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| Why You Keep Getting Attached to the Wrong Men with Leila | 09 oct. 2026 | 00:31:51 | |
What if the reason you keep getting attached to the wrong men has less to do with them, and more to do with what feels familiar to you? In this deeply honest coaching session, I work with Leila, a woman who finds herself repeatedly getting attached to men who are inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or unable to give her the security and consistency she actually wants. Leila knows the red flags are there. She can see them rationally. And yet, she still finds herself emotionally invested. As we explore her relationships, childhood and emotional patterns, Leila begins to uncover a connection she had never fully seen before. Her attraction to unreliable men isn’t random. The hot and cold behaviour, the breadcrumbs of affection, the feeling of having to work for someone’s attention all feel strangely familiar. Together, we explore the loss of her father when she was young, her relationship with her older brother, and how those early experiences shaped her understanding of love, safety and connection. They explore attachment, the nervous system, the fixer identity, childhood wounds, emotional familiarity and the difference between what we consciously want and what our nervous system has learned to seek. But this conversation isn’t about blaming our childhood for our adult choices. It’s about understanding ourselves with enough compassion that we can finally begin choosing differently. And ultimately, it’s about learning to stop looking to other people to give us the sense of worth, safety and love that we can find through our relationship with Allah. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why do I keep choosing the same kind of man when I know better?”, felt addicted to someone’s potential, or struggled to walk away from a relationship that wasn’t giving you what you needed, this conversation is for you. Consider / Ask Yourself * Do I feel most attracted to people who are consistent, or people I have to work to win over? * Have I confused familiarity with compatibility? * What kind of behaviour did I learn to associate with love growing up? * Do I find myself wanting to rescue, fix or save the men I’m attracted to? * What am I actually looking for when I become attached to someone who gives me very little? * Where am I seeking from people what I need to learn to receive from Allah? Key Insights * Our rational mind can recognise red flags while our nervous system remains attached to what feels familiar. * What feels like chemistry isn’t always compatibility. * Childhood experiences can shape the types of relationships our nervous system feels drawn towards. * Breadcrumbs of affection can become our baseline when we learned early that love and attention had to be earned. * The desire to rescue or fix someone can sometimes be connected to our own unmet childhood needs. * Understanding your patterns isn’t about blaming your parents or your past. It’s about taking responsibility for what you do with those patterns now. * Healing isn’t about becoming perfectly healed before you’re worthy of healthy love. * Reparenting means learning to give your younger self the safety, consistency and compassion she may have been missing. * We can choose differently when we learn to recognise what is familiar without automatically mistaking it for what is good for us. * Our relationship with Allah can become a deeper source of security and validation than constantly seeking reassurance from other people. How to Deepen the Work When you notice yourself becoming attached to someone who is inconsistent or unavailable, pause before acting on the attachment. Ask yourself: “What does this person make me feel that feels familiar?” Then ask: “What does the younger version of me actually need right now?” Instead of chasing another breadcrumb, try giving that part of yourself the attention, comfort and reassurance she’s looking for. You can also spend some time writing to your younger self, looking at an old childhood photograph, or listening to the inner child hypnosis mentioned in this episode. And most importantly, bring the process back to Allah. Ask Him for the kind of love, security and inner peace that no human being can provide on their own. Work With Soumaya If this conversation brought up patterns you know you’re ready to heal, you can work with Soumaya privately through 1:1 coaching. Find out more and book a free clarity call here. You can also subscribe to The Healed Sister on Substack for more reflections, tools and resources on healing, faith, relationships and becoming the woman Allah created you to be. And if this episode resonated with you, share it with another woman who might need to hear it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| How to get closer to Allah when life sucks | 02 oct. 2026 | 00:31:15 | |
what if the hardest thing in your life right now is actually an invitation? in this first episode of this season of the healed sister podcast, we talk about why hardship isn’t a detour from your relationship with Allah - it’s the doorway into it. for every muslim woman who’s tired of pretending she’s fine, this one’s for you. LINKS MENTIONED: apply to be coached for free on the podcast This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| Forget about becoming the best version of yourself for a bit | 27 févr. 2025 | 00:08:40 | |
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| HOW TO FIX YOUR ADDICTION TO YOUR OWN PAIN | 27 févr. 2025 | 00:17:19 | |
Salaam beautiful, thank you for watching this video! Don't forget to subscribe and comment what topics you want me to cover next.Are you an aspiring life coach? Apply to join TTC, a programme that will teach you everything you need to know to coach powerfully and create a thriving coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/hA74L3iYAre you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/B9svQM4VSubmit your video to be posted on our channel: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/FB23a49ZFREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0cWant to know more about what we do, check it out here: https://thehealedsister.com/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| How To Stop Sabotaging Yourself | 27 févr. 2025 | 00:12:49 | |
Salaam beautiful, thank you for watching this video! Don't forget to subscribe and comment what topics you want me to cover next.Are you an aspiring life coach? Apply to join TTC, a programme that will teach you everything you need to know to coach powerfully and create a thriving coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/hA74L3iYAre you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://forms.gle/tDrikmokeqKSgMQcAFREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| 6 Steps to Quit Your 9 to 5 and Become a Life Coach | 27 févr. 2025 | 00:12:24 | |
Salaam beautiful, thank you for watching this video! Don't forget to subscribe and comment what topics you want me to cover next.Apply for The Thriving Coach - Certified Training for aspiring muslim life coaches: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/hA74L3iYAre you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://forms.gle/tDrikmokeqKSgMQcAFREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| Prepare for Ramadan With Me | 27 févr. 2025 | 00:17:32 | |
Salaam habiba, I pray you're well. In this video we're reflecting on past Ramadans and preparing for the upcoming one. Everything mentioned in the video:Apply for The Thriving Coach - Certified Training for aspiring muslim life coaches - EARLY BIRD ENDS 28th FEB: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/hA74L3iYDM me if you're in the UK and want a free Thermomix demo: https://www.instagram.com/thehealedsister/Participate in Visionaire: https://www.visionaireramadan.com/destiny?sc_ref=99caID96mTX9xYx9&sc_vis=h8xuFb4BVEAsKAtT6DZl8u27W4XzqI&el=soumayaA year of Knowledge Program: https://www.jannahinstitute.org/YOKAre you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://forms.gle/tDrikmokeqKSgMQcAFREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| BTV E17 with Naeema Akhtar: Being a high achieving woman AND a fulfilled wife | 21 janv. 2025 | 00:48:32 | |
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| Brutal Advice You Need to Hear Before 2025 | 11 déc. 2024 | 00:28:58 | |
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| HOW TO Sync your hormonal cycle with your day to day activities | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:13:59 | |
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| BTV E16 with Ashii from InnerWork: healing the wounded masculine within | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:39:59 | |
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| 5 steps to get your first 5 clients as a beginner coach | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:11:46 | |
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| BTV E15 with Ghena from Deen and Chai - Balancing deen and dunya | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:29:28 | |
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| BTV E14: The Art of Fully Trusting Allah with Lucy Lowther | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:43:13 | |
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| How to infuse feminine energy into your work life | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:11:21 | |
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| How to stop comparing yourself to other women | 10 nov. 2024 | 00:09:46 | |
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| BTV E13: From Belgium to Bosnia - The Career That Changed Adna's Life | 27 août 2024 | 00:32:40 | |
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| Behind the Veil E12: How to Become Wealthy with Yasmeen Khan | 27 août 2024 | 00:37:49 | |
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| How quitting my 9 to 5 led me to making £10k/month | 27 août 2024 | 00:12:27 | |
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| Mid Year GLOW UP: get your life together in 3 steps | 27 août 2024 | 00:19:16 | |
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| Behind the Veil E11: How to save your relationship with Marriage Coach Mariam Arafat | 27 août 2024 | 00:45:47 | |
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| Behind The Veil E10 with Zainab - Where to meet a high value man, red flags to look out for in a potential spouse | 27 août 2024 | 00:54:32 | |
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| Behind The Veil E9 with Zainab - How to attract a high value muslim man | 27 août 2024 | 01:00:37 | |
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| 5 Feminine Micro Habits for the Busy Muslimah | 27 août 2024 | 00:11:03 | |
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| Am I being too picky with men? Answering your questions with a Therapist! | 22 mai 2024 | 00:35:03 | |
Salaam beautiful! You might be wondering why the episode ends suddenly: the camera kept overheating due to the warmth in Morocco but if you've enjoyed this conversation and wants us to answer questions we've received let us know in the comments below and I'll make sure to bring Sumiya on another episode! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| How To Turn Your Masculine Energy Off | 03 mai 2024 | 00:20:10 | |
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| COMPLETE GUIDE: How To Become a Successful Muslim Life Coach | 03 mai 2024 | 00:22:44 | |
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| Story Time: What Kept Me Spiritually STUCK For Ages | 03 mai 2024 | 00:09:38 | |
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| How we made £42,000 last quarter | 03 mai 2024 | 00:33:44 | |
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| How to find your Purpose | 03 mai 2024 | 00:26:52 | |
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| Behind The Veil E8: Healing trauma through spirituality with @alasryh | 03 mai 2024 | 00:47:12 | |
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| Behind The Veil E7: Heal Your Money Blocks with Jamila @TheAbundanceFactor | 03 mai 2024 | 00:25:34 | |
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| Behind The Veil E6 with Khadijah Safari: Stepping outside of your comfort zone to thrive | 03 mai 2024 | 01:01:23 | |
My amazing guest: Khadijah Safarihttps://www.instagram.com/khadijahsafaribem/
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| Behind The Veil - E5 with Hiba - Building Consistent Good Habits | 03 mai 2024 | 00:54:27 | |
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| Behind the Veil - E4 with Adna: From Struggle to Purpose | 03 mai 2024 | 00:31:20 | |
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| Behind The Veil - E3 - Healing the Feminine within with Rosalean Batool | 03 mai 2024 | 00:53:33 | |
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| Behind the Veil E02 - Assia @TheMizaan : the struggle of finding the right spouse | 03 mai 2024 | 00:59:53 | |
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| Behind the veil - E01 | Assia @TheMizaan : why muslim women are addicted to fast fashion | 11 janv. 2024 | 00:58:46 | |
In this conversation with the incredible woman behind the Mizaan, Assia, we explored:
And a lot more! Let me know who I should invite next and don't forget to subscribe to support us in bringing quality content to you ♥️ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| Feeling OVERWHELMED with life? Follow these simple steps to feel better! | 06 août 2023 | 00:15:26 | |
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| From pain to happiness, a muslim woman’s journey to finding peace | 06 août 2023 | 00:04:34 | |
Are you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/B9svQM4V Do you have what it takes to become a life coach? Take this quiz to find out! https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/KHgXUZnG Waitlist for The Thriving Coach - Certified Training for aspiring muslim life coaches: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/dljdpd71g6 FREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thehealedsister Website: https://thehealedsister.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealedsister/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| Money, toxic relationships and more... Answering your questions! | 06 août 2023 | 00:10:58 | |
Salaam beautiful, thank you for listening to this episode! Don't forget to subscribe and share with whoever might benefit. Are you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/B9svQM4V Do you have what it takes to become a life coach? Take this quiz to find out! https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/KHgXUZnG Waitlist for The Thriving Coach - Certified Training for aspiring muslim life coaches: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/dljdpd71g6 FREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thehealedsister Website: https://thehealedsister.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealedsister/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| From Broke to Boss: 4 steps I took to create a successful business | 06 août 2023 | 00:12:44 | |
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| Why are Moroccan Women stealing every man's heart? Healthy Feminine Traits you NEED to know about... | 06 août 2023 | 00:12:27 | |
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| Be happy SINGLE | 5 things you should focus on while single | 06 août 2023 | 00:14:25 | |
DISCLAIMER: this video isn’t about encouraging women to stay single, it’s aimed at sisters who have been looking for a spouse for a while and are getting depressed by the whole process and the loneliness that can come with it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| How to let go of your limiting beliefs | 14 nov. 2022 | 00:09:15 | |
A B O U T I'm Soumaya, a personal development coach who helps muslim women learn how to love themselves and become their authentic selves This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| How to really increase your productivity | 14 nov. 2022 | 00:07:37 | |
I really struggle with getting easily distracted when I'm trying to reach my goals but if there's one thing that has helped me over the past few years, it's monk mode. If you want to increase your productivity make sure to listen to this podcast!
A B O U T I'm Soumaya, a personal development coach who helps muslim women learn how to love themselves and become their authentic selves This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| 7 tips to journal for muslims | 14 nov. 2022 | 00:06:15 | |
7 Tips to journal for Muslims - The key to being consistent with anything is to make it fun and easy for yourself! Listen to this podcast if you’ve been trying to journal regularly for a while but can’t seem to make it last or if you’ve never journaled because something seems to be stopping you.
A B O U T I'm Soumaya, a personal development coach who helps muslim women learn how to love themselves and become their authentic selves PRODUCTS MENTIONED The 99 Names Guided Journal - Towards Faith: https://www.towards.faith/collections/all Secrets of Divine Love Journal - A. Helwa: https://amzn.to/3K5jJbL Quran Journal: https://amzn.to/37zKJD6 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| Let's talk about choosing gratitude even when things are tough | 04 nov. 2022 | 00:10:12 | |
You guys asked for more chilled vibes so here you go! A real and honest talk about the hardest time I went through in my life and how I turned the pain into gratitude. I hope this helps you reframe your current struggles and find joy within in any situation inchaAllah.
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| How I journal as a Muslim woman | 04 nov. 2022 | 00:09:34 | |
Salaam beautiful, thank you for listening to this episode! Don't forget to subscribe and share with whoever might benefit. Are you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/B9svQM4V Do you have what it takes to become a life coach? Take this quiz to find out! https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/KHgXUZnG Waitlist for The Thriving Coach - Certified Training for aspiring muslim life coaches: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/dljdpd71g6 FREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thehealedsister Website: https://thehealedsister.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealedsister/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||
| The BIGGEST lie about self-care | 04 nov. 2022 | 00:10:53 | |
Salaam beautiful, thank you for listening to this episode! Don't forget to subscribe and share with whoever might benefit. Are you a coach looking to get more clients and needing support? Apply to join the Mastermind, a group coaching program that will help you generate more income from your coaching business: https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/B9svQM4V Do you have what it takes to become a life coach? Take this quiz to find out! https://5ykrhdkxfi4.typeform.com/to/KHgXUZnG Waitlist for The Thriving Coach - Certified Training for aspiring muslim life coaches: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/dljdpd71g6 FREE Ultimate Muslim Entrepreneur Reading List: https://beautiful-fire-411.myflodesk.com/rflmwjfd0c Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thehealedsister Website: https://thehealedsister.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealedsister/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thehealedsister.substack.com | |||