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Today's episode features some funny (and poignant) stories from Paul Cram.  Paul is an actor, book lover, and multimedia designer who catalogs and celebrates Queer experiences everywhere.  Paul and I consider topics as far afield as growing up knowing we don't matter, how acting can be identity therapy, and how we should discover who our children are, not dictate who they are.

REFERENCES:
Paul Cram’s Website:  https://iampaulcram.com

Follow Paul on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iampaulcram

Follow Paul on YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@iampaulcram

Follow Paul on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/iampaulcram/

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:30) - Introducing Paul Cram
• (05:00) - My story did not matter
• (10:36) - How dare you...?
• (15:27) - Accepting we can't understand the Bible
• (18:47) - Peace in not knowing everything
• (24:50) - In the name of love...
• (28:18) - When we discovered who we are
• (31:40) - Acting can be therapy...
• (37:20) - ...but acting should not be therapy
• (40:01) - Femininity and masculinity in romance
• (46:41) - Toxic social scripts
• (52:38) - Feeling good by smelling good
• (58:12) - Dissonance in fragrance can be sexy
• (01:04:38) - How to find Paul Cram on the internet
• (01:06:58) - Paul is hilarious - for real
• (01:08:58) - Show closing
• (01:09:52) - Closing credits

In this episode, we hear Koby Falks's story of finding authenticity and strength by challenging toxic masculine stereotypes.  Koby is an adult content creator, entrepreneur and advocate for authenticity in the adult content industry.  Koby and I muse over topics as diverse as when masculinity turns toxic, how negating sex negates ourselves, and what it means to be a good bottom.

REFERENCES:
Koby Falks Linktree: https://linktr.ee/KobyFalks

Follow Koby on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChRpGMrLi-pnJFZCdP3e1Tg

Follow Koby on TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@kobyfalksofficial

Follow Koby on Facebook: https://facebook.com/kobyfalksdaddy

Follow Koby on Instagram:  https://instagram.com/kobyfalks

Follow Koby on Threads:  https://www.threads.net/@kobyfalks

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Koby Falks
• (02:43) - The pandemic brings new opportunities
• (07:07) - Instead of external, look at the internal
• (12:13) - Dismissing what we don't understand
• (18:13) - Masculinity isn't bottling up, it's showing up
• (21:54) - Avoiding the masculine to feel more comfortable
• (26:47) - Rigidity breeds toxicity
• (32:35) - Being seen helps others be seen
• (36:05) - Bisexual stigmatized in the Queer community
• (41:21) - Challenging our own processes
• (43:58) - Dominant is not always masculine
• (45:54) - Controlling sex means controlling identity
• (50:19) - Power in the feminine
• (56:25) - Turns out we know about sex
• (58:21) - How to find Koby Falks on the internet
• (59:58) - Show closing
• (01:00:55) - Closing credits

In this week's episode, we hear the story of humanity in myth with Allison Stieger.  Allison is a mythologist, author, speaker, and storyshaper who founded Mythic Stories Consulting.  Allison and I muse over topics as far afield as our path to becoming ancestors, learning compassion through application of archetypes, and the Current of the Universe.

REFERENCES:
“Mythic Stories” website:  https://mythicstories.com/

Follow Allison on LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/allison-stieger/

Follow Allison on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/allison.stieger
"Where the Two Came to Their Father:"  https://www.artworkarchive.com/profile/berman/exhibition/where-the-two-came-to-their-father

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:27) - Introducing Allison Stieger
• (02:23) - A mythic view of the world
• (06:29) - Becoming the next ancestors
• (10:06) - Choosing a Heroic Journey
• (13:21) - Don't turn into your own dragon!
• (16:41) - Constraining wisdom into a tiny box
• (19:22) - Changing your story through retelling
• (22:50) - Seeing ourselves own the cultural power
• (28:16) - Better humanity lies in diversity
• (32:32) - Myth is by nature universal wisdom
• (35:36) - Compassion as a multiplicity of archetypes
• (42:16) - Seeing beyond our horizons
• (46:35) - Face your opposite nature
• (51:41) - Making our own stories
• (56:45) - Integrating both sides of our Self
• (01:01:29) - Myth and magic really can work
• (01:03:19) - How to find Allison Stieger on the internet
• (01:04:38) - Allison's up and coming book
• (01:06:57) - Show closing
• (01:07:52) - Closing credits

Today's show features Katherine Lazaruk and some hilarious stories!  Katherine is a Professional Presence Expert and author of the book “Executive Being: Humanizing Business One Leader at a Time.”  Katherine and I muse over topics as far afield as preparing our environment for us to occupy it, the pain of getting out of our box, and not dumping on Judith Butler.

REFERENCES:
LZRK Consulting website:  https://lzrkconsulting.com/

Follow Katherine on LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherinelazaruk

Follow Katherine on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/katherinelazaruk

Follow LZRK Consulting on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/LazarukConsultingInc

Purchase “Executive Being” from Amazon:  https://amzn.to/3ObyXAt

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:28) - Introducing Katharine Lazaruk
• (02:36) - We don't need to die to be free
• (08:17) - Surface....but never superficial
• (09:53) - Character, Congruence, and Choice
• (14:15) - Preparing the table so authenticity works
• (17:30) - What is authenticity when so much of success is perception?
• (20:47) - Changes to the environment
• (23:09) - Did human nature change?
• (27:04) - The path is not the path
• (29:34) - Building the new social structures
• (33:59) - It hurts to get out of the box
• (38:02) - Good times with Generation X
• (39:22) - Whole person, whole presence
• (43:50) - Pathological introspection
• (47:11) - Getting better at climbing out of holes
• (50:10) - We don't heal all at once
• (53:28) - Avoiding the holes is a process
• (57:07) - How to find Katherine Lazaruk on the internet
• (58:52) - Show closing
• (01:00:20) - Closing credits

In this episode, a wonderful friend of mine: Lindsay Bindman!  Lindsay is an advocate, ally, sailor, and hostess of the "Getting Reflective" podcast, about unlearning the social norms that serve us poorly.  Lindsay and I cover topics as diverse as learning to live life to its fullest, society as a tool for silence and punishment, and how you can actually meet nice people on the internet.

REFERENCES:
“Getting Reflective” website:  https://www.gettingreflective.com/

Follow Lindsay on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lindsaybinds/

Listen to “Getting Reflective” on Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/getting-reflective-a-podcast-about-unlearning/id1742272629

Listen to “Getting Reflective” on Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/1cQgMAsCHNBN0kjc73Etes?si=a5fa6880e57a4bdc

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:26) - Introducing Lindsay Bindman
• (02:43) - Unlearning unhelpful social roles
• (07:49) - Unlearning fear of personal danger
• (15:09) - Sailing as a model for unlearning
• (17:51) - What is unlearning?
• (21:06) - Why is unlearning so difficult?
• (26:02) - Tools of silence and punishment
• (33:05) - Capitalism as defined vs. implemented
• (39:36) - The lightbulb unlearning moment
• (47:23) - Activism through providing an example
• (50:19) - Necessary tools for unlearning
• (53:43) - Lindsay's mission to bring the unlearning
• (57:52) - Is experience necessary?
• (01:05:11) - How to find Lindsay Bindman on the internet
• (01:06:42) - Parting is such sweet sorrow
• (01:09:25) - Closing credits

Today's episode features K Anderson's dry wit and charm.  K is a podcaster who hosts the "Lost Spaces" podcast, available on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.  K and I run the gamut of topics from tempering your expectations of community to choosing labels carefully to the importance of checkbox-action inclusivity.

REFERENCES:
“Lost Spaces” website:  https://lostspacespodcast.com/

Listen to “Lost Spaces” on Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/lost-spaces/id1484938210

Listen to “Lost Spaces” on Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2QyzJQIlsUcdpRQ6H6eSV7?si=f590b547274f4b37

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:28) - Introducing K Anderson
• (03:20) - Why do humans do the things we do?
• (06:52) - Breaking the stories we tell of ourselves
• (10:10) - Not even making sense to our community
• (13:56) - People don't care about belonging
• (17:48) - No community is a monolith
• (20:42) - We appreciate being able to discriminate
• (23:43) - Does queer solidarity exist?
• (29:13) - Fragmentation by digitization
• (32:57) - Fighting for your label
• (38:01) - At what point does identifying become identity?
• (43:25) - A purpose for internalized queerphobia
• (45:18) - Look, older British gay men - we're all this!
• (49:28) - A bunch of letters go to a party...
• (53:02) - And back to expectations vs. reality...
• (55:44) - Nobody wants to stay static
• (01:00:01) - How to find K Anderson on the internet
• (01:02:19) - Show closing
• (01:04:36) - Closing credits

Today's episode features Matty Hennessey and his journey within the gender-expansive community.  Matty is the Founder, CEO, and Product Designer for Eversense Toys, a sex toy company targeted directly at making intimacy more comfortable for the gender-expansive community.  Matty and I mull over topics as diverse as how children observe gender innocently, the struggle to be seen, and how important it is to take action when you know something is right.

References:

Eversense Toys website:  https://eversensetoys.com/

Eversense Toys Indiegogo page:  https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/eversense-toys#/

Follow Eversense Toys on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/eversensetoys

Follow Eversense Toys on TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@eversensetoys

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:31) - Introducing Matty Hennessey
• (02:12) - The first gender-expansive experience
• (09:44) - Gender is straightforward for kids
• (16:56) - Gender transition happens to everyone around us
• (18:49) - Struggling just to be seen
• (25:02) - Do not wait if you know something is right for you
• (28:19) - Living in a body that works for you
• (32:41) - Alleviating dysphoria during intimacy
• (37:29) - Gender-affirming self-care
• (39:41) - The first ever gender-expansive sex toy
• (43:02) - Gender transition game-changers
• (46:22) - The Eversense community project
• (52:58) - The future of gender-expansive sex toys
• (56:43) - The Eversense Origin Story
• (01:00:16) - Show closing
• (01:00:40) - Closing credits

On the show today, Bob Martin and I talk about Taoism!  Bob is a criminal trial lawyer, meditation teacher, and author of the book "I Am The Way," which recasts the I Ching in Christian terminology.  Bob and I discuss topics as diverse as the I Ching, the Tao of gender, and Sonny Crockett's "Miami Vice" wardrobe.

REFERENCES:

Bob Martin’s website:  https:/awiseandhappylife.com

Follow Bob on LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/bob-martin-995b30127/

Follow Bob on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/awiseandhappylife

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:34) - Introducing Bob Martin
• (02:24) - An identity without ancestors
• (06:09) - An unlikely ally
• (08:28) - I Ching advice to a Florida lawyer
• (12:13) - Starting over as a Taoist
• (15:17) - Making a defense attorney
• (18:31) - Stopping just before hitting bottom
• (21:39) - Divination as a bridge between minds
• (27:49) - Intuitive value of divination
• (32:03) - Without the poles, current doesn't run
• (35:35) - Humanity, evolution, gender, and the Tao
• (41:24) - The Book of Changes
• (46:55) - Learning to live in cycles
• (49:26) - Bridging Taoism and Christianity
• (54:28) - The Unknown Life of Jesus Christ
• (59:50) - I Am The Way
• (01:06:35) - Show closing
• (01:07:43) - Closing credits

As a special 50th Episode, I speak with Louise Richardson, a transgender woman whose transition in the 1970s demonstrates how - despite many strides made in society - the transgender experience is no better understood.  Louise is an author, poet, and playwright whose work can be seen, heard, and read across many media.  Louise and I discuss topics as diverse as early transgender community, how gender transition has changed, and how the girl next door always keeps you guessing.

REFERENCES:
Follow Louise on YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@snardfluk

Buy Louise's books on Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B00M7RGA8A
Follow Louise on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/snardfluk

Follow Louise on Soundcloud:  https://soundcloud.com/louise-gail-richardson

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:33) - Introducing Louise Richardson
• (02:19) - Experiencing a feminine childhood
• (07:00) - Before the Egg Crack Moment
• (11:22) - Confidential Magazine: 1970s transgender community
• (14:40) - Choosing a life without misery
• (18:21) - From reverence to controversy
• (22:53) - All transgender people are weird...
• (26:47) - ...present company excepted, of course...
• (29:59) - Gender transition in 1970s San Francisco
• (38:52) - Why in the everloving hell did she go back to Texas?
• (43:41) - And sometimes family is not supportive...
• (50:58) - Rebirth as actress, poet, and author
• (54:02) - Procession: a poem about dimensions
• (57:55) - Cheetahs: a poem about mothers
• (59:19) - How to find Louise Richardson on the internet
• (01:03:43) - Walk with Me, from "Blue Bonnet Road"
• (01:04:56) - Sharing of ourselves
• (01:07:50) - Closing credits

This week's episode is with the ever-effervescent Kristoffer Hughes.  Kristoffer is an esoteric author, teacher of Death Midwifery, and Chief of the Anglesey Druid Order.  Kristoffer and I discuss such diverse topics as growing up gay, The Middle Pillar, and what you should try if you think performing an autopsy looks difficult.

REFERENCES:
Anglesey Druid Order website:  https://www.angleseydruidorder.co.uk

View “Marw gyda Kris” on BBC:  https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0jsv129

Follow Kristoffer on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/kristoffer.hughes

Follow Anglesey Druid Order on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/angleseydruidorder

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:27) - Introducing Kristoffer Hughes
• (03:03) - Alone, gay, and resilient in sickenly picturesque Wales
• (09:58) - Resiliency through relationship with the hidden
• (16:12) - The morgue and a philosophy of empathy
• (24:15) - Death brings a father and a drag queen together
• (31:45) - Being Queer when empathy is important
• (35:04) - The importance of tripartite relationships
• (40:55) - Equilibrium breaks down difference between genders
• (46:15) - Maggie Noggi, The Drag Queen Who Makes a Difference
• (56:07) - The Universe is not diametrically opposed
• (01:01:07) - Being present at our own death
• (01:05:39) - Spiritually Queer
• (01:08:08) - How to find Kristoffer on the internet
• (01:10:34) - Show closing
• (01:12:36) - Closing credits