Are you ready to look at sex in a whole new light? Is it time to take a deep dive into what kind of sex and relationship you want to create with your partner? Are you even equipped to discuss your wants and needs openly, with intention?

 Join us with Relationship Coach, Shana James, author of Honest Sex, as we chat about the benefits of being a generous and considerate lover, supporting your partner in co-creating a relationship of collaboration and gratitude; and how Steak and Blowjob Day is the perfect occasion for her to reciprocate the adoration she received on Valentine's Day… it's only fair, after all.

GUEST:  Shana James

BIO:

As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. She specializes in supporting people over 40, both dating and long term relationships, who want to have the best love and sex of their lives, with deeper connection, honest communication and lasting passion.

Shana is the creator and host of the Practicing Love and Man Alive Podcast podcast, and has a TEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.'

Her most recent book is: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive. She also published: Power and Pleasure: A Man's Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader.

Shana has a Master's in psychology, as well as DISC and Positive Intelligence certifications. She has facilitated decades of Authentic Relating workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality, and specializes in helping clients date and create healthy relationships after divorce.

What would you do if your dream date or soul mate turns out to be a swinger? Duck and run? Or embrace the challenge?

Join us with Tori and Steve, hosts of Swingology a Lifestyle Podcast, who got married at Hedonism II in Jamaica, as they share their love story and their journey into the swinging lifestyle together. Find out how Tori navigated this new open-minded world and evolved to hosting their own Podcast for swingers.

Swingology A Lifestyle Podcast

About

Listen in and Stimulate Your Mind as we explore the ethical non-monogamy community, break taboos and share real-life stories.

Welcome to our podcast, your go-to source for tips and advice from experts, specialists, and individuals who live and love beyond traditional boundaries.  Together we explore the depths of human connection and discover how to navigate the complexities and joys of these unique relationships.

Whether you're just curious about swinging or already have an open relationship our insightful podcast will educate, inspire, and entertain you.  Tune in to Stimulate Your Mind.

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Do you ever wonder how single guys survive and thrive in The Lifestyle? How do they navigate the rules and expectations in a world of couples where women are empowered to drive the situation?

Join us with Topless Travel Host, George, a single man in The Lifestyle, on The Bliss Cruise with 6000 open-minded guests as we get into the do's and don'ts, that help make successful encounters with threesomes, fivesomes and orgies. He also shares details of his OnlyFans Account, The Hotwife Hunter, that keeps him busy with content creation.

Have you ever been curious about how cannabis can improve your intimacy and your sexual health and wellness? Join Cannasexual's Founder, Ashley Manta together with Dr Shannon Chavez, as they share their sex and cannabis origin stories and the specific sexual health benefits that drew them to this powerful plant. Ashley discusses how she overcame pain with penetration and Dr Shannon talks about her life with endometriosis and how cannabis has become a vital ally in her sexual wellness.

Do you ever fantasize about being in the middle of an orgy with sexy couples all around you, swapping and playing together? Perhaps, like Carol, you'd like to find yourself as the "queen bee", at the bottom of the pile while everyone is 'doing you'? Join us on location at Hedonism II Resort in Jamaica with Topless Travel, as we chat with one of their host couples, Orgy Girl and her husband, all about how much fun it is to be caught up in the erotic environment of a multi-couple orgy, and find out all the best ways to organize an orgy successfully, with full consent, respect and great communication?

Are you dealing with the effects of sexual trauma and body shaming? Do you feel stuck and afraid to venture too far into the realm of sexuality, trying not to trigger those unwanted memories? Join us on location at Hedonism II Resort in Jamaica, as we chat with a couple of first-timers who have been able to overcome some of their obstacles, building confidence and self-esteem as their week progressed, allowing them to experience a sexual awakening of sorts. By pushing boundaries and supporting each other, they are able to journey into a wider realm of sexual openness. Everyone loves a transformation story. This one is so heart-warming; you will feel their joy as they recount their amazing week of self-discovery.

Did you know that being a "people-pleaser" can affect your performance in bed? If you, or your partner are people-pleasers, you may be missing out on a mutually great sex life. Join us with Sex Educator and Sex & Relationship Writer, Ella Dorval Hall as we dive deep into the effects of being a people-pleaser – especially in the bedroom. We also find out more about the relationship between libido, desire, and arousal and we get a better understanding of how to deal with guilt and shame around sex.

Are you looking for a new fun and sexy way to spice up your sex life? If you are adventurous, we've got a great activity to share with you, where you get to slip 'n slide together. Join us with Tania Semper, the owner and founder of Nuru Play, which is a gel used for intimate body massage, as we share our erotic experience with her slippery product, and she shares how the ancient Japanese techniques of Nuru body massage can help couples connect physically and viscerally with a full body contact massage.

Have you ever considered taking cannabis products before your sexual encounters to heighten your senses and boost your confidence in the bedroom? Join us with Author and Sex Educator, Ashley Manta from CannaSexual®, as we chat specifically about the types of conversations you need to have with your partner before and after your sexual experience with cannabis so that you can create an incredibly sensory experience together and ultimately enjoy more great sex.

How many times have you considered booking a trip to a resort that allows the freedom of nudity and sexuality while vacationing on a beautiful beach… but somehow, you can't find the courage to go. Join us on location with Harry Lange, the Chairman of Hedonism II Resort in Jamaica, as we talk about how the resort has changed over the past 10 years since Harry bought it, and how the guests keep coming again and again because of the openness, the freedom to express our sexuality in the most relaxed, non-pressure environment, reminding us that we all need to explore our passions and create connections within ourselves and our partners.

Have you ever had a date that turned out all wrong because you had certain expectations that simply missed the mark in real time? Perhaps the person or couple you met online didn't look the same in real life or their vibe was not compatible. Join us with Sexologist and Sex Coach, Dr Stacy Friedman, as we discuss difficult social situations, like first dates, fulfilling fantasies or trying out new sexual partners, that have gone awry because of pre-conceived ideas and expectations that were somehow misrepresented. And then the big questions is… how do we politely say "no" and get ourselves out of the awkward situation as quickly as possible.

Do you ever wonder how open-minded people learn their skills and continue exploring their sexuality as they navigate their sex lives within the alternative non-monogamous lifestyle? Join us on The Bliss Cruise with Topless Travel, together with Sexologist, Dr Stephanie from Evolve Your Intimacy, as we find out all about her first experience doing workshops and play-shops on The Bliss Cruise to a sold-out audience hungry to learn more about expanding their sexual relationships in order to continue to enjoy great sex together.

Ladies! Are you hesitant to start up difficult conversations about your relationship? Do you feel uncomfortable being totally naked in front of your new partner? Are you lacking the confidence to openly carry a tampon to the restroom in public? If you answered YES to any these questions, you are not alone. You are one of many women who are feeling the effects of "sexual madness". Join us with Dr Jenn Gunsaullus from Dr Jenn's Den, as we discuss her new book: From Madness to Mindfulness, where she guides women to empower themselves to transition out of a state of sexual madness and into a state of sexual mindfulness. A state in which women can give themselves permission to feel more worthy of love and great sex… and then have it!

How do we empower women to take charge of their sexual wellness when the head of governmental policies promotes the exact opposite sentiment? Join us with a Neuroscientist, Sex Therapist, Dr Nan Wise, author of: Why Good Sex Matters, as she shares her opinions on the future of women's sexual health and wellness under the newly elected government. From a reduction of reproductive rights to normalizing sexual assault, Dr Nan discusses some of her scary predictions about how women will be affected by the new leadership in America and why it is more important now, than ever before, to focus on pleasure.

Do you ever find yourself frustrated by your partner's unwillingness to receive pleasure unconditionally? Does this make you feel like you're not as good a lover as you thought you were? Join us with Sex Educator, Amy Baldwin, from the Shameless Sex Podcast as she shares some of her hot tips on pussy/penis praising and pleasuring with touch techniques, as well as some supportive phrases that will help your partner relax and get into receiving pleasure without shame or pressure. This might be just the advice you've been waiting for.

Are you looking for sexy parties catered specifically to open-minded folks? Perhaps you feel more comfortable exploring the lifestyle with a group of compatible people. Join us with Shannon and Frank, owners of Pussy Cat Parties travel group, as they share their insight into the open-minded and swinger lifestyle as party organizers and host couples – whether at the lifestyle resorts or on the Bliss Cruise, you'll want to join in the fun.

Have you ever questioned whether your sexual behavior is a problem that needs professional help? Is your preoccupation with sex affecting your life or your livelihood and causing feelings of shame, pain and self-loathing? Join us with Hollywood Sex Addict, Dan Harary, Author of Carrots, a chronicle of Dan's lifelong struggles with his desire for alluring women, while overcoming crippling shyness, depression, and a powerful sex addiction, as we talk about his real-life experiences with many, many gorgeous women that all turn into a series of "really bad dates", and how he managed his successful Hollywood career amid all those challenges.

Do you ever wonder how couples fall into the swinging lifestyle? Does it happen organically or is it mapped out and executed with a plan? Join us on board The Bliss Cruise with Topless Travel for our 6th anniversary show, chatting with 3 lifestyle couples as they share their stories, journeys and experiences exploring their sexuality and their sex lives to find out what works best for them.

Are you looking for a more intimate connection with your partner? Perhaps you're feeling empowered to create your own sexy lifestyle full of happiness, passion, and love. Join us with Sexologist and Sex Educator, Dr Ava Cadell, from Loveology University and Loveology Retreat, as we talk about the benefits of physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and sexual wellness; and how healthy relationships and emotional intimacy are at the core of true happiness and a life full of joy… Live Happy, Healthy and Horny!

Are you still wondering what squirting is all about? It seems to be a hot topic but so few people can actually explain what squirting is and where it comes from. Join us with Dr Valerie Poppel from The Swann Center, as we dive deep into the details of what, where and why squirt happens... so that we all can better understand and demystify the wonderful, sweet nectar of female ejaculation.

Have you decided to open up your relationship with your primary partner but you don't know where to start? Are you wondering what it means to be "in the lifestyle"? Join Dr Stephanie and Fox, from Evolve your Intimacy Podcast, as they take you through the various aspects of ethical non-monogamy and all the related pros and cons, ups and downs, and relationship dynamics that will help you decide if the lifestyle is right for you. From communication skills to relationship contracts, they get into the harder conversations that you need to have with your partner in order to be successful in the lifestyle or simply enjoy exploring your sexuality together.

Do you feel safe being your true authentic self? Perhaps you are you constantly covering up fear, shame, grief and trauma causing a negative impact on your sexuality. Join us with Energy Healer, Greg Weiting, Founder of PRISMA, the framework which overlays trauma, neuroscience, and energy medicine with somatic and mindfulness-based practices, as we uncover ways to calm the cardiovascular system to flush out sexual trauma, to access a deeper sense of presence during sex and to reconnect with your partner in a more balanced state of mind.

Are you longing for relationship that starts off strong and get more intimate and exciting over time? Perhaps you wish you could communicate in a mature and emotionally-connected way with your partner. Join us with Relationship Coach, Shana James, Author of "Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive", as we discuss her new book that sheds light on how honesty creates closeness and how mature communication creates intimacy. She offers great tips on how to develop a more sexually-satisfying relationship through deep honest discussions.

Does size matter? is probably the most asked question men have inquired about since the dawn of time. As a proud owner of a penis, most men want to share it, show it, and otherwise let people know how endowed they are. But, there are so many other, more important questions to ask about. Like: how to keep it healthy as we age? Join us with Urologist, Dr Andrew Steinberg as we dive deep into the male pleasure center, discussing everything from erections to prostate function and treatments, from the perspective of aging well.

Do you ever wonder what kind of perseverance it takes to go from single Mom to Millionaire? The male dominated porn industry has changed so much over the past decade, giving way to some smart, business-savvy female sex workers to rise to the top and make a name for themselves. Join us with Porn Star, Rachel Steele, CEO of Red MLF Productions, as she shares stories of her journey from exploitation to ultimate success as the very first taboo/fetish MILF on the internet. We discover how she navigates the challenges of running a porn production company where she taps into her natural talents as actress, producer, writer, director, set designer, costumer and makeup artist.

Have you ever wondered how swingers evolve in their lifestyle. How do they keep things fresh and new and exciting? Of course, travel and sexy vacations always add passion, novelty and fun into any relationship, but what about the sex? Join us on location at Desire Pearl with Topless Travel, as we chat with a seasoned swinger couple who have found their way to spice up their sex life and continue to explore their sexuality with other open-minded people. We find out how their evolving lifestyle experiences continue to bring them closer together as a couple and strengthen their relationship.

Are you concerned about the sexual health of a potential sex partner but find it too uncomfortable to ask the right questions at the right time? Perhaps you want to warn a new partner about your STD but you're too ashamed to admit it. Join Dr Stephanie and Fox from Evolve Your Intimacy, as they chat with Sexual Health Expert, Dr Evelin Dacker, all about destigmatizing STIs, consent and sexual communication. They also get into how to live a sex positive lifestyle and how talk to your partner about your needs and wants.

Are you still mystified about the incredibly versatile vagina and vulva? Are you open to discovering more about how the female pleasure center works? Join us with Dr Gabrielle Landry from ELNA's Sexual Wellness Center, who has trained in Paris in vulvovaginal dermatology, as we get into discussing everything to do with the vulva and the vagina from anatomy and function, to aging and pleasure perspectives.

Are you worried about how your relationship will change when you retire? Is your sex life going to get boring or better? Join us on location at Desire Pearl in Mexico with Topless Travel's Sexy Silver Group as we chat with a long time swinger couple all about how they adapted their lifestyle relationship when they retired from their full time jobs.

Are you looking for a new swinger's club to try out while on vacation in London England? Join us with The Surrey MILF, who has been a regular at Le Boudoir Club since they opened. She hosts their Naughty List nights and frankly is part of the Le Boudoir Club family. She also has a higher pain threshold than any woman alive and loves to be flogged and fisted! We find out more about the only Swinger's Club in downtown London where we had a chance to experience Le Boudoir Club first-hand after the Barcelona Bliss Cruise in June where we had an amazing fun and sexy time.

Are you still keen on trying out kinky sex based on the movies you've seen, like, 50 Shades of Grey and 365? Just remember that these movies aren't actually showing the reality of kink. Some types of kinky sex can actually be extremely dangerous if not done correctly. Join, Dr Stephanie and Fox from Evolving Your Intimacy, as they talk with Kink Expert, Dr Eli Sheff, all about what happens when kinky sex goes wrong and the consequences of legal prosecutions regarding issues of consent, age, play style and even death due to kinky play. They get into the importance of education concerning different toys, contraptions, communication, and other things that people in the BDSM world put into practice in order to protect themselves so that they can enjoy their kinky lifestyle with safety.

Have you ever wondered what it's like to be a Sex Coach? What is their job exactly? And at what point in your relationship do you need to call on a Sex Coach for help? Join us with Sexologist and Sex Educator, Dr Patti Britton, co-founder of SexCoachU, as we demystify the pathway to becoming a Sex Coach and the important role a sex coach can play in helping you become the best partner and lover possible.

Are you noticing subtle changes in the quality and duration of your erections or perhaps you're having difficulty getting an erection at all. If your sex life is in the tank, it may be time to check your testosterone levels. Join us with Urologist, Dr Andrew Steinberg from ELNA's Sexual Wellness Center and we talk about how testosterone levels change over time and the affects low testosterone have on libido and healthy sexual function, as well as looking into Testosterone Replacement Therapy, TRT, as a solution to re-invigorate your life and your sex-life.

Are you looking to party and travel with sexy-fun and open-minded people? Getting together with compatible couples while on vacation creates life-long friendships and lots of great memories. Join us from The Bliss Cruise with Topless Travel, as we chat with a group of polyamorous hosts who are onboard with us. They are a not a couple, not a triad, but a quad, and we find out how their polyamorous relationship is structured and how they keep it sexy and fun for everyone. It gets hot and steamy so listen to the end.

Have you ever experienced a mind-blowing, full-body, cum-free orgasm produced exclusively by stimulating your prostate gland? Join us with Forrest Andrews, from the product development team at Aneros, the company that manufactures specially designed insertable devices that massage your prostate. We find out how these unique devices were originally produced for sexual health and wellness of the prostate gland, but surprisingly, they also deliver intense sexual pleasure. Find out how you too can stay harder, longer and experience multiple orgasms.

Are you worried about meeting your relationship goals and expectations? Are you questioning if our current social norms, culture and values, including a monogamous marriage, will satisfy your personal wants, needs and desires? Join us with Sexologist, Dr Cat Meyer, as we discuss the options of different relationship styles that will open-up your marriage to explore alternatives like non-monogamy and polyamory which may serve as healthier relationship models for those who are seeking change.

Are you looking to share sexy experiences with other open-minded couples? Perhaps you simply want to add some sexy adventures into your relationship and share them with your partner. Join us on board the Barcelona Bliss Cruise, as we chat with a fun swinger couple who has been adding sexy adventures into their relationship for some time now. They get down and dirty as they share their secret to keeping their sex-life spicy, naughty and fun.

Have you ever wondered why there is so much stigma, secrecy and shame surrounding consensual non-monogamy? When after all, it is consensual! And why is it anyone else's business anyways? Join us with Sex Researcher, Dr Amy C Moors from the Kinsey Institute, as we learn all about her research indicating that consensual non-monogamy is more popular than we may have guessed and how it affects our trust, satisfaction, sexual health and happiness when measured against people in a monogamous relationship.

Ladies, are you feeling tired, bloated and far from sexy? Perhaps you're experiencing hot flashes, mood swings, weight gain and insomnia. If your age is hovering around 50, you may be starting menopause. Join us with Hormone Expert, Dr Gabby Landry from ELNA's Sexual Wellness Center, specializing in hormone replacement therapy and other rejuvenation techniques, to find out more about how hormones work and what to do when your hormone levels start changing. Whether you are approaching menopause or fully into it, there is no reason why women should suffer with menopausal symptoms that can easily be reversed with a simple and effective treatment plan.

Have you been contemplating taking an exotic, erotic vacation? Perhaps you have some "bucket-list" destinations and adventures that you want to explore with compatible, open-minded people. Join us on board The Bliss Cruise, as we chat with seasoned travelers and one of the Topless Travel Host Couples, Alice and Jeff, as we get personal sharing their experiences, about pushing their sexual boundaries with sexy, open-minded, people where they get to re-connect and create lots of friendships and memories together. Their sexy stories are hot and sensual… just what you need to get tempted to book your very own sexy vacation.

Are you, or someone you love, dealing with personal trauma or sexual trauma from the past that is affecting your sexual pleasure today? Join Sexologist, Dr Stephanie Sigler from Evolve your Intimacy, as she chats with Dr Holly Richmond, one of North America's leading sex therapists, who helps couples and individuals with relationship and sexuality issues, including Hollywood's elite and prominent corporate clientele, as they dive deep into how to reclaim your sexual pleasure on your own terms. They talk about Dr Holly's new book, a sex positive guide for moving past sexual trauma and living a passionate life.

Have you ever wondered what it is like to be a sex researcher? Studying sex all day long… for work? Where can I sign-up, Right? Join us with Dr Nicole Prause, a sexual psychophysiologist and neuroscientist, as we learn what it takes to study sex and collect a body of data that will help us understand things like orgasms, pornography use, penis size preferences and other taboo topics.

Guys, do you ever dream of getting the best hand job ever… one that blows your mind and your load? Don't you wish your partner could learn how to touch you like that? Join us with Erotic Massage Coach, Lee Jagger, from Rock the Bedroom, as we talk about her 69 different ways to make a happy ending even happier. From manual manipulation techniques that will make his cock squirm until he explodes, to taking control of your sexy play time. We cover it all!

Are you looking for more ways to explore your sexual boundaries in a sexy, open-minded, non-judgmental environment where you can re-connect with your partner and create lots of great memories? Join us at Hedonism II Resort with a wonderful couple, who are not swingers, but decided to take an erotic vacation together as an investment in their relationship. Our discussions get hot 'n steamy as they share sexy stories with other women. Their experiences make them appreciate the importance of taking decisions to keep their relationship stronger and spicier.

Have you ever wondered what it's like for a male porn star who has to perform sexually on cue, in front of a camera? Perhaps they have some tips and tricks that can help you become a better lover? Join Dr Stephanie and Fox from Evolve your Intimacy as they chat with one of the most recognized performers in the adult film industry, Erik Everhard, who has dedicated his time and effort to helping high achievers by teaching them elite-level sexual skills in order to master the bedroom like they dominate the boardroom. Find out more about how men can unleash their sexual superpowers using pornstar tricks and tips.

Have you ever dreamt about building your very own lifestyle resort? What would it look like? Where would you build it? Who would you invite? Join us on location on The Bliss Cruise as we chat with a lifestyle couple who are in the process of building an exotic, erotic resort for open-minded people in Indonesia. We find out about her bisexuality and other stories that opened-up their journey into the lifestyle and into a future lifestyle business.

Are you looking to experience the sexiest vacation ever? The most erotic and iconic vacations begin with open-minded guests and talented hosts who understand the particular mind-set of people in the Sexy Lifestyle. Join us on location at Hedonism II Resort on Negril Beach in Jamaica with Party Marc from Topless Travel as we discuss how he gets the guests to open-up and explore their sexuality through music, games and his unique perspective on life.

Are you curious about why people blog about their sex lives, sharing their real-life stories with the world? Join us with Blogger and Podcaster, Layla London from The Curious Girl Diaries, as we dive deep into how she loves to share intimate details of her sex life -- from between the sheets, to her many first dates, to exploring in swing clubs, dungeons and beyond.

Have you ever considered how cannabis could affect your intimacy and your sex life by heightening your senses and boosting your confidence in the bedroom? Join us with Author and Sex Educator, Ashley Manta, who has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. Her recently published book, The CBD Solution: Sex, is the source of so much great information on how to create a more intimate and confident sex life.

Are you one of those people who is looking for the elusive Unicorn in The Lifestyle? What is so alluring? Is it the mystery, the rarity, or the fantasy? Join us on location at Hedonism II Resorts in Jamaica as we expose one of the Topless Travel hosts, Kolbi Karma, to find out how she went from being a stripper to a unicorn in the Lifestyle.