This week Porsha and Chloe bring you the first in a series of episodes focused on going no contact. They chat about how they went no contact and what it means to cut all contact with someone. Support links are below. 

NEW ZEALAND:

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

Healthline – 0800 611 116

Youthline – 0800 376 633

AUSTRALIA.

USA.

UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

CANADA.

WORLDWIDE.

NEW ZEALAND:

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

Healthline – 0800 611 116

Youthline – 0800 376 633

AUSTRALIA.

USA.

UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

CANADA.

WORLDWIDE.

This week Chloe and Porsha keep it lowkey and discuss 2020 - the rollercoaster that it has been, the lows, the highs, and the cats. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

This week Porsha and Chloe discuss tips for the approaching holiday season, whatever - you celebrate don't celebrate! They talk about options for those still in contact, and those who are no contact. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://esteemology.com/give-yourself-a-gift-this-holiday-season-a-lesson-in-no-contact/ https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123773 https://londoncentralcounselling.com/2017/12/05/going-no-contact-family-estrangement-at-christmas-and-other-major-holidays/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pathological-relationships/201011/triggers-and-knee-jerk-reactions-during-the-holidays https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-follow-the-active-no-contact-rule-during-holidays/ https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/why-do-narcissists-always-ruin-the-holidays-here-are-5-reasons https://www.health.com/relationships/how-to-deal-narcissist https://soulgps.medium.com/5-strategies-to-save-your-sanity-when-narcissists-try-to-sabotage-your-holidays-3d7d7dc7af27 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201911/how-deal-gaslighter-or-narcissist-during-the-holidays

This week, Porsha and Chloe are joined by Ellen to discuss what it's like to come into a family with a narcissistic mother at the helm. They talk about normalising what shouldn't be normalised, and Ellen discusses her experiences coming into the family with Chloe and Porsha's narcissistic mother. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

USA:  
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

CANADA: 
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/  

References: 

• https://www.insider.com/signs-of-narcissistic-toxic-parents-in-law-2019-9
  
• https://www.image.ie/life/everyone-thinks-narcissistic-mother-law-amazing-feel-alone-183158
  
• https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/12/how-to-survive-a-narcissistic-mother-in-law/
  

This week on the podcast, Chloe and Porsha discuss the idea of not believing what you experienced was abuse. They talk about the normalisation of abuse and hesitation to label it as such. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.   USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word   UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300   CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References:

This week Chloe and Porsha discuss therapy: what to look for in a therapist, where to look for one, and what the journey was like for them. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References:

This week, Chloe and Porsha answer a few emails from listeners before having a discussion about triggers. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/ https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-triggers-and-coping-strategies-2797557 https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/complex-ptsd-symptoms-behavior-and-treatment/

This week, Chloe and Porsha are discussing codependency. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

USA: 
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

References:

• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201907/narcissists-are-codependent-too#:~:text=Codependency%20is%20a%20disorder%20of,identified%20with%20their%20ideal%20self.
  
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201902/escaping-the-codependent-narcissist-trap
  
• https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/codependency-narcissism-may-have-more-in-common-than-you-think-0807187
  
• https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists/
  
• https://www.whatiscodependency.com/narcissistic-relationships-with-narcissists/
  
• https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-relationship-between-narcissism-and-codependency/
  
• https://go.gale.com/ps/anonymous?id=GALE%7CA539922311&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=15205495&p=AONE&sw=w
  
• Codependence, Narcissism, and Childhood Trauma by Harvey J. Irwin of the University of New England, Australia (accessed through the Open Polytechnic library).
  

This week, Porsha and Chloe answer a listeners question on how to feel strong after going no contact with a narcissistic mother. They discuss coping mechanisms and ways to look after yourself. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

This week, Porsha and Chloe are discussing the trauma bond - similar to Stockholm Syndrome, and tricky to identify. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.   USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word   UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300   CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-recognize-the-signs-of-trauma-bonding/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/addiction-and-recovery/201905/trauma-bonding-codependency-and-narcissistic-abuse https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-steps-to-recovering-from-toxic-trauma-bond-0110175 https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of-codependency/

It's a low-key kind of week this week as Chloe and Porsha have a conversation about controlling the narrative, paranoia, and waxing?! If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

This week, Chloe and Porsha bring you part two of their series on repercussions: the social repercussions of growing up with a narcissistic parent. Support links and references are below. 

Want to shout us a coffee? http://www.ko-fi.com/thenocontactclub

NEW ZEALAND:

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

Healthline – 0800 611 116

Youthline – 0800 376 633

AUSTRALIA.

USA.

UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

CANADA.

WORLDWIDE.

References:

• https://forms.gle/zoeFY9LbDdo7bgyeA
  
• https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/07/09/how-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-damages-your-life-and-self-esteem/amp/

Welcome back to The No Contact Club. This week, Chloe and Porsha discuss the topic of hoovering - the final aspect of the narcissist's cycle - and what it looks like.  If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://www.healthline.com/health/hoovering#:~:text=While%20easy%20to%20confuse%20with,a%20past%20history%20of%20toxicity. https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2019/02/5-reasons-a-narcissist-engages-in-hoovering/ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/hoover-maneuver-the-dirty-secret-of-emotional-abuse-0219154 https://medium.com/@OwnYourReality/hoovering-how-narcissists-try-to-suck-you-back-in-fe46bc380c2c

This week, Porsha and Chloe discuss a further aspect to the narcissist's cycle: the discard.

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

USA: 
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

CANADA: 
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ 

References:

• https://www.insider.com/phrases-narcissists-use-2018-8#:~:text=The%20discard%20phase,found%20someone%20new%20to%20abuse.
  
• https://narcwise.com/2019/02/15/signs-narcissist-preparing-discard/
  
• https://www.businessinsider.com/whether-a-narcissist-discards-someone-permanently-depends-on-3-factors-2017-11?IR=T
  
• https://narcissistabusesupport.com/narcissist-discard-phase-revenge-peace/
  
• https://medium.com/narcissistic-abuse-rehab/why-do-narcissists-discard-their-own-children-f05d10006a2
  
• https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/04/5-manipulation-tactics-narcissistic-parents-use-to-control-their-adult-children/
  
• https://beentheregotout.com/breaking-up-and-the-discard-how-a-narcissist-acts-at-the-end-of-a-relationship/?gclid=CjwKCAjwps75BRAcEiwAEiACMY3DpHZWiXjk7wdzFGNFKMbtUOejDgxF9iKkcPqnt_E4HHH0taTUpRoCPVwQAvD_BwE
  

This week, Chloe and Porsha are talking about the cycle that narcissists use to keep you coming back. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/idealize-devalue-discard-the-dizzying-cycle-of-narcissism-0325154#:~:text=The%20relationship%20cycle%20typical%20of,idealization%2C%20devaluing%2C%20and%20discarding. https://neuroinstincts.com/neuroscience-behind-idealize-devalue-and-discard-rhonda-freeman/ http://narcissist-sociopath-awareness.com/idealize-devalue-discard/ https://fairytaleshadows.com/outsmart-the-narcissist-a-guide-to-breaking-the-idealize-devalue-discard-hoover-cycle/ https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/idolise-devalue-discard-the-3-phases-of-narcissistic-abuse-part-1/

This week Porsha and Chloe are talking about the process of parental alienation, and discuss the impact of this on their lives. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.   Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.   USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word   UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ Resources: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation_syndrome https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/103440478/parental-alienation-like-modern-day-kidnapping https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201304/the-impact-parental-alienation-children http://thefamilymatterscentre.co.nz/parental-alienation/

This week, Porsha and Chloe talk about boundaries: what they are, how to set them, and some examples of someone stepping over your boundaries. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.   Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.   USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word   UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300   CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/narcissism-demystified/202006/7-ways-set-boundaries-narcissistic-people#:~:text=Narcissists%20use%20scrutiny%20or%20intimidation,has%20to%20use%20against%20you. https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202003/3-ways-narcissistic-parent-will-violate-your-boundaries https://narcwise.com/2018/11/03/narcissists-love-boundaries/

This week, Porsha and Chloe discuss the idea of “playing the victim”, being a victim, and taking your power back by becoming a survivor. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/victim-survivor-thriver-trauma-stages/ https://optionb.org/build-resilience/video/from-victim-to-survivor https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/blog/2017/12/moving-victim-survivor https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/unraveling-the-mindset-of-victimhood/

Today, Porsha and Chloe discuss the different ways a narcissistic mother will try and argue, along with a description of the grey rock method for responding to the tactics mentioned. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://www.e-counseling.com/mental-health/what-is-the-grey-rock-method/#:~:text=The%20grey%20rock%20method%20is%20a%20practice%20where%20an%20individual,to%20grow%20uninterested%20and%20bored. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201911/the-price-and-payoff-gray-rock-strategy https://www.purewow.com/wellness/gray-rock-method https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/eating-mindfully/201804/how-survive-narcissistic-mother https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping-when-you-have-a-narcissistic-parent/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202003/3-ways-narcissistic-parent-will-violate-your-boundaries https://pro.psychcentral.com/recovery-expert/2019/08/setting-boundaries-with-a-narcissist/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/06/11-ways-to-set-boundaries-with-narcissists/ https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist#move-on

Porsha is back! Chloe and Porsha discuss alcoholism within the family dynamic and how addiction often co-occurs with narcissism. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below. Help/Support specific to alcoholism: https://bottled-up.com/members/help-and-support-for-families-of-problem-drinkers/?gclid=CjwKCAjw88v3BRBFEiwApwLevTpwBtIXxm09Ad6fihGCYjOHl43eoaGrbzW1dqZDPbHPtdm_67q3mBoCjA8QAvD_BwE https://alcoholdrughelp.org.nz/helpline/ https://www.verywellmind.com/information-for-families-of-alcoholics-63317 https://al-anon.org/ https://theretreatnz.org.nz/ https://www.health.govt.nz/your-health/services-and-support/health-care-services/help-alcohol-and-drug-problems/help-families-whanau-friends https://www.fairview.org/patient-education/84319 Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre . USA: Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ References: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/07/11-ways-narcissists-and-alcoholics-are-similar/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alcoholism_in_family_systems https://openrepository.aut.ac.nz/bitstream/handle/10292/10217/LaurenceK.pdf?sequence=4&isAllowed=y https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/157163#definition

Chloe is solo this week as she reads out some of the emails they've received.

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below.

NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre .

USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

This week, Chloe is joined by her wife Ellen as Porsha is off sick. There's some talk about books and then they get into gaslighting and the different ways it can be used.

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below.

NEW ZEALAND:
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

AUSTRALIA:
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre .

USA:
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

UK:
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

CANADA:
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

References:

• http://www.freefromtoxic.com/2015/05/13/the-4-most-common-narc-sadistic-triangulation-tactics/?fbclid=IwAR2SD4xe7DQv3LX2aoFkMIkEtdWJvFKXrjxlsMzeqlFHwiOytqm18toeZ2s
  
• https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/03/7-gaslighting-phrases-malignant-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-translated/
  
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/basics/gaslighting
  
• https://www.marriage.com/advice/parenting/gaslighting-parents/
  
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201607/why-its-so-hard-see-form-childhood-abuse
  
• https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/327080#short-term-effects
  
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202004/5-things-children-narcissists-wish-you-would-stop-saying
  
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
  

This week, Chloe and Porsha bring you part one in a two-part series on the repercussions of growing up with a narcissistic parent. This week, they discuss the impact on mental health. Support links and references below. TW: Suicide

NEW ZEALAND:

Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

Healthline – 0800 611 116

Youthline – 0800 376 633

AUSTRALIA.

USA.

UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

CANADA.

WORLDWIDE.

References:

• https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/women-narcissistic-parents
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/romance-redux/201609/8-common-long-lasting-effects-narcissistic-parenting
• https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/03/02/adult-children-of-narcissists-face-trauma-induced-health-risks/
• https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/07/09/how-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-damages-your-life-and-self-esteem/#2715d9a42c67
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/insight-is-2020/201405/narcissistic-parents-psychological-effect-their-children
• https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/seeking-support/helping-yourself-and-others/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/parentified-child-of-a-narcissistic-mother-
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/7v7cQgckBaPDrwkqvudIxl?si=bwPXd9NFQpKl93pPUzniQw&dl_branch=1
  

Today, Porsha and Chloe talk about the invisible or lost child, and other roles and behaviours that occur in a family with a narcissistic mother. Special guest from their sister who is also no contact, Bridie. 

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below.

NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre .

USA: Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

References:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rn3xhDni4w4
  
• https://www.outofthestorm.website/dysfunctional-family-roles
  
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flying_monkeys_(popular_psychology)
  
• https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2019/07/narcissists-and-their-flying-monkeys/
  

This week, Porsha and Chloe discuss The Golden Child, another piece of the narcissist's family dynamic. Thank you for the support so far!

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below.

NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre .

USA: Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

References:

• https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2016/05/27/a-golden-childs-story-of-guilt-in-the-narcissistic-family/
  
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rn3xhDni4w4
  

Chloe and Porsha dive deep into what it means to be a scapegoat within the narcissist's family dynamic and talk about their own experiences of being a scapegoat.

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below. 

NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre .

USA: Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ 

References:

• https://www.insider.com/sibling-dynamics-behaviors-narcissistic-families-2019-7
  
• https://www.insider.com/children-of-narcissistic-parents-are-either-favourite-or-scapegoat-2019-1
  
• https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/02/24/the-strength-of-the-scapegoat-in-the-narcissist-familystrength-narcissist-family-scapegoat/
  
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/tech-support/201711/how-narcissistic-parents-scapegoat-their-children
  
  

It’s Chloe and Porsha’s first episode! They introduce themselves, talk about what it was like to go no contact with their narcissistic mother, and discuss their New Zealand accents. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com. If you need support, please see the numbers below. AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre USA: Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

This week Chloe and Porsha talk about motherhood and what to do when your child's grandmother is a narcissist. They speak to children's book author Amy Huber about her experience. Amy's book can be found here. https://www.amazon.com/Bear-Amy-Huber-ebook/dp/B08QRJV2T1/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+bear+amy+huber&qid=1623158588&sr=8-1 Survey: https://forms.gle/nFZZBJbZ91QisLGf7 Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND: Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor. Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP). Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO). Healthline – 0800 611 116 Samaritans – 0800 726 666 Youthline – 0800 376 633 Click here for more NZ based helplines and services. AUSTRALIA: Click here for Australian based helplines and services. USA: Distress &  Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 Click here for more USA based helplines and services. UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 Click here or here for more UK based helplines and services. CANADA: Click here for Canadian based helplines and services. WORLDWIDE: Click here or here for international suicide lines. REFERENCES: https://toxicties.com/narcissistic-grandmother-children/ https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/narcissistic-grandmothers/ https://psychcentral.com/pro/exhausted-woman/2019/01/how-to-deal-with-narcissistic-grandparents#1

This week, Porsha and Chloe talk about pseudomutuality and how the narcissist orchestrates the perfect family facade. We also have a survey for you to fill out if you want to! https://forms.gle/nFZZBJbZ91QisLGf7  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Books mentioned: Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison; Girl A by Abigail Dean; Codependents Guide to the 12 Steps by Melody Beattie. NEW ZEALAND: Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor. Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP). Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO). Healthline – 0800 611 116 Samaritans – 0800 726 666 Youthline – 0800 376 633 Click here for more NZ based helplines and services. AUSTRALIA: Click here for Australian based helplines and services. USA: Distress &  Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 Click here for more USA based helplines and services. UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 Click here or here for more UK based helplines and services. CANADA: Click here for Canadian based helplines and services. WORLDWIDE: Click here or here for international suicide lines. REFERENCES: https://dictionary.apa.org/pseudomutuality https://lovefraud.com/pseudomutuality-in-the-narcissistic-family/ https://www.insider.com/sibling-dynamics-behaviors-narcissistic-families-2019-7 https://www.themadtherapy.com/single-post/2019/03/14/narcissistic-families-the-abuse-tactics https://anchoredabode.com/2019/08/06/the-narcissist-family-structure-scapegoat-golden-child-and-blacksheep/

Welcome back! Oh, how we've missed you all. Thank you for listening to us and thank you for supporting us! AUSTRALIA: Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre USA: Distress &  Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK: Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA: For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ NEW ZEALAND: Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

Welcome to the second episode of 2021. This week, Chloe and Porsha discuss parentification; what it is, and all the negative things that can result from it. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.

USA:  
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

CANADA: 
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

References:

• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parentification#:~:text=Parentification%20is%20the%20process%20of,alienating%20parent's%20emotional%20life.
  
• https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/parentification/
  
• https://theawarenesscentre.com/parentification/
  
• https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2017/10/when-kids-have-to-parent-their-siblings-it-affects-them-for-life/543975/
  
• https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/family-boundaries-and-the-parentified-child/
  
• https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/parentification/
  
• https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-narcissist-parents-psychological-warfare-parentifying_b_59124c7de4b0e070cad709df?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAABFevPPUteVy1HfK_cEWMIeMiByu8L3K9Gxm3t9SNGu9y7Rz3nGMSGyuxENVdFwTI7lYbtylgRBO760P6RxgG6BHiyxuPQ4dMICW4BsNwKf0tcY6BCUbjag3JQFDxXLf7raE3mWsjyozkmBFNpFZzDNKJBl4eA82v_oVeTYZYe22
  
• https://theawarenesscentre.com/narcissistic-parent/
• https://recoveryhelpnow.com/breaking-the-cycle-of-parentification/
  

It's 2021 and TNCC is back! For the first episode of 2021, we are talking about forgiveness. Should you forgive your narcissistic mother? If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. 

Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ 

NEW ZEALAND: 
Lifeline: 0800 543354
Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) 

AUSTRALIA: 
Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. 

USA:  
Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word 

UK: 
Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
Samaritans support network: 116 123
National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 

CANADA: 
For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ 

References: 

• https://medium.com/publishous/do-you-need-to-forgive-your-abuser-to-heal-faf20303be87 
• https://www.ashleyeaster.com/blog/forgiving-doesnt-mean 
• https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-i-dont-use-the-word-forgiveness-in-trauma-therapy-0120164 
• https://www.psychcentral.com/blog/good-daughter/2018/07/should-you-blame-or-forgive-your-narcissistic-difficult-mother https://ragingfemale.com/adult-child-of-a-narcissist/#:~:text=A%20narcissistic%20parent%20can%20twist,parents%20when%20you're%20young https://outofthefog.website/ 
• https://theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com/