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Intimacy doesn’t usually fall apart overnight, it fades in the small, everyday ways we show up (or don’t) in our relationships. In this episode, we’re breaking down five common ways we unintentionally sabotage intimacy and what we can start doing differently.

From letting flirting and playfulness disappear, to expecting sex to “just happen,” to avoiding the conversations that actually bring us closer…these patterns are more common than you think. And the truth is, most of us were never taught how to nurture intimacy in a sustainable, connected way.

We’ll also talk about why focusing on performance over connection can backfire, how unspoken resentment quietly erodes desire, and why communication is one of the most powerful (and underused) tools in our relationships.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected, stuck in routine, or unsure how to reconnect with your partner, this episode is for you.

Because awareness is the first step…but action is what creates change.

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

In this powerful and deeply important episode, Awareness and Action Against Sex Trafficking, we shed light on one of the most pressing human rights issues of our time. We provide a clear understanding of what sex trafficking is, who it affects, and the lasting physical, psychological, and emotional impact on survivors.

Most importantly, this episode calls listeners into action. From recognizing red flags to knowing how to report suspected trafficking and support survivors, we provide practical, actionable steps that empower individuals to make a difference.

This is more than an educational episode; it’s a call to awareness, compassion, and responsibility. Whether you’re new to this topic or looking to deepen your understanding, this conversation is a vital step toward advocacy and change.

Resources for Sex Trafficking Awareness and Support

1. National Human Trafficking Hotline (U.S.)

• Phone: 1-888-373-7888 
• Text: 233733 (Text “HELP”) 
• Website: https://humantraffickinghotline.org
  Provides 24/7 confidential reporting and support for victims, survivors, and concerned community members. 

2. Polaris Project

• Website: https://polarisproject.org
  Offers survivor resources, guides on identifying trafficking, policy information, and professional training. 

3. U.S. Department of Homeland Security – Blue Campaign

• Website: https://www.dhs.gov/blue-campaign
  Educates the public on recognizing human trafficking and reporting suspected cases safely. 

4. U.S. Department of Health & Human Services – Trafficking Resource Center

• Phone: 1-888-373-7888 
• Website: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/otip
  Provides information and guidance for healthcare providers, social service professionals, and victims seeking help. 

5. RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)

• Phone: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) 
• Website: https://www.rainn.org
  Offers resources for survivors of sexual assault, including trafficking victims, with confidential support and referrals. 

6. End It Movement

• Website: https://enditmovement.com
  An advocacy organization focused on raising awareness about human trafficking and promoting safe avenues for survivor support. 

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

World AIDS Day is a moment to remember, reflect, and recommit. In Overcoming Silence, we revisit the early days of the AIDS epidemic, an era marked by fear, misinformation, and heartbreaking silence. From uncertainty and stigma to advocacy and progress, this episode honors those we lost, uplifts the communities who fought back, and reminds us that this fight is not over.  Join me as we reflect, learn, and continue breaking the silence together.

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

 Is your sex life feeling a little routine or predictable? In this episode, we dive into the top 10 ways to reignite passion, deepen intimacy, and bring excitement back into the bedroom. From playful communication and exploring novelty to building emotional connection and prioritizing pleasure, you’ll learn simple, research-backed strategies to help keep desire alive in long-term relationships. Whether you’re looking for a spark or a full-on fire, this episode offers practical, sex-positive insights to help you and your partner reconnect and rediscover each other. 

Click here for the complete yes/no/maybe list https://doctorpattyj.com/s/YesNoMaybe-Complete-List-1.pdf

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

Hormones play a vital role in how we feel, think, and function, but misinformation about them is everywhere. In this episode, we’re cutting through the confusion and tackling the top five hormone misconceptions I hear most often from patients. From the truth about hormone therapy and breast cancer risk to why vaginal estrogen isn’t just for people who are sexually active, we’ll unpack what the science actually says and why these myths persist.

Whether you’re navigating menopause, curious about hormone replacement therapy, or just want to better understand your body, this episode will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and ready to have evidence-based conversations about your hormonal health.

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

In this episode, we break down the key takeaways from the recent FDA roundtable where leading physician experts presented compelling data on the safety and efficacy of menopausal hormone therapy (MHT).

Tune in as we explore how decades of research are challenging outdated perceptions, what the latest evidence means for patients and providers, and why experts are calling for a more balanced, evidence-based conversation around MHT. Whether you're a clinician, patient, or simply curious about women's health, this episode offers a clear and timely summary of where the science stands today.

Topics covered:

• The evolving safety profile of MHT
• Misconceptions rooted in past studies
• Clinical guidance from hormone therapy experts
• What this means for the future of menopause care

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

What is ethical porn, and how is it different from the mainstream adult industry? In this episode, we explore the world of ethical porn; a movement that prioritizes consent, fair pay, diversity, and respect for performers both on and off camera.

We break down the key differences between ethical and mainstream porn, discuss why it matters for viewers and creators alike, and talk about how to find content that aligns with your values and your desires.

Whether you're a curious consumer, a skeptic, or someone rethinking their relationship with adult content, this episode will challenge assumptions, spark conversation, and maybe even change the way you watch.

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

In this episode, we dive into the physical and psychological factors that can impact male sexual performance, from medical conditions and stress to unrealistic expectations and complex relationship dynamics. Whether you're personally navigating these concerns or supporting someone who is, we’ll share practical strategies to help.

We’re also busting some of the most common myths around male sexual performance, because let’s face it, there's a lot of misinformation out there. This is a stigma-free, honest conversation about an issue that affects more people than you might think. Tune in for insight, support, and maybe even a little relief.

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

Ever wondered what a compounding pharmacist actually does, and why it matters? In this episode, we sit down with pharmacist Justin Clark, the owner of Val Vista compounding pharmacy to explore the world of personalized medicine. From tailoring medications for individual needs to creating solutions when commercial drugs fall short, we dive into how compounding is transforming patient care. Whether it's customizing hormone therapies, libido enhancers, or vaginal lubricants, this behind-the-scenes conversation reveals the creativity, science, and care that goes into every custom prescription.

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.

What happens when one partner wants sex more...or less often than the other? In this episode, we dive into the complex, often unspoken world of sexual desire discrepancy. From common causes and emotional impacts to communication tips and ways to reconnect, we explore how couples can bridge the gap without blame or shame. Whether you're the higher-desire or lower-desire partner, this conversation offers validation, insight, and real strategies for navigating intimacy mismatches. 

I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail!

If you want to learn more about sexual health, sexual dysfunction, or how to improve your sex life, follow me on Instagram at @thepgspot or check out my website at doctorpattyj.com for blogs and resources related to sex positivity and real talk about sexuality.  As as always, stay curious, stay empowered, and stay you.