Conversations about sex—mostly between men—that might surprise you. Host Paul Rosenberg, writer, community organizer, and sex-positive activist in Seattle, talks with bloggers, writers, scientists, sexologists, artists, teachers, and regular folks about the “ordinary magic” of authentic human sexuality and everything that gets stirred up by it. Listen in and join the conversation.
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The Heart of Jacks Podcast is returning soon with new episodes. Here's the complete transcript of this teaser:
Hey! It's been a minute! I'm reaching out to ask for your input for an upcoming episode of The Heart of Jacks Podcast.
I'm currently editing a multi-episode piece on “sex positivity” that started over a year ago and was put on a shelf (with the rest of the pod) when my club restarted operations and I got a new job and my music group began live performances again. Those three big things interrupted the HOJ project in a big way… which… you might have noticed.
AAAAAnyway, I'm now circling back to The Heart of Jacks and this particular episode and it would benefit from a few more voices and that’s where your input comes in.
Here’s what I’d like you to do, if you’re up for it. I’m going to give you a conversation starter—a few short questions and I’d like you to call The Heart of Jacks phone line and simply respond with your thoughts in a voicemail. You don’t have to answer every question like it’s a quiz. Just listen, mull it over a little and call with your response. If you write it out before you call, that’s fine but absolutely not required. I’d like your feedback to sound spontaneous, honest, just your take on the subject, and it can be just one or two sentences.
If you were one of the fine folks who contributed to this in the past, you don't need to do it again.
Now, please don't worry about being perfect. Just consider the questions for a few seconds or a few minutes and then send me your response. Here goes!
Are you familiar with the term, “sex positive?” Does it mean anything to you? Have you never encountered it or is it a term you or somebody you know uses? Do you have any particular thoughts about what “sex positive” is or isn’t? Is it just jargon or a trend or is it an important idea? How about this: do you have any… feelings or judgements about somebody who casually uses the term, “sex positive?” What does it bring up for you?
Again, consider all of that as a conversation starter, not the fucking SAT or a job application. Nothing is on the line here and your input is anonymous. I’m going to edit responses to be pretty short, so don’t think about it too much and don’t worry about being perfect. I just want your honest take. Simply consider the subject and send me your thoughts.
When you’re ready, call The Heart of Jacks phone line at (206) 580-3120. You can also record a voice memo with your smart phone and email that to paul@theheartofjacks.com - And if you really want to contribute but you’re just super shy about using your voice, you can email me your response too. It’s just more likely that I’ll actually use it if you call in and leave voicemail or send me a voice memo.
If you mess something up, just repeat it. I’ll make you sound good. I really just want to know what YOU think about this thing called “sex positivity.”
Thank you so much for helping me out with this and for listening to The Heart of Jacks Podcast. I can’t wait to serve up all the good stuff that’s been cooking over the past year… or so.
I’m Paul Rosenberg.
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Celery, Soccer and Solosex Character limitations, And getting back to basics
Segment 1: Paul connects the dots between vegetables, sports and masturbation… but not how you might think.
Segment 2: Dr. Eric Sprankle returns for a deep dive into the fundamentals of sex. “Fundamentals” as in, what the hell is it? He is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato, as well as a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. After we chew on what sex gets to be thought of as “sex,” we look at sexual health.
Segment 1: Paul wants to talk to you about your "Bate/Life Balance," how adults who masturbate frequently balance this part of their lives with everything else being a grownup requires of us. It may sound strange, but the extension of our cultural reticence with regard to masturbation can leave people in a "denial/release" cycle of cutting out self-pleasure followed by periods of sacrificing everything else. Paul is looking for guest suggestions to chew on this topic of making healthy self-pleasuring a balanced part of our adult lives.
Segment 2: Rick Laska is a clinical social worker and certified sex therapist in the Twin Cities Metro Area in Minnesota. He has been involved in the field of sexual health and wellness for over 2 decades. He is passionate about pleasure, intimacy, and connection as well as overcoming the oppressive forces trying to stifle those things. Paul and Rick talk about his path to social work and sex therapy, and dive into the fundamentals of sexual mindfulness and tantra.
And dipping into true stories and sex clubs with David Quantic
Originally from Kansas, David Quantic has lived in Texas, New York and in 1999 he moved to L.A. to attend UCLA’s MFA Film Production/Directing program, graduating in 2004. He worked freelance in the L.A. film industry in production and post-production until 2016 when he moved to Seattle to work for the Queer Film Festival. He has been producing the Fruitbowl documentary and podcast series since 2018. Fruitbowl is an oral history of queer sex. Each episode of the podcast features one person describing their coming of age and how they discovered their sexual preferences.
In this interview, we talk about Fruitbowl Podcast; its accidental genesis and its uniquely real and human take on queer sex. We also talk about Rain City Jacks (where we met), me being on his podcast and about the differences between jack-off clubs and (other) sex clubs.
Segment 1: Paul talks about how he learned about sex before most of his friends did (hint: It wasn’t from his parents or school) and about the ways that queer kids learn nothing at all about sex or relationships and are still left to kludge their lives together without guidance, a monologue inspired by his conversation with today’s guest.
Segment 2: Dr. Eric Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato, as well as a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. He joins Paul to talk about shame and sexual shame.
Questions that we chewed on:
What is shame?
Is sexual shame unique from other kinds of shame?
Where does sexual shame and overall sex negativity come from?
Is shame ever a good thing?
What’s a good alternative focus?
What's behind the cultural pressure to feel shame?
Is the rise of secularism alone a solution to sexual shame?
Segment 1: Why interview men who go to jack-off clubs? Paul makes the case for how multiple individual conversations help paint a singular big picture.
Segment 2: Tim is a member and volunteer at Rain City Jacks and he offers up his story of finding the Jacks and discovering all that's unique, erotic, surprising and inspiring about the experience, and then going off on a delicious tangent about an actual video store and enjoying art house movie screenings at home.
Supported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/
Segment 1: Paul returns with a little inspiration from a friend’s FB feed and a little advice about making your own “happiness chemicals” the easy way.
Segments 2 & 3: Paul is joined by Dr. Joe Kort, Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist, to talk about coming out kinky, “side guys” and our perennial favorite topic, straight guys into penis play… with other guys’ penises.
Segment 0: This will be the last full episode of The Heart of Jacks Podcast for a few weeks. Medical hinderances are why. I will be back "soon" and in the meantime, you can reach me on Twitter @theheartofjacks
Segment 1: Reading from the 2015 welcome letter of the Seattle Erotic Art Festival, written by Sophia Iannicelli (Sophia Sky), Paul draws parallels between her vision of the power of erotic art, and his own reason for doing this podcast.
Segment 2: Sophia Sky, executive director of the Pan Eros Foundation, discusses sex, erotic art, the Seattle Erotic Art Festival, Elfquest and true crime podcasts!
Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.com Call the show: 206-580-3120 Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes.
The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast
Before the bupivacaine wears off and the first dose of painkillers kick in, just after that first post-op cup of coffee, there’s a sweet window of opportunity to knock out a quick non-episode so your ears aren’t lonely on Solstice morning.
Rather than post an oh-so-close-but-as-yet-unfinished episode of the podcast, I made this End of 2020 support pitch on the fly, a standalone semi-show to remind you that I love you, that I’m really doing just fine (even if I did just have my third orthopedic surgery of the year just this morning) and to highlight three important things I need for the health of this podcast:
You really should listen to the episodes you missed.
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Tyler The Bad Wolf
Episode 8
Monday, December 14, 2020 • Duration 01:03:30
The Heart of Jacks Podcast
Episode #8 - Tyler the Bad Wolf
Guest: Tyler Darlig Ulv
Released December 14, 2020
Looking for sponsors in all the right places
Asking an expert about straight Jacks
And talking sex work and the awesomeness of masturbation with Tyler The Bad Wolf
Segment 1a: Hey sponsors! I’m looking to sell some ad space on the show. If you have a product or service you'd like my listeners to know about, shoot me an email at sponsor@theheartofjacks.com or call 206-580-3120.
Segment 1b: Michael, a listener in San Francisco wants to know how I know who the straight members of the Jacks are. I give him my take on it and reason for approaching member sexual orientation the way I do, and then I call in a lifeline in the form of Dr. David Ley, clinical psychologist and sex therapist (you may have seen him on TV or heard him on radio or other podcasts before) and Dr. Ley shares his take… "It's complicated."
Segment 2: Tyler The Bad Wolf. Guest, Tyler Darlig Ulv's last name literally translates from the Norwegian as "bad wolf." Tyler is a professional sex worker living in Berlin, a writer, designer and blogger and an ex-New Yorker who I met at NY Jacks. He made an impression and we became friends. I'm thrilled to share our conversation with you. We talk about sex work, NY Jacks, the awesomeness of masturbation and Kylie Minogue!
Seeking men with experience at JO clubs for interviews!
If you have a significant experience of masturbation groups, consider being interviewed on The Heart of Jacks Podcast. Just complete this short survey to be considered: https://theheartofjacks.com/jacksinterview
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