous system wrecked for days. But the version that's true to your chronic pain experience, that doesn't drag you back into the worst of it every time, and that doesn't accidentally become the thing keeping you stuck.

Because there's a really thin line between sharing your story as part of processing, and becoming the story. And once you cross it without realising, it starts working against your healing.

We talk about why words like "always" and "never" are ones I genuinely never use with my clients. We talk about what happens in your brain when you downplay your chronic illness to make it easier for everyone else. And we get into something I feel strongly about - chronic illness identity. Who are you beyond your diagnosis, your symptoms, your roles? This is something we work on actively inside the Spoonies Community, and it's one of the most quietly powerful shifts a spoonie can make.

This episode also touches on the community doors opening 1–5 June, including the free webinar series "The Missing Piece of Your Healing Journey That Nobody Talks About."

If you've ever felt exhausted by having to explain your chronic pain or illness to people or feel like your condition has quietly taken over how you see yourself — this one is for you.

Takeaways

  • Communication Challenges
  • Choosing the Right Words
  • Cultural differences in communication
  • The importance of community and sharing personal stories

Chapters

  • 00:00 Adapting to Different Scenarios
  • 24:47 Opening the Doors to the Spoonies Community
  • 30:38 Introducing Yourself in Different Settings
  • 37:03 The Importance of Community and the Spoonies Community
12 ~ Why me? Chronic illness & the fear of "this is forever". Rachelle & Saskia (NYAP) explain18 May 202600:56:42

In this episode, I’m joined by Rachelle and Saskia from Not Your Average Psychic to talk about chronic illness, chronic pain, and the question so many of us have asked in the middle of a flare, a diagnosis, or yet another hospital visit: why me?

We talk about the spiritual meaning of pain, and what changes when you stop seeing symptoms as proof that something is “wrong with you” and start seeing them as information. Not in a bypass-y way. Not in a “just think positive” way. But in a grounded way that still makes space for how exhausting it is when you’ve tried everything, you’re scared of change, and part of you is convinced this is just your life now.

We also talk about the fear and resistance that can come up when healing asks you to live differently, and why the goal is not to flip your whole life upside down overnight. Sometimes the most important thing is to lower the threshold and make one new choice your body can actually handle.

We talk about:

  • why “why me?” is such a common chronic illness thought loop
  • the spiritual meaning of pain & pain as a catalyst for change
  • how the labels you use (like “chronic”) can make you feel more trapped
  • how to work with fear and resistance when you’re already exhausted
  • lowering the threshold: making change doable in real life
  • intuition, soul connection & listening to your body’s messages
  • medication, hospitals & the fine line between support and giving away your power
  • why healing needs a tailor-made approach, not “one-size-fits-all”

This episode is for people living with chronic illness or chronic pain who feel stuck in “this is forever,” and who want a perspective that includes the body, emotions, nervous system, and intuition, without pretending it’s easy.


Chapters
00:00 Introduction
02:00 Why pain exists (duality, growth & clarity)
06:20 Pain as a catalyst, not a dead end
09:40 The “hospital loop” & what to do when you feel stuck
14:40 Change, alignment & why healing asks for new choices
17:10 Fear of change when you’re barely holding life together
21:00 Lower the threshold: making change manageable
23:10 Do different symptoms have different meanings?
29:10 Eline’s gut pain story & emotions in the body
35:00 Sensitivity, insecurity & being “different from the herd”
40:20 Pain as soul communication & zooming out of hyperfixation
45:10 Medication, hospitals & keeping your power in the process
53:30 What makes illness “chronic” & softening the label
60:00 Where to find Not Your Average Psychic


Find Rachelle & Saskia here:
Not Your Average Psychic on Instagram + Facebook
https://notyouraveragepsychic.com

If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to leave a review, share it with someone who’s been asking “why me?” too or send me a DM on Instagram.

3 ~ Eline's full story with chronic pain & illness (CRPS & FND). Part 3 (Final)14 Jan 202600:41:34

Eline & Marcus delve into the journey of chronic illness, exploring emotional healing, somatic work, grief, joy, independence, alternative healing, identity, community support, professional growth, and spiritual awakening. It highlights the transformative power of somatic work and the journey to independence, offering hope and inspiration to those facing similar challenges (speaking from Eline's own experience after 2 accidents)

Takeaways

  • Somatic work transformation
  • Journey to independence

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction to Chronic Illness Journey
  • 05:46 Emotional Healing and Acceptance
  • 12:02 Seeking Independence and Space
  • 17:52 Pilates and Identity Journey
  • 23:58 Transition to Spain and Professional Growth
11 ~ Miscarriage grief: when your body is still pregnant but the baby is gone04 May 202600:48:46

In this episode, Marcus and I share our miscarriage story. Trigger warning: miscarriage / pregnancy loss.

We also talk about the years before that. The journey into whether we even wanted children, and how chronic pain, disability, trauma, and caregiving changes the whole conversation around parenthood.

Then we share what about our pregnancy loss and what the miscarriage actually looked like for us. The scan, the limbo. Still feeling nauseous and exhausted while knowing the pregnancy isn’t viable. Then the waiting & the bleeding. The hospital. The D&C. And the grief that hit weeks later, when the world had already moved on.

We talk about:

  • deciding whether to have children when you live with chronic illness / chronic pain
  • miscarriage and early pregnancy loss
  • the limbo after miscarriage (still having pregnancy symptoms)
  • the physical reality: bleeding, clots, hospital care and D&C
  • anxiety, panic and using nervous system tools in medical settings
  • delayed grief, loneliness, and unhelpful comments
  • how partners can process pregnancy loss differently
  • fear, closure, and trying again after miscarriage

This episode is for anyone who’s been through miscarriage or pregnancy loss, anyone trying to conceive after loss, and anyone navigating the question of having children while living with chronic illness.


Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning
05:15 Moving to Ibiza and Changing Perspectives
11:40 Concerns and Fears During Pregnancy
19:33 The Limbo Period and Emotional Struggle
26:12 The Physical Experience
36:45 Recovery and Reflection
42:25 Processing Grief and Coping Mechanisms
47:40 Impact on Mental and Emotional Health


If this resonates, I’d love for you to leave a review, share it with someone who needs it, or send me a DM on Instagram.

10 ~ Manouk de Bijl’s ulcerative colitis healing story: from symptoms to remission20 Apr 202600:57:53

In this episode, I’m joined by Manouk de Bijl to talk about her ulcerative colitis healing story, from her first symptoms as a teenager to years of hospital visits, medication, pain, and being told it would be chronic.

We talk about what it’s like to live with an invisible gut disease as a young woman, including the shame and fear that comes with symptoms you do not exactly bring up at a dinner table.

Manouk shares how stress, survival mode, and trying to keep up with a demanding student life made everything worse, and why she reached a point where she knew she had to look beyond the path she was on.

This is not a neat, polished “just do this and you’ll be fine” episode. It’s an honest conversation about what healing actually asked of her. Mindset, belief, nervous system regulation, food, emotional processing, and learning to trust her gut again, literally and emotionally.

We also talk about remission, intuition, and the grief of realising the medical system never asked her how she did it, even when her test results showed no evidence of disease.

If you’re living with ulcerative colitis, Crohn’s, chronic illness, gut issues, inflammation, or you’re stuck in the cycle of pushing through and crashing, I think this episode will land.

Please find more of Manouk on:
www.manoukdebijl.com

or https://www.instagram.com/manoukdebijl/


If this episode resonates, please leave a comment and I will get back to you asap!

9 ~ Sex, intimacy & chronic illness: the conversation no one is having06 Apr 202600:41:44

In this episode, Marcus and I are talking about sex, intimacy, chronic pain and chronic illness. We’re having an honest conversation about how disability, pain, fatigue and body changes can affect intimacy, relationships and self-confidence.

When you live with chronic illness or disability, intimacy can feel complicated. It can bring up insecurity, awkwardness, grief, fear, body image struggles and a lot of questions that people often don’t talk about out loud.

In this episode, we share our own experience of navigating intimacy after my accidents, while living with CRPS, FND, chronic pain, spasms and fatigue. We talk about what changed for us, what felt hard, what helped, and why communication became such a big part of finding each other again, not just as patient and carer, but as partners.

We talk about:

  • sex and intimacy with chronic illness
  • how chronic pain and disability can affect relationships
  • the impact of body changes on confidence and self-image
  • how to talk to your partner about intimacy
  • why intimacy is about more than sex
  • rebuilding trust, safety and connection in a relationship

This episode is for people living with chronic illness, chronic pain or disability, and for partners who want to better understand how to navigate intimacy together.

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction to the Topic
  • 05:30 Impact on Romanticism and Spontaneity
  • 11:18 Balancing Caregiver and Partner Roles
  • 17:00 Laughter and Lightheartedness
  • 22:24 Diverse Forms of Intimacy
  • 35:48 Exploring Different Forms of Intimacy

If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to leave a review, share it with someone who needs it, or send me a message on Instagram with your thoughts or questions. And if you’d like us to record a part 2 on this topic, let me know!

8 ~ How your body stores emotions & creates chronic pain (somatic work explained with Marcus)23 Mar 202600:49:24

Eline & Marcus sit down for an honest (and sometimes hilarious) conversation about somatic work for chronic pain and illness — and why it's not as "woo-woo" as Marcus originally thought.

If you've ever wondered why chronic pain won't go away even when doctors say there's nothing wrong, or how your body stores emotions and trauma... this episode is for you.

We talk about:

  • How your brain interprets pain signals (and why two people with the same injury can feel completely different levels of pain)
  • Why emotions are your body's biggest "danger signal" — and what happens when you ignore them for too long
  • The difference between somatic work and therapy (and why bodywork matters just as much as talk therapy)
  • What actually happens during a personalized somatic retreat in Ibiza (spoiler: it's not all breathwork and meditation — there's also really good food)
  • How Marcus went from thinking psychologists were "voodoo" to understanding energy work, nervous system regulation, and why Eline sometimes shakes her hands like she's flicking water off them
  • Why your lower back pain might not be about your posture at all
  • How to support a partner doing deep healing work (even if you're not doing it yourself)

This conversation gets real about burnout, chronic illness, the bucket of emotions we all carry, and why your body is way smarter than you think.

If you've been stuck in chronic pain, fatigue, or illness for years and nothing's worked... this might be the missing piece.

Want to learn more about somatic work or book a free 30-minute call about the retreat? DM me on Instagram @thespooniescommunity — I'd love to chat.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Marcus learns what somatic work actually is

08:04 The brain's response to pain and emotions
12:02 Emotions as energy in motion
13:42 Emotional release and chronic conditions
19:03 Tapping into the wisdom of the body
24:59 Integration and long-term impact of somatic work
33:02 What happens during a personalized somatic retreat
38:33 Connection with the universe (and why Marcus was skeptical)

7 ~ Losing autonomy and independence over your own body & life09 Mar 202600:41:36

Marcus & Eline delve into the challenges of navigating the loss of autonomy over your own body & life and the dynamics of care and independence within a relationship. It explores the impact on both Marcus and Eline and the adjustments made to manage these challenges effectively.

The conversation delves into the dynamics of prioritizing a partner's needs and balancing responsibilities in a relationship. It also explores the challenges and emotional aspects of caring for a partner's physical needs, as well as the impact of financial and emotional support on the relationship.

Takeaways

  • Autonomy and authority over one's body and finances can be challenging to navigate in a relationship - especially when there's physical needs involved
  • The impact of caregiving on the carer's autonomy and well-being is significant. Prioritizing partner's needs
  • Balancing responsibilities

Chapters

  • 00:00 Navigating Autonomy and Authority
  • 08:42 Recognizing the Need for Change
  • 19:38 Supporting the Caregiver
  • 25:23 Prioritizing Partner's Needs
  • 33:10 Challenges of Caregiving
  • 44:28 Financial and Emotional Struggles
6 ~ Travelling as a wheelchair user09 Feb 202600:32:43

Marcus & Eline dive into travelling as a wheelchair user! They discuss what is needed to travel comfortably, challenges, highlighting the need for careful planning and consideration. But it also explores the very positive impact of traveling on physical and mental well-being, as well as the process of overcoming fear and expanding horizons. The conversation delves into the intricacies of travel planning and stress management, highlighting the importance of booking assistance, embracing independence, and managing energy levels. It also explores the challenges of living with grief, adaptability, and accessibility, while emphasizing the significance of decision-making and the pursuit of comfort. Anyone feeling nervous but excited to take the leap? Definitely go and book your travels!

Takeaways

  • Traveling with a disability requires careful planning and consideration, but it is VERY doable as well!
  • Challenges you face when travelling with a wheelchair, but also how to overcome them in order to go and do it
  • How to properly prepare your Spoons for travel
  • The difference between us travelling 8 years ago versus now

Chapters

  • 00:00 The Challenges of Traveling with a Disability
  • 11:01 Overcoming Fear and Expanding Horizons
  • 17:13 Travel Planning and Stress Management
  • 22:16 Navigating Challenges and Expectations
  • 29:21 Energy Management and Decision-Making
5 ~ Amelia Peckham transforms a life-changing injury into empowerment for the disabled community26 Jan 202600:52:23

Amelia Peckham shares her journey from the accident that left her with a permanent disability to her recovery and rehabilitation. The conversation covers her life before the accident, the impact of the accident, the challenges of the first six months, and the motivation and support that helped her through. All of this led her to building her own company called Cool Crutches. She was determined that if walking on crutches would be the rest of her life, she would go do that with proper, ergonomically approved ones that wouldn't give her additional injuries.

Further down in the conversation, she highlights the resilience and determination of individuals with disabilities. Amelia discusses the importance of finding a supportive community during her rehabilitation, the challenges she faced, and her journey of overcoming physical limitations while advocating for better equipment and support for individuals with chronic illness and disabilities.

Takeaways

  • Resilience
  • Community support
  • The Start of Cool Crutches
  • Rehabilitation challenges
  • Managing energy and prioritizing tasks
  • Resilience and adaptability in entrepreneurship

Chapters

  • 00:00 Finding Inspiration in Others' Stories
  • 22:15 Finding Community Support in Physiotherapy
  • 33:09 The Journey of Rehabilitation Challenges
  • 39:50 Challenges of Living with a Chronic Illness
  • 45:02 Acceptance and Quality of Life
  • 51:07 Setting Future Goals and Intentions

Where can you find Amelia?

@coolcrutches

@amelia.peckham

www.coolcrutches.com

Use discount code "SPOONIES" to get 10% of your order on Cool Crutches!

4 ~ What is a Spoonie & What is The Spoonies Community?19 Jan 202600:35:19

Marcus & Eline delve into the origin of the Spoonies community, the concept of the Spoon Theory, and the creation of a safe and supportive space for individuals living with chronic illness. It explores the impact of the Spoon Theory, the need for a supportive community, and the various components of the Spoonies community, including support, connection, learning, and resources. The conversation covers the exclusive community model of Eline, emphasizing safety and commitment, as well as the global nature of the community and plans for in-person events.

Takeaways

  • Spoonies: Understanding the Spoon Theory
  • Creating a Safe and Supportive Community Exclusive community model
  • Community safety and commitment
  • Global community and in-person events

Chapters

  • 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Scene
  • 08:05 The Creation of the Spoonies Community
  • 21:42 Exclusive Community Model
  • 27:12 Global Community and In-Person Events
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