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Dr. Clarence joins THE INTENTIONAL FATHER PODCAST today as we talk about Law # 6: The Law of Chores. If you want responsible children, give them responsibilities.

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The most famous story in the world contains some great lessons for intentional fathers.

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The egg can teach us a LOT about parenting. In fact, this is one of the hardest lessons for fathers to learn, especially the compassionate-providing-nurturing fathers.

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One of the best things you can do to build a healthy family is to ADMIT WHEN YOU ARE WRONG. It's a great practice to model for your children, it's a great way to express unconditional love, and it kills the narcists!

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An "Incarnational Father" means entering into your children's world. Our kids will start to relate to us when we get on their level (literally and figuratively). That is the beginning of relationship building!

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Dr. Dee Dee Mayer joins us for this episode. Dr Dee Dee Mayer is the RelateStrong Director for the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University. She also continues to serve families and couples as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW).

Dee Dee gives us some fantastic advice and shares a moving story about her husband (who is an amazing father).

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Brazilian Jiujitsu is the best sport for kids, adults, and families. Fitness, confidence, self-defense, and control over your schedule are just a few of the benefits.

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Are you healthy enough to hang with your kids? If not, something needs to change. It's not selfish to prioritize your health. Strive to have a Father Figure over a Dad Bod.

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Should you attend every single extracurricular performances your children are involved in? Some parents make this a life goal, but I don't think it's healthy...it's easy to overdo.

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The times are changing. With Millenials, Gen Z and the introduction of ride sharing, fewer people are getting their driver's license. Should intentional fathers expect their kids to get a driverss license?

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Sleep deprivation is torture. It can be difficult to get your child to sleep through the night on a consistent schedule. We welcome sleep expert, Jemma Munford, as she gives valuable advice on how to get your children to sleep! Every parent needs to hear this.

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Eric Ebbinghaus joins us today to talk about how the family dinner can be critical to a successful fatherhood endeavor. Let's learn from Eric and this Law of the Intentional Father!

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There are 4 Horsemen of the PARENTING Apocalypse: The Boss, The Perfectionist, The Disney Parent, and The Astronaut. Here are the adjustments each horsemen requires:

BOSS-Authority is OK, but being an authoritarian is not. Learn the difference.

PERFECTIONIST-Lighten up, show unconditional love

DISNEY PARENT-you can be your kid's best friend in one of two stages of life: childhood or adulthood. You don’t get to have both! Parent now so you can be best friends later.

ASTRONAUT-you must be present. Physically, mentally, and emotionally…quit working and start spending 1 on 1 time with your children, and attend the activities.

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It can be difficult raising kids with GOOD attitudes, but it's a worthy cause. Here's some insight into how I approach it. PLEASE give your best practices in the comments!

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If you go to church and find yourself going through a divorce, you will hear this phrase a lot: "God hates divorce". Is this true? What do we do with this as Christians? Tune in as I share my controversial thoughts on divorce from a biblical worldview.

*Please do not take any of this podcast episode out of context.

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Reality Check: it takes 2 to make a marriage work. It also takes 2 to make a marriage fail. The blame and responsibility is not an even 50/50 split, so the question is, "Why did my marriage fail?"

This is what you must research! Counseling will help, but also utilize books, podcasts, and professionals to find out what you need to own in your divorce. This is tough work, but it's good work.

Here is one of the resources that really helped me understand where I fell short as a husband: https://a.co/d/fq94yb6

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While many things about divorce are hurtful, creating a new family culture can be a joy of a fresh start. Be INTENTIONAL about the kind of family culture you build, don't let the culture happen accidentally. As a father, it is up to you to lead the family. See this season of divorce as a reset opportunity.

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I advise professional counseling 100% to anyone going through a divorce (especially Intentional Fathers). While there is still a stigma about seeing a counselor, I promise it will only help you. Tune in as I share some of my own experiences from professional counseling.

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When going through a divorce, it is tempting to speak ill of the people involved...ESPECIALLY your ex-wife. Don't do it! Preserve your integrity, the well-being of your children, and the honor of your ex-wife. I know this can be hard, but tune in and listen for the long-term win.

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When you don't have 100% custody of your own children, you must be INTENTIONAL about how you father your children. Prioritize your parenting. Don't date or do extracurricular activities during the times you have custody. Don't get a babysitter. Be fully present and execute your intentional plan to raise your children to be successful adults.

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Pick and choose your battles carefully while going through a divorce. It is easy to let the financial side of the legal battle determine your priorities but let custody of your children be the biggest determining factor.

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This season is all about navigating divorce as an Intentional Father. Fight for your marriage while you can. If you are in the process of divorce, do everything you can to save your marriage.

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Law of Cream: Children Will Live Up to the Expectations Placed on Them

Join us in this enlightening episode featuring Dr. Eddy Shigley as we dive into the transformative power of expectations in parenting. Discover how children thrive when surrounded by clear, intentional goals.

Throughout our discussion, we reference our 12 Family Goals, which outline the values and aspirations we hope to instill in our children. What kind of future do you envision for your kids? By starting with the end in mind, we can parent with purpose and clarity.

Shigley Family Goals:

Build a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

Remember your identity as a child of God and an ambassador of Christ.

Strive for excellence in every endeavor to glorify God.

Practice reconciliation and extend grace at home.

Show kindness and put others first.

Lead by serving others, embodying true servant leadership.

Embrace purity and holiness in thoughts and actions.

Be prepared to share the gospel and lead others to Christ.

Choose a partner who shares a passion for Jesus.

Love and respect your spouse as Christ loves the church.

Raise your children to love and serve Jesus.

Engage in lifelong ministry and disciple-making.

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Everyone knows which house is the "party house" in the neighborhood. Are you going to let that house be your house or somebody else's house? Tune in for ways to make your house the party house!

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Hey parents, time for a wake-up call. If you are not having an ongoing conversation with your children about sexuality, you are missing it big time. Sure it can be awkward and a little taboo, but kids need to learn about sexuality from their parents. Tune in to find out how you can be intentional about this!

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In this episode, I will precisely articulate every single benefit of pornography. I'll unpack how it benefits the father specifically and also the entire family.

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Bedtime is very important for children and adults. Fathers, you can lead your families by being intentional with bedtime. Your children and spouse will love you for it!

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I am joined by Lucas Motley for this episode. Lucas is both an adoptive father and a biological father. Join us as we converse about fatherhood and adoption.

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I'm joined by guest Caleb Gordon as we discuss spiritual leadership in the family. Here are some show notes from Caleb:

Men, start by doing this: before you go to bed, take time to read a Psalm or Proverb with your family. Start with Psalm 1. Take time to read it aloud with your wife and children. It’s six verses, but those six verses pack a punch. Make it a goal for you and your family to MEMORIZE these six verses together.

Psalm 1

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.

The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away.

Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; for the Lord knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish.

Then after that take time to pray with your family. LEAD the prayer…it does not have to be eloquent.

Pray to the Lord from your heart. Here is an acronym to help:

PRAY

P – Praise: Take time to praise God for who HE is. “Thank you, God for being so good to us as a family and providing the way you have.”

R – Requests: Present your requests to the LORD… “Father, tonight we want to pray for (name the person or situation).” Ask God to a work in that person’s life or situation.

A – Apologize: Take time to repent of your own sins before the Lord and in front of your family. “God forgive me of my sinfulness. Where I have fallen short and been hateful today, please forgive me and cleanse me from that, Lord.”

Y – Yield: Where the Lord convicts of sin, yield to His will and follow His direction for your life. “LORD, help me to follow and love You more tomorrow than I did today. Help me to obey and trust You more as I walk through the day. “

These are simple ways to start leading your home and moving forward to do the same in the places where you go in your everyday life.

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Our human nature wants to give our kids EVERYTHING they ask for. But that's not a wise decision. Sometimes children need to be told "NO". Why is this? Tune in and find out!

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Kids want fathers to show their love by spending time with them. It's that simple. Put a plan in place to spend one on one time with each child as often as you can.

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One of the roles of the FATHER FIGURE is to be: THE PROTECTOR.

Matthew 10:16 Jesus says, “Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.”

This will look different situationally, but I want to hone in on one particular scenario that every parent will face: The Sleepover.

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Ideally, literacy starts early in life with the child/parent relationship. Here are a few ways fathers can teach their kids how to read. Spoiler alert: STORY TIME is a major component!

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Michael Colaw was so kind to join the conversation around Law 3: Law of the Poison - Only speak life into the identity of your child.

The words we use can be so impactful on our children. Only speak life into the identity of your child.

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Bonus episode.

It's important to have FUN with our children. May this episode serve as a reminder and encouragement to not take life so seriously.

Check out this article by Reggie Joiner:

https://orangeleaders.com/2022/10/18/six-things-every-kid-needs/

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Kids need to learn about finances from their parents.

Fathers, teach your children healthy finances when they are young. In this episode, I'll give you my approach to fatherhood finances. Regardless of your method, be INTENTIONAL about how you teach your kids about money. If you need help, reach out to me!

Proverbs 8:18

With me are riches and honor,  enduring wealth and prosperity.

Proverbs 14:20 

The poor are shunned even by their neighbors,  but the rich have many friends.

Proverbs 17:16

Why should fools have money in hand to buy wisdom, when they are not able to understand it?

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If you want responsible children, give them responsibilities.

Chores = one of the most obvious responsibilities you can give your children.

The only way to have responsible children is to trust them with responsibilities. When deciding how much responsibility to give them always err on giving them too much. It’s better to give too much responsibility and let the child rise to the occasion than to give too little responsibility and strip the child of their potential. Not only will this teach a child how to overcome a difficult task, it teaches the child that you believe in them and their ability to adapt and learn successfully. 

Here are some responsibilities appropriate for young children:

Bring in the newspaper or mail.

Match socks for you while you fold the laundry.

Water the plants.

Picking up their toys.

Here are some responsibilities appropriate for elementary-aged children:

Cleaning hard surfaces in the house (counters, windows, etc).

Vacuuming the carpets.

Filling the pet food and water bowl.

Taking the trash out to the curb.

Emptying the dishwasher.

Cleaning their room.

As kids get older, their responsibilities can become more advanced:

Helping cook dinner.

Doing their own laundry.

Buying groceries with money from the family grocery budget.

Mowing the yard.

Filling the vehicle with fuel.

Having a job.

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Here's my first improvised episode! During my latest Asking Academy™, I asked some attendees about their best parenting tips! I gain so much wisdom, I had to pass it on to you through the podcast. Learn with me from the success of other parents.

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I have good news and bad news when it comes to fatherhood.

Bad News: your child does not come with a manual.

Good News: there are wonderful resources that will help you become a better father.

In this episode, I give a few recommendations of the most influential resources that have shaped my parenting. Pick up some of these resources and become a better father!

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Family Dinner Time should be a part of every child's experience. So much good can happen over dinner.

Scripture: The Kingdom of God is often described as a feast or banquet.

Proverbs uses imagery of sitting down at the dinner table as a picture of accepting wisdom.

Conversation will happen at the dinner table. Make it a judgment-free zone. Don’t rush dinner time, have the fast eaters wait for the slow eaters to finish.

Have kids help prep dinner and have kids help clean up dinner.

My favorite part is game time after dinner!

Hold your family meetings at the dinner table.

Hospitality - have friends over for dinner time (yours and theirs).

Teach healthy eating, have kids pick out the menu, and

Finally, consider what’s NOT happening during dinner time - running the streets, TV/Screens, drugs, trouble, etc.

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Forgiveness is such an important element of the human experience. Fathers, we MUST teach our kids how to forgive others. We must forgive our children when they wrong us. We must seek forgiveness from our kids when we wrong them.

The #1 way children know they are truly forgiven is when they can have FUN with the parents!

Colossians 3:13

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Luke 23:34

Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

Luke 6:37

Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

General thoughts on forgiveness.

WE must model this for our children because God modeled this for us.

Kids sometimes don't know what they are doing.

It seems like how we forgive is how we will be forgiven.

NEVER withhold forgiveness (this causes emotional damage).

Separate discipline/consequenced from forgiveness.

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How are fathers supposed to be discipline children?

We know this is important. The book of Proverbs has 31 verses about consequences and 20 verses about parenting (or children receiving correction).

Hebrews 12:5-11

5 And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said,

“My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline,  and don’t give up when he corrects you.

6 For the Lord disciplines those he loves,  and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.”

7 As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Who ever heard of a child who is never disciplined by its father? 8 If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. 9 Since we respected our earthly fathers who disciplined us, shouldn’t we submit even more to the discipline of the Father of our spirits, and live forever?

10 For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. 11 No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.

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There are two primary ways to teach your kids conflict resolution: leading by example in how you resolve conflict as a father, and mediating inter-sibling conflict within the family.

Matthew 18:15-17

If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

Matthew 5:24

Leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

2 Timothy 3:16

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,

Romans 12:18

If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.

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How can we teach our children to be obedient?

There's a spectrum that all fathers fall on, this is the Lion-Lamb spectrum. Listen to learn how to fall in the middle of that spectrum. One extreme or the other can be devastating.

Ephesians 6:1-3

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Expect immediate obedience from your children. Children tend to live up to their parents' expectations. However, don't push it to the point of exasperation.

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Listen in as Monica Cattau with Sunflower House shares insight on how to keep our kids safe from physical and sexual abuse.

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The early months of being a new dad can be confusing and discouraging! Fathers, you have a special role to play during the first few months. No you can't breastfeed, but you can support your wife while the feeding burden falls on her. Support your wife, help her get sleep (sleep deprivation is real).

Hold that baby, change its diaper, give it a bath, feed with the bottle when that time comes.

Expect NO SEX for a while after birth. Don't expect frequent sex during the early years. Your wife is tired - I promise you this is a season, it will pass.

Finally, take pictures and videos. Enjoy the phase, it goes by quickly.

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Fathers...it starts with us. We must be men of integrity BEFORE we attempt to raise our children. Fathers lead by example, let's make sure our example is worth following.

The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him! (Proverbs 20:7)

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Join guest James Wall as we discuss the 2nd Law of the Intentional Father: The Law of the Egg.

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The first Law of the Intentional Father is the Law of the Mirror: Lead by Example. Guest Jeremy Brick joins us for this episode as we talk about leading by example. Every other Law is built on this one. It is so vital for fathers to lead their families by example.

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