Hello and welcome to another episode of the Perception Podcast with me your host Caroline Partridge. In this week's episode, I'm joined again by award winning therapist and speaker Sally Baker as we talk about her brilliant new book 'The Getting of Resilience from the Inside Out'.
Sally uses the story of her own childhood trauma as the foundation for the book, to help illustrate that you can emerge from years of self sabotaging behaviour to live a fulfilling and trauma free life. We discuss parenting, and how and where resilience is created, the misconceptions about our perception of resilience and Sally reveals several techniques to beat the BS thoughts that come from that hypercritical voice we have in our heads. We also examine the growing connection between social media and social anxiety and how the white noise of the world is blocking out the space for self reflection. Please join me as we look at life through a different lens.
Sally Baker’s book, The Getting of Resilience from the Inside Out is published on May 9th 2024.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Resilience is created, formulated, and either undermined or strengthened within the crucible of the family.
- The judgments we make about ourselves based on events that happened to us can be far more damaging than the events themselves.
- Resilience is not innate; it is learned only in families that care for us in the way we need.
- The voice in your head that gives a running commentary on everything you say and do can be hypercritical or an inner cheerleader, depending on your upbringing.
- Recognising and interrupting the negative voice in your head is crucial for building resilience.
- Social media contributes to the growing connection between social anxiety and the white noise of the world blocking out space for self-reflection.
- Solid human connection that isn't toxic protects our mental health and is the gold standard we all need more of.
BEST MOMENTS
"It's not enough just to have skin in the game and say, oh yeah, you know, I've got lived experience. It's valuable if you have lived experience that you resolved and come out the other side of."
"Another layer of separation when really you just need to or want to sit down and speak with another fellow human."
"So it's human connection that saves us, that builds, that protects our mental health, but solid, you know, human connection that isn't toxic, human connection that listens to us and gives us a chance to speak."
"The bedrock of good, sound mental health is human connection."
"If you are already anxious about yourself or feeling a bit down about yourself, but you've got this toxic drip drip thing, you'll never amount to anything, you'll always be rubbish, look what you've done, you know, it's all your fault, then it doesn't take much to tip you over into heightened anxiety and more overwhelm."
"It's called breaking state. And it means you can't just sit there and listening to this voice in your head, put you down."
"Elevate. This is about elevating us instead of punching down on us."
ABOUT THE GUEST
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Sally is a highly experienced licensed and accredited therapist, writer and speaker. She sees adults and young people face to face in London and worldwide via Zoom. She is trained to an advanced or master practitioner level in many of the latest therapeutic approaches all of which work rapidly and powerfully to resolve a wide range of presenting issues.
Sally has written books on key aspects of therapy published by Hammersmith Books, London. Through her therapy work she is often in demand for her expert opinion on human behaviour and is frequently quoted in the international press, magazines, BBC Radio and influential on-line media platforms. She is regularly invited to comment on human behaviour and relationships insights in the national press and on television referencing Love Island and high-profile professionals including Harry & Meghan, the Beckham’s and Katie Price.
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