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What to Say When Your Kid Says “I’m Fat” — with Dr. Whitney Caceres09 Sep 202600:57:05

What do you say when your child says “I’m fat”? What do you do when grandma makes a comment at the dinner table? How do you raise a kid who has a healthy relationship with food and their body without swinging into diet culture or untethered “anything goes” territory? Dr. Whitney Caceres has the answers — and they’re more nuanced and more doable than anything you’ll find in a parenting trend.

Albiona sits down with Dr. Whitney, a board-certified pediatrician, founder of Modern Mommy Doc, and author of the new book Raising Body Confident Kids, to talk about breaking the generational cycle of body shame — starting with the stories we’re still carrying ourselves.

Inside, they explore:

  • How body shame gets passed from generation to generation — and why our own triggers are triggered hardest when our kids hit puberty at the same time we’re going through our own body changes
  • What to actually say when your child notices someone else’s body, asks why a celebrity looks different, or says “I’m fat” — including what not to say and why false reassurance backfires
  • The sweet spot between diet culture and body positivity — how to teach kids body literacy and function without labeling foods as good or bad or ignoring real health
  • How to handle body comments from grandparents and extended family — what to prep your kids to say, when to step in as the parent, and when ignoring is actually the right move
  • Yay or nay: overeating, birthday party food, the 20-minute pause rule, and when it’s okay to step in as the parent even when you’ve been giving your kid agency

About Dr. Whitney Caceres:

Dr. Whitney Caceres is a board-certified pediatrician, speaker, author, and founder of Modern Mommy Doc. She holds an MPH in maternal and child health from UC Berkeley, a journalism degree, and completed her pediatric residency at Stanford. Her new book, Raising Body Confident Kids: A Balanced Approach to Breaking the Cycle of Body Shame and Diet Culture, is out September 1st.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Connect with Albiona:

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Please rate, review, and share this one with a mom who’s still untangling her own relationship with her body while trying to raise kids who don’t have to. This conversation is for every parent who has ever caught themselves about to say the wrong thing — and wanted to do better.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Ask Me Anything - Gentle Parenting, Attachment Theory, Strong-Willed Kids, and Why Attuned Parenting Beats All of It (Part 2)26 Aug 202600:31:46

You asked Albiona where she stands on gentle parenting, attachment theory, highly sensitive kids, and strong-willed vs. defiant. She answered. This is the take you won’t hear from most people in the parenting space — no sides taken, no approach put on a pedestal, and no parent left feeling like they’re doing it wrong.

Inside, she explores:

  • Gentle parenting: what Albiona genuinely likes about it, where it tends to go sideways in practice, and why over-explaining often makes defiance worse instead of better
  • Attachment theory: why it can leave parents burned out, how to take what works without adopting the whole framework, and what she looks for before bringing any guest into this space
  • Strong-willed, defiant, highly sensitive, big feeler — what these labels actually mean, why Albiona thinks all kids are deeply feeling, and what to ask instead of reaching for a term

Connect with Albiona:

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Rate, review, and share with a parent who’s drowning in parenting approaches and doesn’t know which one to trust. Sometimes the answer is simpler than the label.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Ask Me Anything: How to Stop Reacting, Handle Back-to-School Anxiety, and Actually Pause in the Hard Moment (Part 1)19 Aug 202600:34:59

You asked, Albiona answered. This AMA covers the questions that came in most — reactive parenting, back-to-school transitions, and why pausing is so much harder in practice than it sounds. Practical, somatic, and honest.

Inside, she explores:

  • How to actually pause when you’re already activated — the somatic tools and breathing technique Albiona uses herself, including why the exhale matters more than the inhale
  • Why telling yourself “I won’t yell today” keeps failing — the two real reasons parents overreact and what actually interrupts the pattern
  • Back-to-school anxiety and transitions: how to help kids who dread the change, the difference between a transition problem and a frustration tolerance problem, and how to sequence routines so you’re not setting yourself up to fight every afternoon

Connect with Albiona:

•  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

•  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

•  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/

•  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Rate, review, and share with a parent heading into back-to-school season running on fumes. Part 2 is coming.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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The Second Most Downloaded Episode: Taking a Career Pause Without Losing Yourself — with Neha Ruch29 Jul 202600:42:25

This is the conversation that resonated with thousands of mothers and keeps getting shared. Albiona’s interview with Neha Ruch — founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause — is back. If you missed it the first time, this is your moment. If you’ve already heard it, listen again. There’s something in here for wherever you are right now.

Neha Ruch left a Stanford MBA and a dream job in brand marketing to make more room for motherhood — and instead of quietly disappearing from the conversation, she built an entirely new one. The Power Pause is the book she wrote for every mother who wants to pause, shift, or step back from a career and do it without guilt, without losing her identity, and without having to pick a side.

Inside, they explore:

→  Why “what do you do?” has become a proxy for “who are you?” — and how to reclaim your identity when the answer to that question changes

→  The power pause reframe: why stepping back from a career isn’t a loss of ambition — it’s a redesign, and how to own that story confidently

→  The mommy wars, where they came from, and why the research shows children thrive equally in both scenarios — what actually matters is a happy and healthy parent

→  How to have the money conversations before a career pause, what to budget for, and how to make sure both partners feel equally valued during a season of unpaid caregiving

→  Why your career isn’t linear — how to audit the experiences you’re accumulating right now and build them into a career story that’s more expansive, not less

About Neha Ruch:

Neha Ruch is the founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause, a guide for ambitious women navigating career breaks, career shifts, and the decision to make more room for family life. Her work sits at the intersection of identity, ambition, and modern motherhood — without judgment, and without telling you which choice is right.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

→  Get The Power Pause by Neha Ruch

→  Visit Mother Untitled — motheruntitled.com

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with a mother who’s in the middle of figuring out what comes next — whether she’s considering a pause, already in one, or trying to find her footing on the other side. This conversation was made for her.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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The Most Downloaded Episode: Strong-Willed Kids, Breaks, and Why Your Words Aren’t Working — with Joe Newman22 Jul 202601:00:45

This is the episode that started it all. The most downloaded conversation in the history of The Parenting Reframe — Albiona’s very first interview with Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions — is back. If you’ve never heard it, clear your schedule. If you have, get your notebook out because you’ll catch things you missed the first time.

Joe Newman has shaped Albiona’s work more than almost anyone else in this space. He doesn’t say what everyone else says. He doesn’t make it complicated. And this conversation — about why strong-willed kids need stronger boundaries, why your words have lost their weight, and what actually gets a defiant child to cooperate — is still one of the most useful hours you’ll spend as a parent.

Inside, they explore:

→  Why strong-willed and defiant kids aren’t broken — and why the accommodations most parents make are the exact opposite of what these kids need

→  The real reason children use conflict: it’s not about the blue bowl, the red cup, or the screen time — it’s a question they’re asking, and most parents are answering it wrong

→  How breaks work, why they’re not timeouts, and what to do when your child flatly refuses to take one — including what Joe did with a child who held out for 10 days straight

→  Why excess information and over-explaining are making defiance worse — and the research-backed reason that saying less produces a 50% drop in off-task behavior

→  What “eggshell parenting” is doing to strong-willed kids, why approval-based parenting fails power-seeking children, and how to stop parenting the child inside of you instead of the child in front of you

About Joe Newman:

Joe Newman is the author of Raising Lions and a behavior specialist with decades of experience working with defiant, strong-willed, and ADHD kids in schools, homes, and clinical settings. His approach combines psychoanalytic theory, cause-and-effect structure, and deep respect for children’s autonomy — and it works where other methods don’t.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

→  Get Raising Lions by Joe Newman

→  Visit Joe’s website — raisinglions.com

→  Joe’s YouTube channel — search “Raising Lions” for video demonstrations of his methods in action

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com/

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who’s exhausted by a strong-willed child and running out of ideas. This conversation has already reached thousands of families — and it deserves to reach thousands more.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do for Your Kid Has Nothing to Do with Discipline15 Jul 202600:28:42

Albiona came into a podcast recording nervous, overprepared, and completely thrown off when the tech collapsed mid-interview. What happened next — what her guest did in that moment — stopped her in her tracks. And it’s the same thing most parents are missing with their kids.

In this solo episode, Albiona shares the story of what Dr. Elisha Goldstein did when everything went wrong, why it moved her so deeply, and how the same principle — helping someone feel truly seen through your own story — is one of the most underused tools in parenting. This one is personal, practical, and worth sharing.

Inside, she explores:

→  What Dr. Goldstein did when the podcast recording fell apart — and why his response was a masterclass in empathy that Albiona couldn’t stop thinking about

→  The difference between expressing empathy and actually helping someone feel seen — and why one lands so much deeper than the other

→  How storytelling from your own life — not advice, not correction — is the thing that softens a child in a hard moment and makes them actually willing to move toward a solution

→  Real examples: the homework battle that stopped repeating the moment Albiona shared her own childhood frustration, and what happened when her son finally felt understood

→  Why kids who don’t feel seen act out more — and how making someone feel seen is one of the most powerful connection tools you have, in parenting and in every relationship

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with someone who needs to hear it — a parent in the middle of a homework battle, a power struggle, or just a season where nothing seems to be landing. Sometimes the shift isn’t a new strategy. It’s a story.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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The Parenting Reframe - Let’s Reframe Reparenting — You Need to Cultivate Your Inner Parent01 Jul 202600:29:03

You can’t go back and redo your childhood. But you can stop unconsciously parenting the child inside of you instead of the child standing in front of you. In this solo episode, Albiona reframes the popular idea of “reparenting” into something more useful, more honest, and a lot more doable.

This one gets personal. Albiona walks through real coaching examples — including a mom who kept over-giving love and attention because that’s what she needed as a child, only to watch her independent, strong-willed daughter resist it every time — to show what it actually looks like to stop healing your own childhood through your kid and start showing up as the steady, regulated parent they need.

Inside, she explores:

→  Why “reparenting” as a redo can quietly turn into a victim complex — and the difference between honoring what was hard and getting stuck blaming it

→  The question to ask yourself in hard parenting moments: am I parenting the child in front of me, or the child inside of me?

→  A real coaching example of a mom who over-gave love and attention to heal her own neglect — and why her free-spirited, independent daughter needed boundaries instead

→  Why a happy child isn’t the measure of good parenting — and how tying your worth as a parent to your child’s emotions sets you both up to struggle

→  How to interrupt default patterns like yelling, shaming, or threatening — and what it actually means to cultivate your own inner parent in the moment it counts

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://albiona.substack.com 

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who keeps wondering why all their love and effort isn’t landing the way they expected. Sometimes the most healing thing we can do isn’t give our kids what we needed — it’s learn to give it to ourselves.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Small Shifts, Big Change: Emotional Regulation for Parents with Dr. Elisha Goldstein24 Jun 202601:04:01

Most parents know what they’re supposed to do in hard moments. Stay calm. Set the boundary. Don’t react. The problem isn’t knowing — it’s being able to access any of that when you’re already in the thick of it. That’s exactly what this episode is about.

Albiona sits down with Dr. Elisha Goldstein — psychologist, mindfulness teacher, and author of Tiny Shifts — to talk about emotional regulation in the ordinary, unglamorous moments of parenting. Not the big overhauls. Not the lengthy routines. The small, doable pivots that actually interrupt reactivity, widen your capacity, and help you show up differently — starting today.

Inside, they explore:

→  What emotional loops are — the should loop, the shame loop, the comparison loop — and why naming them is the first step to breaking out of them

→  Dr. Goldstein’s four R’s method: Recognize, Release, Refocus, Reinforce — and how to use it in real parenting moments, from rude teenagers to morning chaos to your own self-critical spiral

→  Why self-care becomes one more stressor — and how to meet yourself in the moment instead of adding more to your list

→  The two R’s most people skip (Release and Reinforce) and why skipping them is why the method doesn’t stick

→  How a parent’s emotional health directly shapes their child’s ability to regulate — and why working on yourself is the most effective parenting move you can make

About Dr. Elisha Goldstein:

Dr. Elisha Goldstein is a psychologist, mindfulness teacher, and author of several books including Uncovering Happiness and his newest, Tiny Shifts. He has spent more than two decades helping people navigate stress, anxiety, and emotional well-being — and his work sits at the intersection of neuroscience, mindfulness, and practical everyday life.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

→  Get Tiny Shifts by Dr. Elisha Goldstein — available wherever books are sold

→  Visit Dr. Goldstein’s website — elishagoldstein.com

→  Follow Dr. Goldstein on Instagram — @drelishagoldstein

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who knows what they’re supposed to do but can’t get there in the hard moment. That gap between knowing and accessing is exactly what this conversation is about — and it’s more common than anyone talks about.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Play Isn’t a To-Do — It’s the Thing That Makes Everything Else Work, with Dr. Kim Van Dusen10 Jun 202601:04:18

If play feels like one more thing on your list, this episode is going to change that. Albiona sits down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen — registered play therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and author of Parenting Through Play — to talk about what play actually is, why parents have it backwards, and how a more playful approach leads to less defiance, fewer meltdowns, and a home that just feels better.

Dr. Kim brings 20 years of clinical experience and 12 years of parenting into a conversation that is practical, permission-giving, and full of ideas you can use today — even on your most exhausted days.

Inside, they explore:

→  Why most parents misunderstand play — and why the parent who says “play isn’t for me” is actually the one who needs this most

→  The connection between play and behavior: why kids who feel connected through play are more likely to listen, cooperate, and follow through — and what happens when that connection is missing

→  How to handle tantrums, power struggles, and resistant kids using play-based strategies that actually work — including the sand timer trick and how to gamify chores

→  Why independent play matters more than most parents realize — and why boredom is a problem for kids to solve, not parents to fix

→  Practical play ideas for the transitions that drain you most: mealtime, bedtime, morning routines, and getting out the door — without the fight

About Dr. Kim Van Dusen:

Dr. Kim Van Dusen is a registered play therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist with nearly 20 years of clinical experience. She is the author of Parenting Through Play, a research-backed, practical guide that combines play therapy, solution-focused therapy, and PBIS to help parents build deeper connection and better behavior — without the power struggles.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

→  Get Parenting Through Play by Dr. Kim Van Dusen

→  Follow Dr. Kim on Instagram — @theparentologist

→  Visit Dr. Kim’s website — theparentologist.com

→  Listen to The Parentologist Podcast — available wherever you listen to podcasts

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who’s exhausted by the fighting, the resistance, and the constant correcting. Play isn’t the opposite of discipline — it’s what makes discipline work. The more parents hear that, the better.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Rewards Aren’t Bribes — And Anxiety Isn’t the Opposite of Calm20 May 202600:28:07

Two things keep coming up in coaching sessions right now, in household after household, family after family: rewards and kids’ anxiety around trying new things. So Albiona brought it here.

In this solo episode, she breaks down the real problem with how most parents use rewards (it’s not that you’re doing them — it’s how often), and reframes childhood anxiety in a way that actually gives you somewhere to go. Spoiler: the opposite of anxious isn’t calm. It’s self-trust. 

And that changes everything about how you respond.

Inside, she explores:

→  Why rewards work — and exactly where they stop working — including the novelty problem most parents hit two weeks in and what to do instead

→  How to choose the right motivation for your child, why sticker charts fail kids who don’t care about stickers, and how to use time, agency, and choice as rewards that actually land

→  The art of fading: how to gradually pull back rewards so the behavior sticks without the incentive — and why your kids are more resilient than you think

→  Why childhood anxiety isn’t the opposite of calm — it’s the opposite of self-trust — and how that one reframe shifts your entire approach to a kid who freezes, avoids, or shuts down

→  What to stop saying when your child makes a mistake in sports, school, or social situations — and what to do instead to help them get back in and try again

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this one with a parent who’s second-guessing their reward system or watching their kid shut down every time things get hard. These are the conversations that don’t get talked about enough — and the more parents hear them, the less alone they feel.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start13 May 202600:23:57

Inside, she explores:

→  Why a dysregulated parent can’t help a dysregulated child — and what actually has to happen first before any parenting strategy can work

→  The two reasons most parents struggle to stay regulated in hard moments: not being able to access tools when it counts, and not having a plan to follow through on

→  How the PAR method works in real time — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — and what it sounds like with a toddler tantrum versus a teenager who won’t back down

→  Simple regulation tools you can use in the middle of a meltdown, including breathwork, body-based interrupts, and how to name what you’re feeling without fixing it

→  How to build a plan for the predictable hard moments before they happen — so you’re not scrambling, reactive, or white-knuckling your way through it

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this episode with a parent who’s tired of losing their cool and not knowing how to stop. Emotion regulation is one of the most overlooked parenting skills out there — the more this conversation reaches people, the better.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Your Brain Isn’t Broken — It’s Becoming - The Truth About the Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nicole Pensak06 May 202600:52:31

Inside, they explore:

→  What matrescence actually is — the neurocognitive developmental phase of becoming a mother — and why understanding it as an identity shift (not a breakdown) is the reframe new moms need most

→  The full picture of “mom brain”: why the forgetfulness is real, what the research actually shows about cognitive strengths postpartum, and why your brain deserves a lot more credit than it gets

→  How to tell the difference between normal postpartum adjustment and something that warrants support — and why Dr. Nikki’s answer is simpler than you think

→  The “bouncing back” myth: why the goal isn’t to return to who you were, and what it actually looks like to come through this developmental phase better than ever

→  Practical ways partners, family, and support systems can show up — including the single most protective thing a partner can do in the first three months

About Dr. Nicole Pensak:

Dr. Nicole Pensak is a Harvard and Yale-trained clinical psychologist certified in postpartum mental health and the author of Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain. Rattled was awarded Best Book for Parents by Zibby Owens, featured on Reese Witherspoon’s Hello Sunshine and The Bright Side Podcast, and named by Audible as a Most Anticipated Read 2025 in Well-Being. Dr. Pensak serves on the Expert Review Board of Parents Magazine and owns a private practice serving clients in NJ, NY, and 40+ states nationwide.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

→  Get Rattled by Dr. Nicole Pensak (now available in paperback and audiobook)

→  Visit Dr. Nikki’s website — www.drnicoleamoyalpensak.com

→  Follow Dr. Nikki on Instagram — @drnikkipensak

→  Fourth Tri Sanctuary — a postpartum support space for new moms mentioned by Albiona

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share this episode with a new mom, an expecting parent, or anyone in the thick of the fourth trimester. Postpartum anxiety and mom brain are still so misunderstood — the more this conversation travels, the more moms get the support they actually deserve.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Why Kids Don’t Listen — And How to Fix It Without Yelling29 Apr 202600:22:34

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same direction six times, voice rising, before your child finally moves — this episode is for you. The truth is, you don’t have a bad kid. And you’re not a bad parent. What you have is a defective pattern. And patterns can be changed.

In this solo episode, Albiona revisits one of the most downloaded and shared episodes on the show — why kids don’t listen — and goes even deeper with real-life examples, coaching language you can use today, and the mindset shift that makes all the difference.

Inside, she explores:

→  What a “defective pattern” actually is — how kids collect data from their environment to decide when they actually have to listen, and why recognizing this changes everything

→  The repeating cycle most parents are stuck in — and how priming your child ahead of time breaks it without yelling, threats, or emotional spirals

→  The negotiation trap: why strong-willed kids learn to play the odds, how small moments of flexibility accidentally teach them to push limits, and what to do instead

→  Why your action matters more than your words — how to give yourself something clear and followable so you stay regulated when your child tests the new pattern

→  How to identify the pattern you’ve created, name the outcome you actually want, and build a new one — practically, without judgment, and in a way your child will respond to

Connect with Albiona:

→  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe

→  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→  Email Albiona directly — albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who’s in the middle of a power struggle right now — the one who’s exhausted, second-guessing themselves, and just needs to hear that there’s a way through. Patterns are always fixable. And you’ve got this.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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How to Look for Signs & Talk to Kids About Death & Grief with Jenny Robinson Clark25 Mar 202600:39:40

Inside, they explore:

→ The reframe that changes everything: stop saying you "lost" someone—they're not lost, they're on the other side of a very thin veil, still here, still sending signs (and once you start looking, you'll see them everywhere)

→ Why kids are naturally more connected to the other side than adults—and how honest conversations about death (even when we're crying and fumbling through it) prevent the fear of the unknown from taking root the way it did for Jenny as a child

→ The signs Jenny's mom sends: owls, ladybugs, rainbows appearing out of nowhere—and the Costco parking lot story where a stranger tapped Jenny's shoulder to tell her about a ladybug on her back right when she needed her mom most

→ Why grief isn't linear (it comes in waves, and that's okay) and how riding the wave instead of resisting it opens you up to healing and creativity you didn't know you needed—plus the power of sign tracking (the more you pay attention, the more signs show up)

→ The mistake parents make when trying to "perform" the right answer instead of being honest—kids end up carrying the burden alone because they think bringing it up hurts us, so they stop talking about it

Resources & Links:

Connect with Jenny Robinson Clark:

→ Website: www.jennyrobinsonclark.com

→ Instagram: @jennyrobinsonclark

→ Book: Are You Here? (available wherever books are sold and on Jenny's website)

Bio:

Jenny Robinson Clark makes her author debut with Are You Here?, a heartfelt children's book about the magical signs all around us, releasing March 17, 2026. She lives in Nashville with her husband and their four children. A former dancer and actress, Jenny has always been a creative at heart. When she's not writing, she's homeschooling and baking with her kids, taking hip-hop class with her husband, and exploring the outdoors. She believes that when you open your heart, ask for a sign, and are willing to receive, loved ones send messages in the most unexpected ways.

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynn Jackson

→ The Source: The Secrets of the Universe, the Science of the Brain by Tara Swart (neuroscientist's perspective on signs, intuition, and connection after loss)

→ A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

→ Maybe: A Story About the Endless Potential in All of Us by Kobi Yamada (the book gifted to Jenny at the Dr. Joe Dispenza retreat)

→ Dr. Joe Dispenza retreats (linking spirituality and science)

→ Bashar (B-A-S-H-A-R on Instagram) - teachings on reframing "loss"

→ Sign tracking practice: using your phone's notes app to document synchronicities, signs, and moments of connection

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Follow Albiona on TikTok - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent navigating grief with their kids, a mom who lost a parent and doesn't know how to talk about it, or anyone struggling with loss and looking for signs their loved one is still near.

Because here's the truth: death isn't the end. It's just different. Our loved ones are still here, still sending love, still guiding us. We just have to stay open enough to see the signs.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Stop Rescuing Your Kids: How to Build Frustration Tolerance & Resilience18 Mar 202600:21:45

Inside, she explores:

 

→ What stretching is—and why intentionally letting kids struggle through slightly uncomfortable situations builds resilience, frustration tolerance, and confidence (the opposite of helicopter parenting or overprotective parenting)

→ The critical question to ask when kids engage in undesired behavior (transition tantrums, meltdowns, refusal): what skill are they missing that would reduce this behavior's frequency or intensity?

→ How scaffolding works in real life: meeting kids where they are (the task feels too hard, they're overwhelmed) while still stretching them toward mastery—with examples from speech therapy sessions and everyday moments like zipping a coat or handling sibling conflict

→ Why letting kids struggle through hard things without rescuing them is one of the most loving things you can do—and how to support them without fixing it or taking the discomfort away

→ The real-life coaching example: a child making unsafe choices at school and using manipulation ("you're not listening to me!") to avoid consequences—and why the parents had to hold the boundary even when the child was upset, because stretch moments teach kids they have the power to make good choices no matter their environment

→ How to stretch yourself as an adult if you're a people-pleaser or overgiver: setting boundaries with loved ones without over-explaining, saying no without guilt, negotiating your worth, and getting comfortable being uncomfortable—because staying small to keep others comfortable is exhausting

 

Resources & Links:

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

 

→ Scaffolding: meeting kids where they are developmentally while stretching them toward growth and skill-building

→ Life coaching with Albiona (focused on unblocking patterns, setting boundaries, and building resilience for parents and individuals)

 

Connect with Albiona:

 

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Follow Albiona on TikTok - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

 

Loved this episode?

 

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly rescuing their kids from discomfort, a helicopter parent ready to let their child struggle and grow, a people-pleaser who can't say no without guilt, or anyone ready to stop staying small and start stretching into growth.

 

Because the truth is: resilience isn't built in the easy moments. It's built when things feel hard and we do them anyway—and then we realize we're stronger than we thought. And our kids? They're stronger than we give them credit for.

 

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Good Cop Bad Cop Parenting: How to Stop Fighting & Get on the Same Page11 Mar 202600:17:18

Inside, she explores:

 

→ What compensatory parenting is—and why disagreements about parenting styles push you into more extreme versions of yourself (the permissive parent becomes too passive, the harsh parent becomes too critical and controlling)

→ The real-life example: one parent over-explains, talks too much, and eventually gives in when kids protest; the other explodes with punishments that don't fit the crime—and neither is actually responding to what the child needs

→ The simple 3-step framework that works for both parenting styles: state the boundary clearly, express empathy without over-explaining, restate the boundary—then allow the child space to self-regulate

→ How to talk to your partner about co-parenting disagreements without it turning into a fight: come from a place of connection, not correction—stay child-focused, remain open, and ask "where can I give a little and where do you need to give a little?"

→ Why the more consistent and predictable your responses are as a team, the safer your child feels—and how getting on the same page transforms not just your parenting, but your partnership and your home

 

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

 

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step regulation process for managing parenting disagreements)

→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (the reset/break concept for helping kids self-regulate)

 

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

 

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly butting heads with their partner about how to handle meltdowns, a couple stuck in the good cop/bad cop cycle, or anyone who feels like they're parenting alone even when their spouse or partner is right there.

 

Because the truth is: you don't have to parent the exact same way. You just have to stop compensating for each other and start focusing on what your child actually needs. And when you do that—when you parent as a team instead of against each other—everything shifts.

 

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Episode 86: How to Handle Teenage Disrespect & Defiance with Dr. Cam Caswell04 Mar 202601:00:32

Inside, they explore:

→ Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate

→ The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it)

→ Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and why taking away quality time when teens struggle backfires completely

→ How boundaries actually work with strong-willed teens: you can't control what they do, but you CAN control what you do—and that's where your real power lives

→ Why letting them make mistakes (even when you're terrified) builds trust and safety—because the tighter you hold on, the less you're actually able to protect them from poor choices, risky behavior, or shutting you out completely

This episode will challenge every assumption you have about what it means to parent difficult teenagers—and give you the tools to build the kind of relationship where they actually come to you when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell:

→ Website: www.askdrcam.com

→ Instagram: @drcamcaswell (275K+ parent community)

→ Podcast: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam - https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast

→ Parenting Teens Academy (programs and courses for parents) - https://www.askdrcam.com/offers/4LbJPqXt/checkout

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step process)

→ Dr. Will Dobadan's book Kids These Days

→ Dr. Lisa Miller's book The Awakened Brain

→ Kirk Martin (previous guest on The Parenting Reframe)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a defiant teen, a mom who feels like she's losing her kid to attitude and shut-downs, or anyone who's been told their teenager is "just going through a phase" and needs real tools instead of empty reassurance.

Because the truth is: teens aren't the problem. Our outdated beliefs about what they need from us are. And when we shift how we see them, everything changes.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Emotion Regulation vs. Nervous System Regulation18 Feb 202600:31:16

Inside, she explores:

→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)

→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work

→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes

→ The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work

→ Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulate

This episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working."

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ The mantra: "I am safe and so are they"

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting response when they need it most.

Because the truth is: you can't think your way out of a nervous system response. You have to regulate your body first—and then everything else becomes possible.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Parenting the Spicy Ones with Mary Van Geffen11 Feb 202600:44:51

Inside, they explore:

→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity

→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)

→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments

→ The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO)

→ Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connection

This episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Mary Van Geffen:

→ Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook

→ Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts)

→ 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso 

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears")

→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe)

→ The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences)

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who's been told her kid is "too much," or anyone ready to stop pathologizing their child's fire and start doing the inner work instead.

Because the truth is: these kids aren't broken. They're just wired differently. And when we heal ourselves, we get to delight in them exactly as they are.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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The One Fear That Stops Us All—And How to Move Through It04 Feb 202600:24:19

Inside, Albiona explores:

→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love

→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)

→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead

→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough

→ The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth?

Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed.

This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth.

If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth.

We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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Navigating Motherhood with Dr. Gertrude Lyons28 Jan 202601:00:33

Inside, they explore:

 

→ The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been"

→ How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life

→ Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth

→ The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woman whether you have a child or not"

→ How our bodies hold stress and old stories—and what it takes to release them

→ The biggest code to dismantle: "To be a good mom means you put your children first, then your spouse, then work—and you're last"

→ Why there's no "one right way" to mother (and how liberating that truth can be)

→ What self-mothering actually looks like (hint: it doesn't always require money or time—it requires permission)

→ How generational wiring convinces us we don't deserve rest, help, or prioritizing ourselves

→ The travel soccer story: what one mom's "no" taught about triggers, choices, and rewriting family values

→ Why mothering is a process we can all cultivate—whether we're raising children, building businesses, or nurturing creative work

→ How the nervous system shapes the way we show up in relationships (and why regulating it matters)

→ The power of choosing yourself—even when it feels selfish, even when it's uncomfortable

Dr. Lyons also opens up about her own regret for "leaving herself out" during her daughters' teenage years, the doctoral work that led to her book, and why she now leads immersive retreats in Mexico and Ireland to help women flex their self-mothering muscles.

This conversation will make you pause, reflect, and breathe a little deeper. It's for anyone who's ever felt torn between caring for others and caring for themselves—and ready to rewrite the code.

 

Resources & Links:

 

Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons:

→ Website: www.drgertrudelyons.com

→ Instagram: @rewritethemothercode

→ Instagram: @drgertrudelyons

→ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/rewritethemothercode

→ Book: Decoding the Mother Code (available wherever books are sold, including audiobook)

→ TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ9ZF8JKIDY

→ Substack: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://gertrudelyons.substack.com/) 

→ Podcast: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast) 

→ Oprah Daily Article by Kristen McGinnis: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/wholeness/a68888423/self-mothering-reparenting/

→ Complimentary 30-Minute Coaching Discovery Call (for listeners): https://calendly.com/drgertrudelyons/complimentary-free-coaching-session

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Nicole Sachs's work on nervous system regulation and pain

→ Dr. Lyons's immersive experiences and retreats in Mexico and Ireland

 

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

 

Loved this episode?

 

Please rate, review, and share it with a mom who's struggling to prioritize herself, a woman who's questioning her choices, or anyone learning to mother themselves first.
 

We're all unlearning the codes we inherited and discovering what it means to truly care for ourselves—so we can show up whole for everything and everyone we love.

 

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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How to Nurture and Parent Our Ideas and Creativity14 Jan 202601:02:03

Inside, they explore:

→ Why "first build a better box" before thinking outside of it—and how this applies to parenting, business, and creative work

→ The liberating power of "you can have whatever you want, provided you get it for yourself"

→ How Judith's mother gave her permission to be entrepreneurial from childhood (breeding guinea pigs, collecting junk, understanding "the power of the purse")

→ Why trusting your intuition is a skill you can develop—and how it's helped Judith make decisions for 30 years

→ The Kitchen Sink Story: How being baptized over a kitchen sink on a farm led to making Pope Francis laugh

→ What it means to be a "doula for stories"—and how publishing mirrors the parenting process

→ Why releasing attachment to outcome is essential (and how to celebrate milestones along the way)

→ The village it takes to publish a book—and raise a child

→ How to hold the tension between mystery and structure, passion and pragmatism

→ Why aunts and mentors matter more than we celebrate them

→ The physical nature of intuition: goosebumps, tingles, and the 39 senses we forget we have

 

Judith also shares the six questions every HarperOne editor must answer before acquiring a book, her approach to "publishing for the world we want to live in," and why she paints calming animal pictures for mental health on Instagram.

This episode is for you if you're nurturing any kind of creative work—whether that's raising children, building a business, writing a book, or bringing any passion project to life. It's about permission, intuition, structure, and the art of parenting what matters most into the world.

 

Resources & Links:

Connect with Judith: 

→ Instagram: @judithcurr (calming animal art + occasional publishing news) 

→ HarperOne: @harperonebooks 

→ HarperCollins: www.harpercollins.com

 

Mentioned in This Episode: 

→ Girls Write Now: www.girlswritenow.org (mentoring organization for young writers) 

→ Pope Francis's upcoming book: Peace Be With You (February 2026) 

→ The Source by Dr. Tara Swart 

→ The Secret by Rhonda Byrne 

→ The Gut by Julia Enders 

→ Breast Advice by Dr. Liza Port

 

Connect with Albiona: 

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching 

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe 

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

 

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's nurturing a creative project, raising kids, or learning to trust their intuition in business and life.

We're all learning how to parent what matters—with structure, with heart, and with the courage to let it become what it's meant to be.

Until next time, 

Albiona 🤎

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Letting Go Isn't the Hard Part—It's Staying07 Jan 202600:31:28

Inside, Albiona explores:

→ Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments

→ The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider

→ Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it)

→ How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yourself

→ What it looks like to parent yourself back home while parenting your children forward

→ Why discomfort doesn't mean unsafe, and how to ground yourself when everything feels shaky

She also gets honest about her own journey away from perfectionism and achievement, the spaciousness she's choosing in 2026, and why slowing down has become one of her most important practices.

This episode is for you if you've ever set a boundary and then immediately wanted to take it back. If you've felt the pull to adjust, explain, or rescue your child (or yourself) from discomfort. If you know what you need to do but struggle to stay there when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who needs permission to hold their boundaries without needing everyone's approval first.

We're all learning how to stay—in our power, in our knowing, in the slowness—even when it feels uncomfortable.

Until next time,

The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎

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When Your Child is Afraid to Choose (and You Are Too)17 Dec 202500:30:10

Inside, Albiona explores:

  • Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinking
  • What to say when your child spirals after a choice
  • Why avoiding decisions won’t help build confidence
  • Why “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids down
  • How we confuse calm with control—and what to do instead
  • What it looks like to guide without rescuing

She also shares stories from her own classroom teaching days and real coaching conversations with parents—and gets honest about the discomfort that comes with letting our kids struggle a little (while we stay close).

Resources & Links:

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear: it’s okay not to have all the answers.


We’re all learning how to parent others—and ourselves—with more grace and less shame.

 

Until next time,

The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎

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Reimagining Parenthood and Entrepreneurship with Miki Agrawal03 Dec 202500:54:52

From surviving 9/11 to launching multiple category-defining companies, Miki shares how one day shifted her relationship with life, purpose, and doing work that actually matters.

This conversation weaves through:

  • What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle culture
  • How nature is the ultimate parenting teacher
  • Why modern parenthood needs a new paradigm—and how HERO Diapers is leading the charge
  • What she teaches her son about resilience, creativity, and emotional strength
  • The 3 key questions she asks before starting any new idea
  • And how she's learned that true leadership means owning your humanness

Whether you're raising a child, launching a product, or reimagining how you move through the world… this one will stay with you.

Resources & Links:

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Don’t forget to rate, review, and share it with a fellow parent or creative. You never know who’s one reframe away from a massive life shift.

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Book a free discovery call (https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching) to see if 1:1 coaching is your next best step.

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“They Should Know Better!”: What to Do When Tweens & Teens Push Back26 Nov 202500:26:20

If you’re parenting a tween or teen and find yourself thinking,

“They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?”
...this episode is for you.

Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It’s keeping you stuck in a pattern that exhausts everyone involved.

In this episode, Albiona uncovers one of the most common reframes she shares with parents of tweens and teens—and why learning to anchor yourself (instead of arguing back) is the shift that creates real change.

She covers:

  • What to do when your child’s behavior feels deliberate
  • How “they should know better by now” becomes a parenting trap
  • Why many parents escalate with their kids (and how to step out of the spiral)
  • The phrase to stop saying (and what to do instead when emotions run high)
  • How to set boundaries and hold compassion (without giving in again)

Plus:

  • Why overexplaining and lecturing rarely work
  • How small shifts—like setting limits quietly and clearly—change everything
  • A concrete example of how one parent solved morning chaos without yelling

Whether your child is 9 or 16, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of your role as the anchor, not the mirror, when emotions rise.

Resources & Links:

If this episode hit home:

Please subscribe, rate, and review the show. Then send the link to a friend who's struggling with their tween or teen. It might be the exact reframe they needed.

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Raising Strong-Willed Kids Without Losing Your Cool: A Conversation with Kirk Martin19 Nov 202501:09:40
What You’ll Learn
  • Why your child’s defiance isn’t disrespect — it’s communication.
  • How to shift from “fixing your child” to regulating yourself first.
  • The power of posture and tone: why sitting down and lowering your voice changes everything.
  • How to stop over-talking, over-teaching, and over-correcting — and what to do instead.
  • Ways to parent as a team, even when one parent is more reactive.
  • How to reframe strong-willed behavior as a sign of strength and leadership in development.
  • Why connection — not compliance — is the foundation of real discipline.
 Key Takeaways
  • Calm isn’t passive; it’s anchored leadership.
  • Your child’s behavior is not a reflection of your worth.
  • Connection before correction always creates more cooperation.
  • Every strong-willed child is asking: “Can I trust you to stay calm when I’m not?”
 About Kirk Martin
  • Founder of Celebrate Calm and host of The Calm Parenting Podcast
  • Has helped over 1 million families bring peace and connection into their homes
  • Known for his practical tools, humor, and grounded wisdom

👉 Learn more at celebratecalm.com
👉 Follow Kirk on Instagram @calmparentingpodcast

 Continue the Work with Albiona
  • Purchase The PARR Journal — a guided tool to help you pause, acknowledge, respond, and reflect.
  • Join Albiona’s free live PARR Workshop over Zoom when you purchase your journal.
  • Learn more at theparentingreframe.com
  • Follow on Instagram @theparentingreframe

👉 Click here to purchase your journal and save your workshop spot.

 Favorite Quote

“I realized I needed my son to behave so that I could behave. Once I learned to control myself, everything changed.” – 

Kirk Martin

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Stop Overreacting: How to Use the PARR Process to Stay Calm and Connected12 Nov 202500:37:15

In this solo episode, Albiona explores one of the most common parenting struggles — reactivity. Whether you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or feeling guilty after the fact, this episode offers a powerful shift.

Albiona walks you through her four-step PARR Process — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — to help you regulate your emotions, understand your triggers, and respond with more presence and connection.

She also shares how journaling transformed her parenting and how the PARR Journal can help you do the same.

✨ Purchase The PARR Journal and save your spot for Albiona’s free live PARR Workshop over Zoom.

Click here to order your journal and join the workshop.

Follow @theparentingreframe on Instagram or visit theparentingreframe.com to learn more.

Albiona’s email address: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

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The Goodbye Struggle: How to Help Your Child (and Yourself) Separate with Confidence08 Oct 202500:24:59

In this heartfelt solo episode, host Albiona Rakipi dives deep into one of the most common (and emotionally triggering) parenting challenges: separation anxiety. But this isn’t your typical advice—this is a powerful reframe.

You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even when you mean well.

Most importantly, this episode gives you practical, loving strategies to help your child build self-trust, navigate hard feelings, and develop resilience, while giving yourself full permission to live a full, joyful life.

Whether you’re heading to work or heading to dinner with friends, this episode reminds you: your joy is not selfish—it’s vital.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why separation anxiety is not “bad behavior,” but a growth edge
  • The #1 mistake parents make when saying goodbye (and how to fix it)
  • What your child actually needs in those tough emotional moments
  • How to build a "bridge" between separation and safety
  • Why your self-trust is the foundation for your child’s regulation
  • How to reframe “mom guilt” when you choose something just for you
  • The link between predictability and reduced anxiety in kids
  • The critical difference between empathy and enmeshment
  • Real-life scripts and object-leaving strategies to ease transitions
  • Why calm isn’t the opposite of anxiety—self-trust is

Quotes to Remember:

  • “The opposite of anxiety isn’t calm—it’s self-trust.”
  • “Every time you go back in a panic, you’re telling your child they can’t handle hard things.”
  • “Your child doesn’t need you to sacrifice everything—they need you to model wholeness.”
  • “Joy begets joy. When you honor your needs, your kids benefit too.”

Resources Mentioned:

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Consequences vs. Punishments: Why Kids Need Boundaries, Not Fear01 Oct 202500:23:23
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
  • The key differences between consequences and punishments
  • Why kids need consequences to feel safe and learn boundaries
  • How punishments often come from a place of reactivity and dysregulation
  • The role of natural consequences (like forgetting a water bottle) and logical consequences (thoughtful parent responses)
  • Why the boundary itself often is the consequence
  • How to implement breaks/resets (instead of timeouts) to help kids regulate
  • The importance of creating safe struggles to build resilience
  • When redirection works best (and why it backfires with older kids)
  • Scripts and phrases you can use to give your kids autonomy while holding limits
 Resources & Links
  • Explore coaching and parenting support at The Parenting Reframe
  • Book a free discovery call to see if 1:1 coaching is right for your family

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Re-nesting, grief, creativity, and the new audiobook Someday, Now with Tembi Locke24 Sep 202500:56:20

In this warm conversation Tembi and Albiona cover:

  • How From Scratch began — writing personal grief into a story that reaches others, and how that book later became a Netflix limited series. (Simon & Schuster)
  • What “re-nesting” means (replacing the idea of an “empty nest” with a more generative, whole concept) and practical ways parents can prepare emotionally for children leaving home. (People.com)
  • The creative process Tembi uses: listening, journaling, & exploring different art forms; writing as a practice to slow down and make meaning. (tembilocke.com)
  • Concrete ideas listeners can use right away: short daily rituals (15–45 min), journaling prompts, scheduling “pre-planned joy,” somatic self-care, and negotiating new family rhythms like weekly check-ins.
  • A deep look at Someday, Now — why Tembi created an immersive audio experience (ambient Sicily soundscapes plus narration), and what she hopes listeners will feel after they finish it: that there is possibility, love, and room for transformation even in endings. (Audible.com)
Resources & links
  • Tembi Locke — official site / about & book resources. (tembilocke.com)
  • From Scratch — publisher page (Simon & Schuster). (Simon & Schuster)
  • Someday, Now — Simon & Schuster audio page (audio edition/details). (Simon & Schuster)
  • Someday, Now — Audible audio listing/preorder. (Narrated by Tembi Locke; release details & preorder.) (Audible.com)

Tembi Locke on Instagram (announcements & behind-the-scenes). (Instagram)

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Raising Resilient Kids: An Insightful Conversation with Author Dr. Will Dobud10 Sep 202500:58:09
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
  • The inspiration behind Kids These Days and why Dr. Dobud and Dr. Harper felt compelled to write it.
  • The three frameworks of the book: interference, intervention, and ideology—and how they’re shaping modern childhood.
  • Why blaming phones and social media is an oversimplification of a much bigger picture.
  • The concept of digital integration vs. digital interference—and how parents can approach technology more thoughtfully.
  • How to foster resilience and mastery in kids without overstepping or over-fixing.
  • The overlooked power of gratitude, generosity, and noticing what’s working in our kids.
  • Why boundaries paired with empathy create the conditions for true growth.
  • A reframe for parents: shifting from control and fear to presence, connection, and curiosity.
Resources & Links

⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more parents can discover these conversations.

 

 

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Answering Your Most Common Questions20 Aug 202500:31:08

I’m back for another solo episode today after a little bit of a summer break. I gathered some of your most common questions from my workshops, coaching sessions, and social media comments. In this episode I’m walking you through a few of the struggles that share a common thread and giving insight into what makes these things difficult for parents and how to work through them.

Kids Who Don’t Like Losing

  • There are a lot of triggers for parents that come along with having a child who doesn’t like to lose which can cause eggshell parenting.
  • When your child struggles to deal with something like disappointment or frustration, the answer is always that they need to experience it more often.
  • Your reaction to their emotions as a parent is so important. Staying regulated in the moment will help deescalate the situation.
  • Lectures don’t work. You’re helping them learn the life skill of tolerating frustration and managing the emotions that come with the frustration. 

Public Outbursts

  • We sense all of the people in a public situation and it usually feels much more judgmental in our minds than it actually is because of insecurities. 
  • When our ability to parent is tethered to our child’s behavior, it makes things very difficult.
  • Make an action plan and practice getting cooperation at home so your child is prepared when you do a test run in public. 
  • Set your kids up for success so you aren’t trying to complete tasks when they’re already over tired, hungry, etc.

PARR 

  • This was created for anyone who needs to work through managing their own emotions and reactions. 
  • Pausing is an important reminder that we can take the time to slow down and not make rapid fire decisions in the moment.
  • Always reflect on “what does my child need at this moment?” You know your child best and can better understand their needs when you have paused.

When Your Kids Don’t Listen

  • We rely on the idea that if our kids have the knowledge, they will react or behave appropriately. This simply isn’t true because their brains aren’t developed in this way yet.
  • Kids are wondering “what happens when…” and they are curious what the outcome will be on the other side of their behavior. 
  • Once they know the action that is paired with your language is consistent, they will start listening better.
  • We need to remember kids are simple and we usually overcomplicate things.
Resources: 

Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time You Ask Workshop: https://www.theparentingreframe.com/shop/p/getting-your-kids-to-listen-the-first-time-you-ask 

Four Reaction Types Podcast Episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/beyond-good-or-bad-the-3-parental-reaction-blueprints

Schedule a free call about my 1:1 coaching, Reclaim Your Calm - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe 

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Building Your Kids' Tolerance for Frustration02 Jul 202500:16:58

In today’s solo episode, I’m answering your questions about how to ensure we don’t raise entitled kids. This is an important question that many of you have asked me on all my platforms. Being entitled can be a very triggering thing for a lot of parents, especially those that grew up without a lot of wealth. We want to teach our kids a sense of gratitude and caring for others. What it really comes down to is teaching kids the ability to tolerate frustration and deal with an outcome they don’t want. I’m sharing three things you can do at home to help build a tolerance for frustration.

  • Gain the ability to wait
    • Waiting will elicit frustration in kids, but if they want it badly enough, they will wait it out.
    • How often do we quickly accommodate simple tasks for our child when we could weave in a wait time?
    • By doing this, we are delaying gratification.
  • Play a game with your child
    • Make sure you go first and they go second.
    • Find the longest amount of time they can wait, and then allow them to take their turn. 
    • Meet them where they’re at no matter how short the amount of time they can wait is.
  • Let them struggle through a task
    • Kids will often feign an ability to do something on their own even though they’re capable.
    • The whining that happens with a task they don’t want to do is because they can’t tolerate the frustration of struggling with a task.
    • Encourage them to keep trying, assuming you have the time.
Resources: 

Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/

Schedule a free call about my 1:1 coaching, Reclaim Your Calm - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe 

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In Case You Were Wondering: The Creative Process20 Jun 202500:10:02

I get asked all the time about creating content and writing. In this video, I share a few tips on where to start if you don’t consider yourself creative, as well as the three books that changed the way I approach creativity, vulnerability, and fear.

Here are the three books I mentioned:

The Tools and True and False Magic. The Tools is by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels, and True and False Magic is written by Phil Stutz and Elise Loehnen (I spoke with Elise about this book on the podcast; you can listen here).

Awaken Your Genius by Ozan Varol (He is one of my favorite writers)

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron (Morning pages changed my life)

 

If the messages I’m sharing in this series resonate with you, I’d like to dive deeper to help you break free from what's holding you back.

My transformation sessions are designed to help you move through fear, release blocks, and embrace change, guiding you to unleash the greatest version of yourself. Through a unique inner-parenting approach, you'll gain the tools to navigate any adversity.

Email me at albiona@theparentingreframe.com to start your transformative journey.

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Beyond 'Good' or 'Bad': The 3 Parental Reaction Blueprints18 Jun 202500:25:36

In this quick solo episode, I’m talking about a newsletter I wrote on Substack about reaction types. There are many different ways parents can react when their child becomes dysregulated, pushes against a boundary they have set, or throws a tantrum. Many of these reactions are rooted in the ways we were raised by our parents or the experiences we had as we grew up. Today, I’m going to talk about the three reaction types I encounter most frequently during my coaching with parents and working with families, and I'll also provide a bonus reaction type at the end of the episode.

1. Hyper-Reactor or the Punisher 

  • The parent who will go from zero to 100 instantly and doesn’t have the tools to regulate themselves.
  • They feel discomfort because of their child’s reaction to something they don’t like. 
  • This may be rooted in an association from their own childhood, where they didn’t feel safe expressing their own emotions. 
  • Sometimes this can feel like the child is being disrespectful to the parent. 

2. Panicked Parent

  • The parent who knows to control their big emotions around their child who is struggling but they are terribly uncomfortable with the situation.
  • This parent over explains the boundary or tries to justify the decision or offer other choices to make the situation better.
  • This isn’t perceived as a good thing by the dysregulated child, it just feels like more input and they cannot tolerate it. 

3. The Adjustor

  • The parent who is an overthinker and is second guessing their boundaries all the time.
  • When they go to hold a boundary and their child pushes back against it, they make adjustments to their boundary to avoid or stop dysregulation. 
  • This is a band aid approach to parenting because it doesn’t teach kids how to tolerate frustration. 

Bonus Type: Avoidant Parent

  • The parent who doesn’t have a hard time staying calm, but struggles so much to set a boundary, and avoids it at all costs. 
  • They are eggshell parenting and have crafted a perfect environment so their kids don’t have to experience any sort of hardship. 
  • Avoidant parents shut down when their kids become dysregulated.
Resources: 

Substack newsletter - Beyond ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’: The 3 Parental Reaction Blueprints: https://albiona.substack.com/p/beyond-good-or-bad-the-3-parental

PARR Workshop: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/parrworkshop

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe 

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In Case You Were Wondering: How I Process Fear06 Jun 202500:08:33

In the first video of my series, In Case You Were Wondering (This is a video series where I share wisdom and answer the questions I get that aren’t directly related to parenting), I’m tackling the first question most of you ask me: How do you move through fear?

In this 6-minute video, I will help you shift from a fear-based mindset to welcoming more faith and trust into your process.

 What I cover:
  • Growing an audience on social media when it feels daunting
  • Addressing limiting beliefs
  • Making career pivots
  • Taking Chances
  • My two-step process for choosing faith over fear

Enjoy, and feel free to leave a comment or share it with a friend.

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A Conversation with Elise Loehnen30 Apr 202501:01:17

Today on the podcast I’m welcoming back New York Times Bestselling Author Elise Loehnen. If you haven’t listened to the first episode where Elise was on The Parenting Reframe Podcast, it gives a great overview and conversation about her first book, On Our Best Behavior. You can listen to it here: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen

Elise is the author of On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good, True and False Magic, a collaboration with Phil Stutz, and her workbook coming out soon, Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness. There are so many things we talk about in this episode from the creative process to parenting, the social context of her books to the ways women feel in their own bodies, and so much more. It’s always a pleasure to talk with Elise and get her perspective on so many different topics.

Here’s what we talk about with Elise: 

  • Elise’s writing processes and how she uncovers societal norms and expectations through her work.
  • An overview of her book On Our Best Behavior and how society forces women to be inherently good through the lens of the seven deadly sins. 
  • Her companion workbook Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness and how it helps individuals work through their own beliefs and change the negative narratives. 
  • How the stories you tell about yourself are almost always rooted in lack. 
  • What we can learn about compassion and patience from neurodivergent children.
  • Recognizing as parents we need to relinquish control over our children and be a safe place for them to land. 
  • Letting go of micromanaging our kids to allow them to develop their own roadmap to reach their goals.
  • The amount of energy and self monitoring it takes to stay a certain size or weight as a woman and the mental toll it takes over time. 
  • An overview of True and False Magic and how life is an ongoing evolution of feelings and emotions to work through.

Resources: 

Elise’s first Parenting Reframe podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen

Elise’s podcast, “Pulling the Thread”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pulling-the-thread-with-elise-loehnen/id1585015034

On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehavior

True and False Magic: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/778182/true-and-false-magic-by-phil-stutz-with-elise-loehnen/

Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/771811/choosing-wholeness-over-goodness-by-elise-loehnen-and-courtney-smith/

 

For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com

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Anxiety, Stress, and Parenting: A Neuroscientist's Guide to Emotional Well-being09 Apr 202500:51:52

On this week’s episode, I am talking to Dr. Cindy Hovington, founder of The Curious Neuron and the Reflective Parenting podcast. Dr. Hovington is a mom of three and has a doctorate in neuroscience. Her goal is to break down science-backed research on child development and parenting and turn it into applicable advice for parents. She is very passionate about parental well-being as she knows we have to take care of ourselves in order to be able to take care of our children. We discuss tantrums, setting boundaries, and strategies to keep yourself calm while meeting your child’s needs. This is the episode for you if you experience these challenges and want to understand more about the science of parenting.

Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Hovington: 

  • How The Reflective Parenting Club was created to help parents find best practices while effectively managing emotions and stress.
  • Acknowledging when we as parents are not sitting in the most calm emotional space and being able to pause and communicate these feelings to others.
  • Parenting and changing behaviors takes time and does not change overnight.
  • Using boundaries and discipline as a way to teach our kids what to do or not to do in order to set them up for success.
  • Creating awareness around your own physical state can help calm stressful situations.
  • How emotional states and stress can affect the overall state of your home and the way your child reacts in certain situations.
  • Resetting challenging moments throughout your day to create moments of joy.
  • Sharing your emotions with your kids can help create connection and evolve trust.

Resources: 

The Curious Neuron website: https://curiousneuron.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curious_neuron

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/curiousneuron

The Reflective Parent Club: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

Reflective Parenting Podcast: https://curiousneuron.com/podcasts/

 

For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com

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Common Parenting Issues with Joe Newman26 Mar 202501:02:29

Back by popular demand, Joe Newman is here for his third visit to The Parenting Reframe Podcast. Joe Newman was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and has made it his life’s mission to help parents figure out how to “raise lions,” kids who want to do it themselves. His book, Raising Lions, is one of my favorites and a resource I recommend constantly. In this episode, we discuss the biggest issues we are seeing while working with families today. This includes longer discussion about tantrums, and why we don’t completely agree on what to do when your child is having a tantrum. 

 

Here’s what we talk about with Joe: 

  • Why play deprivation is a problem today and why kids need more time to play independently.
  • Kids need to experience struggle in social situations to create change and learn how to better manage their experience on their own. 
  • Providing all the answers for kids takes away an “I do it” moment and creates kids who identify as incapable and want things done for them. 
  • The nature of attachment between parent and child changes over time and the parent has to allow it to happen in an open and supportive way. 
  • How to reframe the negative perception of tantrums and child’s behavior.
  • Why Joe and I disagree about whether or not to hold your child during a tantrum.
  • Using a break as a self regulation tool to help kids get through a difficult moment and become more resilient. 
  • Allowing kids to experience deprivation and challenges on their own without judgment creates more independent, resilient, and happy individuals. 
  • Kids act as scientists to figure out their way around a situation so it’s incredibly important to hold your boundaries. 
  • Practicing holding boundaries at home will make doing it in public easier and reduce your feelings of anxiety in the situation. 

 

Resources:

Joe Newman’s website to set up a consultation or discovery call: https://www.raisinglions.com/

Joe Newman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinglions/

Joe Newman on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinglions1

Raising Lions by Joe Newman: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Lions-Joe-Newman/dp/1453639683/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1686055923&sr=1-1

Raising Lions with Joe Newman podcast episode:  https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/raising-lions-with-joe-newman

A Raising Lions Q+A with Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/a-raising-lions-qa-with-joe-newman

For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com

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The Power Pause with Neha Ruch15 Jan 202500:42:34

In this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of talking with Neha Ruch, the founder of Mother Untitled, the leading platform for ambitious women leaning into family life. A thought leader, writer and speaker on parenting, women, work and identity, Neha established Mother Untitled in 2017 after working for a decade in digital and brand strategy and earning an MBA from Stanford. Her new book, The Power Pause, examines how to take a career pause after having kids and is available now. We discuss how taking a pause in many stages of life has incredible benefits and the different ways it can look for moms.

 

Here’s what we talk about with Neha: 

  • How the question of “What do you do?” has become intertwined in the fabric of who we are as individuals. 
  • Ways to change the language surrounding each chapter of your life to a more expansive view.
  • A career pause makes room to chart out other ways you want to grow personally.
  • How “The Mommy Wars” started and the way the narrative has shifted and become more fluid over time. 
  • The ways the COVID pandemic caused an examination of work and family balance.
  • Tools to consider for a career pause when there are concerns about finances, work/life balance, and household contributions.
  • Shifting the view of taking a step down from a career to gaining a collection of experiences.

 

Resources:

The Power Pause: How to Plan a Career Break After Kids--and Come Back Stronger Than Ever: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Pause-Career-Kids-Stronger/dp/0593716183

Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte: https://www.brigidschulte.com/overwhelmed

Ellse Loehnen podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-40-on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen/

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The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting08 Jan 202500:26:23

Happy 2025! The past year has been really transformative for me personally and professionally and I’m excited for what this new year might bring. I want to thank all of you who take the time to listen to my podcast, read my Substack, or even watch a video clip on TikTok. It’s really affirming to know I’m reaching all of you in some way. 

A few updates for 2025 that I’m excited to share with you:

  • New model for one-on-one coaching: I’m moving to a 12-week model, where you get 12 weekly calls with me. You’ll have me create scripts and plans to use in your home and answer questions as they arise. Only 1 spot is available for January!
  • Group coaching is returning in February! This more affordable option offers the added benefit of gaining support from others in your situation.
  • I’m launching a membership! I’ve been working on a membership and I want to make it as interactive as possible. It will be a hybrid of courses and live video calls. Stay tuned for more information! 

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting

When we adopt a martyr parent mindframe, it doesn’t benefit your children in the way you think it does.

We pride ourselves on being really busy, but when we burn out, what happens to your family? 

A Process to Help Interparent Yourself

  • Parenting is a process full of wisdom and transformation that we can apply to moments in our adult lives like loss and growth. 
  • Using PARR to help us understand what our triggers are and cause us to have big reactions towards our kids. 
  • There’s always something we can change instead of resigning to being too tired or too busy while having a reactionary response. 
  • The five pillars of parenting yourself: master pausing, practice stillness, honoring simplicity, honoring change, trusting your intuition.

Create an Environment Conducive to Connection

  • Showing our kids we are the ones in control of our lives and priorities. 
  • There are moments when we can create meaningful connections with our kids but we need to be present and intentional about it. 
  • It’s healthy for kids to spend time alone, and being mindful of the time we spend with them makes it more impactful. 

Honoring Your Ability to Process Complex Emotions

  • It’s likely many of us learned to suppress or bypass complex emotions due to our upbringing. 
  • Our discomfort when our own kids are having a complex emotion is something very foreign to us so we need to learn how to sit with it instead of trying to change or cover it up. 
  • In moments of dysregulation you can say “I am safe and so are they.” 
Resources: 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call to see if 1:1 coaching is right for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting article: https://albiona.substack.com/p/the-3-pillars-to-connected-parenting?r=dan8y

The Busyness Trap article: https://albiona.substack.com/p/spotting-the-busyness-trap

Self Regulation Workshop Free Download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parents

PARR Workshop Free Download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-parr-workshop-download

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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3 Tips for Raising Strong-Willed Kids13 Nov 202400:19:52

In today's solo minisode I’m talking all about strong-willed kids. I’ve been talking a lot about this in my emails and on my social media lately because I know it’s a topic that many parents struggle with. Strong-willed kids are the ones that I like to call fair fighters - they’re always keeping score and want to make sure everything is right in their world. But this can cause them to easily spiral out of control the second things don’t go their way. I want to share three key points that come up over and over again in one-on-one and group coaching in regards to strong willed kids.

If this episode resonates with you, consider signing up for my group coaching program all about raising strong willed kids and emotional regulation for kids and parents starting November 21! The link to register is in the Resources. 

Does Your Kid Value Approval or Power? 

  • We set up an expectation and kids usually comply.
  • Strong-willed kids don’t seek or value approval from authority or parents. It’s not important enough for them.
  • Instead they value power but they don’t have the capacity to hold all of it. 
  • They try to find out how much power they can have until they start to lose control.
  • Strong-willed kids will then look for an anchor to keep them in a safe state when they start to lose control.

Explanations Don’t Work 

  • We try to give kids the tools and the choices to understand why things are happening. 
  • Explanations don’t deter a strong-willed kid from their actions.
  • An explanation gives information but they are not lacking information. It may be a bigger issue of impulse control, tolerating frustration, sensory overload, or something else.
  • If there is a lack of information, the next time they face something similar the outcome will be different. 
  • Get to the root of what skills they need to develop to reduce the behavior you don’t want to see. 

Self Regulate Yourself

  • It’s incredibly triggering for parents when a strong-willed kid is emotionally out of control. It’s important for the parent to self regulate themselves when the child is unable to.
  • They are looking for someone to be calm in the storm.
  • We have to create a really consistent, predictable structure through boundaries. 
  • This structuring takes time and will take a while to set the expectations and make changes where needed. 
  • Teaching them how to regulate their emotions is an important step to help your child foster their inner free spirit and communicate their needs and emotions.
Resources: 

Sign up for my Group Coaching Program starting November 21: stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/group-coaching-raising-strong-willed-kids-51n42

Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-49-a-raising-lions-q-a-with-joe-newman/

 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

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Parenting on the Same Page30 Oct 202400:21:24

I’m back with another solo episode and I’m giving you a recap of what I discussed in my latest workshop, Parenting on the Same Page. Many people struggle with conflict between their partners inside their homes on a day-to-day basis regarding parenting decisions. While they love and respect each other at the core, the heightened moments of emotion and stress can cause friction between two parents. I’m going to share with you the three tools you can implement today to help get back to parenting as a team.

All Feelings are Welcome. All Behaviors are Not

  • What is the emotion or feeling your child is experiencing? 
  • What is the behavior you don’t want to see? What is the behavior you do want to see?
  • As you are calm and steady as the parent, you set clear boundaries for behavioral expectations.
  • You need a game plan to address these situations and avoid reacting in an escalated way toward your child and each other. 
  • How can you validate the feeling your child is experiencing while still holding your boundary? 
  • How can you lean on each other in these stressful moments to help each other out?
  • When you parent consistently on the same team, you will see a reduction of your child’s challenging behaviors.

Be Reflective of the Language You Use with Each Other

  • Connect, don’t correct.
  • Connective language is focused on yourself, your emotions, and your feelings, and finding a way to connect on a similar level with your partner.
  • Have these discussions in moments of calm so you can both approach the conversation from a regulated place.

A Dysregulated Adult Cannot Help a Dysregulated Child

  • If your immediate reaction is to become dysregulated when your child behaves a certain way, it will not help the situation. 
  • You need to work through what the triggers are that cause you to feel dysregulated in stressful moments. 
  • Using breathing and physical redirection can help you to calm down and pause. 
  • Use PARR to become a more responsive parent.
Resources: 

- I have three one-on-one coaching spots left for 2024! If you sign up for coaching with me, I’m offering a free, 60 minute bonus session called “Optimizing Your Schedule” that helps you create a schedule that works for you and find your balance.

- Dr. Aliza Pressman, The 5 Principles of Parenting: https://draliza.com/ 

- Free Self Regulation Workshop download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parents

 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

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Parenting Toddlers with Dr. Rebekah Diamond16 Oct 202400:50:12

In this episode I have a conversation with my friend, Dr. Rebekah Diamond. She is a pediatrician and the author of two books: Eat, Sleep, Tantrum, Repeat and Parent Like a Pediatrician. Dr. Diamond bridges the worlds of being a pediatrician with being a parent. She adds a lot of great parental insight into many aspects of parenting from the rigid research to the wild west of the internet.  

Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Diamond: 

  • Why the toddler phase is so challenging for so many parents on a daily basis in relation to the advice being given.
  • Parenting advice can be helpful but you can take the pieces that feel good for your own parenting and leave the rest. 
  • Parental efficacy, or parental confidence, will directly translate to positive parenting for your child. 
  • Different parenting styles and how parents can create their own parenting philosophy to tune into what you and your child need.
  • The reasons why toddlers have tantrums and how to navigate these emotional episodes using different strategies.
  • Setting realistic and developmentally appropriate boundaries and consequences for toddlers. 
  • Balancing rewards and external motivators to help toddlers learn about life skills.
  • The importance of a consistent bedtime routine with toddlers and how to implement it in your home.
  • Viewing parenting issues from the stance from whether or not there is an actual problem and determining if you need to take action.
  • Why separation anxiety is developmentally normal in kids and how parents can work through their emotions related to it. 

Resources:

You can find Dr. Diamond on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentlikeapediatrician/?hl=en

Parent Like a Pediatrician: https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Like-Pediatrician-Facts-None/dp/0806541636

Eat, Sleep, Tantrum, Repeat: https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Like-Pediatrician-Facts-None/dp/0806541636

Dr. Shefali podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-54-conscious-parenting-with-dr-shefali/

 

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Five Tenets to Reduce Everyday Stress11 Sep 202400:20:58

In this solo episode, I want to talk to everyone about the ideas of stress and feeling like there’s never enough time. Part of what prompted this topic is the US Surgeon General, Dr. Vivek Murthy, just issued an advisory on parents’ mental health and well-being, citing that many parents feel overwhelmed to the point of not being able to function throughout the day. While parenting can be stressful, there are things we can do to reduce those feelings and get back to feeling more balanced. I want to walk through my five self parenting tenets to get back to your emotional well being and find your inner peace whether you’re a parent who feels overwhelmed or you’re someone who feels like the day gets away from you and you could use some extra time.

Mastering the Pause

  • Where are the moments of reactivity in your life?
  • The more you pause, the less reactive you become and you can reflect on your fears surrounding your child’s behaviors.
  • When you slow down, your child will also be able to slow down. 
  • Overreacting in a moment usually escalates the situation rather than calming it down or stopping it.
  • Pausing helps you stay calm and steady in a stressful moment. 

Practicing Stillness 

  • Stillness does not mean sitting in meditation for a long time.
  • It could be one minute of deep breathing, taking a few minutes to write in a journal, or taking a walk outside.
  • When we practice stillness we are releasing our emotions and thoughts and giving it a space to go. 

Honoring Simplicity

  • Try reframing your perspective to include gratitude when you feel stressed or overwhelmed. 
  • Parenting is full of transient phases - what moment of joy are you missing out on by sitting in stress.
  • How can you shift your schedule or routines to honor your needs rather than add to the irritation?

Embrace Change 

  • Think about where you can embrace change to help take the pressure off of yourself. 
  • There can be a lot of fear around change, but working through that fear can have wonderful outcomes. 

Trusting Your Intuition 

  • The moment you’re in will get better. 
  • Everything will always work out the way it’s supposed to work out.
  • Release the feelings of doubt and trust what your intuition is saying.
 Resources: 

FREE Workshop - Parenting YOURSELF: A personal process to Inner Peace

Wednesday, September 25, 2024 at 12pm EST

https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-workshop-parenting-yourself

 

 

Surgeon General’s Advisory on Parental Stress: https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2024/08/28/us-surgeon-general-issues-advisory-mental-health-well-being-parents.html

 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

 

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

 

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

 

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Tips for Easier Morning Routines28 Aug 202400:19:24

For the topic of this solo episode I polled my audience to see what you wanted to hear about and the answer was unanimous: how to make morning routines easier. The hustle and bustle of back to school season can cause a lot of stress for kids and parents alike. New routines and schedules can be challenging to adapt to but making some small changes can help your family’s morning routines run smoothly right from the start. I have some unconventional tools that I use in my parent coaching to help make your morning and evening routines run more smoothly that I’m excited to share with you. 

When our kids end up making us late: 

  • Being late can be very triggering for parents.
  • When our kids can perceive we are stressed, they end up more stressed as well. 
  • Practice being late while keeping yourself calm.
  • Say to yourself, “I am safe if I am late today.”
  • When you let go of the control and the power struggle to get out the door, things become easier for both you and your kids. 

Put the autonomy back on your child: 

  • This is for kids who waste time doing other things instead of progressing through the morning routine. 
  • The idea was created by Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions.
  • Using your timer or stopwatch, allot a specific number of minutes to a morning task. Any time that your child goes over that allotment is totaled up and taken away at the end of the day from their free time.
  • Always present yourself as “team kid,” not as punitive or that this is a punishment. It’s an opportunity to learn and grow about cause and effect.
  • The child’s behavior changes on the second or third day because they want their free time to be theirs. 

Find out what things you can let go: 

  • Think about all the things that go wrong in the morning from start to finish and decide where you can let go and give them more autonomy. 
  • When we give strong willed kids some independence, they enjoy the feeling that they matter.
  • Giving them a specific task and asking them for help is a great way for them to feel important and get them invested in what you need them to do. 
  • Let go of things that cause struggles like clothing or breakfast choices. 

Give yourself enough time: 

  • Even if your morning routine is taking longer than normal, having extra time will allow you to feel more calm. 
  • You can always shift the time you allot as routines get easier and more fluid throughout the year. 

My upcoming offerings: 

  • Make sure you are signed up for my email list for a free workshop in September all about The Time Conundrum - the feeling we don’t have enough time. We will talk about ruminating on anxious thoughts and the stress of parenting to reframe the way we think about time. My email list will be the first to know about this workshop! 
  • I have opened up spots for my self-parenting program where you’ll get to work one-on-one with me to discover what is in your way to get to where you want to be the most. I give you a step by step plan to know exactly what to do when you start to feel lost, confused, or need a reframe. Three spots are available in September. 

https://theparentingreframe.com/application/

  • I’m still doing child-centered parent coaching and have two spots available in September. If you have trouble with tantrums, behavior issues, or other parenting challenges, reach out! 

https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

 Resources: 

Joe Newman - Raising Lions: https://www.raisinglions.com/about-joe

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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Living an Intentionally Slow Life with Lauryn Laszczak14 Aug 202400:58:39

In today’s episode I get to talk to my dear friend Lauryn Laszczak, someone I consider a soul sister and an incredible woman that has taught me so much. Lauryn (Laz-check) is a Female Founder and Somatic Business Coach for Women. It is her passion to help conscious leaders redefine what “success” looks and feels like by living a slow and intentional life. She's spent the past 14 years building businesses and guiding women into a deeper exploration of themselves and the impact they’re capable of having through their business and slow living. Lauryn lives a slow, intentional, and meaningful life in Metro Detroit, Michigan with her high school sweetheart turned husband, three children and one angel son.


Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infant loss and grief as Lauryn describes her journey through losing her son and learning to heal. 

Here’s what we talk about with Lauryn: 

  • The duality of loving your children on Earth while allowing the space and grace to honor and grieve a child that has been lost. 
  • How grief and joy can coexist in the same place at the same time and how the losses form who we are as individuals.
  • Feelings of shame and guilt many women feel throughout their lives and the ways you can learn to move past those feelings.
  • Giving yourself permission to be still and slow down to cultivate intentionality in your life.
  • How small mindset shifts and moments of consistent changes can help us to find more love, fun, and freedom in our lives.
  • Being still and slowing down can look different for everyone and might include movement, using your voice, or being in certain spaces to enter a place of calm.
  • How slow living forces us to protect our energy and allows our children to match the state we are in.
  • Modeling and communicating boundaries and needs to your children reinforces caring for yourself as well as teaching them important life lessons.

Resources:

You can find Lauryn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iam_lauryn

And at her website: www.laurynlaszczak.com

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The New Coaching Offer I Can’t Stop Talking About!!17 Jul 202400:22:26

I have some really exciting updates to share with you in today’s episode! I’ve been considering new ways to help and serve this community. Most of my life has been working jobs that have been in service to others, as a teacher, a nanny, a speech and language pathologist, and now as a parenting coach. I am excited to tell you what has been happening in my life recently and a brand new coaching offering.  

Life Update:

  • I recently stopped working my conventional 9-5 speech and language pathologist job to focus my energy full time on The Parenting Reframe.
  • While I loved my time at Kaufman Children’s Center, I realized it was time to move forward and pursue coaching and writing.
  • I am so grateful for my time there and for all the people who supported me along the way. I learned so much during my time at Kaufman and wish that everyone could experience a work environment like the one I was a part of for so many years.

A New Coaching Offering:

  • I am excited to announce that I will now be offering life coaching sessions utilizing a parenting process. The process is very specific, and also the topic of my book, which includes 5 critical tenets of living a more peaceful life.
  • These tenets are meant to help you with reparenting, healing, transforming, embarking on a new way of being, and so many other things.
  • This life coaching looks at you as an individual and you do not need to be a parent to work with me as a life coach.
  • In life coaching, I will give you the tools to address these challenges through the lens of parenting. Parenting is a life skill and you can use the processes of parenting to help you through many different life events.
  • What are the ways we can parent ourselves back to a place of peace and joy?
  • You can work with me in two ways: either in a one-time session for a singular burning question or over a longer period of time, where we can work to more deeply transform your life, by identifying the patterns and seeds that keep you stuck.
  • I am only opening four spots for life coaching.
  • You can book a free 20-minute discovery call to find out more about life coaching and if it’s a good fit for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-life-coaching-discovery-call

5 Tenets to Return to a Place of Peace:

  • How to Master the Pause: pausing can change the trajectory of your relationships, your perspective on things, and help you to be less reactive
  • Practicing Stillness: meditation, breathwork, and finding ways to ground yourself help you practice stillness and quieting the noise.
  • Honoring Simplicity: when you recognize what is most important physically and mentally everything gets more clear and you can find an easier way through.
  • Embracing Change: honoring the idea that you need to keep growing, learning, and finding new arenas to challenge yourself.
  • Trusting Your Intuition: when the other four tenets fall into place, you are more able to listen to your intuition and trust yourself.
 Resources: 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call to see if life coaching is right for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-life-coaching-discovery-call

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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My 3 Favorite Pieces of Advice12 Jun 202400:18:45

I’m back with a solo episode for the first time in a little while and I’m talking about the three pieces of parenting advice that I am loving right now. Parenting advice can be tricky because something might really resonate with you at one moment in time, but a year later you can feel completely different about the whole thing. With that in mind, these are three things that have been on my mind in this present moment that I think are not only applicable to parenting but also in life. There is a lot about parenting and life advice that go hand in hand. The way we parent our kids has to be in alignment with the way we parent ourselves, parent through challenges, and parent over the course of ups and downs. Here are the three things I talk about in this episode: 

Slowing Down

  • Creating awareness around the pattern of over filling your schedule and recognizing when it’s happening and why. 
  • Being more intentional about saying yes to things.
  • Slowing down forces you to look at your inner self and what your needs are rather than constantly serving others. 
  • In parenting, slowing down allows us to be more thoughtful and present rather than emotional and reactive. 

Express Empathy Towards Your Kids 

  • Empathy is the ability to sit with another and allow them to express their feeling or emotion without the desire to change it. 
  • Wanting your kids to calm down or change their emotions is not helping them learn the life skill of regulation. 
  • We don’t have to fix or change anything, we can just let it be. Being held by someone who is just listening and supporting is the most comforting thing.

Inviting Moments of Discomfort

  • The real way you learn about ourselves is through struggle. When we are in uncomfortable moments we learn things like resilience and flexibility. 
  • Uncomfortable moments build a foundation of self trust that is an incredible life skill. 
  • You never know what leaning into discomfort might bring your way and what doors might open because of it. 
  • Encouraging your kids to try something that will put them in a slightly uncomfortable situation helps them grow their confidence.
Resources: 

My article about slowing down in parenting: https://theeverymom.com/parenting-coach-wellness-advice/

Listen to the Dr. Shefali podcast episode here: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-54-conscious-parenting-with-dr-shefali/

Elise Loehnen’s podcast episode with Nicole Avant: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/episodes/h1mjtwhv3bo2nddnd6ikmoj8ogsbzf-nkwfb-lpty8

 

 

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