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| E197// Tried everything to connect and feel like your getting nowhere? | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:12:26 | |
In this episode, I dive deep into the world of emotional pursuers—something I know all too well from personal experience. I'll share my story of how years of tiny rejections and a relentless drive for validation shaped my adult relationships, leading to constant anxiety and a desperate need for connection. We'll explore how these anxiously attached styles develop and the exhausting cycle they create. But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom! I'll tell you how I began to heal by leaning into my faith and re-identifying myself through God's eyes, rather than seeking my husband's validation. This episode is all about finding strength in your identity and embracing grace in your relationships. I hope my journey can offer you some guidance and hope if you're facing similar challenges. So, if you're an emotional pursuer longing for connection but often finding yourself in a cycle of blame and resentment, you're in the right place. Let's work on becoming the grace-fueled wives we aspire to be, together.
00:00 Introduction: The Weight of Tiny Rejections 01:03 Understanding Emotional Pursuers 01:48 A Personal Story of Perfectionism 04:00 The Impact of Inconsistent Caregivers 04:40 The Exhausting Cycle of Pursuers 08:12 Finding Strength in Faith 09:42 A Path to Healing and Connection 10:22 Conclusion and Support Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| E196// It doesn't matter what I do, I'm never going to get it right | 03 Dec 2025 | 00:15:02 | |
In this episode I continue the discussion from last week about negative communication cycles, focusing specifically on emotional withdrawers. I'll share a personal story and explore why some people withdraw emotionally in relationships. We delve into how childhood experiences and societal expectations shape this behavior. I highlight the struggles that withdrawers face, such as feeling unsafe expressing emotions and the pressure of perceived failure. By understanding their experiences, we aim to foster empathy, and improve communication. Join me to learn more about how to offer grace and nurture a healthier relationship.
03:06 Understanding Withdrawers 04:07 The Impact of Upbringing on Withdrawers 05:07 Withdrawers in Professional Life 06:51 The Emotional Struggles of Withdrawers 10:40 Empathy for Withdrawers
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| E195// THIS is the REAL reason you struggle with communication. | 25 Nov 2025 | 00:15:45 | |
In this episode, we dive into the root causes of disconnection in marriages focusing on unmet emotional needs and negative communication cycles. I share a personal story showcasing how recognizing these cycles and responding differently can transform interactions. Using a practical exercise, I explain the mechanics of negative communication and how it perpetuates disconnection. Tune in to understand how you can stop these cycles and start feeling connected again. Don't forget to check out the free video training and our community resources - If you’re already on my insider list, I’ve included it with this week’s email.
00:23 Understanding Communication Issues in Relationships 01:19 Personal Story: Handling a Partner's Mood 04:09 The Negative Communication Cycle Explained 04:38 Visualizing the Communication Cycle 13:14 Impact of Negative Cycles on Emotional Needs 14:29 Conclusion and Resources Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me:
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| E194// 3 Steps to diffuse an argument today! | 18 Nov 2025 | 00:11:07 | |
In this episode, I give you some tips on how you can put defensiveness aside and respond with grace when a situation gets challenging! We explore the emotions behind defensiveness and how to navigate them effectively by learning the three key steps to deescalate an argument. I also share how validating feelings and communicating from a place of understanding can make a huge difference in your relationships. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back 01:13 A Personal Story of Defensiveness 02:28 Reflecting on Emotional Reactions 05:52 Practical Steps to Deescalate Arguments 09:15 Final Thoughts and Announcements
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| E193// Why is it easier to talk to my bestie than my husband? | 05 Mar 2025 | 00:12:16 | |
In this episode, I share insights gained from my recent experiences in therapy training, highlighting the importance of emotional safety in relationships. I discuss how a clinician's listening approach influenced my willingness to share and how this relates to fostering emotional intimacy in marriage. I further explore how being a safe spouse means being present and non-judgmental, which requires self-awareness and understanding of what safety feels like. Join me as I reflect on my personal journey and offer practical advice on how to model this crucial aspect of a healthy marriage. 02:32 Personal Reflections and Training Insights 03:34 Understanding Emotional Safety 06:29 Applying Emotional Safety in Marriage 07:59 Restoration and Final Thoughts
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| E192// Why I scrapped my most popular episode and what's new for 2025! | 10 Jan 2025 | 00:08:46 | |
In this episode, I address my hiatus from the podcast and the reasons behind it. I discuss my evolving perspective on marriage therapy, shaped by both personal experiences and professional training. Join me as I share insights from my journey, touching on the importance of working on personal issues before tackling couples therapy. This year, my goal is to provide you with tools for achieving security and intimacy in your relationships. Follow along every week as we embark on this journey together. Until next week, my friends!
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| E191// How to be accountable for change in your marriage WITHOUT being a doormat! | 01 Oct 2024 | 00:14:16 | |
Understanding Grace, Boundaries, and Wisdom in Marriage
In this episode, we revisit episode number two, where I discuss how we can't change our husbands, only ourselves, and the importance of offering grace. Taking it a step further, I address common concerns about feeling like a doormat and emphasize the difference between silence and wisdom. Silence is fear-driven while wisdom involves choosing the right moment to express oneself. We delve into practical steps such as using effective communication, setting boundaries, and regulating emotions to foster a healthy marital environment. Through empowering ourselves, we build stronger, more loving relationships. Join me in our community for more discussions!
02:29 Reflecting on Episode Two 03:08 Understanding Grace in Marriage 04:19 The Difference Between Silence and Wisdom 05:25 Biblical Insights on Fear and Wisdom 08:00 Practical Steps to Change and Communication 11:13 The Power of Boundaries 11:46 Emotional Regulation and Final Thoughts 12:46 Building Community and Closing Remarks
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| E190// How to regulate your emotions and be less reactive w. Samantha Skelly | 23 Sep 2024 | 00:39:41 | |
Harnessing the Power of Breathwork to Regulate Emotions and Trauma This week's episode features an enlightening conversation with Samantha Skelly, founder and CEO of Paws Breathwork. Samantha shares her journey from battling anxiety and an eating disorder to discovering the transformative potential of breathwork. She explains how breathwork can help regulate emotions, reduce trauma responses, and create space between triggers and reactions, which can be particularly beneficial in relationships. We explore the science behind breathwork, its spiritual connections, and its practical applications. Samantha also guides us through a brief breathwork exercise, demonstrating its immediate impact. For those interested in further exploring breathwork, Samantha offers resources through her Breathwork app and facilitator training. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve emotional regulation and overall mental well-being.
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Control 02:03 Meet Samantha Skelly: Breathwork Expert 03:52 Samantha's Journey to Breathwork 07:16 The Science and Impact of Breathwork 11:05 Breathwork in Relationships 24:21 Practical Breathwork Exercise 34:16 Final Thoughts and Resources
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| E189// Is that normal? Discerning through marital disappointment vs. destructive abuse | 18 Sep 2024 | 00:19:22 | |
Understanding Emotional Abuse: Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages In this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I'm delving into the critical difference between disappointing and destructive marriages. Building on last week's discussion about emotional abuse, I reference Leslie Vernick's book, 'Emotionally Destructive Marriage,' to provide clarity. We explore what it means to feel emotionally unsafe and identify when it crosses into abuse. We'll also discuss the importance of fully disclosing your situation to a therapist for proper guidance and support, even if it means going alone. This episode aims to offer insights and resources for those struggling in emotionally abusive relationships and emphasizes that you do not have to live in such a nightmare, even as a Christian. Stay tuned as we navigate these heavy but essential topics together.
00:00 Introduction: The Fear of Speaking Up 00:29 Understanding Emotional Abuse 02:44 Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages 03:36 Real-Life Examples and Quotes 05:24 Therapist's Role and Client Disclosure 10:59 Mandated Reporting and Emotional Safety 15:14 Concluding Thoughts and Resources
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| E188// I want to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. What should I do? | 16 Sep 2024 | 00:23:20 | |
Navigating Marriage Therapy: Tips for Encouraging Your Spouse to Participate This week, we dive into communication strategies, using 'I-statements,' and how to approach the topic with your spouse in a way that makes them feel safe and understood. I'll also share insights on clarifying what you want to achieve in therapy and the common issues couples face, like miscommunication, mistrust, and lack of emotional safety. Plus, we'll discuss options for those whose spouses refuse to go to therapy. Tune in as we explore how to make marriage counseling a more approachable and effective process.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Confession 02:24 Common Issues in Relationships 04:47 Challenges in Seeking Marriage Counseling 06:16 Effective Communication Strategies 12:16 Clarifying the Core Issues 18:37 Taking Action and Seeking Support 21:38 Conclusion and Community Engagement
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| E187// How to be less Critical and communicate gracefully w. Deborah Smith Pegues | 05 Aug 2024 | 00:39:53 | |
In this episode of the Gracefield Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspirational speaker, CPA, MBA, certified John Maxwell leadership coach, and Bible teacher who shares 45 years of marital wisdom. We discuss her journey, the secrets to her successful marriage, and the importance of communication and confrontation in maintaining a healthy relationship. Debra provides invaluable insights on how to approach difficult conversations lovingly and respectfully, the significance of prayer alongside confrontation, and the balance between submission and self-respect in marriage. We also touch on practical tips from her book, '30 Days to Taming Your Tongue,' and her guide, '10 Commandments for a Heavenly Marriage.' This episode is packed with wisdom for any woman navigating the complexities of marital relationships.
04:43 Secrets to a Successful Marriage 06:16 Navigating Spiritual Differences in Marriage 08:40 The Power of Words in Marriage 13:22 Effective Communication Strategies 20:34 The Importance of Confrontation 21:14 Effective Communication Techniques 23:02 Setting Boundaries and Consequences 25:22 Balancing Submission and Confrontation 33:06 The Role of Prayer in Conflict Resolution 36:55 Final Thoughts and Resources
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| E186// The 3 C's to standing for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation | 29 Jul 2024 | 00:21:39 | |
Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to bring fresh insights to our podcast. This week, we tackle the pressing question: 'How do you stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation?' I'll share three essential Cs: Clarity, Commitment, and Community. We'll discuss identifying whether your relationship is abusive or just disappointing, understanding your and your husband's commitment levels, and the importance of having a supportive community. These steps will equip you with the practical tools to navigate through marital struggles effectively. Join our Facebook group or become an insider to stay connected and find more resources. Until next week!
00:00 Welcome Back to the Grace Field's Wife Podcast 03:53 The Importance of Clarity in Marriage 12:16 Understanding Commitment in Marriage 14:40 The Power of Community Support 20:54 Conclusion and Next Steps
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| E185// What's more important in your marriage than strong communication? | 20 Mar 2024 | 00:12:49 | |
In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of working on your marriage alone and what skills can be learned even if only one spouse is participating.
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| E184// What do healthy boundaries in my marriage look like? | 18 Mar 2024 | 00:24:09 | |
In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the examples presented, I illustrate how these principles can help couples navigate the complexities of marriage, empower themselves, and foster mutual respect and love.
00:08 The Importance of Healthy Boundaries in Marriage 04:48 Exploring the Laws of Boundaries in Marriage 06:09 Applying Boundary Laws to Real-Life Scenarios 14:52 The Power of Choice and Respect in Marriage
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| E183// Build a strong foundation in your marriage in 4 (easy?) steps! | 08 Mar 2024 | 00:21:01 | |
In this week’s podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise, encouraging you to rate your marriages and personal mental health. We discuss the critical role appreciation, taking responsibility, open communication, and self-care play in fostering a healthy, vibrant marriage.
We delve into the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' concept coined by the Gottman Institute, pinpointing the dangerous behaviors that could mark a marriage heading towards divorce. I also present how to recognize and replace these negative behaviors with healthier alternatives.
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome 00:04 Building a Solid Foundation in Marriage 00:41 The Importance of Self-Assessment in Marriage 00:56 Understanding the Marriage Rating Scale 02:50 The Importance of Self-Care in Marriage 03:57 Marriage Coaching and Self-Study Options 05:53 Envisioning a Level 10 Marriage 06:54 Four Tactical Steps to Improve Your Marriage 08:41 Understanding the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Marriage 09:34 Practical Steps to Avoid the Four Horsemen 13:01 The Importance of Timeouts in Conflict Resolution 16:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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| E182// Improve emotional intimacy through your marriage story & have a year of good dates w. Tracy Johnson | 28 Feb 2024 | 00:44:12 | |
On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out!
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story 01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson 03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage 06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse 09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage 11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage 13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness 16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story 21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story 22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences 23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding 24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships 26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing 28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships 30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing 37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples 40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation
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| E181// Are you having trouble with communication in your marriage? These 3 questions can help! | 06 Feb 2024 | 00:25:13 | |
Communication struggles are one of the most common issues in marriage. You are not alone if this applies to you. In this week’s episode, we discuss the importance of communication, and I share three key ideas for improving your communication in marriage. First, we recognize that everything a person does or doesn't do communicates something. Second, we look to understand the lens or perspective through which communications are filtered, both when speaking and listening. Lastly, I emphasize the importance of allowing spiritual guidance in communication, particularly in difficult conversations. We also talk about this month’s Podcast birthday celebration where we are giving away Amazon gift cards to listeners who join the mailing list and submit a review of the podcast.
00:52 The Importance of Communication 01:36 Podcast Birthday Celebration and Giveaway 04:07 Understanding Communication in Relationships 08:02 The Power of Perception in Communication 19:03 The Role of God in Communication
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| E180// What goes on in the mind of a covert narcissist? What does the bible say about submission, oppression and abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 2) | 31 Jan 2024 | 00:33:09 | |
In this week’s episode, I continue my conversation with Annette Otlmans. Annette takes us into the mind of a chronic abuser and gives us the 4 pillars of emotional abuse which are: Ridgid thinking in these areas:
Annette and I also discuss what the bible says about submission, oppression, and abuse as it relates to being a biblical wife. We talk about toxic masculinity but also acknowledge the ways in which the patriarchy can be benevolent. Lastly, Annette gives us resources and steps to take if we realize we’re in an abusive relationship but aren’t able to or choose not to leave. If this episode resonated with you or you think may apply to someone you know, please share it! If you want to learn more about the Mend Project, please visit https://themendproject.com/ or follow them on IG: https://www.instagram.com/themendproject/?hl=en Here are the other resources she mentioned: Website: Natalie Hoffman https://www.flyingfreenow.com/ Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by: Leslie Burnick Book: Dating loving and leaving a narcissist by: Dr. Jamie Zuckerman
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| E179// Is your husband mean or cranky and you’re looking for clarity to discern emotional abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 1) | 30 Jan 2024 | 00:44:37 | |
Do you ever feel like what is wrong with me? Am I not loveable? Why do we have so many communication problems? Are you wondering why your relationship is so toxic? Have you felt like you’re walking on eggshells and can’t determine if your husband is abusive or just has a cranky demeanor? All these questions are answered in this interview with Annette Oltmans of the Mend Project as she shares her work with us on covert emotional abuse. This is one of my most important episodes to date because as Annette says - “Clarity is the first step to healing.” She answers questions such as:
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| E178// Do you want to have an intentional Christian Marriage? Learn how with Rosie Alejandro | 15 Jan 2024 | 00:45:29 | |
A loving and connected marriage doesn’t happen by accident. It takes work and intention. In fact, all intimacy takes intention! Whether that be with your husband or the Lord, in today's episode, Rosie Alejandro gives us tips to grow your relationship with God and strengthen your marriage.
If you loved today's guest, you can find out more about her here: Website: https://theintentionalchristianwoman.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intentional-christian-woman-daily-bible-study/id1568177949
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| E177// New Year, New book reccomendations to reignite your marriage today! | 08 Jan 2024 | 00:18:34 | |
Here are 5 of my newest book recommendations to help you achieve a more loving and connected marriage! Listen in to find out why I think these books are special and how I think they can help you in your marriage journey today.
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| E176// Don’t go to marriage counseling until you learn these three things! | 04 Jan 2024 | 00:28:11 | |
Most women looking to save their marriages first look to try marriage counseling. While Marriage counseling can be really helpful, there are important things to know before you invest time and money into the process.
Not to mention that I take issue with some things that happen in marriage counseling and think it’s important to know the types of marriage counseling I recommend. This episode will let you know what red flags to look for when searching for a marriage counselor, what types of marriage therapists I encourage you to consider, and what work you can do BEFORE you get to marriage counseling that will help you achieve better results! Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me:
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| E175// What to do when you question why God didn’t answer your prayer | 27 Dec 2023 | 00:47:24 | |
We’ve all been there, we’ve all prayed for a thing that was in God’s will or truly believed it to be in His will and wondered why that prayer wasn’t answered or wasn’t answered the way we thought it should. This conversation between friends will fill your cup and encourage you in a profound way in that season. In this episode, my friend shares the story of how she prayed in earnest to save her marriage but still ended up in divorce. She shares how God has brought her through it. What he did, and is still doing. You will be left with hope and peace.
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| E174// What causes infidelity and is your marriage at risk? | 20 Dec 2023 | 00:30:08 | |
Infidelity…Let’s talk about it. For a show on marriages, I’m surprised I don’t talk about it more! In this week’s episode, we talk about the root cause of infidelity, discern the risk factors that might exist for our own marriages, and explore ways to guard our marriage against it.
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| E173// Stop People Pleasing and Claim your Christ Centered Identity withThe Grace Filled Leader | 14 Dec 2023 | 00:40:15 | |
As wives and moms who wear all the hats and juggle all the priorities, it can be easy to fall into a role of people pleasing and subsequent burnout. This week's guest Tanya Engesether, of the Grace Filled Leader podcast, shares her journey of people pleasing through her work relationships, and how she was able to reclaim her identity in Christ and start setting healthy boundaries.
We also get vulnerable in discussing how recovering from people-pleasing can potentially bring distress to a marriage and what we can do to maintain a healthy relationship in the process.
If you’re interested in learning more from today’s guest check out her information below: Tanya Engesether Podcast: The Grace Filled Leader Website: TheGraceFilledLeader.com Freebie: 7 Day Gratitude Journal
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| E172// 3 Ways to Give Yourself Grace in a Tough Season | 05 Dec 2023 | 00:27:12 | |
We’ve all been through tough seasons in life. Times when we are struggling in life and marriage, times when we don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, times when our mental health is low and we’re experiencing anxiety, depression, overwhelm, and burnout.
As a wife and mom, these seasons can happen more often than you think. In today’s episode, I give you 3 practical ways to give yourself grace in such seasons.
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| Bonus Epsiode: Life update and How to quit people pleasing with Grace! | 22 Oct 2023 | 00:05:58 | |
It's out of character for me to go so long without an episode!!! Honestly, I've been going through a lot personally over the past few weeks. Here is a QUICK life update AND a link to an episode I guested on for another show. Happy Listening and I'll be back soon for you!!
My guest appearance on The Grace Filled Leader Podcast is linked for you below. I will have the episode I recorded with her available soon. Check her out! Part 1-
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| E171// How to create financial intimacy with RADCoaches Rebecca & Dylan | 21 Sep 2023 | 00:48:16 | |
Intimacy can come in many forms. When we think of our close relationships we often think of emotional intimacy. When we think of marriage, we often think of physical & emotional intimacy. But financial intimacy is another type that can really only be experienced through the close bond that comes with sharing a life, goals, and bills with someone!
This week, we sit down with Marital Financial Coaches Rebecca and Dylan who who talk to us about what is financial intimacy and how to create it. What holds us back from experiencing it and how are some ways to create a stress-free environment around marital finances.
Rebecca and Dylan can be found on their podcast RADMoney or their website RADCoaches.com
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| E170// What does it cost to save your marriage? | 15 Sep 2023 | 00:27:19 | |
There’s a difference between the monetary price of something and the cost of it. As we work to redeem our marriages it’s important to know what the full cost will be. In this episode, I give you three things to consider as a cost when are fighting for our marriages!
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| E169// How to hear from God with Jenilee Samuel | 30 Aug 2023 | 00:45:36 | |
God can speak to us at any time, but the times it can be most life giving is when we are in the midst of a dark or uncertain season. In fact, all of my best life decisions have been because God had spoken a word to me.
Today’s guest, Jenilee Samuel of the Java with Jen podcast give us really helpful tips on how to identify God’s voice in our life AND how to strengthen our spiritual senses.
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| E168// Is Marriage counseling worth it? 3 ways to find out! | 25 Aug 2023 | 00:21:22 | |
Have you considered marriage counseling but aren’t sure if it will be worth your time and investment? Perhaps you’ve tried counseling before but felt like it just “didn’t work” or maybe you went to one session and your hubby never wanted to go back.
In this episode, you’ll learn 3 ways to discern if marriage counseling is right for you, why it hasn’t worked in the past, and how to make the most of it if you choose to invest in marriage counseling in the future.
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| E167//3 simple steps to increase intimacy, communicate respect, AND improve your marriage today! | 15 Aug 2023 | 00:20:52 | |
Has your husband told you that he feels disrespected by you but you’re not sure what he means? You don’t fight often but you want to make sure you are doing everything you can to have a healthy marriage. Perhaps you have a good marriage that you want to make great, or perhaps your marriage is struggling and you are looking for ALL the answers to make it better.
Either way, this episode will teach you what it means to increase intimacy in your relationship, communicate respect to your husband and greatly improve your marriage as a byproduct!
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| E166// Is your (or your husband’s) ADHD affecting your marriage? With Dr. Danielle McGeough | 10 Aug 2023 | 00:38:33 | |
Have you ever suspected that you or your husband might have ADHD? You’re not alone. Experts are estimating that ADHD is overlooked AND underdiagnosed in adult women because symptoms present as more internalized and with less hyperactivity as compared to men.
Unless there is a deep understanding of one another, having only 1 neurodivergent spouse can cause major communication roadblocks and disagreements in a marriage. In this episode, we explore how to handle those differences and what it looks like to set goals for your marriage to ensure you grow together rather than grow apart.
My guest, Dr. Danielle McGeough can be found through the following resources: Many hard-working women and high-achieving mommas struggle to find time to make memories with their families and do meaningful work. Her proven methods help them plan and set goals with purpose, so they can delight in living fully both at work and at home. Podcast: Click here to learn for FREE! Click here for a FREE Plan Goal Plan Starter Pack
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| E165// 2 common mistakes people in troubled marriages make | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:19:12 | |
Couples in troubled marriages fall within a spectrum of behavior. Some are busy doing EVERYTHING they can to improve the marriage while others are sitting idly by not even picking up the clues that their spouse is leaving for them.
Which one are you? In this week’s episode, I give a 3 step framework to avoid the over-functioning (or under-functioning) that can happen within the marriage so that you can take clear action before things get to a critical place.
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| E164// Listener Q/A: He retreats, I pursue, what should I do? - and MORE | 25 Jul 2023 | 00:23:09 | |
Every month in our Facebook community I go live to answer listener-submitted questions. This month I am answering:
1- How do you turn the work guy off and the loving husband on so he isn’t treating me like one of his employees? 2- What are some things you wish you had known before going through the storm? What are some tools you had before going through the storm? 3- My husband tried to avoid arguments to keep the peace. How do I avoid that and let him know that I want to talk about it
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| E163// This discovery helped save my marriage! | 18 Jul 2023 | 00:21:50 | |
Have you ever heard of your family of origin? That’s the family you grew up with - whatever that looks like for you. While we’re all very familiar with WHO they are, we are often oblivious to HOW they have affected our adult life and marriage.
Even if you think you’re aware, often times there are things that come up which we think are totally unrelated - that greatly affect the way we love and feel love in return.
Once I made this discovery in my own marriage, I was able to take it from just okay to being completely connected and vulnerable again. In this episode, we go through some of the questions to ask yourself that will give you a ton of insight into your marriage and what may be blocking the intimate connection for you.
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| E162// How to be the heroine of your story with Andrew Anderson | 11 Jul 2023 | 00:32:56 | |
This week international best-selling author Andrew Anderson talks to us about how we can create transformational healing and learn through the hard things in life rather than sitting back and being a victim. Andrew is a master practitioner of Mental and Emotional release therapy, transformational coach, and former divorce recovery coach. His words of wisdom will leave you feeling inspired and empowered to make change today!
Andrew can be found at: Website: www.andrewlanderson.com FB: www.facebook.com/andrewlanderson85 IG: www.instagram.com/andrewlanderson85 email: andrew@andrewlanderson.com
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| E161// How to identify a narcissist & coping skills to deal with one for those who can’t go ”no contact” | 07 Jul 2023 | 00:28:45 | |
Have you ever wondered if your husband, mother, father brother, etc is a narcissist? This term gets thrown around pretty loosely but narcissism is a clinical personality disorder and it's important to understand it fully.
Once we understand the thought process of the narcissistic person, we can become more skilled at dealing with them. We can handle this person’s behavior with grace, and most importantly, we can understand how to put proper boundaries in place to shield ourselves from narcissistic abuse.
Note - This episode (and the entire podcast) is intended for informational purposes ONLY and is not intended to provide or replace therapy, a diagnosis, or other clinical care. If you or someone you know is dealing with Narcissism you should consult a local licensed professional.
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| E160// The effect of menopause on your marriage | 27 Jun 2023 | 00:36:12 | |
Have you or someone you know been dealing with the effects of menopause and have started to see it affect your marriage in negative ways? This episode with Dr. Sabrina Solt will teach us some practical ways to combat the effects of menopause, communicate them effectively with our husbands and take this normal shift in our hormone levels and use it to create a more effective bond in marriage. Dr. Solt can be found on Instagram @DrSolt
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| E159// Help! I want my husband to open up to me more | 24 Jun 2023 | 00:19:26 | |
Are you tired of feeling like housemates who don’t communicate or share feelings with one another? This episode will help you understand why that may be happening and exactly what change you can make TODAY to start seeing results. I promise you’ll thank me for it.
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| E158// How to be an Empowered Wife with Laura Doyle | 13 Jun 2023 | 00:40:38 | |
Looking to feel more empowered in your marriage? In this episode, I chat with New York Times best-selling author Laura Doyle who gives us her formula for expressing your desires in a way that inspires. She gives us her wisdom as to why women are so influential in the home and discusses some of her controversial topics like why she doesn't believe in marriage counseling, and addresses her critics.
This is one of my favorite episodes yet!
Were you inspired by this conversation? Learn more about Laura Doyle at: https://connect.lauradoyle.org/grace or her book or podcast The Empowered Wife
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| E157// My 3 step framework to reacting with grace | 09 Jun 2023 | 00:19:51 | |
Unfortunately, many communication breakdowns happen as a result of a reaction vs. a response. There is a big difference between the two. A reaction tends to be impulsive, unconscious, emotionally driven, and automatic, while a response is intentional, thoughtful, considered, controlled, and purposeful. It's important to know that while there are many reasons WHY we react - those reactions don't always have to be negative. In this episode, you'll learn my 3 step framework for reacting with grace. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me:
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| E 156//What my client did to save her marriage! | 31 May 2023 | 00:28:49 | |
If you’ve ever felt like you are alone and struggling, today’s episode is proof that becoming a grace-filled wife is possible. We are chatting with a client and student who was feeling lost and defeated and how it made major transformations internally.
The key to unlocking that transformation in yourself and your life is implementation. Today’s guest is a testament to the results that you can achieve as a Christian wife when you work on yourself and implement the practices within The Grace Fueled Wife course!
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| E 155// Do you think your husband may be suffering from depression? | 23 May 2023 | 00:18:31 | |
How to identify it and three tips to cope. If you’re a Christian wife that has the feeling her husband might be struggling with depression, this episode is for you! We're breaking down what are the clinical symptoms of depression. When to seek external help to support your husband. Plus, we are diving into how this impacts your marriage and what YOU can do to help!
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| E154//Help I Can’t Handle My Husband’s Mood Swings | 17 May 2023 | 00:23:16 | |
Have you ever felt disrespected, angry, and so furious that you want to explode with anger? Yep, I’ve been there. Oftentimes, we have big reactions to our husband’s mood swings. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down an imperfect moment that I experienced recently as a Christian wife. While I’m not proud of how I reacted, I’m here to give you the tools to utilize so that you don’t walk away from an altercation with your husband feeling like you are in the wrong.
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| E153//Do You Want Your Husband To Have A Closer Relationship With The Lord | 12 May 2023 | 00:18:26 | |
Is your marriage struggling as a result of your husband’s lack of a relationship with The Lord? Maybe you find yourself saying, “If he only knew..”
So often as a Christian wife, we find ourselves taking on many roles within our marriages and our home. After all, we control the atmosphere of our household, we should be able to control the level of his faith, right? If you find yourself wishing that your husband would have a closer relationship with God and a deeper desire and devotion to his Christian faith, this episode is for you! _____________________________
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| E152// 4 Mistakes women make when trying to save their marriage | 25 Apr 2023 | 00:16:08 | |
If you're anything like me you have probably made one (or more) of these 4 mistakes when trying to save your marriage. The key is now that you're aware of it, what will you do to fix those mistakes in the future?
1 - Trying to do it alone (without any help or guidance) 2 - Focus only on your husband's mistakes and faults 3 - Live in fear (rather than in your faith) 4- Give up their power!
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| E151// Are You Over-helping Your Husband? Empower Him To Do More Around The House With These Tips | 18 Apr 2023 | 00:14:41 | |
Are you TIRED of having to carry the workload of keeping up with the daily chores of your home and trying to simultaneously balance ALL the other things? Yep, I’ve been there! I’m here to help with a few quick tips that are guaranteed to lighten your load and empower your partner to support you When thinking about how to go from doing it all on your own to sharing the load with your partner, it starts with communication. It can be as simple as you telling your husband directly how you feel and what you need from him. Inside The Grace Fueled Marriage Method Course, we call this an “I” statement. “I feel ______(insert emotion) when______.” “I feel overwhelmed when I see the dishes in the sick. Can you help me?” Let’s ditch the passive-aggressive tendencies and strive to be direct in our communication. Let him know how this feeling impacts how you are able to show up for him. “I would like to ___ (the thing he wants) without ____ (bad behavior you are doing) so that we can ____.” “I would like to have company over without yelling at you when I’m frustrated so that we can enjoy having time with our friends.”
Remember, if he actually helps, respond in gratitude and let go of perfection. It doesn’t have to be your way, it just needs to be done. RESOURCES: EP74: How to get what you want without nagging. ________________
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| E150// Help! I’m Thinking About Leaving Him But God Hates Divorce. | 11 Apr 2023 | 00:28:20 | |
If you’ve felt stuck in your marriage because you're so unhappy that you've thought about leaving your husband but know that God hates divorce, this episode is for you! This is one of my most frequently asked questions. As Christian women, we're committed to our marriages but sometimes, the conviction we feel as a Christian wife leads us to feel stuck or trapped. In this episode, we review some questions to ask yourself to help bring some clarity. 1- Have you given him a safe place to share? 2- Have you taken the time to heal your OWN trauma? 3- Have you taken time to work on your marital friendship? 4- Have you set strong boundaries and communicated them clearly? We can not expect to receive what we are not willing to give. In what areas have we fallen short? If you’re staying together for the kids, the appearances, the ease, it’s time to take inventory, my friend. Ask yourself these questions and sit with God for the answers. Let Him tell you if you're blameless. It's our job to go where God leads and surrender the outcome to him. Whatever the answer is will truly be the best thing for you! RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book: Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. John Townsend & Henry Cloud Course: The Grace Fueled Marriage Method ________________
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| E149// Are you paranoid to find something inappropriate in your husband’s phone or computer? Try this to cope. | 04 Apr 2023 | 00:15:56 | |
Have you found yourself operating out of a place of fear within your marriage? Maybe you have a fear of finding something inappropriate on your spouse’s phone or computer. This is extremely common in marriages, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy! Last week, we chatted about triggers as part of our boundaries series. It’s possible that the reason you’re feeling fear around this could be that this topic is a sensitive trigger in your marriage. Infidelity, past transgressions, and more could all be contributing to this fear. If you’re feeling triggered, ask yourself these questions. Is this a boundary that has been communicated? Was the boundary communicated clearly? What are the consequences if the boundary is not held?
We can communicate the boundary, but it’s HIS choice whether he is going to hold that boundary. We have to ask ourselves… How much are we trying to control? How much control do we need to let go of? We are likely holding onto control because of the fear of something that has happened in the past repeating itself, or because trust has been broken within your relationship. Let’s go a little deeper. There is a possibility that the fear is rooted in your need to protect yourself from harm. This is your brain’s way of keeping you safe. However, if you can focus on perfect love and forgiveness, this will drive out all fear. Fear can not exist where there is perfect love. LINKS MENTIONED: Restored 2 More
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