The Pleasure Files – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode of The Pleasure Files, I sit down with Maggie, a former client who began her healing journey with me earlier this year. 

We start with where she started, what called her into this work, and how her relationship with herself, her body, and her pleasure has transformed since. 

Maggie shares with such honesty and warmth about the challenges of facing herself, the unexpected turns of growth, and what it really feels like to reclaim your aliveness from the inside out.

This is a tender, real conversation about courage, change, and the beauty that unfolds when we choose to do the work of healing.

In this episode of The Pleasure Files, we get deeply practical about desire  and what it actually takes for your body to want sex.

And yep, we are complex, complex creatures!

This conversation is about the real-life conditions that help desire happen and arousal thrive: time, space, safety, and intention. 

As always there are plenty of practical and useful tips that you can try, if feeling more desire for sex is something that you wish you had. 

We talk about:

• Why scheduling can be sexy
• Pumpkin hours
• Priming yourself for sex 
• Bridging activities 

And finally, we get honest with the hard question: are you trying to desire sex that isn’t worth desiring?

This is a grounded, compassionate, and body-wise look at what it really means to feel more desire in your body, and how you can go about finding more. 

Ok, sure, pleasure isn't just sex, but what if we want to have more pleasure when we have sex?

Aaron Michael is on the pod today, and as an author, sex coach, bodyworker and course creator, he has created a new model for sex that brings the power of our pleasure back to each of us.

We talked about the potential for pleasure in every body, what it takes to have truly fulfilling sex, and what to do when we are in bodies that have pain or numbness and sex isn't feeling great, or we just don't want to have sex at all.

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Aaron:

Aaron Michael is an author, sex coach, and bodyworker who has worked hands- on with several thousand men, women, and couples, supporting them with physical and psychological numbness, pain, and the optimisization of pleasure where doctors and other therapists had given up.

He has created a new model for sex that doesn’t rely on friction and the embodiment of avoidant attachment behaviors promulgated by the greatest sex educator...porn, and is working towards a world where sex, relations, and clear communication create healthy, happy, and powerful individuals, couples, and communities for healthier nations and global wellbeing.

Websites:
For men: https://www.bedroommasterclass.com/bethebestsheeverhad
For women: https://www.bedroommasterclass.com/blowhismind
Instagram: @aaronmichael_method

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Sarah Michelle grew up in purity culture, and after a painful and unexpected divorce, found herself in hookup culture.

We talked about what the impact of her purity education was on her sense of herself and her sexuality, and how that flowed over into world view and mindset.

If you are curious about the impacts of religious upbringings on your sense of self, and sexuality, especially when you find yourself living in a completely different sexual world, Sarah takes us on this journey through her life.

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Sarah Michelle:

Sarah is a real and raw brand identity strategist and personal identity evangelist. She is the CEO and creator of HoneyMAP, a personalized roadmap that connects the core values of mission-minded business leaders with their audience through clear brand messaging and creative marketing strategies. She is also the creator and host of the Successful(ish) podcast and lifestyle brand and is dedicated to sweetening the world by ending identity crisis and redefining success. When she’s not elbow deep in brand strategy and wordsmithing, you can find her hiking with her two fur babies, or drinking copious amounts of coffee in independent bookstores.

Website: https://justsarahmichelle.com
Instagram/ Facebook/ Linked In: @justsarahmichelle

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Have you ever been curious about being tied up?

Maybe you're wondering why anyone would do it?

Or how they do it?

And isn't it demeaning and degrading to be tied up? Why would we be talking about rope play and pleasure in the same conversation? 

Marco Jellema is on the pod this week to share his expertise and passion for therapeutic Shibari, the Japanese art of rope play.

If you have ever been curious about why anyone would let themselves be tied up, and why they would say they enjoyed it, this episode might just open your eyes to a whole new world.

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About Naomi:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

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About Marco Jellema

Marco is a dearmouring, somatic empowerment and healing shibari practitioner, who holds deep spaces of transformation, authentic expression, healing and personal growth for his clients.

He works in person in the Netherlands, and combines de-armouring, somatic consent, sexual healing, talk therapy, shibari, space holding and shadow work into a beautiful healing modality.

Website: https://senseyourbody.nl/en/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marco.jellema

Shibari Resources:
https://www.osada-ryu.com/
https://shibaristudy.com/

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How's your libido?

Have you ever wished your libido was stronger, and wondered what you could do about it?

Dr Patricia and I explore what it takes for women’s libidos to stay strong and healthy throughout our lives, and the answers might surprise you.

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About Naomi:

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

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About Dr Patricia

Dr. Patricia Petralba is the founder of Thrive Life Center, an integrative medicine wellness center in Tucson, AZ and the Head Coach of Revive and Thrive Mentorship Program. She is passionate about helping highly driven women to overcome burnout so they can feel inspired, balanced physically, emotionally, hormonally, and feel fulfilled in all areas of their life.

Dr Patricia is running a free event to support you in your healing, on the 9th / 10th / 11th November. Reach out to find out more!

Website: https://thrivelifecenter.com/
Instagram: @patriciapetralba_md
Facebook: ThriveLifeCenterPLLC

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Adam Beker is a student of the body and consciousness, and is certified in all things breathing.

Adam and I let our inner geeks out for this episode, exploring the world of breathing, including if it’s true that if we breathe right, we can experience so much more pleasure in our bodies.

So yep, we’re talking about breathing your way to orgasm.

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Want to learn more about what I offer?

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

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About Adam:

Adam is a certified Brethology instructor and yoga teacher, combining breathing, movement, mobility and mental focus in order to achieve optimal health and wellbeing.

He offers 1:1 trainings in using the breath in to bring balance and healing to the body, mind and spirit.

Website: https://www.the-gaia-method.com/
Instagram: @the_gaia_method
Youtube: The Gaia Method

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Do you remember being 20? Remember your own sexual education and first sexual explorations?

Elle is on the pod talking about her pleasure experiences as a 20 year old, especially following an assault 18 months ago.

We talk about sex ed, finding partners to help along the way, and what the assault taught her about her needs and wants.

(There is no description of assault beyond mentioning that one occurred).

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Want to learn more about what I offer?

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. 

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Peter Maloney is a grief and loss expert, who is on the pod to talk about that taboo topic - what do we do when we find ourselves in a turned on body when we are in mourning for someone we have loved and lost?

Surely pleasure and grief don't belong in the same conversation?

We talk about shame, grief, community and connection, and the healthy use of pleasure as a way to navigate our loss. 

This episode will inspire you to think more honestly about what it takes to be a human.

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Want to learn more about what I offer?

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

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About Peter:

Peter Maloney is an educator, coach and Facilitation Skills Trainer with Expertise in Grief and Emotional Literacy. He works with children and adolescents in grief programs, and also provides healing and behaviour change programs to community corrections in NSW, Australia.

Download Peter's Heart Shift Balance Meditation Here:

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If you are living in a body that doesn't fit into what we are taught the perfect body should look like, (and let's face it, who is?), this episode will inspire you.

Indi Gage describes herself as sex positive, disabled and fat, and in this episode she shares about her journey towards pleasure in a fat body.

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Want to learn more about what I offer?

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

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About Indi:

Indi Gage (she/her) is a twenty-five year old Gender Studies graduate from Melbourne, Australia. She's a sex positive, intersectional feminist and cohost of the Hot Girl's Theory podcast. Indi is queer, disabled and fat and this intersectional lens allows for a deep and rich understanding of a diverse range of social and political topics.

Listen to Indi’s podcast here:

Connect with Indi on Instagram

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