These 8 pieces of advice will change your college experience.

In this episode, Mel is sharing the most impactful and insightful advice for all college students.

Think of it as a freshman year survival guide.

And if you’re a parent of a college student, this episode is one that you’re going to want to share and listen to with your kid.

Mel is sharing advice on:

• How to handle drinking and hookup culture 
• Why you need to stop clinging to your high school friends
• How to take responsibility for your own experience and manage the ups and downs of this new season of life 
• How to navigate change and uncertainty
• Understanding what is happening to your body and brain during the first month of college
• What you really learn from college and why it’s not all about studying

This episode is the cheat sheet for how to navigate college (and any major life change), so grab your pen and paper because class is in session. 

For another personal episode on navigating your 20’s, check this out next: 13 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s

Connect with Mel:

• Get Mel’s new free 26-page workbook, What Do You Really Want, to finally answer that question and redefine your future. 
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Once you learn these 7 lessons, you will never be the same. 

Today, Mel is sharing the profound wisdom that she learned while hiking on the Appalachian Trail. 

In this deeply personal, relatable, and entertaining episode, Mel walks you through how you can use these insights to improve your relationships, find perspective, change your mindset, and keep your cool even in moments of high stress. 

By the end of this episode, you are going to feel inspired to take on new challenges and climb to the next level in your life. 

For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this episode, you’ll love listening to this one next, which is a recent fan favorite: 8 Realistic Healthy Habits That Make a Huge Difference

Connect with Mel:

• Get Mel’s new free 26-page workbook, What Do You Really Want, to finally answer that question and redefine your future.
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Follow Mel on Instagram 
• The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram
• Mel's TikTok 
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This one episode will change how you think about your entire life – and what comes after life ends. 

You are going to learn how to let death, the regrets of the dying, and near death experiences shape your life.

Joining Mel today in this deeply profound and moving episode is Dr. Zach Bush, MD.

Dr. Zach is a triple board certified physician specializing in hospice care, internal medicine, and endocrinology. He is one of the most compelling medical minds currently working to improve our understanding of human and environmental health.

He is here today to share his wisdom and insights from his extensive experience working with people near death and being with them during the dying process as a hospice physician. 

Dr. Zach is also going to share what he calls the “science of the soul” and the powerful lessons you can learn from near death experiences. He even reveals for the first time ever, his own powerful near death experience and how that has shaped his life.

What you learn today will forever change you. 

For more resources, including links to learn more about Dr. Zach Bush and his work, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this profound and science-backed episode, you’ll love listening to this episode next with Harvard’s Dr. Robert Waldinger: What Makes a Good Life? Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness

Connect with Mel:

• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Go deeper with Mel’s free video course, Make It Happen
• Follow Mel on Instagram 
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In today’s episode, prepare to open your mind to larger possibilities and amazing capabilities that you already have.

I am sitting down with intuitive psychic medium Kim Russo, who is here to share her gift and tell you how you can get in touch with your intuitive gift, too.

I first learned about Kim from Oprah Winfrey and immediately knew I needed to get her on the talk show I hosted. What happened next changed my entire life.

When Kim was just a child, she realized she could see people who’d passed away, and nobody else was seeing them. After years of denying it, she decided to lean into her incredible skill. A skill she says you have too.

If you’ve ever sensed somebody’s with you, you’re right. Kim says we travel with two or three loved ones at all times. Have you ever had that little voice in your head or gut feeling about something? Kim says that your loved ones are trying to guide you.

This episode is remarkable because you are not only going to learn how Kim tapped into her abilities, but you'll also learn how you can tap into yours.

Kim has helped MILLIONS tune into their innate intuition by teaching them to quiet their minds and listen to their inner voice to figure out the next step.

Are you skeptical? I was, too.

Until she gave me a message from my dead father-in-law. It is the reason I sold my Boston home after 26 years and moved to southern Vermont. She changed my life forever.

What Kim will teach you is invaluable; you will learn:

• What intuition is—and it’s not crazy woo-woo stuff.
• Why that little voice in your head is actually right—and you need to listen to it.
• The simple but powerful lessons she learned from those who have passed over will make your shoulders relax instantly.
• That every soul on this planet has a purpose, and how to find out what yours is.
• What the brain-heart connection is and how it instantly gives you the information you need right now.
• That you have souls supporting you from the other side, and how to connect with them.

Kim will show you why and how we must open up our minds and hearts to new possibilities and use the guidance of our loved ones to navigate life.

You just have to listen.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 2:00: Hearing this might change your life.
• 4:30: The mind-blowing session with Kim Russo that still gives me chills.
• 6:40: Nobody knew we’d been discussing a move to Vermont.
• 8:50: Now we live in an entirely new state because I trusted in the guidance.
• 11:20: What is an intuitive psychic medium and why doesn’t Kim like that title?
• 16:15: Kim knew something was different about her from a young age.
• 22:50: This news Kim shared felt really comforting to me.
• 28:25: Kim was a “normal mortal” until she did this.
• 33:20: What should you do if you think you have a psychic gift?
• 39:00: You’ve had an experience where you were a “medium in the moment”.
• 41:15: How do you tap into this kind of energy?
• 45:25: What the heck is a ‘soul contract’?
• 47:40: A powerful question to ask yourself when making a big decision.
• 49:30: The three biggest life lessons Kim says you need to hear.
• 52:10: Two things people can do to develop their intuition.
• 57:20: Try this cool experiment on your own to prove how intuitive you are.
• 59:10: That night in the pouring rain with the owl was a spiritual experience.
• 1:04:20: Is being an empath a form of mediumship?
• 1:05:30: Do you get anxiety that comes out of nowhere? This might be why.
• 1:07:00: You have a field of energy around you. (Scientists call it a biofield.)
• 1:10:25: How do you “read” other people?

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In today’s episode, author and entrepreneur Lorenzo Lewis tells you the amazing story of how he is changing the lives of over 3 million people a year.

His story is so inspiring, and I wanted you to meet Lorenzo because I know he’ll inspire you to think bigger about making a difference in your community or the world at large.

Lorenzo had no funding, influence, or experience. He just had a simple idea and a very big heart. And that’s all you need to make the world a better place.

When Lorenzo was born, the odds were already stacked against him: his mother gave birth to him while she was in jail. His father died in prison. He was raised by his aunt and uncle. As a child, he struggled with anger, anxiety, and depression and was labeled a problem.

You’ll hear about the defining moment when Lorenzo made the decision to turn his life around. He graduated from college and started working in health and human services. That was where, at the age of 24, he had an idea about creating a mental health movement that is now changing millions of lives.

“The Confess Project” was born. 

Lorenzo’s nonprofit trains barbers and beauticians to be mental health advocates for the men, women, and children who are sitting in their chairs.

Now 3,000 mental health advocates across the country are changing the lives of over 3 million people a year.

It’s an absolutely incredible story.

Today, you will learn:

• The incredible solution Lorenzo thought of to make therapy accessible and easy for underserved and represented communities.
• How to give yourself permission to pursue that big idea.
• The revolutionary Harvard study that explains why you feel so comfortable telling your hairdresser about everything.
• Why you have all the power and tools you need to make a difference.
• How working from home has increased loneliness (and why you feel like you have nobody to talk to).
• The 4 things you can say to someone who is having a bad day (steal this from Lorenzo’s playbook).
• Why now is the right time to take action on that project you are thinking about.

I can’t wait for you to meet, learn from, and be inspired by Lorenzo.

His story is proof that it’s never too late to change your own life and that when you see a problem you want to solve, lean into it.

You’ll not only help other people; you’ll surprise yourself with how much of a difference you can make.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 2:30: 60% of us don’t fully trust this, so we avoid it altogether.
• 5:40: How do you start a nonprofit when you have no idea how?
• 11:00: Black-owned hair shops are an integral part of black communities.
• 14:30: Lorenzo’s is on a mission to close the vulnerability gap.
• 17:20: Anxiety may not always look the way you think it does.
• 19:45: Kids get labeled as bad behavior instead of treating mental health.
• 26:15: A child who does not feel warmth from the village will burn it down.
• 29:50: Unmet mental health needs are sometimes expressed as anger.
• 35:50: The moment Lorenzo proved that he keeps his word.
• 39:20: Stories of people not being supported mentally and emotionally.
• 42:45: When your therapist doesn’t look like you, it’s a barrier to connection.
• 44:20: I still remember when Ed Mylett said this to me.
• 46:20: So how do you come up with an idea that’s never been done before?
• 48:20: How do you get men to admit they need professional help?
• 52:00: What does it mean to be vulnerable and why is that important?
• 53:40: When your nonprofit starts reaching 1 million people!
• 54:00: The 4-Part therapeutic formula of The Confess Project we can all use.
• 56:40: Let’s role model what it looks like to sit in the barber chair.
• 60:20: The surprising Harvard research that drove this nonprofit's mission.
• 64:00: Examples of the impact The Confess Project has had on communities.
• 68:30: When you believe in your dream and you make it happen.
• 70:15: Two powerful stories from two barbers who saved two lives.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast.

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing the “6 magic words” that I say to myself on repeat whenever I start to spiral.

I call them “magic” because they seem to have an almost spell-like effect on me when I say them out loud.

I’ve shared these 6 magic words with millions of people online, and today you’re going to learn what they are and how to use them to your advantage.

If you're a worrier, an overthinker, or struggle with anxiety, you’ll love these 6 words.

You can use them like a tool to stop yourself from worrying, obsessing, catastrophizing, and creating problems in your mind that don’t exist in the present moment.

These 6 words are rooted in behavioral science, psychology, stoicism, and even Buddhism. In fact, I’m going to share a fantastic metaphor to make this even more visual and easy to understand and apply in your life.

You will also learn:

• How to use my 6-word phrase to interrupt your worries and self-doubt.
• The question you can ask yourself to beat fear with logic.
• A beautiful Buddhist teaching that will empower you to stop torturing yourself mentally.
• A shocking study about how stressful thoughts cause you real pain.
• What “positive ideation” is and why you need to use it the next time you start to spiral.
• What the data says about your worries (my jaw was on the floor).
• Exactly how to train your brain to be more optimistic.

Bottom line: You have the power to quiet anxious thoughts and to stop the endless loop of worries that run through your head.

You just need the 6 magic words I’m about to teach you right now.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

0:44: I’ve got something I want to confess to you.

4:46: What is the ONE thing we all do?

5:13: You are creating worry and stress in your life. This is exactly how to stop.

6:49: How to use my 6-word phrase to interrupt your worries and self-doubt.

9:18: The question you can ask yourself to beat fear with logic.

12:10: A beautiful Buddhist teaching that will empower you to stop torturing yourself.

13:46: Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. Listen to this.

16:16: Assuming the worst is doing this to your nervous system.

18:39: What would your life be like if you didn’t worry about…anything?

21:38: This is exactly how to break the habit of chronic worry.

24:55: The shocking connection between catastrophizing and your ability to focus.

31:06: Wait until you hear how stressful thoughts cause you real pain.

34:06: How do you start living to your fullest potential once and for all?

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast.

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In today’s episode, we are trying something new, and absolutely anything goes. You’ve been flooding my inbox with questions, problems, sticky situations, and big, big dreams and goals.

So today, because you asked, I am going to show up and deliver the hard truth, the surprising advice, the tricks to get you out of any pickle, and the inspiration that you need to take that next step.

Nothing is off the table. So don’t f***ing blame me when I tell you how it is. 

I’ve got a pile of hundreds and thousands of YOUR questions, and I’m giving you the coaching you need.

This might be my favorite episode I ever recorded.

We are going to cover:

• When it’s time to walk away from a friendship (hint: when these 2 things disappear).
• How it’s about damn time you stop dating for potential.
• How to use the ‘Let Them Theory’ to protect your energy.
• ONE tool you need to make decisions without overthinking.
• What’s keeping you from getting a raise or promotion, and more importantly, what should you do to get it.
• How to get someone you love to go to therapy (and when it’s time to walk away).
• Why a mid-life crisis is actually your greatest opportunity.

Oh, and we will cover my favorite swear word for the season (I can’t write it here, so you’ll have to listen).

You will laugh with me in this episode, and you will also get advice you need to hear. 

But don’t blame me if it is TMI—you asked for it!

Xo, Mel

P.S. If any little ones are listening, put those headphones on!

In this episode:

• 1:40: How do you know when to walk away from a friendship?
• 9:00: How do you make decisions without overthinking?
• 10:20: How do women negotiate a fair salary with a boss?
• 11:55: Mel, what were your dreams when you were a girl?
• 14:40: How do you get someone to go to therapy when they need it?
• 25:50: How can you be vulnerable with word vomiting everything?
• 26:30: Mel, what’s your favorite swear word?
• 28:20: You need to hear the advice I give about the BS of a ‘mid-life crisis’.
• 30:50: Betsy’s husband is missing out on life, and she needs help.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at https://melrobbins.com/podcast.

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In this episode, researcher, respected expert on intermittent fasting, and bestselling author of Fast Like A Girl, Dr. Mindy Pelz, is here to explain fasting—and, in particular, how it impacts women’s hormone health.

Men and women’s hormones are different, and because of that, women MUST fast differently than men.

Dr. Mindy is the first person who explained this to me, and this is why I wanted to have her on.

I had no idea that fasting would screw up my estrogen and progesterone. Why? Because I first learned about fasting from a male.

When I tried intermittent fasting, I wasn’t seeing the health benefits that everyone talks about. Now I know why.

You’ve seen fasting advice trending on TikTok and in health articles; even your friends are talking about it (just like mine), and after this episode you will know exactly what fasting is, why you might want to do it, and what every woman needs to know to get started.

I want you to get the right information from a respected female expert in this field.

Everyone needs to hear this. 

This conversation is loaded with research and resources, and as always, extensive show notes are available on melrobbins.com. You can find them for this episode here. (www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-103)

Today, Dr. Mindy Pelz reveals:

• The scientific protocols you need so you can fast the right way.
• How to fast with your 28- to 30-day cycle for hormonal, physical, and mental health (and what to do if you’ve lost your cycle, like me).
• The hormone science about how the female body operates (no one talks about this).
• How to manage PMS and why intermittent fasting may help.
• The research that explains why fasting tanks your progesterone
• How this relates to you if you are in menopause and have an irregular cycle.
• What the 30-day reset is, and its powerful ability to transform your health.
• How to incorporate fasting into your life (and never miss a good meal with your family and friends).
• Why coffee doesn’t break a fast, but a frappuccino does.
• 3 hacks to get started with a fast that will make your fasts more successful.
• The 6 fasting windows and their unique and extraordinary health benefits.

We are going to focus on the step-by-step guide for women, what to do, and why this matters, but we do cover fasting protocols and how-to advice that both genders need to know.

I learned so much from Dr. Mindy, and as with all episodes, this is a free resource where you get to learn straight from somebody who has literally written the book on this topic. 

I would definitely send this to absolutely anyone that needs to hear it.

Xo, Mel 

IMPORTANT: This podcast discusses fasting, and its advice may not be suitable for anyone with an eating disorder. If you have an existing health condition, are pregnant or nursing, or are taking medication, always consult your healthcare practitioner before going for prolonged periods without eating.

In this episode:

• 1:30: What exactly IS fasting and what is the purpose? (Hint: It’s NOT a diet trend.)
• 5:45: What does fasting look like for a PhD who studies fasting?
• 7:15: What’s okay to include during your fasting window?
• 8:15: 3 simple hacks to help you get started with fasting.
• 13:00: Who is fasting NOT for?
• 16:10 Here’s how you may feel when you first try fasting.
• 17:50: Women need to fast differently than men.
• 18:45: How your hormones are impacted by intermittent fasting.
• 25:00: Why most women were not successful when fasting was first introduced.
• 30:15: How do you figure out your menstrual cycle if you use an IUD?
• 34:20: Menopausal women can use the moon for what?
• 38:50: 4 steps to determine which of the 6 types of fasting works best for you.
• 42:00: How to make intermittent fasting more flexible.
• 45:00: Limit these 3 foods when you’re fasting.
• 47:50: 4 ways to break a fast.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast.

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In this episode, renowned holistic health expert and intermittent fasting devotee Dr. Mindy Pelz is here to explain the 101 of fasting for better health. You’ll learn the empowering science behind why it works and how it can help you achieve so many health goals.

Dr. Mindy is fascinated by our body’s ability to "heal itself" and how fasting protocols can activate some remarkable results based on extensive research studies.

If you’re tired of diets that leave you feeling like sh*t, health improvements that cost money, or just hate feeling out of control of your body, this is the one zero-cost tool that could have a significant impact on your health.

Dr. Mindy is on a mission to help people understand and harness their healing abilities through fasting. And today, she’s told all the Olympic athletes, Academy Award-winning actors, and Silicon Valley CEOs that she works with to step aside because she’s got an appointment with someone more important: you.

This episode is a guide to 6 recommended and researched fasting protocols. You’ll learn about each one and how they unleash your body’s natural ability to heal itself, reset the gut, and even get rid of damaged cells in the body. 

Dr. Mindy breaks it all down with significant research, stories, and shocking statistics. 

She’ll teach you:

• What fasting even is and why it’s different from a "diet".
• The 6 different fasting protocols and their researched-backed benefits.
• The 3 easiest ways to start fasting at any point.
• What the two energy systems in your body are and how fasting helps you tap into both.
• What is biologically happening when you follow a fasting protocol?
• What Keto really stands for and why the term "Keto-friendly" can’t be trusted.
• The 9 cellular healing benefits of fasting and how it can help cure disease.
• The fasting protocol that will help you lose belly fat (for good).

I can’t wait for you to learn from Dr. Mindy about this free tool that may just be what you’ve been looking for. Get ready to feel empowered.

Xo, Mel

IMPORTANT: This podcast discusses fasting, and its advice may not be suitable for anyone with an eating disorder. If you have an existing health condition, are pregnant or nursing, or are taking medication, always consult your healthcare practitioner before going for prolonged periods without eating.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 4:40: According to the research, what does fasting do?
• 5:30: Here’s why fasting is such a passion for Dr. Mindy Pelz.
• 7:20: So how does fasting work exactly?
• 10:00: Our bodies have two energy systems, but we only use one.
• 12:15: What is autophagy and why should I care?
• 14:00: When your body isn’t making ketones, you’re missing a key component of health.
• 17:30: The surprising places most of the fasting research comes from.
• 20:40: Science recommends intermittent fasting as a first line of treatment.
• 21:45: This is why fasting is NOT a dieting trend.
• 25:00: Here’s how fasting melts calories, no matter what you eat.
• 28:20: Got cravings? This is where they come from and how you can control them.
• 31:00: Ignore “keto-friendly” marketing; eat this food instead.
• 33:00: Fasting is not for pregnant and nursing women, or people with eating disorders.
• 35:10: What about my coffee?
• 37:15: Describing the 6 different types of fasting.
• 39:50: I want to make this idea of fasting easy for you.
• 45:40: When your body makes a ketone, it also makes the calming GABA hormone.
• 48:00: Let’s unpack autophagy and who exactly that is for.
• 54:40: How do intestinal stem cells make a difference to your health?
• 55:35: Is it even safe to fast for 36 hours, and why on earth do I want to do that?
• 58:30: Feeling anxious? Give this type of intermittent fasting a try.
• 60:30: Research found that fasting chemo patients had healthier white blood cells.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast.

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Lately, I’ve been getting a ton of questions from listeners about how to best support high schoolers and 20-somethings. There are lots of questions about anxiety, peer pressure, and getting young adults to open up. 

So, in this episode, I have a pile of your questions in front of me as my son, Oakley, and I go through them rapid-fire style, so you get both of our perspectives on the topics everyone worries about but is too afraid to talk about.

I have to say, Oakley really showed up for this conversation for you. He has hilarious and heartfelt thoughts on topics he has first-hand experience with. 

We cover it all. From academic pressure to body image to bullying, this conversation is full of tools and strategies and is raw, unfiltered, and filled with relatable stories (and only a few f-bombs).

You will learn:

• What teens and 20-somethings really need (and don’t need) from their parents.
• (If you only get one thing from this episode, make it this…) How to encourage the young men in your life to open up.
• The ONLY thing you need to do when your young adults come home in a bad mood.
• How to get unhooked from toxic popularity and cliques and find your people in school or in life.
• 3 smart strategies to use when your child is getting bullied that will strengthen your bond with your kid.
• An 18-year-old's surprising take on when to give your kid a cellphone.
• The must-use hacks for introverts who want to be more confident in school.
• How to get your kid to do chores (and still like you).
• Strategies for handling your kid’s anxiety without yelling or freaking out.
• The best way to navigate curfews and late-night parties with your teen.

I can’t wait for you to hear this. I loved the questions and the advice. And as a mom, I couldn’t be more proud of Oak for how much wisdom he shared.

I’d love for you to listen with your teens and 20-somethings. In fact, at the end of the episode, Oakley gives specific advice (including exactly what to say) to get your kids to listen. 

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 1:20: Why is it so hard to get my teen to open up to me?
• 4:00: Your kids need quiet time at these two times of the day.
• 7:22: Here’s what to say to start a conversation with your child.
• 9:30: How should your kids handle clique groups?
• 11:00: How can you tell who "your" people are?
• 12:15: Three strategies to help your kid deal with hurtful behaviors.
• 17:30: What teens need (and don’t need) from their parents.
• 21:45: At what age do you think your teen should have a phone?
• 23:30: My high school senior has no idea what she wants to major in.
• 26:00: Two best hacks for introverted teens everywhere.
• 28:45: How can you help your kids find their friends?
• 34:00: My teen is a senior in high school, but he still has chores at home.
• 36:30: Oakley gives you a peek into his own anxiety to help your anxious teen.
• 41:20: How do you reassure your kid when he’s dyslexic?
• 42:45: The gold-standard tutoring program we used to help Oakley with his dyslexia.
• 44:20: Two simple hacks that have made a big difference for Oakley in school.
• 45:30: The two qualities I think of first when it comes to curfews.
• 47:00: Here was my #1 desire for my Vermont home when it came to my kids.
• 49:40: I literally sat Oakley’s friends down and laid down two rules for hanging out.
• 52:40: So how do you get your teen to listen to this interview?

Want more resources? Go to my podcast resource page at melrobbins.com/podcast.

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In today’s episode, I welcome back KC Davis, therapist, and bestselling author.

The episode before this featured her relatable, hilarious, and breakthrough ideas about everything from laundry to loading a dishwasher and giving yourself the freaking break that you deserve.

That episode was so insanely popular, we moved this up in the queue. 

The verdict is in.

You love KC Davis. So today she's answering your deeply personal and surprising questions. 

In just 50 minutes, KC’s genius hacks and smart approach to everyday tasks will not only help you manage your to-do list, but give you back the time to rest without feeling guilty. 

She also reveals the single most helpful item you can bring to someone when they are going through a very difficult time.

You ask the questions and she's giving you the step-by-step plan. She covers so much it’s hard to summarize, but here is my best attempt:

• The shocking truth about “getting everything done”
• Why you need to stop saying you’re fine - you’re BETTER than fine
• How to divide chores at home (yes, there is a right way!)
• Her “Fair Rest” rule for couples
• 7 genius tips to build momentum (stop waiting for motivation)
• The ONE thing to do for a family or friend who is struggling with grief or depression (don’t cook them a meal)
• Her unique take on self-compassion that will leave you in action
• How to maximize your free time so you can finally start that project (you know, that one you keep thinking about) or collapse on the couch and do nothing

Steal her scripts and her hacks. 

You asked for more time with KC Davis, and we delivered. 

Thanks for sharing this with all your friends and family that need it. 

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:00: What does the research say about motivation?
• 4:00: Let’s unpack what happens when you have ZERO motivation.
• 8:20: Shame causes paralysis, so cultivate this emotion instead.
• 10:30: Here’s how to look at your home when you have chronic illness.
• 13:20: Let’s role play what to do when you feel overwhelmed.
• 14:50: Here’s what KC wants every parent of an autistic child to hear.
• 19:00: Hate how you look and feel? This best-friend advice is for you.
• 21:00: Can we please take a look at your closet and do this?
• 25:50: Wait, self-esteem is overrated? Here’s what to focus on instead.
• 27:45: Our hustle culture makes us feel guilty about doing this one essential thing.
• 31:15:The one question to ask yourself that will give you the break you deserve.
• 35:00: Feeling guilty about using paper plates? You need to hear this.
• 37:00: Reframing how you divide labor in your home will change everything.
• 44:20: What’s your response when your partner doesn’t meet your expectations?
• 47:15: The greatest gift I ever received during my postpartum depression.
• 48:40: How can you help someone really struggling?

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com.

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In today’s episode, best-selling author and therapist KC Davis answers the question, "How can you be successful in many areas of your life but fall short on getting the laundry, dishes, or grocery shopping done?"

Which begs the question: why are all the "little tasks" so hard?!

Because when it’s time to get them done, they don’t "feel" so little.

KC’s advice, breakthrough ideas, and research will make you realize you’re not the only one who feels like you’re drowning.

And her compassionate, hilarious approach and simple tools will help you take better care of your home and yourself immediately.

If you’ve ever said:

Why can’t I get it all done?

Why does everyone else do this without a struggle, and I am FAILING?

I should really have my act together….

All the answers you need are in this episode.

And if you (or someone you love) is having a moment where even taking a shower or brushing your teeth feels like climbing Mount Everest, KC Davis is an angel sent from the heavens to lift you up.

This is one of my favorite conversations of all time. It’s so wide-ranging in topics and deeply relatable, laugh-out-loud funny, poignant, and actionable.

Talking to KC is like having an old friend show up at your house with a mug of tea, a mop, and a casserole you can stick in the fridge.

There are so many life-changing realizations that will restore your sanity—and the functionality of your home—that this is only Part One of your time with KC and me.

Today’s episode will change your entire life. You will learn:

• A shocking approach to laundry and anything else in life that changes everything. (This one is so goooood!)
• 3 rules for self-care made simple
• A 5-step tidying method that will improve your life
• A genius trick for when the dishes or laundry are piled sky-high
• KC’s "momentum-building trick" that will make your brain work for you
• Making relaxation your right, not your reward
• Leveraging self-compassion as a motivational tool
• KC’s favorite phrase to say when she feels overwhelmed

My mission today is to prove to you that if you don’t have your sh*t together, you aren’t broken. You’re just like the rest of us – you’re human.  

Get ready to laugh and learn as I confess the details of what a disaster I am at home, as we go step-by-step with instructions and affirmations for an empowering and gentle journey to a functioning space.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3:30: Why is it sometimes so hard to do even the small things?
• 5:30: This is why you feel so much guilt when you’re not getting it all done.
• 9:15: Your disappointment in yourself goes so much deeper than chores.
• 10:30: Here’s what your piles of laundry say about you. OR don’t.
• 21:30: I confess; this is the only time I’m motivated to do laundry.
• 23:00: Who knew what a WIN it was every time you make it to the shower?
• 35:00: Here’s how brushing your teeth can creep up on you in insidious ways.
• 37:30: Research shows that drowning in shame arrests our psychological functioning.
• 41:45: Alternatives to showers when you just don’t have it in you.
• 45:00: How can you make your space calm?
• 48:00: This reframe of your household chores will change your life.
• 51:00: Ditch the guilt and shame when you realize you didn’t sign up for this.
• 52:30: Here’s why emptying the dishwasher is way worse than loading it.
• 54:00: KC found a system for her laundry and that changed everything.
• 57:00: Here’s a new way to look at tasks when every task feels monumental.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com.

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You need to hear today’s episode. 

I have something profound to share with you. It is a deeply personal message, straight from my heart to yours. 

This is not a pep talk. It’s not a motivational speech. This is a goddamn wake-up call. 

Your life is like a melting ice cube. 

Your excuses are endless, but time isn’t. 

Stop waiting for the perfect time. 

Stop waiting to feel ready.

While you’ve been full of excuses, waiting for someday to come, time has been passing you by.

So, if you’re sick of standing still or talking yourself out of the changes you want to make and the goals you dream of achieving, this one's for you.

My mission is to make today the someday you’ve been waiting for.

This is the coaching you need.

And you need to hear it right now.

 

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 3:30: Can you relate to Cathy’s self-doubt?
• 6:15: If you hear anything today, let it be this.
• 10:55: This is how you actually reach your goals.
• 12:35: Worried about what others will think of you? Listen to this.
• 13:25: Steps 1 and 2 when you have a dream you want to make REAL.
• 15:00: Stop wasting your time and energy on this.
• 18:20: Frozen because you don’t have experience?
• 23:00: Is your schedule already full? Switch your mindset this way.
• 28:40: I told myself the very same excuses you do!
• 32:30: Filling your time with things that have nothing to do with your goals?
• 34:00: How do you start focusing on yourself once and for all?

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com.

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Today, you are getting Mel’s favorite science-backed hacks for more confidence, productivity, concentration, and peace. 

In this episode, Mel is teaching you how you can boost your mood and transform your mind using the tool of music. 

First, Mel will reveal the songs you need to listen to starting today that will instantly reset your mood, change your mindset, and leave you feeling in awe of life. 

Then, she will also give you the specific types of sound and music you can use daily to instantly prime your brain for learning, unmatched productivity, and even healing. 

This episode is fun, surprising, and packed with practical tips you can start using right away. 

Throughout the episode, Mel shares many of her favorite playlists, including ones for energy, focus, and healing. She has curated these playlists for you. Click here for them. 

If you liked this episode, you’ll love listening to this episode next: How to Build the Life You Want: Timeless Wisdom for More Happiness & Purpose

Connect with Mel:

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In today’s episode, you and I are discussing the fascinating science of secrets: why you keep them and how keeping secrets directly impacts your relationships, your self-esteem, your health, and holds you back from living the life you deserve.

Dr. Michael Slepian is a bestselling author, psychologist, associate professor of leadership and ethics at Columbia Business School, and former scholar at Stanford. He has been researching secrets for over a decade and will help you understand what secrets are, why we keep them, and the harm of holding them inside.

Dr. Slepian's research is shocking: studies prove you are keeping 13 secrets right now. 5 of which you’ve never told a single person. Not your mom. Not your best friend. No one. Even more shocking is the impact they have on your life.

My mission today is to help you free yourself of the burden of secrets.

Listen and you’ll understand how the secrets we have shape our physical and psychological well-being, who we are, how we connect with others, and how we cope with our challenges.

You will also learn:

• The most common secret that 61% of you are keeping right now.
• Why you always feel shame, isolation, and uncertainty when you keep a secret.
• The fundamental difference between secrecy and privacy, and why privacy is better for your health and relationships.
• Why the shame of secrecy kills your self-esteem.
• How to use guilt to get rid of shame (yup).
• How babies learn to keep secrets from their parents and caregivers.
• The one person you should REALLY tell your secret to.

Keeping a secret is the easy part; the hard part is having to live with it.

Let’s change that today.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 2:00: The jaw-dropping secret that inspired this conversation today.
• 9:45: Curious about the kinds of secrets people keep? Here are the top 10.
• 11:50: How exactly do we define a secret?
• 14:45: Are there any good secrets?
• 15:45: Don’t feel too bad; we’re not the only animals that keep secrets.
• 18:00: Keeping the secret isn’t the hard part; the hardest part is this.
• 21:00: Listen to the secrets my listeners revealed. Recognize yourself?
• 24:45: Some secrets are no big deal but we make them big in our heads.
• 28:00: So what’s the difference between privacy and a secret?
• 31:00: Here’s how to frame a mistake, instead of feeling shame.
• 33:30: Research finds keeping serious secrets as kids can impact us as adults.
• 35:30: Here’s what parents should say when their kids admit a secret to them.
• 38:00: What do you say when friends keep you out of the group?
• 39:40: How do you tell your partner that you’re having an emotional affair?
• 42:30: The family secrets parents should never reveal to their children.
• 47:15: What about traumatic family secrets?
• 50:00: Choose the person who is your “coping compass” wisely.
• 54:30: Questions you can ask anyone to develop a closer relationship.
• 59:50: Here’s my hardest memory and what I realize about it now.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com.

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In this episode, you will meet Judie, a total badass who has it all figured out, from killer biceps to fulfilling friendships to staying mentally sharp, spunky, and sexy. She’s got it all together.

Who is Judie? She’s my 85-year-old mother-in-law.

You don’t need a library full of books filled with the science of staying young forever. Today you are getting the cliff notes for living a long, happy, healthy, fulfilling, and purposeful life.

She will teach you:

• The reason moments of joy are fleeting for you and how to make them last longer.
• The most important relationship you need to foster in your life.
• The surprising thing you can do this week to create purpose in your life.
• Why you need friends that are younger AND older than you.
• How to create a killer morning routine that fuels your busy life.
• The 3 ways to keep your mind young at any age.
• The reason YOU need to be the first one to pick up the phone.

Today Judie is sharing her 7 secrets to longevity and coaching you on how to get the life you deserve. She spills her no-BS secrets on how to take care of your mind, body, and relationships.

Backed by research and 80 years of experience, her love of life and ability to embrace moments of joy and give back are what make her such an inspiration.

I am so excited to introduce this wonderful person to you. I want you to take a page out of her playbook.

You’re never too young or too old to start living life the way you want.

And it is NEVER too late to be the badass you were meant to be.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 4:02: How to create a killer morning routine that fuels your busy life.
• 8:18: One mantra that you need for purposeful intention.
• 10:14: When Judie first started working out (it’s not too late).
• 11:30: Judie’s #1 for feeling less depressed and isolated as you age.
• 12:13: Why you need friends that are younger AND older than you.
• 14:41: The surprising thing you can do this week to create purpose in your life.
• 17:44: The reason YOU need to be the first one to pick up the phone.
• 19:50: The 3 ways to keep your mind young at any age.
• 22:10: How to maintain the motivation to move every day.
• 32:03: The most important relationship you need to foster in your life.
• 36:47: How you can really “stay young at heart”.
• 40:24: How to get the life you deserve and live the way you want.

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In today’s episode, the incredible Patrick McKeown, international bestselling author of ten books on breathing and founder and CEO of The Oxygen Advantage, a world-leading breathwork training program, breaks down all things breathing.

This is not a lecture; it is a masterclass. His decades of research will blow you away, so let’s slow down and learn from the best in class.

You need this, and I need this. Why? Because you and I have been breathing all wrong.

Today Patrick is revealing the 5 ways breathing through your mouth hurts your health and leaves you feeling more anxious and stressed.

You and I are getting coached by the world's leading expert on functional breathing for better health, more focus, less pain, better sleep, and, honestly, a better you.

This is information that should be shouted from the rooftops. AND taught to parents, teachers, and health professionals everywhere.

These steps are so simple, and yet they’re incredibly impactful on ALL parts of your life: your work, your ability to play and have fun, and your relationships.

Best of all, this advice is ZERO-cost to you.

You will learn:

• What happens when you breathe through your nose.
• How breathing through your mouth stresses you out.
• How breathing through your nose improves your memory and focus.
• What your breath has to do with back pain.
• How nose-breathing boosts your immune system.
• What sleep apnea in children has to do with special education needs.
• 3 simple yet powerful exercises that will leave you breathing easier.
• Why the hell should you want to tape your mouth shut.
• The study that found shallow breathing can lead to anxiety.
• An exercise that will help you get more oxygen into your lungs.
• Why your exhalation is the most important part of relaxation.
• How breathing the right way can stop snoring.
• Why the way you breathe during the day impacts your sleep at night.

The science proves that the quality of your breath determines the quality of your life.

So let’s dive in.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 3:15: Why do we breathe, anyway? Seriously.
• 4:50: HOW are we supposed to breathe?
• 5:30: Ok, so what are we doing wrong when we breathe?
• 6:45: So what’s so important about breathing in through your nose?
• 7:55: Here’s what happens when your brain doesn’t get enough oxygen.
• 8:30: The antiviral gas only produced when you breathe from your nose.
• 10:00: How mouth breathing increased a child’s need for special education.
• 12:45: This statistic about breathing and anxiety is still blowing my mind.
• 16:00: 3 breathing exercises you’re not going to want to miss!
• 24:00: The incredible results I had after trying these breathing exercises.
• 25:20: Listen to what happens when I tape my mouth shut. 
• 28:00: Breathing out through your mouth tells your brain this.
• 30:00: The study that found your breath is linked to anxiety.
• 31:15: How many times should you breathe in one minute?
• 32:00: Patrick coaches me into a proper BIG breath.
• 39:00: Why your exhalation is most important when it comes to reducing stress.
• 43:00: Why you should keep your mouth closed when you exercise.
• 45:00: What mouth breathing has to do with snoring.
• 51:00: Can better breathing help with sleep apnea?

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In today’s episode, you are getting a relatable and hilarious guide to navigating major transitions like a pro.

Join me in a real and raw conversation with my friends and colleagues, Amy and Lynne, as we unpack the major mistakes and 6 lessons learned from "horrible" college drop-off experiences (both our own and the ones we had with our kids) and the fear that comes with any major transition in your life.

Whether you’ve got kids or not, these 6 lessons apply to you. Everyone is going through some kind of transition right now: back to school, back to work, and dropping out of college. It’s a time of saying goodbye, of saying hello to new chapters, and of helping people move into new dorms and apartments and transition to new jobs or a new grade.

That means it is the perfect time to learn the 6 lessons I learned (the hard way) about managing big life transitions without losing your sh*t.

Listen and Learn:

• The RIGHT way to empower someone who is drowning in self-doubt.
• The #1 thing to say to help anyone move forward with confidence.
• The 4 words that will help you or your child commit to change.
• A science-backed "bridging" tool to help any child feeling nervous.
• The 2 most important qualities you have to let your child borrow from you.
• Why feeling scared and anxious before a big change is mentally healthy.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 2:30: Hear one mom’s mistake after dropping her child off at college. 
• 4:30: And what this mom did differently for her second child.
• 7:30 The drop-off experience that I wish I’d done differently.
• 10:30: Say THIS to your kids to help them ride the wave of emotions.
• 11:30: What you think you will feel is different from reality and that’s ok.
• 14:30: The #1 tool you have to let your child borrow from you..
• 18:10: Use this preschool trick from psychologists when you leave your kids.
• 29:00: Remember this the next time you start to overthink.
• 29:20: Recapping 4 major takeaways.
• 31:00: A fighter pilot shares how to gain control of your emotions.
• 33:00: I’ve used this trick often to help others adjust to change in their lives.
• 35:00: Feeling sad or uncertain about change? Good; you’re normal.

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In this episode, you and I are dismantling one of the most crippling forms of self-doubt.

"Imposter Syndrome" is when you think you’re not good enough and that everyone else is smarter, more successful, and has more to contribute than you do. Everyone feels it. It’s so common that the Harvard Business Review found that even 70% of the world’s top executives have struggled with it.

My mission today is to convince you that Imposter Syndrome is actually a GOOD thing. And I’ll use an example from my own life to prove my case.

Come backstage with me to a huge music festival, where my daughter Kendall, an aspiring singer-songwriter, comes face-to-face with the famous musicians who inspired her career.

Cue the panic.

Self-doubt almost made her bail on what turned out to be a life-changing weekend in her career.

She turned it around (you’ll hear how) and, as a result, was invited impromptu to perform twice with Grammy-winning musicians!

Listen and learn how to be more courageous and confident in those moments that really matter. I can’t wait for you to hear:

• The 4 words Kendall repeated that crushed self-doubt and got her on stage.
• The powerful mantra to say when you’re nervous walking into a room.
• How to use humor (and tuna sandwiches) to connect with anyone.
• Why being a "nobody" is the most amazing "somebody" you could be.

It’s time to hit delete on your self-doubt forever.

This one is so good and so relatable that you’ll be yelling, Encore!

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:15: Harvard Business Review says imposter syndrome is #1 fear of executives.
• 3:40: Kendall puts us at the scene of her own paralyzing episode of self-doubt.
• 5:30: Imagine being surrounded by everyone you’ve admired your entire life.
• 11:30: This is the message you need to hear if you’re deep in self-doubt.
• 12:45: My own story of feeling like an imposter before I became a speaker.
• 19:30: Here’s how to start shifting your mindset and boost your confidence.
• 20:20: The piece of advice that will help you stand taller.
• 21:40: The three-letter word you need to repeat when your insecurity creeps in
• 22:30: Once you change your mindset, your actions fall into place.
• 24:00: You have a gift to offer even the most experienced people in your field.
• 25:00: The seven words Kendall dropped that I’m still thinking about.
• 27:15: The #1 takeaway from this conversation about self-doubt.
• 28:45: Own where you are, and here’s what we mean by that.
• 31:00: What you’re thinking will happen probably won’t.
• 33:00: Learn how to balance giving and receiving, and you'll crack the code.
• 35:15: Are you waiting for validation? Listen to this.
• 38:00: There’s a reason you’re here. Here’s how to start believing that
• 41:00: Here’s why imposter syndrome is a GOOD thing.

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A few days ago, I was the witness to a very tragic accident, and the experience affected me very deeply.

I reached out to a renowned trauma specialist, and the advice she gave me changed my life.

In this episode, you will hear that incredible advice because she allowed me to record it. 

Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald, PhD, a best-selling author and professor, reveals the 5 essential things you need to know about trauma so you can finally move forward with your life.

Listen, and I will help you pick up the remote control for your brain and turn OFF the trauma loop.

What’s the trauma loop? You may be in it and not know it: if you get triggered and have no idea why (and this expert says we almost never know why), have flashbacks playing in your head over and over again, the trauma loop is at play.

With the help of our expert, Dr. MaryCatherine, you and I unpack (in real time) the accident I witnessed and how it affected me.

With compassion and clarity, she explains what trauma really is and how to heal from it. You will learn and benefit from her decades of research and clinical experience. And she’ll help you understand what steps you need to take so that your brain does not store an experience as "trauma". 

Dr. McDonald is one of the few experts who explains trauma and how to heal it in a way that is easy to understand, and her 5 truths will change the way you relate to yourself forever.

The strategies and science in this episode will help you:

• Know what to do 4–24 hours after the traumatic event occurs.
• Understand the ‘trauma loop’ so you can identify when you are stuck and how to get out.
• Properly process traumatic events, even if they were deep in the past.
• Spot myths about trauma that even psychologists don’t understand.
• Know what narrative psychology is and why it’s proven to work.
• Uncover and heal from your flashbacks, looped thoughts, and triggers.
• Learn why you and your siblings have different memories of the same events.
• How to calm your nervous system and be present with your emotions.

This episode could change your life. And it is absolutely one you want to share with anyone who could benefit from Dr. MaryCatherine’s expertise.

And I want to be upfront with you: yes, today’s episode is powerful, and it’s also a serious topic. If this isn’t the right time for you to listen, I understand completely. Just bookmark it so you can come back to it later.

I’m not going anywhere.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

01:44: The very scary moment that left me feeling traumatized.

06:19: Full panic hit me at this exact moment.

11:26: What narrative psychology is and why it’s proven to work.

14:10: Understand the ‘trauma loop’ so you can identify when you are stuck. 

17:41: How your brain processes a normal event or memory. 

19:38: How your brain processes a traumatic event.

23:08: Uncover why you have flashbacks, looped thoughts, and triggers.

27:32: How EMDR can integrate traumatic memories properly. 

30:29: Why do you and your siblings have different memories of the same events. 

37:28: Why feeling shame around a trauma response is normal.

41:52: Three ways to calm your nervous system and be present with your emotions. 

44:26: The biggest myth about triggers that even psychologists get wrong.

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In this episode, you’re getting a crash course in 13 essential hacks that will help you be more successful, and they’re backed by surprising research out of Princeton.

Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of the behavior lab The Science of People, a behavioral investigator, body language expert, and bestselling author who specializes in the kind of science-based people skills most of us never hear about.

Vanessa’s research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills, earn the trust of others around them, and become more confident, competent, and reliable.

News flash: You don’t have to be an extrovert to be successful.

Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you.

Listen, and you'll learn:

• 3 things you must do in the first ten seconds of a Zoom call to appear trustworthy and reliable
• How to nail any interview by building unstoppable confidence
• Why do you keep getting passed over for a promotion?
• The words you need to get the bonus or raise you deserve
• Why a second impression is just as important as the first
• How a fake smile will ruin your reputation
• The simple mistake we all make when asking for what we want
• How do you spot a liar?

This is an encore episode that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to boost your chances of success. With new and exciting insights from me at the top of the episode, you will leave feeling more confident for your next interview, first date, or wherever you are upleveling in your life. 

You owe it to yourself to learn how to cultivate unstoppable confidence and influence, and you can do that in just a few minutes. 

Xo, Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

2:23: The shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up.

4:50: What exactly IS charisma and what does it look like?

6:58: Why high achievers can’t just rely on their intelligence.

8:15: Two types of awkward people and how to tell.

14:14: Are you highly competent? Look for these three signs.

16:42: What highly competent people are missing.

21:27: What highly warm people are missing.

23:58: The ONE thing you need to do in the first 10 seconds of your Zoom call.

28:06: A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are.

32:10: The reason why you keep getting passed over for that promotion.

40:08: Why you should never fake a smile. 

46:02: Three ways you can start building your charisma today.

47:42: Why a second impression is as important as the first.

51:07: Five silent cues to command respect in any situation.

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In this episode, world-renowned brain specialist Dr. Daniel Amen reveals the secrets to a happier life, and it all starts with... (surprise!) your brain.

Dr. Daniel Amen is a medical doctor with 40 years of experience as a psychiatrist, 12 New York Times bestselling books, and he’s conducted over 200,000 brain scans, all of which back up the simple, proven tactics he’s about to share with you.

Dr. Amen shares the 3 most important habits you can start today to make your brain work better for you, based on decades of research.

Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, addiction, or stress, the information in this episode will forever change the way you think about your brain.

No boring and complicated science here.

Learn simple, practical changes to improve your brain, like:

• What to say first thing in the morning to keep your brain strong
• The 5 most important foods to eat for optimal brain health
• The 2 most important vitamins to take every day
• How to tell when your vital hormones are off
• Why strength training is better than cardio for your health
• 3 most important words to keep your brain sharp
• The breathing technique Dr. Amen recommends for an anxious mind

This is your zero-cost guide to better brain health! 

This is an encore episode with new and exciting insights from me at the top of the episode. You keep asking about how to improve your mental health, and it starts with improving your brain health.

In under an hour, you’ll learn everything you need to be sharper, smarter, and more successful—by maximizing the power of your brain! 

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

0:52: Today, you have an appointment with one of the world’s leading experts on brain health.

05:28: The craziest brain scan Dr. Amen has ever seen

07:17: Brain health 101: What you need to know about your brain today

09:34: The simplest habit you can incorporate today to protect your brain

10:53: The first thing you need to say every morning to keep your brain strong

13:01: The 2 most important vitamins to take daily

16:38: What do having a glass of wine and falling in love have in common?

20:52: 3 easy ways to know if you have low dopamine levels

29:02: The breathing technique Dr. Amen recommends for an anxious mind

33:02: 2 proven ways to calm a very busy brain

37:40: Whenever you get a negative thought, ask yourself this one question

39:04: If you feel tired all the time, it’s time to look inward.

42:47: How to improve your memory: it starts in your kitchen

46:10: The greatest piece of advice on brain health you need to leave with

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In this episode, you’ll get 5 effective strategies to help you improve your family dynamics, resolve almost any conflict like a pro, and create a better bond.

Spending time with family is awesome, but it can also be challenging because, as much as you wish everyone could get along, different personalities and opinions don’t always mix well together.

When family drama starts, don’t allow yourself to get sucked into it. You can learn how to dial down the drama and build trust and connection.

Today I invite you to sit on the couch next to me and my family here in Vermont as our three adult kids discuss all the ways Chris and I have screwed up as parents and the things we did that built trust and brought us closer.

I can’t wait for you to hear the truth bombs our kids are dropping. They’re shockingly insightful and will change your relationships for the better.


 

Listen, and you’ll learn:

• The mistakes we (and other parents) made and how to fix them.
• How to set powerful boundaries that everyone knows and respects.
• The most tactical way to deal with difficult relatives and their BS.
• The 6 words that increase trust in any relationship.
• What to do when you repeat the same toxic relationship patterns.
• 5 secret words that will get your kids (or anyone) to tell you the truth.
• One simple tool that makes discipline and boundaries easier for you.

(and your kids)

Share this episode with your family, and consider listening to it WITH your kids. It’ll definitely spark an interesting conversation because we get real and raw, and hold nothing back.

If you’re looking to get closer to someone you love, this episode is exactly where you should start.

I can’t wait to hear what you think!

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 02:40: My daughter recently schooled me in a conversation about boundaries.
• 10:40: Ladies and gentlemen… my family.
• 13:25: A listener asks, “Are your kids really that open in real life?”
• 16:05: What we said to our daughter that knocked down barriers between us.
• 18:30: Here’s the #1 reason why kids don’t get honest with their parents.
• 21:30: This is how Chris and I think about the purpose of parenting.
• 26:00: Shouting out research around addiction so we can have compassion.
• 30:10: Chris shares how he became addicted to recreational drugs.
• 33:00: How do you start forming a good bond with your kids at an early age?
• 35:00: Trust us; you’re going to screw up as a parent, and it’s okay.
• 39:30: Expressing our emotions lets our kids know they can express theirs.
• 41:30: Oakley shares how seeing his dad cry impacted his life.
• 45:15: A listener asks: How do you get your teens to open up to you?
• 48:30: How do you find peace in your mistakes with your kids?
• 54:00: Your kid wants to leave school for a partner somewhere else: try this.
• 58:00: The #1 question I ask my kids when they’re struggling.
• 1:05:00: Know somebody in a relationship with somebody who is stifling them?

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In this episode, a renowned Oxford-trained neuroscientist teaches you the most incredibly simple, science-backed hack that will change every single part of your life in just 10 minutes.

Professor Shane O’Mara, academic writer, author, and Experimental Brain Researcher at Trinity College in Dublin, walks us through the mind-blowing research behind, of all things, walking.

You’ll be shocked to learn how the right kind of walking can lower depression and anxiety without medication.

Professor O’Mara explains 3 different types of walking: one way will boost your creativity, another will make you more productive, and a third way will make you a rockstar problem solver.

You’ll also learn about the incredible cognitive, mechanical, and physiological chain reaction that happens in your brain and body during a simple walk.

The research and neuroscience will empower you to use walking to help you:

• Conquer your fears.
• Make your brain younger.
• Reduce your stress and feel happier.
• Double the number of your creative ideas.
• Be more focused and productive at work.
• Turn off anxious thoughts.
• Decrease inflammation in your body.
• Improve your relationship with yourself and others.

If you’re short on time, bullshit. Put your earbuds in and get outside.

Are you ready? Hit play, and let’s walk.

 Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

05:29: Want a younger brain? Start moving.  

09:48: You won’t believe these benefits of a 10-minute walk. 

11:29: Is your environment working against you? 

16:28: Here’s how walking is just as good, if not better, than your antidepressant.

17:20: This is what happens when you get outside and into nature.

20:50: What the heck is a “walking mind”?

23:54: Walking makes you more creative if you do this.

31:34: Turn up your energy while you walk using this incredible metaphor.

32:56: The shocking study that explains how walking changes your personality.

36:07: Don’t have enough time for a walk? I call BS. Here’s why.

39:00: Professor O’Mara suggests your walking routine should look like this.

42:32: 5 easy ways to get in more steps every day.

47:03: This is why you want to make it a habit to walk at night.

52:06: Feel like you don’t belong? Here’s how walking can help.  

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Today’s episode is a dare: a dare to get back up and believe in yourself. 

This is one of the most emotional and inspiring episodes that have ever been on The Mel Robbins Podcast. 

If you’ve ever failed or felt like you’re not being the version of yourself you know you’re meant to be, this is the episode for you. 

Today, world-renowned speaker, pastor, and New York Times best-selling author Sarah Jakes Roberts joins Mel to share her incredible story and powerful wisdom with you.

Pregnant at 13, married by 19, divorced by 22, and all while under the intense scrutiny as the daughter of a famous mega-church pastor, Sarah knows what it’s like to be knocked down. But more importantly, she shares what it takes to get back up. 

In this episode, you’ll learn how to accept yourself for where you’re at while still pushing yourself to become who you want to be. 

Sarah teaches you what it truly means to be powerful, how to reclaim your confidence, and how to create a new version of yourself. 

This is a masterclass in turning your pain and past failures into straight-up rocket fuel. Stop discounting yourself and the impact you have in this world.

It’s time to reclaim who you are meant to be and take back control of your life.

For more resources, including links to connect with Sarah Jakes Roberts, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this episode, you’ll love listening to this episode next: Do This To Become More Confident: 5 Truths You Need To Hear

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In this episode, double-board certified Dr. Amy Shah is here to explain the science of hormones, how they impact a woman's body, and more importantly, what you can do about it.

If you’re tired of PMS, bloating, mood swings, hot flashes, the belly "bread basket," or the brain fog of menopause... grab your pen and get ready to take notes.

Dr. Amy, a medical doctor trained at Harvard, Cornell, and Columbia, is an immunologist and leading expert in women’s hormonal health and nutrition.

She is here to explain it all in a way that you can understand and apply to your life. 

Today, Dr. Amy Shah reveals:

• What hormones are and how they work.
• What’s going on in a woman's body from first period to menopause.
• Why hormone therapy won’t help you lose weight.
• What 4 things you need to help you naturally boost estrogen.
• Why walking is better than HIIT or running if you’re in menopause.
• 3 simple changes for a better night’s sleep.
• How sleeping in a pitch-dark room helps you lose weight.
• How to hack your 28-day cycle for more confidence and resilience.

I can’t wait for you to learn from Dr. Amy. You are going to feel so empowered!

And please share this with all the women you care about in your life: your mothers, sisters, daughters, wives, and girlfriends, because we all deserve to know what the heck is going on and how to feel better in our bodies.

Xo, Mel

PS: For all of our readers who are men, do NOT stop reading. You have to live with us, so this will help you too. (And will make you wonderful when you forward it to all the women in your life). Plus this research and advice on hacking hormones is just downright fascinating!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

02:27: Why the hell do I always feel so tired? 

04:52: What happens in our bodies during PMS and menopause?

09:10: Best metaphor to help you understand what’s going on in your body.

11:37: How to optimize your health in every phase of hormone change.

15:02: When in your cycle you should train and eat like an athlete.

17:03: What is really happening with your hormones during pregnancy?

21:09: Where the heck did this muffin top come from?

27:32: The top 5 health questions for Dr. Shah and her answers. 

30:02: Did you know that PMS is a mini-menopause?

34:06: Why sleeping in a cold, dark room will help you lose weight.

38:42: Top 3 tricks that regulate your cravings.

40:01: Why anxiety increases during PMS.

46:48: What you need to know about hormone replacement therapy.

56:12: Power nap or meditate at THIS time for best results.

59:01: Why it’s way past time we start talking about women’s health.

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In this episode, renowned researcher, bestselling author, and total badass Ritu Bhasin will help you step into your power.

Her work proves that a better life begins when you stop trying to fit in and start showing up as your authentic self.

Does this sound like you?

• You say yes to fit in.
• You stay silent and let others talk over you during meetings.
• You never ask for that raise you’ve earned.
• You let your partner and friends make all the decisions.
• You don’t have big goals because you’re afraid to fail.

Before you waste another day of your life pretending to be someone you're not, listen to this life-changing episode. 

You deserve better.

This episode will teach you how to make the rules and be who you want to be.

Ritu and I will teach you how to claim your confidence and live a bolder, badass life in 4 simple steps.

Game ON.

This is your time. Take it.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 05:27: Why Ritu wanted to make an entire video about how to pronounce her name.
• 09:08: What it means to stand in your power.
• 12:53: Are you masking your true identity?
• 18:32: Feeling comfortable with yourself vs. hiding who you really are…
• 22:24: The pressure to perform shows up in the body in these ways…
• 27:02: The #1 thing Ritu did to bring more belonging and authenticity into her life. 
• 29:24: 3 steps to conquer uncomfortable situations.
• 31:42: The mantra that Ritu repeats to herself to stay in control.
• 37:11: The only thing you can control are your actions. 
• 43:48: The most important version of your “self” looks like this..
• 47:32: How to make others feel like they belong, too, and why that matters.
• 49:52: You have 3 versions of your "self" - here’s what they are.
• 52:54: We are all adults stuck in a middle school brain.
• 58:38: The #1 takeaway I want you to get from this conversation.

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In this episode, Harvard professor Dr. Luana Marques is going to teach you 3 simple steps to turn anxiety into power. And she’s not fooling around; in the first few minutes, she even called me out.

If you want to be more successful and effective in getting what you want out of your life or career, learning how to master your emotions, especially in difficult situations, is an essential skill.

And Dr. Luana is a sought-after expert who will teach you how.

If major life changes crush you with overwhelm and anxiety, this is for you.

If stress and frustration are holding you back at work, you need her 3-step method.

If your palms start to sweat just thinking about…

• Downloading the dating app.
• Applying for a better job.
• Moving in with your significant other.
• Filing for divorce.
• Your kids leaving for college or to live on their own.

Not anymore.

Dr. Luana Marques is a popular Harvard professor here to teach you that change is not only a necessary part of life but an incredibly powerful part of creating the life you want.

And even cooler, she is going through a MAJOR career change right now (and using her 3-step process to do it).

Today you’ll learn to:

• Stop running away from your feelings.
• Silence your self-doubt.
• Figure out what’s most important to you (so you can run toward it).
• Jump into new situations using a powerful metaphor.

And you’ll get a practical and simple 3-step framework to master any transition in your life. 

Grab your notebook, your pencil, and hit play.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 02:36: Why are transitions so damn hard?
• 06:45: The exercise you need to find your values, according to research.
• 09:24: What happens when ambition no longer serves you?
• 13:17: What happens when success comes at a cost?
• 16:21: How values have shifted post-pandemic.
• 20:54: Holding space for discomfort with your loved ones is essential.
• 23:58: Feel your feelings; it’s okay to not feel okay.
• 28:41: The one thing you need to add to your calendar today.
• 31:42: Attach yourself to your why.
• 37:56: Dr. Luana’s 3-step method to overcoming any transition.
• 42:04: Dr. Luana’s incredible work at Harvard.
• 43:08: What Dr. Luana means when she says the world is "locked".

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Today on the podcast, you and I are having a deeply personal and eye-opening conversation about alcohol and your relationship to it.

Rachel Hart is a best-selling author and master coach who has helped thousands of people re-examine their relationship with alcohol, and that’s exactly what she is going to help you do today.

Rachel knows the surprising reason you (and I) crave a drink (or have the urge to shop, vape, play video games, scroll on social media, or want something sweet).

She’ll also explain that weird cycle of emotions you experience after drinking.

Did I drink too much last night? Did I do anything I regret? Should I stop drinking altogether? Should I detox this week before the wedding next weekend? How do I drink less? Maybe it’s time I stopped altogether.

You’ll learn that this agitation and conflict about alcohol are normal. The question is, how do you change it?

Rachel says it’s by examining the desires underneath the urge.

Today, Rachel will help you unpack urges and desires and teach you why boundaries go right out the window when you feel an urge.

Today you’ll learn:

• What your drinking might really be all about. (it’s not what you think)
• Why feeling conflicted about drinking is normal.
• Where do urges really come from, and how do you ignore them?
• How your first experience with alcohol impacts your relationship with it.
• What your desires are trying to tell you.
• How to ditch the shame once and for all.
• The complicated messaging around alcohol.
• The 30-day plan Rachel uses with all her clients.

Not sure if you have a problem with alcohol? Worried about someone else who does? You're not ready to quit alcohol all together, but you wish you’d not reach for the glass of wine most nights. Wonder if maybe you should stop?

Perfect. Listen in. 

You can change your relationship with alcohol.

After this episode, you’ll know how.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 02:12: Why is my relationship with alcohol so confusing?
• 05:43: The shame cycle I go through every time I drink.
• 12:08: What does your urge actually symbolize? For me, I had to go back to when I was 14 to figure it out.
• 15:07: You are creating boundaries that justify your cravings and urges.
• 20:06: What your urges and cravings are trying to communicate to you.
• 23:07: The difference between your upper and lower brain and what you need to know.
• 26:10: How to stop drinking without stopping drinking.
• 28:09: Learning how to change means having a different relationship with commitment.
• 36:18: Tool #1: Name the urge when it’s happening.
• 40:06: Why "just say no" doesn’t work.
• 48:03: Stop looking for answers from others. You have an inner knowing of what’s best for you.
• 54:47: Tool #2: Ask yourself, If you couldn’t drink for the rest of your life, what would it feel like?
• 58:30: Disappointment when you give up your urges is normal.

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In this episode, you’re going to learn that it is never too late to try to repair a broken or difficult relationship.

Research shows that estrangement is not only on the rise but that the majority of us have at least one extended family member or friend who is estranged.

I know this is true in my own extended family, and I also have friends who are estranged from their parents.

Whether you’re the person who’s cut off contact or you're the one wondering why someone you love did, our episode today will give you the language, tools, and context to start moving toward understanding and healing.

Dr. Joshua Coleman is a psychologist and best-selling author who works with families to repair broken bonds and help them reconcile and improve difficult or estranged relationships.

In fact, according to Dr. Coleman, the strategies he shares work, and the statistics are in your favor.

I hope you share this with anyone you know dealing with a difficult relationship. It is very common, especially after a divorce and when there is a new spouse or significant other.

When someone you love suddenly pulls away or cuts you out of their life, you need a playbook to help you know when to reach out and when not to reach out, and what exactly to say and not say.

Today you’ll learn:

• Why estrangement is on the rise.
• What some therapists do wrong that can make things worse.
• What to do if you’re the sibling caught in the middle.
• How to take responsibility, even if you don’t think you should.
• Early mistakes we make that can lead to estrangement.
• Early steps we can take to avoid estrangement.
• How long it takes to reconcile and where to even begin.

The pain of separation is real, but it doesn’t have to be forever.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 01:04: The silent epidemic that’s happening right now is estrangement.
• 02:10: What is estrangement?
• 04:42: How "cancel culture" is impacting relationships
• 09:07: The horrible advice for estrangement Dr. Coleman got in therapy.
• 12:24: What moving towards a child's trauma looks like
• 14:07: How do you know if someone has deliberately cut you out of their life?
• 16:32: The most common complaint adult children have for their parents
• 19:56: One of the most common pathways to estrangement
• 22:04: The most common mistakes estranged parents make
• 24:32: Why you cannot take things personally
• 26:35: Why radical acceptance is a required step in reconnecting
• 29:50: Let’s unpack why guilt doesn’t work.
• 35:20: What to do when reconciliation isn’t desired by the other person
• 36:32: What are the steps towards reconciliation?
• 39:07: Why Dr. Coleman says that parents have a moral obligation to take the high road
• 42:10: The silent treatment is wrong. Here’s why
• 47:15: When you should stop reaching out for reconciliation
• 49:30: What is an amends letter, and how should you write it?
• 56:18: How do you engage with someone who doesn’t want to engage with you?

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In this episode, I show you how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult in a very simple way.

And it starts with your morning coffee. 

Plus, I’m sharing 4 opening lines and tactics you can use when approaching a potential new friend.

Can we just be honest? Making new friends as an adult is so hard. And I believe that we are all struggling with it.

So I’m going to share the strategies that I have used in the last year to go from moving to a new town and feeling like I have "no friends" to taking the steps to create an awesome new circle of adult friends.

Today you’ll learn:

• The ONE practical and life-changing tool you need to create adult friendships
• A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area
• The lies we all tell ourselves about friendships that keep us thinking we have none
• How remote work has changed the friendship game
• The single best place to park yourself on a Saturday morning to find your people
• How to approach a stranger (potential friend) without coming across as weird, creepy, or awkward

What I’m sharing today works because this is how I found my people in the last 12 months.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:37: Today I feel like I’m living in an adult summer camp; it wasn’t always this way.
• 4:31: It is within your power to create community and connection.
• 7:13: What happens when you look through the lens of loneliness?
• 8:55: The #1 mistake I made with my friendships.
• 10:15: If you want the flower to grow, you need to plant the seed. Let me explain.
• 14:05: The lie you’re telling yourself when it comes to friendships.
• 18:44: Why making friends feels so hard nowadays.
• 20:07: A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area.
• 27:58: The coffee shop I go to and why it’s been a gamechanger for meeting potential friends. 
• 31:28: I challenge you to do this the next time you get a coffee.
• 33:08: Friendship is a verb, you have to make it happen.
• 34:18: This ONE tool will allow you to create lasting bonds.
• 35:03: For all my introverts, here is my advice for you...
• 36:18: The easiest ways to create connection in any situation.
• 37:20: Don’t have weekend plans? You will after you do this.
• 41:08: Making new friends can be fun and easy (I’m being serious).

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In this episode, you are going to learn why you struggle in certain relationships and how to let more love in.

Whether you struggle in your friendships or your romantic relationships, or you don’t feel connected to your family or the community where you live, today's conversation will give you the insight and tools that you need to create better and more loving relationships everywhere.

Dr. Marisa Franco is a NYT bestselling author, award-winning therapist, and professor of psychology at The University of Maryland. She dedicated her professional practice to the study of connections and systemic loneliness.

What will really catch your attention is her research on attachment styles and what they look like in real time, which has been an incredible game changer for me and my personal relationships, particularly with my husband.

Attachment style theory goes way beyond "love languages," and once you know yours, you’ll be less triggered by others around you.

Understand the attachment styles of others, and you’ll take things less personally.

In today’s episode, you’re getting a complete guide to:

• What attachment styles are and how they look in real life.
• The questions to ask yourself to figure out what your style is.
• How to tell if you’re hanging out with the right people.
• The one thing avoidant attachment people have a really hard time doing.
• How your attachment style determines who you’re attracted to.
• Why you might be confusing being triggered with being in love.
• Key strategies to start developing a secure attachment style yourself.

After listening to this episode, you’ll see the people in your life through an entirely new lens and with an abundance of compassion.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 4:00: Let’s begin with the first style. What is a secure attachment style?
• 5:10: What does anxious attachment look like?
• 6:00: Avoidant attachment-type people have a hard time trusting.
• 6:30: Those who experienced high-trauma situations are more likely to have this style.
• 8:00: What do these attachment styles look like in real life?
• 11:45: Is it easier to identify attachment styles in yourself or others?
• 17:20: How do you have a relationship with someone who has an avoidant style?
• 20:30: Can you have more than one attachment style?
• 22:00: How can you develop a more secure attachment?
• 26:00: Avoidantly attached people actually do have an underlying need for connection.
• 31:30: These physical symptoms can be a result of your attachment style.
• 35:45: These activities will help you start connecting with your body again.
• 38:20: Here’s how you can create a ‘safe’ space for someone with avoidant attachment.
• 47:50: Why do we always seem to date the same kind of people?
• 49:40: Do you confuse being triggered with being in love?
• 54:45: So how do you find securely attached people to hang out with?
• 57:45: Do this one hack every day to start developing a secure attachment yourself.
• 59:00: This is why understanding attachment styles has been a game changer.

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In today’s episode, you will learn the 5 things that men secretly struggle with and how you can open up the conversation to better support them.

I’m proud to introduce you to my husband, Chris, who is the founder of a men's retreat, Soul Degree. He has been leading these retreats for the past 6 years and has worked with everyone from veterans, executives, and first responders to college students.

Chris has incredible insight into the secrets that men keep and the struggles they’re facing alone. 

Hearing Chris unpack these challenges is very compelling. He not only shares insights from leading retreats for 6 years but also from his coaching practice and his work as a death doula. 

Many of the struggles that he witnesses in other men are the exact same struggles that he has worked through as well.

This is an episode every man, boy, or anyone who identifies as male needs to hear, and so do the people that love them.

It’s not just we women who struggle with self-love; everyone struggles with loving themselves. 

If you don’t know what’s going on with the men in your life, let me talk to them and let them know it’s okay.

That’s why I am teaching you how to start loving yourself with a simple habit that you can add to your routine.

Today you’ll learn: 

• The 5 shocking things that most men in your life are struggling with
• One habit that has helped hundreds of thousands of people to start showing self-love
• Why it’s so hard to love yourself and the secret to self-love
• The science behind why this habit is transformative
• The profound insight my husband Chris had when he took the 5-day challenge 

Love is not something you feel; it’s something you must demonstrate.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:25: The 5 shocking things that most men are struggling with
• 4:57: Do you put others' needs above your own? Do this exercise.
• 14:24: Why my husband, Chris, thought this habit was ridiculous at first
• 18:11: When in his life Chris started to feel like a failure
• 25:24: What all men struggle with
• 27:48: 50% of people find it impossible to do this.
• 29:35: What Chris has to say to all the men out there
• 32:34: The profound insight Chris had when he took the 5-day challenge
• 37:40: Why I sign off every letter and every episode the way I do
• 39:06: What you tell yourself every time you do this one habit
• 41:56: The message from a listener that every skeptic needs to hear
• 41:44: Why it’s so hard to love yourself
• 51:50: Why you’re going to want to share this with the men in your life

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In this episode, you’re going to learn the 4 happiness habits that, based on research, are scientifically proven to make you happier in 21 days.

Happiness is not only possible; it is an option for you.

Our guest today is one of the most respected happiness researchers in the world. Shawn Achor is the author of 4 New York Times bestsellers and has created the largest happiness training program in the world. He is here to prove to you that happiness is not only possible but also an option for you.

This conversation is packed with practical and proven tools that you can put to work in your life immediately. We will also dig deep into the research that supports everything that you are about to learn.

Shawn goes deeper than he has ever gone in an interview, discussing his struggle with depression and how these 4 habits have helped him climb out of it.

Get out your notebook because we are drilling into decades of psychological research that will ladder up to more meaning in your life.

Today you’ll learn:

• How to find happiness amidst pain and fear
• The 4 simple habits that create more happiness
• What Shawn calls the ‘turning point’ for his struggle with depression
• How to be happy even when you’re lonely and the importance of connection and community
• The first step YOU need to take to living a happier, more meaningful life

Happiness is not an emotion; it is a framework, and that framework is getting built today!

Xo Mel

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• 2:04: What is the definition of happiness?
• 3:12: Where can you find happiness amidst pain and fear?
• 10:41: What happens when you become fearful that you will never be happy again?
• 12:53: Step #1 to claiming happiness is recognition. This is why.
• 14:05: This is YOUR starting point for living a happier life.
• 15:49: These 4 simple habits for 21 days will change your life.
• 17:53: What kept Shawn going: the habits that pulled him out of a depression.
• 21:22: Reminder: Happiness is a team sport.
• 29:24: What loneliness actually is
• 32:37: The importance of social connection and community
• 35:14 The story we tell ourselves is how we navigate our lives.
• 40:35: It’s not the end of your story; the reminder I even needed
• 45:47: Happiness is an option, not a choice.
• 48:58: What Shawn learned in Flint, Michigan, about mindset and behavior
• 51:52: The tools and takeaways you need to remember after this conversation

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In this episode, you are going to learn the art of having more fun.

I share a hilarious story about a major wardrobe malfunction with you and two podcast crew members.

You’ll laugh along at all the ridiculous details, but the takeaway is serious:

Learning how to laugh at yourself is a superpower, and research says people who have a sense of humor are more respected and are viewed as more confident and intelligent by their peers.

Today you’ll learn: 

• How having fun in life is an art form
• How to turn something embarrassing into something hilarious and relatable
• How humor increases power and status
• Why it’s important to not take yourself too seriously
• How to create a bond and change the tone in any social situation
• Why it’s imperative to never buy a bodysuit that is too small

Seriously? You need to laugh more. Let’s start today.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 01:26: The best feeling in the world: taking your bra off at the end of the day
• 3:52: Chris tells us what the equivalent feeling is for men.
• 5:33: The major wardrobe failure I had yesterday.
• 9:23: Pro tip: always test drive a cool outfit before an event (especially if it includes shapewear).
• 12:09: The worst wedgie that I have ever had.
• 14:41: I can’t believe I just admitted this, but don’t we all do this?
• 19:20: How turning something embarrassing into something hilarious and relatable tightens bonds.
• 21:18: Let everyone in on the joke, it will change the dynamic.
• 22:24: My ultimate moment of relief.
• 26:22: How turning something embarrassing into something hilarious and relatable tightens bonds.
• 31:09: Why does Amy do stand-up comedy, and can you develop a sense of humor at any point?
• 33:52: According to research, the funnier the person, the more respect and power you hold.
• 38:08: I invite you to do this one thing: laugh at yourself.

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There are 3 powerful and fundamental truths that you need to accept about other people in order to live a better life.

Most people will never learn these 3 things.

Which is why today Mel is breaking them down, one by one, to give you a guide for better relationships.

These truths are hard to accept, but when you accept them, your life will get so much easier.

You are wasting so much time, energy, and attention trying to control other people.

And once you hear these 3 things, you will have more emotional peace, an understanding of yourself, and a better relationship with the people in your life. This is an encore episode with new and exciting insights from Mel at the top of the episode that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to create more meaningful relationships. 

For more resources, including links to the studies mentioned in the episode, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this episode, listen to this powerful and tactical episode next: The “Let Them Theory”: A Life-Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About

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Why do you always crave dessert after dinner? Or a snack mid-afternoon?

Today we’re digging into the science of cravings: 

-Why you have them

-How to tell the difference between a craving and actual hunger

-How to eat your way to better health and a happier life.

Dr. Amy Shah is a double-board certified medical doctor with training from Cornell, Harvard, and Columbia Universities and an expert on intermittent fasting, hormones, and food cravings.  

And today, I got you and me an appointment with her for free! Let’s friggin’ goooo!

If you want to understand your body and how to make your metabolism work for you, Dr. Amy has the research and the tools to help you kick your cravings to the curb once and for all.

In today’s episode, you will learn:

*when to drink coffee in the morning so you stay energized all day

*how cravings relate to dopamine and how to curb them so they never come back

*why your sugar cravings are so strong and how to stop them

*the truth about probiotics and which ones your body needs right now

*what ghrelin and leptin are and why they are the secrets to a healthy metabolism

*the shocking research that compares antidepressants to food and exercise

*how to stop overeating 

Our bodies are complicated, but your health doesn’t have to be. Let Dr. Amy empower you to live a more vibrant, fulfilled, and energized life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:45: So what’s the difference between hunger and cravings?
• 6:00: Many of our poor food choices are not our fault.
• 19:30: So how do we fix our eating habits if we’re not always in control?
• 20:30: Food and exercise are more effective than drugs for anxiety and depression?!
• 23:20: So what are some of the foods that will boost natural hormones?
• 28:30: Drinking enough water during the day makes you eat less.
• 37:30: Here’s what food companies know about dopamine.
• 41:40: Do this when you want to stop overeating.
• 44:45: Why does dopamine work better when you reward yourself at random times?
• 46:30: What are psychobiotics and how do they stop cravings?
• 50:20: Here’s how your gut and your brain talk to each other and what that means.
• 51:30: What exactly is the relationship between food and bacteria?
• 55:15: So where do we start with supplements?
• 57:30: The #1 probiotic that you should be adding to your days.
• 59:30: How the hell do you get rid of your sugar cravings?
• 1:03:30: Do you get enough sleep? Here’s why that matters.
• 1:06:00 Why you should wait 45 minutes before you drink your coffee.
• 1:08:10: This is what Dr. Amy thinks about intermittent fasting and how she does it.
• 1:10:00: Eat a high-dopamine breakfast to start your day on the right track.

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More and more adults are being diagnosed with ADHD, so today, we are unpacking the 6 surprising signs of ADHD. I also tell you why so many women, in particular, go undiagnosed.

This episode is deeply personal, but my story is shared by so many women.

I lived my entire life with symptoms of ADHD and crushing anxiety because of it. But I was never diagnosed until the age of 47—and I found out by fluke!

So in this episode, I go deep into what ADHD is: a neurological disorder that affects the brain structurally and chemically. I explain the signs and the science behind what is going on in your brain to help you live a better life.

If you ever wondered if you have ADHD, if you feel like menopause is making it worse, or if you struggle with anxiety, an eating disorder, or low self-esteem, you have to listen. All these might be symptoms of ADHD.

This episode goes way beyond an inability to focus, because ADHD is so much more. This is an education in how your brain works, how focus works, and how to help yourself or someone in your life who may have ADHD.

I’ve been wanting to record this episode for MONTHS, but I didn’t want to do it until I had first-class resources for you. Because every time I talk about my ADHD story, we get an avalanche of questions from listeners.

I have regrets about that lost time when I did not know I had ADHD, and I don’t want you to have them, too.

Today you’ll learn:

*why women have been profoundly underdiagnosed

*four key differences between genders with ADHD

*why my diagnosis was both a blessing and a curse

*the surprising way most women find out

*six symptoms of ADHD that most people don’t catch

*the connection between anxiety and depression and ADHD

*resources and hacks to help you take charge over your symptoms

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:44: The surprising backdoor way I was diagnosed with ADHD.
• 6:30: What I learned about the “lost generation” that has blown me away.
• 7:45: A terrifyingly important statistic that led to this podcast episode.
• 9:00: The definition of ADHD that may make you feel better about yours.
• 10:15: Why are women underdiagnosed? The differences in symptoms.
• 19:30: This is how ADHD impacts your brain.
• 22:30: Breaking this myth about this symptom of ADHD.
• 24:45: A really clear metaphor to explain how your brain silences noise, or doesn’t.
• 32:00: How is it I have ADHD, yet I can hyper-focus?
• 34:00: More surprising symptoms of ADHD that might make your relationships hard.
• 38:00: This one hack helps me get birthday gifts for others on time.
• 40:00: The jobs I loved because they worked well with ADHD.
• 43:45: Now here’s the good news!
• 45:30: A predictive statistic about children that you’re going to want to hear.

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According to Harvard professor Dr. Luana Marques, there is one sneaky habit that holds every single person back – and no one knows what it is.

When she reveals the habit that holds you back, your first reaction will be to stop and think.

And as you listen to her explain it and give you examples, you’ll be shocked that you’ve never before seen it in yourself or heard anyone else point it out to you… until now.

You’re not the only one.

I didn’t know about this habit until I was introduced to Dr. Marques’ work.

What you learn today will change how you think about success, influence, mindset, and even anxiety and procrastination.

This sneaky habit has been holding you back and you didn’t even realize how pervasive it is in your life.

It’s not self-doubt. It’s not fear. It’s something even deeper.

I want you to listen, because she’s the world’s leading expert on the topic, and this is one of those episodes that will make you never look at life the same again.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 1:00: The sneaky habit that’s holding you back, according to Dr. Luana Marques
• 3:00: Dr. Marques’ story will inspire you and explain how she discovered these tools.
• 7:30: Why this specific habit is keeping you from your best life.
• 9:00: How this habit leads to anxiety and panic at work.
• 13:00: Dr. Marques’ turning point in finding the success she has, against all odds.
• 22:00: Unpacking exactly what this habit is and how it holds you back, including your body’s response.
• 27:30: The lie you keep telling yourself.
• 30:00: This is how your brain is working against you.
• 33:00: Simple tools from CBT Therapy research that make a difference.
• 36:00: Exactly what to do when your thoughts spin and how to change your mindset immediately.
• 42:00: This approach works even if you don’t believe it.
• 43:30: How do you stress less and find more peace?
• 47:00: The first thing Dr. Marques does when helping her clients change.
• 50:00: How these strategies apply to parenting and family.

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Today we are digging into the research on gratitude. Gratitude is a critical life skill, yet most of us are practicing it wrong.

That’s right.

According to the research, there are 4 essential elements of genuine gratitude. Without all 4, you can’t unlock the powerful physiological, neurological, and psychological benefits of genuine gratitude.

For example, if you’re just thinking about what you’re grateful for or writing a list before you go to bed, you’re probably not getting the full impact of its power.

Once you know the 4 steps, you can use genuine gratitude to actively rewire your brain!

Next, we’ll discuss the “Toxic Gratitude Theory” and the 6 ways you probably use gratitude in a backhanded or manipulative way – and don’t even know it!

I’m guilty of all 6 types of toxic gratitude (ouch) and now that I see it, I can stop doing it.

So today, let’s learn how to unlock gratitude and all its profound power. You’ll also learn…

• The 4 neurotransmitters involved in a science-backed gratitude practice
• The important difference between being just “thankful” versus genuinely “grateful” and why it matters
• How using one specific word is critical to building up your resilience
• What to say to someone who’s going through a really tough time

And because I’m so genuinely grateful for you, I have started rolling out a fun bonus with each episode, Mel Robbins Podcast Bloopers, so listen all the way through for a good laugh!

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 6:00: Ever met someone who just makes you feel so loved and grounded?
• 12:20: What happens in your body when you feel more gratitude?
• 16:00: What’s the difference between being thankful vs. gratitude?
• 21:40: Here are the four important elements of genuine gratitude.
• 25:00: Are you using gratitude in a toxic way? Hear these six types of toxic gratitude.
• 26:00: Let’s unpack the #1 way we engage in toxic gratitude.
• 28:10: The #2 type of toxic gratitude is actually resentment in disguise.
• 29:45: This #3 type will keep you stuck in what’s not working for you.
• 33:00: We use the 4th type of toxic gratitude to escape uncomfortable emotions.
• 36:00: Being mentally well means giving yourself the space to feel all emotions.
• 37:30: Let’s unpack how you use the 5th type when you don’t know what to say.
• 39:00: And please don’t use this type to downplay your accomplishments.
• 41:00: This is one of my favorite acceptance speeches ever.
• 43:00: I looked up the meaning of Judah’s name and couldn’t believe what I found.
• 46:00: So how do you stay grounded in a chaotic environment? Listen to these tips.

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If you’ve ever dreamt of doing something big, today's episode will get your head spinning, open your heart, and inspire you to take the leap.

It doesn’t matter how young or how old you are.

You are meant to go big, to swing for the fence, and to do something no one has ever done before. 

No more small plans. You have something big to do.

And there’s no better person to inspire you to make big plans than my friend and IT Cosmetics Founder, Jamie Kern Lima. 

Jamie went from serving up stacks of pancakes at Denny’s to creating a product that would help millions of women around the world feel confident in their own skin. 

Today you’ll hear the story of how she transformed the beauty industry, created the most successful product launch in QVC history, and ultimately sold IT Cosmetics to L’Oreal for 1.2 billion dollars (becoming the first female CEO at L’Oreal in their history). 

If you think Jamie had it easy on the way there, you’d be wrong. And you won’t have an easy time either, but so what?

Her story is a rollercoaster of rejection and disappointment, fear, self-doubt, and near bankruptcy.

But when you’ve got big plans, you just keep going. Jamie never lost faith, and today she is teaching you how to never give up on your big plans either.

In today’s episode, you will learn 

• What to do when you have no idea what you’re doing.
• Why it’s okay to do something that’s been done plenty of times.
• What it’s like to pitch live on QVC.
• How to handle someone saying “Women won’t buy from someone who looks like you.”
• How to believe in yourself when nobody else does.
• A truth about success we rarely ever hear about.
• What to do when QVC says “NO you can’t sell that way.”
• How to react when some idiot tells you they won’t invest in you.
• How to break into an industry event and pitch your idea.
• How to harness belief in yourself when you want to give up.

Wow. Just wow.

If you don’t know what to get the graduates in your life, send this episode because it’s a real gift. 

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 4:50: Introducing today’s guest- my good friend, Jamie Kern Lima.
• 7:30: Jamie learned this important skill while working as a server at Denny’s.
• 9:00: Never disregard the seasons of your life that feel setbacks.
• 10:00: What the hell does it mean that our lives are happening “for” us?
• 10:45: Here’s how Jamie defines life’s purpose. 
• 13:15: If you hate your job, listen to this.
• 16:50: The moment where Jamie knew she was meant to do something meaningful.
• 20:15: Not sure what your purpose is? Think about what you struggle with.
• 24:00: This is the biggest reason we talk ourselves out of following our dreams.
• 27:30: But how do you get started when you don’t even know what to do?
• 32:00: Ever had a gut feeling? Hear Jamie define intuition and how to tune in.
• 35:30: Try going through your day this way and build your intuition muscle.
• 37:20: Two reasons why we go through horrible, unspeakable times.
• 38:30: This was the biggest rejection moment that inspired Jamie to keep going.
• 41:15: Listen to the “no” or listen to the “knowing.” You get to choose.
• 44:30: How do you determine the NEXT right step?
• 46:45: Jamie lands a ten-minute do-or-die spot on QVC after multiple rejections.
• 57:00: Here’s how all that rejection became Jamie’s strength.
• 1:02:00: Does your purpose have to be part of your job?

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This is a message for every new graduate.

Whether you’re graduating from college or graduating from a chapter in your life, you need this message today. Your dreams matter, and what happens next is in your hands.

You have a flame inside you that represents the way you were meant to show up in this world.

Today I’m teaching you how to throw gasoline on that flame.

No matter what you're going through in life, your dreams are alive and well, and they are waiting for you to wake up and turn toward them.

If you’re not ready for some Mel Robbins inspirational firepower, bookmark this for another day. Because I’m not f’ing around today.

Whether you’re ready to make your mark on the world...

Or you’re tired of your excuses...

Or if you're like Barbara, who you'll meet in this episode, and you've given up on your dreams because they haven’t materialized yet…

This may be the most important 50 minutes of your life.

I’m going to show you

 -the three ways you shut down your dreams

-why jealousy is actually a good thing

-the one question to ask in the morning that will impact the entire rest of your day

And if you don’t even remember what it’s like to dream, I’ve got you.

This episode includes a free download of an incredibly powerful, science-backed tool that will help you start dreaming again.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3:30: These are the moments that define your life.
• 9:15: Here’s what happens before every time I reinvent myself and my life.
• 10:50: My first dream job never left me and eventually led to this podcast.
• 14:30: Watch for this evidence of your dreams still being alive in your heart.
• 18:15: The first way you extinguish your dreams.
• 18:30: The second way you pour a cold bucket of water on your dreams.
• 18:50: The third way you shut down your dreams.
• 21:45: The science-backed habit that’s going to help you start dreaming again.
• 22:40: Here’s a whole bunch of dream examples, if you need ideas!
• 24:45: What is the Zeigarnik Effect and what does it have to do with your dreams?
• 26:15: I have a free download for you!
• 29:30: Here’s where I gave Barbie some serious tough love because I believe in her.
• 34:30: The one powerful question you’re going to ask yourself every morning. 
• 35:40 On this date, I finally gave myself permission to make my dream happen.
• 37:50: When times get challenging, you should be doing this.
• 40:15: Try this exercise to shine a light on the way you limit what’s possible for you.
• 47:00: All that hard stuff in your life is for a reason.
• 49:15: Think you’re too old for your dreams? Then you need to hear this.
• 51:45: Curious about what happened to Barbara? Listen in.

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Welcome to an exciting new masterclass on designing the life of your dreams.

First, you’ll learn the process for identifying your own North Star, why this is important at the beginning of creating your new life, and how to use your North Star to guide you in the process of designing your life.

Next, you’ll dive deep into the 3-part framework: Emulate, Assimilate, and Innovate.

This framework is the backbone of the University of Southern California’s world-renowned Popular Music major taught at their Thornton School of Music.

It’s the creative process artists use to create songs, movies, and video games. The framework has helped launch Grammy-winning artists and touring musicians for the past decade.

I just learned about it a week ago and was so blown away that I had to share it with you.

When an artist creates a song, they begin with a blank piece of paper.

When you design your life, you are an artist with a blank canvas.

Today, you’re invited to tap into the artist within and learn how to find your North Star and use the creative process to bring your vision for your future to life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3:00: Hear me describe the woman who recently became MY North Star.
• 6:40: Choosing this kind of person you want to choose as your North Star is best.
• 8:00: Shout out to Chris Sampson from the Thornton School of Music for these pillars.
• 10:15: If you skip Step One in this process, you’re making your life much harder.
• 14:15: Here’s how Jennifer Aniston made her way into our conversation. 
• 18:10: We start unpacking what Step One of the process looks like, first with music.
• 21:00: Think of the space in between where you are and want to be as special. 
• 22:15: Try using “want” instead of “need” when it comes to goals and see what happens.
• 25:20: This is what I did when I first started to dig myself out, but it took me much longer.
• 28:00: Here’s why this person is my North Star and why he puts a fire in my belly.
• 31:15: Let’s define the first two steps in this important process and how they’re different.
• 34:00: How do you know when you’re done and you’ve become your own North Star?
• 41:45: Kendall’s biggest takeaway from working through this process. 
• 42:45: The way I sign out on all my podcasts was inspired by this woman.

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I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.

I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.

The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.

And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.

I can bottom line this in one sentence: 

When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.
• 6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
• 9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
• 10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.
• 11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
• 17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
• 19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
• 24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
• 28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
• 32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
• 35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
• 37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
• 40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
• 43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.

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If you feel that something’s missing from your life but have no idea exactly what’s missing or where to begin looking for it, today’s episode will help you reconnect with your power and find greater meaning in your life.

Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, published multiple best-selling books, and has dedicated decades of her life to researching how we connect with each other by first connecting back to ourselves.

Her work has been so profound for me personally that, right off the bat in this conversation, I get emotional.

Dr. Thema is a national treasure. Her presence and her voice will put you at ease. And she has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trusting in "that which cannot be explained."

In this episode, you’ll learn:

-6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself

-what it means to be "psychologically wandering"

-how to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry

-the surprising signs of "irritable depression"

-the three words to say to yourself before you can begin healing

-why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace (you are more than your labor)

-why you need to stop talking about your significant other and your boss in therapy.

-where to find therapy when you can’t afford it.

You are so much more than a highway for other people to get where they’re going. With Dr. Thema’s wisdom and tactics, you’ll reconnect with yourself and take the wheel on your own incredible journey in life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:45: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be.
• 6:30: 6 powerful signs that you are disconnected from yourself and what that means.
• 9:00: Even if you’ve never felt home with yourself, you can learn to be home with yourself.
• 11:00: The West African fable that gave me chills and should be required reading for everyone.
• 16:00: This is the first and most powerful step to your “homecoming.”
• 22:00: Do people with an attitude actually have depression?
• 25:20: What is healing, anyway?
• 27:00: How do we handle people in our lives who are irritable, frustrated, and angry?
• 30:00: It’s a big mistake if you wait for this before you start your own healing.
• 36:30: How to know if you need therapy or you need spirituality.
• 41:00: How do you heal from a lifetime of messaging that you’re not worthy?
• 44:00: This is how you handle working in a toxic work environment.
• 48:50: Look to these resources if you can’t afford therapy.

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Imagine how liberating it would be to not care about what other people think of you. You’d take more risks. You’d stop holding yourself back. You’d make more money and have more fun. 

That’s what happened to me when I learned the (not-so-subtle) art of not giving a sh*t.

This is the best episode I've done so far.

I mean it. The best.

It’s hilarious. It’s relatable. It’s packed with takeaways and research. It’s entertaining and personal, and yet I still manage to empower you with 4 simple ways to stop caring about what other people think.

Want to know what life looks like when you don’t care?

 I’ll go first.

You’ll hear some outrageous, not-safe-for-work stories about your friend, Mel.

And as you’re laughing at me, I’ll be laughing at me, too. One of the benefits of not caring about what other people think is that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

Why? Because you have much more important things to care about.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 4:00: Hilarious story of me taking my shirt off at an LA restaurant.
• 8:30: Christine says you’re not supposed to show up to meetings this way.
• 14:30: Here’s why wearing ballet flats would have been a failure for me.
• 16:00: Christine’s profound point about judgment really opened my eyes.
• 19:00: When you stop worrying about how you look, others around you will too.
• 23:00: What I think about ugly troll comments so that I can rise above it.
• 27:00: If you’re part of a gossip loop, here’s what you need to do.
• 28:00: It’s not normal to wear a child-size space suit in front of your students?
• 34:00: Jessie could not stop laughing after I did this.
• 36:00: How can you give honest feedback and not sound like a jerk?
• 38:00: The wake-up moment for me around relationships.
• 38:30: My four rules about how not to give a sh*t about stupid stuff.
• 48:30: Kendall revealed something to me that I still can’t believe.

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New research shows that your work, your life, and your relationships will get boring. 

Today, you’ll learn a simple tool you can use to make your life exciting, joyful, and energizing again. 

This profound conversation will allow you to truly understand and connect the dots between why you've become bored with what used to excite you – and how you can create more meaning in your life.

In this episode, Mel is joined by the renowned neuroscientist from University College London and MIT, Dr. Tali Sharot. 

She is here to teach you the groundbreaking science and research about how you can start feeling excitement about your life again.

Dr. Sharot is a behavioral neuroscientist and the director of the Affective Brain Lab at University College London. Her research integrates neuroscience, behavioral economics, and psychology to study how emotion and behavior influences people's beliefs and decisions.

After today, you will know how to use Dr. Sharot’s research to make your life sparkle again and reignite happiness in your day-to-day life.

You’ll also learn very specific, tactical things you can do to make your vacations better, avoid a midlife crisis, and improve the experience of your everyday life.

For more resources, including links to Dr. Tali’s books, website, and research, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this episode with Dr. Tali Sharot, you will love her first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast: How to Motivate Yourself (and Others) to Change Any Behavior

And to go deeper in the themes of this episode, you’ll love this one: 5 Fun Ideas to Shake Up Your Life & Get Out Of A Rut

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I am thrilled to share this conversation with you. It is packed with practical strategies that will help the people in your life who may be struggling. 

Dr. Lisa Damour is a clinical psychologist and author of three New York Times bestsellers.  She earned degrees from both Yale and the University of Michigan and has more than 30 years of experience working with teens and families.

Her latest book, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, has been nothing short of life changing.

Today you will learn…

-five words you need to know when someone you love is struggling

-the signs that tell you when someone is “costly coping”

-what to say that will prevent a conversation from turning into a battle

-why your kids dump all their emotional garbage on you

-when it’s time for a therapist

-why struggles are signs of being “mentally WELL”!

I started using Dr. Lisa’s strategies with my family the moment we finished recording this episode. They work! 

You will leave this episode full of the resources you deserve. Plus, you’re going to love Dr. Damour (and how hopeful she makes you feel) as much as I do. 

Xo Mel 

And if you need to take the reins in your own life, sign up for my free Take Control mini-course to get inspiring support, guidance, and motivation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

• 4:00: Two things psychologists look for when assessing mental health.
• 5:15: Too many people are not distinguishing between these qualities.
• 6:15: When exactly IS adolescence?
• 8:30: We’ve had the wrong idea about what it means to be mentally healthy.
• 12:45: What’s the difference between a “normal” reaction vs one to be concerned about?
• 15:10: Do you know someone who is managing by “costly coping.”
• 16:45: So how do you help your kid?
• 20:00: This is how you don’t turn a conversation with your child into a fight.
• 24:00: Take these steps when it’s time to confront your teen.
• 27:30: Here’s how I wish I’d handled Chris’s depression differently.
• 30:20: Let’s look at the difference in emotions between genders.
• 34:15: How do you help people in your life who just can’t let it go?
• 39:00: Do your kids do this, too? It’s called the “defense of externalization.”
• 41:40: This is how my own mother set me straight.
• 44:00: How do you know when it’s time to get a therapist involved?
• 46:30: Can’t find a therapist for your child? Use this resource.
• 48:00: Here’s how the lockdown impacted our kids. 
• 54:30: When are suicide thoughts normal and when are they concerning?
• 58:00: What happened to our nervous system during this time?
• 1:00:00: These are the concerns of Dr. Damour that we should watch for.
• 1:01:30: When do healthy habits become an obsession?
• 1:08:15: How do you let kids have emotions without letting them run the home?
• 1:14:00: Here is the most important thing you can offer your teen.

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You know what you want and how to start.

But you never make progress.

Here’s my wake up call for you today:

What’s holding you back is never what you think.

Today I am coaching a woman who says:

I can’t make myself do what I need to do. I feel like I’m in quicksand. Every time I try to move…I sink.

She has:

-put on an extra 30 pounds

-left her relationship with herself in the gutter

-no longer does the things that make her happy

-broken promises to herself time and again

I bet you can relate. 

This is a must-listen if you want to: 

be healthier…

go back to school..

find your dream home…

make new friends…

go for that promotion…

write a book…

land your dream job…

But you just can’t make yourself take the actions you need to take.

Stop frustrating yourself by trying to solve the wrong problem. 

Your dreams matter. 

Today you’re learning where to find the right solution.

Pull up a seat for a conversation with a listener like you as we uncover what’s really holding her back. 

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

• 2:15: This metaphor will help you understand why you’re stuck.
• 6:00: I bet you can relate to Ricki’s story. 
• 8:15: The bad news that made Ricki’s face drop.
• 11:30: Here’s why you don’t believe your life will get better.
• 13:30: What happened to you earlier in your life that broke you?
• 18:15: Maybe you resist a part of your life because it links to something painful.
• 21:30: When acute grief turns into chronic, underlying grief.
• 31:00: You can’t invite love, joy, and connection, if you’re closed to it.
• 33:15: I get where Ricki is, because I used to close myself off in the same way.
• 39:30: Here’s my assignment for Ricki that I know she needs to do.
• 41:00: Give yourself permission to be happy again by connecting to this.
• 45:00: Here’s why I truly believe the best years of your life are ahead.
• 46:30: Ricki recorded an incredible update for you and me.

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In this episode, you’re going to learn how to decode body language from one of the world’s leading experts on the topic.

Janine Driver has been trained by the FBI, CIA, and one of the world’s top hostage negotiators.

When a criminal case grabs our attention, every news network calls Janine to analyze body language and critical verbal cues that suspects, politicians, and celebrities are sending so we can tell when somebody is lying.

If you love True Crime, you’re going to love this episode, because it’s a masterclass from an expert who’s spent over three decades decoding body language for law enforcement agencies around the country.

She will teach you which hand gestures indicate that somebody may be lying, why you should grab your chin during a high-level meeting, why you should never shrug your shoulders if you want to be convincing, and the million-dollar question that you should ask at the end of every single interview.

If you’re dating, you’ll learn all kinds of incredible tactics, like why you should never sit directly across from someone on a first date. 

This is an incredibly interesting, entertaining, and surprising take on how to build confidence and be smarter about the subconscious signals that other people are sending you all day long. 

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3:15: Janine’s early childhood trauma saved her life as a teen.
• 6:00: So how do you go from being a profiler with the FBI to a body language expert?
• 9:30: Which three groups of people can read body language really well?
• 10:00: The hand gesture that says “maybe” even when you’re hearing “yes.”
• 12:30: Listen for the word “left” when you hear it from someone else.
• 13:40: How Janine knew Casey Anthony was lying about her daughter’s death.
• 19:30: What’s your behavioral fingerprint? Here’s how to figure it out.
• 20:00: What is the best question to ask at the end of an interview?
• 21:15: How men state what they need versus how women do.
• 27:00: This is why a shoulder shrug might be a huge clue.
• 31:40: The power of eye contact, unpacked.
• 34:15: What the heck is lip locking and what does it mean when someone’s doing it?
• 36:15: When you’re trying to get the truth out of somebody, use the pause after “don’t”.
• 37:45: Do this to get your kids to tell you the truth.
• 42:30: Ever been interrupted by someone in a meeting? Here’s what you do!
• 47:15: Use this hack to look more confident. 
• 48:00: Janine tells me what my pointy chin means.
• 48:45: Know the difference between Clark Kent and Superman, and you’re all set.
• 52:00: This is the BEST dating advice I’ve heard in a long time.
• 54:15: Here’s how detail-oriented people drink their water.
• 56:30: Next time you’re on a date or an email, tilt the coaster. 
• 58:00: What if you don’t FEEL confident when you use these “non-verbals?”
• 1:02:00: Why belly buttons matter more than the eyes when reading someone.
• 1:04:00: Nervous on a date or an interview? This hack releases nervous energy.

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