The Relationship Rehab – Details, episodes & analysis

I’m excited to be joined by Sophia for a real, honest conversation about sobriety, anxious attachment, and what it’s actually like to date without using alcohol as a confidence crutch.

If you’ve ever felt like you need a drink to relax on a date, to feel “fun,” to be more open, or to handle the intensity of your own emotions… you’re going to feel very seen in this episode! Sophia shares her journey to sobriety, the identity shift that came with it, and how getting sober didn’t take her life away, it actually gave her more clarity, confidence, boundaries, and a deeper connection to herself.

Whether you’re sober-curious, healing anxious attachment, or just tired of abandoning yourself in dating… this episode is for you.

In this episode, we cover:

• Sophia’s turning point moment that led her to sobriety (and why breakups can be the catalyst)
• How alcohol can create a false sense of confidence, connection, and intimacy
• The fear of “who am I without drinking?” and the grief of letting go of the party-girl identity
• What sober dating actually looks like and how people’s reactions reveal instant red flags
• How anxious attachment shows up when you’re sober (and what changes when you stop numbing)
• Why sobriety can help you follow through on boundaries instead of self-abandoning
• The “mirror moment” of dating someone anxiously attached and how it can heal your past self

Sophia Graniela is the podcast host of Her Journey Home, a storyteller, and an EFT tapping practitioner devoted to the art of sharing your truth. She explores sobriety, reclaiming your 30s, and the messy, courageous work of becoming yourself. Her work centers on helping women release fear, reconnect to their voice, and remember that their story holds power.

Her Journey Home Podcast

Instagram: @sophiagraniela

Share it with a friend who’s sober-curious and share your sober dating stories in the comments below!

Love, Samantha xx

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Freebies:

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment

Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored

Workshops & Courses

1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching

Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com

SOCIAL MEDIA:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing a deeply personal life transition and the powerful lessons I’m learning when it comes to finally listening to our intuition, releasing control and surrendering to God, even when things feel uncertain.

Whether you’re questioning a relationship, a job, or a place you’ve outgrown, this conversation will help you understand the difference between anxiety and intuition, and how to access clarity when you feel stuck.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why I’ve been taking time off and the “big adult decision” I’ve been sitting with
• The feeling of being “stuck” on a soul level (even when life looks fine on paper)
• How fear shows up loud and urgent and why intuition is quiet, gentle, and steady
• Why anxious attachment can override your inner knowing in relationships
• The difference between emotion (nervous system activation) and feeling (deep inner truth)
• The role of grief when you choose alignment (even when it’s the right choice)
• Why “uncertainty” triggers anxiety and how faith helps you tolerate the unknown

➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!

Love, Samantha xx

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Freebies:

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/healing-anxious-attachment

Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-anchored

7-Day Breakup Detox Guide: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/detox-checklist

Workshops & Courses

1:1 Coaching Program: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com/coaching

Website: https://relationshiprehab.mykajabi.com

SOCIAL MEDIA:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

Instagram: www.instagram.com/the.relationship.rehab

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

This episode is for anyone navigating toxic, narcissistic, or dysfunctional family systems — especially if you’ve become estranged or are considering going no contact with your family.

I’m honoured to welcome Lauren Smallcomb to the podcast as she courageously shares her story of going from the golden child to the scapegoat after questioning her family’s toxic dynamics and oppressive religious and political beliefs.

This is a powerful story of bravery, rejection, and self-liberation — about what it really takes to stand in your truth, even when that means walking away from the people who raised you.

“Golden Child” is Lauren’s memoir that details the collapse of illusory goodness within a family system through the disruption of Christian Nationalism, ultimately leading the token golden child to walk out of her gilded golden cage. Through an arduous journey with grief and wonder, Lauren courageously unravels from fundamentalism and steps into her authentic and free self.

In this episode, we talk about:

✨ Lauren’s “downfall” from the golden child to the black sheep of the family

✨ Healing from religious trauma and reclaiming spiritual freedom

✨ What it feels like to be estranged or no contact with your family

✨ Why you can’t change your parents — and what to do instead

✨ What it truly means to be the family scapegoat ✨ How to navigate and heal from narcissistic family systems

➡️ **Leave a comment below** and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!

Love, Samantha xx

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Lauren’s Links:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/@goldenchildbook

Buy “Golden Child” book: https://flourishtherapy.kartra.com/page/goldenchild

Freebies:

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment

Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/anxious-to-anchored

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Workshops & Courses:

1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching

Website: www.samireedcoaching.com

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Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

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Grab a cuppa and join me for a heart-to-heart chat about LIFE. In this episode, I’m sharing with you some of the challenges and lessons I’ve been moving through and the amazing gifts that God gives when we truly let go, surrender and detach from things we are clinging onto so tightly. For me, it was my business and the vision I had for my last relationship... In this episode, we talk about: ✨ How difficult it can be to let go of control ✨ What happens when we finally surrender it all to God ✨ Why prioritising your peace is the ultimate act of self love ✨ How to start healing from breakups and burnout ✨ … and so much more! ➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx --- If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast. And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver --- *Freebies:* Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Anxious to Anchored Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/anxious-to-anchored --------------------------------------------- *Workshops & Courses* 1:1 Coaching Program: www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: www.samireedcoaching.com - -------------------------------------------- *SOCIAL MEDIA:* Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

Have you been burnt in relationships in the past, worked so hard on re-building yourself and now you feel resistant, even scared to start dating again because you don’t want to lose the peace you’ve worked so hard to build?

You’ve healed, you’ve found your rhythm, you finally feel good… and even though deep down, you really want a relationship, the thought of ghosting, rejection, or falling back into familiar patterns of getting too attached too fast makes you wonder: “Is it worth the risk?”

If that sounds like you, this episode is going to help you get that dream relationship you desire AND protect your peace.

Inside this episode, we go through:

✨ Why risk is a natural part of every meaningful reward (including love)

✨ How to build resilience so rejection doesn’t derail you

✨ Practical boundaries to avoid burnout and premature attachment

✨ The importance of reset rituals to stay grounded after disappointments

✨ The role of detachment in dating — and how it actually creates more peace, not less

💫 Ready to go deeper? Join my free workshop on September 23rd: Master the Art of Detachment. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling over mixed signals, release the anxiety that comes with dating, and open yourself to love without losing your peace: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era

➡️ Leave a comment on this podcast and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!

Love, Samantha xx

If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast.

And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver

Freebies:

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment

FREE live ‘Master the Art of Detachment’ Masterclass on Sept 23rd: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era

Workshops & Courses

1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching

Website: www.samireedcoaching.com

SOCIAL MEDIA:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

What if love isn’t magic at all—but math? In today’s conversation with Zoe Charif, we explore how to redefine love as something we can actually calculate. Zoe challenges the romanticized idea that love is about soulmates and destiny, and instead gives us the code for choosing a relationship that truly lasts. We dive into attachment styles, modern dating complexities, and whether compatibility can be created—not just found. If you’ve ever wondered if there’s a smarter way to approach love, you’ll want to hear this.

In this episode, we talk about:

✨ How we can figure out if our relationship will last using Zoe’s formula

✨ Why relationships are not as ‘spiritual’ as we think

✨ How to use the tool to stop falling into unhealthy relationships

✨ How to use the tool to help you overcome a breakup

✨ Whether we can create compatibility or is it just ‘found’ in our perfect match?

✨ …and so much more!

➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!

Love, Samantha xx

If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast.

And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver

Freebies:

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment

FREE live ‘Master the Art of Detachment’ Masterclass on Sept 23rd: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era

Workshops & Courses

1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching

Website: www.samireedcoaching.com

SOCIAL MEDIA:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

Zoe’s Links:

Zoey Charif – Author, Entrepreneur, Coach

Love Can In Fact, Be Calculated Book:

• Amazon
• Barnes & Noble
• IngramSpark

Website: https://www.lovecaninfactbecalculated.com/

Instagram: @zoeycharif

TikTok:@zoeycharif

We’ve all been there: replaying texts, analyzing his mixed signals, and wondering… Is he avoidant, or does he just not like me that much?

In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference anxious women need to know. I’ll share the truth about avoidant attachment (hint: it’s not as obvious on day one as the internet makes it seem) and why chasing someone who’s inconsistent is really about your own attachment wounds — not about fixing him.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of overanalyzing, self‑abandoning, and trying to “win back” the early version of a guy who seemed so invested… this episode is your wake‑up call.

The honest answer will set you free — so you can stop spinning in anxiety and start raising your standards.

👉 Ready to break the cycle of overthinking and chasing? Grab my free guide The High‑Achiever’s Heart’s Guide to Healing Anxious Attachment below to start calming your nervous system and attracting secure love.

➡️ Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!

Love, Samantha xx

If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast.

And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver

Freebies:

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment

Master the Art of Detachment Masterclass: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era

Workshops & Courses

1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching

Website: www.samireedcoaching.com

SOCIAL MEDIA:

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

For all the women who were told that they are ‘too much’ and are ready to own her truth and authority in her love life AND career - buckle up for this amazing, inspiring conversation with Confidence Coach Kate House!

In this episode, we talk about:

✨ What it means to own your truth and authority

✨ How to let go of things we’ve already ‘invested’ so much time and energy in

✨ How to be brave and courageous in the face of rejection

✨ What it means to listen to your intuition and take up space

✨ The importance of a female community

✨ …and so much more! ➡️

Leave a comment below and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode!

Love, Samantha xx

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If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast.* And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: @samireedcleaver

**Freebies:**

Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment

Master the Art of Detachment Masterclass: www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era

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**Workshops & Courses**

1:1 Coaching Program: www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching

Website: www.samireedcoaching.com

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**SOCIAL MEDIA:**

Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab

Instagram: www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/

TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver

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**KATE'S LINKS:**

Website -- https://mskatehouse.com/ Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/mskatehouse/

Let’s talk about the number one source of anxiety I see in dating right now — messaging anxiety. You send a message, he doesn’t reply, you obsessively checking your phone, analyze emojis, and wonder if he’s losing interest. He replies, and the cycle repeats. Exhausting right? In this episode, I’m going to break down why messaging anxiety and waiting on his reply wrecks your nervous system, how this ties back to your attachment style, and what you can do instead.” ➡️ **Leave a comment below** and let me your biggest takeaway from this episode! Love, Samantha xx --- *If you enjoyed the episode, It would mean the absolute world to me if you would take a second to rate & share this podcast.* And don’t forget to connect with me on social media, share this podcast episode with anyone who needs to hear it and share it on your IG stories & tag me: [*www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver*](https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/) --- **Freebies:** Healing Anxious Attachment Guide: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/healing-anxious-attachment Master The Art of Detachment Masterclass: [**https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era**](https://www.samireedcoaching.com/secure-woman-era) --------------------------------------------- **Workshops & Courses** 1:1 Coaching Program: https://www.samireedcoaching.com/coaching Website: [www.samireedcoaching.com](http://www.samireedcoaching.com/) - -------------------------------------------- **SOCIAL MEDIA:** Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshiprehab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samireedcleaver/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samireedcleaver