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| E197// Tried everything to connect and feel like your getting nowhere? | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:12:26 | |
In this episode, I dive deep into the world of emotional pursuers—something I know all too well from personal experience. I'll share my story of how years of tiny rejections and a relentless drive for validation shaped my adult relationships, leading to constant anxiety and a desperate need for connection. We'll explore how these anxiously attached styles develop and the exhausting cycle they create. But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom! I'll tell you how I began to heal by leaning into my faith and re-identifying myself through God's eyes, rather than seeking my husband's validation. This episode is all about finding strength in your identity and embracing grace in your relationships. I hope my journey can offer you some guidance and hope if you're facing similar challenges. So, if you're an emotional pursuer longing for connection but often finding yourself in a cycle of blame and resentment, you're in the right place. Let's work on becoming the grace-fueled wives we aspire to be, together.
00:00 Introduction: The Weight of Tiny Rejections 01:03 Understanding Emotional Pursuers 01:48 A Personal Story of Perfectionism 04:00 The Impact of Inconsistent Caregivers 04:40 The Exhausting Cycle of Pursuers 08:12 Finding Strength in Faith 09:42 A Path to Healing and Connection 10:22 Conclusion and Support Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| E196// It doesn't matter what I do, I'm never going to get it right | 03 Dec 2025 | 00:15:02 | |
In this episode I continue the discussion from last week about negative communication cycles, focusing specifically on emotional withdrawers. I'll share a personal story and explore why some people withdraw emotionally in relationships. We delve into how childhood experiences and societal expectations shape this behavior. I highlight the struggles that withdrawers face, such as feeling unsafe expressing emotions and the pressure of perceived failure. By understanding their experiences, we aim to foster empathy, and improve communication. Join me to learn more about how to offer grace and nurture a healthier relationship.
03:06 Understanding Withdrawers 04:07 The Impact of Upbringing on Withdrawers 05:07 Withdrawers in Professional Life 06:51 The Emotional Struggles of Withdrawers 10:40 Empathy for Withdrawers
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| E187// How to be less Critical and communicate gracefully w. Deborah Smith Pegues | 05 Aug 2024 | 00:39:53 | |
In this episode of the Gracefield Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspirational speaker, CPA, MBA, certified John Maxwell leadership coach, and Bible teacher who shares 45 years of marital wisdom. We discuss her journey, the secrets to her successful marriage, and the importance of communication and confrontation in maintaining a healthy relationship. Debra provides invaluable insights on how to approach difficult conversations lovingly and respectfully, the significance of prayer alongside confrontation, and the balance between submission and self-respect in marriage. We also touch on practical tips from her book, '30 Days to Taming Your Tongue,' and her guide, '10 Commandments for a Heavenly Marriage.' This episode is packed with wisdom for any woman navigating the complexities of marital relationships.
04:43 Secrets to a Successful Marriage 06:16 Navigating Spiritual Differences in Marriage 08:40 The Power of Words in Marriage 13:22 Effective Communication Strategies 20:34 The Importance of Confrontation 21:14 Effective Communication Techniques 23:02 Setting Boundaries and Consequences 25:22 Balancing Submission and Confrontation 33:06 The Role of Prayer in Conflict Resolution 36:55 Final Thoughts and Resources
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| E98// Live Coaching: How to rekindle passion in the marriage after a rough season | 16 Feb 2022 | 00:49:24 | |
In this LIVE COACHING episode we discuss how to rekindle intimacy in your marriage after a rough season. We talk about being afraid of rejection, lacking the confidence to initiate sex, and needing to push past a mental block that is preventing you from having the marriage of your dreams.
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| E97// Have you set goals for your marriage? | 10 Feb 2022 | 00:12:45 | |
As we enter into this second month of the year many of us are looking at the goals or resolutions we’ve made - or broken so far and either thinking about how to recommit to them or how we can make new goals.
So often, however, we make goals for our health, business, faith, motherhood, and we DON’T make goals for our marriage yet God’s word says very clearly, “without vision the people will perish” Proverbs 19:18
Let’s take these next few minutes together to discuss why we should make goals for our marriage and how to make and achieve those goals.
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| E96// Help! I feel unappreciated: 3 ways to reduce resentment and strengthen your connection | 08 Feb 2022 | 00:24:52 | |
We can all feel unappreciated in marriage at times. Here are three ways to reduce your resentment and increase intimacy in your marriage rather than creating resentment and anger. Wait!!! Before you go! Are you new around here and want to know more about me? Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! The Community...
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| E95// How do I forgive after infidelity when I am filled with such anger and pain? | 01 Feb 2022 | 00:23:32 | |
Your husband cheated. Now What? How do you go on? How do you forgive him when you are filled with such anger and pain. You’re feeling heartbroken but you want to forgive him, or at least you know that God has called you to forgive but are not sure what to do.
I pray this episode is a blessing to you and if it isn’t relevant, please share it with someone whom you think may need to hear it. Here are the links to the previous episodes on infidelity: Apple: E26// Can you forgive after infidelity w. Stephanie Boersma Spotify: E26// Can you forgive after infidelity w. Stephanie Boersma
Apple: E46// How do we heal from infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction with Restored 2 More Spotify: E46// How do we heal from infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction with Restored 2 More
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| E94// 3 ways insecurity is hurting your marriage and how to overcome it | 26 Jan 2022 | 00:21:03 | |
Do you think you might be insecure in your marriage and are wondering how to change it? Perhaps you aren’t sure if you have a right to feel this way. Perhaps you don’t feel insecure at all.
The truth is we ALL have some insecurities, it’s just that some people are better at managing them and not allowing them to hurt their relationships. In this episode, we will talk about 3 ways your insecurities might be hurting your marriage, we'll learn which insecurities might be valid, and how we can overcome the ones that are not.
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| E93// Why is my husband so mean? How to problem solve and communicate with deeper understanding | 18 Jan 2022 | 00:25:17 | |
Ever wonder why your husband says such hurtful things? In this episode, we explore 3 reasons why he might be saying mean things lately. We also learn the difference between mean and moody.
These three things will help you to problem-solve and communicate with your husband with a deeper understanding. Try them out and let us know in the Facebook group how it went!
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| E92// Tired of being his caretaker? How to get your husband to help out around the house more | 11 Jan 2022 | 00:31:19 | |
Wives, I see you out there - trying as best you can to hold the family together. Trying to maintain an image of a respectable family - which you have, except that your husband shows up much less than you let on. I see you, making excuses for him when he doesn’t show up to church, a family event, or an invitation to a friends house. I see you. searching for community, trying, what it seems like - all on your own to build a stronger faith foundation in your home.
I see you mama, trying to keep it quiet because you don’t wan’t anyone thinking bad about your husband. He is a good man. He loves you. He loves your kids. You just wish he would show up in more new areas - like pray for the family, lead the family, show the loving soft heart of Jesus towards others. You want to show love and grace to your husband, despite feeling frustrated, hurt and disappointed. My story is your story. From being abandoned by my husband for my faith to reconciling and leading ministry together, to making excuses again, I have been there. The most important thing I’ve learned is this:
Being a grace fueled wife means a commitment to continue working on the marriage EVEN IF he isn’t showing up. It means being in constant prayer for your husband and surrendering the final outcome of your marriage to God.
But when happens when you’re tired? You’re tired of taking care of everything around the house. You just wish your husband would help you out more but don’t know how to ask, or don’t want to nag him yet again.
Here are three things you can do to empower your husband to take care of you! This will leave you feeling more supported and less resentful!
Here is the link to the episode I referenced: On Apple podcasts: E74//How to get what you want without nagging On Spotify: E74//How to get what you want without nagging
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| E91//How to give your husband grace when he doesn’t believe | 04 Jan 2022 | 00:24:29 | |
Are you struggling in your marriage to an unbeliever? Here is some truth from God’s word to help you love him well and with God’s grace. In this episode, we will learn three things from God’s word we can do to show him grace. Then we will hear a word from my own husband who was once an unbeliever but has since been transformed by God’s grace.
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| E90// Let go of shame in marriage to rebuild on a strong foundation | 30 Dec 2021 | 00:45:43 | |
This last episode of 2021 will give you a story of hope and reconciliation as well as practical tips to get rid of shame in your marriage and to rebuild it on a strong Godly foundation with my guest Lydia Santos of the Jar Podcast
Lydia Santos - Host of the Jar Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/mrs.lydiasantos/
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| E89// An encouraging word for your marriage | 15 Dec 2021 | 00:20:20 | |
I don’t seek out a “word for the year”, but every year since 2017 God has seen fit to give me one. This year that word is for you - it's especially for my listeners - The Grace Fueled Wives club. Hint - you have more than the power to change you but also to affect everything around you.
Here is a bit of encouragement continue to fight the good fight, stay strong in your marriage, and believe God for the restoration, hope, and reconciliation he once promised you.
Perhaps you’ve been praying for 1 year, perhaps it's been 10 years, I pray this message is meaningful to you today.
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| E186// The 3 C's to standing for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation | 29 Jul 2024 | 00:21:39 | |
Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to bring fresh insights to our podcast. This week, we tackle the pressing question: 'How do you stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation?' I'll share three essential Cs: Clarity, Commitment, and Community. We'll discuss identifying whether your relationship is abusive or just disappointing, understanding your and your husband's commitment levels, and the importance of having a supportive community. These steps will equip you with the practical tools to navigate through marital struggles effectively. Join our Facebook group or become an insider to stay connected and find more resources. Until next week!
00:00 Welcome Back to the Grace Field's Wife Podcast 03:53 The Importance of Clarity in Marriage 12:16 Understanding Commitment in Marriage 14:40 The Power of Community Support 20:54 Conclusion and Next Steps
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| E88// Is there hope for a hopeless marriage? | 07 Dec 2021 | 00:25:59 | |
In this episode, we will hear 3 signs of hope for our otherwise hopeless marriages and three signs that perhaps separation is the right course of action.
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| E87// Does your husband deflect or refuse to take responsibility for his wrongs? | 29 Nov 2021 | 00:24:25 | |
Have you ever argued or tried to have a rational discussion with your husband only to have him respond with something like:
This is so frustrating!!! If your husband often responds to you using statements such as this or If your husband refuses to take accountability or responsibility for his wrongs and even worse tries to turn it around to you he is using deflection as his defense mechanism. While deflection is a symptom of some emotional immaturity and in some cases can be a symptom of a greater issue (i.e. narcissism) there is hope! This episode will give you some tools to cope and overcome deflective behavior. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| E86// How to ask for what you want without making your husband defensive | 23 Nov 2021 | 00:19:19 | |
In this episode, I quickly give you some of the information we learn in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method where we investigate conflict resolution strategy and discover how to communicate our interest - or reasons for feeling a certain way rather than our position on how we feel. Think about what would happen if politicians discussed issues vs. arguing to defend their stance on them. This strategy will open the doors to communication while avoiding your husband’s defensive reactions.
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| E85//Is your impatience hurting your marriage? | 15 Nov 2021 | 00:10:25 | |
All too often we want a “quick fix” out of the things that we don’t like. We want to “get rich quick” or “loose weight fast” or in the case of marriage we want our husbands to be better right away. We want to go from roommates to soul mates overnight, but sadly, just like when we’ve gained lots of weight, that excess and unhealthiness takes a long time to burn off. In this episode we dig into that very topic.
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| e84// How to be more vulnerable in marriage: More info on the Communication Workshop | 12 Nov 2021 | 00:18:31 | |
In the last episode, we learned that the key to more intimacy and connection in marriage was vulnerability. We learned it was the way to fight against roommate syndrome. The question is - How do we be more vulnerable when we feel unseen, unheard, have been dismissed, interrupted, or told we’re “too emotional” by our husbands when we speak?
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| e83// Does your husband feel more like a roommate? This is why... | 09 Nov 2021 | 00:15:34 | |
So often I’ve heard the phrase “my husband feels more like a roommate than a soulmate”. Back when I was in the midst of separation I felt the same way - yet I didn’t know it was a common feeling at the time. That roommate feeling is a symptom of a much bigger issue. That issue is a lack of intimacy and genuine connection. You may already know that you’re lacking intimacy and connection in your marriage. The question is - why? and What can we do to bring back that feeling we once had. In this episode, We discuss the reason for this lack of connection in your marriage and how we can work to restore intimacy with your husband. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| e82// Let‘s talk about sex! When he wants it more than you. | 27 Oct 2021 | 00:43:45 | |
As Christians, we often avoid talking about sex. Why?? In this episode, we go there!
We specifically talk about what it means for wives whose husbands want sex more than they do. We identify several myths about the topic and explore how you can start to have more loving, connected sex with your husband that you're looking forward to - rather than doing it out of obligation.
Our guest, Janna Denton Howes is a Desire Coach who helps women married to men, create intimacy in their marriage that feels authentic.
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| e81// Don‘t let your marriage take the back seat to your kids! | 21 Oct 2021 | 00:33:18 | |
Having a child can GREATLY affect your marriage. The entire dynamic changes. For many couples, it means that all the focus goes to the children while the marriage is left to suffer in the background.
In this excerpt from an interview I did with Cynthia Castro of the Rooted Working Mom Podcast we discuss how to NOT let your marriage take a backseat to the kids. For the full 2 part episode go check out her show!!
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| E80// Feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? How to handle emotional distress and marriage. | 13 Oct 2021 | 00:22:30 | |
Do you feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? You are not alone! How to handle emotional distress and marriage. As much as we love our husbands it can feel difficult to see past the dark places we sometimes find ourselves.
Here you will find hope and encouragement for those dark moments in marriage as well as a community to help you through the other side. Learn what it feels like to be seen, heard, and appreciated!
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| E79// Not connecting with your husband? Edify him back to intimacy | 05 Oct 2021 | 00:18:08 | |
If you’ve been sitting in a season of disconnectedness with your husband - a season of feeling like he’s your roommate rather than your lover or your soulmate here is a tactical tip to rebuild the intimacy.
When we are feeling discouraged in marriage it can be difficult to think of the good things about our husband and while in theory, this tip should be easy, when put into practice in the midst of a strained relationship it can seem almost impossible.
Here is a way to break through that thought pattern and finally see some breakthrough.
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| E185// What's more important in your marriage than strong communication? | 20 Mar 2024 | 00:12:49 | |
In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of working on your marriage alone and what skills can be learned even if only one spouse is participating.
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| E78// Help! My marriage is divided over politics and Covid related issues!! | 29 Sep 2021 | 00:22:19 | |
Are you struggling in your marriage? Do you and your spouse disagree on politics and COVID-related issues? Have these disagreements caused great division in your marriage and family? Do you question how you even married him because your views are so different? You're not alone. Here are 4 tips to re-establish intimacy in your marriage and bring unity within your home. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| E77// How to have a more loving and connected marriage without DOing a thing | 21 Sep 2021 | 00:14:26 | |
Do you want to have a more loving and connected marriage? Have you read all the books or tried all the courses and podcasts but are still struggling in your connection to your husband? Do you feel more like a roommate and wonder what is it you’re doing wrong - or more commonly, figure it has to be your husband’s fault.
Welcome to the club! This secret has helped so many women. Learn how you can move towards a more loving, connected, and intimate marriage without actually doing a thing!
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| E76// Trying to be a good help meet but he doesn‘t want the help? | 31 Aug 2021 | 00:20:37 | |
Don’t you hate when you are trying to “help” your husband with something but he refuses? Or better yet, gets annoyed with you for trying?
I mean really, doesn’t he know that YOUR way is the superior way to get things done? Whether that means what to eat, what to wear, how much to spend, or whether or not the family should take that vacation.
CLEARLY…. he has it all wrong, right?
We dive into the reasons why your husband may not be responding to your attempts to help and take a hard look at what might happen if you stopped.
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| E75// How does being a better YOU make you a better wife/mother? | 25 Aug 2021 | 00:27:22 | |
What would life look like if we actually took the time to care for ourselves?
In this episode, we talk about everyone’s favorite 4 letter word - SELF - This isn’t some woo episode on self-love, rather a discussion.
As Christians, we are often taught to die to self or deny ourselves. At the same time, Jesus commands us to love others as ourselves. Yet many of us treat ourselves pretty badly. As wives and mothers, we run around serving everyone else leaving nothing left for us. In this episode, we discuss how can do both. How we can take time for ourselves AND serve our families? More importantly, WHY should we prioritize doing so?
Here are other episodes I reference during this conversation:
Episode 74: How to get what you want without nagging https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-get-what-you-want-without-nagging/
Episode 40: Do I need it or just WANT it? How understanding the difference can impact your marriage.
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| E74// How to get what you want without nagging | 28 Jul 2021 | 00:20:33 | |
Do you want to get what you want WITHOUT nagging? Don’t think that you’re a nag? Listen to this episode to the SECRET to getting what you want, finding peace with the things you don’t, and restoring the lost connection in your marriage!!!
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| The power of a carefully chosen girlfriend | 23 Jul 2021 | 00:21:58 | |
Do you have a trusted girlfriend? Do you know how to find one or perhaps you don’t think you need one? Your husband shouldn’t be your only friend. Listen to this episode to learn why you might be missing out and not even know it! In this episode we will learn:
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| Now is the time to make lasting change in your marriage! | 22 Jul 2021 | 00:12:02 | |
Are you tired of complaining about your marriage and ready to make a lasting change? Are you tired of feeling like your husband is just a roommate? Are you tired of feeling unloved, undesired, and unsexy when you KNOW that you are (or at least you once were!) If you want to feel WANTED again. Desired by your husband. If you want to feel like he is your best friend again because you love your husband, he is a good man - you just kinda hate your marriage right now. NOW is your time. If you have been on the fence about the course. NOW is your time. If you couldn’t afford it before, NOW IS YOUR TIME!!!!
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| Shhh! I have a confession about surrender... | 21 Jul 2021 | 00:18:12 | |
I give you guys a little confession about what is going on with me lately- maybe something similar is going on with you?
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| E70// Being a Grace Fueled Wife even in the midst of Separation or divorce | 28 Jun 2021 | 00:50:24 | |
Do you feel like you’ve been the perfect wife yet you find yourself still in the midst of separation or divorce? This could be one of the hardest times EVER to show grace in your marriage.
This story with my guest, Yancey Snavely, will give you hope, inspiration, and some tips to handle your current situation with grace.
Even if you’re not in the midst of separation or divorce you will still find some great nuggets of wisdom to implement or share!!
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| What is the opposite of the crazy train: How can I have that in my marriage? | 21 Jun 2021 | 00:29:43 | |
The Energizing cycle is the opposite of the Crazy cycle per Dr. Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect. In this episode, we explore what that is and what are the attitudes, behaviors, and words that are most meaningful for bringing change towards a deeper connection in marriage.
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| E184// What do healthy boundaries in my marriage look like? | 18 Mar 2024 | 00:24:09 | |
In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the examples presented, I illustrate how these principles can help couples navigate the complexities of marriage, empower themselves, and foster mutual respect and love.
00:08 The Importance of Healthy Boundaries in Marriage 04:48 Exploring the Laws of Boundaries in Marriage 06:09 Applying Boundary Laws to Real-Life Scenarios 14:52 The Power of Choice and Respect in Marriage
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| Is your marriage riding the crazy train? | 14 Jun 2021 | 00:23:33 | |
Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect talks about the Crazy Cycle. In this episode, we dive into what exactly is the crazy cycle and how we can stop it in our own marriages.
How can we reverse this train headed for separation or divorce and send it back to the land of loving connection, and intimacy with our husband?
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| What is a pattern interrupt and how can it change my marriage? | 09 Jun 2021 | 00:15:31 | |
Are you living in recurring beliefs or responses that are not always healthy? Feeling stuck in a mundane life? Does your Roommate... er.... your husband have you frustrated? This week we go into a deep teaching and some self-coaching on what exactly is a pattern interrupt and how it can transform our life and marriage!
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| E66// What is my favorite hack for a spicy marriage? | 02 Jun 2021 | 00:15:42 | |
There are so many tips and tricks we hear to build healthy marriages - here is my favorite one by far!!! Learn how to take your marriage from feeling like boring roommates to a relationship that is spicy and fresh in just TWO WORDS.
These two words have helped us and so many others break out of the doldrums of everyday life and into a life that is new fresh and that we don’t need a vacation from.
Curious to know what it is? Listen in!
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| E65// What does it take to build a lasting marriage? | 26 May 2021 | 00:15:36 | |
Feeling discouraged and hopeless about your marriage and want to know what it really takes to build a marriage that lasts? Here are some encouraging words and practical advice to take ACTION today!!! Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| E64// How to be a gracious wife when you’re hurting | 24 May 2021 | 00:42:46 | |
Are you dealing with frustration and hurt in your marriage and just don’t know HOW to be gracious? You find yourself wondering, is there ever an instance when I don’t actually HAVE to be gracious? All these questions answered in today’s episode which is an interview I did for the Full on Purpose Podcast with Becky Williams.
I give a little bit of my story and how I learned to be a gracious wife when I was hurting and I give you tips to do the same.
I leave you with this prayer today. Father God, I ask you to fill my sisters with your unlimited grace today. Heal their hearts and hurts. You see each and every woman and what she is going through. You alone can bring healing. Father, we were not meant to be alone. So I ask you to mend the brokenness in her relationships and marriage today. Allow them to forgive as you forgive and to be strong in knowing that you will fight for them and protect them.
Did you love my Host Becky Williams? You can find her here: https://www.fullonpurpose.com/
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| E63// Feeling forgotten and alone in your marriage and need help? Introducing The Grace Fueled Marriage Method | 21 May 2021 | 00:24:40 | |
Are you feeling forgotten by all the marriage courses and resources that exist for Christian Women? Do you want to work on your marriage even though you recognize that your husband has either “checked out” or doesn’t seem motivated to join you? The Grace Fueled Marriage Method is the course for you. Here are all the details about what you will learn.
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| E62// Does your husband get mad at you, for getting mad at him? | 17 May 2021 | 00:17:17 | |
Has this ever happened to you? It can be frustrating when you are upset about something but your spouse just gets mad at you as if he doesn't have any fault. What do we do in this situation? How do we 1- Prevent it 2- State our needs and interests in a way that will not cause a fight. Let's learn to communicate more effectively!!!
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| E61// What do I do when my husband communicates with me in anger? | 12 May 2021 | 00:17:53 | |
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question of how to react when her husband is communicating with her in anger. We look at 4 steps you can take to still feel seen, and heard while not engaging your husband in the fight he’s (unconsciously?) looking for.
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| E60// How to fix your marriage in three (easy?) steps! | 05 May 2021 | 00:14:33 | |
In this episode we will talk about three steps to fixing your marriage that are included in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method 1- The Routine 2- The Root 3- The Roadmap
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| E59// Finding the RESOLVE to fight for our marriage when we’re frustrated | 28 Apr 2021 | 00:20:23 | |
When we’re angry and frustrated in marriage it may be difficult to find the motivation to fight for it and continue. We may find ourselves frustrated when we feel that we’re the only ones who are doing the work. Learn to find the RESOLVE to work on your marriage despite the difficulty you may be feeling in it.
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| E183// Build a strong foundation in your marriage in 4 (easy?) steps! | 08 Mar 2024 | 00:21:01 | |
In this week’s podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise, encouraging you to rate your marriages and personal mental health. We discuss the critical role appreciation, taking responsibility, open communication, and self-care play in fostering a healthy, vibrant marriage.
We delve into the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' concept coined by the Gottman Institute, pinpointing the dangerous behaviors that could mark a marriage heading towards divorce. I also present how to recognize and replace these negative behaviors with healthier alternatives.
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome 00:04 Building a Solid Foundation in Marriage 00:41 The Importance of Self-Assessment in Marriage 00:56 Understanding the Marriage Rating Scale 02:50 The Importance of Self-Care in Marriage 03:57 Marriage Coaching and Self-Study Options 05:53 Envisioning a Level 10 Marriage 06:54 Four Tactical Steps to Improve Your Marriage 08:41 Understanding the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Marriage 09:34 Practical Steps to Avoid the Four Horsemen 13:01 The Importance of Timeouts in Conflict Resolution 16:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
The Thrive Marriage Lab by Restory Counseling closes doors for registration on April 7th and will not open again until next year. Enter GFW in the coupon code for $20 off your monthly membership. This is a GREAT way to start building that healthy foundation for your marriage. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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| E58// How to fight for your marriage when your husband isn’t showing up | 27 Apr 2021 | 00:16:34 | |
Do you feel alone in your marriage? Does your husband refuse to participate? Perhaps he won't go to counseling, church, or family events. Do you feel like roommates rather than soulmates? Two people who do life together but he doesn't want to connect? Well then - this is the episode for you! Listen in while we learn to fight for our marriage when it seems we are the only one in the relationship who cares to put in the effort.
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| E57// Have you lost yourself in your marriage? | 12 Apr 2021 | 00:20:48 | |
Have you lost yourself in your marriage? Do you find yourself waiting on your husband to make plans for the weekend? Do you spend so much time catering to his needs that you find yourself without time to do anything for yourself? Do you find yourself resentful of your husband’s freedom saying things like “I wish I was able to do that with my day” Have you forgotten who you are in your efforts to be a “good wife?“
This episode is for you dear sister! We’re going to talk about how we can make changes in our marriage without our husband having to change a thing! Are you skeptical? Tune in spend the next 10-20 minutes with me and let me know your thoughts. I mean - what do you have to lose?
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| E56// How to stop an argument in your marriage BEFORE it starts. | 07 Apr 2021 | 00:20:00 | |
L.A.S.T. is my proven 4 step method to stopping an argument before it starts. If you want a healthier marriage without all the silly arguments, tune in!!!! In this episode, we learn how to make our marriages L.A.S.T. by
L: Leading with the Apology - A: Asking not to be interrupted - S: Stating our request and T: Telling him we love him
This formula may not solve all the problems in your marriage but I promise, you will start to start to see changes if you begin to apply some of the principles I teach in this episode.
Also! The past episodes I referenced are here: or you can scroll back in whatever platform you’re listening from.
Episode #47 How to craft an effective apology https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-wsezu-f829c0
Episode# 54 “Love and respect” A strong-willed woman’s perspective. How to Cherish and Champion your marriage https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-pjrkc-ff02aa
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