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Why People Settle for One-Sided Relationships - Jayson Gaddis - 57013 Oct 202600:13:33

Why do people stay in one sided relationships? Jayson explores how childhood experiences can shape the relationships we choose and why some people end up in codependent dynamics. He looks at how the helper can enable these patterns and why examining your own sense of self worth is an important part of changing them.

Timestamps:

  • 0:43 - One sided relationships
  • 2:38 - The childhood origins of one sided relationships
  • 6:04 - Can codependent relationships work?
  • 8:06 - How the helper enables codependent relationships
  • 11:28 - Examine your sense of self-worth

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Men Who Do Therapy but Their Situation Doesn’t Change - Jayson Gaddis - 56906 Oct 202600:15:01

Why do some men do therapy and still end up back in the same place? Jayson looks at the difference between the men who get results from therapy and the men who don’t. He explores what makes therapy actually lead to change and how pain can become a catalyst for doing something different.

Timestamps:

  • 1:35 - the guys who do get results
  • 5:39 - the guys who don't get results
  • 10:00 - pain as a catalyst for change

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Expectations - Jayson Gaddis - 56822 Sep 202600:15:49

How can expectations help or hurt your relationships? Jayson breaks down why unspoken expectations create resentment and why communicating your needs directly is essential. He explores the difference between appropriate and inappropriate expectations, how we project our values onto other people, and touches on workplace and parent/child dynamics. If you want fewer assumptions and more clarity in your relationships, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 1:40 - Communicate your needs directly
  • 3:30 - Projecting your values onto others
  • 6:50 - Appropriate relationship expectations
  • 10:00 - Inappropriate relationship expectations
  • 12:34 - Parent/child dynamics
  • 14:30 - Transparency is key

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Why You Don’t Speak Up - Jayson Gaddis - 56715 Sep 202600:10:31

Why is it so hard to speak up? Jayson explores the fears that keep people silent and how those fears often begin in childhood. He breaks down how to speak up without making things worse, who deserves your attention, and offers practical templates you can use to have difficult conversations. If you've been holding back what you really want to say, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:14 - fears that stop people from speaking up
  • 1:37 - childhood roots of fear around speaking up
  • 3:46 - how to speak up and do it well
  • 5:14 - who should you give your attention to?
  • 7:53 - templates for speakling up

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Why High Performing Men Fail at Marriage - Jayson Gaddis - 56601 Sep 202600:09:55

Why do so many high performing men struggle in marriage? Jayson explains why the same mindset that creates success at work often creates problems at home. He explores why trying to fix things can backfire, why slowing down is a relationship skill, how avoiding conflict keeps couples stuck, and three simple shifts that can make a real difference. If you're successful everywhere except your relationship, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 1:09 - Stop trying to fix it
  • 3:00 - Slow down
  • 4:50 - Don't be afraid of conflict
  • 7:50 - 3 things you can do that make a difference

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You Can’t Solve Relationship Problems on Your Own, Here’s Why - Jayson Gaddis - 56511 Aug 202600:14:27

Why can't you solve relationship problems on your own? Jayson explains why so many men try to figure out their relationships by themselves and why that approach usually fails. He explores why relationship skills have to be learned with other people, how healing happens in connection instead of isolation, and why the best place to work through relationship challenges is inside healthy relationships. If you are trying to fix your relationship alone, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:30 - why you can't solve relationship problems on your own
  • 3:30 - why men try and solve relationship problems alone
  • 6:00 - you have to learn relationship skills with others
  • 9:30 - the best place to heal relationship traumas and challenges

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Why Us Men Get So Defensive & What to Do About It - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 56429 Jul 202601:06:35

Why do so many men get defensive? Jayson and Ellen explore where defensiveness comes from, the impact it has on relationships, and why it gets in the way of real connection. They share practical ways to interrupt defensive patterns, how to stay with your partner's feelings instead of protecting yourself, and what it looks like to take responsibility when you get it wrong. Jayson also shares what led him to dedicate his work to helping men and boys grow. If you want to become less defensive and more available in your relationships, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 4:30 - examples of defensiveness
  • 9:30 - the relational cost of getting defensive
  • 19:30 - how to address defensive patterns
  • 28:00 - how to attend to your partner's feelings instead of being defensive
  • 36:18 - what got Jayson interested in working with men and boys
  • 49:36 - how to take responsibility for defensiveness
  • 1:02:00 - increasing your capacity for growth

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Why Life Keeps Kicking Your Ass (And What It's Trying to Teach You) - 56321 Jul 202600:15:43

Why does life keep kicking your ass? Jayson explains why the hardest parts of life are often the biggest opportunities for growth. He explores the difference between horizontal and vertical development, why your relationships expose where you need to grow, and why working on what causes you the most pain leads to the biggest breakthroughs. He also shares why marriage takes effort and why committed relationships require a willingness to keep developing. If you want to stop repeating the same patterns and start growing through them, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 1:16 - levelling up in life
  • 2:54 - the problem with not leveling up your relationship skills
  • 5:07 - horizontal development vs vertical development
  • 6:19 - work on what causes you the most pain
  • 8:27 - relationships are hard because they're collaborative
  • 10:02 - marriages take effort
  • 13:04 - if you don't want to do developmental work don't get married

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Why It’s a Bad Idea to Say "Be a Man" to a Guy - 56230 Jun 202600:09:39

Why is telling a man to "be a man" such a bad idea? Jayson breaks down what messages men actually hear when they're told to "man up" and how those messages create shame instead of growth. He explores why men constantly compare themselves to other men, what people are really asking for in moments of conflict, and why making relationship problems about gender usually misses the point. If you want to communicate with men in a way that actually works, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:49 - what saying "be a man" does to your guy
  • 3:00 - how men compare themselves with other men
  • 5:48 - what does "man up" really mean in this moment?
  • 8:06 - just stop making relationship conflicts about gender

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Suffering - 56102 Jun 202600:08:19

What do you do with suffering? Jayson touches on the four noble truths and what they point to in everyday life. He explores why suffering is part of being human, what happens when you stop avoiding it, and how to be with your experience instead of trying to escape it. He also shares how making meaning from your suffering can change how you relate to your life. If you are dealing with pain and want a different way to approach it, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:13 - Four noble truths
  • 1:01 - Life is suffering
  • 1:52 - Be with your suffering
  • 6:25 - Making meaning from suffering

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Good Couples Work Does This - Jayson Gaddis - 56012 May 202600:09:14

How do you know if couples work is actually working? Jayson breaks down what good couples therapy should feel like and the signs you are making real progress. He explains why you need to advocate for yourself as a client, the two directions effective work should move in, and why you should be getting somewhere over time. If you are in therapy and wondering if it is helping, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:29 - How do you know that couples therapy is working?
  • 2:51 - Advocate for yourself as a therapy client
  • 5:08 - The two directions couples work should go
  • 6:24 - You should be getting somewhere in therapy

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Deep Listeners vs Shallow Listeners - Jayson Gaddis - 55905 May 202600:12:37

What separates a deep listener from a shallow one? Jayson breaks down why most people are not actually listening and how the lack of real curiosity shows up in conversations. He explains why follow up questions matter, what it means to ask real questions, and how losing curiosity in your relationship creates distance. He also challenges you to go deeper with the people in your life if you want real connection. If you want to become someone people feel truly heard by, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:09 The difference between good listeners and bad listeners
  • 1:27 People don't know how to ask followup questions
  • 5:12 Asking real questions
  • 8:07 Don't lose your curiosity in marriage
  • 11:00 Challenge yourself to go deeper with people

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Changing Your Wife to Get What You Want - Jayson Gaddis - 55807 Apr 202600:13:44

Why does trying to change your partner backfire? Jayson breaks down what happens when you try to get your wife to change when she does not want to, and how unmet expectations turn into resentment. He explains the arrogance behind trying to shape your partner, why behavior change requests often miss the point, and what it actually means to love someone as they are. If you keep pushing for change and not getting it, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 2:53 - Trying to change a partner who doesn’t want to change
  • 5:44 - Resentment from unmet expectations
  • 8:49 - the arrogance of trying to change your partner
  • 10:09 - Stop making behaviour change requests
  • 11:44 - Trying to change someone is not loving them

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Feelings Are Key to Great Partnerships - Jayson Gaddis - 55731 Mar 202600:11:41

Why are feelings so essential for a strong partnership? Jayson explains how emotions are at the center of secure relationships and where therapy can fall short. He explores how to handle your child’s emotions, the feelings men are often taught to suppress, and what it takes to express yourself in a healthy way. If you want deeper connection in your relationships, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:35 - emotions are essential for secure relationships
  • 2:17 - the limitations of therapy
  • 5:45 - fielding your kid’s emotions
  • 6:55 - feelings men aren’t allowed to feel
  • 9:26 - learning to express your feelings appropriately

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How to De-Escalate Someone Immediately - Jayson Gaddis - 55624 Mar 202600:11:30

How do you de escalate someone in the moment without making things worse? Jayson breaks down how to calm someone down quickly by staying regulated, entering their world, and validating what is real for them. He explains why trying to fix or win backfires, what it means to take ownership when needed, and why none of this works if you are not being genuine. If you find yourself dealing with big emotions in others and want a better way to respond, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:50 - how to de-escalate quickly
  • 2:39 - don’t get disregulated
  • 3:41 - enter their world
  • 4:58 - validate and own
  • 8:19 - you have to be genuine

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I Don’t Want to Feel - Jayson Gaddis - 55510 Mar 202600:14:40

Why do so many of us avoid our feelings until they force their way out? Jayson shares his own experience with not wanting to feel and the cost of suppressing emotions. He explores the temptation to medicate symptoms without addressing the root cause, why people hold it together in public only to explode at home, and how the people closest to us can help reveal our deepest triggers. If you are tired of stuffing your emotions or afraid of what might happen if you let them surface, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

  • 0:30 - Jayson’s experience with avoiding emotions
  • 6:40 - Medicating without addressing the root cause
  • 8:04 - Why people wait to explode at home
  • 12:58 - Other people can help us identify our triggers

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My Role as Husband and Father - Jayson Gaddis - 55403 Mar 202600:14:11

Jayson reflects on his role as a husband and father and the responsibility he once resisted. Why do some men pull back from commitment or shy away from the weight of leadership at home? He explores how primary relationships can become a spiritual path, what it means to surrender to fatherhood, and why time with your children reveals who you really are. This episode is an honest look at growth through partnership, parenting, and showing up when it would be easier not to.

Timestamps:

  • 0:13 - Why Jayson didn’t want responsibility
  • 3:22 - Primary relationships as a spiritual path
  • 6:48 - Surrendering to fatherhood
  • 9:42 - When dads shy away from time with kids

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The State of the World - Jayson Gaddis - 55324 Feb 202600:12:11

What kind of world are we creating right now?

Jayson talks about the men in power and what they are modeling for our sons. He asks what happens when a culture loses its moral center. He makes the case that you cannot act like a jerk out there and expect peace at home. If you want change, start in your house. Start with how you show up.

Timestamps:

  • 0:30 - What men in power are modeling for our sons
  • 1:56 - Losing our national moral compass
  • 7:00 - You can’t have a good home life while acting like an asshole
  • 9:29 - Real change starts in the home

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The Courage to Be Oneself - Jayson Gaddis - 55228 Jan 202600:15:53

Jayson explores what it really takes to be yourself in relationship and in life. Why does hiding who you are come at such a high cost? What kind of courage does it take to live authentically, and why do intimate relationships often force an awakening to your true self?

Timestamps:

  • 0:35 - The courage to be oneself
  • 3:00 - You can’t be fulfilled when you hide who you really are
  • 8:13 - Awakening to who you really are through your intimate relationships
  • 13:43 - Jayson’s newsletter

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Does the Masculine-Feminine Frame Work? - Jayson Gaddis - 55130 Dec 202500:15:13

Jayson examines why the masculine feminine framework often creates more problems than it solves. How can this framing be harmful for men? Why does trying to change your partner keep people stuck? What role does attachment play in relationship dynamics, and what is a better way to understand gender issues altogether? Jayson also reflects on his own experience with this framework and offers a more grounded perspective.

Timestamps:

  • 2:12 - How the masculine-feminine frame can be bad for men
  • 3:57 - The trap of trying to change your partner
  • 6:09 - The importance of understanding attachment
  • 8:53 - A better framing
  • 11:11 - Social determinants of gender issues
  • 12:19 - Jayson’s experience with the masculine-feminine frame

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How to Spot an Elder - Jayson Gaddis - 55023 Dec 202500:17:13

How do you recognize someone who has actually earned wisdom? In this conversation, Jayson breaks down what makes an elder an elder. He explains why it has nothing to do with age or status, how real elders show emotional maturity, what it means to hold space without fixing or rescuing, and why outgrowing your parents is a part of becoming an elder. If you want to understand who to trust, who to learn from, or how to become someone worth following, this episode lays it out clearly.


Timestamps:

  • 2:21 - Elders are people who did the work
  • 5:46 - Elders hold space
  • 9:28 - Outgrowing your parents

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Your Strategy Is Draining - Jayson Gaddis - 54916 Dec 202500:10:09

What happens when you spend your life trying to be the good one, the agreeable one, or the one who never makes waves? Jayson breaks down the hidden exhaustion that comes from living in your strategic self. He explains how masking drains your energy, why people in strategy stay on the surface, and what it takes to reconnect with your true self. If you feel tired from managing how you come across, this episode shows you why and what to do next.

Timestamps:

  • 0:21 - Are you tired from wearing a mask?
  • 3:42 - If you’re trying to be good you’ve already lost
  • 5:12 - The difference between your strategic self and your true self
  • 7:10 - People in their strategy stay surface level

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Extreme Ownership - Jayson Gaddis - 54818 Nov 202500:16:48

What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.

Timestamps:

  • 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
  • 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
  • 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process

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Putting the Pieces Together - Jayson Gaddis - 54722 Oct 202500:09:58

What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.

Timestamps:

  • 0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families
  • 2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination
  • 5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing process

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Knowing What to Work On - Jayson Gaddis - 54614 Oct 202500:09:30

How do you know what to actually work on in yourself or your relationship? Jayson explains how to identify your pain points, avoid vague or unhelpful advice, and set goals that lead to real progress. If you’re tired of spinning your wheels in personal growth, this episode will help you focus on what really matters.

Timestamps:

  • 1:50 - Identify your pain points
  • 4:09 - Don’t settle for vague help
  • 5:30 - Set goals around your pain points

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Suffering & The Human Journey with Keith Kurlander - 54508 Oct 202501:22:05

Keith Kurlander joins Jayson to explore why people suffer and how we can move closer to authenticity. Is personal development ever narcissistic? Why do so many people chase quick fixes instead of real education and growth? Keith and Jayson discuss the importance of connecting to your authentic self and what makes relationships thrive with greater ease.

Timestamps:

  • 0:49 - Why do people suffer so much?
  • 8:00 - Being authentic to yourself
  • 24:00 - Can person development be narcissistic?
  • 38:00 - Seek education, not quick fixes
  • 58:30 - Getting connected to your authentic self
  • 1:10:00 - Couples who have an easy time


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Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations (Do This Instead) - Jayson Gaddis - 54401 Oct 202500:17:20

Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away. It builds resentment, distance, and unresolved tension. In this episode, Jayson unpacks why avoiding conflict costs more than it saves, how to approach difficult conversations with honesty and care, and why vulnerability is the key to repair.

Timestamps:

  • 1:00 - The cost of not having difficult conversations
  • 7:00 - How to have hard difficult conversations
  • 10:50 - Leading with vulnerability
  • 13:00 - Learning to repair after difficult conversations

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The World I Want to See - Jayson Gaddis - 54317 Sep 202500:10:05

In the wake of the Charlie Kirk shooting and the Evergreen High School shooting, Jayson reflects on the wave of hatred and blame that erupts online after tragedy. From a Buddhist perspective, he explores how we can stop seeing others as the enemy, reclaim our focus, and begin creating the kind of world we actually want to live in.

Timestamps:

  • 0:44 - Hatred and blame on social media
  • 1:41 - A Buddhist perspective
  • 3:53 - Stop seeing other people as the enemy
  • 5:46 - Controlling your focus
  • 7:56 - The world I want to live in

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The Disservice of Reassurance - Jayson Gaddis - 54203 Sep 202500:09:32

Jayson breaks down the hidden problems with reassurance. What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”? When is reassurance actually appropriate, and when does it backfire? What makes reassurance a problem in coaching or therapy? Jayson explains what to say instead and why a deeper response is far more effective for real growth.

Timestamps:

  • 0:32 - What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”?
  • 2:12 - When reassurance is appropriate
  • 4:14 - The problem with reassurance as a coach or therapist
  • 6:10 - What to say instead of “it’s going to be okay”

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I Don’t Want to Bring It Up - Jayson Gaddis - 54128 Aug 202500:10:16

Jayson explores the dynamics of conflict avoidance and why so many people are scared to speak up. What childhood roots contribute to staying silent? Who are you really protecting when you avoid conflict? How does the fear of abandonment keep you quiet? Jayson also unpacks the role of differentiation in learning to bring things up with courage and clarity.

Timestamps:

  • 0:44 - Conflict avoidance
  • 1:28 - Childhood roots of being scared to speak up
  • 2:33 - Who are you really protecting by avoiding conflict?
  • 3:34 - Fear of abandonment
  • 7:25 - Differentiation

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Secure Attachment vs Falling in Love - Jayson Gaddis - 54021 Aug 202500:11:29

Jayson unpacks the difference between secure attachment and falling in love. Can you have secure attachment in a brand-new relationship? Why do people often confuse the rush of falling in love with genuine security? When does the attachment system actually turn on? Jayson shares how to support clients who are navigating the complexities of new relationships.

Timestamps:

  • 0:41 - Secure attachment in a new relationship?
  • 2:28 - Confusing falling in love with secure attachment
  • 4:09 - When does the attachment system turn on?
  • 9:13 - Working with clients in new relationships

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No One Is Broken - Jayson Gaddis - 53913 Aug 202500:14:05

Jayson explores why no one is truly broken. What should you do when a client feels like they are? Why can’t you get rid of any part of yourself - and why is that a good thing? Jayson explains why every part of you has value and how embracing all of yourself can be a powerful path to healing.

Timestamps:

  • 1:12 - Why no one is broken
  • 8:11 - What to do when a client feels broken
  • 9:16 - You can’t get rid of any part of yourself
  • 11:31 - You need all parts of yourself

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How to Coach Men Effectively - Jayson Gaddis - 53805 Aug 202500:30:06

How should you coach men effectively? Jayson unpacks the impact of male social conditioning and what it means for therapy and coaching. What’s different about working with men in couples therapy? How can coaches help men break out of rigid gender roles without making them feel inferior?

Jayson also shares tips for navigating defensiveness and creating safety while challenging growth. Don’t miss this direct and practical episode on supporting men more skillfully.

Timestamps:

  • 1:48 - Male social conditioning
  • 7:30 - Men in couples therapy
  • 10:37 - What to do differently when coaching men
  • 21:42 - Escaping the gender straightjacket
  • 26:05 - When you sense a man getting defensive
  • 26:37 - Don’t make men feel inferior

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How to Get Over Your Anger With Your Parents - Jayson Gaddis - 53729 Jul 202500:26:31

Jayson dives into the challenge of getting over anger toward your parents. Did your parents drop the ball in ways that still affect you today? How does your past shape your present relationships? What does it actually look like to move from victim to author? And how do you know when you've truly let resentment go?

Jayson also explores why it’s important not to focus solely on the negative, how growth can happen through adversity, and the personal cost of holding on to anger. Don’t miss this powerful solo episode.


Timestamps:

  • 1:50 - Did your parents drop the ball?
  • 4:45 - Your past impacts your present
  • 8:13 - Moving from victim to author
  • 11:04 - How do you know when you’ve let resentment go
  • 14:53 - Don’t solely focus on negatives
  • 18:03 - Growth through adversity
  • 20:53 - The personal cost of anger and resentment

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Group Work, Healing, and the Role of the Facilitator with Christian Pankhurst22 Jul 202500:53:19

Christian Pankhurst joins Jayson to talk about group work. What does “healing” really mean? What do transformative arcs in group therapy look like? Should the facilitator be part of the group? Can group work replace one-on-one therapy? How can you stay well as a healer? How should facilitators deal with projection? Stay tuned until the end to hear Christian and Jayson share their self-care strategies.

Timestamps:

  • 2:22 - Emergent group facilitation
  • 3:48 - Is the facilitator part of the group?
  • 8:48 - Transformative arcs in group therapy
  • 13:37 - What does “healing” mean?
  • 15:53 - Why group work?
  • 25:52 - Group work vs one on one
  • 30:59 - Staying well as a healer
  • 40:09 - Dealing with projection as a facilitator
  • 50:56 - Where to find Christian

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Coaching Someone Whose Partner Isn’t Doing the Work - Jayson Gaddis - 53516 Jul 202500:32:52

How should you coach someone whose partner isn’t doing the work? Jayson breaks it down. How should coaches and therapists get their clients to focus on themselves? Should clients leave or stay with an impossible person? Why is it so important for clients to have their feelings validated? How can you help your clients take responsibility for not speaking up? Don’t miss this insightful look at a difficult situation.

Timestamps:

  • 1:18 - Coaching someone whose partner isn’t doing the work
  • 4:47 - Getting clients to focus on themselves
  • 8:47 - Staying with an impossible person
  • 10:35 - Leaving an impossible person
  • 15:00 - You need to have your feelings validated
  • 20:35 - Helping clients feel the sharp edge of the knife
  • 24:00 - Why do clients get defensive about the partner they’re criticizing?
  • 25:00 - Coaching your client to ask their partner to change
  • 31:21 - Helping your clients take responsibility for not speaking up

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Psychedelics: Revolutionary Healing Tool or a Spiritual Bypass? - Dr. Will Van Derveer - 53408 Jul 202501:11:45

Dr. Will Van Derveer joins Jayson to discuss the uses and misuses of psychedelic drugs. He shares his background, his work in integrative psychiatry, and the limitations of conventional mental health treatments. Dr. Van Derveer also explores the therapeutic potential of ketamine, MDMA, LSD, psilocybin, and more.

Are there people who shouldn’t use psychedelics? If you’re going to use them, what are some best practices? Don’t miss this enlightening episode.

Will Van Derveer, MD is a leader in the adoption of integrative psychiatry practices globally. After discovering that his conventional psychiatric training was inadequate to answer many of the challenges facing his patients, Dr. Van Derveer began to learn how to resolve the root causes of common psychiatric problems such as depression, anxiety, and insomnia.

Dr. Van Derveer has published research on MDMA-assisted psychotherapy for PTSD and written book chapters in the fields of ketamine-assisted psychotherapy and other clinical applications of psychedelic compounds. His passion is finding effective relief from psychological suffering using a vast array of the most natural approaches possible. In addition to traditional medical training, He is a meditation instructor and has trained in shamanism, EMDR, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, cognitive behavioral therapy, and hypnosis.

Timestamps:

  • 1:09 - Will's journey
  • 3:24 - Limitations of conventional mental health treatments
  • 14:56 - Will's journey with psychedelics
  • 22:16 - Ketamine
  • 27:08 - MDMA
  • 31:09 - Other psychedelics
  • 42:20 - Jayson's experiance with psychedelics
  • 46:02 - Problems in the psychedelics scene
  • 57:02 - Psychedelics as part of a long-term treatment plan
  • 1:00:00 - Who does NOT benefit from psychedelics?
  • 1:04:00 - Tips for using psychedelics
  • 1:07:00 - Where to find Will


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The Victim Triangle - Jayson Gaddis - 53301 Jul 202500:21:05

Are you stuck in victimhood? Jayson breaks down how to invert the victim triangle and make the shift from victim to author. What’s the difference between blame and responsibility? Is being in the victim seat always a bad thing? Stay tuned until the end when Jayson shares one important question you should always ask your clients - and yourself.

Timestamps:

  • 0:55 - The victim/drama triangle
  • 5:08 - The difference between blame and responsibility
  • 6:58 - Getting out of the victim seat
  • 8:31 - Inverting the victim triangle
  • 15:00 - Making the journey from victim to author
  • 18:15 - One challenging question


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Evolved Coaching with Navy Seal Mark Divine PhD - 53224 Jun 202501:10:21

What if today were your last day on Earth? Jayson is joined by author and retired Navy SEAL Commander Mark Divine for his 3rd time on the show to discuss finding your purpose on this planet, meditation vs. psychedelics, developing mental and physical toughness, and much more. Don’t miss Mark’s exhortation for coaches at the end.

Mark Divine is a retired Navy SEAL, bestselling author, and transformative thought leader, inspiring compassion, resilience, and fortitude. His distinguished military career spanned two decades with tours in Iraq, the Middle East, and the Korean Peninsula, culminating in his retirement in as a Commander. Beyond the battlefield, Mark founded SEALFIT, where he blends Navy SEAL training with innovative mental toughness and mindfulness techniques. Through the Unbeatable Mind program he has trained thousands in his "Kokoro" whole mind system, and through the Mark Divine Courage Foundation, he aids veterans seeking post-traumatic growth. Mark holds a PhD in Global Leadership from Pepperdine University and resides in Encinitas, California, with his wife, Sandy, and Husky Mahina.

Timestamps:

  • 5:15 - Horizontal vs. vertical development
  • 13:04 - The importance of training your body
  • 19:06 - You are not your thoughts
  • 24:08 - Vertical development takes time
  • 29:24 - What are you on this planet for?
  • 37:39 - Don’t feed the fear wolf
  • 41:05 - Meditation vs psychedelics
  • 45:33 - What if today is your last day?
  • 48:48 - Why coaches need to be doing the work
  • 56:53 - AI in coaching

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Signs It’s Time to Fire Your Therapist or Coach - Jayson Gaddis - 53117 Jun 202500:28:44

Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddressed? Have you been seeing a practitioner for years without making real progress? If you're struggling to see results, you won’t want to miss this episode.

Timestamps:

  • 5:26 - Your story isn’t being challenged
  • 6:35 - Sessions feel like a coffee date
  • 7:36 - Therapy feels like a friendship
  • 8:56 - Trauma isn’t being addressed
  • 11:31 - No change is happening
  • 13:13 - Uncritically siding with your story
  • 15:20 - The asks are too challenging
  • 17:26 - You’re not doing your homework
  • 21:19 - Final thoughts


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Coaching Reframes and Context with Master Coach John O’Connor10 Jun 202501:07:29

What does it mean to follow your deepest calling? How do you get clear on what actually matters and act on it today? Jayson sits down with executive coach John O’Connor to explore what it takes to create real transformation.

They get into symbolic sovereignty, creating a clear vision, and how deep callings can emerge from deep traumas. Jayson shares what it means to earn your black belt in relationships, they discuss why music is a powerful metaphor for life, and the one skill every facilitator needs. They also talk about entanglement, and having a shared vision with your partner. Stick around for grounded insights on leadership, connection, and showing up fully to the work only you can do.
John O’Connor is an executive coach and facilitator living in Boulder, Colorado. For more than a decade, John has coached the top CEOs and leaders in hedge funds, startups, and Fortune 500 companies. John embodies a masterful level of skill to create radical transformation. His coaching path emerged out of 17 years as a massage therapist, after working through tens of thousands of bodies, he developed a deep connection and curiosity to the unconscious mind, learning how to facilitate behavioral, emotional and mental change at the deepest level. John was a co-lead facilitator at the first two Open Source Retreats that helped lay the foundation for the EVRYMAN movement. He is also a certified NLP and hypnosis trainer, a certified master coach, creator of The Access Method, and author of the upcoming book From Ordinary to Extraordinary.

Timestamps:

  • 1:23 - What is your deepest calling?
  • 3:49 - Stepping out of time
  • 8:54 - Creating a clear vision
  • 10:43 - What are the three most important things you need to do today?
  • 13:19 - Symbolic sovereignty
  • 32:24 - How to get your black belt in relationships
  • 37:36 - Music as a metaphor for relationships
  • 45:48 - Having a shared vision
  • 52:42 - Deep callings can emerge from deep traumas
  • 58:56 - Dealing with entanglement
  • 1:04:00 - An important skill for facilitators and coaches

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The Core Inner Conflict03 Jun 202500:23:45

Jayson breaks down the problems with one common strategy—people-pleasing and how it relates to the core inner conflict. What are the childhood roots of people-pleasing? Why do people-pleasers become resentful? Why do integrated individuals make better coaches and therapists? Tune in to this insightful episode to learn how to stop betraying yourself in the context of your relationship.

Timestamps:

  • 1:37 - Client example
  • 5:43 - The childhood roots of people-pleasing
  • 12:04 - Betraying yourself to fit in
  • 14:46 - Why people-pleasers become resentful
  • 18:23 - Why integrated people make better coaches and therapists


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50 Years As A Therapist- Sage Advice for All Coaches & Therapists - Duane Mullner - 52827 May 202501:18:38

Jayson sits down with Duane Mullner to talk about the role of the therapist or coach. Why is the here and now so important? Can clients help their coaches and therapists? How should you prepare for a session? What should you do with a client who isn’t making progress? How can you help clients who are stuck in victimhood? Don’t miss this chance to hear Duane Mullner share the wisdom he has accumulated over his long career.

Timestamps:

  • 6:44 - What is the role of the therapist/coach
  • 15:30 - What’s going on between therapist and client?
  • 20:31 - Why is the here and now so important?
  • 27:39 - Don’t make resistance wrong
  • 34:35 - How clients help coaches and therapists
  • 41:46 - How to prepare for a session
  • 44:51 - Making progress with clients
  • 54:18 - How to help people who are in their victimhood
  • 1:07:00 - Should you trust clients to treat you about their problems?


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Coaching Yourself with AI - Jayson Gaddis - 52720 May 202500:19:05

Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with astrology and Gene Keys? Can it give you a tough-love wake-up call? Stick around until the end to learn how you can use AI to get the most out of your therapy sessions!


Timestamps:

  • 2:40 - Ways to use AI as a client
  • 4:52 - Using AI for constructive criticism
  • 7:50 - Astrology
  • 10:27 - Tough love
  • 13:36 - Getting the most out of therapy


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Will AI Replace Coaches and Therapists? Jayson Gaddis - 52613 May 202500:33:53

Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or therapist? What are the downsides of using AI to coach yourself? Stay tuned until the end of the episode to find out how you can thrive—rather than just survive—as a coach or therapist in the age of AI.


Timestamps:

  • 5:42 - Price point
  • 9:10 - Who will lose their jobs?
  • 12:53 - What AI can't replace
  • 19:24 - AI and intuition
  • 23:47 - How should coaches and therapists adapt to AI?


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User Error- How to Be a Great Client - Jayson Gaddis - 52506 May 202500:17:45

If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it’s important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experience of being a client and breaks down how you can make sure you’re getting the results you want. Is it ever okay not to make progress? Learn how to advocate for yourself, prepare for your sessions, stay accountable to friends and family, and much more in this episode!

Timestamps:

  • 1:40 - Is it okay not to make progress?
  • 4:01 - Jayson's story
  • 8:51 - How to be a good client
  • 15:53 - When to have a frank conversation with your coach or therapist


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Therapy & Coaching Advice from Alexandra Solomon - 52429 Apr 202500:45:16

Clinical psychologist Alexandra Solomon joins Jayson to offer valuable advice for therapists and coaches. What are the unique challenges of working with men in couples work? How should therapists and coaches manage countertransference? What common issues are individuals bringing to therapy these days? And how can therapists help people most effectively? Find the answers to these questions—and more—in this insightful episode!


Timestamps:

  • 10:11 - Gendered issues in therapy
  • 19:45 - Individuals vs couples therapy
  • 26:45 - Countertransference
  • 39:23 - Advice for new practitioners


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Introducing: Integrated - Why Being a Team Is So Hard25 Apr 202500:28:01

Jayson and Ellen have started a new podcast!

Integrated is for entrepreneurial couples who want both a high-impact career and an exceptional partnership. Jayson and Ellen blend cutting-edge relationship science with decades of coaching experience to help you balance leadership at home and in business, fostering deeper connection and lasting success.

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In this episode Jayson and Ellen talk about five reasons why being a team is so hard. How do culture and personal history impact teamwork? Is your sense of entitlement holding you back from effective collaboration? How can differences between people make for a stronger team? Find the answers to these questions and more in this episode!

Timestamps:

  • 1:00 - 5 reasons why being a team is so hard
  • 1:47 - Cultural backdrop
  • 7:00 - Personal history
  • 11:49 - Your entitlement
  • 16:56 - Differences
  • 20:41 - Sharing leadership takes time


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Understanding Over Solutions - Jayson Gaddis - 52322 Apr 202500:11:37

What’s wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems?

Jayson explains why it’s better to offer understanding rather than jumping in with solutions—and how people are more likely to come up with their own answers when they feel truly heard.


Timestamps:

  • 0:03 - What's wrong with "fix-it" mode?
  • 3:49 - Reflecting instead of fixing
  • 7:08 - Giving people space to come up with their own solutions
  • 8:30 - Understanding first, then solutions


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Coaching Someone Who Wants a Successful Relationship - Jayson Gaddis - 52215 Apr 202500:15:48

How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yourself to coach effectively? How can you teach your clients the skills they need to develop, and what does that process look like? Don’t miss this insightful episode.

Timestamps:

  • 0:36 - You have to have successful relationships
  • 7:05 - Skill acquisition
  • 13:27 - Don't be uncomfortable with intimacy

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