Explore every episode of the podcast The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
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| 113. Why You Should Aim for Girlfriend Excellence (Over Mediocrity) | 20 Apr 2023 | 00:12:37 | |
"I just want to feel better." Sound familiar? Then you're a lot like my clients who struggle to dream big and go after their fullest potential. | |||
| 112. What If It Turns Out I Was Right to Be Anxious? | 11 Apr 2023 | 00:19:57 | |
I'm not taking any prisoners in this week's episode. It's time we have a serious conversation about "What if I'm right to be anxious and jealous?" | |||
| 111. When Changing Your Thoughts Just Isn’t Working | 05 Apr 2023 | 00:30:27 | |
Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions. So if you want to change, you need to change your thoughts. Simple enough, right? | |||
| 110. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn't Listen To: PART 2 | 27 Mar 2023 | 00:29:53 | |
Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with. | |||
| 109. Stop Hugging the Cactus: When Your Thoughts Are Causing You Pain | 05 Mar 2023 | 00:16:25 | |
Are the certain topics in your relationship that just keep causing you pain? Frustration? Anxiety? All you want is for reality to be different than it is... because YOU ARE RIGHT. Your thought is true. And reality is just not playing along. | |||
| 108. Triggered? Listen to This | 19 Feb 2023 | 00:15:06 | |
This is a guided coaching episode that I recommend you listen to if you have been triggered by something in your relationship. | |||
| 107. The Power in Being the Problem | 12 Feb 2023 | 00:21:42 | |
Have you ever thought that your partner is the problem in your relationship? That their behavior is the problem that needs to be solved? Then this is the episode for you. | |||
| 106. Obsession vs. Love w/ Ron Cecil & Daniel Penner Cline | 06 Feb 2023 | 01:21:23 | |
Do you ever feel obsessed with your partner? Does it feel good... or not so much? Could it even become unhealthy if it goes on for too long? A while back I got a question from a girlfriend who struggled to differentiate between her feelings of love and what felt like an unhealthy obsession. So let's figure it out together! | |||
| 105. After All I've Done for You!? | 29 Jan 2023 | 00:20:31 | |
You've heard of people pleasing... saying yes to things you don't want to say yes to in order to manipulate people's thoughts and feelings about you. But what about retrospective people pleasing? | |||
| 104. Boundaries: A Grumpy Girlfriend Guide | 22 Jan 2023 | 00:27:29 | |
No one has missed the importance of setting boundaries in life in order to stay safe and sound. But for a lot of grumpy girlfriends, this is an area of confusion, frustration, and trouble. Is it possible to set too many boundaries? 26. For Couples: “I get to do whatever I want” explained 32. Am I putting up with too much? 47. Am I overreacting? 55. When your partner’s behavior goes against your values 60. When your partner IS doing something wrong with Karilyn Ivers 68. The Manual 91. Wanting something vs. having a manual for someone
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| 103. Why Wanting to See It Coming Is Ruining Your Relationship | 15 Jan 2023 | 00:18:55 | |
Is your brain constantly looking for signs that your relationship is about to end? Are you on high alert for signs your partner is cheating on you? No matter what your partner does, do you always interpret their actions in the worst possible way? | |||
| 102. Stuck in Indecision? Create a Decision Container! | 08 Jan 2023 | 00:08:41 | |
Spinning in indecision is the best way to waste time in your life and relationship. Yet we spin in indecision and struggle to make decisions because we are so afraid of making the wrong choice and wasting time. Ironic, huh? | |||
| 101. 23 Thoughts to Make 2023 Your Least Grumpy Year Ever | 01 Jan 2023 | 00:07:23 | |
Who we are, what we struggle with, and how we feel depends on the thoughts we think. So the only thing standing in between you and the girlfriend you want to be are the thoughts you repeatedly think and believe. | |||
| 100. The Life of a Grumpy Girlfriend Boyfriend: Listener Q&A w/ Sonny | 25 Dec 2022 | 00:30:16 | |
What is it really like to be the partner of a grumpy girlfriend? Pure misery? Or not so bad? Well, if you ask my boyfriend, it was a walk in the park. 'Cause he had no idea I was being grumpy, to begin with. | |||
| 99. How I Overcame Anxiety & Stopped Overthinking: WWNPD? | 18 Dec 2022 | 00:13:41 | |
A few years ago I was diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I've struggled with anxiety a lot as an adult. But... today, I don't struggle with anxiety anymore. I don't struggle with overthinking. | |||
| 98. When to Change the Circumstance | 11 Dec 2022 | 00:15:37 | |
Week in and week out, we talk about thought work, processing your emotions, and adjusting the way you think about things in your relationship. This week, we are going to talk about situations when you might not want to do the thought work! | |||
| 97. Real Talk: How I Feel About My Relationship After 48h On TikTok | 04 Dec 2022 | 00:24:10 | |
Phew. I have been feeling so overwhelmed and sick of relationship content on social media these past few days (weeks) that I just needed to come on here and vent to you guys. | |||
| 96. What Will Other People Think? | 27 Nov 2022 | 00:21:42 | |
Do you ever get into arguments with your partner about things they should or shouldn't be doing because you worry about what other people will think? Then this episode is for you. | |||
| 95. 7 Relationship “Truths” That Fuel Your Anxiety | 20 Nov 2022 | 00:26:28 | |
It's time to dive deep into relationship truths and assumptions operating in our subconscious minds. These truths were made up to create false safety and control in monogamous relationships, but what they're really doing is just fuelling your relationship anxiety. | |||
| 94. How to Fix Your Problem With Intrusive Thoughts | 13 Nov 2022 | 00:14:21 | |
Intrusive thoughts are the worst. They just pop up out of nowhere and ruin your mood completely. I know you've tried not to think about the thoughts when they pop up, I know you've tried to police your brain... it just doesn't work. | |||
| 93. Let's Practice Getting Cheated On | 06 Nov 2022 | 00:18:45 | |
Welcome to your worst nightmare. In this week's episode, we are going to walk through the experience of finding out your partner has been cheating on you and see what happens. | |||
| 92. Fictional Coaching: Movie Night at Jack & Christine's | 30 Oct 2022 | 00:37:44 | |
Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during the evening. | |||
| 91. Wanting Something vs. Having a Manual for Someone | 23 Oct 2022 | 00:16:48 | |
We're allowed to want things from our partners and relationships, and we can be sad if we don't get them. But we also shouldn't have a manual for our partners and base our emotions on what they do or don't do. | |||
| 90. Fast Forward & Let It Go | 16 Oct 2022 | 00:20:48 | |
Have you ever gotten upset about something in your relationship and later realized that it wasn't even a problem, to begin with? You're not alone. I myself had an experience just like this a few weeks ago. | |||
| 89. Why We Prefer Fate, Intuition, & Gut Feelings Over Choice | 09 Oct 2022 | 00:16:31 | |
Do you ever wish that your gut would just tell you what to do? Do you ever put your life in the hands of “fate” rather than making a decision? Do you ever refer to something being a need and therefore out of your control rather than asking for what you want? | |||
| 88. Help! My Partner Has a Manual for Me! | 02 Oct 2022 | 00:25:34 | |
Are there certain things your partner wants or needs you to do, and if you don't do them correctly they get upset? Then chances are your partner has a manual for you. And the tricky part here is that if you think they shouldn't have a manual for you and you think their manual for you is making you annoyed and upset... well, then you have a manual right back at them. | |||
| 87. Your Partner's Only Job | 25 Sep 2022 | 00:13:55 | |
What's your partner's job in your relationship? Is it to make you feel good? Keep you safe? Share all the daily chores? When we have a long job description for our partners, it makes it difficult for them to do everything right and thus making it difficult for us to be happy. | |||
| 86. When You Want Your Partner to WANT to Do The Thing | 18 Sep 2022 | 00:18:57 | |
Are there things in your relationship you want your partner to want to do, but they're just not that into it? Maybe they are happy to do it just to make you happy, but that's not what you want. Ugh, so frustrating. | |||
| 85. "I Have No Reason to Feel This Way" | 11 Sep 2022 | 00:21:46 | |
"I have no reason to feel this way" is one of the most common sentences I hear from grumpy girlfriends all the time. We look at our partners and how they act and compare those circumstances to our thoughts and feelings... and get an error message. It just doesn't add up. | |||
| 84. 3 Choices Girlfriends Need to Make to Be Happy | 04 Sep 2022 | 00:14:35 | |
What if we could boil down girlfriend happiness to three key choices you need to make on a daily basis? That's what I did in this week's episode. If you make these choices consistently and you practice genuinely believing in them, you will be able to finally enjoy your good relationship. | |||
| 83. How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Partner’s Ex | 28 Aug 2022 | 00:21:20 | |
Are you struggling to let go of and move on from your partner's ex? You're not alone. The ex-issue is an extremely common source of grumpiness for a lot of girlfriends and in today's episode, I'll break it down for you. | |||
| 82. The "Logic" of Being Grumpy Towards Other Females in Your Partner's Life | 21 Aug 2022 | 00:23:12 | |
Have you ever thought that you need to be grumpy, negative, and rude towards other females in your partner's life just to not give your partner any ideas? That perhaps, if you were to be kind, open, and positive you would be giving your partner the green light to "go for it"? | |||
| 81. Toxic Relationship Advice You Shouldn’t Listen To | 14 Aug 2022 | 00:24:36 | |
Social media is full of shitty relationship advice that usually just perpetuates the anxiety, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion that grumpy girlfriends struggle with. | |||
| 80. Are You Blaming Your Partner for Your Boring Life? | 07 Aug 2022 | 00:16:20 | |
Do you easily get resentful or upset when your partner is spending time with friends or on hobbies they enjoy? Do you feel lonely and attribute that to your partner not spending enough time with you? Then you might be guilty of blaming your partner for your boring, unfulfilling life. | |||
| 79. From Panic to Peace About Open Relationships with Former Client Katharina | 06 Jul 2022 | 00:56:37 | |
This week, we are joined by my former client Katharina who came to me 9 months ago and wanted help processing her emotions and gaining clarity surrounding a pending open relationship with her boyfriend. | |||
| 78. Your Capacity to Have 2.0: Jealousy Edition | 27 Jun 2022 | 00:12:30 | |
It's time to revisit the topic from episode 12, which is your capacity to have. This time I want to talk about it from a jealousy perspective and how our limited capacity to have actually increases our jealousy and makes it a lot harder to overcome it. | |||
| 77. Grumpy Girlfriend Turned Relationship Coach with Former Client Allison Anderson | 23 Jun 2022 | 01:02:10 | |
I have a special treat for you this week! Tune in to hear the story about my former client Allison Anderson who went from being a grumpy girlfriend herself, struggling with her partner's drinking habits, to becoming a certified life and relationship coach! | |||
| 76. How to Act Normal While Processing Jealousy | 13 Jun 2022 | 00:22:04 | |
Okay, so you know you're supposed to process and allow the emotion when it enters your body so you don't freak out and take it out on your partner... But how the heck do you process the horrible feeling of jealousy in your body without your partner noticing something is wrong? | |||
| 75. The Most Common Mistake My Clients Make | 07 Jun 2022 | 00:10:55 | |
In this episode, I share the most common mistake that my girlfriend clients make when they first start working with me. This progress hack is also something you can practice on your own when coaching yourself. You'll never be able to guess what it is! | |||
| 74. Non-Judgmental Observation 101 | 30 May 2022 | 00:17:47 | |
Our human brains have a habit of labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong, great or stupid. This is a very useful feature in a lot of situations, but when it comes to personal development, it can often get in the way of the progress we want to make. | |||
| 73. High Quality Thoughts | 22 May 2022 | 00:13:22 | |
The quality of your thoughts will determine the quality of your life and relationship. If you are thinking really low quality, complaining, grumpy, indulgent thoughts... well, that will be reflected in your results. | |||
| 72. The Recipe for Changing Your Life | 15 May 2022 | 00:23:15 | |
I always thought that "changing your life", "going after your dreams"... and "not giving up" was so abstract and vague. I kinda got it but mostly I didn't get it at all. Until I found this life-changing recipe that explains it all so clearly. | |||
| 71. 5 Simple Self-Coaching Mind Games to Play | 08 May 2022 | 00:31:28 | |
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by all the work you "should" be doing on yourself in order to improve? You're not alone. In this episode, I share 5 simple, fun mind games you can play on yourself in order to practice self-coaching. | |||
| 70. The Fear of Not Finding Out | 01 May 2022 | 00:23:56 | |
Do you fear not finding out that your partner has cheated on you? Or lied to you? Why is that? Not knowing something doesn't hurt. Not finding out about it isn't painful. So what is it we are actually so afraid of? | |||
| 69. "I don't know, I just can't" | 24 Apr 2022 | 00:09:52 | |
Ready for some tough love? It's time for you to stop abdicating responsibility for the choices you are making in your life and relationship. Saying "I don't know", "I just can't", or "It's not working" is your brain's way of not having to own the results you're creating. | |||
| 68. The Manual | 17 Apr 2022 | 00:33:07 | |
The time has come for The Big Manual Episode! This is one of my favorite relationship coaching topics because when I learned about manuals, my entire life changed. It truly changed how I thought about and showed up in my relationship and I'm very excited to share it with you today. | |||
| 67. Listener Q&A: Is Polyamory More "Enlightened"? | 10 Apr 2022 | 00:29:26 | |
Time for some listener coaching! As always when I coach and answer questions, I have to make some assumptions that might not be 100% true for the person who wrote the question. But without those assumptions, it's very challenging to give any kind of advice. So remember that as you listen to the episode. | |||
| 66. Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain | 03 Apr 2022 | 00:22:53 | |
Being dumped, cheated on, and/or lied to is painful. Horrible. We don't want to experience it if we don't have to. But there is a huge difference between the clean pain that is expected and appropriate when shitty things happen to us, and the dirty pain we pile on top of it. | |||
| 65. "Partners Shouldn't Cheat" & Other Painful Lies | 27 Mar 2022 | 00:25:31 | |
One of the most common answers when asking what the meaning of life is, has to be "to be happy", right? So many of us go through life searching for the external circumstances that will provide us with 100% happiness. But that hunt for the impossible actually decreases the positive and increases the negative that we experience. | |||
| 64. 30 Going on 13: Becoming a Teenager Again | 20 Mar 2022 | 00:15:11 | |
The level of comfort we feel in the relationship context is completely based on our past experiences, coping mechanisms, and strategies. As we became emotionally and sexually active, we learned what to do and how to do it in order to feel safe and secure. | |||