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S7 E45 Why Is My Website Not Getting Enquiries? Chat with Sophie Disley from Marketing Launch Company05 nov. 202600:42:28

Your website looks lovely, it's been live for months, and the phone still isn't ringing. Sound familiar?

This week I'm joined by Sophie from The Marketing Launch Company, a website marketing strategist who has built and refreshed around 100 websites for small business owners. We talk about the gap between the DIY website and the expensive agency site, and what actually makes a website convert.


In this episode:

  1. Why a website without a marketing strategy is just a brochure in a drawer
  2. What Sophie looks at first when she refreshes a website
  3. Why no one reads your website copy, and what to do instead
  4. Wix vs Squarespace vs WordPress for SEO
  5. The telltale signs a website was built with AI
  6. How Sophie refreshes a website in two days, solo, around school hours


The question to sit with: is your website bringing you enquiries, or is it a pretty brochure that nobody finds?


Find Sophie at https://www.themarketinglaunch.co.uk and on Instagram at @marketinglaunchcompany. Come and tell me what you're changing on your website on Instagram @mills_gray, and grab my book, The Rebellious Leader.

S7 E44 What Happens When A Slightly Unhinged Idea Scribbled In A Notebook Turns Into An Actual Business Event For 80 Women?29 oct. 202600:17:28

What happens when a slightly unhinged idea scribbled in a notebook turns into an actual business event for 80 women?

In this behind-the-scenes episode, I take you inside the very early days of The Rebellion, my new in-person event for women in business who are done being told what success should look like. No parade of 100K-month speakers. Conversations, panels where people disagree, breathwork, laughter and women leaving clear about what they actually want.

In this episode:

  1. How my book launch led to the idea
  2. The notebook page where I wrote "The Rebellion" and then "80"
  3. Why around 40 people joined the waitlist before there was a date or venue
  4. What I've booked so far and what I'm still figuring out
  5. The imposter syndrome that turned up when I decided on 80 women
  6. Why giving yourself space to think is where big ideas come from


The question to sit with: how much of your ambition is actually yours?


Join The Rebellion waitlist for first access at https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/TherebellionWL and tell me your audacious goal on Instagram @mills_gray. More at www.millsgray.com.

S7 E43 That Email That Sent You Spiralling? Let’s Talk About It22 oct. 202600:28:33

Have you ever received an email, a piece of client feedback or even a simple “I can’t afford it” and felt your whole body react before your brain has had a chance to catch up?

Your chest goes prickly. Your stomach drops. You replay the conversation. You start questioning your pricing, your offer, your decisions, maybe your entire bloody business.

But does the size of your reaction actually tell you the size of the problem?

In this episode of The Rebellious Leader, I’m exploring what happens when someone else’s reaction becomes evidence about us, and what happens when our emotional response starts making business decisions.

I share a personal story about receiving a refund request from a former client 18 months after we'd finished working together, despite having ended on good terms and achieved strong results together.

My immediate response wasn't calm, strategic consideration.

It was:

“Oh my God. What have I done wrong?”

And that distinction matters.

Because there was a business situation to deal with.

And there was my emotional reaction to it.

They weren't the same problem.

We’ll look at why a client saying “I can't afford it” can lead us to add more to an already good offer, why one no can suddenly have us questioning our entire business, and how our attempts to avoid rejection, criticism or disappointment can quietly start shaping our strategy.

I also share a recent client example where being challenged created a huge physical and emotional response, even though once we'd examined what had happened, she still stood by the decision she'd made.

The goal wasn't to make her stop caring.

It was to help her find a more neutral place where she could check the feedback, take responsibility for anything that genuinely belonged to her, and leave the rest.

Because taking someone seriously doesn't require you to agree with them.

Topics covered:
  1. Why someone else’s reaction is information, not proof that you’ve done something wrong
  2. How criticism, rejection and client feedback can trigger disproportionate emotional reactions
  3. Why “I can’t afford it” doesn’t automatically mean your pricing is wrong
  4. How feelings can quietly start shaping your offers, messaging and strategy
  5. Taking feedback without automatically adopting someone else’s version of events
  6. A five-question Rebellious Leader Audit to help you decide from evidence rather than reaction


Let’s Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray

Website: https://www.millsgray.com

The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

Lucy Legal: Contract templates for business owners

S7 E42 Is It Really a Mindset Problem?15 oct. 202600:20:55

What if you've correctly identified the problem in your business… but you're trying to solve it in completely the wrong place?

You know sales are inconsistent, content isn't happening, your team relies on you too much or your boundaries aren't working. So you try another strategy, a better system or stronger boundaries.

And yet somehow, the problem is still bloody there.

In this episode of The Rebellious Leader, I'm exploring a different question: Where does this problem actually live?

Using the NLP model of Neurological Levels, I look at six places a business problem can exist: environment, behaviour, capability, beliefs and values, identity, and purpose.

Being inconsistent with content could mean you don't have time, you don't know how to create it, or you believe talking about your success makes you look boastful. Same problem on the surface. Very different problem underneath.

We'll explore why another content strategy won't fix a visibility belief, how a boundary problem can actually be structural, and why deeper mindset work isn't automatically better.

You can't choose the right intervention until you've diagnosed the problem.

Let's Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray

Website: https://www.millsgray.com

The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

S7 E41 The Biggest Instagram Mistakes Business Owners Are Making Right Now (with Claire, Studio 5 Social)08 oct. 202600:47:00

If Instagram feels like a beast you can't control, this episode is going to change that. I'm joined by Claire, founder of Studio 5 Social, who's spent years helping business owners get seen and get sales on Instagram without the overwhelm. We get into the four biggest mistakes she sees over and over, why chasing virality can actually wreck your business, the trend she was doing before anyone else, and the one thing about your Instagram audience that most people don't realise until it's too late.

Key Topics Covered

In this conversation with Instagram strategist Claire from Studio 5 Social, we cover:

  1. The four biggest Instagram mistakes business owners make and how to fix them
  2. Why the algorithm isn't a beast, it just needs to be taught
  3. How to know if your content strategy is actually working, beyond likes and followers
  4. Why going viral can be the worst thing that happens to your business
  5. How to get comfortable on camera when you hate being on camera
  6. Why you don't actually own your Instagram audience, and what to do about it
  7. A breakdown of her offers, including the one she'd "marry" and the one she'd ditch

Connect With Claire, Studio 5 Social
  1. Instagram: @studio5social (DMs are her happy place)
  2. Email: claire@studio5social.co.uk, also available for enquiries
  3. Website: studio5social.co.uk

Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray
  2. Website: https://www.millsgray.com
  3. The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

S7 E40 Are You Too Busy to Market Your Business Or Is Something Else Going On?01 oct. 202600:20:58

You know you need to be more visible. You know you need to market your business, sell, follow up or finally build the thing you keep talking about.

There’s just one small problem: you genuinely don’t have the bloody time.

But is lack of time actually the problem?

In this episode of The Rebellious Leader, I’m sharing a conversation with a client whose diary was so full that the obvious answer seemed to be better time management, stronger boundaries and saying no to more work.

Except when I asked her whether saying no would become easier if she had more than enough money coming in, she said no.

And that changed the conversation.

Because sometimes busyness isn’t just a capacity problem. Sometimes it’s also doing a very useful job of keeping us away from the bits of business that feel uncomfortable visibility, self-promotion, selling, being judged or questioning whether we’re credible enough.

We’ll explore why the presenting problem is rarely the governing problem, how your business can start mirroring what’s happening underneath your behaviour, and why creating more space won’t necessarily change anything if you haven’t looked at what you’ll do once that space exists.

I also talk about why this isn’t about turning every legitimate business problem into a mindset problem. Sometimes your diary really is ridiculous. Sometimes your strategy needs fixing. Sometimes you need more leads, better conversion, higher prices or fewer offers.

The interesting work is knowing which problem you’re actually solving.


Resources:

If this episode gave you one of those slightly uncomfortable oh shit moments, come and tell me on Instagram: @mills_gray

And if you want to look at your business differently, grab a copy of my book, The Rebellious Leader — a business book for women done playing by the rules.

Explore working with me: https://www.millsgray.com



S7 E39 You Don’t Need Better Boundaries. You Need a Business That Enforces Them.24 sept. 202600:22:58

If you're constantly telling yourself don't check, don't reply, don't get involved, don't rescue… I don't think you necessarily need better boundaries.

You might need better business design.

In this episode of The Rebellious Leader, I'm questioning one of the most overused pieces of advice given to successful women in business: “You need better boundaries.”

Because there's a massive difference between a personal boundary and a structural boundary.

One requires you to keep resisting the thing.

The other changes the business so you don't have to.

I share a client example that made me ask, “Why the fuck are your clients in your WhatsApp?”, as well as how I've had to rethink my own relationship with Voxer, client access and availability as my business has evolved.

Because being accessible to your clients doesn't mean being constantly available to them.

And sometimes we're getting pissed off because people aren't respecting boundaries we've never consistently taught them in the first place.


Let's Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray

Website: https://www.millsgray.com

The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

S7 E38 Your Business Is Probably Fine. Your Brain Is Just Being Dramatic.17 sept. 202600:17:18

One quiet sales week and suddenly the offer's wrong, your messaging isn't landing, Instagram is dead and you're 36 hours away from rebuilding your entire funnel.

Sound familiar?

In this episode of The Rebellious Leader, I'm talking about something I see all the bloody time with successful business owners and am very capable of doing myself:

Reacting to discomfort as though it's evidence that something in the business needs fixing.

Because a disappointing result is data. It isn't automatically a problem.

There's a big difference between responding strategically to what your business is telling you and emotionally reacting because you don't like what just happened.

And when you're a high-achieving founder who's very good at solving problems, doing something can feel far safer than sitting still long enough to work out whether there is actually a problem to solve.

In this episode, I talk about:

  1. Why one bad sales week isn't necessarily a sales problem
  2. The difference between an event and a genuine pattern
  3. Why successful founders can become addicted to fixing things
  4. How emotional reactions to business data create questionable strategy
  5. Why boredom can make you want to unnecessarily reinvent a successful business
  6. How to tell when your business genuinely does need changing
  7. Why observation is an active part of good business strategy
  8. The questions to ask before you fuck with your funnel

Connect with me

If you like the way I think about business, leadership and the invisible problems underneath what's happening on the surface, you'll love my book, The Rebellious Leader A Business Book for Women Done Playing by the Rules.

Buy The Rebellious Leader: LINK HERE

Or come and find me on Instagram: @mills_gray

S7 E37 How to Rebrand Your Business Authentically Without Losing Your Identity with Vanessa Jennings10 sept. 202600:39:02

Ever feel like your branding is "fine" but something still doesn't sit right? This week I'm joined by Vanessa Jennings, founder of Bake Brands, who spent a year building a "neutral" personal brand before realising it was the exact opposite of who she actually is. We talk about ditching the coach label for strategist, why bold branding attracts the right clients, the AI slop ruining content right now, and what actually makes a brand magnetic online. If you've been quietly rebranding in your head for months but haven't pulled the trigger, this one's for you.

Key Topics Covered

In this conversation with brand marketing strategist Vanessa Jennings, we get into:

  • How to know when your branding isn't aligned with who you are
  • Why she moved from "neutral" branding to bold, colourful, and unapologetically her
  • The difference between positioning yourself as a coach versus a consultant or strategist
  • How five redundancies in the fashion industry built the resilience to run her own business
  • What actually makes a brand feel magnetic to the right clients
  • Her honest take on using AI in business, including why AI-written content is killing trust
  • The stat on personal branding and employee advocacy most business owners are sleeping on
  • How human design and gut instinct shaped her rebrand

Let's Connect:

Connect With Vanessa Jennings:
S7 E36 Why Soul Leaders Is Stopping (And Why It's Becoming The Rebellious Leader)03 sept. 202600:14:50

After 220 episodes, Soul Leaders is coming to an end, and Mills is telling you exactly why. This isn't a goodbye though. It's a rebrand. In this personal, unscripted episode, Mills talks through the signs you've outgrown your business, why the podcast that started as a lockdown project no longer represents who she's become as a business owner, and how to know when it's time to rebrand your business, even the parts that are technically still working. If your business feels stuck even though nothing is really wrong with it, or you've been quietly wondering whether you've outgrown your own niche, this episode is for you.

Topics covered:
  • Why Soul Leaders is ending after 220 episodes and becoming The Rebellious Leader
  • Why business owners outgrow their niche, identity and offers even when everything is "working"
  • The difference between the presenting problem and the real problem in business
  • Why Mills believes better questions create better strategy, not the other way round
  • How 18 years in business shaped Mills's philosophy on mindset, identity and change
  • What's actually changing (and what isn't) about the podcast going forward

Let's Connect:
Welcome to The Rebellious Leader®!02 sept. 202600:01:58

Welcome to The Rebellious Leader® the business podcast for smart, successful women whose businesses work, but still feel harder than they should.

I’m Mills Gray, business coach, strategist and author of The Rebellious Leader. After 18 years in business and transforming over 200+ businesses, I’ve learned that the problem you think you have is very rarely the actual problem and another strategy isn’t always the answer.


Every Thursday, we’ll go underneath the obvious stuff: business strategy, sales, leadership, identity, psychology, positioning and the invisible rules shaping how you run your business. Expect real client stories, brilliant guests, behind-the-scenes conversations and plenty of questions that might change how you see your business.


Because better questions create better thinking. Better thinking creates better strategy.


Formerly the Soul Leaders podcast. Find me on Instagram @mills_gray or at www.millsgray.com.

S7 E35 Why Better Questions Create Better Business Strategy Than Better Answers27 août 202600:13:02

If you've ever felt stuck rewriting your offer, your messaging, or your entire business model, this episode is for you. Mills unpacks the coaching principle that's quietly underpinning all of her client work: better questions create better thinking, and better thinking creates better strategy. Using real client examples around imposter syndrome, health scares, and offer doubt, Mills shows how the "obvious" problem is almost never the real one, and shares the exact questions she asks to get to what's actually going on. The episode closes with a five-question audit you can run on your own business right now.

Topics covered:
  • Why Better Questions Create Better Business Strategy
  • The Coaching Questions That Change Everything
  • Better Question Business Audit

Let's Connect:

Come say hi in the DMs on Instagram @mills_gray , especially if any of this resonated with you. You can also join the conversation over in the Facebook group Mind Your Mindset, or head to www.millsgray.com to find out more about working with Mills. And if you want more on the thinking behind all of this, check out Mills's book, The Rebellious Leader.

S7 E34 How to Find Your USP in Business (It's Not Your Framework, Offer, or Logo)20 août 202600:13:27

Mills has been quietly analysing her own coaching calls, not to improve her coaching, but to work out what actually makes her different in a crowded industry. What she uncovered wasn't a framework. It was a philosophy. This episode is for any business owner who has tried to stand out with a clever offer name or a signature process and still feels like everyone down the road is doing the same thing. Mills breaks down where your real USP is hiding, and why you can't invent it, only discover it.

Topics covered:
  1. Why Your USP Isn't Your Framework, Offer, or Logo
  2. The Real Question to Ask When Finding Your Unique Selling Point
  3. How I Discovered My Coaching Philosophy by Reviewing My Own Calls
  4. Why You Can Copy a Framework But You Can't Copy How Someone Thinks
  5. The Real Pattern Behind Every Coaching Conversation


Let's Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray

Website: https://www.millsgray.com

The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset

S7 E33 How to Use Astrology for Business Strategy with Charlotte Nixon13 août 202600:40:43

What if your birth chart could explain why certain things in your business feel like pushing water uphill and show you the exact energy you need to lean into instead? That's exactly what we're unpacking in this episode.

I'm joined by Charlotte Nixon, evolutionary astrologer and one of my own collaborators (yes, she's my client AND I'm hers we'll get into that). Charlotte shares how astrology isn't about fortune telling or horoscopes it's a practical tool for self-awareness, strategic planning, and showing up in business in a way that actually feels aligned.

This one got personal. We talked about my book launch, my Gemini rising, my Leo sun, and the business houses ruled by water that Charlotte keeps nudging me to lean into more. Fair point, Charlotte.


Topics covered:
  1. What Astrology for Business Actually Looks Like
  2. Understanding Your Sun, Moon and Rising Signs
  3. Using Astrology to Plan Business Launches
  4. Why Your Shadow Side Is Your Biggest Business Asset
  5. Astrology and Parenting: Understanding Your Kids' Charts
  6. Breaking Generational Patterns Through Chart Work


Let's Connect:
  1. Let's work together: DM me on Instagram @mills_gray
  2. Website: https://www.millsgray.com
  3. Connect with Charlotte Nixon Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aligned_bodyandstars
  4. Website: https://www.alignedbodyandstars.com

S7 E32 The World Is Wide: Dolly Jones on Life After Vogue and Rewriting the Working Mother Story06 août 202600:42:16

What does it really cost women to keep climbing? And what happens when you choose to step off the ladder not because you failed, but because you finally got honest about what you actually want?

Mills is joined by Dolly Jones, former editor of British Vogue and author of Leaving the Ladder Down a book about the realities of working motherhood that started with a conversation in a London taxi and ended up interviewing women from every walk of life.

This is a conversation about identity, imposter syndrome, the stories we tell ourselves about success, and what it looks and feels like to build something that actually fits your life.


WHAT WE COVER

  1. Dolly's route into journalism work experience at Vogue, being put in a basement in 1998 to figure out 'this internet thing', and becoming editor
  2. Getting promoted while pregnant and why one man's completely unbothered reaction was more radical than it should have been
  3. The moment in Italy that changed everything: removing her heels and crawling back into bed with her ill son
  4. The Bloomberg job she turned down because she wasn't willing to give up the school run
  5. Why leaving Vogue felt like being released from a very glamorous prison
  6. Identity after corporate: the consultancy bridge, the imposter syndrome that didn't disappear, and building her third act
  7. The taxi driver who inspired the book and why Dolly deliberately sought out the full spectrum of working mothers
  8. The myth of the "strung-out working mother" and why the narrative needs to change
  9. What she learned about herself writing the book (hint: the inner critic was very loud)
  10. Her unexpected wind-down: weekly piano lessons with an 80-year-old teacher at 50


RESOURCES MENTIONED

  1. Leaving the Ladder Down by Dolly Jones
  2. The Professional Troublemaker
  3. Advance — charity supporting survivors of domestic abuse (Dolly is on the board)
  4. Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray
  5. Website: https://www.millsgray.com
  6. The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

S7 E31 Why More Followers Won't Grow Your Business: Reach vs Storytelling Explained30 juil. 202600:15:10

Grab your coffee, get comfy, and let's dive into something that trips up nearly every business owner I work with: the difference between being seen and being trusted. I'm pulling back the curtain on a new marketing experiment I've just started, and using it to break down the four things every business actually needs to make sales. Spoiler: more reach on its own isn't one of them.

Topics covered:
  1. Why Getting More Reach Doesn't Automatically Grow Your Business
  2. The Difference Between Being Seen and Being Trusted
  3. The Four Stages Every Business Needs to Grow Sales
  4. How to Find Your Business Bottleneck With a Simple Audit
  5. Why Paid Features and Ads Alone Won't Build Client Trust


Come say hi on Instagram: @mills_gray

Website: millsgray.com

The Rebellious Leader Book: https://www.millsgray.com/book/

S7 E30 Behind the Book: How a Dyslexic Business Coach Wrote and Self-Published The Rebellious Leader23 juil. 202600:16:52

This episode is a little different. No guest, no framework, just me pulling back the curtain on the most stretchy thing I have done in business so far: writing and publishing my first book, The Rebellious Leader.

I'm talking about why I did it, how I actually wrote the thing (it was not conventional), what it cost me, the expensive mistake I made with page numbers, and what I want every service-based business owner to take away from it. The link is below. Go get it.

What We Cover in This Episode
  1. Why a dyslexic, never-going-to-write-a-book person wrote a book
  2. How I actually wrote it
  3. The premise behind The Rebellious Leader
  4. Why the selling chapter is my favourite
  5. Self-publishing with Kindle Direct Publishing
  6. The expensive mistake that cost me 188 quid
  7. How I found my editor
  8. The competition: Supper with the Author

Instagram @mills_gray | Website

The Rebellious Leader is available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0H27BPK2L

Book links: https://www.millsgray.com/book

S7 E29 Why Your Business Strategy Isn't Enough (And What to Do Instead)16 juil. 202600:14:34

Mills opens this episode with two client messages that stopped her in her tracks one casually mentioning her new PA like it was no big deal, another leaving a public comment urging people to book without hesitation. Both came out of Mills's last in-person day. Both point to the same thing: real transformation isn't just about better plans.

In this episode, Mills shares what she's doing differently in September and why she's combining strategy with NLP to create the kind of shift that actually sticks.

Topics covered:
  • Why Business Strategy Alone Stops Working
  • What Happened in the Last Room
  • What the September Day Actually Looks Like
  • Is This Day for You?

Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open

Book The Day: https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/oHD2086

Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/why-your-business-strategy-isnt-enough-and-what-to-do-instead/

S7 E28 Forget Your Ideal Client. Here's What Actually Fills Your Coaching Programme with Colette McBeth09 juil. 202600:47:52

What if the reason your content isn't converting has nothing to do with how much you're posting?

In this episode I'm joined by former BBC correspondent, psychological thriller author and messaging expert Colette McBeth and we get into the stuff most coaches are getting wrong without even realising it.

We talk about why "ideal client" is the wrong question entirely and what Colette calls the expansive client the one who gets results, stays, and makes you love your work. We get into the countercurrent: the hidden layer in your messaging that's the difference between getting attention and actually making sales. And we talk about offer design, dead-end products, anti-selling, and why your IP is the only thing in an AI-saturated market that genuinely can't be copied.

This one is packed. Grab a coffee.

In this episode:
  1. Why educational content grew audiences but killed sales
  2. The expansive client -- and how to start attracting them
  3. The countercurrent: the messaging layer that creates desire
  4. How to design low-cost offers that lead somewhere
  5. AI, authenticity and why distinct IP is everything right now
  6. Anti-selling -- and why it works

Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray
  2. Connect with Colette on Instagram: @thecolettemcbeth

Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/forget-your-ideal-client-heres-what-actually-fills-your-coaching-programme-with-colette-mcbeth/

S7 E27 Why Online Business Advice Is Making You Feel Behind (And What to Do Instead)02 juil. 202600:16:15

This one's a bit of a rant. A necessary one.

After nearly two decades running my own businesses, I'm calling out the noise that's quietly keeping talented, driven business owners stuck, spinning, and comparing themselves to everyone else's highlight reel. Not to be contrarian - but because someone needs to say it.

Topics covered:
  • "Just Show Up More" Is Not a Business Strategy
  • Why Screenshotted Cash Months Are Misleading You
  • The Myth of the Secret Formula
  • Doing Everything Yourself Isn't High Standards - It's Fear

Let's Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open

Website: millsgray.com

Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/why-online-business-advice-is-making-you-feel-behind-and-what-to-do-instead/

S7 E26 Why High-Achieving Women Run Their Business on Cortisol (And How to Stop)25 juin 202600:19:09

Have you ever had a day where technically everything's fine clients are paying, nothing's on fire and yet your body is behaving like you're moments away from financial ruin? This episode is about that.

Mills gets into one of the most honest conversations she's had on the podcast: why so many high-achieving women don't just experience pressure, they become organised around it. And what it actually takes to stop running your business on adrenaline.

Topics covered:
  1. How High-Achieving Women Become Addicted to Pressure Without Realising It
  2. The Signs Your Business Is Running on Cortisol
  3. Why You Can't Just "Slow Down" Even When You Know You Should
  4. What the Shift From Pressure to Sustainable Leadership Actually Requires
  5. Reflection Questions: Is Your Nervous System Running Your Business?


Let's Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open

Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/why-high-achieving-women-run-their-business-on-cortisol-and-how-to-stop/

S7 E25 How to Stop Being the Bottleneck in Your Business: Moving From Expert to Leader18 juin 202600:17:03

Are you still the one holding everything together? The founder who checks Slack on holiday, rewrites the work at 10pm, and thinks "it's quicker if I just do it myself"? This episode is for you.

Mills breaks down one of the most common growth ceilings she sees in her clients' businesses not a strategy problem, not a systems problem, but an identity problem. The shift from expert to leader is where sustainable, scalable business growth actually begins.


Topics covered:
  1. Why "It's Quicker If I Do It Myself" Is the Biggest Ceiling in Your Business
  2. The Hidden Cost of Being Needed as a Business Owner
  3. Delegation Doesn't Work If the Real Issue Is Control
  4. What the Identity Shift From Expert to Leader Actually Looks Like
  5. Audit Questions: Are You Still the Bottleneck?


Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset


Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/how-to-stop-being-the-bottleneck-in-your-business-moving-from-expert-to-leader/

S7 E24 How to Scale a Wellness Business Online: Niching, Pricing and Building Freedom With Caroline Copp11 juin 202600:40:33

Mills sits down with Caroline Copp, Pilates teacher turned online business strategist, who went from running two physical studios to building a membership that actually made money — and now helps other wellness practitioners do the same. This one's packed with hard-won lessons on why wellness experts resist niching, what "charging properly" really means, and how to stop being the best-kept secret in your industry.

Topics covered:
  • What Made a Successful Studio Owner Walk Away
  • Why Your First Online Offer Probably Won't Work (and That's Fine)
  • Why Wellness Experts Resist Niching (and How to Get Past It)
  • What "Charging Properly" Actually Means in Wellness
  • How to Go From Practitioner to Recognised Expert
  • What Success Really Looks Like (No Sunday Night Dread Required)

Let's Connect:
  • Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  • Find Caroline on Instagram: @carolinecopp DM her for her free training — it's just dropped and it's worth having.

Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/how-to-scale-a-wellness-business-online-niching-pricing-and-building-freedom-with-caroline-copp

S7 E23 How to Upgrade Your Business Identity (And Stop Letting Old Beliefs Keep You Stuck)04 juin 202600:13:20

In this behind-the-scenes episode of Soul Leaders, Mills gets personal. She shares the story behind the front cover reveal of her upcoming book The Rebellious Leader, takes you inside an in-person client day focused on beliefs and behaviour change, and walks you through a practical audit for stepping into the next version of yourself in business.

This one's less strategy, more substance.

Topics covered:
  1. Behind the Scenes: The Rebellious Leader Book Cover Reveal
  2. Why Business Growth Requires an Identity Upgrade (Not Just a New Strategy)
  3. How to Use NLP to Shift Limiting Business Beliefs
  4. Listener Audit: Who Are You Becoming in Business?

Let's Connect:

Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open


Resources mentioned:

The Rebellious Leader by Mills Gray, launching 21st July. Pre-order on Kindle now. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0H27BPK2L?kuid=f60b73a6-d83b-4a73-ba73-f60431e8cc74-1779696498&kref=01VcfDtnuia4


Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/how-to-upgrade-your-business-identity-and-stop-letting-old-beliefs-keep-you-stuck/

S7 E22 Why Your Business Strategy Isn't the Problem (And What Actually Is)28 mai 202600:17:49

If you know what to do but you're not doing it, this episode is for you. Mills digs into the subconscious patterns running your business decisions, why high-achieving women keep recreating the same problems no matter how many times they tweak their strategy, and how NLP helps you finally see what's actually going on under the hood.

No fluff. No frameworks. Just the real conversation most business coaches won't have with you.


Topics covered:
  1. When Business Strategy Problems Aren't Actually About Strategy
  2. The Real Reason High Achievers Keep Hitting the Same Walls
  3. Three Things NLP Reveals About Your Business Behaviour
  4. Listener Audit: What Pattern Is Running Your Business


Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open


Resources from the episode:
  1. The Rebellious Leader by Mills Gray, launching 21st July. Pre-order on Kindle now: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0H27BPK2L?kuid=f60b73a6-d83b-4a73-ba73-f60431e8cc74-1779696498&kref=01VcfDtnuia4


Detailed show notes: https://www.millsgray.com/why-your-business-strategy-isnt-the-problem-and-what-actually-is/

S7 E21 Why AI Is Making Your Marketing Content Boring (And How to Get Your Voice Back)21 mai 202600:17:58

Is your content starting to sound like everyone else's? In this episode, Mills calls out the uncomfortable truth about AI-generated content, why it's flattening your marketing, and exactly what to do to make your content unmistakably yours again.

What This Episode Covers

AI is brilliant. Mills uses it. But handing your voice over to a robot is costing you clients, and this episode is the wake-up call you didn't know you needed.

Using a genuinely funny story about laying a patio, a sauna, and a very agreeable ChatGPT, Mills breaks down why AI-generated content all sounds the same, what you're actually giving away when you feed your frameworks into it, and the three things that will make your marketing stand out again.


Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset


For full show notes head over to https://www.millsgray.com/why-ai-is-making-your-marketing-content-boring-and-how-to-get-your-voice-back/

S7 E20 How to Get Known: PR, Authority and Visibility for Female Founders with Pippa Goulden14 mai 202600:36:11

What if the thing holding you back from more visibility in your business isn't your strategy — it's your mindset? This week I'm joined by Pippa Goulden, founder of The PR Set and one of the most no-nonsense voices in the PR space. We get into why PR is one of the most underused tools for female founders, how to build genuine authority without paying a PR agency thousands, and why sending that pitch email is almost always worth it.

This one is packed with practical insight and a few uncomfortable truths.

Topics covered:
  1. What Is PR and Why Does It Beat Social Media for Building Trust?
  2. Why Most Female Founders Underestimate Their Own PR-ability
  3. Getting Known for Something: How to Find Your Positioning
  4. The Non-Glossy Truth About Building PR Momentum
  5. Quickfire: Pippa's PR and Visibility Hot Takes


Connect with Pippa
  1. Instagram: @pippa_the.pr.set
  2. Work with Pippa: theprset.com


Connect with Mills
  1. Instagram: @mills_gray
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset
  3. Website: millsgray.com


Read the full show notes at https://www.millsgray.com/how-to-get-known-pr-authority-and-visibility-for-female-founders-with-pippa-goulden/

S7 E19 How to Get Clients to Say Yes Faster: Collapsing Time in Your Business07 mai 202600:16:42

Your clients don't always need months to say yes. Sometimes they just need the right content, a clear path, and a version of you that's ready to receive them. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly how I signed a client to six months of consultancy within two days of her finding me and what that means for your business.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

This week on Soul Leaders, I'm digging into one of the most misunderstood topics in the online business world: why clients take so long to say yes and what you can actually do about it. I share a real client story, three practical levers for collapsing time, and a five-question audit to get you thinking differently about your sales process and your capacity.


Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset


Resources from this episode:

Your Five-Question Business Audit: https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/podcastaudit


Read the full show notes at https://www.millsgray.com/how-to-get-clients-to-say-yes-faster-collapsing-time-in-your-business/

S7 E18 Why Saying Your Goals Out Loud Feels So Uncomfortable (And What That Actually Means)30 avr. 202600:13:56

Mills is back with a short, sharp solo episode that hits differently. Fresh from a live event near Brighton, she shares the moment she declared her most audacious goals in a room of 60 business owners and the full-body physical reaction that stopped her in her tracks. This one is about identity, visibility, and what your nervous system is really telling you when it gets loud.

Topics covered:
  • What Happens in Your Body When You Say a Big Goal Out Loud
  • Why Visibility Isn't Just About Being Seen
  • Declaring an Identity vs Sharing a Goal
  • Why Your Clients Freeze Before Going Visible
  • Goal-Setting Audit: Questions to Sit With

Let's Connect:
S7 Ep 17 Why Your Marketing Isn't Landing (And How to Fix Your Messaging to Attract the Right Clients)23 avr. 202600:19:22

If you've ever wondered why your content gets crickets, or why the enquiries you do get never quite feel like the right fit — this episode is for you. Mills digs into one of the most common (and quietly damaging) patterns she sees with service-based business owners: messaging that's so broad it speaks to nobody.

This is not about niching down in the traditional sense. It's about getting specific enough that the right person stops scrolling and thinks, that's me.


Topics covered:
  1. Why Your Messaging Is Vague (Even When You Don't Mean It to Be)
  2. How to Write Messaging That Actually Attracts the Right Clients
  3. Your Messaging Audit

Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset

S7 E16 You Are Not Your Thoughts: How Tim Hayes Helps High Achievers Finally Find Peace16 avr. 202600:41:40

This week I'm joined by Tim Hayes -- coach, former City boy, ex-crack addict, and one of the most honest and compelling people I've had on this pod. Tim helps coaches, entrepreneurs, and high achievers dismantle the mental noise that keeps them stuck, anxious, and suffering far more than they need to. We get into his wild backstory, his pivot away from business strategy coaching, and the Ayahuasca ceremony that changed everything.

If you've ever made the money, hit the goals, done all the things -- and still felt like something was off -- this episode is for you.

Let's Connect:
S7 E15 Not Every Client Is Meant For You: How to Spot the Wrong Fit Before It Costs You09 avr. 202600:23:06

Are you adjusting yourself for certain clients without even realising it? Not in an obvious, dramatic way but the small stuff. The cancellation fee you didn't charge. The message you answered first because you knew there'd be "a thing" if you didn't. The boundary you softened because you didn't want to seem rigid.

In this solo episode, Mills gets into something that rarely gets talked about in the online business world: how the wrong-fit client doesn't just cost you time and energy they cost you yourself. And that is expensive in ways that don't show up on a spreadsheet.

Topics covered:
  • The "override pattern" what it is, why it happens, and what it's actually pointing to
  • The adjustment tax: the hidden energy cost of becoming a different version of yourself for specific clients
  • Why responding instead of leading shifts the power dynamic in your client relationships
  • How to audit your client base to identify who brings out your best work
  • The structural fixes that stop the wrong-fit dynamic from building in the first place

Let's Connect:
S7 E14 NLP, Identity Work and the Real Numbers Behind My Business This Month02 avr. 202600:21:50

This week I'm pulling back the curtain — something I'm making a regular monthly thing. I'm talking about the NLP practitioner course I've just finished, what it actually did to my brain (and my nervous system), and a honest look at what's been happening in the business this month in terms of revenue, what worked, and what really didn't.

If you're curious about NLP, identity work, or just want a no-filter peek behind the scenes of a service business, this one's for you.

Topics covered:
  • Why I finally did the NLP course (and why timing matters)
  • My car was my office (and NLP fixed that)
  • Identity work: becoming the thing before the evidence arrives
  • Listening at a completely different level
  • Most emotions aren't actually yours
  • The revenue bit: what I did this month to top up

Resources Mentioned

Work With Mills

One private consultancy space is currently open — six months working directly with me on strategy, mindset and in-person quarterly days. If you've been sitting on the fence, now's a good time to get in touch.


S7 E13 Why Business Success Doesn't Always Create Freedom (And What to Do About It)26 mars 202600:20:50

What if reaching your income goals doesn't actually give you the freedom you were chasing? In this episode, I'm sharing what I took away from an International Women's Day event — and why one keynote speaker's honesty about imposter syndrome stopped me in my tracks.

This one's for every service provider, coach, and entrepreneur who's hit a new level of success and still feels like something's off. You're not broken. Your structure just hasn't caught up yet.

What We're Talking About

Why business success raises the stakes — not just the revenue

  1. Why hitting your income goals can create more pressure, not less
  2. The fear of success most business owners won't admit to
  3. How responsibility grows faster than your systems do
  4. Why "when I hit 10K months, I'll be free" is a trap

Real client stories (and what they reveal)

  1. The fully-booked coach who felt like she was "holding too many people"
  2. The launch that was going well — but felt like a pressure cooker
  3. The service provider who wanted more income without more clients
  4. What all three situations have in common: structure that hasn't evolved

The International Women's Day moment that sparked this episode

  1. Nina Barrow, founder of Walk the Walk (raised hundreds of millions for breast cancer) — still gets imposter syndrome on stage
  2. Why success changes the weight of certain things, not whether they exist
  3. What 18 years in business has taught me about networking, confidence, and showing up anyway

The audit questions to sit with

  1. Who in your business depends on you — clients, team, audience?
  2. Where has your revenue grown but your structure stayed the same?
  3. What are you personally holding that could be redistributed?
  4. Is your freedom being blocked by operational or emotional load — or both?


Resources mentioned in the episode:
  1. Women's Work Social (Surrey networking group) @womensworksocial


Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray
  2. Podcast audit to your email: https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/podcastaudit

S7 E12 E-Commerce Education Meets Service Business Strategy: What Product-Based Brands Can Teach Us About Selling Online19 mars 202600:47:46

This week I'm sitting down with Elle, an e-commerce educator who works with product-based businesses to help them master their websites and email marketing. Now, I work almost exclusively with service providers, so you'd think we'd have very little in common — but honestly, the parallels were insane. We dive into how Elle built her membership, scaled her email list to 1200 people, and why the platforms that make selling online "easier" are actually creating worse websites than ever before. If you've ever wondered whether tech really is as hard as you think it is, or how to build a membership that doesn't drain you, this episode is exactly where you need to be.


Topics covered:

In this episode, we explore:

  1. Why making platforms easier to use has led to lazier, lower-quality websites
  2. The surprising overlap between selling products online and selling services
  3. How Elle grew her email list organically and hit a 20% masterclass conversion rate
  4. The three non-negotiable tech tools every product business needs (and why service providers should pay attention)
  5. Building a membership that serves different learning styles — from Slack support to monthly workshops
  6. Why "just because it's easy to DIY doesn't mean you should DIY alone"


Resources mentioned:
  1. Shopify — e-commerce platform for product-based businesses
  2. Klaviyo — email marketing platform (integrates with Shopify)
  3. Judge.me — review app for Shopify stores
  4. Slack — Elle's membership community hub
  5. Google Meet — records, transcribes, and creates notes automatically
  6. Elle's first masterclass strategy (July 2024) — 250 signups, 60 live attendees, 20 conversions

Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Elle's Instagram: @theecommerceassistant
  3. Elle's website: https://www.theecommerceassistant.com

S7 E11 Why Success Still Feels Heavy (And What's Actually Going On)12 mars 202600:23:13

Grab a coffee and settle in. This week I'm getting into something that's been coming up again and again in client conversations lately — that strange, uncomfortable place where things are going well on paper, but it still feels a bit heavy. A bit uncertain. A bit like one quiet month could tip the whole thing.

I'm also sharing a little personal update — I've just come back from 10 days in Thailand (more on that) and finished the month on £11,719 cash collected. Not to show off. But to normalise what's actually possible when you build the right structure underneath your business.

Topics Covered:
  1. Why revenue that resets every month is a nervous system problem, not just a cashflow problem
  2. The difference between income that converts and income that compounds
  3. What over-holding looks like — and how it quietly limits your growth
  4. Why becoming the bottleneck is almost always a care problem dressed up as a control problem
  5. How to tell whether your business structure actually matches the level you're trying to lead at


Let's Connec t:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset
  3. Podcast audit to your email - https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/podcastaudit

A couple of consultancy spaces are available right now if you want to look properly at your structure, your offers, your revenue model and where the gaps are. Come and say hi.

S7 E10 Different Level, Different Devil: Behind the Scenes of My Mastermind Day05 mars 202600:17:09

Grab your coffee (or your glass of wine, no judgement here) and pull up a chair — today I'm taking you behind the scenes of my very first mastermind day. I'm sharing the real patterns I'm seeing across established and newer business owners alike, and spoiler alert: the challenges aren't as different as you think. If you've ever looked at someone further along and thought "they've got it all figured out," this one's going to hit different.

Key Topics Covered:

In this behind-the-scenes episode, I break down:

  1. The illusion that everyone else has it figured out — why even established business owners with corporate contracts and beautiful funnels are asking the same questions you are
  2. "Different level, different devil" — why every stage of business comes with its own version of the same core challenges
  3. Three patterns from the mastermind that I see coming up time and time again with my clients
  4. The difference between visibility and presence — and why one gets you seen and the other gets you clients
  5. Navigating the "sticky space" — that uncomfortable in-between where clarity drops and momentum stalls

Resources from this episode:
  1. Content creation day with Claire & Hester @studiocontentco
  2. Breathwork with Ellie 12-week breathwork transformation for expansion

Let's Connect:
  1. Come say hi on Instagram @mills_gray — DMs are always open
  2. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset

S7 E9 When You Just Don't Feel Like Showing Up: The Honest BTS of Running a Business26 févr. 202600:15:47

Sit back and settle in because this week I'm doing something a bit different. No frameworks, no audits — just a proper honest, raw, behind-the-scenes look at what's actually been going on in my world. If you've ever felt paralysed opening up your Stories, lost your creative spark, or wondered why 80% good news still makes your brain fixate on the 20% that isn't — this one's for you. Spoiler: having predictable income changes everything about how you handle these moments.

Key Topics Covered

In this raw and honest episode, I share:

  1. Why I couldn't post for a week — and why a year ago that would have sent me into a full spiral
  2. The power of predictable income — how knowing your next six months of revenue changes your entire nervous system in business
  3. 80% renewed, 20% didn't — and why our brains always fixate on the negative (plus how I reframed it)
  4. Changing ads that were working — the gut-pull to switch things up, the anxiety of turning off what's performing, and why I trusted it anyway
  5. Getting personal with content — why I'm leaning into personality-driven posts and oversharing rather than pure strategy content right now
  6. The emotional side of life and business colliding — last ever parents' evening after 14 years hit me harder than expected

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!


Resources Mentioned
  1. Bottleneck to Breakthrough private podcast https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/bottleneckgeneral
  2. 12-week breathwork transformation programme https://breathingspace.thrivecart.com/12-week-deep-dive-transformation/

S7 E8 From Tea Room Manager to Business Coach: The Real Talk on Pricing, Grief & Rebuilding with Tara Punter19 févr. 202600:36:38

This week I'm joined by the brilliant Tara Punter from The Thriving Business Woman, and we have a proper good old chinwag. Tara went from managing a tea room to becoming a business coach — and it all started with a random conversation and a blog about retraining racehorses. She's a real "say yes and figure it out" kind of person, and she gets brutally honest about the stuff most coaches won't touch — like going from 25K months during COVID to 2K months after grief hit, and navigating the "shouldn't I be further along by now?" spiral. This one's a proper deep dive.

Topics covered on From Tea Room Manager to Business Coach:

How a chance conversation in a tea room sparked a 10-year career The evolution of pricing: from £75 coaching sessions to £750 (and why she dropped her prices too) Going from 25K months to 2K months — and what it really takes to rebuild Why "say yes and figure it out" has been her biggest business philosophy The mindset loop that still gets her: "I should be further along by now" Morning routines, NLP and why mindset unlocks everything strategy can't Why those big cash months during COVID actually came with a calendar she hated


Let's Connect

  1. Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray
  2. Tara's Instagram: @thethrivingbusinesswoman
  3. Tara's website: https://thethrivingbusinesswoman.com
  4. Join 10x your launches free challenge!: https://mailchi.mp/thethrivingbusinesswoman/10x-your-launches


If this resonated — especially the honest stuff about rebuilding after a tough time — share it on your Stories and tag us both. We'd love to hear from you.

S7 E7 The Psychology Behind Why People Buy with CJ from Vibing Social12 févr. 202600:44:07

This week I'm joined by the brilliant CJ from Vibing Social and honestly, this one's a treat. CJ is a Meta ads strategist with a background in psychology who works predominantly with product-based businesses — so if you sell actual physical products, this one's for you! We're diving into why people really buy, the biggest myths around ad spend, and that time CJ burnt out working with a brand founded by a member of the Royal Family. Plus we bonded over guinea pigs in South America, so there's that.

Topics covered on The Psychology Behind Why People Buy:

Why understanding human behaviour matters more than understanding the algorithm The biggest myth about ad spend — you can start on £10 a day Why CJ spends two weeks doing audience research before a single ad goes live Creative testing: why your visuals are now doing the targeting and Facebook rewards variety Stop sending people to your homepage — get them as close to the buy button as possible The Royal Family client that led to total burnout and zero boundaries How AI is already changing advertising for big brands — and what it means for smaller businesses CJ's client results: from 20K months to nearly 100K months in three years

Let's Connect

  1. Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray
  2. CJ's Instagram: @vibingsocial_
  3. Join the community: Facebook group Mind Your Mindset
  4. Website: www.millsgray.com


Resources mentioned:

  1. Meta ads membership from Vibing Social (£97/month) https://linkin.bio/vibingsocial_/


If you're a product business owner who's been sitting on the fence about ads — share this one with your business bestie. Tag us both!

S7 E6 Stop Winging It: Big Picture Planning That Actually Works05 févr. 202600:20:57

Grab your coffee and settle in. Today I'm sharing the exact planning approach that's transformed how I run my business - and how my clients go from constant firefighting to actually having their weekends back. If you're either stuck in endless planning mode or exhausted from constant reaction, this episode will change how you think about strategy.

Key Topics Covered:

  1. The two planning traps: zoomed out so far nothing gets done, or zoomed in so tight you're constantly firefighting
  2. My three-layer planning approach: Big Picture → Quarterly → Weekly
  3. Why every quarter shouldn't be a launch quarter (capacity matters!)
  4. Using astrology and intuition alongside business strategy
  5. Real client story: How strategic planning got her weekends back in 3 months

Want the audit questions emailed? https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/podcastaudit

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!


For the full show notes and more resources head over to https://www.millsgray.com/stop-winging-it-big-picture-planning-that-actually-works/

S7 E5 Depth Isn't a Trend - It's Just Good Business29 janv. 202600:23:55

Grab your coffee because I'm getting real with you today about something that's been labeled as the "big trend" for 2026 - depth. Spoiler alert: depth isn't new, it's just what actually works when you're building a sustainable business. I'm diving into why clients are done with shallow solutions, what Amy Porterfield's pivot really means (hint: maybe she's just bored), and how depth shows up differently across various business models. If you've been feeling the pressure to constantly add more to your offers or wondering why surface-level tactics aren't working anymore, this episode is for you.

Key Topics Covered

In this behind-the-scenes look at what's really shifting in the online business world, I explore:

  1. Why depth has always worked (and why it's suddenly being called a "trend")
  2. The Amy Porterfield digital course pivot - what it does and doesn't mean
  3. How 2020's online explosion created unsustainable business models that are finally collapsing
  4. What depth actually is versus what people think it is
  5. How to create depth across different business models - one-to-one, memberships, group programs, and hybrids
  6. The transformation versus information framework that changes everything


Your Depth Audit

Download from https://millsgray.kartra.com/page/podcastaudit and complete.


Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!


For the full show notes and more resources head over to www.millsgray.com/depth-isnt-a-trend-its-just-good-business

S7 E4 Why Your 10K Months Don't Actually Mean Sh*t (If You Can't Repeat Them)22 janv. 202600:16:21

Grab your coffee because today we're talking about predictable income. Not chasing bigger goals - knowing what the fuck is coming in each month so you can actually plan and breathe. If you've ever hit a big cash month and then felt sick two weeks later because you have no idea where the next clients are coming from, this one's for you.

Key Topics Covered
  1. Why hitting 10K once doesn't create safety - predictability does
  2. The difference between revenue goals and predictable income (one creates calm, the other creates pressure)
  3. My practical cashflow strategy using Starling bank "spaces" to turn paid-in-full into monthly recurring revenue
  4. The three reasons successful business owners have all-over-the-place income (spoiler: it's structural, not motivational)
  5. What predictability actually looks like in real terms


Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!


For the full show notes and more resources head over to www.millsgray.com/why-your-10k-months-dont-actually-mean-sht-if-you-cant-repeat-them/

S7 E3 The Truth About Hustle Culture: When Hard Work Works (And When It Doesn't) with Faye Jacobs15 janv. 202600:42:30

Grab your coffee and settle in for this one! I'm sitting down face-to-face with Faye Jacobs - yes, actually across the desk from me, which is a first for Soul Leaders. We're diving into one of the most controversial topics in the coaching world: hustle culture.

You've heard me talk about burnout and boundaries, but Faye? She's a proud hustler. And before you roll your eyes, this conversation might just shift how you think about hard work, ambition, and what it actually takes to build something extraordinary. If you've been wondering whether you need to hustle harder or slow down, this episode will help you figure out what's right for YOU.

Key Topics Covered

In this honest, no-BS conversation, we explore:

  1. The difference between being a hustler vs. burning out in hustle culture
  2. Why extraordinary results require extraordinary effort (and what that actually means)
  3. Leadership lessons: managing vs. leading your team
  4. The ChatGPT trap and losing your authentic voice
  5. Building a business model that fits YOUR personality, not someone else's

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!


Find Faye on Instagram: @thefayejacobs Check out her website (link in her bio) Book a free call - yes, she actually means it, and yes, she genuinely loves these conversations


For the full show notes and more resources head over to www.millsgray.com/the-truth-about-hustle-culture-when-hard-work-works-and-when-it-doesnt-with-faye-jacobs/

S7 E2 Stop Adding More Shit: The Stop, Keep, Start Framework for 202608 janv. 202600:16:56

Welcome to Season 7 of Soul Leaders! We're kicking off 2026 with something different - not another bloody goal-setting episode, but a proper strategic framework that'll stop you from burning out by March.

Here's what happens every January: You finish your break feeling pumped and alive, creativity flowing, and suddenly you're planning new offers, more content, more fucking everything. Then March rolls around and you're wondering why nothing's working.

Today we're doing bigger picture thinking with my Stop, Keep, Start framework - and yes, we're doing it in that order for a very specific reason.

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you! Or join my Facebook group Mind Your Mindset.


For the full show notes and more resources head over to www.millsgray.com/stop-adding-more-shit-the-stop-keep-start-framework-for-2026/

S7 E1 The Real Client Transformations: What Actually Happened Last Year01 janv. 202600:22:57

Grab your coffee and settle in because today's episode is a bit different. Instead of doing the typical "here's what happened in my business" year-end wrap-up, I'm pulling back the curtain on what actually happened with my clients this year. Real transformations, real numbers, real results.

If you've been wondering whether coaching actually works or what's possible when you stop winging it and get proper structure in place, this one's for you.

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!


For the full show notes and more resources head over to https://www.millsgray.com/the-real-client-transformations-what-actually-happened-last-year/

S6 E52 You're Not Undercharging, You're Over-Accommodating25 déc. 202500:17:36

Grab your coffee and let's talk about something that's probably costing you more than you realize. This isn't another "charge your worth" lecture - this is about the sneaky ways you're still discounting yourself without even realizing it. If you think you've got your pricing sorted, but you're exhausted, resentful, or constantly "throwing in extras," this episode is going to open your eyes to what's really happening in your business.

Key Topics Covered

In this game-changing episode, I explore:

  • The over-accommodation trap - How "good service" is actually you giving 5K of value for 2K
  • Why less is actually more - How over-giving can set your clients up for failure
  • The sneaky ways you discount yourself - Beyond just lowering your prices
  • Real client examples - From unlimited WhatsApp to weekend responses to "just one more thing"
  • How to audit what you're actually delivering - Vs. what you're charging for
  • Boundary scripts that work - Professional ways to hold your pricing integrity
  • The cost of over-accommodating - To your time, nervous system, and client results

Let's Connect

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For the full show notes and more resources head over to https://www.millsgray.com/youre-not-undercharging-youre-over-accommodating/

S6 E51 Systems That Scale: How to Save Hundreds of Hours and Make More Money with Sam Whisnant18 déc. 202500:40:40

Join me and my guest expert Sam Whisnant as we dive deep into the world of systems that actually work for coaches and service providers. Sam breaks down the simplicity behind automation, shares her favorite time-saving tools, and reveals how proper systems can bring you more income while giving you back your time. This is all about scalable offers, automated sales, and building a lean team that works

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Key Topics Covered

In this conversation, we explore:

  • Why systems aren't as complicated as you think - Sam demystifies automation for nervous business owners
  • The time-saving systems every coach needs - Practical tools that have saved Sam hundreds of hours
  • Building scalable offers - How to create services that grow without eating all your time
  • Automated sales strategies - Setting up systems that sell while you sleep
  • Running a lean team effectively - Getting more done with less overwhelm
  • Sam's non-negotiable system - The one tool she absolutely cannot live without

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you! Connect with Sam: https://systemswithsam.com/


For the full show notes and more resources head over to https://www.millsgray.com/systems-that-scale-how-to-save-hundreds-of-hours-and-make-more-money-with-sam-whisnant/

S6 E50 Stop Taking Responsibility for Your Client's Inaction11 déc. 202500:16:34

Grab your coffee because I'm getting on my soapbox today! This is one of those "someone needs to say this" episodes. If you've been beating yourself up because a client isn't getting results, blaming yourself for their lack of implementation, or taking on responsibility for their choices - this episode is going to give you the reality check you need. Let's talk about what's actually YOUR job and what isn't.

Key Topics Covered

In this truth-bomb episode, I dive into:

  • The responsibility trap - Why coaches and service providers take on too much ownership of client results
  • What is (and isn't) your job - Clear boundaries on your role vs. their role
  • The real problem - How your ideal client definition and marketing language might be attracting the wrong people
  • The emotional cost - Burnout, resentment, imposter syndrome, and guilt
  • How to have the conversation - Scripts for addressing clients who aren't implementing
  • What to do next - Practical steps to shift this pattern


My Digital Course - SOAR  https://www.millsgray.com/work-with-me/courses/how-to-become-magnetic-in-your-marketing/


Let's Connect

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For the full show notes and more resources head over to https://www.millsgray.com/stop-taking-responsibility-for-your-clients-inaction/

S6 E49 Behind the Curtain: What Really Happens in a Year-Long Mastermind04 déc. 202500:20:37

Grab your coffee for a proper BTS today! I'm pulling back the curtain on my year-long mastermind experience - the wins, the revelations, and why I've decided to leave. This wasn't breath work and sound healing, this was proper business graft with 10 ambitious business owners, good food and great company. If you've ever wondered what really happens at those business retreats or how six-figure business owners actually structure their lives, this episode is for you.

Key Topics Covered
  • Real transformation over a year in a mastermind
  • Why money mindset issues don't disappear at six figures
  • The pricing revelation: doubling prices that TRIPLED sales
  • Why successful business owners become their own bottleneck
  • Being the oldest in the room and what success really means
  • Kintsugi and the metaphor for business fractures
  • How your peers take you to unexpected destinations

Let's Connect

Come find me on Instagram @mills_gray and share your thoughts. I love hearing how these episodes land with you!

For the full show notes and more resources head over to https://www.millsgray.com/behind-the-curtain-what-really-happens-in-a-year-long-mastermind/

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