Explore every episode of the podcast The Love Drive with Shaun Galanos
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| Is this a no? | 22 Oct 2026 | 00:25:30 | |
I'm tired. This house renovation is taking a lot out of me, and I'm really looking forward to having more time and energy for the things I love. Including sitting down and having these conversations with you. Today, I've got a handful of your questions, and they all seem to come back to the same thing. Sometimes people tell us exactly what they mean, and we keep looking for a different answer. He says he loves you but can't commit. Is it the right person at the wrong time? If you're having doubts, does that mean something's wrong? And what happens when everything feels right, but you're still scared? We get into mixed signals, commitment, rejection, long-distance relationships, and the fear of letting someone in. I also share a few stories from my own experiences, and somewhere along the way, I stumble onto something I might need to unpack in therapy. Maybe the hardest part of love isn't hearing no. Maybe it's accepting the answer we've been given. And what if the thing you're most afraid of isn't rejection at all? Leave a Listener Question 📞 415-494-9559 📧 podcast@thelovedrive.com Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. Connect with me: Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About me: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Why he can't stay hard (and why he won't talk about it) | 15 Oct 2026 | 00:37:09 | |
Joe called in from Spain. She's 48, dating younger men, and she's noticed a pattern. "I thought it was me. I thought it was a desirability thing, and I took it personally." She isn't the problem. We get into whether erectile dysfunction is an age thing, what's actually going on mechanically, why an erection can be an early warning sign for your heart, condoms, SSRIs, sleep, booze, nicotine, exercise, and the stuff that actually helps versus the stuff the internet sells you. I also talk about my own libido, or lack thereof! What should women understand about men and their bodies? And what's the kindest possible way to bring it up without it landing as shame? Here's the short version: If you're a man and this is happening, it's your job to raise it. Stop making her do it. It was never about the erection. It's about what happens when someone tries to talk to you about it. Do you shut down, get defensive, retaliate? Or can you say, "Thank you for telling me. I don't know how to talk about this, and I want to try"? Only about 15% of my audience is men, so the guy who needs this probably isn't going to find it on his own. Send it to him. Your partner, your brother, your friend. Mentioned in this episode Want to go deeper? My full conversation with sex and relationship coach Laura Ramadei on performance anxiety, porn, and erectile dysfunction is on my Substack. Listen to the full conversation here: Got a question? Leave me a voicemail at 415-494-9559, and I might play it on the show! Or submit your question here: Follow & subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. Connect with me Read my blog: The Love Drive Podcast: Instagram: @thelovedrive More about me: Buy me a coffee: | |||
| How to get over heartbreak (you don't, you move through it) | 08 Oct 2026 | 00:32:07 | |
I don't think heartbreak is something we get over. It's something we move through. This episode is built around your questions: "I've cried in public more than once; should I just stay home?" (Fuck no.) "How do I stop ruminating when all my coping skills are gone?" And the comment that hit closest to home: "I really want to be chosen." I discuss inviting your feelings in for tea and then putting a limit on them, why the person who hurt you can't be the person who heals you, playing the tape forward, why we keep wanting to be chosen by the exact people who can't choose us, and the friendship test for exes. "God breaks the heart again and again and again until it stays open." – Hazrat Inayat Khan Links: Living with a broken heart Can you really be friends with your ex? Coaching with me Connect with me: Read my blog The Love Drive Podcast Instagram More About Shaun Buy me a coffee | |||
| Ghosting, dental dams, and sharing myself with you | 01 Oct 2026 | 00:29:47 | |
I’m back with new episodes, and I’m really happy to be here. The house isn’t ready yet, but I’m feeling better and I have a lot to share with you. Today, I’m letting you in on a little of that life and answering your questions about ghosting, dental dams, trying new things in bed, and being curious about dating women. And if you’ve ever wondered how I decide what to share with you, there’s a lot you don’t hear and a reason I wait. Leave a Listener Question 📞 415-494-9559 📧 podcast@thelovedrive.com Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. Connect with me | |||
| My first sex party (replay) | 24 Sep 2026 | 01:02:43 | |
In this 2019 replay, I tell the story of my first real sex party and then the woman I met that night joins me to share her side. It’s explicit, funny, tender, and ultimately a story about attraction, assumptions, communication, and finding the courage to say what you want. New episodes return in October. Have a question for the podcast? Leave me a voicemail at 415-494-9559 Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. Connect with me | |||
| (Replay) Mismatched libidos with Kai Werder | 17 Sep 2026 | 00:56:42 | |
(Replay from 2020) What happens when one person wants sex more often than the other? In this conversation with sex educator Kai Werder, we talk about mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, how to talk about sex without pressure, and why intimacy doesn’t always have to lead to sex. We also get into scheduling play, creating the conditions for desire, and the three-part invite—one of my favorite ways to ask for what you want while making room for a no. New episodes of The Love Drive return in October. Got a question for the October Q&As? Further reading Come Together - Emily Nagoski Also mentioned Authentic Seduction Skills with Dr. Alison Ash — this is where I learned the three-part invite. Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. Connect with me Read the blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com | |||
| (Replay) The year I gave erotic massages | 10 Sep 2026 | 01:21:16 | |
I'm sharing some of my favorite episodes throughout September, and this replay is a peek into a part of my life I don't talk about very often: my time giving erotic massage to women in San Francisco. A friend asks me how it started, what actually happened in those sessions, and what it eventually cost me. About a third of my clients cried on the table. Most of them weren't starved for sex. They were touch-starved, and I don't think that's changed much.
We talk about touch, trust, and what can happen when you let yourself receive without giving anything back. There's a turn about halfway through. I'm not going to spoil it. This is a replay from 2019. New episodes return in October. Got something you want me to answer in a future Q&A? Leave it at https://thelovedrive.com/ask/ Mentions: Aphrodite's Daughters Book Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. Connect with me | |||
| Welcome back September | 03 Sep 2026 | 00:15:58 | |
I’ve missed being here. The last month has taken me somewhere I wasn’t quite expecting, and I wanted to check in and tell you a little about where I’ve been. This week is a little life update on what I’ve been building, why I’m giving myself a little more time before coming back with new episodes, and what this season of my life is starting to look like. I’m also sharing what’s next for The Love Drive - and why I’m more excited than ever about where this podcast is headed. For now, consider this a little update from me before we get into three of my favorite episodes from the Love Drive archives. Connect with Shaun: Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| To the best rope gun I know: a eulogy for Josh | 23 Jul 2026 | 00:17:05 | |
On July 13th, I lost one of my dear friends. Josh Kalven was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive cancer in March and died four months later. He was a husband, a dad to a five-year-old, and a sweet friend. This episode is a eulogy. I read Josh the letter I wrote him in June, back when we still thought he'd beat it. It's full of stuck ropes, bad slab, his famous hummus sandwich, and everything he taught me about climbing and friendship. And I talk about grief. What losing my dad, my dog, and now Josh has taught me. How devastating it is, and, if you can find it, how beautiful. Grief is unexpressed love. Maybe. It's also expressed love. If there's someone you love who doesn't know it, and an email you've been meaning to send, let this be your invitation to send it. I'm taking August off to move into the new place and rest, so this is the last episode until September. If it touches you, share it with someone who needs it. And I'd love to hear from you. Leave me a voicemail at 415-494-9559 or an email at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Take good care of yourself and the people you love. Connect with Shaun: Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| A guide to eating pussy with Amy Baldwin | 16 Jul 2026 | 01:13:47 | |
The manosphere thinks going down on a woman is gay, submissive, or a low-return waste of time. It's wrong on all three — so I brought in an expert to help me prove it. In this crossover episode — Shameless Love — I sit down with sex educator Amy Baldwin from the Shameless Sex podcast for an honest, explicit, and useful guide to going down on women. We take apart the manosphere nonsense, then get practical: how to get out of your head as a receiver, real anatomy (yes, Amy brought a vulva puppet), hygiene without the shame, communication that actually works, and my field-tested tips for being great at this — plus a rapid-fire hot-or-not round to finish. Ten years ago I wrote a blog called What Women Wish You Knew About Eating Pussy. Consider this the 2.0. Explicit. Headphones recommended. Mentioned in this episode
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| Learning to love unpredictability | 09 Jul 2026 | 00:19:14 | |
A listener asks whether to move back to somewhere familiar or take a leap somewhere new. Shaun uses the question to explore something bigger: how do you make peace with a life you can't predict? In this episode: finding community after a move, the "third space" concept, why it took two years to find his people in Montreal, what Flagstaff taught him, and why every choice — city, relationship, kids, career — requires you to grieve the road not taken. Books mentioned:
Work with Me I have room for 3 new coaching clients. If this episode resonated — this is exactly the work we can do together. shaungalanos.com/coaching or https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/love-and-relationship-mentorship Leave a Listener Question 📞 415-494-9559 📧 podcast@thelovedrive.com Connect with me Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. | |||
| Bidding for connection with Jess Janz | 02 Jul 2026 | 01:09:41 | |
Jess Janz is a writer, community facilitator, and the founder of Dinner With Strangers - a project that has brought over a thousand people together for a meal with one rule: no one talks about what they do for work. Her book, The Table Where We Meet, is out July 14th. We set out to talk about platonic love and ended up somewhere more personal - about what it actually means to bid for connection with a stranger, what gets in the way of letting people in, and what happens when someone turns the big scary light on and decides to stay anyway. In this conversation: why we project entire futures onto people we've known for five minutes, the grief of nine years of building something and not knowing where you end and the project begins, why friend breakups are so hard to mourn, and the small everyday acts that are actually love stories - if only we'd name them. What We Cover 1. Why we are obsessed with romantic love over platonic love - and what that costs us 2. How Dinner With Strangers works, and why removing the agenda is what makes connection possible 3. Projection: narrating entire futures onto strangers in coffee shops before they have introduced themselves 4. Bidding for connection - small honest signals and whether they get returned 5. Jess answers "how are you" honestly - fear about the book, and not knowing who she is outside the work 6. Identity tied to vocation and the danger of losing yourself in what you have built 7. The loneliness of being single while creating - no one to debrief with at the end of the day 8. The big scary light - what it means to be truly seen, and what is actually more terrifying: rejection or acceptance 9. Friend breakups - no script, no closure, no culturally sanctioned way to grieve 10. How to actually build community - ritualizing friendship and why getting out of your comfort zone is the only answer nobody wants to hear About Jess Janz Jess Janz is a writer, poet, and community facilitator based in Toronto. She is the founder of Dinner With Strangers, a gathering project that has brought over 1,000 people together across North America for meals where no one talks about what they do for work. She has hosted events for lululemon, Pinterest, Wealthsimple, and The W Hotel, among others. Her debut book, The Table Where We Meet: Lessons Learned From Dinner With 1,000 Strangers, is out July 14, 2026. She also writes a Substack called Gentle Company. Connect with Jess Pre-order the book: jessjanz.com/book Connect with Shaun | |||
| Living with a Broken Heart | 25 Jun 2026 | 00:20:10 | |
This week's episode is a tender one. I recorded this on Father's Day — three years after losing my dad — and I'm reading my Substack essay Living with a Broken Heart and riffing on what it means to keep showing up, keep feeling, and keep choosing love even when it costs you. I also make a correction from EP17, share a few quotes that have been sitting with me, and offer some practical tips on how to actually live with a broken heart — not just survive it. In This Episode
Quotes "God breaks the heart again and again and again until it stays open." — Hazrat Inayat Khan "You have to keep breaking your heart until it stays open." — attributed to Rumi "Maturity happens when we learn to hold ambiguity: emotions that contradict each other, that don't quite make sense together. So maybe as we grow up, we get better at smiling when we cry, dancing as we grieve, being kind when we lose our shit." — Max Vallot "I haven't been feeling like myself lately. I must be growing." — Unknown Books Mentioned
A Note on Ho'oponopono In EP17, I referred to Ho'oponopono as a prayer, meditation, or mantra. That was incorrect. Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice with deep cultural roots and strict protocols around who can practice it and how. It's not a phrase or a technique — it's a process for restoring harmony within a family, traditionally facilitated by a trained elder. A listener and Love Camp alumna who works closely with this community took the time to write me a generous and educational correction, and I'm really grateful. The resources below are a good place to start if you'd like to learn more. Start here:
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Work with Me I have room for 3 new coaching clients. If this episode resonated — heartbreak, grief, fear of love and intimacy, learning to set boundaries or make requests for your needs — this is exactly the work we can do together. Book here or email me for more information. https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/love-and-relationship-mentorship Leave a Listener Question 📞 415-494-9559 📧 podcast@thelovedrive.com Follow & Subscribe If this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs it. Word of mouth is everything for an independent podcast. | |||
| Why lonely men join the Manosphere with Laura Ramadei | 18 Jun 2026 | 01:09:32 | |
I've been thinking a lot about why so many men end up looking for belonging in all the wrong places. This conversation starts with the manosphere, but it quickly becomes something much bigger. Laura Ramadei and I talk about why so many boys and men are starving for connection, why "fix yourself" advice so often misses the point, and how loneliness can make almost anyone vulnerable to people selling certainty. We get into emotional safety, friendship between men and women, why relational skills matter far beyond dating, and why being seen for who you are will always be more valuable than chasing status, money, or someone else's definition of success. I also share some of my own experience with validation, why I spent years looking for it in sex and relationships, and what I'm still learning about opening my heart instead of protecting it. This one's about choosing connection over performance. Mess and all. Mentioned in this episode Louis Theroux – Inside the Manosphere (Netflix) https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/louis-theroux-inside-the-manosphere-release-date-news "Small Hands, Big Heart" (Girthmaster & Small Hands parody) https://www.facebook.com/61556509147521/videos/small-hands-big-heart-smallhands/1157398549907361/ Girls on Porn Podcast About Laura Ramadei Laura Ramadei is a sexologist and intimacy coach. She's the Safety Director at one of Los Angeles' most prominent play parties and the host of the Girls on Porn podcast. Laura works with individuals, couples, and groups, specializing in relationship counseling, desire discrepancy, non-monogamy, queer identity, and kink. Connect with Laura Website https://www.intimacywithlaura.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacywithlaura/ Substack https://intimacywithlaura.substack.com/ Connect with Shaun Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| What is love? | 11 Jun 2026 | 00:14:53 | |
What is love? It's a question I've never seriously stopped to answer — and one that's surprisingly hard to get at. In this solo episode, I share reflections from Love Camp, a retreat I hosted for 25 people, where only one participant raised their hand when asked if they had positive loving role models growing up. I explore what love actually looks like in practice — not the grand gestures we're sold, but the quiet, boring, mundane acts of showing up. I read a letter I wrote to myself, share an email from my friend Kathy, and read some of my favorite quotes on love from M. Scott Peck and Rainer Maria Rilke — plus a Hawaiian prayer to close. This episode won't give you a clean answer. But it might help you live the question a little better. If you've ever found yourself asking what love actually is, why it hurts, or whether you're doing it right, this one's for you. Maybe the answer isn't something we figure out. Maybe we live our way into it. Listener question from Sarah in British Columbia, Canada. Featured quotes: M. Scott Peck "Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth. Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love." Rainer Maria Rilke "Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer." Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Once a cheater, sometimes a cheater with Lauren LaRusso | 04 Jun 2026 | 01:21:26 | |
There is life after betrayal. It might not feel like it right now, but there is. My guest today is Lauren LaRusso, a licensed therapist and the author of Beyond Infidelity, a book she wrote after living through betrayal herself. Then she discovered the infidelity, and everything split into a before and an after. We talk about why infidelity is a trauma, not just a relationship issue, how being gaslit by someone you love can make you stop trusting yourself, and why the reaction you’re having probably isn’t “too much.” It’s grief. It’s shock. It’s your body trying to make sense of something that doesn’t make sense. We also get into the myths that don’t help — “happy people don’t cheat,” “if it were me, I’d leave immediately,” and “once a cheater, always a cheater.” Lauren brings so much nuance to the messy middle: staying, leaving, repair, shame, self-soothing, emotional maturity, and learning to live with answers you may never get. This one is for anyone who’s been betrayed, anyone who’s betrayed someone else, or anyone trying to understand how love, devastation, anger, and hope can all live in the same body. Find Lauren: Website: https://www.laurenlarusso.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenlarusso Book: Beyond Infidelity https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Infidelity-Turn-Relationship-Beginning/dp/B0F3W9ZKP2 Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Can awkward sex be improved? | 28 May 2026 | 00:23:17 | |
What if the sex is awkward, but the connection is actually really good? This week, I’m answering a listener question about dating someone new after years of being mostly single - someone kind, compatible, emotionally available… and a little nervous in bed. Fun! Humbling! Slightly confusing! I get into whether sexual compatibility has to be there from the start, how to tell the difference between someone who’s shut down and someone who’s simply inexperienced, and why nervousness doesn’t have to mean immaturity or incompatibility. Sometimes it just means: new person, new body, new dynamic, new reps. I also talk about kissing, giving feedback without making someone feel like a project, and why asking for what you want in bed is not as obvious as people pretend it is. And yes, I start with a personal update. I’m in a very real in-between place right now - with love, work, grief, anxiety, medication, and the annoying little fact that I don’t currently have clear answers. Maybe you don’t either. Mentioned in this episode: Clarity & Connection by Yung Pueblo Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Herpes is just a skin rash — with Debbie Barish, NP | 21 May 2026 | 01:14:14 | |
Most adults in the world carry the virus that causes herpes. Most of them don't know it. And the shame around it is doing more damage than the virus. This week I sit down with Debbie Barish, DNP, MS, WHNP-BC — a board-certified women's health nurse practitioner with 32 years in sexual and reproductive health — for a no-shame, no-bullshit conversation about herpes (both HSV-1 and HSV-2). We get into what it actually is, how it's actually transmitted, why your standard STI panel doesn't test for it, what suppression therapy can (and can't) do, how to talk about it with a partner, and why this one virus carries so much more shame than other, often more serious, STIs. I also share my own diagnosis story for the first time on the show. We cover:
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If you're outside the US: Search for your country's national sexual health service. In the UK, Terrence Higgins Trust and the NHS herpes page. In Australia, Better Health Channel or Family Planning Australia. In Canada, Sex & U. Most public health systems have free or low-cost sexual health clinics — use them. Find Debbie: @thenewdebbieb on Instagram — where she posts zines and art journals about sexual and reproductive health. Citation for the transmission number: The 50% figure I give at the end of the episode is from Corey et al., 2004, New England Journal of Medicine — the landmark study on daily valacyclovir as suppression therapy for HSV-2 transmission. Read the study here. Heads-up: This episode talks openly about shame, self-image after diagnosis, and mental health. If those topics are heavy for you right now, take care of yourself listening.
Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| You don’t need to be ready to be loved | 14 May 2026 | 00:16:04 | |
Someone recently told me I wasn't too complicated to love and it inspired me to explore the ways in which we keep ourselves small rather than dare to show up for love. This one's a pep talk about the lie we tell ourselves: that we have to lose the weight, get the job, finalize the divorce, heal more, become our "best self" before we deserve to be loved. The goalpost always moves. The waiting isn’t about the conditions, it’s about the fear of being seen as unfinished and unloveable. I get into the honest exception of when waiting actually is the wise call, why "ready" is usually code for something else, and what to do when you realize the person who only wants the polished version of you was never going to stay anyway. I hope you enjoy it. In this episode: • The fear of being “too complicated” to love • Why “I’ll date when…” is often fear dressed up as self-improvement • The moving goalpost of readiness • Being seen in transition, mess, grief, uncertainty, and change • The difference between acute crisis and ordinary human messiness • Why capacity matters more than perfection • How relationships can help heal the parts of us we keep trying to fix alone • Dating with roommates, anxiety, career uncertainty, body insecurity, and unfinished business • The danger of comparing your insides to someone else’s outsides • Why the right person doesn’t need you smaller, simpler, richer, or more healed Coming up Next guest episode — Debbie Barrish, sexual and reproductive health nurse practitioner, on everything we get wrong about herpes. Her journey, my journey, how to protect yourself, how to talk about it. Maybe the most honest STI conversation I've had on the show. Next solo episode — the flip side of this one. A listener question about a guy she's been seeing: great connection, real long-term potential, but the sex feels awkward and he's clearly in his head. He's just out of a 15-year relationship where intimacy never deepened. She's wondering: is this workable? How long do I give it? How do I invite him into more without making him feel bad? And the question I cannot wait to answer — can you actually teach an adult to be a better kisser? Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Connect with Shaun: Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| What straight people can learn from gay men with Eric Williams | 07 May 2026 | 01:18:18 | |
This week, Shaun sits down with comedian, actor, writer, and host of That’s a Gay Ass Podcast, Eric Williams, for a conversation that’s hilarious, horny, and a surprisingly tender masterclass on queerness, straight male loneliness, flirting, consent, emotional intelligence, and what the straights can learn from the gays. Eric and Shaun talk about Dan Savage, Grindr, gay panic, open relationships, non-monogamy, and why deleting the apps might be the universe’s way of sending you back into the real world. They unpack the weirdness of being recognized while dating, the blurry line between flirting and boundary-pushing, and why good flirting usually happens one tiny green light at a time. Eric shares what it’s been like to build his own queer playbook around marriage, family, career, sex, and not having kids, while Shaun asks the very important question: how do you know if your boyfriend is gay? They also get into straight men, gay men, emotional intelligence, the loneliness epidemic, and how boys are still taught that anger is the only acceptable feeling. Shaun opens up about his dad softening near the end of his life, Eric talks about grieving the version of himself that tried to fit into his straight family’s rules, and together they make a case for living more honestly, more expressively, and with better communication around desire. And yes, there is also a surprisingly educational detour into foreskin, mushroom trips, chesticles, Edgy Albert, and whether Shaun is officially gayer than Dan Savage. Eric Williams hosts That’s A Gay Ass Podcast, a top 100 comedy podcast that was named “One of the Best Podcasts To Listen To” by Glamour Magazine. It was nominated for Best Podcast at the 2025 + 2026 Queerty Awards and has been featured in Variety, The Hollywood Reporter, Vulture, and more. As a comedian, Eric has performed in the Netflix Is A Joke festival and is currently touring his solo show Why All The Drama after playing NYC's famed Joe's Pub. You can check out more of Eric's work on Tiktok, Instagram, and you can watch That's A Gay Ass Podcast on Youtube. In this episode: • How Shaun and Eric bonded over Dan Savage • Why deleting the apps might bring dating back to life • The difference between being sexually forward and being creepy • What straight people can learn from gay flirting • Open relationships, non-monogamy, and making your own rules • Why gay men may have better emotional muscles than straight men • Straight male loneliness and the cost of emotional shutdown • How boys are taught that anger is the only acceptable feeling • Family, queerness, boundaries, and living unapologetically • How do you know if your boyfriend is gay? • Mushrooms, grief, dads, softness, and self-soothing • A very educational conversation about intact penises • What love means to Eric Williams Mentions: Hot hairy guy — Edgy Albert Instagram https://www.instagram.com/edgyalbert/ Connect with Shaun: Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Why men pull away after sex? | 30 Apr 2026 | 00:26:47 | |
This week, Shaun comes to you solo from Seoul, South Korea, for an episode that’s part travel diary, part dating debrief, and part emotional field note from the road. After a muted-mic false start, a pastry reset, and some solo wandering, Shaun reflects on the strange clarity that can come when you’re alone in a new city. From there, he answers listener questions about sex, desire, independence, receiving love, and the confusing ways intimacy can stir up old survival patterns. In one question, Shaun unpacks why someone might seem interested before sex, only to pull away after intimacy happens. Maybe desire was running the show all along. Or maybe something deeper is at play, like the Madonna-whore split, where someone struggles to hold another person as both sexually desirable and emotionally worthy. He also responds to a listener who has built a deeply independent life — running a business, raising two boys, buying her own car — but struggles to receive love, compliments, or support. Shaun validates the strength it took to become that self-reliant, while gently naming that independence can also be a survival mechanism. Receiving, he says, doesn’t mean giving up your power. It starts with baby steps: letting in a compliment, asking for help, trusting safe people slowly, and noticing what happens inside when you don’t have to do everything alone. If you’ve ever been alone in a beautiful city, wondered why the “chemistry” suddenly disappeared, or struggled to let love in because you’ve had to hold everything together yourself, this one’s for you. In this episode:
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To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Connect with Shaun: Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Peter Pan, grief, and the men who won't grow up with Laura Griffiths | 23 Apr 2026 | 01:18:35 | |
This week, Shaun sits down with his good friend, somatic therapist and sex & relationship coach Laura Griffiths, for a conversation that's part confessional and part masterclass on masculinity, grief, and the kind of intimacy most men are too scared to reach for. Laura calls Shaun out on the charm he wears like armor, names his "performative" first-date energy that kept them from ever being romantic, and unpacks why women fully rooted in their bodies feel threatening to so many men, including him. They go deep on the Peter Pan archetype and the absence of real initiation into manhood, why the Manosphere is fueled by guys who are "angry their mothers weren't their fathers," and what healthy masculinity actually looks like when you let the mask down. Shaun opens up about the emotional rock bottom he hit this past fall - a short romance that cracked open a lifelong childhood wound, followed by the death of his beloved dog Roger — and why he chose this time not to hide. Laura brings a somatic therapist's precision to grief, the pain body, receiving love, and the erotic charge that lives in the space between vulnerability and strength. If you've ever wondered whether men and women can really be friends, why grief and eros live in the same room, or what it means to "optimize for heartbreak," this one's for you. Laura Griffiths is a somatic therapist and sex & relationship coach working with individuals and couples on rupture, repair, and creative-erotic power. Find her at thelauragriffiths.com, on Instagram @thelauragriffiths, and on Substack at Tongue of Honey. In this episode:
Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Connect with Shaun: Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Should your friends unfollow your ex? | 16 Apr 2026 | 00:31:41 | |
In this solo episode, Shaun shares the story of Roger, his blind dog, and what loving him through loss taught him about trust, grief, and letting go. What begins as a response to a listener’s question about a dog losing its sight turns into a deeper reflection on resilience, adaptation, and how often we project our fear onto the ones we love. He also checks in from Thailand, reflects on nicotine withdrawal and travel, and answers listener questions about dating as a therapist and navigating friendship after a breakup. This episode is about grief without regret, freedom without guilt, and what Roger the blind dog taught Shaun about living in the moment. Timestamps: (00:20) Thailand update, solo travel, and being the 33rd wheel Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Connect with Shaun: Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Sex therapist debunks bedroom myths: squirting, pegging, monogamy with Claire Perelman | 09 Apr 2026 | 01:29:07 | |
In this episode, Shaun is joined by Bay Area sex therapist Claire Perelman, aka Sex Clarified, for a candid and useful conversation about sex, desire, shame, and the stuff people are usually too awkward to say out loud. They get into monogamy, sexual compatibility, communication, squirting, pegging, orgasm pressure, porn habits, toys, libido differences, and the shame so many people still carry around pleasure. This episode is really about permission: to communicate clearly, stop performing, get curious about your body, and stop treating sex like a test you can fail. Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Books and other mentions: She Comes First by Ian Kerner https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060538260/ Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality by Diana Richardson https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Fulfilling-Sustainable-Sexuality/dp/B0853DZL95 Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 Squirting workshop https://heyplura.com/events/squirting-may Guest links: Instagram - www.instagram.com/sexclarified TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@sexclarified Website – www.sexclarified.com Substack - https://substack.com/@claireperelman All other relevant links - linktr.ee/sexclarified Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More about Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ | |||
| You're probably doing better than you think | 02 Apr 2026 | 00:32:50 | |
In this solo check-in, Shaun begins with a simple question that lands deeper than expected: how is your heart? From there, Shaun moves through a mix of life update, therapy reflection, sex question detour, and a deeper check-in on what it means to feel like you’re doing enough with your life. He talks about quitting nicotine, feeling more touched by life again, and replacing one habit with an alarming amount of gummy bears. He reflects on doomscrolling, discipline, and the small daily choices that can either ground you or pull you further away from yourself. At the center of the episode is a vulnerable therapy reflection on feeling unaccomplished at 43 and realizing that praise, money, and external validation can’t create self-worth for you. There’s also dating advice, some delightfully unhinged sex talk, and a sweet reminder that this podcast is meant to feel like a longer voice memo from a friend. If your sense of success has been tied to achievement and you’ve been feeling a little unmoored lately, this episode is for you. And if it speaks to you, share it with a male friend too. We’d love to have more men in these conversations. Timestamps: (02:54) Nicotine update and feeling more alive (05:23) Doomscrolling and wanting more discipline (07:01) These episodes as a voice note from a friend (07:27) Feeling unaccomplished at 43 (12:27) Can money make you feel successful? (15:14) Deep throating, sore throats, and bruising (18:54) Allergic to semen? (19:41) Reviews, voicemails, and how to send questions (20:55) Sweet listener message and why more men should listen (25:44) Dating question: should you ask for another date? (29:58) Travel update and weekly Thursday releases (31:29) Next week: Claire Perelman on sex and questions Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ | |||
| Men, masculinity & the loneliness epidemic with Therapy Jeff | 26 Mar 2026 | 00:50:19 | |
Therapy Jeff joins Shaun for a conversation about men, therapy, emotional depth, and why so many relationships struggle when people cannot say what is actually going on inside them. They talk about the myth that men are “simple,” why emotional shutdown creates distance, and why gym, status, and success are not substitutes for real emotional growth.
They talk about modern dating, rejection, approach anxiety, and what respectful flirting can actually look like now. If you’ve ever wondered why some men struggle to open up, why dating can feel so high-stakes, or what emotional maturity actually looks like in practice, this episode is for you. Timestamps: (00:20) Meet Therapy Jeff (02:46) Funeral family tension (08:30) Managing anxiety in real time (11:25) Why men struggle emotionally (20:03) Getting straight men into therapy (28:43) Therapy apps and stigma (29:11) Why we need male therapists (30:20) Small town dating dilemmas (33:44) Rejection and approaching women (42:45) First kiss and consent (46:22) Where to find Therapy Jeff (47:16) What love means today Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Resources mentioned in this episode: Jeff’s response to Scott Galloway Shaun’s guest appearance on Jeff’s Problem Solved podcast Jeff’s podcast, Problem Solved Follow Jeff on Instagram and TikTok: @therapyjeff References: Notes on Being a Man by Scott Galloway Feeld app Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ | |||
| Discovering what you want in bed (when you've never had great sex) | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:37:38 | |
In this solo episode, Shaun shares a personal confession that kicks off a real conversation about coping, cravings, and the oddly human ways we try to take the edge off. He also gets into self-soothing, emotional patterns, and what it means to actually give yourself what you need instead of just grabbing the nearest distraction. There’s also listener Q&A on sex, flirting, and gym crush energy, plus a few side roads that make this episode feel equal parts advice column, voice note, and comedy detour. If you like your relationship advice with heart, humor, and a little chaos, this episode is for you. Timestamps: (00:26) Welcome and teaser (00:59) What’s giving me chi (04:24) My dirty little secret (12:25) Inner child needs (16:46) Term: hobosexual (19:44) Sons Versus New Love (20:40) Engaged update reality check (22:56) Reviews, voicemails, and break (24:27) Sex curiosity and gym flirting (32:04) Taboo hookup and housekeeping Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Links: The Feels — IRL singles events and mindful dating experiences Yes/No/Maybe worksheet for talking about sex Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ | |||
| A smarter way to date with Jennie Young | 19 Mar 2026 | 01:13:10 | |
Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack dating method, joins Shaun to talk about how to stop wasting time on the wrong people and date with way more intention. They get into dating app red flags, boundary testing, bad first dates, manosphere code words, and why filtering harder might actually lead you to the right person faster. Jennie also reviews Shaun’s dating profile live and shares what it felt like to finally meet her own needle. And then, in a bonus post-recording tangent, Jennie has a message for Dan Savage: too many men are misusing “GGG” and “sex positive” to pressure women, and she is absolutely not having it. Timestamps: (00:00) The hidden red flags in dating profiles (00:24) The dating app problem no one admits (03:50) Why Burned Haystack dating took off (07:40) Dating in a small town without settling (17:55) The first boundary test tells you everything (41:35) The first date money debate (42:01) Jenny reviews Shaun’s dating profile live (43:05) The small profile changes that matter (48:28) Your photos might be hurting you (54:19) The manosphere language women should notice (59:32) Charm, banter, or just sexual pressure? (01:01:03) Jenny’s work and where to follow her (01:02:29) Why healthy chemistry can feel boring (01:05:07) Finding love later than you planned (01:05:49) Jennie has a question for Dan Savage about GGG (01:10:23) Wrap up, links, and final takeaways Links: Substack: https://burnedhaystack.substack.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/word_case_scenario/ Order the book: https://www.jennieyoung.com/burn-the-haystack-book Referenced: How to Not Die Alone by Logan Ury Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| How to keep going when your life is falling apart | 17 Mar 2026 | 00:40:25 | |
In this solo episode, Shaun shares what life has looked like over the last several months and why this season has felt especially hard. He talks about grief, heartbreak, instability, and what it has been like to live without a fixed home while still trying to keep moving forward. In this episode, Shaun opens up about the death of his father, losing his dog Roger, a romance that stirred up old wounds, and the strange discomfort of living in transition. He reflects on self-doubt, feeling untethered, and the pressure to be doing better when life feels messy and unresolved. He also answers listener questions about regretting the end of a good relationship, the difference between grief and self-forgiveness, fear, freezing, and how to speak honestly about hard things. This one is tender, funny, raw, and deeply human. Timestamps: (00:24) Welcome Back And Name Story (01:08) Recording On The Move (03:21) Episode Roadmap And Pep Talk (06:11) Heartbreak Grief And Losing Roger (14:02) Self Doubt And Finding Home (21:14) Build A Life Proud Of (23:06) Sweet Voicemail And Self Doubt (26:20) Stop Negative Self Talk (28:13) Breakup Regret And Hope (33:58) Crisis Hotline Lessons And Wrap Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Links & Resources: Bay Area Women Against Rape (BAWAR) Upcoming Summer Retreat - Love Camp. June 5 -7 at Kripalu Yoga Wellness Center in Western Massachusetts. Learn more and join: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love
Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Good sex is reciprocal with Dan Savage | 12 Mar 2026 | 01:19:26 | |
Dan Savage is officially the first guest of The Love Drive relaunch and it's the perfect way to kick off the relaunch. Dan is a legend in the world of sex, love, and relationships. He is the host of the Savage Lovecast, the writer of the long-running Savage Love advice column, and someone whose work has shaped how many of us think and talk about sex. In this episode, Shaun shares the story of double texting Dan to beg him to be on the show, how he used to refer to himself as the ‘younger and straighter Dan Savage,” and gets into why he downloaded Grindr. They get into herpes stigma, Shaun’s personal experience, Dan’s GGG philosophy, polyamory, age-gap relationships, and the politics shaping modern dating. They also talk about why straight men are often judged more harshly for sexual curiosity, why erections do not always equal arousal, and Dan’s pushback on the Burned Haystack Dating Method. There is also a candid conversation about Shaun’s past work as an erotic masseur in San Francisco, along with detours into Heated Rivalry, sexual openness, and the campsite rule. This one is sexually explicit, very funny, and full of honesty. Timestamps: (00:42) Shaun introduces Dan Savage (04:12) Dan Savage joins The Love Drive (09:36) Herpes stigma and the truth about disclosure (15:54) Heated Rivalry and what straight people can learn (21:33) Why straight sex needs more honesty (25:05) Shaun’s erotic massage story (28:26) Sex work, loneliness, and human connection (33:38) Politics, masculinity, and modern dating (40:46) Burn the haystack or stay open to love (52:39) Why straight men are judged for curiosity (01:09:20) Age gaps, the campsite rule, and leaving people better Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Links: https://www.instagram.com/dansavage/ Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love Connect with Shaun: Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| The Love Drive Relaunch Sneak Peek! | 10 Mar 2026 | 00:01:43 | |
I’m both very excited and a tad nervous about relaunching my old podcast, The Love Drive. Excited because I love having conversations about sex, love, and relationships with other experts, thought leaders, and everyday people. Hosting a podcast is great fun, by the way. And I still have so much to learn about the subject. And, nervous because a lot has happened over the past few years, and my confidence in many areas isn’t where it used to be. I’ve also felt a lot of grief since my father passed a few years ago, and I’m feeling more tender and vulnerable ever since. And yet, here we go. Here's a sneak peek of what you can expect this month. New episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays for the month of March. Thanks for being here, and enjoy! | |||
| Welcome Back to The Love Drive Podcast | 10 Mar 2026 | 00:12:44 | |
The Love Drive podcast is back: a funny, no-nonsense podcast about sex, love, dating, and modern relationships - for hopeful romantics, love cynics, and everyone in between. Hosted by love coach Shaun Galanos. In this episode: • How this all started: A San Francisco taxi and real conversations about love. Check those out here. • What to expect: Raw, radically honest talks with guest experts, everyday names, and regular people, and solo Q&A episodes. • The vibe: Vulnerability, humor, curiosity, and healthy conversations about love, sex, and dating. Timestamps: (00:00) We're back, baby (02:27) What this show is really about (04:56) Raw truth, healthy masculinity, zero bro-nonsense (05:58) What you can expect (07:18) Call me: your voicemails fuel this show (08:50) Scared + stoked (both can be true) (11:42) Thank you And I’m over the moon to have author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage as our first guest. Join us this Thursday. Send me your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email me at podcast@thelovedrive.com. I prefer voicemails and voicememos, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. I love hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Relevant Links Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/ Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Sorry for ghosting you, and goodbye | 07 May 2024 | 00:20:25 | |
This is a final apology episode for ghosting you all, where you can find me, and a sneak peek of the first episode of my new project, Voicemails to Dad, where, you guessed it, I leave voicemails to my recently deceased father. You can find my writing on substack here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/ You can find the Voicemail to Dad podcast here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/podcast Again, thank you all for being here. Love, Shaun | |||
| Life Update 2023: Are you still here? | 28 Feb 2023 | 00:21:38 | |
Hey friend. Thanks for being here. Here are the links I promised: Getting Your Needs Met Course: http://www.gettingyourneedsmet.com Trusting Love 2023 Retreat: http://www.trustinglove2023.com In Bloom Love And Relationship Summit
And, that's it for now. Have a lovely week. | |||
| Bad Vibes Only with Nora McInerny | 22 Nov 2022 | 00:58:20 | |
Nora McInerny is an award-winning podcast host of ‘Terrible, Thanks For Asking,’ speaker, and author of several books, including her new book “Bad Vibes Only.” Shaun and Nora discuss vulnerability porn, their relationship with social media, and how they feel about posting everything online. What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Nora Buy her new book “Bad Vibes Only” Listen to her podcast Nora on Instagram Nora's website
Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub
Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://www.shaungalanos.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Life Update 2022: Feels, Business, and Love Camp 2023 | 15 Nov 2022 | 00:22:34 | |
Hey gang, here's a little update for you. ❤️
Application to be my social and course assistant: https://forms.gle/9DWxnXLJYBgazyFE7
Love Camp 2023: www.lovecamp2023.com | |||
| You Are Codependent with Vanessa Bennett | 30 Aug 2022 | 01:12:08 | |
This episode guest is Vanessa Bennett, Codependency Expert and Holistic Psycho-Therapist and author of “It’s Not Me, It’s You”. Vanessa talks about what codependency is, if it’s always bad and how we can balance being dependent with another person without being “needy”. Shaun and Vanessa discuss how people have lost connection with their feelings, and offer examples for how to express feelings with someone who might not be comfortable with having such conversations.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Vanessa Preorder her new book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” Vanessa on Instagram
Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub
Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive | |||
| Spark, chemistry, and attraction in dating | 16 Aug 2022 | 00:21:47 | |
Oh boy. Here's a stream of consciousness about the importance of spark, chemistry, and attraction when meeting a potential partner. | |||
| All You Need To Know About Dating with Damona Hoffman | 09 Aug 2022 | 01:37:34 | |
Our guest is dating and love coach Damona Hoffman, who's been coaching people for over 15 years on online and offline dating. In this episode, Shaun and Damona share their best online dating practices, what to ask on a first date, and how to best screen for people who are a good match. Shaun and Damona answer some rapid-fire questions, including What are guys looking for during the first date? Who pays for the first date? What to do if he's a nine but follows 1000s of Instagram models? What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Damona Damona on Instagram Listen to Damona's podcast
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| Are all the ”good ones” taken? | 02 Aug 2022 | 00:15:04 | |
A little pep talk on finding great people to love and that no, all the good ones aren't taken (and you should be careful about that belief - confirmation bias is a doozy!) | |||
| All About Emotional Availability: A New Course | 29 Jul 2022 | 00:17:19 | |
I'm excited to re-launch (and teach) one of my most popular courses: The Emotional Availability Course - Open up to Love This course is for you if you want to: https://shaungalanos.mykajabi.com/emotional-availability-landing?fbclid=IwAR2F9DOLXO_i1e1I67tY_UAIRlwKCPI_9vwV_jFbpIsxT6BAwtj3hmXq8KA Become more emotionally available to those that matter Recognize emotional availability in others Experience more intimacy in your current relationship Learn to sit with and process emotional discomfort Turn towards intimacy with an open heart Learn to open up slowly to people who are safe and loving You'll walk away with: Seven Ways to Identify Emotionally Available People How to Avoid Shutting Down When It Gets Too Intense Three Techniques to Release Emotional Anxiety and Fear How to Talk About Your Feelings With Courage (even if you're not sure what you're feeling) The Importance of Holding Space for Your Loved Ones The Four Types of Unavailability Preventing You From Finding Love You'll get: 5 hours of live training with me All sessions recorded with English captions All your questions answered (through live recorded Q&A and written questions) Lifetime access to the session videos (download them after the course is over) Lifetime access to my private Facebook group Downloadable PDF of all techniques and scripts A 100% money-back guarantee if you're not happy with the course www.feelyouremotions.com We'll meet over four weeks starting August 11. All sessions are 90 minutes in length and recorded if you can't attend live. Thursdays, August 11, 18, 25, and September 1 at noon PST / 3 PM EST / 7 PM GMT Sign up before August 5 and get $50 USD off the course price and free access to the Simple Relationship Communication webinar ($77 value). This month-long course starts on August 11. $247 before August 5, $297 after. If this course resonates with you, I hope you join us. www.feelyouremotions.com | |||
| Having Hotter Sex with Yana Tallon-Hicks | 19 Jul 2022 | 01:17:18 | |
Today's guest is Yana Tallon-Hicks, a past podcast guest on how to be an ethical hookup, ethical slut, sex writer, therapist, and author of ‘Hot and Unbothered: how to think about, talk about, talk about, and have the sex you really want.’ In this episode, Shaun and Yana talk about sex, shame in receiving feedback from our partner(s), and trying new things more than once. Shaun and Yana take listeners' questions all about sex, answering doubts such as, Will vibrators desensitize my clitoris? How to be more comfortable with my body? How to squirt, deal with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, and more! What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Yana Yana on Instagram Yana’s website Order Yana's new book - Hot and Unbothered.
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| The Dangers of Instagram Therapy with Seerut Chawla | 12 Jul 2022 | 01:31:15 | |
Seerut K. Chawla, an integratic psychotherapist discusses about the dangers of cancel culture and of “Instagram therapy”. In this episode, Seerut and Shaun talk about the problems with dating in the modern world, why older men date younger women and the idea of being a forever-student.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Seerut: Seerut on Instagram Seerut’s webiste Seerut on Twitter
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| Does having sex early ruin the relationship? | 05 Jul 2022 | 00:13:57 | |
Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail. Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline ~~~ Today's question comes from Stephanie. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I just recently met a guy on Saturday. We met and had an instant connection, hung out all day, and ended up having sex. Do you think that that screws up the beginning of a relationship? " ~~~~
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| Conflict Resolution with Lane Allison | 31 May 2022 | 01:17:48 | |
Couples coach Lane Allison talks about conflict resolution, relationships and intimacy in this episode. She explains different approaches for how to resolve conflicts with your partner(s). Shaun and Lane open up about previous relationships, cheating, and choosing between taking breaks or breaking up.
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Ilana: Lane on Instagram Lane on Tik Tok Book a session
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| Answering Your Dating Questions with Ilana Dunn | 17 May 2022 | 01:15:04 | |
Ilana Dunn, the host of ‘Seeing Other People’ podcast, talks about modern dating, her experiences, and advice. She answers dating questions, from getting to know new people to understand when a relationship has come to an end. Shaun and Ilana discuss deal breakers in relationships, how to not overthink being single, and share past dating experiences
What you'll learn (or why you should care):
Where to find Ilana: Ilana’s “Seeing other people” podcast on Spotify and Apple Her podcast on Instagram Ilana on Instagram Ilana on Tik Tok
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| Helpline: My boyfriend is on dating apps | 01 Mar 2022 | 00:16:20 | |
Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail. Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline ~~~ Today's question comes from Ivy. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I caught my partner of two years on dating apps and meeting up with other women. Can somebody who habitually lies ever truly change your opinion and what they might have to do to make that change fully?" ~~~~
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| Helpline: How do I tell people I’m HIV+? | 08 Feb 2022 | 00:11:49 | |
Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail. Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline ~~~ Today's question comes from Sam. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I am HIV-positive, and I've been on treatment and undetectable for several years. I'm just starting to date new guys again, and I'm having a really difficult time with the disclosure conversation. I'm not public with my status, and there's a lot of stigmas out there for HIV. So these conversations just make me really nervous. Do you have any advice or tips on having tough conversations like this?" ~~~~
Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline Most of my links: https://www.shaungalanos.com/hello My online courses: https://www.shaungalanos.com/courses Support my work: https://www.shaungalanos.com/join | |||
| Helpline: Ghosted by a coworker | 01 Feb 2022 | 00:18:45 | |
Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail. Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline ~~~ Today's question comes from Jessica from Dallas, TX. [edited for brevity's sake]
"I asked out a friend at work via instant message, and he ignored me. We have to see each other at work all the time. We had a good rapport. There was some flirting, and I was really prepared for any response except being ignored. So what should I do? Should I approach him, or should I let it go? " ~~~~
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| Helpline: My boyfriend is friends with his ex | 07 Jan 2022 | 00:19:19 | |
Welcome to The Love Drive Helpline, where I answer questions you submit via voicemail. Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline ~~~ Today's question comes from Michaela from Vancouver, BC. Michaela's question [edited for brevity's sake] "Is it OK for men to have female friends? I'm talking to a guy with several female friends, including an ex from years ago. He thinks that it's all right to hang out one-on-one and stay in touch with them and that I should have no issue with it. Most men I talk to don't understand why I need boundaries around this. Help?" ~~~~ Leave your question here: https://bit.ly/lovedrivehelpline Most of my links: https://www.shaungalanos.com/hello My online courses: https://www.shaungalanos.com/courses Support my work: https://www.shaungalanos.com/join | |||