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"Calm Confidence Isn't Weakness — It's Power, with Katherine Chestnut"
You look fine. You're managing, holding it all together, showing up. But inside, you're running on empty. Here's the thing — that's not a willpower problem or a mindset problem. That's a nervous system problem.
This week I'm joined by Katherine Chestnut, a mindfulness and nervous system expert who helps people who look fine on the outside but feel fried inside understand what's actually happening beneath the stress — and what to do about it. Katherine's work is grounded in breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical wisdom — no fluff, just real tools for real life. We talk about what survival mode actually looks like when you're still functioning, why striving for perfection means we stop listening to our bodies, the difference between honoring rest and pushing through, and how calm confidence and power aren't opposites. Katherine also shares her own story with real vulnerability, and leaves us with one simple, practical action to start building calm confidence tomorrow morning.
We talk about:
What survival mode actually looks like when you're still "managing"
Why perfectionism disconnects us from what our bodies are telling us
Honoring rest versus pushing through — a real example from a personal 30-day challenge
The exchange of energy, and why grounding yourself changes the room around you
One simple morning practice to start building calm confidence tomorrow
Why saying no to someone else is saying yes to yourself
Where to find Katherine's books, meditations, and teaching
If you've been functioning on fumes while looking like you have it all together, this conversation gives you real language for what's happening — and a place to start.
In This Episode
Guided meditation — "I can be both calm and powerful. I don't have to run on empty to stay unstoppable."
Meet Katherine Chestnut — mindfulness and nervous system expert, breathwork teacher
What survival mode actually looks like — when you're functioning but running on fumes
Perfectionism vs. listening to your body — honoring rest instead of pushing through
Calm confidence explained — why it's power, not weakness, and how energy exchange works
One practical action — feet on the floor, one breath, "what do I need today?"
Saying no as self-love — why declining is a way of listening to your body
Katherine's work — four books, nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and weekly YouTube videos
Closing thoughts — "Our natural state is joy"
About Katherine Chestnut
Katherine Chestnut is a mindfulness and nervous system expert whose work centers breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical, no-fluff tools for real life. She's the author of four books, has released nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and shares regular teaching videos on YouTube.
Insight Timer: search Katherine Chestnut for her full meditation library
YouTube: weekly long-form teaching videos and live sessions
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This week was a lot — fresh off New York Fashion Week, deep in chocolate tempering trial and error, a movie release date looming, and fear creeping in about all of it. Then I watched three people I love achieve dreams they'd worked toward for years, and it reminded me: time is divine. Not our timing — divine timing.
In this episode, I'm teaching what happens when you stop trying to control the outcome and start trusting the timing. I get honest about trying to force my chocolate line, my movie release, and my licensing to move on my schedule — and what that control actually cost me: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, and missed signs (including a migraine that took me out for days). I share what I witnessed watching two friends make history hosting a Caribbean-centered show at New York Fashion Week, and another friend finally become a mother after years of difficulty — all reminders that what's meant for you arrives in its own time. I close with exercises to help you find where you're gripping control, and Wednesday, Catherine Chestnut joins me to teach exactly how to put surrender into practice.
We talk about:
Why control is an illusion — you can only control your effort, not the timing
What trying to force outcomes actually costs: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, missed signs
What watching three people's dreams come true this week taught her about divine timing
The connection to this month's Day 8 manifestation countdown theme: release
Separating "your part" (showing up, doing the work, staying ready) from "God's part" (the timing, the outcome, the miracles)
Exercises: naming what you're trying to force, asking how that control is working for you, and committing to your part while releasing the rest
A preview of Wednesday's guest, Catherine Chestnut, who will teach how to put surrender into real practice
If you've been forcing a timeline, a business outcome, or an answer that isn't ready to come yet, this episode is the permission to do your part — and release the rest.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "Your job is to do the work. God's job is the timing."
What this week taught her — New York Fashion Week, chocolate tempering, and a looming movie release
Control is an illusion — what forcing outcomes actually costs
Watching three dreams come true — a history-making fashion show and a long-awaited motherhood journey
Manifestation countdown, Day 8: Release — "I release the version of me that survived beautifully, but was never meant to live forever"
Exercise 1: Where are you trying to control?
Exercise 2: Your part vs. God's part
Coming Wednesday — Catherine Chestnut teaches how to put surrender into practice
Closing affirmations — "I do my part with excellence. I trust divine timing more than my timeline."
divine timing, control vs surrender, faith vs fear, letting go, manifestation, self-love podcast, mindset Monday, trusting the process, New York Fashion Week, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, personal growth, releasing control, patience and faith
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Monday, we talked about rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, trauma, or burnout. Today, my guest shows us what that actually looks like in practice.
Alexandra Beller — dancer, choreographer, educator, and author of the upcoming book The Anatomy of Art — has spent decades helping artists and educators break free from old fear patterns and rebuild trust in themselves. In this conversation, she models this month's work in real time: the grief hidden inside every choice, the fear of "am I doing this right," and why the path back to trusting yourself has nothing to do with being the best or the most certain person in the room. If Monday gave you the teaching on rebuilding self-trust, this is what it looks like lived out — through an artist's relationship with fear, doubt, and her own creative voice. This conversation isn't just for dancers or choreographers — it's for anyone learning to trust themselves again after fear or old patterns have taken the wheel.
We talk about:
Why every creative choice carries a small grief for the possibilities not chosen — and what that has to do with fear of the unknown
Using neutral, curiosity-centered feedback (inspired by Liz Lerman's Critical Response Process) to rebuild trust instead of triggering doubt
Why needing to be the "best" or most certain in the room is actually a fear pattern — and what Alexandra unlearned about it
How non-artists can apply the same principles of unlearning fear and rebuilding trust to everyday life
A rapid-fire lightning round on creative habits, joy, and what authenticity really means
Reclaimed & Unashamed: what Alexandra wants to reclaim, and what she's letting go of shame around
Alexandra's book, The Anatomy of Art, is available for preorder now and releases in August.
In This Episode
Guided meditation — "I trust my creative voice. I release perfection. I create from truth."
Continuing Monday's teaching — rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, trauma, or burnout
Meet Alexandra Beller — decades of work helping artists unlearn fear and rebuild trust in themselves
The grief inside every creative choice — infinite possibilities, one decision, and the fear underneath
Neutral, curiosity-centered feedback — rebuilding trust instead of triggering doubt
Being witnessed, not led — unlearning the need to be the best or most certain in the room
Applying "unlearning fear" beyond art — noticing the habitual givens in everyday life
Lightning round — a creative habit unlearned, a joy practice, and what authenticity means
Reclaimed & Unashamed — Alexandra's answer to the show's signature closing question
About Alexandra Beller
Alexandra Beller is a performer, educator, and author whose upcoming book, The Anatomy of Art, blends poetic insight with practical tools for creative process. She has spent decades working with artists and educators to help them break free from old patterns and create more bravely and authentically.
faith vs fear, rebuilding self-trust, unlearning fear, Alexandra Beller, creative process, dance and choreography, trusting yourself, artist interview, self-love podcast, authenticity in art, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, The Anatomy of Art
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Betrayal breaks something inside of you. So does trauma. So does burnout. All three break your ability to trust yourself — if you couldn't see the betrayal coming, how can you trust your instincts? If you burned out, what does that say about your judgment? So you stop trusting. You second-guess everything. You wait for permission. And that's when fear takes over.
In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm teaching the truth about rebuilding self-trust: it isn't your fault, your weakness, or your failure — it's information. I walk through exactly what breaks self-trust, what it costs you when it's gone, and how it gets rebuilt — not in one big moment, but through F-A-I-T-H, day by day, choice by choice. I share my own experience of rebuilding trust in myself while managing invisible challenges and building every single day, and I give you five exercises to start rebuilding your own self-trust starting today.
We talk about:
What betrayal, trauma, and burnout actually break inside you
The cost of lost self-trust: staying small, seeking validation, losing your voice
Why the break wasn't your fault — and how to reframe it as information, not proof
The F-A-I-T-H approach to rebuilding trust in yourself
Five exercises: naming where you lost trust, writing your fear story, flipping it to a faith statement, taking one small act of self-trust, and the faith commitment
A preview of Wednesday's guest, who will model exactly what this rebuilding looks like in real life
If you've been waiting for permission, second-guessing every choice, or doubting your own knowing since something broke your trust in yourself, this episode gives you the roadmap back.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "Self-trust can be built. It can be rebuilt."
What breaks self-trust — betrayal, trauma, burnout, and what your nervous system tells you
The cost of lost self-trust — staying small, seeking validation, losing your voice
The truth about the break — it wasn't your fault, it was information
Sponsor break — Washington Wellness Institute
The F-A-I-T-H approach — how self-trust is rebuilt day by day, not all at once
Exercise 1: Where you lost your self-trust
Exercise 2: Naming your fear story
Exercise 3: Flipping the fear story into a faith statement
Exercise 4: One small act of self-trust, today
Exercise 5: The faith commitment
Coming Wednesday — meet Alexandra Beller, who models how she unlearned her own fear patterns and chose faith
Closing affirmations — "I am rebuilding self-trust every single day. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed."
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This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and rebuilding faith in yourself.
self-trust, faith vs fear, betrayal recovery, trauma recovery, burnout recovery, rebuilding trust in yourself, mindset Monday, self-love podcast, nervous system healing, faith over fear, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, self-worth, personal growth exercises
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Monday, I told you about choosing healing ways — building a #1 podcast while managing invisible illness, explanting, and recovering. But nobody talks about what you actually do on the hard days, when your energy is depleted, your brain is foggy, and your nervous system is activated. Today I'm giving you the real tools I use — not theory, not what sounds good, but what actually got me through building while managing invisible challenges. These work for anything that drains you: illness, burnout, grief, chronic fatigue, or recovery.
I walk through four practical tools: the capacity check-in (using a simple red/yellow/green system), the daily energy audit (budgeting your energy on a 1–10 scale), adaptive creating for low-capacity days (including how and why I cut this show down from an hour to 30 minutes), and a body scan for depletion to figure out exactly where you're holding exhaustion. I also get honest about recording this very episode in pieces because of my own medium-to-low capacity day, plus lingering brain fog and vertigo from BII that I still manage.
We talk about:
The capacity check-in: red, yellow, green, and what to create at each level
The daily energy audit: budgeting a 1–10 scale instead of pushing through
Adaptive creating: shorter formats, more grace, leaning on your support system
The body scan for depletion: where you're holding exhaustion and what it needs
Celebrating and anchoring your energy when capacity returns
Why honoring your capacity — not pushing through it — is how you build something sustainable
If you're managing anything that drains your energy and you've been trying to push through instead of work with it, this episode gives you tools you can use today.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "Notice how you regulate your nervous system. Move anyway."
The reality of building while managing — full-capacity days vs. depleted ones
Tool 1: The Capacity Check-In — red, yellow, green, and what to create at each level
Tool 2: The Energy Audit — budgeting your energy on a 1–10 scale
Sponsor break — Washington Wellness Institute
Tool 3: Adaptive Creating — grace, shorter formats, and leaning on support
Tool 4: Body Scan for Depletion — where your body is holding exhaustion and what to ask it
Celebrating capacity's return — anchoring what rested feels like and creating from it
Closing affirmations — "I don't push through depletion. I work with it."
Resources & Links
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📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes
This episode is sponsored by Goalie Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and sustainable healing.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Four years ago, I sat at my altar at 50 years old and heard: do daily shows. My entire body said hell no. I had breast implant illness (BII) — an invisible chronic illness I didn't even know I had — draining my energy, fogging my brain, and attacking my immune system. Fear told me I was too sick, too tired, and too unbelievable to build a five-day-a-week self-love podcast. I said yes anyway.
In this episode, I'm sharing the full journey: three years of building The Season of Self Love while managing undiagnosed BII, the moment at my altar when I heard remove those implants, what explant surgery and recovery actually looked like emotionally and physically, and how the clarity that came afterward fueled The Year of the Rebirth album. And I'm sharing the news I got this week: The Season of Self Love has been ranked the #1 self-love podcast of 2026 on the Million Podcast list — built not from a place of being fully healed, but from choosing healing ways every single day.
We talk about:
The altar moment that launched daily shows despite undiagnosed BII
What breast implant illness actually is and how it showed up in her body for 20+ years
The decision to explant and what recovery — physical and emotional — really looked like
How clarity after explant surgery fueled the writing of The Year of the Rebirth
Getting confirmation of the #1 podcast ranking, and what "choosing healing ways" actually means
Why faith isn't "I'm healed, so now I build" — it's "I'm healing, and I'm building anyway"
If you've ever felt like you had to wait until you were fully healed to start building the thing you're called to do, this episode is proof that you don't.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "I choose my healing ways, not because I'm healed, but because I'm healing."
The altar moment at 50 — hearing "do daily shows" and fear's immediate no
What BII actually is — chronic fatigue, brain fog, autoimmune symptoms hidden for 20+ years
Three years building the podcast — while sick, while foggy, while caregiving for her mother
The decision to explant — identity, grief, and choosing herself
Recovery, real and ongoing — rebuilding a relationship with her physical self
The unexpected clarity — and how it became The Year of the Rebirth album
The #1 ranking — confirmation this past week on the Million Podcast list
What faith while healing really means — building anyway, every single day
Closing affirmations — "My challenges don't disqualify me. They qualify me."
Resources & Links
🏆 The Season of Self Love is ranked the #1 self-love podcast of 2026 on the Million Podcast list
🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com
breast implant illness, BII, explant recovery, faith vs fear, healing journey, chronic invisible illness, self-love podcast, number one podcast, The Year of the Rebirth, body reclamation, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, healing ways, autoimmune, choosing healing
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Monday morning, I sat down to record about fear — your guardian, real danger versus imagined danger — and fear showed up so loud I couldn't finish. My shoulders tightened, my throat closed, my breath got shallow, and I heard my guardian say: if you teach this, people will see you're scared and won't believe you. So I stopped recording and went to my altar for answers.
In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what happened next — the three cards that fell out when I shuffled and prayed, and the three exercises they revealed: stopping assumptions to make your word impeccable, understanding that your words are spells you cast on yourself and others, and the freeing truth that everyone is living in their own dream. I close with a real, unscripted fear inventory and a master commitment I want you to write and say out loud with me. This is Season 5 in action — not teaching from a safe distance, but teaching while living it.
We talk about:
What happened when fear showed up mid-recording and why I had to stop
The three-card message from my altar (Four Agreements cards, chakra cards, and prayer)
Exercise 1: Stopping assumptions to make your word impeccable
Exercise 2: Your word as a spell — what fear was saying to me, and the spell I chose instead
Exercise 3: Everyone is in their own dream — releasing the fear of judgment
The fear inventory exercise, from your real, current place — not theory
The master commitment: "I will not let fear silence me"
If you've ever frozen up right when you were about to teach, lead, or show up as yourself, this episode is proof that showing up scared and doing it anyway is the real work.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "My word is my power. Fear tried to silence me, but I speak anyway."
What happened Monday morning — fear showing up in real time while recording
The altar moment — three cards, three messages
Exercise 1: Stop the assumptions, make your word impeccable
Exercise 2: Your word is a spell — naming fear's spell and choosing your own
Exercise 3: People are in their own dream — releasing the fear of judgment
Fear inventory — bracing, assumptions, spells, and what you choose instead
The master commitment — "Starting today, I speak."
Closing affirmations — "I cast my own spell. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable."
Resources & Links
🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
Ready to go deeper with guided support?
**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Fear isn't the problem — your body needs fear. It's kept you alive since the day you were born. But what happens when fear stops protecting you and starts controlling you? That's when protection becomes a prison. This month, we're breaking free.
In this episode, I kick off September's series, Faith vs. Fear, by breaking down exactly how fear works inside you: the internal "guardian" whose only job is danger-protect, why it can't tell the difference between a real threat and an imagined one, and how your past becomes your present through pattern matching. I get personal about how this shows up for me right now — heading into a new chapter, a new birthday, new people, new opportunities — and why living in constant protection mode leaves you exhausted, defended, and unable to rest, trust, connect, or feel joy. The good news: your guardian learned fear, which means it can learn safety too. That's September's work.
We talk about:
Why fear is a survival mechanism, not a weakness
Real danger vs. imagined danger, and why your body responds to both the same way
How your "internal guardian" records past hurt and scans for matching patterns
Why fear becomes your default after real betrayal or trauma
The cost of living in survival mode — and why you can't rest, trust, or feel joy there
How to start teaching your guardian safety
What's ahead this month: recognizing triggers, rewiring through repetition, and building evidence of safety
If you've ever wondered why you're always scanning for danger even when you're safe, this episode explains exactly what's happening in your body — and how to start changing it.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "Fear, I see you. I take back my power."
Fear as a survival mechanism — why your body needs it
Meet your internal guardian — the alarm system with one job: danger, protect
Real danger vs. imagined danger — why your body can't tell the difference
How your past becomes your present — pattern matching and triggered guardians
The cost of living in protection mode — can't rest, trust, connect, or feel joy
Sponsor break — Elevate Me's Labor Day Sale
Teaching your guardian safety — why it takes consistency and repetition
This month's roadmap — recognizing triggers, rewiring, building evidence of safety
Closing affirmations — "I don't live in survival mode anymore. I choose faith."
Resources & Links
🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com
faith vs fear, fear as survival, protection mode, nervous system, trauma patterns, internal guardian, fight or flight, self-love podcast, healing from trauma, spiritual growth, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, survival mode, reclaiming your life
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
On Monday, I told you fear came back — loud. Today I'm giving you the actual tools for what to do when that happens, because fear will return. That's not the problem. What you do with it is everything.
In this episode, I walk you through the exact practice I used this week to move through fear instead of bypassing it: how to recognize fear's return, how to meditate with intention instead of just checking a box, a three-day feeling journal with prompts to get underneath fear's story, and the "three-try commitment" — using my candle that took three tries to light as a metaphor for trying anyway. I also open the door into September's theme: faith versus fear, and give you the reflection questions to start preparing now.
We talk about:
Why fear returning isn't failure — unconsciousness is
How to recognize the signs: drained energy, doubt, numbness, feeling stuck
A 5-step process for naming, tracing, and writing through fear as it shows up
Meditating with intention: what to ask before, during, and after
A 3-day feeling journal practice with prompts to find the truth under fear's story
The three-try commitment exercise — trying anyway, adjusting, and lighting it anyway
Prepping for September: Faith vs. Fear
If Monday's episode hit home and you're ready for the practical tools to actually work through what came up, this episode is for you.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — "Fear, I see you. I don't run from you."
Recognizing fear's return — the signs: drained, stuck, doubtful, numb
Exercise 1: Name it, trace it, write it — a 5-step process for meeting fear as information
Exercise 2: Meditation with intention — meeting the feeling instead of making it go away
Exercise 3: The 3-day feeling journal — prompts to uncover fear's story and the truth beneath it
Exercise 4: The three-try commitment — using the candle metaphor to commit to trying anyway
Exercise 5: Preparing for September's series — Faith vs. Fear, and writing your September intention
Closing affirmations — "Fear returns. This is not failure. This is information."
📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays
📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes
This episode is sponsored by Ashwagandha Gummies by Golie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery — your partners in nervous system support and spiritual awakening.
**YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more!
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
Ready to go deeper with guided support?
**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
I came back from vacation proud — 30 Hard complete, explant anniversary celebrated, the documentary released, Patreon launched. I thought I'd done the work. Then fear came back, bigger and louder than before, and I almost missed it because I was too busy thinking I was past it.
In this episode, I get real about what happened when I sat at my altar the Wednesday after vacation and felt a wave of fear and doubt I couldn't explain — and why that moment became the start of a deeper lesson than the 30 Hard ever taught me. I talk about the difference between meditating to escape and meditating with intention, what it means to be "mechanical" in your spiritual practice versus truly present in it, and the candle that took three tries to light and what it revealed about my foundation being tested. This episode kicks off next month's series on fear versus faith, and it's a reminder that fear returning isn't failure — it's growth.
We talk about:
What happened when fear showed up unexpectedly after a season of big wins
The difference between spiritual bypassing and doing the real work
Meditating with intention to understand, not to escape
The three-try candle and what each attempt revealed
Why feeling drained after big work is a sign of growth, not failure
What it means to be a warrior with fear, not past it
If you've ever done the work, felt proud of your growth, and then had fear knock you right back down — this episode is for you.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — breath and affirmation: "I feel fear. I don't let it stop me."
Coming back from vacation "fixed" — and why fear returned anyway
The altar moment — sitting with unexplained fear and doubt
Spiritual bypassing vs. the real work — meditating with intention instead of checking a box
The three-try candle — foundation, fear, doubt, and lighting it anyway
Living Embodied — feeling fear, sitting with it, asking what it's protecting you from, and moving anyway
Introducing next month's series: Fear vs. Faith
Closing affirmations — "I am not past fear. I am a warrior with fear."
📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays
📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes
This episode is brought to you by Golie, Ashwagandha Gummies, and Elevate Me Self-Discovery — partners in nervous system support and spiritual practice.
fear and faith, spiritual bypassing, self-love podcast, mindset Monday, embodied living, meditation with intention, altar work, spiritual growth, warrior mindset, inner work, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, nervous system support, personal transformation
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Thirty days ago, I started the 30 Hard thinking it was about discipline — pushing my body, checking boxes, staying consistent. Four days after completing it, I'm sitting with the real lesson: it was never about discipline at all. It was about listening.
In this episode, I break down what 30 days of daily meditation, movement, altar work, learning, and nutrition actually taught me — starting with a dream that sent excruciating pain through my right ear and led me to a message at my altar: trust what you know and stop making yourself prove it to yourself. I share the four biggest lessons from the challenge, why my body "said no" on days 13 and 14 and what that taught me about listening instead of pushing, and how I almost let the busyness of new opportunities cause me to miss celebrating my own one-year post-explant anniversary. This one is about trusting your inner knowing over proving your worth.
We talk about:
Why the 30 Hard was a container for spiritual work, not a fitness challenge
The dream and the altar message that changed everything mid-challenge
Four lessons: spiritual connection over physical strength, listening to your body, decoding dream language, and how consistency (not perfection) creates spiritual space
Why she almost missed celebrating her own one-year explant anniversary in the middle of the challenge
Closing affirmations on trusting your inner knowing as your greatest teacher
If you've ever finished a challenge — a 30 Hard, a 75 Hard, a 7-day reset, anything — and felt like the "real" lesson happened somewhere you weren't expecting, this episode is for you.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — breath and affirmation to open the show
Why she thought 30 Hard was about discipline — and why it wasn't
The dream and the altar message — "trust what you know and stop making yourself prove it to yourself"
Lesson 1: Spiritual connection over physical strength
Lesson 2: The body speaks — what days 13–14 taught her about listening instead of pushing
Lesson 3: Dream language and what the ear pain meant
Lesson 4: Consistency over perfection — how showing up (not perfectly) creates spiritual space
Almost missing the moment — celebrating one year post-explant in the middle of the challenge
Closing affirmations — "I trust what I know. My body is wise. My spirit is wise."
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One year ago today, I made a choice to stop proving myself and start trusting myself — I removed my breast implants. Today, I'm celebrating that choice with proof: real footage, the full journey, not the highlight reel.
In this episode, I open up about what it's meant to live one year past my explant surgery, why "the choice created the proof," and how showing up in truth — not just talking about transformation, but living it — has become the heartbeat of Season 5. I also share big news: my documentary-style anniversary film drops today exclusively on my new Patreon, Nyomi's Intimate Corner, and my film To Unleash Us Back premieres this Friday on Tubi.
We talk about:
Why I chose to remove my implants and what fear tried to tell me along the way
The difference between telling people about transformation and showing them
What's inside the full explant anniversary footage — surgery day, post-op, and one year later
The launch of Nyomi's Intimate Corner on Patreon, and what it means to go deeper into sexuality, sensuality, and spirituality alongside self-love
Why I believe your body isn't the problem — it's the proof
If you or someone you love is navigating breast implant illness (BII) or a major body-reclamation decision, this episode — and the footage behind it — is for you.
In This Episode
Grounding practice — starting the show with breath and affirmation
The announcements — documentary drop on Patreon + To Unleash Us Back premieres on Tubi
The choice vs. the proof — reframing a year of "telling" into a moment of "showing"
What's in the footage — night before, morning of, post-op days, and one year later
Why she's releasing it raw and unfiltered, including topless imagery, for anyone facing BII
Introducing Nyomi's Intimate Corner — the new home for deeper conversations on sex, sensuality, and spirituality, launching in October
Closing affirmations — "My body is not the problem. My body is the proof."
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From Fear to Freedom: The Power of Making the Choice
Season 5 | August Week 2 Mindset Monday | Day 27 of 30 Hard | Hosted by Nyomi Banks
📖 EPISODE SUMMARY
Fear kept me from making the choice.
But the moment I made the CHOICE — to reclaim, to listen, to trust — everything shifted.
Not my body. My MIND.
Not my circumstances. My KNOWING.
Today we talk about what happens when you stop running from fear and start CHOOSING freedom.
Because the choice? That's where the power lives.
🧘 60-SECOND MEDITATION
Place one hand on your heart.
"I choose freedom over fear."
Inhale. Exhale.
"I have the power to make this choice."
Inhale. Exhale.
"From this moment forward, I'm choosing differently."
Inhale. Exhale.
"Fear tried to run me, but I run me now."
One more breath. Release.
💡 THE TEACHING: FEAR IS A CHOICE, NOT A FEELING
Fear doesn't just happen to you. Fear is a HABIT you've been practicing.
You practice it when you:
Tighten your shoulders to take up less space
Clench your jaw to not speak
Collapse your chest to not be seen
Numb your belly to not feel
You've practiced these patterns so long, they FEEL like truth.
But they're not. They're just choices you keep repeating.
🙏 THE ALTAR MESSAGE THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING
A few weeks ago: Powerful dream. My right ear in excruciating pain.
Next morning at my altar, the message came:
"Trust what you know and stop making yourself prove it to yourself."
This broke me open because:
I've been PROVING myself to myself this whole time.
Proving I'm worthy. Proving I'm healed. Proving I can do 30 Hard. Proving my body is good.
PROVING. PROVING. PROVING.
The message was clear: STOP PROVING. TRUST WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW.
🔄 WHAT CHANGED WHEN I CHOSE DIFFERENTLY
When I made the CHOICE to stop proving and start trusting:
Everything shifted. Not my circumstances. My INNER KNOWING shifted.
I stopped asking permission from my fear.
I stopped asking my doubt if I was ready.
I stopped checking my insecurity if I was enough.
I just CHOSE.
And that choice freed me.
🎯 THE GYM QUOTE HITS DIFFERENTLY NOW
"Don't be afraid to work hard enough to find out how good you can really be."
THEN: Work hard to PROVE myself. Push harder, get stronger, show the world.
NOW: Stop being afraid. You ALREADY know how good you can be. Stop making yourself PROVE it.
The work isn't to PROVE your worth. The work is to STOP DOUBTING IT.
💫 FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM = CHOOSING TO TRUST
Fear says: You need proof. You need permission. You need to prove you're worthy.
Freedom says: You already know. You already ARE. Now TRUST IT.
The beautiful thing: Freedom isn't something you FIND. Freedom is something you CHOOSE.
Every single day when you:
Choose trust over proof
Choose knowing over doubt
Choose inner wisdom over external validation
That's when you move from fear to freedom.
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
I choose freedom over fear.
I have the power to make this choice.
I stop proving and I start trusting.
What I know about myself is TRUE.
I don't need permission. I don't need proof. I don't need approval.
I have inner knowing and I TRUST IT.
My choice is my power.
I am free.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
💬 REAL TALK FROM NYOMI
"Fear isn't just a feeling—it's a choice that I kept making."
And: "The real work isn't physical. The real work is choosing to trust what you already know about yourself."
🎯 WHAT'S COMING
This Week = CELEBRATION
Wednesday (Aug 12): One-year explant anniversary + YouTube video release of the full journey.
We celebrate the CHOICE that created the PROOF that choosing freedom changes everything.
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Monday: Fear is held in your body. Reclamation means taking back what's yours.
Last week (Ask Nyomi): Discipline is sexy because it's RESILIENT. Not perfect—resilient.
Today: We put it together. We do the WORK of reclaiming your body. Not perfectly. But CONSCIOUSLY.
And we do it from where we are RIGHT NOW.
🧘 60-SECOND MEDITATION
Place both hands on your body.
"My body deserves devotion, not perfection."
Inhale. Exhale.
"I am showing up. I am continuing forward. I am honoring where I am right now."
Inhale. Exhale.
"Discipline is how I reclaim my body. Resilience is how I stay."
Inhale. Exhale.
"I keep going. Not perfectly. But devotedly."
One more breath. Release.
💡 THE TEACHING: DISCIPLINE = RESILIENCE
Day 13: My body said NO.
Day 14: I shut down.
Did I go back to Day 1? NO.
What I did: I repeated Day 14. I honored it. Then I KEPT GOING.
That's not failure. That's RESILIENCE. That's DISCIPLINE.
📝 THE 5 EXERCISES
Exercise 1: Listen to Your Body (With Devotion, Not Judgment)
Step 1: Where do you feel tightness? Numbness? Alive? Afraid? (Don't fix it—just listen)
Step 2: What fear lives in that space? (Tight shoulders = responsibility? Clenched jaw = not being heard? Collapsed chest = fear of being seen? Numb belly = fear of feeling?)
Write it down. This is where the work begins.
Exercise 2: Your Body Reclamation Practice (Start Where You Are)
Step 1: Choose ONE practice (not everything). Move your body? Feed your body? Breathe? Rest? Feel your body? Pick ONE.
Step 2: Commit to 7 days (not 30, not 90). Write: "For the next 7 days, I commit to ___ as an act of devotion to my body."
Step 3: What does devotion look like? If you miss a day, you don't start over. You continue from where you are. (Like the man who walked Philly to LA—got hit by a car, healed where he was, KEPT WALKING.) Write: "If I miss a day, I keep going from where I am."
Exercise 3: Release the Fear Blocks
Step 1: Name it. "The fear in my [body part] is [fear]." Example: "The fear in my jaw is fear of speaking my truth."
Step 2: Release it. Write it & burn it. Say it out loud. Move & shake it out. Breathe it out (inhale fear, exhale release).
Step 3: Replace it. "The fear in my jaw releases. I replace it with: I speak my truth. My voice matters."
Exercise 4: Your 7-Day Devotion Commitment
Step 1: Write your commitment. "For 7 days, I commit to ___ as an act of body reclamation. I am not doing this perfectly. I am doing this devotedly. If I miss a day, I continue from where I am. I honor my body. I reclaim my body."
Step 2: How will you track? Simple check-mark in journal or mark on calendar. (Not about perfection—about VISIBILITY. Seeing yourself show up.)
Step 3: What's your backup plan? If you miss a day: Cool, tomorrow I do it. Family emergency? I honor that, next day I restart. Tired? Rest is part of reclamation too.
Exercise 5: The Bigger Picture
Step 1: What does reclaiming your body mean to YOU? (Reclaiming from trauma? Disconnection? Shame? Control? Fear?)
Step 2: Who do you become when you reclaim? (When fear doesn't control you, when you listen to your body, when you show up with devotion—who are you?)
Step 3: Is that who you want to be? If YES—you just found your WHY. Your discipline just got SEXIER. Because it's not about the practice. It's about WHO YOU'RE BECOMING.
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
My body deserves devotion, not perfection.
I am listening to what my body is telling me.
I am releasing fear held in my being.
I am showing up for my body. Not perfectly, but devotedly.
If I fall, I continue from where I am.
Discipline is sexy because it's resilient.
I am reclaiming my body. Seven days at a time.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
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The gym quote on my wall: "Don't be afraid to work hard enough to find out how good you really can be."
I've been sharing it for weeks. But today it HIT DIFFERENTLY.
Because this isn't just about fitness.
This is about reclaiming your body. This is about what happens when you stop being afraid.
August = Honoring the 1-year anniversary of reclaiming MY body (explant Aug 12) + inviting you to reclaim YOURS.
🧘 60-SECOND MEDITATION (From Episode)
Place one hand on heart. One hand on belly.
"My body is not the problem. My body is the proof."
Inhale. Exhale.
"I am not afraid of how good I really can be."
Inhale. Exhale.
"I am reclaiming every inch, every cell, every experience."
Inhale. Exhale.
"My body is mine. And it is GOOD."
One more breath in. Release.
💡 THE TEACHING: FEAR HELD IN YOUR BODY
Fear doesn't live in your mind. It lives in your BODY.
It tightens your shoulders. Clenches your jaw. Stops your breath. Makes you small.
Most of us have carried fear in our bodies so long, we don't recognize it as fear. We think it's just who we are.
But it's not. It's FEAR.
🔑 WHAT RECLAMATION MEANS
When I got my breast implants removed a year ago, I wasn't just removing silicone.
I was removing something I put there out of FEAR.
Fear I wasn't enough. Fear I needed to be MORE. Fear my body as it was wouldn't be acceptable.
Reclamation means: Taking back what's yours. Your body. Your choice. Your power. Your right to exist AS YOU ARE.
Not as fear told you to be. But as you actually are.
🎯 THE QUOTE HITS DIFFERENTLY NOW
For years: "Don't be afraid to work hard enough to find out how good you can be" = MOTIVATION for fitness
NOW: It's SPIRITUAL MEDICINE
Don't be afraid = Release fear held in your body
Work hard enough = Show up for yourself consistently (through 30 Hard or your practice)
Find out how good you can be = Discover who you are when FEAR ISN'T running the show
📝 THIS MONTH'S INVITATION
While on Day 20 of 30 Hard, while honoring the explant anniversary (Aug 12), I'm inviting you to reclaim YOUR body.
Not through surgery. Through:
✨ Listening to what your body is actually telling you ✨ Releasing fear held there ✨ Moving in ways that feel like DEVOTION ✨ Feeding yourself with intention ✨ Resting without guilt ✨ Reclaiming every inch as YOURS
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
My body is not the problem.
My body is the PROOF.
I am not afraid of how good I really can be.
I release fear held in my shoulders.
I release fear held in my jaw.
I release fear in my breath.
I release fear in my being.
My body is mine. And it is GOOD.
I am reclaiming it. All of it.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
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Week 1: Being the messenger (stay visible) Week 2: Journey from broken to unbroken Week 3: The messenger effect (how visibility creates permission) Week 4: CLAIMING YOUR FULL MESSENGER STORY
Today: We WRITE it. We OWN it. We COMMIT to LIVING it.
No apologies. No hiding. No shame. Just TRUTH.
🧘 60-SECOND MEDITATION
"I integrate my full story. Past, present, becoming. All of it together. I am ready to claim my messenger story. And I am living it starting now."
📝 THE 5 EXERCISES
Exercise 1: Your Full Messenger Story - Written
Step 1: Your Past ("My messenger story begins with...")
Step 2: Your Struggle (what the work looked like, what you specifically did, moments of doubt, but you kept going)
Step 3: Your Becoming (now I am, I am building, I am learning, I am still growing, I am impacting)
Step 4: Your Full Statement (I am past/present/becoming. I survived. I did the work. Because of all of it, I am a messenger. My story is...)
Exercise 2: Private vs. Public Versions
Step 1: What's Private? (what do you keep private? who do you share it with?)
Step 2: Your Public Version (what version do you share publicly/broadly?)
Step 3: The Risk (what am I afraid will happen if I tell my full story publicly?)
Exercise 3: Living Your Full Story
Step 1: What Changes? (If you fully claim, how do you show up differently?)
Step 2: Who Needs to Know? (partner, kids, community, audience?)
Step 3: How Will You Tell It? (conversation, social media, content, interview, community, write it, record it)
Step 4: Your Action This Week (tell someone, post, create content, write letter, share with community)
Exercise 4: Messenger Community Commitment
Step 1: Write your commitment statement
Step 2: Your closing declaration ("I am the full woman/man/person. I am past, present, becoming. I am a messenger. I am claiming it all. No apologies. No shame. No hiding. Just truth.")
Step 3: Sign and date it (make it official)
Exercise 5: July Reflection
What did you learn this month about being a messenger?
How have you grown from Week 1 to now?
What's your commitment for August?
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
I am my full messenger story. Past, present, and becoming. All of it.
I own it. No apologies.
I claim it. No shame.
I live it. No hiding.
I am the whole woman. I am the whole man. I am the whole person.
I am powerful.
I am a messenger.
My story changes lives. Starting with my own.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
💬 REAL TALK FROM NYOMI
"Who better to tell someone whose life was messy that somebody whose life was messy that got out of that messy life and is now living on the other side, living very well?"
And: "Everybody is not for you. Everybody is not for me. And who this is supposed to be for, it will be for. Share. Do the work. Show them you're doing the work."
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We're closing July's "Look at the Messenger" journey.
Week 1: Being the messenger (stay visible) Week 2: Journey from broken to unbroken Week 3: The messenger effect (how visibility creates permission) Week 4: Claiming your FULL messenger story
Not parts of it. All of it. No apologies.
🧘 60-SECOND MEDITATION
"I own my full story, all of it. My past, my present, my becoming. I am not one thing. I am the whole journey. And I am claiming it all. No apologies."
📝 THE FULL MESSENGER STORY INCLUDES:
Your Past
What broke you
Choices you made (good and not-so-good)
Industry/environment/situation you were in
This is CONTEXT. The soil where your strength grew.
Your Struggle
The actual work (therapy, boundaries, patterns, choices)
Hard moments, times you wanted to quit
Not weakness. EVIDENCE of your commitment.
Your Becoming
Who you're ACTIVELY becoming (still learning, growing, evolving)
Not claiming you have it figured out
You're in PROCESS
Your Impact
What you're building
Who you're serving
The ripple effect
PROOF it wasn't for nothing
💡 WHY PEOPLE AVOID OWNING THE FULL STORY
❌ Because it requires vulnerability ❌ It means you're not perfect ❌ It means you're still working on things ❌ It means you have moments of doubt ❌ You haven't "arrived" ❌ It feels risky
✅ BUT: That's what makes you POWERFUL.
🔥 THE POWER OF YOUR FULL STORY
When you claim your full messenger story:
You're no longer trying to PROVE anything
You're not convincing anyone you have it together
You're just saying: Here's what happened. Here's what I did. Here's who I am NOW. Here's where I'm still growing. That's what I offer.
That's REAL power. That's the power that changes people.
🛡️ HOW CLAIMING YOUR FULL STORY PROTECTS YOU
When you've already claimed it all, there's NOTHING left for people to use against you.
Someone tries to shame you? You say: "Yeah, that was me. I survived it. And now I'm here."
No power in the shame anymore. Because you already claimed it.
📝 NYOMI'S FULL MESSENGER STORY
"I was in the adult industry for years. I survived things that broke me. I hid. I performed. I sought validation from people who couldn't give it. I got married to someone who didn't respect me. I carried shame. I built walls. I people-pleased. I controlled things. I made decisions I had to redo. I launched things that failed. I have moments of doubt. I'm still learning, still growing, still becoming.
AND
I survived it all. I got remarried to someone who loves and respects me. I built a coaching practice. I created a podcast with thousands of listeners. I launched Elevate Me. I'm building Our Souls Are Not Lost Foundation. I have three amazing daughters. I'm proof that transformation is real.
That's my full messenger story. All of it. No apologies."
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
I am the whole woman. I am the whole man. I am the whole person.
I am my past. I am my struggle. I am my becoming. I am my impact.
I claim my full messenger story. All of it.
No apologies. No hiding. No shame.
I am broken and building. I am lost and found. I am healing and healed all at the same time.
And that makes me powerful.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
💬 REAL TALK FROM NYOMI
"Your struggle is a part of your purpose. Your pain is a part of your purpose. Your struggle is your strength."
And: "The world needs your whole story. Not a polished version. Your whole story."
🎯 CLOSING MESSAGE
Your struggle. Your pain. Your journey.
That's a GIFT for someone else.
It allows them permission to see the gifts in their own life.
If you've been struggling about sharing your story or living in your purpose, know this: Your struggle IS your strength.
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Monday: We talked about the MESSENGER EFFECT (how your visible transformation creates permission).
Today: We IDENTIFY who's watching you and AMPLIFY your impact.
You're already a messenger. Now let's make it CONSCIOUS.
🧘 60-SECOND MEDITATION
"People are watching me and they are learning from my transformation. I am already a messenger. I am already creating the messenger effect. Now I'm going to make it conscious and amplify it. My impact matters. My visibility matters. My story matters."
📝 THE 5 EXERCISES
Exercise 1: Who Is Watching You?
List your watchers (family, friends, colleagues, followers, clients, community, people you don't even know)
Step 2: What transformation are they witnessing? (for each group)
Step 3: What permission are you giving them?
Exercise 2: Evidence of Impact
Step 1: Feedback you've received (has anyone told you your transformation impacted them?)
Step 2: Observable changes (what changes have you noticed in people watching you?)
Step 3: The ripple effect (who did they impact?)
Exercise 3: What You're Teaching
What lessons is your visible transformation teaching?
Are you teaching what you INTEND to teach?
Get honest: If you're teaching "hide your struggle," is that what you want?
Exercise 4: Amplifying Your Messenger Effect
Step 1: Choose your focus (which transformation do you want MORE visible?)
Step 2: How will you make it visible? (social media, conversations, content, speaking, mentoring, community, vulnerability)
Step 3: Who do you want to give permission? (be specific)
Step 4: One action this week (share, create, speak, mentor, post, be vulnerable)
Exercise 5: Conscious Messenger Commitment
Write your commitment: "I commit to being a visible, conscious messenger. I commit to teaching ___. I commit to giving ___ permission to ___. I understand my impact matters and I choose to amplify it."
Step 2: Who needs to know?
Step 3: Check-in practice (monthly: Who's watching? What am I teaching? Is that what I want? How can I amplify?)
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
I am a messenger.
People are watching my transformation.
I am already creating the messenger effect.
Now I'm making it conscious.
I am teaching. I am giving permission. I am multiplying impact.
My visibility matters. My story changes lives.
I am the conscious messenger.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
💬 REAL TALK FROM NYOMI
"You are not just living for yourself. You are living as a messenger. Own it."
And: "My oldest daughter has been watching me heal in real time and it's inspired and encouraged her to do the same. Her watching me heal has been her healing too."
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What happens when you let people watch you heal — not just the "after" photo, but the real, messy middle? On this Mindset Monday, Nyomi Banks breaks down the Messenger Effect: the ripple that happens when you stay visible through your own transformation instead of disappearing until you're "fixed."
Nyomi gets personal about why she chose to be seen through every chapter of her own reinvention — including her journey out of the adult industry and into her identity as Nyomi Banks, Da Goddess of Self Love — and why hiding the process only makes healing look impossible for everyone watching you.
In this episode, you'll learn the four things staying visible actually creates:
Permission — proof that transformation is a real choice, not a fantasy
A roadmap — showing people what you did, who you asked for help, and what it cost
Community — attracting others on the same journey so no one heals alone
A shifted narrative — rewriting the story people believe about you (and you believe about yourself)
Nyomi also opens up about a real conversation with her husband this week on fear as a survival tool, sitting with the question "what are you afraid of?", and why she's learning to see the unknown as a gift instead of a threat.
If you've been healing quietly, this episode is your permission to stop hiding the process.
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
"I accept where I am. I commit to the work. I don't have to be fixed. I just have to be willing. I'm starting my journey from broken to unbroken. I am not doing it alone."
📝 THE 5 EXERCISES
1. ASSESS YOUR BROKENNESS
Scale 1-10: Where are you RIGHT NOW?
What area is broken? (relationships, health, career, etc.)
How long have you carried this?
2. FACING THE TRUTH
What broke you?
How have you been coping? (numbing, hiding, controlling, avoiding)
What's it costing you? (relationships, health, peace, potential)
3. THE 5 CHOICES OF TRANSFORMATION
Facing the truth (1-10 scale)
Getting support (therapist? coach? friend? group?)
Doing healing work (therapy? journaling? meditation?)
Changing patterns (what are you ready to break?)
Building something new (what do you want to create?)
4. YOUR TRANSFORMATION ROADMAP
What's your FIRST STEP? (make appointment? journal? set boundary?)
What support do you need? (make ONE call this week)
What will you STOP doing?
Timeline commitment: How long are you willing to work?
5. THE MESSENGER COMMITMENT
Write: "I am broken in ___. I am willing to do the work. I'm committing to ___. I'm asking for ___. I am ready to become unbroken. I am willing to let people see my journey."
Who needs to know?
ONE action this week (put it on your calendar)
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION
I am broken in [area] and I am willing to do the work.
I am facing the truth and I am getting support.
I am doing healing work and I am changing my patterns.
I am building something new and I am starting my journey.
I am not alone. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am becoming unbroken.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Show up week after week, even when it's hard, even when you don't see progress
Choice 4: Changing Your Patterns
Patterns are comfortable but they keep you broken
Interrupt old patterns
Notice when you're repeating them
Make different choices over and over
Until the new pattern becomes comfortable
Choice 5: Building Something New
New relationships, new beliefs, new boundaries, new standards, new community
Don't just remove what was broken
ACTIVELY BUILD something new
💡 WHY PEOPLE ARE WILLING TO DO THIS WORK
Desperation: When staying broken costs more than healing
Love: Doing it for someone else (your children, partner, community)
Vision: Catching a glimpse of who you could be and wanting it badly
Refusal: Looking in the mirror and saying "Not me. Not anymore." That refusal becomes fuel.
🧘 60-SECOND GUIDED MEDITATION (From Episode)
"I honor every step of my journey. The broken parts taught me. The healing parts strengthened me. I didn't waste my pain. I transformed it. I am unbroken because I am willing to do the work."
📝 CLOSING AFFIRMATION (Repeat After Nyomi)
I was broken. I admit it. I faced it.
I got support. I did the work. I kept going.
I changed my patterns. I built something new.
I honored my journey and every hard step, every choice, every moment.
I am not perfect.
I am unbroken and I am becoming.
I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable.
🌟 REAL TALK FROM NYOMI
"When you come from broken to unbroken, those conversations become so much better. They become so much better because you are no longer coming from a broken place. You are no longer coming from a hurt place. You're coming from a whole different space."
And: "Your journey from broken to unbroken, that is your message. Not the destination, but the journey. Because people don't need to see you perfect. They need to see you real."
📋 WHAT'S NEXT
Action Wednesday (This Week):
Identify the work YOU need to do
Find the support YOU need to get
Name the patterns YOU need to break
Until then: Sit with this: Your journey is your message. Your worth is the work it takes.
💬 CONNECT WITH ME
Text or Voice Note: Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. If something in today's episode hit home, I want to hear about it!
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
Ready to go deeper with guided support?
**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
**YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more!
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
Ready to go deeper with guided support?
**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
While launching Elevate Me: Self Discovery, Nyomi has been the target of stalking emails, manipulated images, and DMs demanding she hide her past. In this raw and unfiltered Mindset Monday, she breaks her silence on what it really costs to stay visible — and why she's not going anywhere.
This episode covers:
The truth behind why Nyomi kept her name through her transformation
What it means to be "the messenger" instead of hiding from your own story
Why attacks on visibility are really about other people's discomfort with change
Real talk on the emotional cost — and the deeper reward — of refusing to disappear
A closing affirmation to help you reclaim your own story, whatever it is
Because the messenger is the message. Your past doesn't define your work — your impact does.
🌿 This episode is brought to you by Ask Nyomi and Elevate Me: Self Discovery — start your own transformation journey today at studio.com/nyomi.
Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
THIS WEEK IS CELEBRATION. We've done the work. We've identified our real community. We've claimed our power. We recognize that our community is in OUR space—not the space of underestimators. Today we celebrate them. We celebrate us. And we take this to the NEXT LEVEL. Because TODAY, Elevate Me Self-Discovery app is LIVE.
4 POWERFUL EXERCISES:
Exercise 1: Community Appreciation
Identify your real community (overstanders, believers, builders)
Why are they in your space?
Express gratitude (write it, feel it, TELL them)
Action: Thank at least 3 people this week
Exercise 2: Building with Your Community
How are you creating together?
How can you deepen that building?
Take ONE action this week to strengthen a relationship
Exercise 3: Elevate Me App Launch - FULL DETAILS
AI-powered coaching app (your voice, your teachings, your guidance)
Is Elevate Me for you? (ready to go deeper, invest in yourself, claim power)
Write your commitment
Choose your starting phase (Phase 1: Awakening)
Take action this week (visit site, explore, decide)
BONUS: 7-DAY ELEVATION EXPERIENCE Monthly live experience coinciding with app launch
Daily 45-minute live guided sessions
Small, intimate group setting
Personal level guidance
Dates: Coming monthly (July 13-19 confirmed)
First 7 days: FREE trial before committing to app
SERIES COMPLETE! WHAT YOU'VE LEARNED IN JUNE:
✅ Your past does NOT define you ✅ Underestimation IS protection ✅ You have ACCUMULATED POWER ✅ You have REAL COMMUNITY in your space ✅ You are READY for what's next
CLOSING MESSAGE: You are reclaimed. You are unashamed. You are unstoppable. Your real community is celebrating you. Your overstanders see your power. Now it's time for YOU to see it too. Go elevate. Go become. Go thrive.
Join Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (20% off through July 3) 7-Day Experience: Sign up for monthly live guidance (next: July 13-19)
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
ONE JOURNEY. NOW WE CELEBRATE. Week 1: Recognized weaponization (that's THEIR limitation) Week 2: Reframed underestimation (as PROTECTION) Week 3: Claimed accumulated POWER (your 53 years) Week 4: CELEBRATE your real community + LAUNCH ELEVATE ME APP TWO DIFFERENT
SPACES: SPACE 1 - Underestimators: Fear, judgment, scarcity, limitation, comparison, control They see snapshots. Not your full picture. Not your power. Not your journey.
SPACE 2 - Your Real Space: Presence, acceptance, abundance, possibility, growth, creation, love Your OVERSTANDERS are here. Y
our REAL COMMUNITY is here. YOU are here. Your real community is NOT in the same space as people who underestimate you. They're in YOUR space. Your frequency. Your power.
WHAT'S IN THIS EPISODE: ✨ Understanding the two spaces (deeply) ✨ Why your community can't be in the same space as underestimators ✨ What happens when you celebrate those who SEE you ✨ Your role in your community vs. their role ✨ No conflict. No friction. Just alignment. ✨ MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT: ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP launches JUNE 23, 2026 ELEVATE ME APP DETAILS: 🎙️ Your voice, your teachings, your guidance at SCALE
Something bigger than an app (full Elevate Me ecosystem coming)
WHO THIS IS FOR: ✅ People ready to do REAL transformation work ✅ People ready to look at their past & feel their feelings ✅ People in your REAL COMMUNITY (the overstanders) ✅ People ready to claim power + build authentic community ✅ People who want guidance + tools + support
CLOSING MESSAGE: You are in a space of power, presence, and possibility. Your real community is in this space with you. You are ready for the next level. Your community is celebrating you. Protect that. Be grateful for that.
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
Ready to go deeper with guided support?
**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Monday, you learned you have ACCUMULATED POWER through survival, transformation, and building. Today? You identify it. You see it. You CLAIM it. Because you can't claim power if you don't see it. In this action-packed episode, Nyomi walks you through 5 powerful exercises: Exercise 1: Survival Inventory
What have you SURVIVED? (heartbreak, loss, betrayal, judgment, shame, hardship, abuse, discrimination)
What did each one TEACH you?
Acknowledge the strength it required
Exercise 2: Transformation Inventory
What have you TRANSFORMED? (relationships, career, health, beliefs, identity, patterns)
What actions did it take?
Celebrate what you've changed
Exercise 3: Building Inventory
What have you BUILT? (family, business, community, skills, knowledge, life)
What did it require?
Own what you've created
Exercise 4: Your Power Statement
Write your personal power statement
Speak it OUT LOUD (3 times, getting LOUDER)
Optional: Record it and listen back
Exercise 5: Using Your Power
How will you SERVE with your power?
What's ONE action this week?
Make it REAL
By the end, you'll have: ✨ Clear acknowledgment of your survival ✨ Celebration of your transformation ✨ Ownership of what you've built ✨ A personal POWER STATEMENT you speak daily ✨ ONE action to use your power this week
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Last week, you identified your overstanders—people who SEE your power. But do YOU see your own power?
Nyomi's 53 years of living = ACCUMULATED POWER. Not because her past is perfect. But because of her JOURNEY. In this powerful episode, Nyomi breaks down what she's accumulated:
What she SURVIVED: Judgment, shame, exploitation, broken marriage, loss, betrayal, being seen as less than. She's still here. That's power. What she TRANSFORMED: Performance→coaching. Hiding→unashamed. Shame→self-love. Seeking validation→own authority.
Controlled→free. Survival mode→thriving. That's power. What she BUILT: Business, podcast 400+, community, partnerships, home, relationships, app, life that matters. That's power. Then she teaches YOU about YOUR accumulated power:
What have you SURVIVED?
What have you TRANSFORMED?
What have you BUILT?
Your power isn't about perfect past. It's about your JOURNEY. Stop shrinking. Stop apologizing. Start claiming your power.
Next Wednesday: Power Inventory (identify exactly what YOU'VE accumulated)
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
" Monday, we learned about the POEM. Today, we identify WHO overstands you and we BUILD intentionally.
Your real community isn't just people who UNDERSTAND you. They're people who OVERSTAND you.
OVERSTAND = They see your FULL journey. Your power. Your growth. Your becoming. In this action-packed episode,
Nyomi takes you through 5 powerful exercises:
The Overstanders Test - Identify who REALLY sees you (7 questions, 6-10 people)
The Underestimators Filter - Release those who don't. Thank them for filtering out.
Deepening with Overstanders - Strengthen your real relationships (what do they see? how to deepen?)
Building Your Community Intentionally - Create your core circle on purpose
Your Community Commitment - Standards, boundaries, action this week
By the end, you'll have:
A clear list of your REAL community
Boundaries with underestimators
Deepened relationships with overstanders
An intentional community strategy
Your real community OVERSTANDS you. Find them. Celebrate them. Build with them. Connect & share your overstanders list: @TheRealNyomiBanks #Overstanders #RealCommunity #BuildIntentionally #UnderestimatedAndUnstoppable #ReclaimedAndUnashamed
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Sunday morning, Nyomi was washing dishes when a revelation hit: What if being underestimated isn't a wound? What if it's a SHIELD?
What followed was a poem that became this month's series:
"Underestimated is your protection! Those that don't see your value isn't for you. Concentrate on those that understand and overstand you. Your actions, your growth, your ability to come into a room and make the room better—that is your power."
The shift: Stop seeing underestimation as proof you're not enough. Start seeing it as protection from the wrong people.
In this episode, Nyomi breaks down:
Why underestimation FILTERS OUT wrong people
How it PROTECTS your peace & energy
The 4 ways underestimation serves you
Her 53 years of accumulated power
How to reframe: "Thank God they don't see my value"
So what they underestimate you? THANK GOD THEY DO.
It means they're not FOR you. And you're not for them either.
Next Wednesday: Building your REAL community (those who OVERSTAND you)
Share your reframe: @TheRealNyomiBanks @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast #Underestimated #Protection #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #UnderestimatedAndUnstoppable #YourPower
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Monday, we talked about weaponization. Today, we do the work. Your past has been weaponized against you. Maybe by a partner. Maybe by family. Maybe by social media. Today, you identify WHERE and you SET BOUNDARIES. Because you don't owe anyone your past as a weapon against yourself. In this action-packed episode, Nyomi takes you through 5 powerful exercises:
Weaponization Inventory - Identify where it's happening
Truth Reframe - Flip their weapons into YOUR power statements
Boundary Setting - Create one clear boundary statement you can USE
Protection Plan - Your step-by-step response (pause, recognize, state, enforce)
Release Ritual - Physically destroy the power those weapons had over you
By the end, you'll have:
Clear boundaries written down
Counter-statements memorized
A protection plan ready
Freedom from their words
Your past is YOURS. Not theirs. Enforce it. Connect & share your boundary statement: @TheRealNyomiBanks #SettingBoundaries #ProtectionPlan #YourPastIsYours #BoundariesAreSelfLove #UnderestimatedAndUnstoppable
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
This week, Nyomi's celebrating her mother's 75th birthday. Her mother is living with dementia—her memories are fading. But she's MORE herself now. Without the masks. Without the performance. Just HER.
The truth: You are not your past. You are who you ARE now. When people bring up your past to diminish you, control you, or justify mistreatment—that's not about YOU. That's about THEM. It's about their limitation.
In this powerful episode, Nyomi breaks down three real stories (Drake, a young lady in chat, and her own inbox) and teaches you how to recognize weaponization and set boundaries around it. You'll learn:
Why people weaponize your past (it's about THEIR limitation, not your worth)
What to do in 5 steps
How to reclaim your truth
Your past doesn't define you. Their inability to see beyond it defines them. Next Wednesday: Setting Boundaries (Action Wednesday with 5 exercises) Connect: @TheRealNyomiBanks | YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks #UnderestimatedAndUnstoppable #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #BoundariesAreSelfLove
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
Monday, we learned from two altar cards: Let go of the past to be alive NOW. Your words manifest your reality. What you speak, you create. Today, we do the FINAL RELEASE. We speak our declarations. We commit to maintaining our possibility closet. This is the final work. The final surrender. UNASHAMED. OUT LOUD. WITH POWER. IN THIS EPISODE Recap from Monday:
Card 1: Let go of what life takes away. Surrender past. Be alive NOW. Enjoy the dream happening RIGHT NOW.
Card 2: Your intent manifests through your WORDS. What you dream, feel, really are = manifested through what you SPEAK.
Exercise 1: The Final Physical Release
Final walk-through (anything still feel heavy?)
Four questions: Fear? Guilt? Shame? Does this support who I am NOW?
Bag it NOW (no "just in case," this is FINAL)
Exercise 2: The Release Ritual
Part 1: Acknowledge - "I held onto this out of [fear/guilt/shame]. This no longer serves me."
Part 2: Thank - "Thank you for [what it taught/gave/represented]"
Part 3: Release with Declaration - "I release this UNASHAMED. I let go to be alive NOW. I make space for what DOES serve me."
Part 4: Seal It - Hand on bag/item: "It is done. I am free. I am alive NOW." Then walk away. Don't look back.
Exercise 3: The Declaration Ceremony
Stand in your closet (look at what SERVES you now)
Say "I AM" statements OUT LOUD:
I AM reclaimed
I AM unashamed
I AM alive NOW
I AM someone who lets go
I AM free from the past
I AM living in the present
I AM creating my future
I AM powerful, worthy, enough
Speak YOUR personal declaration 3 times: "I am someone who [your declaration]"
Exercise 4: The Commitment Ceremony
Write commitments: Only bring in pieces that [support becoming/make me feel good/pass feeling test/serve actual life]
Commit to releasing immediately when something no longer serves
Commit to quarterly audit (every 3 months)
Commit to maintaining closet as tool for BECOMING
Read commitment OUT LOUD (like a vow, like a promise)
SIGN and DATE it (contract with yourself)
Exercise 5: Celebrating the Transformation
Document before & after (Week 1 closet vs. NOW - overwhelmed/pressured vs. lighter/clearer/possible/free?)
Count the wins (what released? what chapters closed? what gained?)
Speak gratitude OUT LOUD: "I am grateful for this journey. I am grateful for courage to let go. I am grateful for clarity. I am grateful for who I'm becoming. I am grateful for the dream happening RIGHT NOW."
The Dream Happening RIGHT NOW Journal: "The dream happening right now in my life is..."
List it ALL: people who love you, work that fulfills you, health you have, home you're in, growth you've made, future you're building
Can you enjoy it? Be ALIVE in it?
Maintaining Your Possibility Closet (3 Rules):
Feeling test never stops - How does this make me feel? If bad, release immediately. Closet is living tool.
Quarterly audit (every 3 months) - What's not serving? What's missing? Does it support becoming?
Intentional building continues - Only pieces that pass feeling test, support becoming energy, serve actual life. NO impulse buys. NO "just in case."
WATCH ON YOUTUBE The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube! Subscribe for video episodes and behind-the-scenes content. 🎥 YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovew #ReclaimingYourCloset #FinalRelease #UnashamedLettingGo #DeclarationCeremony #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #YourWordsHavePower #AliveNOW #EnjoyTheDream #ReclaimedAndUnashamed
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP
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**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.
This morning at the altar, two cards came with the EXACT message for Week 4 - the final week of Reclaiming Your Closet.
Card 1: "Whatever life takes away from you, let it go. When you surrender and let go of the past, you allow yourself to be fully alive in the moment. Letting go of the past means that you can enjoy the dream that is happening right now."
Card 2: "Regardless of what language you speak, your intent will manifest through the word. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are will all be manifested through the word." The message: Let go of the past. Be alive NOW. Enjoy the dream RIGHT NOW. And speak your truth out loud - your words have POWER.
IN THIS EPISODE The Journey (Where We've Been):
Week 1: Identified three types of clothes
Week 2: The feeling audit (released based on feeling)
Week 3: Pressure to possibility (visioned who we're becoming)
Week 4: FINAL release - UNASHAMED
Card 1 Breakdown:
"Whatever life takes, let it go" - Life takes things, we must release our grip
"Surrender the past to be alive NOW" - Can't be fully present while living in past
"Enjoy the dream happening RIGHT NOW" - Not what was, not what you thought, but what IS
Card 2 Breakdown:
"Your intent manifests through the word" - Your words create your reality
"What you dream, feel, really are = manifested through word" - Must SPEAK it out loud
You must DECLARE your truth, not just think it
What "Unashamed Letting Go" Means:
No apologies for how long it took (growth is a spiral)
No guilt about money spent (it's gone already, can't get it back)
No shame about the chapters (they were part of your journey)
No embarrassment about starting over (quality over quantity = power)
No fear of being "too much" (be unashamed)
The Final Release (What to Let Go):
The last physical items (anything still held from fear/guilt/shame)
The old stories ("I'm someone who can't let go" → "I surrender, I'm alive NOW")
The pressure to be perfect (let go of "should")
The need for external validation (this is FOR you)
The fear of the unknown (trust the NOW)
Enjoy the Dream Happening RIGHT NOW: Not the dream you wanted or planned - the dream you're LIVING. Nyomi's example: Amazing family, business she loves, health returning, partner who respects her, Goddess era, reclaimed & unashamed Your Words Manifest Your Reality: SPEAK out loud:
"I surrender the past"
"I let go so I can be fully alive NOW"
"I enjoy the dream happening RIGHT NOW"
"I release UNASHAMED"
"I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am alive."
5 REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
What am I STILL holding onto out of fear, guilt, or shame?
What OLD story am I ready to release? What NEW story am I speaking into existence?
What's the dream happening RIGHT NOW in my life? Can I enjoy it fully?
What does "unashamed letting go" mean for ME specifically?
What will I SPEAK out loud this week to manifest my reality?
CLOSING AFFIRMATION: Whatever life has taken from me, I let it go. I surrender the past so I can be fully alive NOW. I enjoy the dream that is happening RIGHT NOW. My words have power. What I speak, I manifest. I release UNASHAMED. No apologies. No guilt. No shame. No fear. I am alive NOW. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am free. NEXT: Action Wednesday - The Final Release Ritual
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
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You've released the past and cleared the pressure. Now it's time to CREATE the future and BUILD the possibility. Today, we're visioning your possibility closet, identifying what's missing, and making a plan to build INTENTIONALLY. Grab your journal. Let's do the work. IN THIS EPISODE Meditation: Visioning yourself and what you're wearing as you become Exercise 1: Defining Your Becoming Energy (3 steps)
Name the energy (3-5 words)
Describe what that energy looks like
Ask what that energy needs
Exercise 2: Visioning Your Possibility Closet
Answer questions about colors, fabrics, silhouettes, categories, overall vibe
Complete: "My possibility closet is a place where..."
Exercise 3: The Gap Analysis
What's working? (5-10 pieces you love)
What's missing? (specific gaps)
What has biggest impact? (focus item)
Exercise 4: Building Intentionally
Define your criteria (non-negotiables)
Create your becoming shopping list (specific, not general)
Set a timeline (don't rush, find RIGHT pieces)
Intentional Shopping Guide
Before, during, and after shopping protocols
3 questions to ask every piece
What If You Can't Afford It?
Shop your closet differently
Alter what you have
Thrift or swap
Save intentionally ($10-20/month = 1 perfect piece in 6 months)
EXERCISE 1: DEFINING YOUR BECOMING ENERGY Not job titles. Not weight goals. ENERGY. Step 1: Name the Energy Pick 3-5 words: Confident? Grounded? Powerful? Playful? Soft? Bold? Expressive? Free? Royal? Creative? Step 2: Describe What That Energy Looks Like "When I'm [energy word], I [action]." Examples:
When I'm confident, I stand tall and speak clearly
When I'm grounded, I move slowly, breathe deeply, feel connected
When I'm powerful, I make decisions quickly, trust myself, lead with clarity
Step 3: Ask What That Energy Needs "To support this energy, I need clothes that [blank]." Examples:
To support my confidence, I need clothes that fit well, make me feel amazing
To support my groundedness, I need clothes that feel good on my skin, don't restrict me
To support my power, I need clothes that make me feel like a boss, have structure
This is your BECOMING ENERGY PROFILE. EXERCISE 2: VISIONING YOUR POSSIBILITY CLOSET Imagine tomorrow you open your closet. It's PERFECT. It supports who you are NOW and who you're BECOMING. Answer:
Colors: What colors dominate? What colors make you feel like your becoming energy?
Fabrics: What textures feel good on your skin?
Silhouettes: What shapes/cuts make you feel like yourself?
Categories: What's abundant? What's minimal?
Overall Vibe: How does it FEEL when you open this closet?
Complete: "My possibility closet is a place where [blank]." Nyomi's example: "My possibility closet is a place where every piece makes me feel like the goddess that I am. Where I can get dressed in 5 minutes because everything works. Where I'm surrounded by colors that make me feel powerful, fabrics that make me feel luxurious, and silhouettes that let me move freely. Where I open the doors and feel excited, not overwhelmed." EXERCISE 3: THE GAP ANALYSIS Step 1: What's Working? List 5-10 pieces you LOVE that make you feel like your becoming self. Step 2: What's Missing? Compare current closet to possibility vision. What specific gaps do you see? Examples:
Missing: Powerful blazers that make me feel like a boss
Missing: Flowy dresses in colors that support my goddess energy
Missing: Comfortable pants that let me move freely
Step 3: What Has Biggest Impact? Which ONE piece will shift your closet from pressure to possibility? Circle that. That's your FOCUS. EXERCISE 4: BUILDING INTENTIONALLY Step 1: Define Your Criteria (Non-Negotiables) "I only bring pieces into my closet that:
Make me feel [your becoming energy words]
Support my actual life needs
Pass the feeling test"
Step 2: Create Your Becoming Shopping List Be SPECIFIC. Not "I need tops" but "I need 2 tops in [color] that make me feel [energy] and work for [specific situation]." Step 3: Set a Timeline Give yourself time to find the RIGHT pieces. Not just ANY pieces. Examples:
By June 1st, I will have found 1 powerful blazer that makes me feel like a boss
By July 1st, I will have 3 dresses in colors that support my goddess energy
INTENTIONAL SHOPPING Before Shopping:
Review your criteria
Review your becoming shopping list
Know EXACTLY what you're looking for
When Shopping: Ask 3 questions:
How does this make me feel?
Does this support my becoming energy?
Will I wear this in my actual life?
If all 3 are YES → Consider it If ANY are NO → Walk away After Buying:
Try it on with other pieces in closet
Confirm it still feels good
If YES → Keep. If NO → Return (no shame, no guilt)
WHAT IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT? Option 1: Shop Your Closet Differently With becoming energy in mind, go back through what you kept. Style differently. Pair differently. See with new eyes. Option 2: Alter What You Have Can you tailor something to fit better? Dye it a different color? Transform it? Option 3: Thrift or Swap Thrift stores, consignment shops, clothing swaps with friends. Option 4: Save Intentionally Put aside $10-20/month. In 6 months = $60-120 for ONE perfect piece that makes you feel amazing. Building your possibility closet is not about MONEY. It's about INTENTION. YOUR COMMITMENT THIS WEEK I commit to:
Defining my becoming energy (3-5 words)
Writing my possibility closet vision
Identifying the gap (current vs. possibility)
Creating my becoming shopping list (specific)
Setting a timeline (when do I want first piece?)
Committing to intentional building ONLY
WHAT THIS CREATES ✨ A space that supports your growth ✨ A place of possibility, not pressure ✨ Mornings that are easy and joyful ✨ Confidence that comes from within ✨ Freedom to be yourself ✨ A tool for becoming who you're meant to be That's the shift. That's the power.
NYOMI'S REFLECTION "So much internal work I've been doing these past few weeks. Deep work. It's so much deeper. The best gift is that I'm able to get the clothing for me, for who I am NOW. Not who I was as a teenager. Not who I was creating. But who I AM now. Mind-blowing. It's so much deeper. It's more than just closet and clothes, my people."
CLOSING AFFIRMATION I build my possibility closet intentionally. Every piece supports who I am now and who I am becoming. I am clear in my vision. I am patient in the process. I am creating a space that serves my future. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am intentional.
NEXT EPISODE Monday - Week 4: Unashamed Letting Go The final release, celebration, and commitment to maintaining your possibility closet.
WATCH ON YOUTUBE The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube! Subscribe for video episodes and behind-the-scenes content. 🎥 YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks #ReclaimingYourCloset #PossibilityCloset #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #IntentionalBuilding #BecomingEnergy #QualityOverQuantity #DeepWork
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Your closet should not be a place of pressure—where you feel judged, not enough, or stuck. Your closet should be a place of POSSIBILITY—where you feel supported, free, and like YOU. This week, we're shifting from what you're RELEASING to what you're CREATING. From pressure to possibility. From past to present. From stuck to BECOMING.
THE PROOF: NYOMI'S STORY Last Wednesday morning before filming Action Wednesday, Nyomi went into her closet to get dressed. She pulled out a light blue outfit she loved when she had implants—but hadn't worn since her explant surgery in August (10 months ago). She did the feeling audit: "How does this make me feel?" Answer: Beautiful. Good. Like MYSELF. The healed me. The goddess me. The RECLAIMED me. Decision: This one can stay. What she did: WORE IT while filming the feeling audit episode. "I wasn't just TEACHING the feeling audit. I was WEARING the proof of it." The lesson: Not everything from your past has to go. But EVERYTHING has to pass the feeling test.
MEDITATION: VISIONING YOUR BECOMING
Today's meditation: See the next version of you. Not who you were, not who you think you should be, but who you're naturally BECOMING. Affirmations:
I am becoming her/him/them
I am stepping into that energy now
My closet supports who I am now and who I am becoming
I release pressure. I embrace possibility.
THE SHIFT: PRESSURE VS. POSSIBILITY PRESSURE Feels Like:
Overwhelmed by too many choices
Guilty about what you haven't worn
Ashamed about your body
Stuck in the past
"Nothing works" / "Nothing to wear" even though closet is full
POSSIBILITY Feels Like:
Excited about your options
Confident in your choices
Supported by your clothes
Connected to yourself
Free to be who you are
"Everything works" / "I have exactly what I need"
Same closet. Different energy. CONNECT Instagram: @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast | @TheRealNyomiBanks YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks DM Nyomi: Who are you becoming? WATCH ON YOUTUBE The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube! Subscribe for video episodes. 🎥 YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks #ReclaimingYourCloset #PressureToPossibility #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #WhoAmIBecoming #GoddessEnergy #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #YourClosetIsATool
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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Monday, we learned THE question: "How does this make me feel?" Today, we do the actual audit. Piece by piece. Item by item. We ask the question. We name the feeling. We release based on FEELING alone. Not logic. Not guilt. Not "should." Just feeling. This is Action Wednesday. This is the work.
IN THIS EPISODE The Recap:
The question isn't "Should I keep this?" but "How does this make me feel?"
Mel Robbins: "If a piece makes you feel small, ashamed, or disconnected, it does not belong in your future."
Today: Releasing based on FEELING, not logic, guilt, or should.
EXERCISE 1: THE FEELING AUDIT (5 STEPS) Step 1: Pick the section you inventoried last week (tops, pants, dresses, shoes) Step 2: Pull out each item one at a time. Put it on. Look in the mirror. Step 3: Ask OUT LOUD: "How does this make me feel?" Step 4: Name the SPECIFIC feeling:
Confident or insecure?
Grounded or disconnected?
Beautiful or ashamed?
Like yourself or like you're pretending?
Step 5: Make the decision based on feeling:
Feel good/confident/yourself → KEEP IT
Feel small/ashamed/disconnected → RELEASE IT
That's it. Not "how much I spent." Not "will it fit someday." How does it make me FEEL?
EXERCISE 2: WRITING THE FEELING RESPONSES Create two columns in your journal: Column 1 - KEEP (What Makes Me Feel Good):
Item + Feeling (blue sweater = confident)
Column 2 - RELEASE (What Makes Me Feel Bad):
Item + Feeling + Why you kept it (white dress = uncomfortable = spent money on it)
This shows you the PATTERN. What you've been tolerating. What you've been carrying.
EXERCISE 3: THE SHOULD VS. FEEL CHECK For items you're struggling with: Q1: Am I keeping this because I SHOULD or because it FEELS GOOD? Q2: Who says I should? Is it MY rule or somebody else's? Q3: What would happen if I let this go? Answer: Nothing. You'd just have one less piece that makes you feel bad. That's a WIN.
THE RESISTANCE TESTS Mirror Test: Put it on. Do I feel like myself or like I'm performing? (Performing = Release)
One-Year Test: Have I worn this in the past year? (No = Release)
Today Test: Would I buy this exact item today, knowing what I know about myself NOW? (No = Release)
THE 5 COMMON SHOULD TRAPS Trap 1: "But it's in perfect condition!" → Doesn't mean it serves YOU. Donate it. Trap 2: "But I spent money on it!" → That money is GONE already. Can't get it back by keeping something that makes you feel bad. Trap 3: "But it's a classic/timeless!" → For WHO? If it doesn't feel good on YOU, it doesn't matter. Trap 4: "But everyone says it looks good on me!" → Great. Then THEY can wear it. YOU wear what makes YOU feel good. Trap 5: "But I might need it for an event!" → When that event comes, you'll find something that makes you feel AMAZING, not something you settle for.
THE RELEASE RITUAL (3 STEPS) Step 1 - Acknowledge: "I kept this because I spent money / thought I should / someone gave it to me." Step 2 - Thank: "Thank you for the lesson. Thank you for teaching me to honor my feelings." Step 3 - Release with Love: Put in donation bag. Say: "I release this with love. May it serve someone who feels amazing in it."
WHAT IF MOST OF MY CLOSET DOESN'T FEEL GOOD? First: Breathe. That's good information. You've been carrying emotional weight. Now you get to release it. Second: You don't have to release it all at once. But you DO have to start. What to do:
Keep only what makes you feel good (even if it's 5-10 pieces)
Quality over quantity
Identify what's actually missing
Build intentionally moving forward (only bring in items that pass the feeling test)
YOUR COMMITMENT THIS WEEK I commit to:
Going through the section I inventoried last week
Asking "How does it make me feel?" for EACH item
Naming the specific feeling
Releasing everything that makes me feel small, ashamed, or disconnected
Keeping ONLY what makes me feel grounded, confident, supported
Dropping off donations within 48 hours
Say it out loud. Write it down. Make it real. WHAT THIS CREATES ✨ Your closet becomes a sanctuary—every option supports you ✨ Your mornings become easier—you're not fighting yourself ✨ Your confidence increases—you're wearing YOUR truth ✨ You learn to trust yourself and your feelings That's RECLAIMED. That's UNASHAMED. That's SELF-LOVE.
NYOMI'S REAL TALK "When I saw Mel's post, I had been cleaning out my closet yet again. My closet was STILL full. The coats fell down and I'm like, I have to do something different. At the end of this month, I'm getting a new closet. This is me unblocking something more. Opening up to receiving—growth, opportunity, wisdom, elevation, being UNSTUCK. That money I spent? It's gone already. I can't get it back by keeping something that makes me feel bad. It is more than just the clothing in the closet. It's so much more bigger than that."
CLOSING AFFIRMATION I trust my feelings. My feelings are my guide. I release what makes me feel small. I keep what makes me feel strong. I honor my truth without apology. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am guided by feeling. ACCOUNTABILITY DM Nyomi on Instagram: @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast Tell her:
How many items you released based on feeling
What you discovered about yourself
How it feels to only keep what feels good
NEXT EPISODE Monday - Week 3: From Pressure to Possibility Transforming your closet into a space that supports who you're BECOMING.
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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What happens when you're 10 minutes into recording and realize something feels... off? Today's episode is raw and real. Nyomi stopped recording, went to her altar, pulled cards, and came back with THE distinction that changes everything. YOUR feelings about what serves YOUR life = YOUR truth. Trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices ≠ YOUR truth. Don't take them personally. This is the ONE question that will transform your closet—and your life.
THE REAL STORY Nyomi stopped recording 10 minutes in because the script said "Your feelings are your truth. Trust your feelings." But she thought: "Wait. We're taught feelings AREN'T truth. Feelings are emotions. That's where arguments come from." So she went to her altar, pulled 5 cards, and got THE answer: The distinction is WHOSE feelings.
THE DISTINCTION (CRYSTAL CLEAR) YOUR Feelings About YOUR Life = YOUR Truth When you ask: "How does THIS make ME feel?" When you're deciding: "Does THIS serve MY life?" → TRUST THESE FEELINGS. They're YOUR internal compass. OTHER People's Feelings About YOU ≠ YOUR Truth When THEY think you should keep something. When THEY have opinions about YOUR choices. → DON'T TAKE THESE PERSONALLY. That's about THEM, not YOU.
EXAMPLES IN YOUR CLOSET (Your feelings = Your truth): You put on a dress. Your body tenses. You feel uncomfortable. → "This doesn't serve me. Release it." TRUST THIS.
SOMEONE'S OPINION (Their feelings ≠ Your truth): Friend says: "But you spent money on that! Keep it!" Your truth: It makes you uncomfortable. → Release it anyway. Don't take their opinion personally.
MEL ROBBINS' WISDOM "If a piece makes you feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from yourself, it does not belong in your future." The question isn't "Should I keep this?" (logic, external expectations) The question is "How does this make ME feel?" (YOUR internal compass)
SHOULD VS. FEEL "Should" = What others expect, what society says, external rules → Disconnects you from what serves YOU
"Feel" = YOUR body's wisdom, YOUR heart's truth, YOUR alignment → Guides you to what serves YOUR becoming
YOUR BODY KNOWS When something supports you: Body relaxes, shoulders drop, you breathe easier, you feel like YOURSELF When something doesn't serve you: Body tenses, you pull at fabric, you avoid mirrors, you feel like PERFORMING Your body's feedback = YOUR truth about what serves YOUR life
THE EXERCISE Step 1: Pick up each item Step 2: Put it on or hold it up Step 3: Ask: "How does this make ME feel?" Step 4: Notice your body's response (relax or tense?) Step 5: Honor that feeling as YOUR truth Keep it if it makes you feel: good, grounded, confident, like yourself Release it if it makes you feel: small, ashamed, uncomfortable, disconnected
5 REFLECTION QUESTIONS
What am I keeping because I "should" instead of because it actually feels good?
What makes me feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from myself?
What makes me feel confident, grounded, and like MYSELF?
How do I feel when I open my closet each morning?
If I only kept clothes that made me feel good, what would I release?
CLOSING AFFIRMATION My feelings about MY life are MY truth. I trust what serves ME. I release what doesn't. I honor my body's wisdom. I follow my internal compass. I let go of "should" and embrace "feel." I am aligned with MY becoming. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am ready.
THE BOTTOM LINE For YOUR closet/life: "How does this make ME feel?" → Trust this. It's YOUR truth. For OTHERS' opinions: "That's their feeling, not mine." → Don't take it personally. That's the distinction. That's the key.
NEXT EPISODE Action Wednesday: The Feeling Audit - Going through your closet piece by piece doing a feeling check on each item. Bring your journal and your honesty.
NOTE FROM NYOMI "I pray that you followed me all the way through this. I definitely had to stop ten minutes in and come back and redo it all over again." If you need extra clarity, the full detailed show notes are on the website. But here's the key: YOUR feelings about YOUR life = trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices = don't take them personally. Season 5 = More real, more honest, more action.
Let's do the work. Credit: Inspired by Mel Robbins' Instagram post about closets #ReclaimingYourCloset #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #YourFeelingsYourTruth #TheDistinction #ReclaimedAndUnashamed
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.
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Monday, we talked about the map. Today, we draw the lines.
Today, we inventory. Today, we identify. Today, we begin the release.
In this Action Wednesday, Nyomi gets REAL about her own closet journey—the 200+ wigs, the 30-year-old clothes, the drawer of expensive bras she gave away LAST WEEK, the family memorial t-shirts she released THIS MORNING, and the red carpet dresses she's finally ready to let go. This isn't theory.
This is Nyomi doing the work WITH you, in real time, sharing her own struggles and breakthroughs as she reclaims her closet.
This is Season 5. This is action. Let's do the work. IN THIS EPISODE The Recap: Three Types of Clothes
Type 1: Clothes that no longer fit your LIFE (not just body—your actual life, who you are, where you live, what you do, how you move)
Type 2: Clothes from old chapters (the job you left, relationships that ended, versions you've outgrown)
Type 3: Clothes for a version that never arrived (fantasy clothes, "someday" clothes, "when I'm that person" clothes)
Nyomi's REAL Stories (Doing the Work in Real Time): The Background:
Cleans her closet at least 6 times a year
STILL has clothes older than her 30-year-old oldest daughter
Had over 200 wigs (now down to maybe 100-150)
Used to buy clothes constantly when actively in the industry, going to events, seminars
Now back in production on mainstream projects—her production company doing amazing things
Some clothes/wigs can now go to her production house to become characters
Last Week's Release:
A whole drawer of expensive, custom-made bras
Victoria's Secret bras, bras specifically made for her old size
Had breast implant surgery in August of last year
Has cleaned closet/drawers 3 times since August
STILL was holding onto TWO big drawers of bras she could no longer wear
Finally bagged them and gave them away LAST WEEK
The Red Carpet Dresses:
Still has several red carpet dresses
Knows she'll never fit back in them (not just size—doesn't have the body for them post-surgery)
Expensive pieces she's been holding onto
"But I spent so much money on this!"—finally ready to release
This Morning's Release:
Family memorial t-shirts from when family members passed away
Some with pictures faded from washing
Some she wears sometimes, some she doesn't
Had them for YEARS
Sat at altar this morning and prayed about releasing them
Has their obituaries and pictures displayed—that's memory enough
Doesn't need the garments with their pictures on them to remember
Her Mother's Closet:
"I wish I could go into my mother's closet and do it!"
Her mother (she's her caregiver) has SO many old clothes
Being her caregiver has been "one" (laughs about it now)
Can see the same patterns in her mother's closet
The Mel Robbins Post Timing:
Hit her at the EXACT right time last week while cleaning closet
Thought she was doing it right (cleans 6 times a year!)
Realized: still holding blockage, still holding things with old energy and old stories
Divine timing: the expansion happening in her life NEEDS this release now
Exercise 1: The Closet Inventory NYOMI WANTS YOU TO ACTUALLY DO THIS (not just think about it): Step 1: Pick ONE Section
One shelf, one rod, one drawer
Not the whole closet—just ONE section
Make it manageable
Step 2: Pull Everything Out
Don't leave it in the closet
Put it all out where you can see it
Every single item from that section
Step 3: Sort Into Three Piles
PILE 1: Doesn't fit my life anymore
PILE 2: From an old chapter I've outgrown
PILE 3: For a version of me that never arrived
Step 4: Journal on Each Pile
For Pile 1: Why doesn't this fit my life anymore? What has changed?
For Pile 2: What chapter was this from? What version of me wore this? Why am I holding onto that chapter?
For Pile 3: What version of me was I trying to be? Why didn't that version arrive? What was I trying to prove? Who was I trying to become?
Step 5: Make the Decision
Go through each pile
Keep or release?
Ask yourself: Does this support who I am NOW or who I'm BECOMING?
If the answer is no → it goes
Step 6: The Physical Release
Get donation bags
Put released items IN the bags
Tie them up
Put them in your car
Drop them off within 48 HOURS (this is critical—don't let them sit!)
The 4 Common Blocks & How to Overcome Them:
BLOCK 1: "But I spent so much money on this" Nyomi's example: The red carpet dresses
The truth: Keeping it won't get your money back. The money is gone whether it's in the closet or at Goodwill. But at least at Goodwill, someone can use it. Your response: "I honor the money I spent. And I release the guilt. Because someone else will love this piece."
BLOCK 2: "What if I need it someday?" The truth: You won't. And if you do, you'll find something better that actually fits who you are at that time. Your response: "I trust that I will have what I need when I need it.
" BLOCK 3: "This reminds me of a good time" Nyomi's example: The family memorial t-shirts she released this morning
The truth: That's beautiful. But memory lives in your heart, not in your closet. You don't need the physical object to remember. Your response: "I carry the memory with me in my heart. I don't need the object." Nyomi's story: "Yesterday, just this morning, I chose to release t-shirts that my family made when family members passed away. I've had them for years. Some with pictures faded from washing. I sat at my altar and prayed that I was going to release them. The thing is, I have a whole area with their obituaries and their pictures. That is memory enough instead of wearing a garment with their pictures on there
." BLOCK 4: "I'll fit into this again when I lose weight" Nyomi says: "That was a big one for me. That was a big one for me."
The truth: First of all, you are beautiful and handsome enough as you are RIGHT NOW. But second, when you reach that goal—and Nyomi's going to tell you this—you're going to want something NEW. You're going to want new clothes to celebrate the new you, not the old clothes from years ago from the old chapter. Because when you finish the transformation to get that new body, you ain't going to want that old stuff with that old energy, with them old stories on that new reformed body. You're not going to want that.
Your response: "I honor my body now. When I change, I'll celebrate with new pieces."
Your Commitment for This Week: Write this down. Say it out loud. Make it real:
Inventory ONE section of your closet
Sort into three types
Journal on the stories behind each pile
Make the decision: keep or release
Physically put items into donation bags and drop off within 48 hours
Accountability: Option 1: DM Nyomi on Instagram
@TheRealNyomiBanks (spelled N-Y-O-M-I)
OR @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
Tell her which section you inventoried or how many items you're releasing
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Your closet is not just clothes. It's a map of your past selves. Old identities. Old chapters. Old versions of you that you've outgrown. And if you want to reclaim your life, you have to reclaim your closet. In this May series kickoff, Nyomi shares the story of her 15-year-old coats in the Las Vegas desert, the Mel Robbins post that stopped her cold, and why she's teaching this AGAIN even though she already did an episode on this years ago. Because growth is a spiral, not a line. And sometimes the universe has to remind you: there's more work to do. This is Season 5. More intentional. More action. This month, we're reclaiming our closets—and our lives. IN THIS EPISODE The Divine Timing:
Nyomi was spring cleaning (AGAIN) while planning May content for Ask Nyomi's Love & Mental Health series
Mel Robbins' post about closets came across her timeline and STOPPED HER COLD
She KNEW this was the May series: "This was the message. This is what we're doing."
The universe/God had other plans than what she originally planned
The Story: 15-Year-Old Coats in the Desert:
Nyomi cleaning her closet (her "Achilles heel")
Cleans it out several times a year, donates bags, yet it's STILL full
Pulling out old garments from her design days, pieces that don't fit, haven't worn in forever
Multiple coats fall down—had them for OVER 15 YEARS
Living in Las Vegas (THE DESERT!) where she barely wears coats
"Maybe I wore them once or twice, if that"
Why kept them? Expensive, loved them once, represented a version of her that felt "fancy, put together, important"
Looking at them now: felt NOTHING. They don't fit who she is. Just taking up space.
The Honest Truth: She Taught This Before:
"I have to be real with y'all. I've taught this before."
A year or two ago: episode called "Clearing Space to Receive: A Journey of Physical and Mental Liberation"
Talked about clearing closet, clearing life, making space
THOUGHT she had done the work
But those 15-year-old coats? STILL THERE.
When Mel's post appeared: "That was definitely God. That was definitely the universe reminding me: there's more work to do, Nyomi."
"There's always another layer. Growth is a spiral, not a line."
WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR ✨ Anyone who's cleaned their closet multiple times and it's STILL overwhelming ✨ People holding onto clothes from old chapters, old bodies, old versions ✨ Anyone who feels stuck when they open their closet ✨ Those ready to do the deeper work (not just organize—RECLAIM) ✨ People who resonate with "growth is a spiral, not a line" KEY TAKEAWAYS Divine Timing:
Mel Robbins' post appeared EXACTLY when Nyomi was spring cleaning
The universe/God redirected her May series
Sometimes the signs are that obvious
CONNECT WITH NYOMI Personal IG: @TheRealNyomiBanks (spelled N-Y-O-M-I) Podcast IG: @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast Website: AskNyomi.com Tell Nyomi: What old identity is hanging in YOUR closet? 2026 YEARLY THEME: RECLAIMED & UNASHAMED May 2026 Monthly Theme: Reclaiming Your Closet - Unashamed Letting Go Week 1: Your Closet is a Map of Your Past Selves ✨ SHARE YOUR REFLECTION After listening, journal on the 5 reflection questions and share your biggest takeaway on Instagram. Tag @TheRealNyomiBanks or @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast so Nyomi can celebrate your journey with you. What old identity is hanging in YOUR closet?
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
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Four hundred episodes. Three years. Thousands of lives changed. What started as a gift to herself for her 51st birthday—just four episodes in October 2023—became a daily podcast that has transformed thousands of lives.
Today, Nyomi celebrates Episode 400 and announces the biggest shift yet: Welcome to Season 5.
From now on, it's primarily just Nyomi and you—real-time stories, practical exercises, lived teaching, and transformation. Occasional guests when intentional, but the focus is YOU doing the work, not just consuming content.
Plus: a major announcement about June 23rd. Something Nyomi's been planning for YEARS is finally launching. This is Season 5. More intentional. More action. The time is NOW.
IN THIS EPISODE The Journey to 400 Episodes:
Started as a 51st birthday gift to herself in October 2023 (originally just 4 episodes!)
Sitting at her altar 2 episodes in and hearing: "Daily"
The nervousness of being vulnerable on this show (different from 17+ years in radio/media)
Format changes throughout the journey as we grow and transform
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What if rest isn't laziness? What if rest is expansion? In this Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through practical exercises to create your rest practice, identify where you're doing too much vs. being enough, and take responsibility without judgment. This is the work of unashamed expansion. Bring your journal and get ready to honor your body. **In This Episode:** - Exercise 1: Where is your body asking you to rest? (5 questions to identify signals you've been ignoring) - Exercise 2: Doing too much vs. Being enough (balancing the DOING list with the BEING list) - Exercise 3: Taking responsibility without judgment (reframing with the formula from the 6th card) - Exercise 4: Creating your rest practice (ONE specific, timed, non-negotiable commitment) - Addressing the guilt: "But I have so much to do..." - The choice: Rest now on your terms, or rest later when your body forces you - Real examples from Nyomi's life (altar time, saying no, lying down, pushing back deadlines) - The 7-Day Rest Challenge **The 4 Exercises:** 1. **Where is your body asking you to rest?** - Physical symptoms, when they started, what you're telling yourself, what your body is actually saying 2. **Doing vs. Being** - List everything you're doing, mark what drains you, identify where you need to BE more 3. **Taking responsibility without judgment** - "I take responsibility for [action], but I do not judge myself for [being human]" 4. **Your rest practice** - ONE specific form of rest, made specific and timed, with prepared responses to blocks
**Your Rest Practice Options:** - Sleep (30 min earlier) - Stillness (10 min silence) - Movement (gentle stretching/walking) - Saying No (decline one draining commitment) - Support (ask for help with one thing) - Boundaries (protect one hour for nothing) **The Formula:** "I take responsibility for [action/situation], but I do not judge myself for [being human]." **Your Challenge:** Do your rest practice every day for 7 days. Notice what shifts. Journal at the end: What did rest teach me about expansion? **Share Your Practice:** Instagram: Tag or DM @AskNyomi with "This week, my rest practice is..." **Connect with Nyomi:** - Website: AskNyomi.com - Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast - Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - Thursdays ** #ActionWednesday #SeasonOfSelfLove #UnashamedExpansion #RestPractice #HonorYourBody #RestWithoutGuilt #TakeResponsibilityWithoutJudgment #RestIsMedicine
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What if expansion doesn't always feel like moving forward? What if sometimes it feels like your body forcing you to stop? What if being "too much" means you're DOING too much and not BEING enough?
In this raw, honest Mindset Monday, Nyomi shares what happened this weekend—chronic migraines in rare form, the mental battle between her human side and her soul side, and the powerful Monday morning altar moment that changed everything.
Six cards fell out. A photo from years ago appeared. And every single message spoke directly to where she is RIGHT NOW.
This is about redefining expansion. About taking responsibility without judgment. About honoring your body when it asks you to rest. About recognizing that sometimes the discomfort IS the expansion.
If you've ever felt like you can't afford to rest while everything is happening—this episode is for you.
IN THIS EPISODE The Migraine Weekend:
Chronic migraines in rare form—the kind of pain that makes you question everything
Expensive medication ($1000+ even with insurance) that doesn't even work
Saturday morning: 6 hours of full gratitude, then knocked back down by unbearable pain
Lying in bed thinking: "I can't afford to rest. I'm expanding. There's too much to do."
Never once thinking: "Maybe the best medicine for me right now is to rest"
The Battle: Human Side vs. Soul Side:
Human side screaming: "I can't afford to lay here. I'm getting everything I asked for."
All weekend: sleeping on and off, body cleansing itself, head so heavy
Fighting the rest, fighting the stillness, fighting the pause
Rest = falling behind / not being productive / missing opportunities
The story: "How can I afford to rest when my dreams are coming true?"
Monday Morning Altar Moment:
"Let's start this week over"
Shower, then altar
Lit candles, saged the room (golden rose room), saged body
Prayed for guidance, strength, help with tongue, words to self, visions, steps
Asked: "Are there any messages for me today?"
Six cards fell out of the deck
The Six Cards That Spoke:
Do Your Best Because You Love It - "Do your best and take action because you love it, not because you expect a reward. When you take action without expecting a reward, you enjoy every action and you can even receive greater rewards than you imagined."
Sacral Chakra - Abundance - "I am worthy and I deserve an abundance of anything that I require. I watch my thoughts to ensure that I am honouring and respecting myself. I honour myself by knowing that I am worthy to receive. I am open to receive—now! I remind myself that it is a sign of strength to ask for help."
Stay Present - New Dream - "Keep your attention on today, and stay in the present moment. This is the beginning of a new understanding. A new dream."
Don't Take It Personally - "When you see other people as they are without taking it personally, you can never be hurt by what they say or do. Even if others lie to you, it is okay. They are lying to you because they are afraid you will discover that they are not perfect."
Throat Chakra - Truthfulness - "I am truthful and honest with myself. I aim to overcome any fears about speaking my truth, and I speak in a loving and considerate way."
Being Impeccable (THE KEY) - "Being impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do NOT judge or blame yourself for anything."
The Photo:
A photo from years ago popped up while taking pictures of the cards
Nyomi standing tall, full red head, fully in her power
She was already living it. She was already expansive. She just didn't know it yet.
The Chills & The Lesson:
Chills down her spine when she saw it all together
The universe was telling her what her human side didn't want to hear
Expansion doesn't always look like MORE. Sometimes it looks like STOP.
Sometimes expansion means your body forcing you to rest so you can receive
Sometimes being "too much" means you're DOING too much and not BEING enough
What Unashamed Expansion Really Means: We think expansion means:
Doing more
Being visible everywhere
Saying yes to everything
Hustling harder
Never stopping
Always pushing forward
But what if expansion also means:
Resting more
Being selective about where you show up
Saying no to protect your energy
Honoring your limits
Pausing when your body asks you to
Receiving instead of always giving
You Already Carry Everything You Need:
That photo showed: she was already living it years ago
I don't need to do more to prove my worth
I don't need to hustle harder to deserve rest
I don't need to be productive every second to be valuable
I already have everything I need. I just need to stop long enough to receive it.
The Tension:
Expansion isn't always comfortable
Sometimes expansion hurts
Sometimes it feels like pressure, like your body betraying you, like everything falling apart
In those moments, we judge ourselves, blame ourselves
But what if the discomfort IS the expansion?
What if the pain is your body saying: "Slow down. Integrate. Receive."
What if rest IS the medicine? What if pausing IS the progress?
This Week's Focus:
Honoring your body when it asks you to rest
Taking responsibility without judging yourself
Recognizing that expansion isn't always comfortable
Understanding that sometimes you have to STOP to RECEIVE
Trusting that you already carry everything you need
5 REFLECTION QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK Question 1: Where is my body asking me to rest that I'm ignoring? Be honest. Where are you pushing through when you should be pausing? Where is your body saying "stop" and you're saying "not yet"? Question 2: Where am I judging or blaming myself for being human? Where are you taking responsibility AND adding judgment? Where are you telling yourself you're falling behind or failing because you need rest, because you're tired, because you can't do it all? Question 3: What does expansion look like when it's uncomfortable? When have you expanded in ways that didn't feel like progress? When has growth felt like being knocked down? When has rest been the medicine? Question 4: What am I doing too much of, and what do I need to BE more of? Where are you DOING when you should be BEING? Where are you hustling when you should be receiving? Where are you proving when you should be resting? Question 5: What do I already carry that I've been looking for outside myself? What are you seeking—peace, worth, validation, rest, abundance—that you already have within you? What are you chasing that's already here?
CLOSING AFFIRMATION I am expanding even when it's uncomfortable. I honor my body when it asks me to rest. I take responsibility without judging myself. I am worthy of receiving now. I already carry everything I need. I am unashamed of my expansion. I am unashamed of being "too much." I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am expanding.
WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR ✨ If you're in expansion right now—if everything is happening and you feel like you can't keep up ✨ If your
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When was the last time you did something just because it brought you joy? Not because it was productive. Not because it served a purpose. Just because it felt good.
In this Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through The Joy Audit—practical exercises to identify where you're blocking joy, release guilt, practice both/and thinking, and add one joyful practice to your daily life. This is about reclaiming pleasure without justification. Bring your journal and get ready to add joy back in.
In This Episode:
Exercise 1: The Joy Audit (5 questions to identify where joy is blocked)
Exercise 2: The Guilt Release (reframing each guilt into truth)
Exercise 3: The Both/And List (claiming all your dreams)
Exercise 4: Choosing Your Joyful Practice (one daily practice for pure pleasure)
Nyomi's real joyful practices (altar time, music on set, green bathroom, laughter, podcasting)
Addressing resistance: "I don't have time" and "What if people judge me?"
The 7-Day Joy Challenge
The 5 Joy Audit Questions:
What brings you joy that you've been apologizing for or minimizing?
Where are you feeling guilty about feeling good?
What dreams or callings have you been told you need to choose between?
What joyful practices have you cut out because they seem "unproductive"?
Who are you worried will judge you for pursuing your joy?
The Guilt Release Formula: "I release the guilt about [thing]. The truth is [reframe]." Both/And Examples:
I can have BOTH a successful career AND a fulfilling personal life
I can have BOTH creative fulfillment AND financial stability
I can have BOTH rest AND productivity
Your Joyful Practice: "Every day this week, I will [specific joyful practice] at [specific time]." Examples of Joyful Practices: Dance to one song every morning, take a 10-minute bath, read fiction for 15 minutes, light a candle and journal, cook one beautiful meal, paint or create, sing, walk outside, watch the sunset, sit in silence with coffee, stretch, listen to music
The Challenge: Do your joyful practice every day for 7 days. Notice what shifts. Share Your Practice: Instagram: Tag or DM @AskNyomi with "This week, my joyful practice is..."
Next Episode: Mindset Monday - Week 4: Unashamed Expansion (Being "Too Much" Boldly) Connect with Nyomi:
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
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What if you didn't have to choose between your dreams? What if you could pursue all of them—unapologetically? Fresh off a joy-filled production week, Nyomi shares the story of bringing back the original Chicago cast 10 years later, working 15-hour days fueled by gratitude, and almost getting lost in the "Hollywood set" mindset before being reminded of her other calling by Dr. Will's text. This is about having multiple dreams. Multiple callings. Multiple joys. And not apologizing for any of it. In This Episode:
Full circle moments: Original cast returning after 10+ years
The Four Agreements booklet setting the tone on set
Working 15-hour days guided by joy
Two dreams running simultaneously: production + coaching
Dr. Will's Saturday text as a loving reminder
Almost getting lost in one dream and forgetting the other
The tension: Which joy do I choose?
Why your joy doesn't need justification
The guilt we carry about feeling good
"Making my dream a reality"—Nyomi's childhood motto
Gratitude as the foundation of joy
Both/and, not either/or
5 reflection questions on unashamed joy
Key Takeaway: You don't have to choose between your dreams. It's not either/or. It's both/and. Your joy doesn't need justification. You get to have all of it—unapologetically.
Week 3 Focus: Unashamed Joy - Pleasure Without Guilt Reflection Questions:
What brings me joy that I've been apologizing for?
Where am I operating from either/or instead of both/and?
What would my life look like if I pursued all my dreams unapologetically?
What guilt am I carrying about my joy?
What is one joyful practice I can add to my daily life this week?
Connect with Nyomi:
Website: AskNyomi.com
Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
(Tell me: What joy are you ready to stop apologizing for?)
Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - Thursdays
Next Episode: Action Wednesday - The Joy Audit (identifying blocks + adding joyful practices) Episode Hashtags: #SeasonOfSelfLove #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #MindsetMonday #UnashamedJoy #JoyWithoutGuilt #PursueAllYourDreams #BothAnd #MakingDreamsReality #FullCircleMoments
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What if you removed just ONE phrase from your vocabulary this week? What if you spoke directly, clearly, unapologetically—just once?
In this Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through practical exercises to identify YOUR specific qualifiers, swap them for direct language, and commit to one conversation this week without softening your message. This isn't theory. This is practice. Bring your journal and get ready to do the work.
In This Episode:** - Exercise 1: Your Qualifier Inventory (4 categories: Apology, Uncertainty, Minimizing, Hedging) - Exercise 2: The Swap - Before and After (5 common scenarios with direct alternatives) - Exercise 3: Your Real-World Scenarios (practicing with YOUR actual conversations) - Why removing qualifiers feels uncomfortable (and why to do it anyway) - The One Conversation Challenge (your bold action for the week) - Real examples from Nyomi's production week - What success actually looks like (hint: it's not perfection) ** The 4 Types of Qualifiers:** 1. **Apology Qualifiers:** "I'm sorry, but..." "Sorry to bother you..." 2. **Uncertainty Qualifiers:** "I might be wrong, but..." "This might be dumb, but..." 3. **Minimizing Qualifiers:** "Just wondering..." "It's just a thought..." 4. **Hedging Qualifiers:** "Kind of..." "Maybe..." "Perhaps..." **Before and After Examples:** - ❌ "Sorry to interrupt, but I was just wondering if maybe..." - ✅ "I have a question about..." - ❌ "This might be dumb, but what if we sort of tried..." - ✅ "I have an idea. What if we [specific idea]?"
❌ "I'm so sorry, and I know you're busy, but maybe I can't make it?"
- ✅ "I need to cancel tonight. Can we reschedule?"
**Your Bold Action:** Choose ONE conversation this week. Have it without qualifiers. That's it. **Prepare for it:** 1. Write the direct version 2. Practice it out loud 3. Take 3 deep breaths before 4. Speak directly during 5. Journal after **Share Your Commitment:** Instagram: Tag or DM @TheSeasonofSelfLovepodcast with "This week, I'm having [conversation] without qualifiers"
**Next Episode:** Mindset Monday - Week 3: Unashamed Joy (Pleasure Without Guilt) **Connect with Nyomi:** - Website: AskNyomi.com - Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofselflovepodcast - Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - Thursdays **Episode Hashtags:** #ActionWednesday #SeasonOfSelfLove #UnashamedVoice #DirectCommunication #RemoveQualifiers #SpeakClearly #NoApologies #ConfidentCommunication
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Nyomi has been awake for 24 hours getting production ready. She's exhausted. She could skip this episode. But instead, she shows up—because using your voice even when it's hard IS the lesson.
In this raw, honest Mindset Monday, Nyomi shares how she learned to catch herself softening her voice with qualifiers like "I'm sorry, but..." and "This might be dumb, but..." She talks about creating a Four Agreements book for her production team, Joe Dispenza's quantum leap concept, and why your voice doesn't need to be softened to be valid. Week 2 is about Unashamed Voice—speaking without apologizing, without qualifying, without shrinking. This is growth.
In This Episode:
Why Nyomi is recording after 24 hours awake (the lesson IS showing up)
Joe Dispenza's quantum leap: seeing your future self on stage instead of spiraling
Creating a Four Agreements book for production (leadership through voice)
The qualifiers we use to weaken our message
Why we've been conditioned to soften (especially women, especially BIPOC)
The difference between kind and soft (you can be both kind AND direct)
What happens when you stop softening your voice
Future self visualization: How does she speak?
5 reflection questions to identify where and how you soften
Key Takeaway: Your voice doesn't need to be softened to be valid. You can be kind AND direct. You can be compassionate AND clear. Stop apologizing for speaking.
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
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You cleared the space. Now it's time to fill it. In this first-ever Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through the actual WORK of unashamed growth. No theory. No fluff. Just practical exercises, real examples, and one bold action you're taking THIS WEEK. This episode includes:
Exercise 1: Mapping Your Space (identify where you have room now)
Exercise 2: Naming What You Want to Grow (fill it intentionally)
Exercise 3: Choosing Your One Bold Action (and actually doing it)
Real examples from Nyomi's community
Accountability prompts
What to do when resistance shows up
Bring: Journal, pen, and readiness to actually DO the work. In This Episode:
Quick Monday recap (the green bathroom story!)
3 guided exercises with writing time
4 categories of space: Time, Energy, Physical Space, Bandwidth
How to name what you want to grow
Choosing ONE bold, visible action for this week
Addressing shame, fear, and guilt when they show up
Real examples: Sarah, Marcus, Jasmine, David, and Nyomi
Accountability: sharing your action
What to do if you're scared (spoiler: do it anyway)
Your Bold Action Challenge: By next Monday, take ONE bold, visible action to claim your space. Make it specific. Make it timed. Make it happen. Share Your Action: Instagram: Tag or DM @AskNyomi with "This week, I'm claiming my space by..." Next Episode: Mindset Monday - Week 2: Unashamed Voice (Speaking Without Softening) Connect with Nyomi:
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.
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This weekend, someone Nyomi loves asked her this five-word question—and shame almost kept her from answering honestly. In this powerful season premiere for April, Nyomi shares the story of choosing truth over comfort, the moment shame tried to creep in, and why she chose to speak her truth with compassion anyway. After a month of reclaiming boundaries in March, April is about what you do with the space those boundaries created. It's about growing boldly, visibly, and unapologetically—even when your growth doesn't look like what others expect.
NEW FORMAT ALERT:
April is action month. Mindset Monday introduces the weekly theme. Action Wednesday (replacing Wisdom Wednesday) gives you the tools to implement it. No guests this month—just you, Nyomi, and the work of growing unapologetically.
IN THIS EPISODE The Weekend & The Altar Moment:
Nyomi wakes up at her altar feeling heavy after a weekend of both amazing and life-altering events for loved ones
Even in the hard moments, she saw the blessing, the growth, the opportunity hidden in difficulty
The heaviness wasn't about the weekend—it was about a conversation and a question she was afraid to answer honestly
The Five-Word Question:
"Have you seen any growth from me?"
One honest question from someone she loves
The moment she realized they might be measuring two different things
The Problem with Defining Growth:
Some people think growth means: career advancement, buying a home, getting the promotion, checking boxes—external markers everyone can see
For others (like Nyomi): growth means becoming a better you, finding who you are, self-love journey, not being limited by expectations or fear
Growth means healing, setting boundaries, showing up when it's hard, choosing yourself
The Shame That Tried to Creep In:
Shame whispered: "Don't say what you really think. Don't hurt their feelings. Just tell them what they want to hear."
What if her definition of their growth isn't what they're looking for?
What if she honors their internal journey but they think she's saying they haven't accomplished anything?
Shame said: "Just shrink. Just make it easy. Just say yes and move on."
The pause was long and loud—the quietest, loudest moment of the conversation
The Choice to Speak Truth with Compassion:
"First, know that this is coming from love."
"Yes, I've seen your growth. I've seen you become more aware. I've seen you set boundaries you wouldn't have set before. I've seen you ask for help when you used to suffer in silence. I've seen you show up for yourself. I've seen you healing."
Then the critical insight: "The fact that you're sitting here asking me this question means you're aware that more growth is needed or warranted on your part. And that awareness? That's growth too."
5 Lessons About Growth:
Growth has no single definition - What looks like growth to you might not look like growth to someone else. You don't have to measure your growth by someone else's ruler. You don't have to apologize for growing in ways that don't fit the script.
Shame will try to silence your truth about growth - Shame will tell you that your version of growth isn't "real" growth. Shame will make you apologize for growing slowly. But shame is a liar.
Growth requires space - You can't grow in a space where you're constantly being drained, violated, dismissed, or shrunk. The boundaries you set in March created the space for April's growth.
Asking for validation is growth - If you're asking "Am I growing?" that means you're aware, paying attention, not on autopilot. Asking is part of the process. Asking is growth.
Unashamed growth means defining it for yourself and standing in it boldly - You don't have to shrink your definition of growth to make other people comfortable. You can grow quietly, internally, in ways only you can see. And it still counts.
The Bathroom Story (Real-Life Example):
Nyomi shares a perfect example of unashamed growth: redecorating her downstairs bathroom
She took down silver wallpaper, got green paint swatches three months ago, finally committed
Started second-guessing: "I think I'm doing too much"
Her husband reminded her: "You be you. You've done so much work to be comfortable in your skin. When people walk into our home, they walk in one way, when they leave, they leave another way."
The bathroom is part of her sanctuary, part of transformation, part of truth
It's a reflection of her—and being unashamed of that reflection is growth
"It just happened to be the color green"
Introducing: The Season of Growth (Unashamed)
April theme: Unashamed Growth
After reclaiming boundaries in March, now it's time to say YES—to expansion, blooming, taking up space, becoming more of who you already are
Doing this without shame, guilt, or making ourselves small
NEW FORMAT: Mindset Monday + Action Wednesday
Pause on Wisdom Wednesday guests for April (guests return in May)
"Growth doesn't happen by thinking about it. Growth happens by doing."
Week 1 Focus: Unashamed Space (Taking Up Room to Grow)
A lot of us created boundaries in March—we said no, protected our peace, cleared space
But now that we have the space... we're afraid to fill it
We shrink, make ourselves small, apologize for needing space, feel guilty for having boundaries
This week: addressing fear of taking up space, shame around expansion, guilt around blooming
Action Wednesday preview: Identify where you have space now, name what you want to grow there, take one bold visible action to claim it
5 Reflection Questions for the Week:
How do I define growth for myself? (Not how parents/friends/society define it—how do YOU define it? What does it look like, feel like? What matters to you?)
Where have I been ashamed of my growth because it doesn't look like what I "should" be doing? (Where have you apologized for growing slowly? Shrunk your progress? Dismissed your healing because it's not a promotion/house/relationship?)
What space did my boundaries create in March? (Time? Energy? Emotional bandwidth? Physical space? Mental clarity? What opened up when you started saying no?)
What am I afraid to fill that space with? (Be honest. What do you want to grow but you're scared to claim? What do you want to pursue but you're afraid people will judge? What do you want to expand into but you feel guilty about?)
What would unashamed growth look like for me this month? (If you didn't care what anyone thought, how would you grow? If shame wasn't a factor, what would you pursue? If you were completely free, what would you bloom into?)
EPISODE AFFIRMATION I define my own growth. I honor my journey without apologizing. I claim the space my boundaries created. I bloom boldly, visibly, and unapologetically. I am unashamed of my season of growth. I am unashamed of taking up space. I am unashamed of becoming more of who I already am. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am growing.
APRIL 2026 THEME BREAKDOWN The Season of Growth: Unashamed
Week 1: Unashamed Space (Taking Up Room to Grow)
Week 2: Unashamed Voice (Speaking Without Softening)
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In this powerful final Mindset Monday of the month, Nyomi Banks closes out the Reclaiming Your Boundaries series with a heartfelt reflection on what it really means to choose yourself—without apology, without guilt, and without shrinking to keep others comfortable. This episode isn’t just a recap—it’s a celebration.
Nyomi reminds you that boundaries aren’t walls meant to shut people out. They’re bridges that lead you back home to yourself. Throughout March, you didn’t just talk about boundaries—you practiced them in real time: boundaries with fear, shame, old patterns, people-pleasing, overworking, and even the internal voice that tries to keep you small. With grounding, truth-telling, and tenderness, Nyomi invites you to honor how far you’ve come and step into what’s next with clarity and confidence.
Inside this reflection episode, Nyomi revisits the key wisdom from March’s guest conversations—including somatic “yes/no” tools, leaving self-abandonment behind, saying no to shame, and choosing joy as a boundary against fear. She also shares her own lived lessons: setting boundaries with reactive language, navigating caregiving with intention, and learning that healing and living can happen at the same time.
In this episode, you’ll reflect on:
Why boundaries are bridges (not walls) and how they reconnect you to your truth
The real purpose of boundaries: peace, autonomy, self-respect, and protection
How boundaries reveal who respects you—and who benefits from your lack of them
What you learned about your voice, your energy, and your relationships this month
5 journal prompts to help you integrate March and commit to your next 30 days
A closing affirmation to anchor your growth and celebrate your wins
If you’ve been learning to say “no” without guilt, stop explaining yourself, rest without apology, or finally take up space—this episode is your reminder: you are not the same person you were at the beginning of the month. You are stronger, clearer, and freer. And you’re just getting started.
Keywords: reclaiming boundaries, March reflection, mindset Monday, self-love podcast, Nyomi Banks, people pleasing recovery, emotional boundaries, healing journey, self-trust, boundaries and guilt, boundaries and relationships, inner critic, caregiving boundaries, speaking life, impeccable words, personal growth, reclaimed and unashamed March 2026 Episodes Mentioned:
Michael Ostrolenk (March 4) - Somatic Boundaries
Tracy Smith (March 11) - People-Pleasing to Self-Trust
Russell Van Brocklen (March 18) - Shame-Free Learning
Terry Bean - Reclaimed & Unashamed Joy: Remembering the Magic Within
Mindset Monday: Breaking Free from the Recovery Bubble
Mindset Monday: Impeccability of the Word
Connect with Nyomi:
Website: AskNyomi.com
Instagram: @AskNyomi (Tell me: What boundary are you most proud of this month?)
"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.
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What if joy is not something you find, but something you remember? What if even in the darkest, messiest moments of your life, you have an inner wizard—a part of you that can create magic, shift perspective, and choose how you show up?
In this uplifting Wisdom Wednesday conversation, Nyomi sits down with Terry Bean—debut children's book author, life and executive coach, and someone who radiates love and possibility—to talk about reinvention, remembering your magic, and the power of believing that "everything is always working out for me."
Terry shares her journey of multiple reinventions, the story behind her children's book "Abracadabra," and how we can all access the inner wizard within us that creates beauty no matter what we're facing. IN THIS EPISODE Terry's Journey of Reinvention:
Living multiple lives and reinventing herself over and over
Navigating uncertainty, loss, and heavy seasons while holding onto joy
Building businesses, experiencing crashes, moving across the country
Returning to New York to care for her mother while launching her first book
The Mantra That Changed Everything:
"Everything is always working out for me"
How this belief system shapes reality and opens doors
The power of trusting the journey even when things don't go as planned
Why Friday's technical difficulties were actually perfect timing
The Inner Wizard & Rose-Colored Glasses:
We all have an inner wizard—a magical part of us that can shift perspective
The rose-colored glasses you think you lost? You're still wearing them
Joy is not something external to find—it's something internal to remember
How to access your magic even in dark moments
The Birth of "Abracadabra" - A 14-Year Journey:
Conceived in 2010 during a challenging time in Terry's life
The story: A young girl named Dani runs from her parents' fighting, finds a branch by the lake, carves it into a wand
Her reflection in the water becomes her sage, teaching her about the power within
Finally published in 2024 after years of waiting for the "right time"
The Fiverr Miracle:
How Terry found her illustrator Junaid Adi on Fiverr for $53
Being put off when a man showed up instead of the woman she expected
Choosing to give them a shot anyway—and the magic that followed
Junaid's response: "It's the most inspirational child's book I've ever read... If I had this book before age 18, I wouldn't have gone through the crap I went through"
Creating 15 illustrations in one month while crying and laughing together
The Vision for the Book:
Teaching children they have power within them to create beautiful lives
Helping kids grow into kinder, more connected adults
The ripple effect: One child at a time, one parent at a time, changing the world
The 30-year vision: Kids finding the book again at age 30 to share with their own children
Terry's Voice & Presence:
Frequently told she has "a voice for radio"
The power of smooth, warm, grounding energy
How voiceover work and diverse experiences shaped her gift
"What haven't you done?" - A resume of joy and diverse experiences
Foundation & Self-Love:
Why starting with self-love creates good human beings
Teaching children to trust themselves (without using the word "trust" yet)
The importance of intimate relationship with self before teaching it to children
Nyomi's connection: Creating foundation for her three daughters and granddaughter
WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR ✅ Anyone who's been through reinvention (or multiple reinventions) ✅ People navigating uncertainty or heavy seasons ✅ Anyone who's forgotten what magic and joy feel like ✅ Parents who want to teach their children about inner power ✅ Teachers and educators looking for resources on self-trust and magic ✅ Anyone who needs permission to believe "everything is working out for me" ✅ People who've been told they're "too optimistic" or see the world through "rose-colored glasses" ✅ Anyone curious about the creative process and trusting divine timing
ABOUT TERRY BEAN Terry Bean is a debut children's book author, life and executive coach, speaker, and someone who believes in magic, joy, and the power of reinvention. Her mantra—"Everything is always working out for me"—has guided her through multiple careers, cross-country moves, business crashes, and now, caregiving for her mother back in New York.
Her debut children's book, "Abracadabra," was conceived in 2010 and published in 2024. It tells the story of Dani, a young girl who discovers her inner power through her reflection in a lake. Terry's vision is to help children understand they have the power within them to create beautiful lives—and in turn, grow into kinder, more connected adults.
Terry has been told she has "a voice for radio" (and we agree!), and her warm, grounding presence is felt immediately. She's dabbled in voiceover work, built businesses, and lived many lives—all with joy, curiosity, and an unshakeable belief that everything is always working out.
ABOUT "ABRACADABRA" - THE BOOK
The Story: Dani is running away from her parents who are fighting. She finds herself by a lake, sees her reflection in the water, and discovers a branch that she carves into a wand. Her reflection becomes her sage—her inner guide—teaching her about the power she carries within her through every stage of life.
The Illustrator: Junaid Adi (Jay), visual arts director of kidsbookart.com, created 15 beautiful illustrations in one month. He called it "the most inspirational child's book I've ever read." The Vision:
Teach children they have power within them
Help them create beautiful lives from the inside out
Grow kinder, more connected adults
Change the world one child at a time
Coming Soon:
Coloring book companion
Available for purchase in a couple of weeks
RESOURCES & CONNECT WITH TERRY Website: TerryBeanAuthor.com
REFLECTION QUESTIONS FROM THE EPISODE What are you reclaiming? Is it your joy? Your optimism? Your belief that everything is working out for you? What are you unashamed of? Your reinvention? Your hard days? Your messy but beautiful journey?
FINAL THOUGHT FROM NYOMI "Your magic matters. Your story matters. Your joy is your superpower. Keep choosing you. Keep choosing love. And keep remembering the magic within." TAKE ACTION THIS WEEK
Remember your magic: Write down one moment when you shifted perspective and created something beautiful
Pre-order the book: Visit TerryBeanAuthor.com when purchase links go live
Practice the mantra: "Everything is always working out for me"
Share with a child: Tell a young person in your life about their inner wizard
Journal: Answer the two reflection questions above
SHARE THIS EPISODE Know someone who needs to remember their magic? Someone going through reinvention? Someone who's forgotten how to access joy? Share this episode. Remind them they're wearing their rose-colored glasses—they just forgot.
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