In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist who blends evidence-based psychology, attachment theory, sexual medicine, and holistic wellness practices to help people create healthier relationships with themselves and their partners.

From nervous system regulation and desire to trauma healing, emotional safety, and multicultural approaches to sexuality, Dr. Chavez explains why many sexual concerns are not problems to be fixed, but signals to better understand. She also shares practical strategies for managing overwhelm, improving intimacy, and cultivating deeper connection in relationships.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Low desire is often connected to nervous system overload, disconnection, and depleted energy rather than a lack of attraction or relationship problems

• Emotional safety is one of the strongest predictors of intimacy, sexual satisfaction, and relationship resilience

• Effective sexual health care requires an integrative approach that considers the mind, body, relationships, culture, and lived experience

SHOW SUMMARY:

00:00 – Understanding Nervous System Overload and Low Desire

01:14 – Modern Culture’s Impact on Libido and Life Force

01:57 – Dr. Shannon Chavez’s Origin Story: Finding The Joy of Sex

03:08 – Benefits of an Integrative Med Spa Model for Sexual Health

04:28 – Essential Personal Work and Multicultural Training for Professionals

05:05 – Connecting Body Disconnection, Grief, and Transitions to Desire

07:08 – Identifying Energy Drainers vs. Energy Gainers

08:14 – Mindset Shifts: Permission for Imperfection and Balance

09:51 – Mindfulness Through Play and Presence in Daily Activities

11:50 – Reframing Hormones and Physical Changes as Body Signals

13:44 – Distinguishing Between Individual Nervous System Dysregulation and Relational Issues

15:46 – The Role of Eye Contact and Emotional Resonance in Healing

17:53 – How Attachment Styles Influence Love and Pleasure in the Bedroom

19:16 – Biological Necessity of Emotional Safety for Intimacy

20:12 – Somatic Techniques for Building Emotional Intimacy and Safety

22:04 – Reconnecting Trauma Survivors with Body Trust and Pleasure

23:57 – Common Pitfalls in Sex Therapy When Addressing Trauma

25:01 – Holistic Integration: Moving Beyond the "Cookie Cutter" Psychology Model

27:21 – Global Perspectives: Cultural Lineage and Its Impact on the Nervous System

28:41 – The Importance of Language and Cultural Assessments in Therapy

30:15 – Identifying and Redefining Sexual Values and Beliefs

32:45 – Strengthing Sexual Communication: Giving "Permission to be Awkward"

34:43 – Using Humor to Break Barriers and Protect the Erotic

35:14 – Lightning Round: Favorite Resources, Self-Care, and Krav Maga

37:06 – Insights from the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) Conference

38:08 – Final Message for Gen Z and Alpha: Reclaiming Your Narrative

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.

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More from this episode’s guest at: https://drshannonchavez.com/ 

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In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Justin Mogilski, an evolutionary psychologist and associate professor leading an international research team studying consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships. From jealousy and attraction disclosure to parenting and evolutionary biology, this conversation explores what science actually tells us about how people make non-monogamy work.

Dr. Mogilski breaks down common myths about CNM, including the idea that only exceptionally intelligent or emotionally detached people can successfully navigate these relationships. We also dive into evolutionary psychology, animal behavior, pair bonding, and the relationship maintenance practices that predict healthier and more satisfying CNM dynamics.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Communication about jealousy and attraction is one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction in CNM relationships

• Consensually non-monogamous people often define infidelity around deception and broken agreements rather than specific sexual acts

• Evolutionary psychology helps explain why jealousy, competition, and attachment still show up in non-monogamous relationships

SHOW SUMMARY:

00:00 – Attraction Disclosure and Reducing Relationship Anxiety

01:32 – Differences in Information Sharing Between CNM and Monogamous Couples

03:32 – Dr. Justin Mogilski’s Origin Story and Background in Evolutionary Psychology

04:48 – Current Exciting Trends: STI Communication and Sex Tech

05:55 – Dispelling the Myth: Intelligence and Impulse Control in CNM

08:52 – Advice for Professionals: Focusing on Recurrent Challenges over Prescriptive Advice

11:11 – Evolution, Pair Bonding, and the Role of Jealousy

13:16 – Using Evolutionary Theory to Predict Challenges in Non-Monogamy

15:40 – Zero-Sum vs. Positive-Sum Worldviews in Relationships

17:21 – International Research Project on CNM Relationship Maintenance

20:50 – Emotional Regulation: Prevention vs. Promotion Focus

22:01 – Key Findings: Communication of Jealousy and Attraction Disclosure

23:34 – Polyamorous Parenting and Willingness to Care for Children

25:49 – Navigating Hierarchy vs. Non-Hierarchy in CNM

28:10 – Comparison of Safer Sex Practices Across Different CNM Populations

30:45 – Lightning Round: Myths About Jealousy

32:01 – Differences in How Infidelity is Defined

32:44 – The Need for Large-Scale Data on CNM Parenting

33:45 – Message to Future Generations: Building Durable, Committed Relationships

RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)

More from this episode’s guest at: https://sc.edu/about/system_and_campuses/salkehatchie/faculty-staff/mogilski_justin.php

ABOUT THE GUEST: DR. JUSTIN MOGILSKI

Dr. Justin Mogilski is an Associate Professor of Psychology and a globally recognized researcher in evolutionary psychology and relationship science. His pioneering research maps out how human evolution influences decision-making, conflict resolution, and intimacy within modern partnerships. Dr. Mogilski currently leads an international team of scientists tracking relationship maintenance strategies, partner attraction, and jealousy management across various relationship structures. He specializes closely in the behavioral dynamics of consensual non-monogamy (CNM), polyamory, and open relationships. As a co-editor of The Oxford Handbook of Evolutionary Psychology and Romantic Relationships, his work translates complex biological data into practical frameworks that help coaches and therapists support diverse relationship configurations without stigma.

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What do you mean it’s normal to not want sex with your partner all the time? We talked with Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and globally recognized intimacy educator, to explore what really creates lasting intimacy in modern relationships. From sharing her own relationship publicly to reaching millions through digital education, Vanessa brings an honest and practical perspective to conversations about sex.

We talk through some of the most common challenges couples face, including desire discrepancy, communication struggles, and the pressure to feel spontaneous desire. Vanessa reframes these experiences and explains why great s//x is not about waiting to feel in the mood, but about creating experiences that are actually worth wanting and learning how to communicate clearly with your partner.

Key takeaways:

- Desire discrepancy is normal in every relationship and not something to fix, but to understand.

- Specific communication tools and scripts are far more effective than generic advice.

- Focusing on the experience of sex and why it is "worth wanting" is more important than waiting for desire to strike.

Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction to Vanessa Marin

01:31 – Sharing intimacy publicly and vulnerability in relationships

03:48 – Vanessa’s origin story and early experiences with sexual shame

04:52 – Why professionals must do their own internal work first 06:07 – Moving beyond vague advice in sex therapy toward specificity

08:22 – Deep dive into understanding desire discrepancy in couples 11:11– Why focusing on sexual experience and sex worth wanting matters more than desire

12:53 – Transitioning from private practice to digital education 15:43 – The Sexology Practice Guide: Scaling impact

18:00 – Working with her husband and teaching as a couple 22:47 – The number one factor for long term intimacy is communication

24:23 – Navigating censorship and the evolving conversation around sex on social media

Resources Mentioned in this episode:

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/

The Sexology Practice Guide: A short practical guide for incorporating intimacy and sexual health into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guide

Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from this episode’s guest at: https://vmtherapy.com/

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In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Evan Goldstein, a nationally renowned anal surgeon and the founder of Bespoke Surgical. Dr. Goldstein discusses his mission to destigmatize anal health and education, sharing insights from his book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in Between. He explains how his own journey from cardiac surgery to specializing in queer-friendly intimate health was driven by a need for better standards of care and education in the community.

The conversation explores the various cultural myths and stigmas that prevent people from experiencing pleasure and maintaining proper anal health. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the critical role of understanding personal anatomy and gradual progression to avoid trauma and injury. He also shares his vision for the future of intimate wellness, highlighting new technologies like Tempure for non-surgical tissue strengthening.

Key Takeaways

• Education as Prevention: Proper education regarding anatomy and function is essential to prevent injury and foster a healthy, lifelong sex life.

• Step-Wise Progression: Many sexual traumas occur when individuals attempt "something big" too quickly; gradual exploration and pre-lubrication are vital for success.

• Challenging Cultural Stigma: Dismantling myths about anal play being "dirty" or linked to specific personality traits is necessary to improve sexual outcomes and overall well-being.

Show Summary

• 00:00 - Intro and Dr. Evan Goldstein's Mission
• 01:39 - Origin Story: Transitioning from cardiac surgery to intimate health
• 03:41 - Core Mission: The importance of dispelling taboos through education
• 05:28 - SHA Community: Experience as a keynote speaker at the annual conference
• 07:11 - Destigmatizing Health: Affirming care for the gay community
• 10:08 - Cultural Myths: Debunking common misconceptions about "backdoor play"
• 13:10 - Anatomy 101: Why understanding your body changes everything
• 16:21 - Trends in Wellness: The rise of aesthetic and preventative anal care
• 18:41 - Future Generation: Practical steps for families and allies to reduce shame
• 21:02 - The Ugly Truth: The pressures of leading in a niche medical field
• 23:15 - Personal Challenges: Dr. Goldstein’s own wellness journey
• 24:14 - Rebuilding from Scratch: Social media, community practice, and "the give model"
• 25:44 - Final Message: Encouraging exploration and living without limits

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

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More from this episode’s guest at:

• Book: Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in Between
• Clinic: Bespoke Surgical
• Brand: Future Method
• Social Media: @DrEvanGoldstein

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In this powerful conversation, Dr. Maria Uloko, an internationally acclaimed urologist and sexual medicine specialist, discusses the critical gaps in medical education regarding vulvar and sexual health. She shares her journey from a Nigerian immigrant to a leading surgeon and researcher, emphasizing why so many patients are currently suffering from misdiagnosed chronic conditions.

Dr. Uloko highlights the urgent need for both clinicians and patients to understand the intricacies of vulvar physiology to ensure accurate diagnosis and treatment. She advocates for a shift in the medical paradigm toward curiosity and rigorous science to transform outcomes for patients experiencing pelvic pain, menopause, and sexual dysfunction.

Key Takeaways

• Medical Misdiagnosis: Many conditions labeled as "chronic" are actually misdiagnosed cases resulting from a lack of clinical training in vulvar physiology and the impact of hormones.

• The Power of Advocacy: Patients must be educated on their own anatomy to become effective self-advocates, especially as the current healthcare system is often not incentivized to provide this specialized education.

• Hormonal Health: Vulvar health is deeply dependent on both estrogen and testosterone; replacing these hormones can often reverse "chronic" conditions like recurrent UTIs and inflammation.

Show Summary

• 00:00 - Empowering patients through anatomical education and self-advocacy.
• 01:31 - Critiquing medical education and the lack of research in vulvar healthcare.
• 05:14 - Dr. Maria Uloko’s origin story: From Nigeria to a fellowship in sexual medicine.
• 09:52 - The rise of grassroots patient advocacy groups like Tight Lipped.
• 11:34 - Insights into vulvar regeneration and the link between vulvar and bladder health.
• 13:58 - Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and body shame.
• 17:13 - Redefining "chronic" conditions as misdiagnoses in sexual health.
• 20:13 - Educating patients to drive change within the healthcare system.
• 21:27 - Addressing medical misogyny and the importance of clinical curiosity.
• 24:30 - Why rigorous research is the foundation of effective advocacy.
• 30:29 - Shifting the diagnostic mindset: Becoming a "Sexual Health Sherlock".
• 32:21 - The impact of testosterone on vulvar health and the side effects of birth control.
• 38:59 - Reframing menopause as a transition rather than a decline.
• 41:13 - Debunking HRT myths and providing true informed consent.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: https://www.sexualhealthalliance.com/

More from this episode’s guest at: 

https://www.mariaulokomd.com/

https://vulvai.co/

Books and Publications:

• When Sex Hurts: Understanding and Healing Pelvic Pain by Andrew Goldstein, MD, Caroline Pukall, PhD, Irwin Goldstein, MD, Dr. Jill Krapf
• "Misdiagnosis of Recurrent UTI and the Impact of Testosterone Deficiency" (Forthcoming in the Journal of Sexual Medicine)
• Sexology Practice Guide: sexology.com/guide

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This episode features Dr. Chris Donaghue, an internationally recognized expert in human sexuality and the Director of Clinical Education at Sexual Health Alliance. The discussion explores Dr. Donaghue's professional journey from the rigid structures of sex addiction clinics to a transformative, sexual health-focused model. He shares deep insights into the pitfalls of pop culture, which he argues often reinforces problematic norms and misuses therapeutic language.

A major focus of the conversation is the concept of "sexual bypassing," a term Dr. Donaghue uses to describe how individuals often use rigid labels and habits to manage sexual anxiety rather than embracing true intimacy and eroticism. He encourages both clinicians and the public to move away from medicalized "correction" models and instead focus on pleasure, authenticity, and confidence in one's unique expression of sexuality.

Key Takeaways

• Challenge Conventional Labels: Move beyond rigid sexual identities and "hard lines" (like top/bottom or specific performance expectations) that are often just habits used to manage anxiety rather than reflect true desire.

• Individualization Over Conformity: True sexual health involves stepping outside cultural norms and "pop culture" expectations to find what is authentically pleasurable for you.

• Focus on Pleasure, Not Performance: Shift the perspective from "fixing" sexual dysfunction to understanding it as "disappointment" driven by unrealistic standards; prioritize how sex feels over how it is performed.

Show Summary

• 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Chris Donaghue
• 01:30 Fun Fact: From Pet Critic to Dog Lover
• 02:26 Origin Story: Reacting Against Traditional Sex Addiction Models
• 06:40 The Problem with Pop Culture and Therapeutic Trends
• 08:42 Navigating Ethics and Mission in the Media Space
• 12:22 Maintaining Scope of Practice and Competence
• 14:14 The Synergy of Academic Research and Clinical Practice
• 18:41 Defining Sexual Bypassing and Anxiety Management
• 23:56 Individuation: Authenticity vs. Cultural Conformity
• 28:06 Dating Apps and the "Ego List" Trap
• 36:54 Advice for Clinicians: Moving Away from Medicalized Fixing
• 40:48 The Importance of In-Person Professional Communities
• 44:06 Final Message for the Next Generation

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/

More from this episode’s guest at: https://www.drchrisdonaghue.com/

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Welcome to the destination where human potential meets erotic intelligence. The Sexology Lab is where science meets intimacy, and research meets real life. We are replacing shame with research-backed curiosity to examine the truths of being human.

Each week, we step into The Lab with the most compelling minds in modern sexology, from pioneering researchers and visionary clinicians to sextech innovators and skilled educators. We go beyond the headlines and into the physiology of pleasure, the psychology of attachment, and the business of sexology.

Inside the Lab:

1. Science-Forward Discussions: Explore the research behind attraction and the science of arousal.
2. Expert Insights: Hear from global leaders like Dr. Chris Donaghue, Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, and Dr. Amy Pearlman.
3. Global Community: Join a network of professionals advancing sexual health and wellness worldwide.

The Sexology Lab is powered by the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), the global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals.

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Today in The Lab, we sit down with Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the co-hosts of the wildly popular Shameless Sex Podcast, to explore what happens when sexual education leaves out pleasure, curiosity, and emotional safety. From shame and compliance to sex toys and consent, this conversation dives into the real-world gaps in how we talk about sexuality.

Amy and April share their journey from working in the sex toy industry to building one of the most recognized sexuality podcasts online. They also unpack why “healing shame” may be one of the most important responsibilities for therapists, educators, and coaches working in sexual health today. April Lampert is a proud Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Most sex education focuses on prevention and fear while ignoring pleasure, communication, and connection

• Sexual health professionals are not just educators—they are often helping people heal shame

• Giving people permission to explore consensual sexuality without judgment can be deeply transformative

SHOW SUMMARY

00:00 – Redefining Shamelessness and Working with Shame

01:36 – Guest Introductions and the Origin of Shameless Sex

02:49 – Overview of the "Shameless Sex" Book and Pleasure Philosophy

05:16 – Influential Guests and Learning Modalities like Erotic Blueprints

06:51 – Current Industry Trends: Sexual Wellness Tourism and Sex Toy Normalization

08:47 – Key Insight: Sexual Health as Holistic Well-being and Empowerment

10:50 – Personal Reflections on Traditional vs. Pleasure-Based Sex Education

16:42 – Essential Advice for Professionals: Becoming a "Healer of Shame”

19:43 – Empowering Messages for Gen Z and Gen Alpha on Sexual Autonomy

22:29 – Pop Culture Review: Analyzing the "Nobody Wants This" Podcasting Portrayal

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)

More from this episode’s guests at:

Shameless Sex Podcast: https://www.shamelesssex.com/

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Joining us in The Lab is Dr. Soum Rakshit, founder and CEO of MysteryVibe and MV Health, to explore the rapidly evolving world of sex tech and medical-grade sexual wellness devices. With a background in biomedical engineering, Dr. Rakshit is at the forefront of bridging pleasure, healthcare, and innovation—especially for people navigating sexual health after major life events.

This conversation dives into the science behind vibration therapy, how medical devices are developed and validated, and why accessibility remains one of the biggest challenges in sexual healthcare. We also explore the real-world impact of MV Health’s devices, from pelvic pain to erectile dysfunction, and what the future holds for personalized sexual medicine.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Sexual health solutions are often missing for people after major life events like childbirth, surgery, or aging

• Vibration therapy has over a century of clinical evidence supporting its role in improving blood flow, arousal, and pain relief

• Accessibility—not innovation—is the biggest barrier in sexual health, from education to reimbursement to care delivery

SHOW SUMMARY:

01:24 – The Mission of Mystery Vibe and MV Health

02:22 – The Origin Story and Collaborative Research

03:02 – Future Trends: Personalized Medicine and Hormone Monitoring

04:15 – Applying Engineering to Sexual Medicine Problems

06:19 – Challenges in Medical Device Development

08:21 – Education and Accessibility as Barriers to Care

09:43 – Outreach, Clinical Education, and Independent Research

11:53 – The Science and History of Vibration Therapy

14:42 – Vibration Therapy as a Complement to Medication

18:06 – Product Deep Dive: Crescendo 2

20:36 – Product Deep Dive: Poco

22:03 – Product Deep Dive: Legato

23:50 – Product Deep Dive: Molto

26:45 – Product Deep Dive: Tenuto 2 and Tenuto Mini

31:53 – Navigating Global Regulatory Approvals and Markets

32:26 – Future Expansion: Period and Breast Pain Solutions

33:50 – Lightning Round: Misconceptions and Achievements

35:41 – The Potential for Diagnostic Sensors

36:32 – Advice for Sexual Health Tech Founders

37:07 – Advice for Younger Generations on Human Connection

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

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More from this episode’s guest at: https://mv.health/

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Joining us in The Lab is Dr. Amy Perlman, a board-certified urologist specializing in hormone optimization, sexual health, and gender-affirming care. This conversation breaks down some of the most common questions people have about male sexual health, from what’s actually “normal” to when it’s time to seek medical support.

Dr. Perlman brings a refreshingly honest, sex-positive perspective to topics often clouded by misinformation, including testosterone, erectile function, masturbation, orgasm quality, and prostate pleasure. She also highlights the gaps in sex education and medical training, and why expanding conversations around pleasure is essential for better outcomes.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Many concerns about penis shape, performance, and function are normal, but knowing when to seek care is essential

• Sexual health is deeply connected to hormones, lifestyle, and overall well-being—not just performance

• Men’s pleasure, especially prostate pleasure, is under-researched and under-discussed in healthcare

SHOW SUMMARY:

00:11 - Introduction to Dr. Amy Pearlman

01:23 - Penile Curvature and Health

04:11 - Common Penile Concerns and STI Anxiety

05:58 - Testosterone and Hormone Optimization

08:35 - Gaps in Sex Education and Penile Injury

10:10 - Maintenance of Penile Size and Daily Erections

11:21 - Masturbation Frequency and Prostate Health

14:22 - Collaborative Care and Professional Cross-Collaboration

17:41 - Proactive Health Management and Establishing a "Pit Crew"

20:21 - Sex Toys and the Shift to Prostate Pleasure

24:28 - Defining Orgasm Quality vs. Ejaculation

29:16 - Training the Body and Mind: Edging and Delayed Ejaculation

31:58 - Rapid Fire Questions

33:30 - Advice for Patients: Doctor Shopping and Foundational Knowledge

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. 

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More from this episode’s guest at: https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/ 

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In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Joe Kort, a clinical sexologist and founder of the Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, to explore how therapists can better understand sexual health, trauma, and relationships. With over 40 years of experience, Dr. Kort brings a deeply nuanced, sex-positive perspective to topics often misunderstood in both clinical and cultural spaces.

We dive into Imago relationship therapy, trauma healing with EMDR, and the complexities of out-of-control sexual behaviors. Dr. Kort also challenges common assumptions around sexual norms, encouraging both therapists and individuals to release shame and embrace what is authentic and consensual for them.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• There is no “right” way to have sex—sexual expression is valid as long as it is consensual and authentic

• Many relationship conflicts are rooted in unresolved childhood dynamics, not present-day issue

• Therapists must learn to ask better questions and challenge their own biases to effectively support clients

SHOW SUMMARY:

00:00 - What is IMAGO Relationship Therapy?

01:41 - Media Analysis and Relationship Dynamics

02:37 - Dr. Joe Kort’s Professional Origin Story

03:23 - Modern Sexual Health Trends: Outercourse and "Sides"

04:35 - The Evolution of Couples Therapy Techniques

06:06 - Childhood Wounding and Historical Relationship Issues

07:45 - Mastering Mirroring and Validation in Dialogue

09:34 - Differentiation and Igniting Sexual Passion

11:18 - EMDR Therapy for Relationship Trauma Recovery

14:14 - Beyond Sex Addiction: The OCSB Model10

17:21 - Clinical Mistakes and Erotic Orientation

19:05 - IMAGO Framework for LGBTQIA+ Couples

22:03 - Facilitating Effective Intentional Dialogue

23:41 - Managing Countertransference in High-Conflict Sessions

25:07 - Professional Training and the SAR Experience

27:10 - The Benefits of Couples Therapy Intensives

31:12 - Scaling from Solo to Group Practice Management

35:11 - Generational Shifts and the Importance of Genograms

36:07 - Marketing, Social Media, and Professional Advocacy

38:32 - Lightning Round: Clinical Insights and Resources

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

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Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)

More from this episode’s guest at: https://joekort.com/

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Today in the lab, we sit down with Caitlin V, prominent sex and relationship coach, author, and media personality, to break down what people are really asking for when they say they want more confidence in bed. From performance anxiety to intimacy blocks, this conversation reframes sex as a skill that can be learned, not something you’re either born good at or not.

Caitlin shares powerful insights from over a decade of coaching, especially working with men navigating issues like erectile inconsistency, low confidence, and communication challenges. She offers practical tools you can use immediately, including how to ask better questions, shift from performance to connection, and understand how your physical, emotional, and relational health all work together.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Confidence in bed is not about performance—it’s about feeling “able to” connect, satisfy, and be present

• Most sexual concerns are far more common than people think, but silence keeps people feeling alone

• Small shifts like asking better questions or focusing on connection over outcomes can transform your sex life

SHOW SUMMARY:

00:00 – The True Definition of Sexual Confidence

01:40 – A "User Manual" for the Body: Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger

04:08 – Breaking the Narrow Mold of Traditional Masculinity

05:39 – Origin Story: From Academic Researcher to Sex Coach

06:37 – The Normalization and Future of Sex Coaching

09:24 – The Interconnectedness of Gut Health and Sexual Function

11:34 – Essential Business Advice for Intimate Health Professionals

14:25 – The Necessity of Sales in the Coaching Industry

17:15 – Normalizing Common Sexual Worries and Struggles

19:10 – The Diagnostic Decision Tree for Erectile Consistency

21:32 – Analyzing the Phrase "To Be Able To

23:41 – Shifting Focus from Performance to Connection

26:08 – The Power of Asking Intentional Questions

28:36 – Quality vs. Quantity: The "More Sex" Fallacy

30:42 – Erotic Intelligence as a Learnable Skill

34:45 – Lightning Round: Quick Tips for Better Intimacy

RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. 

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More from this episode’s guest at: https://caitlinvneal.com/

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Joining us in the lab is Dr. Tara Suwinyatichaiporn, author of How Do You Like It?, to unpack one of the most overlooked skills in relationships: sexual communication. From why people fake orgasms instead of asking for what they want, to how culture, shame, and relationship dynamics shape our ability to talk about sex, this conversation goes deep into the psychology behind intimacy.

Dr. Tara shares practical, real-world tools to improve your sex life starting today. You’ll learn how simple strategies like “sexy check-ins,” media-based conversation starters, and sexual affirmations can transform both connection and satisfaction. She also breaks down the difference between sexual self-esteem and confidence, and why even highly successful people can struggle in the bedroom.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Most people were never taught how to talk about sex, and it directly impacts relationship satisfaction
• Sexual communication is less about technique and more about emotional safety, dynamics, and trust
• Small, consistent actions like monthly check-ins can dramatically improve intimacy

SHOW SUMMARY

00:00 - 01:42: Introduction to the Importance of Sexual Communication

01:43 - 02:08: The Challenge of Faking Orgasms vs. Asking for Desires

02:09 - 04:50: Contributing Factors to Sexual Communication Apprehension

04:51 - 06:38: The Impact of Repressed Desires and Betrayal in Long-Term Relationships

06:39 - 07:43: Overview of Dr. Tara's Research and Upcoming Book

07:44 - 09:40: Dr. Tara's Personal and Professional Journey in Sexual Communication

09:41 - 10:48: Media Misrepresentations and the Need for Intergenerational Learning

10:49 - 13:31: Moving Beyond a "Fine" Sex Life to a Fulfilling One

13:32 - 13:46: Symbolic Interactionism and the Meaning Behind Sexual Lack

13:47 - 14:54: Exploring Your Sexual Profile and Personality Test

14:55 - 16:17: The Benefits of Differences and Compatibility in Sexual Dimensions

16:18 - 17:42: Expanding Sexual Definitions and Finding Erotic Solutions

17:43 - 18:43: The "Media Mention Method" for Initiating Sexual Dialogue

18:44 - 21:03: Implementing "Sexy Check-ins" and Positive Psychology

21:04 - 22:10: The Value of Formalized Rating Systems in Communication

22:11 - 25:20: Distinguishing Between Sexual Confidence and Sexual Self-Esteem

25:21 - 27:43: Building Sexual Self-Esteem Through Positive Affirmations

27:44 - 30:26: Dr. Tara's Personal Journaling Practice and High Vibration Living

30:27 - 31:40: Common Mistakes: Avoiding Criticism in Sexual Communication

31:41 - 33:50: Navigating Emotional Regulation and Partner Communication Styles

33:51 - 35:09: Lightning Round: Myths, Turn-ons, and Improving Communication

35:10 - 35:33: Closing Remarks and Presentation Experiences with Sexual Health Alliance

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. 

Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com

More from this episode’s guest at: https://www.luvbites.co/

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What if the biggest legal decisions about sex in our society weren’t based on science, but on bias, fear, and misunderstanding? We sat down with Dr. David Ley, a clinical psychologist and forensic sexuality expert, to explore what really happens behind the scenes of sex-related legal cases. From testifying in court to unpacking how bias, misinformation, and cultural stigma influence outcomes, Dr. Ley shares how his work brings science and nuance into some of the most misunderstood areas of human sexuality.

We dive into real-world cases involving kink, pornography laws, memory reliability, and online sting operations, revealing just how often sexual behavior is misinterpreted or pathologized in legal systems. Dr. Ley also highlights the growing “war on sex” and why education, not fear, is essential in shaping fair and informed decisions.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Many legal decisions about sexuality are shaped by bias, not science

• Memory is highly unreliable, even in high-stakes cases like sexual assault

• Consensual sexual behaviors, including kink and non-monogamy, are often misunderstood and unfairly criminalized

SHOW SUMMARY:

00:00 – Introduction to Forensic Sexuality with Dr. David Ley

01:45 – The "Extroverted Introvert" in Sexology

02:44 – Origin Story: From Probation Systems to Pornography Evidence

06:48 – The Expert Witness: Bridging Science and the Jury

07:40 – Debunking the Myth of Sex Addiction in Court

08:01 – The Malleability of Memory and Trauma

12:11 – Controversial Cases: OneTaste, Obscenity, and Social Bias

16:31 – Online Sting Operations and the Risk to Sexual Subcultures

24:31 – Kink vs. Abuse: Training Gaps in Law Enforcement

27:48 – Technology and the Rise of Sexuality-Related Legal Cases

29:45 – Thought Crimes and Obscenity: The "Mr. Double" Case

41:41 – Advice for Professionals Entering Forensic Work

43:11 – Lightning Round: Myths, Books, and Personal Insights

47:16 – The Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) & Closing Message

RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.

Join them at:SexualHealthAlliance.com

More from this episode’s guest at:https://www.davidleyphd.com/

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From healing generational trauma and shame to navigating the lack of nuance on social media, Vanessa offers a candid look at the life of a public sex therapist.

We explore her personal journey of helping her own family talk more openly about sex and why she believes that finding joy and pleasure, even in dark times, is a powerful form of resistance. Whether you're a professional looking to integrate sexual health into your work or someone wanting to stop viewing sex as a chore, this episode is packed with actionable insights and heartfelt encouragement.

Key Takeaways:

- Sex as Connection: Moving beyond the physical act to see sex as a source of lightness, joy, and profound connection in life.

- Healing Generational Shame: How open communication about sex can break cycles of trauma and give others permission to let go of their own shame.

- The Power of Playfulness: Why shifting away from performance and embracing the messy, funny, and joyful parts of sex leads to the best experiences.

- Joy as Resistance: Understanding that prioritizing pleasure and intimacy is essential, especially when facing a challenging global landscape.

Chapters:

00:00 – The Transformative Power of Great Intimacy

01:33 – Addressing Modern Taboos: From "Butt Stuff" to Kink

02:47 – Professional Obligations: Getting Hooked on Romantasy (ACOTAR)

05:11 – Handling Public Criticism and Intentional Feedback

07:08 – The Value of Healthy Debate in Sexual Health

08:36 – Healing Families: Breaking Generational Sexual Shame

11:42 – The Most Meaningful Moments: Individual Impact & Testimonials

13:13 – Challenges of the Public Eye: Navigating Social Media Nuance

14:31 – Motivation After 20 Years: Why There’s Still Work to Do

16:21 – S//xual Landscapes: Comparing the US and Berlin

17:26 – Lightning Round: Books, Travel, and Bravo TV

19:52 – The Contradiction of Privacy: Sex Life vs. Home Life

21:01 – Deep Dive: "Heated Rivalry" and Representation in Media

24:15 – Final Message: Why Sex Should Be Joyful

27:04 – Closing Remarks and How to SubscribeResources

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications and cutting-edge education: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/The Sexology

Practice Guide: A practical guide for incorporating intimacy into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guide

Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from Vanessa Marin: Visit https://vmtherapy.com/ for courses and resources.

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