Have you ever wondered if you’re really hearing God’s voice—or just your own thoughts? In this first episode of The Listening Life series, Jill Lillard unpacks what it means to live attuned to God’s presence and guided by His Spirit. Through the “one thing” thread woven across Scripture—David’s desire for God’s presence, Mary’s attentiveness, the rich young ruler’s call to surrender, and Paul’s focus—you’ll see how the listening life is about centering everything on Him. Jill also shares how the Holy Spirit teaches, reminds, gives wisdom, and brings Scripture to life, making God’s voice a living reality in your everyday. If you’ve longed to hear Him more clearly, this episode will encourage you to quiet the many things and return to the One who is always speaking.

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This is the final episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

Over the past five weeks, we’ve looked at what it means to offer correction in a way that reflects the heart of God—truthful, loving, and wise. But today we’re flipping the perspective. What does it look like to receive correction without spiraling into shame, defensiveness, or fear?

In this episode, Jill unpacks what Scripture says about feedback, why our bodies and minds react the way they do, and how to stay calm and grounded when correction comes. You’ll discover a simple four-part framework to process feedback with grace, curiosity, and resilience.

Correction doesn’t have to crush you—it can shape you. Tune in to learn how to welcome feedback as an invitation to grow in wisdom, maturity, and deeper trust in Christ.

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This is Episode 5 in the series Hormones, Happiness & The Holy Spirit. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things—journaling, praying, renewing your mind—and still feel stuck, discouraged, or just plain off, this episode is for you.

Today I’m joined by my favorite guest (and husband), Dr. Richard Lillard—a clinical psychologist with decades of experience in both therapy and integrated health. We talk about what’s actually going on when emotional tools aren’t working, the difference between situational struggles and clinical mood disorders, and how to know when it’s time to consider extra support—whether that’s therapy, medication, or both.

We also unpack the difference between coaching and counseling, how our biology impacts our emotional and spiritual lives, and why you don’t have to figure this out alone.

This episode is full of wisdom, humor, and deep compassion for anyone who’s ever wondered, “Why can’t I just feel better?”

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This is part 2 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations.  Imagine a life where you could feel anything and use it as fuel to grow personally and spiritually. We delve into this intriguing concept, exploring how our beliefs and attitudes toward emotions can shape our experiences. We discuss the mechanism of  'buffering' - the behaviors we often use to sidestep discomfort- and the potential long-term consequences it can create. By embracing both positive and negative emotions, you can break this cycle, free up your energy, and deepen your relationship with  Jesus, Others, and Yourself. This is JOY. 

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This month begins the series Five Worthy Transformations.  Have you ever wished you could declutter not just your physical spaces,  but also your emotional and mental space? Here's your chance.   In this episode, I  guide you on how to tidy up your life from within. We use the simple act of cleaning out a closet as a metaphor for organizing your mind, emotions, and will. We'll help you sort out what no longer serves you and make room for what you love. 

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Join me for the last week in The Heart Scan Series as we learn how to  PRESS ON despite unwanted emotions.  You can come up with a beautiful plan for change, but when it comes time to implement it, you may not always feel like doing the things.  Even if you have identified the new thoughts and feelings to fuel the actions, if you don't take action, your beliefs are useless.  Together, we venture through the HeartScan series' final stages, illuminating the Holy Spirit's steadfast power within us to help us press on even in the face of challenging emotions.This episode is for you if you have felt blocked, stalled, or uninspired. Let's explore how faith and surrender can be our allies rather than adversaries. 

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Today we discuss  step 3 of The Heart Scan Process: ENGAGE.  Are your emotions ruling your life or shaping your relationship with God?  Take a step back as we explore  the profound connection between our feelings and our faith.  We unravel how our emotions act as an invitation to foster a deeper understanding of ourselves and fortify our bond with our Creator. 

I introduce the Four P’s for navigating emotions, a roadmap to deciphering and dealing with our feelings. We discuss how panic often clouds our judgment and how taking a pause helps us accept and understand the emotion. We shed light on how prayer and praise can be potent weapons to combat anxiety and bring an oasis of peace. 

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Ever wished you could hit the pause button on life's overwhelming problems and breathe? Welcome to the place where that dream becomes a reality. We're continuing our Heart Scan Series with step two of the process: RENEW. Together, we'll explore how to quiet the storm of fear and confusion and channel our problems into something far bigger than us. Let's uncover the biblical truths hidden in the lives of Paul and Joseph and allow the Holy Spirit to work wonders in our lives. Change begins not with new actions but with a transformed heart. 

Need a little more incentive to jump on this transformational journey? Why not take the Happiest Lives Academy for a spin during our Heart Scan Week? This is your golden ticket to a life-changing experience that combines the power of community, coaching, and direct feedback on your Heart Scans. It’s not just about renewing your mind; it's about transforming your life. So, why wait? Visit myhappyvault.com and sign up today for just $27. We can't wait to welcome you into our community of Christian women eager to live their happiest lives.

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Today, we begin The Heart Scan Series, where I introduce you to The Heart Scan Process, my ultimate tool for creating a better life and relationships.  I spotlight the first step of Heart Scanning, EXPOSE, where we bring what is hidden into the light.  I show you how to constrain, focus,  organize, and look at a problem so you are no longer spinning in feelings such as overwhelm, despair, confusion, or fear. 
If you want to quit living your life on default mode and instead nurture God's spirit living in you, it always begins by asking the Lord to search your heart and expose what is hidden.  Being the woman God says you are starts with capturing your thoughts and bringing your mind in step with the Spirit.  You won't want to miss this episode as  I show you an interesting and fun way to do that.

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This is our last episode in The Relationship Foundation Series. 

Ever struggled with the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing? Felt the burnout and resentment from constantly sacrificing your own needs for others? It's time to unveil the truth behind this draining behavior and discover healthier, more fulfilling alternatives. In this revealing episode, we dissect the complex world of people-pleasing, self-seeking and God-loving mindsets. We dive into why fear and insecurity often fuel people-pleasing tendencies, leading to unsatisfactory relationships.

But it's not all doom and gloom;  with scripture serving as our compass, we guide you towards cultivating a God-loving mindset, creating a route to true fulfillment and contentment in your relationships. Empower yourself to step away from the people-pleaser persona and embrace an authentic, balanced, and satisfying approach to your relationships. Ready to journey towards healthier relationships? Tune in to this enlightening episode.

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Welcome to part 3 of The Relationship Foundations Series.  

Are you certain about your loveability? What if we told you it's not about becoming more loveable but about realizing that your loveability is already absolute and unchanging? Join us today on Happiest Lives podcast as we take a deep dive into the profound connection between our capacity to love and our relationship with God. We'll uncover the transformative power of God's love and discuss how it influences our self-worth and relationships.

Have you ever wrestled with the concept of unconditional love? It's about loving someone wholeheartedly, irrespective of their actions, without expecting anything in return. It's not easy, but it's highly rewarding. Let's chat about how God's love can provide us with solace and strength and guide us to let go of resentment, hurt, and bitterness. By accepting that we are loved beyond measure, we can extend this love to others and create a ripple effect of love in our surroundings.

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In this episode, we continue the series Relationship Foundations as we dive into the subject of  Boundaries.  Because relationship boundaries start in your mind, having a clear picture of where you end and another begins is crucial as you decide how you want to respond in your relationships. Sometimes we may need to declare a boundary and enforce a consequence for violations; however many times we simply need to honor our own boundaries.  Boundaries are never about controlling or punishing another person but are about protecting and taking responsibility for yourself, all the while honoring another's free will to do as they choose. Join me this week as we continue our journey to healthier, happier relationships.

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Join me for part two of the series, Relationship Foundations, where we look at the core concepts that will change the way you approach the people you love.  This week we talk about Desires and Wants. 

What do you truly want in your relationship? What if your partner doesn't want the same thing?  How should you feel about your wants and desires when they seem to cause you pain?  

Dealing with things on your own (*lonely*) and turning toward your partner and constantly being let down (*frustrating*) aren't the only two options when it comes to desires in your relationship.  In this episode, I show you a third alternative.   

Wanting is a big part of being human. Connecting with shared wants is a  meaningful way to love each other.   I'll show you what to do when your expectations aren't met and share a practical exercise to help couples align their wants and build a more genuine connection.  Join us on this transformative journey and redefine your relationship.

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In this fourth episode of our Hormones, Happiness & the Holy Spirit series, we’re talking about the thoughts behind your feelings—because the stories you tell yourself are shaping how you feel, how you act, and how close you feel to God.

If your brain is the hardware, your thoughts are the software—and outdated programming rooted in fear, shame, or scarcity can keep you stuck. Today, I’ll walk you through the first step of the Heart Scan process, show you how to separate fact from interpretation, and guide you toward thoughts that bear better fruit.

We’ll talk about brain science, emotional honesty, and how renewing your mind isn’t about forced positivity—it’s about inviting the Holy Spirit to lead your thinking so you can live with peace, clarity, and grace.

Let’s get started.

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Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and fuel your relationships? This episode promises to take your understanding of relationships - with yourself, others, and God - to a whole new level. 

Imagine an engine where each part is connected, all contributing to the overall function. The same goes for our relationships; our thoughts, feelings, and actions are all required to keep the engine smooth and robust. We dive into the dynamics of these interactions, scrutinizing the impact of our perceptions on our relationships, the pitfalls of attempting to control others, and the power of authenticity.

Shift your thought gears and prepare for a journey to transform your relationships. We'll explore the power of changing your thoughts and the profound ripple effect it can have on our relationships. We take a hard look at how our stories about the past, shaped by our current thoughts and feelings, can evolve over time. We emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for our own feelings and choosing our thoughts intentionally to create healthier, more loving relationships. 

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What if the key to success lies in our failures? Buckle up for a riveting conversation where we dissect failure and how it shapes our identity. This episode is the last in our series on Being & Doing, and it's a game-changer!  When we stop perceiving failure as a setback, we experience it as a stepping stone to resilience, confidence, and determination. After listening to today's podcast, you'll realize that avoiding failure could actually be costing you more by disconnecting you from the very essence of your life. This thought-provoking discussion aims to reimagine and redefine failure as a catalyst for growth, opening doors to new experiences and opportunities.

This episode will fuel you with the courage to take risks, learn from your mistakes and create the life you've always envisioned. I'll share my insights on how our beliefs about failure mold our identity and how being receptive to failure can lead us to our true selves. I can't wait to hear your personal stories of failure and how you've transformed them into stepping stones. Here's a toast to embracing failure and perseverance despite the occasional stumble.

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Your aspirations reflect your core values and dreams, while goals are the building blocks to realizing your aspirations. Join Jill Lillard, MA LPC as she explores these concepts in a spiritual context, discussing the role of faith in shaping our lives with intentional and disciplined goal setting. This episode is part of the series on  Being & Doing, and unveils the importance of daily practices that honor God, helping us to love others and perceive ourselves in relation to the greater whole.

Uncover how to effectively set goals that align with your aspirations and create impactful results. We'll use the scientific method to draw hypotheses and guide our goal-setting process, providing insights into the importance of prayerful commitment. As we walk through this process, you'll learn that working towards your goals doesn’t have to be a burden. We also delve into the energy required to realize our aspirations.  Prepare yourself to journey through life and faith, grow in character, and experience the greatness of God.

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What if you could unlock the secret to living a  life fueled by emotions on purpose? As we explore the relationship between Being & Doing, we delve into why we want what we want and what it is that we think will make us happy.  You will learn how to feel on purpose, owning your emotional experiences.  In this episode Jill shares valuable techniques for identifying the desired feelings and sensations you want to experience, as well as crafting thoughts that lead to those emotions. Learn from three essential scriptures that emphasize choosing our thoughts to redirect our lives.

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This episode is part of the four-part series on Being & Doing.  You will learn why we do certain things and why we may not do what we want to do.  I introduce The Heart Scan Process as a way of gaining a deeper understanding of your life and creating change. You will discover:

• Relatable examples of clients who are unhappy with their actions not aligning with their values and not achieving desired results.
• Four parts of Heart Scanning: Expose, Renew, Engage, and Press On.
• The Self-Coaching Model is introduced as a tool to analyze problems and break them down into five components: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results.
• Circumstances are things outside of our control, while thoughts, feelings, actions, and results can be controlled.
• Trusting in God's sovereignty over circumstances is discussed.
• The importance of awareness of our thoughts and how they create feelings and fuel actions is emphasized.
• The relationship between thoughts, feelings, actions, and results is explained.
• The process of doing a Thought Capture is introduced as a way to observe and analyze our thoughts and feelings.
• The importance of approaching this process with grace instead of judgment is emphasized.
• The benefits of exposing hidden thoughts and feelings are discussed, including the ability to consciously decide how to deal with them.
• The connection between hiding and being unable to experience God's presence is mentioned.
• The podcast emphasizes examining our hearts and emotions for sustainable change rather than relying solely on external actions.

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The Hallmark of happy couples is NOT that they never have disagreements or regrettable incidences. What sets the "masters of marriage" apart from the "disasters of marriage," as Gottman likes to classify them, is Repair Attempts. If you can have a fight but come back together and effectively move forward, learning from your last conversation that didn’t go well, then you are on the right track for a growing relationship. This week I show you how to repair your conversations by tapping the breaks, taking a time out, and coming back together. 

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Do you have issues in your marriage where you don't see eye to eye? When the topic comes up, do you lock horns and get stuck in hurt? Nothing is wrong that you have a "problem." However, if you become gridlock over it,  you may decide, "It's better to deal with this on my own,"  a thought that ignites the cascade of distance, loneliness, and isolation.  Though the fighting has stopped, you are now separate lives.  There has to be another alternative to move forward and get unstuck. I tell you how here. 

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Here I explore four habitual ways of engaging that shut down communication and can destroy your relationship. If you want better conversations, I will show you what to do instead. This is part of the Better Conversations Series.

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The Talk Table is a conversation tool that will allow you to stay calm, listen better, and effectively share.  Learn four tips for using this tool so you can create better conversations.   This is part of The Better Conversations Series. 

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This episode is part of The Better Conversations series. We have the amazing opportunity and capacity to exchange thoughts and feelings with others.  However, sometimes conversations don't go as planned,  and we decide that conversations can be hard. In this episode, I tell you the ONE reason your conversations are hard and give you three tips for creating Better Conversations.

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In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, we’re continuing our Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit series with a deep dive into brain health. Jill shares insights from her recent certification as a Brain Health Practitioner with the Amen Clinics and introduces six key brain systems that influence how you think, feel, focus, and function.

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain is like the hardware that runs your entire life
• The six core brain systems and how they relate to anxiety, depression, and attention
• Why traditional mental health diagnoses sometimes miss the mark—and what to do instead
• How food, movement, supplements, thought work, and (sometimes) medication can all work together to support your mental and emotional well-being
• Dr. Daniel Amen’s simple three-step formula for improving brain health—without needing a brain scan

If you’ve ever felt stuck, foggy, anxious, or just off—you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Your brain can change. And that means your life can too.

🧠 Learn more about Dr. Amen’s work and discover your brain type at brainhealthassessment.com

📘 Want to go deeper? Join Jill’s Clarity + Courage coaching program for more support, worksheets, and real transformation.

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True Joy is rooted in a relationship with Christ and others. Join me with special guest Becky Harling as she walks us through four aspects of joy highlighted in her first group devotional book  Rooted Joy, part of The Girlfriends  Gathering Series. 

You can find Becky's books and more at www.beckyharling.com

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Happiness does not mean we have positive feelings all the time.  Life is 50/50;  to create a happy life, we must make room for negative emotions.  All your feelings, the negative ones included,  can be portals to experiencing more of God's presence. 

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If you want to feel better,  you must first understand the REAL reason why you are feeling the way you are.  In this episode, you will discover seven sneaky thought errors and what to do about them. When you get to the root of your dissatisfaction, you can take your power back regaining peace and joy.

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There are many different ideas and questions about happiness.  Does being happy imply that we will never feel terrible? Is there a formula for happiness? Is being happy something we should even strive for as  Christians? I  answer all this and more as I give you 5 Biblical teachings on happiness that you can apply to your life.   Unlike momentary, fleeting pleasure, true happiness can sustain us through the worst times.

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Though where we are is uncomfortable, getting to where we want to be can feel terrifying.  Oftentimes we sit on the shorelines of our life, choosing familiar discomfort over our deepest longings. Between where we are and where we are going, we find ourselves in a sea of struggle or surrender.  Everything changes when we invite the Lord into the misery of becoming, surrendering to him rather than our circumstances.

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When you received Jesus, you received a new identity. The old is gone, yet you are still becoming who you already are, awaiting this transformation's fullness. This is a paradox that we can't fully understand. When we think things should be different than they are, we become discouraged. In this episode, I give you six tips for living in the tension of the already but not yet. 

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Creating change starts with our intellect, emotion, and will. Actions must follow. Even as we press on, we will experience unwanted emotions that seem to work against our deepest desires. When we declare new truths and take action despite these feelings, we will keep moving forward and build a better relationship with ourselves as we honor our greatest values.

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Knowing who you are is foundational to how you show up in your life and relationships. It defines your worth, value, purpose and what resources you have access to. As a Christian believer you are 100% whole, even as you are still becoming . In this episode I give you 7 suggestions to guide you as you become the woman Scripture says you already are. 

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Join me, Jill Lillard, on a journey to transform your life and relationships through The Happiest Lives Podcast.  New episodes are released every Friday. 

As a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Couples Therapist with the world-renowned Gottman Institute, and Certified Life Coach, I  have spent over two decades helping people navigate relationships and emotions.  My faith and relationship with Jesus is center to all my work. 

If you're new to The Happiest Lives, it's my coaching business designed exclusively for Christian wives seeking to find greater fulfillment in their marriages and experience deeper love. If you want to honor the Lord in all you do, abiding in his joy and peace as you navigate life and relationships, then you're in the right place.

Throughout the podcast, you'll encounter five fundamental concepts that underpin all the work we do:

Focus on the Controllable:  Shift your energy away from trying to change others and channel it into becoming the woman you aspire to be. By doing so, you'll enhance your relationships and embrace greater enjoyment.

Embrace Emotional Awareness:  Learn how to handle emotions effectively to prevent conversations from derailing. Gain insights into managing triggered emotions, allowing you to respond productively and create space for others.

Prioritize God at the Center: Recognize that your husband can't fill the void only God can occupy. When you prioritize God at the center of your life, everything else falls into place.

Take Action Amid Unwanted Emotions: Discover the power of aligning your actions with your beliefs and values, even when negative emotions arise. By tapping into what's most important to you, you can honor your commitments consistently.

Turn Toward Each Other: Foster stronger connections with your partner by facing challenges together. Transform from a "ME" mentality to a united "WE," building trust and intimacy.

I'll also introduce you to a powerful process called The Heart Scan, which helps you delve deep into your intellect, emotions, and will to bring about lasting change. As you explore intriguing perspectives on your relationships and inner world, you'll have the opportunity to apply what you learn through my coaching programs.

In The Happiest Lives Academy, our most intensive coaching program, you'll experience five life-transforming shifts in five months as you learn to Organize You Life from the Inside Out, Leverage Your Emotions, Make Powerful Decisions, Create Calm Conversations, and Break Strongholds.

Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching program, offers ongoing access to new concepts, live coaching, and workshops. You can join or cancel anytime, making it an ideal fit for your needs.

Additionally, the Relationship Reinvention program, offered annually for couples, provides self-study materials and interventions to strengthen your bond as a couple, all within a supportive group setting.

Explore my array of self-study courses, including "The Happy Marriage Mindset," "Connection Cure," and "The 6-Week Marriage Makeover," which also offers the option for six weeks of coaching support.

Not sure where to start? Try my FREE mini-courses: "The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife" or "Living In Confidence No Matter What."

Over the past 25 years as a therapist and couples counselor, I've gathered invaluable insights I'm eager to share with you. Together, we'll m

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What if your mood struggles weren’t just in your head—but in your gut, your diet, and even your sun exposure?

In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I’m joined by Christian nutritionist Chelsea Blackbird as we continue our Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit series. We’re diving into the body-lifestyle-mood connection—how things like amino acids, protein, and sunlight directly impact your neurotransmitters, hormones, and overall well-being.

You’ll learn:

• Why your first meal of the day is crucial for your mood
• The surprising role sunshine plays in your brain chemistry
• What amino acids are—and why you can’t make neurotransmitters without them
• The overlooked foundation to feeling better in your body, mind, and spirit

Whether you’re curious about how faith and food intersect, or you’ve just been feeling off and can’t figure out why—this episode is a must-listen.

🔗 Connect with Chelsea and learn more about her resources at thechristiannutritionist.com

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What really makes us happy—and what gets in the way?

In this kickoff to a new series, Jill Lillard explores happiness from a whole-person, Spirit-led perspective. Drawing on her experience as a therapist, coach, and ministry leader, she unpacks how our thoughts, hormones, and spiritual life all interact to shape our emotional well-being.

You’ll learn:

• Why happiness isn’t about ease or getting what you want
• How biology and belief both impact your mood
• What the Holy Spirit has to do with joy—even on hard days

If you’ve ever said, “I just want to be happy,” this episode is for you.

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Part four of our Loosening Your Grip Series.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Heather Gilion as she shares her family’s journey through her son’s cancer diagnosis and the decision to amputate his leg. This isn’t a teaching. It’s not a step-by-step. It’s a real-life story of loss, faith, and the kind of surrender you don’t plan for—but choose because it’s the only good option.

If you’re holding on tight to something right now, afraid of what will happen if you let go, I pray this conversation softens your grip.

Let’s get into it.

Connect with Heather Gilion:

You can find Heather’s beautiful artwork at StoryDesigns.org

Her book Dancing On My Ashes is available on Amazon

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Part 3 of The Loosening Your Grip Series. 

If they would just change, everything would be better… right?

In this episode, we’re talking about what really happens when we try to manage the people we love—and how to let go without giving up. You’ll learn how to stop living in someone else’s model, how to set boundaries without detaching, and why true peace doesn’t come from controlling others; it comes from staying grounded in your own work.

This episode will help you shift from frustration to freedom—and get honest about what’s actually yours to carry.

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This is part 2 of the Loosening Your Grip Series.

You had a vision for how life would go- the timeline, the outcomes, the relationships. But what happens when reality looks nothing like the dream? In this episode, we’re talking about that gap. About what it means to release the picture you were holding and trust that God is still writing a good story. We’ll unpack Jacob’s striving, our tendency to grip tightly, and how letting go isn’t failure, rather  faith. If you’ve been white-knuckling your way through disappointment, or wondering where God is in the detours, this conversation is for you.

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This begins the new series: Loosening Your Grip.

What if the very thing you’re trying to control is what’s actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I’m sharing a really personal story. Years of chronic pain, self-reliance, and striving brought me face-to-face with a hard truth: I’m not in charge. And that’s a good thing. We’ll talk about why control feels so tempting, what happens when we hit our limit, and how real power begins when we stop white-knuckling life and start clinging to God. This is about loosening your grip, not giving up. You’ll walk away with a new perspective on what it means to trust and why the limp you’re walking with might just be the very evidence that God is blessing you.

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Worry might feel responsible. It might feel productive. But it’s not. It’s just a mental habit—one you’ve rehearsed for years. And today, we’re turning it around.

In this final episode of the Habit Turnaround series, we’re breaking down why worry shows up, how it hooks you, and what to do instead. I’ll teach you a simple, powerful tool—The Four P’s: Panic, Pause, Pray, Praise—to interrupt the spiral and access the peace that’s already available to you.

If you’re tired of overthinking, bracing for impact, and losing sleep over “what ifs,” this episode will challenge your mindset, reframe your responsibility, and show you how to move from anxiety to authority—one thought at a time.

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This is part four in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

Correction isn’t easy—and when we step into it, it’s tempting to slip into the role of “fixer,” as if it’s our job to make someone else change. But scripture reminds us that’s not our role. We are called to speak the truth in love, with gentleness and humility, while entrusting the outcome to God.

In this episode, Jill unpacks:

• Why posture matters more than having the perfect words
• The dangers of superiority, anger, shame, and control in correction
• How humility and prayer prepare us to speak safely
• Practical ways correction can happen—words, observations, questions, or boundaries
• What it looks like to release the outcome and trust God with the growth

Correction isn’t about playing God—it’s about love that restores, truth that sets free, and trust in the One who changes hearts.

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You’re doing all the things—managing the schedule, watching the budget, keeping the peace, trying to eat clean and “be the good one.” But let’s be honest: it’s exhausting. That tight grip? That anxious push to make it all work? That’s white-knuckling.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the habit of white-knuckling—what it is, why we do it, and why it’s not actually helping. You’ll learn the real reason your efforts leave you tired, stuck, and secretly resentful… and what to do instead.

I’ll walk you through my four-part process for turning this habit around—so you can stop pushing, start partnering with God, and move forward without losing your mind (or your soul). This isn’t about giving up. It’s about letting go the right way.

Let’s talk about the difference between striving and surrender—and how to tell when you’ve crossed the line.

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Procrastination might not seem dramatic—but it’s quietly draining your peace, cluttering your mind, and robbing you of forward momentum. In part six of The Habit Turnaround series, we’re talking about how to stop putting things off and start showing up with purpose. 

You’ll learn why procrastination isn’t a time issue—it’s a thought pattern—and how to break the habit loop with simple mindset shifts and practical tools. If you’re tired of carrying around that mental to-do list or delaying something God has placed on your heart, this episode will help you move from avoidance to action. Let’s turn it around—one small step at a time.

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This is Part 5 of The Habit Turnaround series, and today we’re talking about quick thrills—the little dopamine hits we chase to avoid discomfort.

Whether it’s snacks, scrolling, shopping, or staying busy, these habits feel good for a moment but keep you stuck long-term. I’ll show you how to break the cycle with the 10 Minute Habit Turnaround so you can stop buffering and start living with intention.

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Withdrawing might seem like the peaceful, “Christian” alternative to conflict—but it’s not. It’s just another sneaky habit that keeps us stuck. Whether you shut down in conversations, avoid emotions, or silently drift from God, today’s episode will help you see the truth behind the habit of pulling away.

In Part 4 of The Habit Turnaround Series, we’ll uncover:

• What withdrawing really looks like in your relationships, spiritual life, and self

• Why it feels like relief—but leads to isolation

• The habit loop that keeps you disconnecting

• How lamenting becomes the path to re-engagement with God, yourself, and others

If you’re tired of feeling numb, distant, or unseen—this is your episode. You don’t have to withdraw to feel safe. Let’s talk about a new way forward. Let’s go.

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Arguing feels automatic—but it’s actually a habit. One rooted in fear, frustration, and the need to feel in control. In today’s episode, Part 3 of The Habit Turnaround Series, I’ll show you how to interrupt that habit and build a new pattern rooted in clarity, peace, and connection.

You’ll learn:

• Why arguments keep repeating

• What emotional flooding does to your brain

• How to shift from needing to “win” to listening with love

• The seven steps to turning an argument into a calm, Christ-centered conversation

If you’re tired of going in circles, this episode is your turnaround. Let’s go!

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Complaining can feel justified—but is it actually helping? In this episode, we explore how complaining becomes an automatic habit, why it keeps us stuck, and what the Bible teaches about a better way forward. Instead of venting frustration, we’ll look at the biblical practice of lament—how to bring our struggles to God in a way that leads to peace, wisdom, and transformation. If you’re ready to break free from negativity and step into a mindset of trust and empowerment, this episode is for you!

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Most of our habits aren’t intentional—we just fall into them. But what if the habits shaping your life aren’t actually serving you? In this episode, we’re diving into The Habit Turnaround—how to recognize unhelpful patterns, understand why they stick, and intentionally create habits that align with the life God is calling you to.

We’ll break down the Habit Loop, uncover the sneaky rewards keeping bad habits in place, and explore what the Bible says about true transformation (Romans 12:2). If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of stress, negativity, or distraction, this episode will give you the insight and tools to start shifting those patterns today.

It’s time to stop running on autopilot and start stepping into renewal. Let’s dive in!

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In this episode, we’re wrapping up our Genesis Takeaway series with a powerful reflection on the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. At first glance, it’s a story of judgment, but when we slow down and look deeper, it reveals profound lessons about hesitation, obedience, and trust.

Are you struggling to move forward in faith? Do you find yourself looking back at what’s familiar, even when you know God is calling you into something new? Today, we’re diving into the dangers of hesitation, the cost of looking back, and the temptation to stop short of God’s best.

Join me as we explore how these lessons apply to our daily lives and what it truly means to trust God’s call forward—without hesitation. Plus, I’ll share a personal story about my own struggle with letting go and stepping into freedom.

Don’t miss this episode—it just might be the encouragement you need to take your next bold step of faith!

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