Looking at the world of relationships - their importance to living a fulfilled life.
Their impacts on all areas of life.
Where our ideas of relationships come from.
What and why we attract them.
How important the relationship with yourself is.
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching Professional People Who Want to Create Healthy Loving Relationships, Author, Documentarian and Speaker.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose, not one they always have or think they should.
In the final episode of The Relationship Guy podcast, host John Kenny reflects on the past three years of creating the show and announces a hiatus to consider the future format. He expresses gratitude to his guests, listeners, and supporters, highlighting popular topics such as attachment styles, narcissism, and gaslighting.
John shares his personal journey and reasons for focusing on relationship coaching, emphasising the importance of understanding and navigating complex human connections. The episode encapsulates the show's mission to give relationships a voice and empower individuals to create healthy, intimate connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
John has decided to take a hiatus from the podcast to consider the future direction of the show.
The most downloaded episode over the last three years was about attachment styles, followed closely by a discussion on passive-aggressive behaviours.
The episode on Relationship Breakdowns and Narcissists with Elizabeth Goddard became the most listened to guest episode.
The podcast has covered various topics such as matchmaking, star signs, astrology, energy, hormones, and body chemistry in relationships.
John Kenny's personal journey of transforming his own relationship beliefs and patterns has led him to become a relationship coach and host of the podcast.
BEST MOMENTS
"I love attachment styles. I think they're amazing things. If you can understand them about yourself, they can be so insightful."
"Gaslighting is an insidious behaviour that can cause you to challenge your own sanity. It's a disgusting way of behaving to get your own way, to manipulate others."
"Relationship Breakdowns and Narcissists with Elizabeth Goddard. This has only just overtaken in the past week, the one that I posted about on my socials a couple of weeks ago with ME14."
"Gaslighting is an insidious behavior that can cause you to challenge your own sanity. It's a disgusting way of behaving to get your own way, to manipulate others."
"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending."
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
This episode features an insightful conversation between John and Vinko Anthony from Beau Brummell Introductions, a matchmaking agency for gay men. Vinko shares his journey of founding the agency with his husband, emphasising the importance of long-term, monogamous relationships in today's fast-paced dating world dominated by apps like Grindr. They discuss the significance of authenticity, vulnerability, and genuine connection in relationships, highlighting the role of personal engagement and understanding in successful matchmaking. Vinko's approach focuses on individualised attention, transparency, and commitment to helping clients find meaningful connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Commitment and Transparency: Vinko highlights the importance of commitment and transparency in relationships, both in personal connections and in the matchmaking service provided by Beau Brummel Introductions.
Authenticity and Vulnerability: Allowing yourself to be authentic and vulnerable in relationships means genuine connections will form.
Mirror Imaging: The energy and engagement you put into a relationship are often reflected back to you.
Personal Growth: Personal growth and self-awareness are essential in preparing oneself for a successful and fulfilling relationship.
BEST MOMENTS
"I think authenticity is a word that's thrown around quite a lot, but it's actually being you and being comfortable, like you said, being you, getting someone to get to know you and who you really are and hoping that they like that."
"But I think you take the time out to actually really offer that service to people is actually what does this person really want? What do they really need? What's the what will be a good thing for them?"
"But you have to stay in that zone of commitment because, but generally people are engaging and financially contributing to this, it means that they're committed."
The Menopause and Perimenopause with Jacky Wood
Episode 147
Friday, April 12, 2024 • Duration 49:47
Join John as he interviews Jacky Wood, a licensed menopause champion and relationship coach. Jacky shares her personal experience with perimenopause and how it impacted her life, relationships, and mental health. She emphasises the importance of understanding hormonal fluctuations during perimenopause and menopause and offers guidance on how to support oneself through this transition.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Menopause can have a significant impact on a woman's life, affecting her physically, emotionally, and mentally.
It is important for women going through menopause to seek support and guidance to cope with the hormonal fluctuations.
Hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause can lead to various symptoms affecting different parts of the body.
Communication and understanding between partners are crucial during menopause to maintain intimacy and support each other.
Seeking help and knowledge about menopause can empower individuals to make informed decisions and improve their quality of life.
BEST MOMENTS
"Perimenopause is not an age thing. It's a hormone thing, and it can happen to people at any time."
"I think there must be something so that's the kind of person that lights me up."
"I think my missus is going through this, you know, what, what do you advise? and we can set off a conversation."
"I think that's really important, isn't the openness and honesty. Sharing."
"Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending."
Award-Winning and MMI-Accredited Matchmaker Lara Besbrode is Founder of The Matchmaker UK. Following a successful 30 year career in PR and marketing, she reimagined her passion for people and networking, creating her own exclusive matchmaking service in the process.
Lara takes an interdisciplinary approach to matchmaking, masterfully blending her skills and collaborating with UK and international matchmakers to find the most suited match.
No stranger to the realm of love, dating and relationships, Lara is intimately familiar with the intricacies of her calling. Lara approaches each matchmaking engagement with a vibrant aura of passionate energy and empathy.
Lara is a regular guest as Dating Expert on TalkRadio, BBC News & Radio, Real Housewives of Cheshire and MTV Catfish UK. She often makes global media appearances on television networks in the UK and US.
In this episode she talks to John about her methods in matchmaking, how she got into the business, the complications of dating, wants and needs and the journey taken when searching for a life partner.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Lara’s Matchmaker UK is the elite of matchmaking services, experts in their field working to industry safety standards, where clients can go if they have tried all the traditional methods, including the modern digital apps.
Preferences, demographic, cultural background are all factors Lara and her team take into account when they are head hunting for a potential suitor. There are 30 different factors to indicate a match.
Lara worked for 30 years in the celebrity PR business but her interest in helping people drew her to matchmaking, and after her divorce and moving back to he uk, she decided to do what she loved.
Matchmaking uk unravel the complex issues involved when someone has an ideal potential partner in mind often seeing past the clients initial need to seek someone that previously they would never have considered.
You must have a dating strategy to find a partner. If you haven’t considered what you desire and need to the fullest extent you are unlikely to meet an ideal partner just through luck. Matchmaking UK have a guide on how to formulate a dating strategy to increase your chances.
Signs You May Have Experienced Emotional Abuse in The Past
Episode 56
Thursday, July 14, 2022 • Duration 14:35
In this episode John follows on from his podcast about signs to identify a toxic relationship with his tips on signs showing you may have experienced emotional abuse in the past. One of the reasons why we find ourselves in a toxic relationship cycle is due to emotional abuse experienced in our childhood, but how can we identify when this is the case?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
We can repress what we went through as a way of coping. By understanding and acknowledging how your experience can affect you know you are more able to move on and the following are markers that suggest you have been a victim of emotional abuse in the past.
You are not good at making your own decisions.
You are a people pleaser.
You minimise toxic behaviour.
You get angry or frustrated easily.
You often feel defensive.
You view yourself negatively.
You find it hard to cope when people are upset or angry.
You continue to inadvertently choose toxic partners.
You constantly question if you are loved.
You have difficulty accepting affection.
You have nightmares about relationships.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Some examples of this may include humiliation, manipulation, verbal aggression, belittling and intimidation.’
‘This is often the case for people who are highly focused on the needs of others. People pleasing, for example.’
‘You could deny that it's actually that bad, that they don’t really mean it as you try to rationalise your past experiences to yourself.’
‘If you find yourself feeling particularly tense whenever people around you erupt, it may be because you used to deal with that a lot in the past.’
‘You were just never really made to feel that positivity either existed or lasted.’
Maximise Your Relationships With Ana Ruiz
Episode 55
Thursday, July 7, 2022 • Duration 42:04
John talks to Ana Ruiz, Transformational Relationship Coach and Demartini Method specialist dedicated to maximising human awareness and potential in individuals and groups. She helps couples to do a ‘different dance’ and turn around their relationships.
Ana and John discuss Ana’s childhood and her resultant trauma, her disorganised attachment style, her first relationship experiences, her discovery of bi-polar disorder and her resultant therapies and how her search for healing led to a career in Relationship Coaching.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
A resident of the US and Mexican by birth, Ana originated specialising in Computer Science. As a child she lost her older sister to drowning which resulted in a depressed mother and absent father and her care being handed over to a nanny. She developed a disorganised attachment style.
Ana ended up in Seattle via San Francisco after her relationship ended after her move to the US. This left her intent on independence.
After a nervous breakdown after being diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and being informed it was untreatable, Ana embarked on a 17 year long struggle to heal through therapy. This began her expertise in healing and therapy after searching for different treatments.
Ana became an energy healer, then a yoga therapist then onwards onto relationship theory, psychology, attachment theory and neurobiology. She now uses all of her experience in her relationship coaching practice.
BEST MOMENTS
‘As someone who grew up with a disorganised attachment style it means that my Mom was there physically but not emotionally because she was grieving. So I grew up creating connections but feeling afraid of connection, feeling afraid of being left alone.’ - Ana
’It was painful for me to watch them arrive into the office together in the same car and eventually he went on to marry her and have three kids.’ – Ana
Alchemy For The Soul With Eva Hunt
Episode 54
Thursday, June 30, 2022 • Duration 40:29
John talks to Eva Hunt, a consciousness coach and soul alchemist who helps people to connect with their soul, to love and thrive. For more than a decade she has combined her intuitive skills with the law of attraction principles, energy healing and spirituality to guide those in need.
John and Eva discuss how she became a spiritual coach, her father and his influence on her, living in Hungary as a child under Soviet occupation and her own journey to becoming the healer she is today.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Eva is from Hungary and by profession was a commercial economist. After moving to the UK and establishing her holistic healing practice in 2010 she has found her purpose in energy healing and spiritual coaching.
Eva was very close to her father and believed they were soulmates. People generally associate the idea of soulmates to a romantic connection, but soulmates can occur with any positive connection available between people.
Growing up in occupied Hungary had an extreme influence on Eva. Torn between the secrecy of her religious mother and her fathers desire to be a good citizen, Eva got used to a turmoil of emotions.
Eva had her own spiritual healers and coaches who helped guide her towards the coaching career and showed her how much she had to offer as a healer.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Most of my clients are struggling with either their health, relationship or money issues. So relationship is a quite big chunk of my work.’ – Eva
‘You mentioned that when when we spoke previously your father had quite a big impact on you growing up.’ – John
‘There was a lot of different emotions. Fear and love and lack of things, but at the same time, the abundance of love.’ – Eva
‘I think that’s the hardest thing to see, to see our own limitations. That’s why its so important to have a mentor, a guide who is outside of our life and looks in.’ - Eva
Signs of a Toxic Relationship
Episode 53
Thursday, June 23, 2022 • Duration 22:06
When John works with his clients in coaching sessions one topic that often arises is the difficulty in finding and achieving an easy and healthy relationship. This is most likely because they are exhibiting habits that attract them to a particular pattern of behaviour that they are used to.
How do we realise that it is actually ourselves that are maintaining and seeking these toxic relationships and break the cycle?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Often our choice of relationship is a subconscious choice that fulfils our needs based on our learnt patterns of behaviour.
There are ten signs to look out for that denote that the relationship you have chosen is really not good for you.
Is being around someone hard work or draining? Do you need to recover from time with them?
Do you need to be careful around your partner to avoid upsetting or angering them?
Do you feel exhausted and drained a lot of the time? Do you invest love and attention to your partner that is not returned?
Try taking the relationship questionnaire listed under valuable resources below.
BEST MOMENTS
‘For example, that loving, caring relationships are not to be trusted because love is always removed from them at some point. If that’s your belief then you will seek out the evidence to make this true every single time and won’t know what to do with yourself if it doesn’t happen.’
‘Does being alone for the weekend put a smile on your face? Do you feel excited looking forward to the day that you’ll get away from your partner? If so then this is a huge red flag.’
‘If its reached the point that you have to constantly watch every move you make, you are in a toxic relationship. So, for example, you may feel nervous talking about something that may make your partner angry.’
Create A Life You Don't Need A Vacation From
Episode 52
Thursday, June 16, 2022 • Duration 45:00
Alexandra Van Shaik is an international holistic life coaching expert in personal, business and brand development helping hundreds of clients kick start their lives and businesses in a different direction. Using a holistic approach to each client she utilises transformative techniques such as yoga, breath work and meditations as well as group travel experiences to transform and empower with positivity. Her brand work finds her helping you to tell your business story and create your vision using her skills in web design, graphic design and photography. John and Alexandra discuss coaching methodology, cultural, peer and family imprinting, breaking emotional habits, travel, morning routines and child rearing.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Alex has spent ten years guiding people to become yoga teachers which led her to her holistic coaching methodology.
As individuals we need to decide for ourselves what our lives should work towards or entail without feeling we have to live up to our parents or peers' plan or expectations for our futures.
Our childhood experiences form who we are and how we respond to the world around us as adults. Many of us become hyper vigilant peace makers in confrontational situations if we were brought up in high tension households and this was true in Alex’s case.
Be aware of what nourishes you from within. What uplifts you? If you check the news every morning with its attached carefully curated world horror scenarios you are not going to have a positive day. Choose actions that empower you.
As children we need to play. A high powered itinerary forced on a child with a thousand activities may enrich them but can also stress and leave them little time to actually be children
BEST MOMENTS
‘I just love to see people thriving in their life, in their businesses, just in general. There has been a thread throughout my whole life myself. Automatically myself I became drawn into this aspect of being a coach.’ – Alexandra
‘Or maybe you got into a job and after ten years you’re, like, ‘is this it?’ Am I really good and comfortable here or is there more?’ – Alexandra
Living an Untamed Life – Interview With Jim Hughes
Episode 51
Thursday, June 9, 2022 • Duration 49:59
In this episode John interviews Jim Hughes, the founder of Untamed, the company who serves their audience through a unique brand of coaching, speaking and events. They have helped entrepreneurs, business leaders and top performing professionals all around the world move ‘from the grind to aligned’. John and Jim discuss what Jim’s organisation Untamed actually achieves for its clients, how Jim himself found his way, childhood embedded triggers and habits and living a life serving others without losing yourself.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Untamed help people who are frustrated and burnt out, ‘in the grind’, uncover what’s causing their setbacks and allow them to become ‘aligned’.
Jim found what he was truly good at and provided himself with an environment where he could flourish and express rather than feeling frustrated, stilted and suppressed. The same principle can work in personal relationships as well as professional life.
The bulk of our personality is informed by our childhood and we are often installed with untrue or distorted beliefs about ourselves that need to be addressed and unlearned.
If you are your best self you have more energy and ability to offer to help other people.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s a never ending journey, but the main bulk of it where the real low hanging fruit was picked, so to speak, was about an eighteen month process.’ – Jim
‘Nobody was there to say “maybe you’re just better at the bigger picture, the strategic. You’re better at starting things than you are at finishing things”’. – Jim
‘That’s what my documentary is about. My documentary is called “Forget Me Not – The Child You Left Behind” about those parts of us ourselves as children that we believe don’t fit into the environment that we grow up in.’ – John
‘Muting was a word that kept coming up. I felt like I was being muted, I feel like I’m not allowed to, I’m not being encouraged to thrive here.’ - Jim
"And for that, you've got to love people, right? And so if you do and you work with people that you choose to give your time to those who compliment you and who you are as a person, then it's wonderful because we all have a story and we all have a book in us."
"I think without that, it's virtually impossible, but it is to achieve success for my clients. But also it's a tricky thing because of the time that and how much time I have, and I give to all the new clients and get to know them and understand them."
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
‘I have qualified to be able to make personal introductions to people observing the international code of conduct within the dating industry, it’s a dating industry standard.’ - Lara
‘Its not really something we think about with all the dating websites and apps, but for you to be a certified matchmaker..’ – John
‘I am the lawyer of your heart.’ – Lara
‘My business grew and flourished based on the fact that I had already had that PR marketing skill set and was already armed with all the tools.’ – Lara
‘If you can’t answer yes to the dating strategy, you are not ready because you haven’t thought about it.’ – Lara
‘I think if someone is willing to accept that journey may not meet its final destination but you embrace that it’s a journey for development, potential change because not everybody wants to change or is able to change or ready to change.’ - Lara
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
‘And those kinds of triggers where you’re already disorganised attachment, so then having a relationship where you’re cheated on. How did that trigger your disorganised attachment, how did you react to that, do you think?’ - John
‘That’s why I call myself a ‘Transformational Relationship Coach’ because it's all there and powerful.’ – Ana
‘Most of us did not learn relationship skills either at home or at school. And that just makes it really hard for people to have healthy long lasting relationships.’ - Ana
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
‘We weren’t sure where we were going to be speaking today were we? I mean you’re in the Netherlands at the moment I believe? You could have been in Nepal but you’re off to the Caribbean.’ – John
‘I just love to get up in the morning and just do some reading, have some coffee. After that I do my Yoga practice and don’t do it the other way round! Never!’ – Alexandra
‘If a child is hyperactive, ya know, they have got all these terms for it right now. I think the root cause is because there is too much pressure on their shoulders.’ - Alexandra
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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