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| Ep 52 - When Pain Meets Pleasure: Behind the Scenes at Ripped Digital with Lucas & Hazel | 09 Nov 2026 | 00:53:34 | |
What happens when your relationship is built on trust, power exchange, and pushing limits together? Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Lucas and Hazel of Ripped Digital to talk about what it really takes to live and create on the more extreme side of BDSM. From navigating risk and safety in hardcore play to building a 24/7 power exchange dynamic, Lucas and Hazel share openly about their relationship, their porn production, and why empathy and trust are at the heart of everything they do. We dive into what it means to eroticize shame, how fantasies differ from reality, why safety tools like negotiation checklists and aftercare rituals matter, and how they’ve turned their personal kinks into a professional life that still feels authentic. If you’ve ever wanted to understand what happens behind the scenes of extreme kink content or how couples can thrive while exploring the edges of BDSM, this is one you won’t want to miss. Episode Highlights: (00:00) Risk Awareness, Safety, and Harm Reduction (06:00) Negotiation, Trust, and First-Time Scenes (12:00) Eroticizing Shame and Exploring Taboo Fantasies (21:00) Aligning Public and Private Kink Identities (30:00) Sadism, Empathy, and Keeping Power in Check (41:00) Why Authentic Headspace Matters More than Scripted Porn (47:00) Cinematic Fantasies and Bucket List Scenes (53:00) Creating Content that Feels Real and Experiential Connect with Hazel and Lucas https://ripped.digital/scenes/Home-Movies-Lucas-and-his-little_vids.html Connect with Me: Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure. https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 | |||
| The Kink Book That Actually Tells You What to Do with Shelby Devlin | 05 Nov 2026 | 00:47:59 | |
Shelby Devlin returns to the pod to discuss her new book The Pleasure Protocol, why it is the practical guide kinksters have been missing, and how to navigate fantasy, desire, and consent in real life. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Shelby Devlin, Somatica-trained coach, educator, and author of The Pleasure Protocol: A Contemporary Guide to BDSM. They discuss why she wrote a practical, relational guide to kink when so many books focus only on roles, and why consent, repair, and communication are the pieces most books leave out. They explore the cultural shift away from masculine dominance and toward feminine dominance, why topping from the bottom can become coercive, and how to tell the difference between a fantasy and a desire. Shelby also shares the concept of repetition with agency, why coaches and therapists should focus on pleasure rather than pathologizing trauma, and what safety third actually means. If you have ever wanted a practical, current guide to navigating kink relationally, this episode is for you. Pre-Order The Pleasure Protocol Here: https://www.shelbydevlin.com/the-pleasure-protocol Join the Koko Club Today! https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ Connect with Shelby Devlin: https://www.instagram.com/coachshelbydevlin/ Download your FREE Worksheets: Fantasy mapping: https://www.amandadames.com/fantasy-mapping-with-amanda-dames-opt-in Speaking your desires with confidence: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Shame Proof Your Kink with Auntie Carmen | 29 Oct 2026 | 01:01:26 | |
Auntie Carmen, the desire midwife, joins the podcast to discuss becoming shame proof, claiming your kinks, and having the kind of sex you actually want. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Auntie Carmen, the desire midwife, who helps women who are kink curious or identify as kinky become shame proof so they can uncover their true desires, claim their kinks, and have the sex they actually want. They explore how women are conditioned to be the receiver of desire rather than the person with the desire, why malnourishment and scarcity push people into settling, and how to tell the difference between fear and a genuine lack of compatibility. Auntie Carmen shares her own journey of discovering her submission in her 40s, meeting her dominant on FetLife from across the world, and why she believes shame should not be released but transformed into an erotic playground. If you have ever felt like a burden for wanting what you want, this episode is for you. Connect with Auntie Carmen https://www.instagram.com/shameproofyourdesires/ https://shameproofyourdesires.com/ Download your FREE Worksheets: Fantasy mapping: https://www.amandadames.com/fantasy-mapping-with-amanda-dames-opt-in Speaking your desires with confidence: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| What Happens If They Freak Out?? | How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky Part 3 | 22 Oct 2026 | 00:17:43 | |
In the final installment of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down what to do if your partner says no or freaks out when you share your kink. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, I close out the series on how to tell your partner you are kinky. In part one, we covered preparation and releasing shame. In part two, we walked through the exact conversation. In part three, we are talking about what happens after, whether it went well or it did not. I explain how to lead with curiosity about what has been coming up for your partner, how to address their fears without jumping into fix-it mode or defensiveness, and why you do not have to accept shame even when you are asking for understanding. I also break down the different levels of no, why a no is a boundary that must be respected, and how working with a coach or therapist can help you both find a path forward even when the kink itself is off the table. If you have shared your kink and it did not go the way you hoped, this episode gives you the next steps. Download your FREE Worksheets: Fantasy mapping: https://www.amandadames.com/fantasy-mapping-with-amanda-dames-opt-in Speaking your desires with confidence: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| The Kink Conversation with Your Partner | How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky Part 2 | 15 Oct 2026 | 00:15:43 | |
In part two of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down exactly how to have the conversation with your partner about your kink. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, I continue the series on how to tell your partner you are kinky. In part two, I walk you through the actual conversation from start to finish. I explain how to set up the conversation at the right time, how to lead with curiosity before you share, and why asking for consent to share your fantasy changes everything. I also break down how to explain your kink in a way your partner can actually understand by naming the feeling underneath it, how to give them space to process, and why closing the conversation with gratitude and a future check-in date matters. If you have been ready to have the conversation but are not sure what to actually say, this episode gives you the exact framework. Download your FREE Worksheets: Fantasy mapping: https://www.amandadames.com/fantasy-mapping-with-amanda-dames-opt-in Speaking your desires with confidence: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky - Part 1 | 08 Oct 2026 | 00:19:03 | |
In the first episode of a special three-part solo series, I am breaking down everything you need to know before you tell your partner you are kinky. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, I am launching a special solo series on how to tell your partner you are kinky. In part one, I focus on the preparation that needs to happen before the conversation even starts, because disclosing a kink and asking your partner to participate in it are two very different things. I walk through the questions you need to ask yourself first, including why you want to tell them, where your kink falls on the spectrum of fantasy, nice to have, and need, and how to identify the feeling underneath the kink so you can explain it in a way your partner can actually understand. I also address how to prepare for a no, why highly stigmatized kinks require extra time and softness, and why releasing shame is the number one thing standing between you and the experiences you want. If you have been hiding a kink, wondering how to bring it up, or scared of how your partner will react, this episode gives you the foundation you need before part two. Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Build a Sex Room That Works For You with Melanie Rose | 01 Oct 2026 | 00:44:59 | |
Melanie Rose, star of Netflix's How to Build a Sex Room, joins the podcast to discuss sex room design, the history of sex toys, and how to create a pleasure space that works for your body and your relationship. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Melanie Rose, interior designer, artist, and host of Netflix's How to Build a Sex Room. They discuss how she went from designing kitchens and bathrooms to creating intimate sanctuaries for couples, why sex rooms do not have to look like dungeons, and how she approaches consultations with curiosity and zero judgment. They also discuss her favorite recommendations for spicing up a master bedroom, including the Tantra Chair, underbed restraint kits, and her curated website where everything has been personally tested or vetted. If you have ever wanted to add a little spice to your bedroom, wondered how to store your kinky items tastefully, or been curious about what it is really like to design a sex room, this episode is for you. Connect with Melanie Rose https://www.melanieruthrose.com/ https://www.instagram.com/melanieruthrose/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100013043105080 https://www.pinterest.com/melanieruthrose/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Evolve Your Dynamic Without Losing Each Other: A 24/7 D/S Dynamic Story with Saffer Master and Lady Petra | 24 Sep 2026 | 00:52:44 | |
The hosts of The Kinky Cocktail Hour join the podcast to share their 24/7 D/S dynamic story, how they evolved their relationship over time, and why kink is the way they communicate. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Saffer Master and Lady Petra, hosts and producers of The Kinky Cocktail Hour podcast. They share their powerful origin story of coming out of 30-year marriages, finding each other on FetLife, and building a 24/7 dynamic. They explore how Lady Petra discovered her dominance after years of identifying as a service submissive, why they renew their vows every six months, and how checking your ego at the door is the key to a healthy dynamic. They also discuss the importance of daily debriefs, why kink is the way they communicate, and how they built their relationship through curiosity and connection. If you have ever wondered how a dynamic can evolve over time or how to navigate a major shift in roles, this episode offers a beautiful example of what is possible when both partners stay open and committed. Connect with Saffer Master and Lady Petra https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/kinky-cocktail-hour/id1505110538 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| What Working Out, Binge-Eating, and Kink Have In Common with Fitrix Carmilla Vess | 17 Sep 2026 | 00:49:32 | |
Before you get into the episode this week, I wanted to let you know The Kink Bundle is BACK: https://kconsultant--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/ 30+ educators helping you level up your skill Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ Fitrix, personal trainer, and OnlyFans creator Carmilla Vess joins the podcast to discuss how kink and fitness intersect, why butt plugs can teach you to squat, and how to break the binge-restrict cycle. This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Carmilla Vess to explore the unexpected overlap between kink, fitness, and binge-eating. Carmilla shares her approach to fit domming, why she refuses to use food or working out as punishment, and how she builds sustainable programs for clients. They also dive into the binge-restrict cycle, why shame keeps people stuck, and how to love your body through the process instead of hating it into change. If you have ever struggled with consistency in the gym, felt shame around your body, or wondered how kink and fitness actually connect, this episode offers practical tools and a refreshing perspective. Connect with Carmilla Vess https://www.instagram.com/fitfor.ofans/ https://www.instagram.com/xo_carmilla/ https://www.tiktok.com/@carmilla_vess Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Life-Changing Kink Stories: What Happens When You Finally Listen to Your Kink? | 10 Sep 2026 | 01:14:46 | |
Four real people, four very different kink journeys, and a whole lot of proof that listening to your kink can actually change your life. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ For the 100th episode of The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with four former clients to share their real-life stories of kink, BDSM, relationships, desire, and self-discovery. From finding the courage to prioritize a long-suppressed kink, to discovering D/S as an adult virgin, navigating a relationship where partners have different interests, and learning how to bring kink into a long-term partnership, these stories show just how different a kink journey can look. There are no neat fairy-tale endings here. There are hard conversations, changing relationships, boundaries, experimentation, vulnerability, and plenty of growth. If you've ever wondered what could happen when you stop ignoring what you want, this episode is for you. Hear how embracing kink helped these clients become more honest with themselves, communicate more openly, build stronger relationships, and feel more comfortable in their own skin. Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Deepest Fantasies with Dr. Stacy Friedman | 03 Sep 2026 | 00:49:36 | |
Clinical sexologist Dr. Stacy Friedman joins the podcast to discuss how to talk to your partner about your deepest fantasies, navigate midlife desire, and advocate for your sexual health. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Dr. Stacy Friedman, clinical sexologist and intimacy coach, for a conversation on fantasies, desire, and midlife changes. Dr. Stacy shares her personal experience with menopause, hormone replacement therapy, why testosterone is crucial for female libido, and how to advocate for yourself with doctors. They also discuss erectile dysfunction, pegging and anal play shame, alternative lifestyles, and why you shouldn't just ChatGPT your relationship problems. If you have ever struggled to share a fantasy, felt your desire shift in midlife, or wondered how to reconnect with your partner, this episode offers practical advice and compassionate guidance. Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Dr. Stacy Friedman https://www.instagram.com/drstacyfriedman/ https://www.youtube.com/@DrStacyFriedman https://tiktok.com/drstacyfriedman https://threads.com/drstacyfriedman https://open.spotify.com/show/1Kgh4gvyxZOMjqQZyfRYnb?si=7340b3b967d843f0 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Psychedelics, Kink, and Coming Home to Your Body with Allana Pratt | 27 Aug 2026 | 00:55:34 | |
Emotional intimacy coach Allana Pratt joins the podcast to discuss psychedelics, kink, and coming home to your body through healing trauma and somatic integration work. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ Join the Self-Dom Challenge: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/9fk5ewdh/checkout This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Allana Pratt, emotional intimacy coach, author, and host of the Intimate Conversations podcast. They explore the difference between the ego and the soul, why healing trauma leads to better kink and more authentic desire, and how to stop sabotaging relationships by coming home to your body. Allana also discusses her work with clients using low-dose psilocybin and cannabis to access the subconscious, integrate wounds, and create lasting change. If you have ever felt stuck in patterns, disconnected from your body, or wondered how trauma affects your kink and relationships, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening conversation on healing and embodiment. Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Allana Pratt https://allanapratt.com/patreon/ https://www.instagram.com/allanapratt/ https://www.youtube.com/user/AlanaPratt Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Why Dismantling the Patriarchy Will Give You Better Sex with Samia Mounts | 20 Aug 2026 | 00:59:21 | |
Samia Mounts returns for a deep conversation on dismantling the patriarchy, polyamory, and how we can all break free from the systems that hold us back. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest Samia Mounts, voice actor and host of the Happy Slut podcast. They explore how patriarchy harms everyone, including men, and why dismantling it leads to better sex and deeper connection. They discuss the male loneliness epidemic, why women are not experiencing the same level of loneliness, and how men are cut off from their emotions from a young age. They also explore the connection between polyamory, sexual autonomy, and feminism, why women are reclaiming their desire, and how competitive versus caretaker dynamics play out in society. If you have ever wondered how patriarchy affects your sex life and relationships, this episode offers a compelling and thought-provoking conversation. Somatica Episode: I’m Moving For A Man?!? https://youtu.be/kkAWOiQ4UnM?si=ST0H1gxx6NV3UEyz Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Samia Mounts https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkJT8ttJYCyIS8ig6gZ7pA https://www.tiktok.com/@samia.mounts https://www.samiamounts.com/podcast Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| on Female Desire, Mental Load, and Mismatched Libido with Caroline Hood | 13 Aug 2026 | 00:59:17 | |
Licensed clinician and author Caroline Hood joins the podcast to discuss the truth about female desire, the impact of mental load, and how to navigate mismatched libido in relationships.
Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Caroline Hood, a licensed clinician and author of the upcoming book Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment. Caroline shares practical advice on how to start conversations about intimacy without blame, why scheduled sex can actually be helpful, and how couples can rebuild connection after years of drifting apart. They also discuss the double standards women face around pleasure, the importance of deconditioning shame, and why oral sex should never have been categorized as foreplay. If you have ever felt disconnected from your desire, struggled with mismatched libido in your relationship, or wanted to reclaim your sexual identity, this episode offers compassionate, actionable guidance. Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Caroline Hood https://www.desireinreallife.com/ https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/ https://substack.com/@desireinreallife Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| ADHD, Kink, and Neurodivergent Relationships with Catieosaurus | 06 Aug 2026 | 00:44:13 | |
Cate Osborn aka Catieosaurus returns to discuss ADHD, kink, neurodivergent relationships, and how to build sustainable dynamics that work with your brain. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Cate Osborn, award-winning educator and author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults. They discuss how ADHD impacts kink dynamics, why structure is so important for neurodivergent doms, and how burnout and overcommitment can derail even the best-intentioned relationships. Cate shares what she has learned from touring her live show, the questions she gets from audiences, and why people just want to be seen. They also explore the intersection of ADHD, sex, and intimacy, and why validation and positive reinforcement are so important for doms too. If you are neurodivergent, kinky, or both, this episode offers practical advice and real talk about making your relationships work with your brain, not against it. Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Catieosaurus https://www.instagram.com/catieosaurus/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| A Guide to Setting Boundaries in Kink with Melancholy Ghost | 30 Jul 2026 | 01:08:03 | |
Melancholy Ghost, Missouri title holder and boundaries educator, joins the podcast to discuss how to set, communicate, and protect boundaries in kink. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with Melancholy Ghost where they discuss the difference why boundaries are essential for safe play, and what to do when someone crosses a line. Melancholy shares her framework for successful negotiations, including the CATS MEOW method she created to help people remember the key elements of communication, attentiveness, time, safety, and observing warning signs. They also explore the history of the leather community, what it means to be an asexual kinkster, and why trust must be earned and not freely given. If you have ever struggled with setting boundaries, knowing how to enforce them, or navigating negotiations in kink, this episode offers practical tools and real talk about protecting yourself and your relationships. Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Melancholy Ghost: https://www.instagram.com/missmelancholyghost/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Navigate a 24/7 Dynamic: A Conversation on Boundaries and Communication with My Dom | 23 Jul 2026 | 00:34:51 | |
Amanda and her dom sit down for an honest conversation about how they navigate boundaries, fear, and communication in their 24/7 dynamic. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda shares a conversation she had with her dom a few months ago where they talk about how they navigate boundaries day to day, the fears that come up for both of them, and how they communicate through the hard stuff. Her dom shares how he models the behavior he wants to see, why consistency is everything, and how he handles bratting, resistance, and mid-scene check-ins. They also explore the role of fear in a BDSM dynamic, the difference between alpha subs and brats, and why communication is the foundation of everything. If you have ever wondered what a 24/7 dynamic actually looks like behind closed doors, this episode offers an unfiltered look at the real work that goes into making it sustainable. Head to https://www.swinkation.com/signup and use code TKC50 for up to $400 off Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Hot Girl Energy: How to Date Without Losing Yourself with Kristen Aut | 13 Jul 2026 | 00:41:19 | |
Kristen Aut returns to discuss how to date without losing yourself, break free from obsessive patterns, and step into your Hot Girl Energy this summer. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ Sign-up for the Hot Girl Energy Workshop here: http://www.amandadames.com/hotgirlenergy This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and obsession coach, Kristen Aut. They discuss the patterns that keep women stuck in obsessive dating cycles, why women lose themselves so quickly when they feel chemistry, how to hold excitement without projecting it onto someone else, and why "pick me energy" is out. They also talk about their two-day Hot Girl Energy workshop designed to help women choose themselves, hold their own energy, and stop settling for situationships. If you have ever lost yourself in a relationship or found yourself obsessing over someone who was not right for you, this episode offers practical tools and real talk about breaking the cycle. Connect with Kristen Aut https://www.instagram.com/thekristenaut/ https://www.newbadassyou.com/1to1support Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Tell Your Partner About Your Fetish with Miz Darling | 09 Jul 2026 | 00:51:55 | |
Miz Darling returns to discuss how to tell your partner about your fetish, navigate shame and fear, and build healthy relationships around kink. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and good friend Miz Darling for a conversation about one of the most common questions in the fetish community: how do you tell your partner about your fetish? They explore why shame stops so many people from having the conversation at all, including the story of a client who was considering divorce and an affair before ever speaking to his wife about his desires. Amanda and Miz Darling also discuss their upcoming book, Complicated Pleasures, which explores how fetishists navigate long-term relationships and whether it is possible to make things work with a vanilla partner. If you have ever struggled with telling your partner about your fetish, this episode offers practical advice, reassurance, and real talk about shame, fear, and connection. Know More About The Book Here: https://complicatedpleasures.ca/ Connect with Miz Darling Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Kinky Cruises, Chastity Cages, and Social Media Bans with Larah Sky | 02 Jul 2026 | 01:19:52 | |
Larah Sky is back for another unfiltered conversation covering social media frustrations, kink cruise experiences, and chastity culture. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and real-life friend Larah Sky. They dive into their experience on the kink cruise that they went to together, including the difference between kinksters and swingers and why many swingers are curious about kink but hesitant to ask. They discuss chastity culture and why Larah believes every man should own a cage, even if he does not wear it every day. They also explore the frustrations of being a sex worker on mainstream platforms, including bot attacks, account bans, and the challenges of maintaining an online presence. Tune in to hear about what happens on a kink cruise, why chastity is about focus and not denial, and what it is really like to be a sex worker navigating social media. Connect with Larah Sky Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Relationship Advice for Kinky Couples with Simone Milasas | 25 Jun 2026 | 00:41:00 | |
Kinky relationships and vanilla relationships might have more in common than you think. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda speaks with Simone Milasas, global facilitator, author, and creator of Access Consciousness, to talk about how the relationship advice she gives to vanilla couples applies just as powerfully to kinky relationships and BDSM dynamics. They cover the five elements of intimacy you need to build with yourself before you can offer them to a partner, the concept of a "creationship" and how it differs from a traditional relationship, and the one question that can either deepen your connection or finally give you both the clarity to move on. Tune in, get brutally honest with yourself, and find out what becomes possible in your kinky relationships when you stop telling yourself the story that's been keeping you stuck. Connect with Simone Milasas https://www.simonemilasas.com/ https://www.instagram.com/simonemilasas/ https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMNJfnEjT/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Emotional Masculinity: Breaking Down Toxic Masculinity, the Manosphere, and Real Intimacy with Matt Salis | 18 Jun 2026 | 00:42:58 | |
Why does the word "masculinity" feel so loaded? I went looking for answers, and found the perfect person to break it down. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Matt Salis, a behavioral health writer and researcher with a master's degree in sexual health and over a decade of experience in addiction and emotional abuse recovery. We get into the difference between toxic masculinity and what Matt calls emotional masculinity and why the manosphere is selling men a losing strategy. We also talk about emotional safety, resentment processing, the connection between vulnerability and sexual satisfaction, and how the consent culture in the kink community offers a model for healthier relationships everywhere. If you have ever wondered what masculinity looks like without the toxicity, or how emotional intimacy actually impacts your sex life, this conversation is going to change the way you think about both. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you. Connect with Matt Salis https://soberandunashamed.com/ https://un-toxicated.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Finding Your Kinky Match: A Conversation with Kink Matchmaker Shea Primus | 11 Jun 2026 | 00:54:57 | |
Finding your perfect match is already hard enough. Now try finding one who also matches you in the kink department. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Shea Primus, CEO and founder of Upper Echelon Matchmaking, for a conversation about what kinky dating actually looks like when you get serious about finding the right person. We talk about how she went from vanilla matchmaker to scouting FetLife events and kink parties for her clients, the most common mistakes kinky singles make when dating, and what it really takes to find someone who is compatible with both your lifestyle and your dynamic. We also get into her own kink journey, boundaries, and why knowing exactly what you want is the most powerful thing you can bring to the search. If you have been navigating kinky dating and feeling like the odds are stacked against you, this episode is going to shift your perspective in the best way. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you. Connect with Shea Primus https://upperechelonmatchmaking.com/ https://instagram.com/shaeprimusmatchmaker Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How to Be Kinky as a Parent: Raising A Child Without Losing Your Dynamic with Athena Gale | 04 Jun 2026 | 01:01:46 | |
Ever wondered what life looks like when you have a 24/7 kink dynamic, a career in the sex space, and a child to raise? Get seated because Athena Gale is giving us a sneak peek of what it actually looks like. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Athena Gale, intimacy and kink expert, sex copywriter, and mom of an almost 11-year-old, to talk about what it genuinely looks like to be a kinky parent. We get into how she maintains a 24/7 dynamic while raising a child, how she handles age-appropriate conversations about bodies, sex, and consent in a house full of sex toys, and why your kink life does not have to disappear the moment kids enter the picture. She also shares her practical advice for kinky parents who feel like they have had to put that part of themselves on hold, including the one thing she does every single week to keep her dynamic grounded no matter how busy life gets. If you are a kinky parent trying to figure out how to hold onto your dynamic, or you are just curious what that life looks like behind the scenes, this episode is for you. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you. Connect with Athena Gale https://www.instagram.com/athena_gayle/ https://www.thesexcopywriter.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560
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| A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, Fetishes, and BDSM: An Interview with Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander | 28 May 2026 | 01:02:08 | |
I was invited onto the podcast Couples Therapy in 7 Words with Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander, two proudly vanilla people who sat down with me to ask the exact questions so many people secretly have about kink, BDSM, fetishes, sexual shame, and desire. I loved this conversation so much that I immediately asked if I could re-share it here for all of you. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, we talk about what kink actually is, some misconceptions about BDSM, and the difference between a kink and a fetish. I also talk about why so many people struggle to communicate their sexual desires, and how shame keeps people trapped in silence for years. We dive into consensual non-consent, primal play, cross-dressing, fetish exploration, relationship compatibility, dom/sub dynamics, masculinity, vulnerability, and why kinky people often become better communicators than many vanilla couples. This conversation goes far beyond sex and becomes a grounded discussion about BDSM relationships, emotional honesty, and healthy communication in intimate relationships. If you’ve ever felt confused about kink, curious about BDSM, or simply wanted a more compassionate and realistic conversation about kink education, this episode is for you. Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander https://couplestherapyinsevenwords.com/ Watch Our Episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Wacw1Cz7JfM See you at Hedonism II this October! Use the code TKC50 to get $200 off! https://www.swinkation.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560
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| How to Bring Up Kink Without Sounding Creepy with Connell Barrett | 21 May 2026 | 00:48:03 | |
Dating coach, Connell Barrett returns to the podcast and this time we’re diving into one of the biggest questions people struggle with in dating: how the hell do you actually bring up kink? Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, we talk about how to introduce kink naturally without making someone feel objectified, overwhelmed, or unsafe. Connell shares his perspective as someone who explored the kink world through Feeld, how he rewrote his dating profile to attract kinky women without coming across as creepy, and why “normal” is one of the sexiest compliments you can receive on a dating app. We also get into flirting versus fawning, masculine leadership in dating, why so many men are terrified of being perceived as creepy, and how self-doubt is quietly ruining modern dating. Plus, we unpack why submissive men still need leadership energy, why women often want men to lead the date regardless of kink dynamic, and why kink is really just flirting dialled all the way up. If you’ve ever struggled with talking about sex, introducing kink, or reading the room on a date this episode is for you! Connect with Connell Barrett https://datingtransformation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation/ See you at Hedonism II this October! Use the code TKC50 to get $200 off! https://www.swinkation.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Dating Advice for Men & Women: Flirting, Confidence and Attraction with Connell Barrett | 14 May 2026 | 00:59:17 | |
Flirting is supposed to be fun, not complicated. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I’m joined by dating coach and author Connell Barrett for a conversation about flirting, confidence, dating apps, rejection, and why so many people are overthinking connection. We talk about authenticity in dating, the difference between charming persistence and creepy persistence, why trying too hard is one of the biggest turn-offs, and how flirting is really just about making someone feel seen. Connell also shares practical dating advice for approaching people in real life, navigating dating apps without losing your mind, and why confidence has less to do with “alpha energy” and more to do with honesty, playfulness, and presence We also get into pickup artist culture, negging, ghosting, rejection sensitivity, and the very real loneliness so many people are dealing with right now. There’s dating horror stories, flirting examples that somehow become weirdly kinky, and a lot of honest conversation about what actually creates attraction beyond status, money, or “the three sixes.” If dating has been feeling exhausting, performative, or impossible lately, this episode is going to feel like a very refreshing reality check. Connect with Connell Barrett https://datingtransformation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| Answering Your Most Common Kink Questions | 08 May 2026 | 00:44:13 | |
I have combined my most popular solo episodes to answer your most asked questions about kink, BDSM, dom/sub dynamics, and relationships. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, we talk about how to safely find kink communities, what healthy BDSM relationships actually look like, navigating kinky and vanilla relationships, building confidence as a dom or sub, and the communication skills that make power exchange dynamics work long term. We also get into common red flags in kink spaces, how to introduce your desires to a partner, and why so many people struggle with feeling “not kinky enough” or “too much” at the same time If you’ve been curious about BDSM, exploring kink for the first time, or trying to build healthier communication and trust inside your relationships, this episode is going to give you practical advice, honest conversations, and reassurance that you’re definitely not the only one figuring this out. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you. Take the BDSM Test: https://www.bdsmtest.org Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure. https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560
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| The Life And Loves Of A Sex Writer with Gabrielle Cassel | 01 May 2026 | 00:37:37 | |
You’d think being a sex writer would make dating easier, right? Apparently not. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Gabrielle Cassel, a queer sex and wellness journalist whose work you’ve probably read in Cosmopolitan, GQ, Women’s Health, and more. We start with the article that hit a little too close to home, why being a sex educator can actually make dating harder, not easier. Gabrielle shares what it’s like to be either instantly oversexualised or immediately written off the second someone finds out what she does, and how that completely changes the dynamic before it even begins. We get into the reality of dating when people project their fantasies onto you, assume what you’re into, or decide they’re not “enough” before even getting to know you Gabrielle also shares about her journey from identifying as lesbian to bisexual, how attraction can evolve in ways you don’t expect, and why your sexuality is so much bigger than just who you’re attracted to. We unpack the pressure to explain yourself, the importance of curiosity in connection, and why your career, your desires, and your identity don’t have to make sense to anyone else to be valid. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood in dating, boxed in by assumptions, or like you’re constantly having to “explain yourself” just to be seen, this one is going to hit. Read Gabrielle’s article here: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a70484661/sex-writer-dating-struggle-sex-therapy/ Connect with Gabrielle: https://www.instagram.com/gabriellekassel/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560
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| Larah Sky’s Dating Preferences: Complicated, Specific, and Slightly Unhinged | 24 Apr 2026 | 00:31:01 | |
Back for the third time, we’re joined by everybody’s favourite guest, Larah Sky. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, we get into Larah’s very specific, slightly unhinged, and honestly impressive approach to dating. From identifying as pan and poly to wanting a relationship that looks completely “normal” on the outside but seems really specific and complicated behind the scenes, we unpack what she’s actually looking for in a partner. We talk about why she can’t date straight men (but also kind of wants one?), the appeal of a “pathetic but functional” boyfriend, and how her preferences are less about labels and more about personality, power dynamics, and not being bored This conversation also covers chaotic travel schedules, content creation burnout, hiring disasters, and the reality of working in an industry where communication, boundaries, and identity are part of your everyday life. And just to make things more interesting, we’re about to see each other in person on the upcoming cruise… so if you think this episode was fun, just wait until we record the next one. Stay tuned! Connect with Larah Sky Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| How To Dom When You’re A Sub | 16 Apr 2026 | 00:12:39 | |
How does one really become a Dom? In this episode, I answer one of the most frequently asked questions from my Ask Me Anything Mondays which is: how do I become a Dom? And more importantly, how do you do it without feeling awkward, forced, or like you’re playing a role that doesn’t actually fit you? We get into why so many people feel pressure to “perform” dominance, and why that’s usually the thing getting in your way. I walk you through what Dom energy actually is, which is less about control and more about presence, and how you’re creating a space or “bubble” that your submissive steps into. We also talk about different styles of Doming, why you don’t have to be the kind of Dom you’re used to receiving, and how asking questions and actually listening is one of the most underrated skills you can have. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ If you’ve ever thought “my partner wants me to Dom and I have no idea how,” this is where you start. This episode will help you let go of the pressure, figure out what kind of Dom you want to be, and step into it in a way that feels natural, confident, and actually enjoyable. I’M HOSTING A LIVE CLASS! Join here: https://www.amandadames.com/domenergy2 Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store | |||
| I’m Rebuilding My Life…Again | 10 Apr 2026 | 00:35:29 | |
Back by popular demand, my Biz Dom, Brenda joins me in this episode to talk about what the past year has actually looked like for me. We get into what it means to rebuild your life more than once, and what it’s like being in a 24/7 Dom sub dynamic that feels aligned and expansive while still navigating very real emotions like grief, uncertainty, and starting over. Brenda came prepared with questions that pushed me to slow down, reflect, and actually look at what this season of my life is asking from me. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ We also get into business, censorship, and what it looks like to be a sex educator online right now when platforms are actively shutting down conversations around safety, pleasure, and education. We talk about the importance of community, why long-form platforms matter more than ever, and how to stay connected in a space that is constantly shifting. If you’ve been going through a big life transition, questioning your path, or just trying to figure out how to hold both excitement and discomfort at the same time, this episode is going to feel very real, very human, and maybe a little bit like the permission slip you didn’t know you needed. I'M HOSTING A LIVE CLASS! Join here: https://www.amandadames.com/domenergy2 Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights: (00:00) Long Distance, Big Decisions, and Moving for Love (08:30) Rebuilding Life in a New City and Starting Over Again (13:10) Finding Small Joys While Navigating Major Life Changes (16:01) Travel, Independence, and Relationship Expectations (27:07) Sex Education, Censorship, and Why Platforms Are Failing Creators | |||
| How A Kinky Throuple Relationship Actually Works with Carnivale Risque | 03 Apr 2026 | 00:55:45 | |
Let’s be honest, most people hear “throuple” and immediately assume chaos, jealousy, or some kind of messy situation waiting to happen. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I’m joined by Carnivale Risque, a real-life throuple made up of Tank, Ellez, and Obsidian, who are out here living, loving, and building a life together in a way most people only speculate about. We talk about what non-monogamy actually looks like behind the scenes, not the fantasy, not the internet version, but the real dynamics of communication, boundaries, and sharing a life with more than one partner. They break down how their relationship formed, how they navigate being a closed triad romantically while still playing and sharing energy in kink spaces, and what it really takes to make this kind of relationship work long term. We also get into the stuff people are really curious about but are too scared to ask. Sleeping arrangements, jealousy, conflict, finances, and yes, how three people actually function as a unit without everything falling apart. We talk about emotional maturity, ego checks, and why non-monogamy does not work without radical honesty and self-awareness. If you’ve ever been curious about non-monogamy, questioned the “one person forever” script, or just want a real, human look at what this dynamic can look like when it’s done with care, this episode is going to expand your perspective in the best way. Connect with Carnivale Risque https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisque https://www.facebook.com/229898104290303 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWAmtkOUzPRcV3rBpzVR9mg https://www.x.com/CarnivaleRisque Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights 00:00 Poly and closed triad 23:27 Sex intimacy and kink 26:35 Vulnerability And Intimacy 27:16 Beyond The Fantasy 35:36 Switching Shame And Ego 38:06 Authenticity In The Industry 43:57 Titles And Real Experience | |||
| Dominatrix 101: Negotiation, Limits, and Creating a Safe BDSM Scene with Mistress Tash Mia | 26 Mar 2026 | 00:34:43 | |
What if the “perfect Dom” isn’t dark, scary, and mean… but sarcastic, grounded, and deeply present? Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I’m joined by Mistress Tash Mia, a professional dominatrix and educator who brings humor, sarcasm, and real-world groundedness into her dominance. We talk about what authentic Dom energy looks like, why safety is the foundation of surrender, and how to start exploring desires without feeling like you need to go “extreme” to be valid. We also get into the behind-the-scenes reality of being a professional space holder, including what it takes to prevent Dom burnout, how to set energetic boundaries, and why presence is one of the rarest (and hottest) skills in BDSM. If you’re dominatrix-curious, already exploring, or trying to navigate power dynamics with a partner, you’re going to feel seen in this one. Press play, take what you need, and let this conversation expand your idea of what a dominatrix really does. Connect with Mistress Tash Mia https://www.instagram.com/theworldoftashmia https://www.mistresstashmia.com/ Sign-up for the Free Dom/Sub Dynamics Virtual Summit here: https://kconsultant--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/vip/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights: 00:00 Normalizing kink: shame, secrecy, and why desire is more common than we think 03:10 Where to start in kink: identify desires + set an intention 04:00 Safety first: competence, boundaries, and protecting someone’s values 12:00 What makes a “good sub”: communication, consent, and intention 21:00 Training Doms: tools are easy, psychology is the real work 25:00 Dating while kinky: bring it up early, and don’t abandon what matters to you | |||
| What Is Shibari? A Conversation On Rope Bondage with Julieta Chiara | 19 Mar 2026 | 00:43:15 | |
She started as a sex blogger in Utah, flew to Japan to train under a Shibari master whose stare alone made her cry, and never looked back. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Julieta Chiara, a certified Shibari instructor trained under Japanese master Hajime Kinoko, who went from studying to be a sex therapist to running a sex blog, to teaching Japanese rope bondage from her studio in Tulum. Julietta breaks down the difference between Shibari and Kinbaku, why self-tying is the most underrated way to learn, and how rope bondage can be a somatic meditation even when kink isn't the goal. We also get into her identity as a bonafide submissive who only takes a top role in rope, why she refuses to tie strangers for money, and how psychological kink rather than physical tools is where her submission actually lives. This episode is intimate, deeply educational, and full of moments that will make you want to pick up a rope. Whether you've always been curious about Shibari or you've been in the scene for years, Julietta's perspective is refreshing, grounded, and genuinely one of a kind. Connect with Julieta Chiara https://www.instagram.com/julietachiara https://www.instagram.com/chiarashibari/ TKC Links Sign-up for the Free Dom/Sub Dynamics Virtual Summit here: https://kconsultant--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/vip/ Last Longer with Promescent. Head over to https://www.promescent.com/ and use the code TKC15 for 15% off. Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights: 00:00 Shibari vs. Kinbaku: Why the Debate Is Overblown 08:15 Learning Shibari Online vs. In Person 13:00 How a Bucket List Trip to Japan Became Her Career 19:00 Growing Up Sex-Positive in Salt Lake City 24:00 Self-Tying as Somatic Meditation 26:00 Being a Submissive Who Only Tops in Rope 34:00 Psychological Kink, Objectification, and Getting Into Her Head 36:00 How to Find the Right Dom (It's Just Like Dating) 40:00 Three Things to Know Before Starting Your Rope Journey | |||
| Behind The Scenes of Rouge: The Sexiest Show In Vegas with Zion and Poppy | 12 Mar 2026 | 00:58:06 | |
The kinkiest show in Vegas is hosted by the most vanilla couple you'll ever meet. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I get to sit down with Zion and Poppy, the hosts of Rouge at the Strat, for an inside look at Vegas's sexiest show. These Australian acrobats turned comedy hosts break down how they created the most authentically kinky show on the strip without actually being kinky themselves. We talk about audience interaction, improv comedy with drunk tourists, managing a topless show while pregnant, the wild backstage stories, and why being happily married actually makes them better at hosting a sex-positive show. Zion and Poppy also get real about working six nights a week with a toddler, handling inappropriate audience behavior, and why the best audiences are old married couples who have zero filter. This episode is hilarious, insightful, and a behind-the-scenes peek at what it takes to make Vegas magic. If you've ever wondered what happens backstage at a kinky Vegas show, this conversation delivers. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Why Rouge Stands Out 11:19 Vegas Sex Culture (And What's Actually Legal) 20:03 Favorite Acts in the Show 35:30 Wild Improv Moments and Callback Stories 40:57 Being Kinky Without Being Creepy 54:59 Warming Up the Crowd for Fantasy Answers Connect with Poppy and Zion https://www.instagram.com/zionandpoppy/ https://www.instagram.com/rouge.vegas/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat | |||
| How To Use Hypnotherapy for Better Sex with Jordan Wolan | 05 Mar 2026 | 00:42:57 | |
What if you could rewire how your brain stores pleasure in just one session? Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Jordan Wolan, a certified hypnotherapist who works with sexual freedom and performance anxiety, to talk about how hypnotherapy can actually help you have better sex. We get into what hypnosis really is (spoiler: you're already doing it when you scroll), how it can rewire your brain to enjoy new positions or experiences, and why your subconscious mind is way more powerful than willpower when it comes to lasting change. Jordan also breaks down hypnokink, how to explore it safely, and why this whole field requires way more ethics and care than most people think. If you've been curious about hypnotherapy, want to understand how your brain stores sexual habits, or you're wondering how to tap into deeper states during play, this conversation will open your mind to what's actually possible. Episode Highlights: 00:00 What hypnotherapy actually is 16:13 Rewiring your brain to enjoy better sex 21:44 Why hypnosis is becoming essential right now 31:30 Hypnokink, ethics, and how to stay safe 35:47 Consent, boundaries, and aftercare in hypnoplay Connect with Jordan Wolan https://instagram.com/jordanwolan https://www.youtube.com/@JordanWolan Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist | |||
| Sex Magic, Sigils, and Masturbating to Your Manifestations: A Conversation on Sex Alchemy with Lucy Baldwin | 26 Feb 2026 | 00:30:41 | |
Sex magic is real. And no, this isn't some Harry Potter stuff. This is actual ritual work that could change how you manifest, orgasm, and deal with your anger. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Lucy Baldwin, shadow alchemist, magician, author, and podcaster, for a wild ride into sex magic, existential kink, and shadow alchemy. Lucy breaks down what sex magic actually is (spoiler: it involves masturbating to sigils), why your genitals are basically your second brain, and how to get off on things you hate through existential kink. We talk about the holy hexagram (yes, it's 69 in four directions), manifestation through orgasm, working with planetary magic instead of being a victim to Mercury retrograde, and why shame is the only thing blocking your pleasure. Lucy also gets real about the origins of existential kink in orgasmic meditation, radical approval, and how to turn your anger into arousal. This episode is mystical, practical, and permission-giving all at once. If you've ever been curious about magic, manifestation, or getting off on your problems, this conversation will blow your mind. Connect with Lucy Baldwin https://www.remolinacoaching.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lucy.baldwin.author Penetrate Radio Podcast https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqoP78I-OC34i7hK4Vv41gKjr-Fk2QLJS The Seven: Living With The Planets Podcast Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist | |||
| Can Doms Be Brats? The Debate That Broke KinkTok. A Discussion On Kink Theory, BDSM and Power Exchange | 19 Feb 2026 | 00:59:56 | |
Can doms be brats? Tripp Terrier says no, and the Internet lost its mind, and honestly he's not wrong. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Tripp Terrier, power exchange content creator, kink theorist, and founder of Subspace, a free biweekly community support group for submissives and switches. We get into the brat-dom debate that's been haunting him for months, why submissives need to stop handing over all their power and actually show up 50%, and what consent really looks like before a scene even starts (hint: it's way more than a yes in the moment). Tripp also opens up about navigating social media as a straight white male dom, getting compared to Andrew Tate, his ADHD diagnosis, sobriety, and why the so-called old guard of kink needs to relax because the whole thing is newer than they think. This one is sharp, unfiltered, and the kind of conversation social media clips could never do justice. If power exchange theory is your thing, buckle up. Connect with Tripp Terrier https://www.tiktok.com/@tripp.terrier https://www.instagram.com/trippunderme https://www.youtube.com/@trippterrier https://fetlife.com/TrippTerrier Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist | |||
| How to Prepare for Your First Kinky Cruise with Concations and Carnivale Risque | 12 Feb 2026 | 00:44:00 | |
Not sure what to expect on a kinky cruise? You're about to find out, and it's way more fun (and safe) than you think! Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I’m not just going to have one, not two, but four guests! I sit down with Lee from Concasions and the powerhouse team behind Carnivale Risqué (Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian) to talk about what it's really like on a kinky cruise. These industry veterans have been teaching kink at lifestyle parties for over a decade, and they break down how they turned empty dungeons into packed playspaces by making BDSM approachable, glamorous, and fun. We dig into the upcoming Kinky Cruise in April, what to expect as a first-timer, how consent culture creates the safest party spaces, and why "swingsters" (swingers + kinksters) are now a whole community. They also get real about living as a throuple, teaching workshops on unleashing your authentic self, and why vulnerability is the sexiest thing you can bring to any relationship. This episode is part prep guide, part inspiration, and 100% permission to explore. If you've been thinking about attending a lifestyle event or just want to understand what makes these spaces so magnetic, this conversation will get you ready to dive in. Don’t let the Kinky Cruise sail without you! Go to http://www.kinkycruise.com and use the code TKC50 to get $50 off Download the Bliss Cruise app and Celebrity Cruise app to plan your schedule Connect with Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisque/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063613538670 Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ https://www.amandadames.com/thereadinglist | |||
| Performance Anxiety, Erectile Dysfunction, Getting Soft? How to have Better Sex: A Conversation with Promescent CEO, Jeff Abraham | 05 Feb 2026 | 00:57:12 | |
Better sex isn't a luxury, it's accessible. And if you're not exploring what's out there to improve your intimacy, you're leaving pleasure on the table. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I get to sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, for an honest conversation about sexual wellness, performance anxiety, and why 70% of people using delay spray don't even have premature ejaculation, they just want better sex. Jeff shares his unexpected journey from semiconductor engineering to running a sexual wellness company, and breaks down the real stats on the "arousal gap" (spoiler: the average man lasts 5 minutes and 42 seconds while the average woman needs 18 minutes). We dig into why delay products have gotten a bad rap, how Promescent's formula is different, and what Vita Flux can do for blood flow, libido, and natural lubrication. Jeff also gets real about communication, foreplay that starts hours before sex, and why vulnerability is the foundation of great intimacy. This episode is practical, sex-positive, and full of solutions. If you want better connection, longer-lasting sex, or just want to level up your intimacy game, this conversation will give you the tools to do it. Want longer-lasting sex without losing sensation? Get 15% off at Promescent.com/tkc15 Episode Highlights: 00:00 Changing the Conversation Around Intimacy 27:34 Exploring Sexual Frequency and Refractory Periods 29:19 The Impact of Good Intimacy on Attraction 31:38 Addressing Anxiety and Intimacy 33:30 Menopause and Women's Sexual Health 35:36 Innovations in Female Arousal Products 40:21 The Rise of Male Masturbatory Products 53:58 The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships Connect with Jeff Abraham https://www.linkedin.com/in/technicalresources/ Connect with Amanda https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: | |||
| Behind The Scenes of A Non-Monogamouse Relationship (And Why It Actually Works) | 30 Jan 2026 | 01:01:32 | |
Non-monogamy isn't actually that complicated…our fear of talking about it is. And that fear keeps way too many people stuck pretending they want something they don't. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Samia Mounts, creator and host of the ClosetEd podcast, for a raw conversation about non-monogamy, jealousy, and why emotional maturity matters more than the number of partners you have. Samia shares her journey from believing in "the one" to discovering she's wired for multiple loves. We talk about her marriage that became a friendship, navigating new relationship energy, and the difference between boundaries and control. She gets real about the mistakes she made, the red flags she ignored, and what it takes to build trust when relationships shift. If you have ever felt like you were meant to love more than one person and had no idea what to do with that truth, this conversation is for you. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Why Everyone Is In “The Closet” and Society's Norms 12:17 Polyamory and Personal Experiences 32:42 Defining Relationship Agreements and Boundaries 34:54 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 42:19 Polyamory vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy Connect with Samia Mounts https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkJT8ttJYCyIS8ig6gZ7pA https://www.tiktok.com/@samia.mounts https://www.samiamounts.com/podcast Book a Consult with Amanda Here: https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| Intimacy Isn't A Feeling, It's A Skill: An Interview With The Somatica Founders | 23 Jan 2026 | 00:49:14 | |
What if intimacy didn’t have to feel so hard, awkward, or overthought? Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, the founders of the Somatica Method and the two people who completely changed the way I understand intimacy, sex, and relationships. We talk about what Somatica actually is, why it feels so different from anything most of us have ever learned about intimacy, and why practicing connection in real time can be deeply transformative. This episode is personal for me. Somatica is the training that helped me become The Kink Consultant, and it reshaped how I show up in my body, my relationships, and my work. If you have ever felt stuck in your intimacy, overwhelmed by shame, or curious about a more embodied, human way to connect, this conversation gives you a real look at what is possible when everything is allowed to be talked about, explored, and met with care. Episode Highlights 00:00 What is Somatica? 11:03 Understanding Somatica Sessions 24:49 Understanding Core Wounds in Relationships 27:54 Application Process for Somatica Training 35:23 Virgin Island: A New TV Show 40:53 The Impact of Social Media on Intimacy Learn more about Somatica: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ https://www.instagram.com/somatica_institute/ https://www.instagram.com/celesteanddanielleofficial/ Become a Certified Somatica Coach: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ Use TKC250 to get $750 off! Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Order Playground Miracle Melts here! https://helloplayground.com/products/miracle-melts-hydrating-insert Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| Sex Crimes Prosecutor Turned Women’s Intimacy Coach - A Conversation with Rena Martine | 15 Jan 2026 | 00:55:05 | |
Let's talk about the thing no one wants to touch: DDLG, innocence play, and why "daddy" has become the internet's new favorite word. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In today’s episode, I sit down with Rena Martine, author and former sex crimes prosecutor turned women's intimacy coach, for one of the most honest conversations about taboo fantasies, shame, and reclaiming pleasure without apology. We dig into why powerful women crave submission, what innocence play actually means (spoiler: it's not what you think), how survivors sometimes use kink for healing, and why society will sell you slutty Halloween costumes but shame you for the desires behind them. This episode is permission-giving, unflinching, and absolutely necessary. If you've ever felt shame for wanting something "wrong," this conversation is your permission slip to want what you want. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Rena's Journey from Prosecutor to Intimacy Coach 15:15 Understanding DDLG and Age Play 28:37 Exploring Society's Double Standards 29:38 Privilege and Normalizing Taboo Discussions 31:09 Non-Monogamy and Societal Judgments 32:16 Polyamory and Public Perception 37:25 Kink Acceptance and Media Representation 42:54 Navigating DDLG Dynamics 47:48 Empowerment Through Kink Connect with Rena Martine https://www.renamartine.com/book https://www.instagram.com/_rena.martine_/ Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Order Playground Miracle Melts here! https://helloplayground.com/products/miracle-melts-hydrating-insert Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| Biohacking Your Orgasm with Susan Bratton | 08 Jan 2026 | 00:45:43 | |
You heard it here first: sex gets better as you age. Don’t believe me? Listen to this episode. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ I sit down with Susan Bratton, intimacy expert and sex educator, for a refreshing conversation about pleasure, confidence, and why desire does not have an expiration date. We talk about how so many people are taught to expect sex to fade over time, and why that belief is doing way more damage than aging ever could. Susan shares what actually helps couples stay curious, connected, and turned on long term, especially when shame and routine start creeping in. We also get into kink, power dynamics, and sexual longevity. Susan explains how confidence, embodiment, and caring for your body play a huge role in pleasure as you get older, and why performance-focused sex often gets in the way of real intimacy. This episode is permission-filled, honest, and surprisingly hopeful. If you want proof that your best sex might still be ahead of you, this conversation will absolutely change your mind. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Maintaining Sexual Health and Stamina 25:53 Embracing Confidence and Sexuality 27:43 Maintaining Sexual Health with Age 29:43 The Role of Nitric Oxide 30:48 The Benefits of Pumping 32:20 Advanced Treatments for Sexual Health 34:26 Red Light Therapy and Lubricants Connect with Susan Bratton Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| Why Obsession Happens and Why Fighting It Makes It Worse with Kirsten Aut | 01 Jan 2026 | 00:52:07 | |
Being obsessed with someone can be so embarrassing. Frankly, you barely even know this person but somehow your brain has decided that this person is now the main character of your life. Been there, done that. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with my coach, Kirsten Aut to talk about obsession in a way that feels honest, relatable, and way less shameful. We unpack why obsession happens, why trying to “just stop thinking about it” never works, and how desire, fantasy, and attachment get all tangled together when someone lights up your nervous system just enough to throw you off balance. If you have ever thought, “Why am I like this?” or caught yourself spiraling over someone you barely dated, this episode will make you feel seen, understood, and a lot less alone. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Understanding Obsession and Attachment 12:01 Realizations and Reflections on Obsession 27:20 Growth Mindset in Relationships 29:37 Navigating Modern Dating 35:01 Trusting Your Intuition 38:51 Manifestation and Personal Growth Connect with Kristen Aut https://www.instagram.com/thekristenaut/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thekristenaut Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| 5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight with Alesandra of Dom Sub Living | 25 Dec 2025 | 00:33:16 | |
Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ Connect with Alessandra https://www.instagram.com/domsubliving/ https://www.tiktok.com/@domsubliving https://www.facebook.com/domsubliving https://www.youtube.com/@DomSubLiving?sub_confirmation=1 Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/ Get your FREE BDSM Checklist HEREhttps://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| Great Sex Start with a Good Conversation with Dr. Tara | 18 Dec 2025 | 00:35:44 | |
Talking about sex should not be this hard, and yet for so many people, it still is. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Tara, tenured professor of relational sexual communication, host of the Luvbites podcast, and author of How Do You Like It?, to talk about what actually makes a sex life and a relationship work. We cover everything from why emotional safety is the real prerequisite for good communication, to how shame shows up in our relationships long before we ever talk about kink. Dr. Tara shares what she teaches her university students about sexual communication across the lifespan, from sexual debut to long-term partnership, aging, and everything in between. We talk about why most people were never taught how to talk about sex, money, or desire, and how that lack of language quietly impacts intimacy. If you have ever struggled to ask for what you want, felt disconnected from a partner, or wished there was a guidebook for navigating intimacy, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a lot to reflect on. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Sexual Communication and Education 08:43 Emotional Safety in Relationships 17:50 Personal Divorce Stories and Lessons Learned 18:42 Communicating About Money and Sex in Relationships 22:30 Essential Communication in Relationships 25:22 Understanding Sexual Preferences and Polyamory Grab a copy of her book: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) https://amzn.to/4iWt60a Connect with Dr. Tara https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrbW6PCKjgcxkq3dTvjjeyQ https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZ60RxLOyQ900l4PgJAlT Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| The Only Dating App That Understands Kink with Pieter of BeeDee App | 11 Dec 2025 | 00:33:40 | |
One thing about kinky dating: it should not be this hard to find your people. Thankfully, BeeDee App exists and yes, I brought Pieter back on the podcast because a lot has happened since the first time he was here. Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, Pieter and I get into compatibility percentages, brat detection failures, monogamy filters, and why BeeDee is miles better than scrolling through FetLife hoping someone in your city is actually compatible. We also talk about BeeDee’s new features like incognito mode and travel mode, and the wild stats behind how many messages, matches, and relationships are happening because of this app. If you’ve ever wished kinky dating felt easier, more intentional, and way less chaotic, this episode is your permission slip to finally download the app, take the test, and meet people who actually match you inside and outside the bedroom. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Personal Experiences with BeeDee App 13:24 The Origin Story of BeeDee App 20:29 New Features and Updates on BeeDee App 29:47 Upcoming Features on BeeDee App Download the BeeDee App Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/ Sign-Up For the TCK Couples Retreat: https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||
| Q&A With My Dom Part 2: What Makes a Good Dom? | 04 Dec 2025 | 00:38:02 | |
"The number one thing about being a Dom is you need to have the best interest of the other person in mind.You cannot take advantage of the other person because of their submissive role." Book A Consult Call with Amanda http://www.amandadames.com/Coaching Join KOKO Club Today | Our Online Kink Community https://www.amandadames.com/offers/6uC24tgZ In this episode, we're continuing the conversation about finding Doms, and what actually makes a good one. Spoiler: it's not about being the strictest or the loudest, it's about showing up consistently, knowing when to admit you're wrong, and understanding that feelings can (and will) change how you play. We dive into what he's actually looking for in a submissive, how he deals with performance anxiety without spiraling, and why sometimes the best thing a Dom can do is pause the whole D/S dynamic. If you've been wondering what separates a good Dom from someone who just talks a big game, or you're trying to level up your own leadership without losing your mind, you'll definitely enjoy this episode. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Understanding the Dom-Sub Dynamic 06:28 Educating Your Dom 11:09 Consistency in Dom-Sub Relationships 20:59 Support and Consistency in D/s Dynamics 27:29 Spotting Submissive Tendencies 38:42 Exploring New Dynamics Together Sign-up for the Couples Retreat! For couples and curious duos ready to explore kink, deepen trust, and turn communication into connection. https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist Let’s take kink to the high seas! Join me at the Kinky Cruise at https://www.kinkycruise.com and use code TKC50 FOR $50 off per person. Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/ Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ | |||