Over the years ive worked with many men who say ive been to therapy for years and I need something else. In this episode I dive into: 

• Why talk therapy isn’t always the best therapy for men
• How men and women need different types of therapy
• What sorts of support men need to truly activate their lives.
• What the masculine part of us needs to be fully activated in our lives

If you are ready to commit to transforming you life in a 3 or 6 month container book a discovery call to explore how we could work together Book here

In this episode I dive into Mens relationship with our cocks and why this is such a fundamental part of our journey into manhood:

- How having a healthy relationship with our cocks is key to 'feeling' like a man

- How the disconnection from your cocks, leads to addiction to sex, porn and impacts our relationship with women.

- How developing healthy relationship with our cocks leads to healthier, happier sex lives and healthier societies for everyone.

If you are interested in working on your relationship with your sexuality and fully stepping into your full potential as a man I have 1:1 Mentoring containers where you will emerge a changed man.

Book a free 60 min discovery call here https://NiallGraham.as.me/?appointmentType=70653012

You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/_niall_graham_/

Sacred Sons have become a very well known and International Mens movement, that are bringing in alot of new people to Mens work, they are really putting themselves out there knowing that this work needs to be seen.

 

This is is a short review of my experience on the weekend. How I believe the mens movement is evolving. How ritual Combat, Embodiment and Brotherhood are key pieces of masculinity that are not being addressed and that ultimately the only way out of this mess is for men to do their work together. We got our selves into this mess and I believe it is conscious men who will also get us out of this mess.

 

This was a transformative and Informative weekend for me. Thank you to Jason Mac, Kale, Andrew, Micheal, Peter and Jack. and all the team who made this possible. 

This comes from a long journey of self discovery, of trying to avoid my own toxic masculinity and deeper more fucked up parts of me, I escaped and aspired to the feminine, a place of love, connection and flow. The place I was told I should be.

But over the years I realised that I needed to deal with my own masculine for my feminine to truly come online. As far as im concerned it was the masculine that got us into this mess and it is the masculine that must get us out. This is the work of being conscious men, doing the deep work through our unconscious toxicity so we can emerge as beautiful, present men who hold the feminine with protection, sacredness and beauty.

An Introduction to my Podcast and also looking at the fundamental teachings that I offer. Looking at the relationship between the missing piece in culture of Descent and eastern concept of Hara and how they are related in this framework of finding deeper consciousness within us.

Michaela is the Founder of Rooted Feminine Wellness, caring for Womb, Sexual & reproductive vitality. She is also Co Facilitating the Path of Sacred Kingship with myself in Sep as we lead men into integrating both their internal Masculine and Feminine. 

In this multilayered podcast we dive through:

- Women the womb and sacred centre

- Health impact on women being disconnected from their wombs

- How men can support women through understanding her cycles

- Dynamics between men and women in relationship and how we can support eachother.

- The reason why the Feminine has been eradicated from society.

 

You can check out Michaelas work here:

Website: https://rootedfemininewellness.com/

Instagram: @rootedfemininewellness

 

The Path of Sacred Kingship a journey to support men to integrate both their Masculine and Feminine aspects starts on 2nd Sep. 

Check out the full details here:

The Path of Sacred Kingship

If you feel ready to join us on this journey book a free discovery call:

https://NiallGraham.as.me/?appointmentType=65264110

 

 

#10 Mythology, Masculinity & Meaning with André Adri-Soejoko

 

André Adri-Soejoko is a mens work facilitator based in Cornwall. He is Co-Founder of First Men an international community of men rewilding, reclaiming and remembering through wild nature connection based in England.

 

In this podcast we went deep into mens work:

 

• Mens work in the context of nature and the elements
• The necessity of cursing and blessing
• And the double father wound

 

André is such a generous soul with his words and his vision and I so hope you enjoy this podcast.

 

If you are wanting to connect in with André and the work of First Men, check them out here.

 

Website: https://firstmen.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/firstmen.uk/

As men, we are needing to connect to the feminine. But what does this actually mean and how we can we do this? In this podcast I cover the subjects of: - Ascension and descension spirituality - Womb and Hara consciousness. If you are wanting to check out anymore of my work you can check me out on Instagram   / _niall_graham_  

Cherazade is a Somatic Womb Therapist based in Hawaii.

In this episode we go deeply into the feminine mysteries, healing and womb/hara. We go deeply into subjects such as:

- The 3 energetic gateways for women

- The womb and the 4 directions

- Circumcision and masculinity

- Pornography and its impact on men.

This was such a deep conversation and really highlighted the sacredness of who we are as humans.

If you are interested in knowing more about Cherazade and her work check out:

Website: https://www.sovereignwombalchemy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sovereignwombalchemy/

If you are interested in joining The Embodied Masculine Membership Area. you can sign up here.

The Embodied Masculine

 

In this episode I look at how a lot of men have ended up emotionally immature. What is the impact on our lives and the people around us and how do we move towards becoming more mature men. I also look at the nuances of the Irish male and the impact on his emotional awareness and maturity.

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In this episode I welcome on a very good friend and work colleague of mine Jenny O'Hare who is a deep ecologist living in the west of Ireland.

In this podcast we delve into this deep subject of Belonging. How it is a fundamental need in life to feel like we belong. We also look at the culture of Ireland and our relationship with this country, both the beauty of living here and also the difficulty with the history and trauma which is still viscerally present.

Jenny and I hold a retreat twice a year In Donegal where we delve into this subject and look to see how we can foster this sense of belonging with ourselves, with others and the natural world around us.

Belonging Retreat 20-22nd Oct 23

You can find Jenny on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/a.tree.called.life/

and Niall on Instgram

https://www.instagram.com/_niall_graham_/

Men have gathered in communities of men for centuries. Most tribes or communities will have Mens Lodges where men gather and do sacred work.

In this podcast I dive into the necessity of men coming together. How it supports us as men and how it supports us to show up better for our women and communities. Mens work is also essential at this time when the masculine is being attacked as being domineering, patriarchal, controlling and repressing of women, it is essential for us as men to the work together to break down our own internalised patriarchy and emerge having integrated fully our healthy masculine.

If you are interested in this work and would like to join a community of conscious men who meet weekly online. Check out the Fir Na Tíre Mens Community here. We are opening our doors for new men 23rd Mar.

Fir Na Tíre Online Mens Community

In this episode I discuss what is the Patriarchy and unhealthy masculinity and introduce the idea that it is necessary to reclaim healthy masculinity to be able to step out of our current paradigm. I talk about how as a culture our reaction to the patriarchy led us into a state of disempowerment and how it is necessary to now do the deep work of reclaiming our healthy masculine for the sake of ourselves and our culture.

 

The people pleaser is so common in modern society. 'Nice guys,' 'yes men,' but ultimately spineless and lack of balls. On the surface he is agreeable and approachable but underneath he is hiding a resentment because he knows he is not showing up as himself in the world.

 

In this episode I go fully into this people pleaser, I cover: 

 

- What is a people pleaser?

- What is his origin story? Where does he come from?

- How does being a people pleaser hold us back in life.

- Learn 3 steps you can take to move away from the people pleaser.

 

Mentioned in this episode:

 

Overcoming the Nice guy Weekend Retreat 28th-30th March, Bru Moyturra, Sligo Details & Booking

Want to work 1:1? Book a discovery call

 

In this episode I share a personal story of a breakdown I had when I was 20. 

Breakdowns or mental disorders are often stigmatized and pathologised in society, which leads people to miss the gifts that these breakdowns may hold. How would it be to see breakdowns as an essential part of life?

 

In this podcast I go into:

• The full story of this breakdown, context and how I navigated my way through
• How a mentor helped me reframe this breakdown to see it in a different light
• How can we learn to work with breakdowns to spiral into new ways of being in the world?

 

Overcoming the Nice Guy retreat 28-30th March, Sligo More info

 

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Disclaimer: I am not a qualified therapist, this podcast is designed to share my story to hopefully destigmatise mental health a little. Although I navigated this time mostly on my own I would not recommend this.

If you are struggling  with a mental disorder or are a danger to yourself or others it is important to reach out to mental health organisation for support. There are many organisations who can support. 

This Episode im joined by Angie Twydall Founder of The Sanctuary of Sophia, a sacred space dedicated to offering womb and hara training, trauma-aware teachings, and transformative retreats.

Her extensive background includes roles as a yoga teacher, doula, beekeeper, and priestess, reflecting her deep commitment to holistic well-being and spiritual growth.   This was such a deep conversation and a deep invitation for men to step into full selves as grail knights, protectors of women and the land.   We covered:

• Womb/hara as our inner authority
• Awakening the energetic bodies of Men & Women
• The grail gates of the male body
• The severance between heart and womb/hara
• Its time for men to lay down our swords and embrace our sensitivity

I feel like both men and women will get so much out of this conversation.

If you are interested in signing up to The Grail Knights - Healing the Wastelands beginning 21st March click here for full details

Other ways to connect with Angies work:

📧 info@sanctuaryofsophia.co.uk 🌐 www.sanctuaryofsophia.com 📞 07715 561576 📷 Instagram: @sanctuary_of_sophia 📘 Facebook: Sanctuary of Sophia ▶️ YouTube: Sanctuary of Sophia

 

Nialls work:

If you are interested in embodying more of your power and male presence and becoming more embodied in your masculine frame join us for Overcoming the nice guy 28th-30th March. Earlybird ends Fri 28th Feb

Think I can help you? Book in for a chat here

Niall

 

 

In this weeks episode I dive deeply into anger.

Anger is a pivotal emotion to master for men. Often we have a bad relationship with anger and haven't learned the skills to navigate anger without either going into collapse to avoid anger or going into reaction where we get taken over by anger.

In this episode I dive deeply into:

- What are the ways we have developed a negative relationship with anger.

- How anger is normally protecting a vulnerable or hurt part of us.

- The 2 most common ways we handle anger, collapse and reaction.

- Learning ways to healthily express and how we can build capacity to hold anger without denying it or acting from it.

Overcoming the nice guy weekend retreat - If you are wanting to learn the skills of navigating anger in a healthier way Overcoming the nice guy is a weekend retreat where we build these skills and competencies 28th-30th March in Sligo Booking

FirMná Also FirMná a project to heal the relationship between men and women is active now on Instagram you can follow the work on Instagram here

As always if you are needing any support or feel I can help you feel free to reach out here niall.graham@hotmail.com

 

As men we cannot step into full maturity until we develop deep relationship with our inner child. He must feel safe and protected for us to be able to step into full maturity, otherwise we will experience reactivity, shutdown and real difficulty in romantic relationships.

 

In this solo podcast I discuss:

 

• 3 ways you can help regulate this inner child
• How tending to the inner child becomes the foundation of building a lives that we want
• How its not only important to love our inner child but also that he feels safe.

Want to step more into your maturity as a man? 

1:1 Mentoring - If you are ready to bring this inner child home and integrated into you my 1:1 work builds deep safety and relationship with the inner child so that you can start building a life instead of struggling and shutdown. Book a free discovery call here.

 

Fir Mná weekend Immersion. Men & Womens work in Wicklow in June Full details here

The battle of the sexes is such a big issue in culture. Women not feeling safe or protected in society and men feeling unsure of how to step up for fear of being judged or critiscised. This is not a new story but it is a story being talked about more and what we can do about it. In this podcast Michaela and I dive headlong into this subject.

We Cover:

- What are the origin stories of this divide between men & women?

- What are the hurts, fears and projections men and women have about eachother?

- What do men & women actually want in relationship?

- How we can become allies and start to do this healing together.

 

Unity | A FREE workshop for men & women | Wed 30th April 7-9pm - Rebuilding trust and deep connection between men & women. Register here

Fir Mná Weekend Immersion | 26th-29th June | Wicklow - Full details and booking for this Immersion here

Michaela - If you are interested in connecting more with Michaela you can check out her work here

Many men end up trapped the spirit realms, avoiding emotions and rationalizing our way through life because many spiritual teachings support this. 

At some point we realize we are disconnected from life and the only way through is to descend into soul and the feminine realms of life, emotions and body.

 

In this podcast I go into:

- How our unprocessed childhood traumas lead us to disconnect, or escape to spirit realms

- The impact of not being connected to the body and emotions

- The cultural imprint on men of suppressing feelings and interacting with the world from a rational perspective

- How to embrace both the sprit and soul realms for a balanced life.

 

1:1 Mentoring - If you relate to any of the topics in this podcast and are wanting support to deepen into yourself. Set up a discovery call here to see if I can help you.

Fir Mná - you can check out Fir Mná on Instagram here

We are natural beings connected to nature and the cycles. When we can align with the natural cycles of life we get more done with much more ease.

 

In this podcast I cover:

• How following natural cycles leads to more productivity and less overwhelm.
• The value of creating structure, containers and intentional spaces for deep work and creativity.
• Stop procrastinating and start working towards your goal & purpose today!
• Seeing how our modern attitudes of hustle culture and working are not natural and actually counterproductive to our health and productivity.
• How fully committing and deepening into a task is deeply fulfilling for us.

 

If you found this podcast helpful please share with someone that you feel may benefit.

 

If you are feeling you want to ignite your passion and energy for life and feel like you need a bit of guidance to support you on this path I offer 3 & 6 month containers to support you in all areas of your life. These are deeply transformative containers that completely change you as a man.

Book in a discovery call here to discuss how I can support you.

 

Blue Zones - The Ultradian cycle graph

 

My guest on the show this week is Catherine Hale is a nervous system coach and founder of Culture of Care Training, helping changemakers, coaches, and leaders unlock their potential through trauma-informed facilitation.

With over a decade of experience, she guides people into deeper authenticity and resilience, weaving personal healing with collective cultural repair.

In this episode we dive deep into:

• The transformative power of nervous system regulation for emotional healing.
• The pervasive impact of shame on self-perception and relationships.
• The importance of doing personal work outside of relationships to access emotions.
• The role of collective healing in dismantling oppressive social systems.

More info on Catherine:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherinehaleuk/

Website: https://catherinehale.co.uk/

Field Facilitator Training Online: https://www.the-field.com/online

 

Niall:

Framework of Wholeness: https://youtu.be/RMcHWViy_FU

 

Shame is one of the most powerful emotions we carry. It keeps us small, disconnected, and afraid to show up as who we truly are.

In this episode, I reveal the 4 levels of shame:

Cultural – The legacy of being Irish and colonized.

Religious & Childhood – Wounds from the church and school.

Masculine – The fear of stepping up as a man.

Inherited – The ancestral weight passed down through generations.

 

Shame is an aspect of a greater framework that I teach. If you would like to know more click the link below 

A Contemporary Framework for Wholeness 

We hear this question being echoed in society, a calling forth of a different type of man. But often we do not look at the greater cultural shifts that have left men confused about how what it actually means to be a man, we have lost the traditional roles and now there is a new man needing to emerge.

In this podcast I dive into what is shifting in culture and that a different type of man needs to emerge now. We are being called by women and society to level up as men.

I cover:

- This difficulty and confusion we are faced with as men in todays society

- How many of us have abandoned our masculinity because of the backlash against men

- How men give up their own power to feel safe and acceptable

- How the rising and healing of women is calling us into being greater men

 

There is a new era of man emerging, who is not only deep within himself but he has worked through his wounds around the feminine and women. This man lives beyond the narratives of culture and lives by his own rules. 

There are a few men who have done some work and realise there is more to go. If this is you setup a chat here to see how my method of working with men is changing peoples lives and relationships. Book here

 

 

Many men have the experience ‘I feel like im living in my head.’ Yes we are functional and getting by but there is an underlying restlessness or stuckness. Getting into the body and facing the reasons we have become disembodied supports us to become grounded and open men feeling connected to life.

 

In this podcast I go into:

 

• Why ‘the longest journey a man can take is to his heart,’ is only half the story.
• How trauma and childhood sets us up for living in our heads
• 3 levels of consciousness, head, heart, Hara
• Steps to becoming more embodied.

 

Grounding and co-regulation practice here

 

Interested in doing this work 1:1? Book a call

We have been lead to believe that as an individual we can gain personal power but it is becoming clear that we as men are intimately linked to much greater forces from our past and society that directly impact our sense of personal power.

In this podacst i go into the reasons why even though men have done so much personal work they are still feeling disempowered, stuck and like they cannot move forward in life. I look at the 4 main reasons around my personal journe yof empowerment you may not be aware of:

 

• The influence of religion on mens empowerment
• Non-seperation from mother
• Colonial trauma
• Financial/energetic authority

Ready to do this work?

If you are ready to face all of you including your ancestral and familial traumas to emerge whole able to build the life you want contact me and we can have a short conversation if i can help you here

This is beautiful conversation with my good friend and elder Robin Botley. He has been involved in Mens work for over 25 years. A member of both Mankind Project and one of the founding Members of A Band of Brothers. His wisdom is both rich a deeply touching as he shares the journey of his life.

In this podcast we cover:

- How Wounds are a pathway of learning about who we are

- The impact of not having elders in the world

- How having a Mission & Vision is essential for men

- Asking the deepest question - 'Who am I?'

 

If you are a man and are ready to do this work recognise the need for a guide on this journey I run 3 & 6 month programmes leading men from Boyhood stepping into their full Manhood. Book a free call here to see how I can support you. 

 

If you’ve ever felt like men are changing… but not fast enough — this episode is for you. The relationship & expectations between men & women is changing rapidly.

Women are no longer willing to carry emotional immaturity in a relationship. They’re asking for men who are present, responsible, and emotionally available… and for a lot of men, that feels almost impossible — not because they don’t care, but because they were never taught how.

Today I’m joined by Hugh Newton — a man who’s been in the trenches of men’s work for over two decades. I first met Hugh nearly ten years ago during my own initiation with the Mankind Project. He also works with A Celebration of Being an organisation supporting men & women together.

He’s also the founder of The Sovereign’s Journey — and in this conversation we go deep into

- Why so many men live in survival mode

- Why the “hero” path eventually burns us out

-What it actually takes to move into sovereignty — where love, leadership, and real partnership become possible.

If you’re a man who wants to show up better… or a woman who wants to understand what’s happening beneath the surface — I genuinely think this one matters.

 

Info on Hugh:

Website: https://www.thesovereignsjourney.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hugh_newton/?hl=en

 

For details on Mens Leadership Programme click here

   

Ianto Doyle is a men’s work facilitator, coach, and one of the founders of Journeyman UK—the UK branch of an international rites-of-passage movement for teenage boys. With roots in the Mankind Project, Ianto has spent decades creating spaces where boys and men can drop the mask, meet their truth, and be welcomed into mature masculinity through challenge, blessing, and authentic connection.

He’s also the founder of Life Intelligence, a coaching philosophy that asks one question at the heart of every decision: is this life-enhancing or life-destroying? Ianto’s work weaves personal healing with right relationship to community, culture, and the living world—grounded, practical, and deeply values-led.

We are also joined by my good friend Robin Botley an Elder with over 30 years experience in mens work. This is a great conversation with decades of experience between these 2 wonderful men. I hope you enjoy.

In the podcast we cover:

1. Lineage & belonging — the mystery of ancestry, identity, and where “home” really is.

2. Father wound & repair — authoritarian fathers, unresolved grief, and healing without “having it out.”

3. Rites of passage & mentoring boys — Journeyman UK, initiation, and why boys need socially-activated manhood.

4. Men, women & culture wars — the medicine of wise women, misandry/misogyny, and rebuilding community as the answer.

Ianto Doyle - If you are interested in Ianto and the work he does you can check out this website here

1:1 Mentoring - if you feel I can help you on your journey of becoming a man setup a conversation here Book a call

Over the past six months many men have come to me saying the same thing: “My relationship is falling apart… and I don’t know what to do.”

In this episode, I dive into why relationships are breaking down for men, why our best efforts often aren’t enough, and how cultural and inherited wounds shape the way Irish men show up in love.

I break down the emotional skills women actually need from us, the hidden shame we carry, and why relationship is both the hardest and most transformative arena of a man’s life.

This episode is a roadmap for men who want to stop collapsing, stop performing, and start becoming emotionally grounded, capable partners.

I cover:

- The impact of the absent or emotionally shutdown father

- 7 essential qualities women need from men today

- How childhood wounds and nervous system patterns show up in adult intimacy

- Why relationship can’t be our therapy—and what men must do instead

If you enjoyed this podcast please share it with someone struggling in relationship.

Info & bookings for (re)Claiming Desire & Reframing Rejection Day retreat

Want to deepen your relationship? To discuss how I can help you book a discovery call here

 

 

Michael Ryan is a Yoga and Breathwork teacher with over 20 years experience. In recent years his work has focussed on guiding men towards a deeper sense of purpose. 

He creates safe, powerful spaces for men to explore emotional awareness, strength and authenticity. He leads with grounded presence, helping men reconnect to what truly matters.

In this podcast we cover:

- The weight and heaviness of what we hold as men in Ireland

- Creating safety within as a key to navigating trauma

- Healing the father wound by choosing to heal and change

- the Important role of Rites of passage for young men.

 

More info on Michael:

Nature of Man website: www.natureorman.ie

Michaels personal website: www.michaelryan.yoga

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelryan_thewayhome/

 

More info on Niall:

Discover how I can help you: book a call

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_niall_graham_/