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Was it real? Or was it just the performance of a lifetime?  In this episode Julie tries to come to terms with the fact that maybe this was just his longest gig yet.  After questioning her own personal inspiration, her ability to receive revelation, and just being able to trust her own everyday decisions, Julie grapples with how this will affect her in the future, and how it affects the confidence of her kids.

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Can you spot the red flags?  🚩  Listen in, and tell us if you catch them.  From wearing his sweat on the dance floor, to a performative proposal, Julie looks back on what were huge signs in the beginning that she realized a little too late.  Oh well.

If you have stories about missed red flags in a relationship, text us and let us know!

And if you have anything to share, please consider donating to the Gritty Mama's Christmas Rally to help solo moms take care of Christmas.  And thank you!

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I think it's fitting that TODAY, marks the 5th anniversary of Don Cash's death on Mount Everest.  This episode speaks for itself. Don Cash had no regrets. He held nothing back and literally lived life to its fullest. His daughter Brandi talks about his courage and how he became a better Dad the more he dominated on the mountains, and even in death. She talks about being single for a long time, and having an unmedicated birth at home on her FIRST BABY! She is proud of her Dad, and of the mother she's become and is on her way to inspiring thousands of people everywhere on her new MoonLight Ranch! IG: @brandicashpehr Website: Brandicash.com YouTube: Moonlight Ranch https://youtube.com/@moonlightranch?si=3Dqgy3EaM8ZCF0a3 Podcast: Closer to Christ Meditations on Spotify and apple

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Michele Vas-Conselos, otherwise known as "Murph," was the star player in high school and landed a spot on her dream college, BYU. She suffered a torn ACL and wondered if her spot on the team would be jeopardized. When she joined the NWSL and began her professional career, she was injured yet AGAIN and then had an unexpected surprise which made her put the sport on hold and question if her spot would remain. Listen in on how she dealt with the mental side of soccer and what got her through the unpredictable obstacles!

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Joy Davis talks about how her husband knew they would always have a child with disabilities. After Emery was progressing as a toddler, she suffered a stroke in surgery and was never the same. She no longer has the ability to talk, feed herself, walk, or perform regular everyday activities like other young girls. Joy used to hate her name, but she talks about how she grew to love it, how it was meant for her and how Emery has completely shifted her perspective on life and what it means to have a healthy body.

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Dr. Julie Valentine is a forensic nurse and mother to 8 children. I was seriously not worthy to be in her presence! She mothered 8 children, and got a PHD with a 2 year old in tow, and thanks to her efforts, the largest state database on sexual assault cases exists in the United States. But it's always about her patients. I was in awe of her capacity to love them, and help them find healing, and she gives a word of warning to those who may be suffering from domestic violence, and don't know it.

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I am not sure if I know of someone else who has lost as many loved ones as Kim, in such a short amount of time. After losing her brother in law tragically in a race, she lost two brothers to addiction as well as her Dad shortly after. She has managed to find the joy through it all. While immersing herself in service, she has found joy in the process and helps others to see that joy IS possible. Even in the midst of heartache and devastation.

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Des has suffered from seizures for many years and has had 3 brain surgeries to try to curb them. During her last surgery, she suffered a stroke but was not informed by her surgeons until after she fell out of bed in the recovery room without any knowledge that her legs didn't work. She lost function in one of her arms and for the last 8 years has managed to dominate life one-handed, and with a whole lotta humor along the way.

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Jenedy Paige is an accomplished oil painter, and competitive Ninja Warrior. After reviving her son from drowning in a pool, he suffered sympathetic storming and passed away. Jenedy then trained to be on the hit TV show "American Ninja Warrior" where she has competed on 4 seasons now. She now coaches ninja classes, painting classes, and journals everyday, where she is able to see the tender mercies of God all throughout her life. She is an inspiration.

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Brianna was a dancer and collided with another dancer and her ankle was injured. What should have healed over a few days, turned into a massive infection with swelling, open wounds, and her nervous system attacking itself. Her leg was amputated and it was the greatest day she had had in years! Listen to her story and how amputating her leg was the start of a new life!

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I think this has been my most important conversation yet, and my hope is that you will first and foremost; CONTACT YOUR LEGISLATOR/SENATOR and urge this bill to be passed (HB 272-OM'S LAW) and secondly, share this with your friends and family and ask them to do the same. So many women and children are being abused and don't say anything because it is almost always made worse for them. "Getting out" or "Walking away" isn't that easy. No one should have to live a nightmare like Leah did for YEARS. She is my friend. I have other friends facing the same consequences she did, as a result of legal abuse and uneducated "experts" who have no expertise in domestic violence or child abuse. Please message the senator in your county and urge HB272, "Om's Law," to PASS. We have one week. This goes to the senate last week of February.

YOUR LEGISLATOR
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/12u3w5Fxb9_upRC2kWWlkcNjK2MnzYYfDsfvJ4CZp6Qc/edit?usp=sharing

TO CONTACT YOUR SENATOR: https://senate.utah.gov/contact

Power and Control Wheel

https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/ Utah

Domestic Violence Coalition

https://udvc.org/

The Safe Child Project

https://thepolicyproject.org

National Safe Parents Org

https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/kaydens-law.html

House Bill 272 Bill language: https://le.utah.gov/~2024/bills/static/HB0272.html

Watch proceedings: https://le.utah.gov/FloorCalendars/

House Floor reading and vote 22:18 Cutler’s presentation https://le.utah.gov/av/floorArchive.jsp?markerID=126353

Om's Law: Keeping Children Safe From Family Violence

Utah House Bill 272

House Judiciary Committee Testimony

February 8, 2024 

My name is Leah Moses, I’m Om’s mom.

9 months ago, my 16-year-old son Om was murdered by his father on Mother’s Day weekend during court-ordered parent time. Om was brutally shot twice in the back and once in his face by a 45 caliber handgun bought from a pawn shop on the same State Street in Salt Lake City as the courthouse where I fought in family court for 14 years trying to keep my children safe. I supplied the courts with extensive evidence of Om's father's abuse and the risk to my children, but it fell on deaf ears.

This morning it is my impossible task to represent thousands of protective parents and children who share their own, but similar experiences living in violence and who are not safe to speak out because they will be abused, tonight, tomorrow, and this weekend.

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I was privileged to talk to my favorite 14 year old on the planet, ADANNA! Man, I love her. She gets emotional and you can just hear how bad she wants to love her sport again, and so many are rooting for her. She tells us about her mental blocks, anxieties and struggles to manage loving her sport and fearing it at the same time.

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Listen in as we talk about the red flags I didn't see, and how culture shapes so many parts of us.  And of course, if the buns are planned.

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Sally Jean Mart struggled with infertility for years and finally resorted to adoption. But not just a regular adoption, she took babies and children with disabilities. 17 of them! From blindness to Cerebral Palsy, limb deformities, and Autism.....Down Syndrome and ADHD, and Spina Bifida. And that doesn't even scrape the surface of the emotional and psychological attachment issues that often come with adoption and previous abuse. Katie Mart, who was adopted at birth and is wheelchair bound, talks lovingly of her mother, who dedicated her life to kids who needed her 24 hour attention physically and mentally. You're about to meet ONE GRITTY MAMA!

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I admire Angela so much. This cannot be an easy topic to talk about and she did it with so much grace and self-love and compassion.  She lost her beautiful 2 year old to a tragic accident and in this episode you'll find out why one word in a blessing she received changed her life forever.  It's one I want to incorporate into my own life forever.  She left an imprint on me and I know she will on you too.  She has courage, and a tremendous amount of bravery to talk about something so traumatic.  I am so proud to be her friend.

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Today I got to talk to one of my favorite gals, Laura Griffiths. Laura and I not only went to high school together, but she does my HAIR! She is a perfectionist and does the best job every time. And man, that girl has been through so much. Following the death of her father, her family has experienced so much disease and loss of life and it's just plain been unfair. She developed DCIS, underwent 5 surgeries, torn cadaver skin, and you guessed it, nipple tattoos. K, maybe you didn't guess that part. Her story is fascinating and she was so open and vulnerable and was willing to share it all, in hopes of helping someone else. She's so positive and vibrant and has so much to offer in this world. It is an HONOR knowing her. instagram.com/salonlaurag https://www.vagaro.com/lg

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It was at my 20 week ultrasound where I was told that my little babe had a clear and visible clubfoot and that if there was any deformity I wanted, it would be "this one." I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I didn't want ANY deformity! But sure enough, little Niko came out with a completely backwards foot and we started the long journey of weekly castings, shriner's hospital visits, tenotomy surgery, boots and bar, blisters, pressure sores, sleepless nights, and pain. It was hard. For all you clubfoot mamas out there in the thick of casting and crying, this one's for you.

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Gritty Mama edition: I was blown away talking to Amber about the events that have happened to her life in the last five years. And I thought MY five years were bad. She battled an unexpected diagnosis when her first baby was born, betrayal, finding love again, and a tragic death. Listen to how she gave it all go God and allowed herself to feel "mortal feelings" in this mortal life. She is incredible.

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GRITTY MAMA EDITION: I'm not sure whether to curse Stella, or thank her, but take a listen to this fascinating episode about one heck of a gritty woman that didn't let anything stop her. This story comes with all sorts of surprises, not the least of which surprised us all 125 years later. So trippy. You'll love this one.

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And I thought 2019 was bad! Holy moly I got my life HANDED each and every year after that! From 3 tonsillectomies and tubes in one day, to recovery, then Covid and homeschooling with 7 kids, getting pregnant and getting Covid two weeks before delivery (while injecting myself with Lovenox everyday), to becoming single overnight with 8 children under the age of 12...it's been a LOT. And I forgot to mention a mysterious illness turned mononucleosis in my 3 year old, and rotavirus in my 18 month old. Both of which rushed us to the ER....I mean, what else could go wrong?

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It's 2024!  Time for goals!  Since 1989 I've been writing down goals in the physical, emotional, spiritual and intellectual departments.  Not to mention long term goals!  It's been so fun to see the evolution of handwriting and drawing too.  The kids love seeing their progress through the years and we laugh hysterically reading who their crush was for the year.  

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Who the heck am I?  In this episode, I give a quick review of when I was born, who my parents are, how many siblings I have, and where I attended school!  I talk about how dancing was my passion, what I studied in college and where I served a mission.  Just a little intro to me.  And if you're curious, I talk about a pivotal choice I made in Jr. High that could have seriously changed the trajectory of my life.  I still wonder about that choice.

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Don't you have enough on your plate? Single mom with 8 kids under 14, and now a podcast? That's right. I need a place to air it out. I talk about why I chose the name of the podcast, what I hope you get out of it, and what *I* eventually hope to get out of it too. Here goes!

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Even when there is no gag order, people don't speak up for so many reasons. Fear of retaliation, fear of violence, fear of rejection, and it goes on and on.  Do you need help?  Schedule a consult with Dana Tingey TODAY.

https://www.highgrounddivorces.com/

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Hallelujah for Julie’s gag order being lifted! We now get to sit down and discuss what it feels like when your first amendment rights seem to vanish overnight. 

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Julie is back! Come meet her cohost, witness the miraculous new studio, and hear about Julie’s brother’s contribution to University of Utah football (it’s not what you think). Today marks the beginning of a new journey—one of understanding, learning and hopefully, healing. 

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Talking to Candice Bithell was eye opening. She helped me see things in a new light and different perspective. As an infant, she was thrown in the trash when she was 2 days old, and later grew up in an abusive home. After overcoming her own trials and meeting and marrying her husband, she had to learn to manage kids learning to navigate their identity, her faith, and balancing culture and love all at the same time. She is amazing..

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I have so much respect for Megan Phillips. After learning that her younger sister was born without a uterus, she knew she would have a baby for her. After having 4 of her own, including twins, she became the surrogate for her sister and delivered a healthy baby boy. She discusses her journey of loneliness, empowerment, discomfort, selflessness, and JOY. I'm so dang proud of her.

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I am so excited to get Jeff on the rotation! He has trained thousands of athletes, CEO's, doctors, and MAMAS! He is a global mental coach and teaches me about the importance of having a Power Phrase. He also explains that if we get comfortable in the struggle, it will benefit us and make us grow. He explains FLOW and how we can achieve peak performance in everything that we do. Take a listen!

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First of all, I'm SO SORRY about the sound. I forgot my mic and he was soft spoken so I apologize. But it was truly awe-inspiring to be in the presence of Erik Thompson and his wife, Skye. It was a different approach, but I wanted to hear about Erik's story and learn about how Skye has had to deal with it. Erik has turned tragedy into something beautiful. His relationships with his boys, his wife, and his savior have deepened. His testimony has been strengthened, even amidst all the physical and emotional pain. He is the definition of Grit and his wife is right there beside him fully locked and loaded with Grit and Strength. I love them both.

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Listen in to hear the dramatic events of a Saturday from the depths of hell!  You cannot make this crap up.  Single mom gettin' hit hard from both sides and an arrest made!  Will it be the end of the neighbor's constant harassment?  Or the beginning of a new chapter for those rascals?!

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It's challenging for mothers to know when to be done having kids.  It's a huge burden!  Today we talk about why it is that Julie had so many kids, and why she felt she should keep going.  Carley, on the other hand, had four kids very spread apart.  Listen in and see if you can relate!

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Can she make up for what he let go of?  Is she still sealed on the records of the church and in the eyes of God? Or was that broken long before he left?  Join us as Julie grapples with believing she must have had something to do with breaking the sealing since he "left because of her."  Tune in on how this messes with your brain and the trauma it causes.

Here is the article on "Peace vs Relief."

https://publicsquaremag.org/faith/gospel-fare/are-you-feeling-peace-or-just-relief/

And here is the Aktivate link for single moms for Christmas!

https://raise.aktivate.com/campaign/donate/009535a2-a84a-49c9-ab5e-66276e7eb853

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Lots of emotions come up when we discuss how the Church stays out of legal stuff, but the courts 100% get involved in church stuff. There is so much anger, resentment, betrayal and pain, but how does one grapple with this when you know the gospel of Jesus Christ is true?

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My goodness, when you're not believed by the men you respect and love, and when you've experienced betrayal, deceit and degradation, it's hard to trust anyone anymore or have the courage to speak up.  Church leaders are human.  And sometimes they get it wrong.

1974 Elder Benson talk: https://youtu.be/s7bZ6WH4OY8

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Today we talk about some of Julie’s experiences in mediation, how easy it is to gaslight yourself, and the need for a support system. Julie and Carley remind us that even gritty mamas need empathetic friends and some time sitting in the mud.

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In this podcast, Julie talks vaguely about the latest court update and the infuriating unfairness about it all.  We talk about the frustrations with money and the challenges of a single mom trying to do it all alone.

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Starting with a focus on goals, Julie prompts a discussion that covers a variety of topics ranging from lowering expectations to taking time to be still and looking for Jesus along the way. Somehow they find themselves wading in the familiar but vulnerable waters of Carley’s miscarriage experience and the lessons she learned as she has healed throughout the years. 

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Some fun news! Julie has new puppies up for grabs right in the middle of the Christmas busy season and she and Carley discuss what it means to “give it to Jesus” and how that’s easier said than done. 

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Things are falling apart, but Julie is still standing.  We are talking about the latest series of unfortunate events, what's got Julie fired up and the purpose behind the fight.  Her struggle is real, and unfortunately many of you can relate.

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Is there a difference in being a peacemaker vs. a peacekeeper?  Is there a difference between being nice vs. being kind?  Has culture improved in the way we look at these things?  Let's talk about it.

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This week we start tackling a few frequently asked questions, while also updating you on the never ending misery that is family court. 

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Today we talk about the super awkward  baptism, an even more uncomfortable ordination, and we end with an unexpected apology.  But it's not what you think.

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Another hearing, and another no show.  Listen in to hear about the latest allegations of catfishing, a lot more wasted money, and confusing conclusions. Will this ever end?

Lawyer: Steve Christensen- 801-870-0070
DV expert: Dana Tingey- 253-951-7656
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FLOSS COTTON CANDY: https://www.flosscottoncandy.com

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We are so happy to have our first guest, Dana Tingey on the podcast.  As a domestic violence national expert, she is well versed in abuse, and coercive control and works alongside your lawyer to help you escape safely.  To. learn more about her, here is her website: 
https://www.highgrounddivorces.com

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Can you believe the AUDIO!?  Oh my gosh, this is a HUGE shoutout to our new sponsor/partner/friend SUNDARA MEDICAL.  Please join us as we welcome the CEO and brand new gritty mama, Whitney White, as we jump right in to how she built Sundara from the ground up despite huge obstacles and struggle.  

https://sundaramedical.com/

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If you've ever wondered if you're trapped in an abusive relationship, but don't know for sure, this podcast is for you.  Dana breaks down what to do before you leave, and how to know if you should leave to begin with.

The link to the Power and Control Wheel: https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/

The videos where I talk about red flags and the marriage proposal. 

https://youtu.be/sJc5qXpSq0Y

https://youtu.be/qXjwtDGAzkQ

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Well, we hope you enjoy this podcast because it was a freaking traumatizing experience to say the least.  This guy is a loose cannon and we thought the timing was perfect to help other women know what they can do to obtain a civil stalking injuction/protective order if they need one too.  Don't wait!

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Whitney is a freaking rockstar. She tells the story of getting out of the closet she was trapped in, becoming an emancipated minor and making something of herself at such a young age. Chipping away at all the dirt and muck thrown at her little by little. She’s the epitome of a gritty mama! 

https://sundaramedical.com

https://www.instagram.com/whitney_vibes?igsh=NnNhYjFiOGRuOXl0

https://www.instagram.com/sundaramedical?igsh=YzhsdTYwa3pkcWV5

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Listen in as we talk to Whitney, who we now call Gritty Whitty, about her upbringing and what shaped her into the person she is today.  We talk about some difficult moments in her youth, like when she was locked in a closet for days and became an emancipated minor at the age of 16.  And somehow, she low-key built a full blown medical practice called Sundara!  Which we now call the hub and home of the Gritty Mamas podcast.

https://sundaramedical.com

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