In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons shares a conversation with Sabrina Zohar, a renowned relationship coach whose insights have transformed countless lives. Sabrina's personal journey, from navigating toxic dynamics to building healthy and authentic connections, is deeply inspiring. She candidly discusses how growing up in a dysfunctional environment led her to repeat the same cycles of toxic relationship patterns, but through relentless self-discovery, she has emerged as a voice of clarity in the dating world.

The episode explores some of the most pressing questions surrounding dating and relationships: How can we navigate the complexities of modern dating without losing ourselves? How do we stop seeking validation from others and instead cultivate security within? And most importantly, how can we truly show up authentically in our relationships?

Sabrina’s approach is both relatable and practical. Her vulnerability in sharing her personal hardships, including how hitting rock bottom became a catalyst for her growth, offers hope and actionable insights for anyone struggling with relationships. From setting healthy boundaries to understanding attachment dynamics, this episode is filled with tools that listeners can apply to their own lives.

On a more personal note, this conversation prompted Dr. Lyons to reflect on his own journey, particularly the question: How do I want to show up in a relationship? Sabrina’s ability to navigate the complexities of connection while staying true to herself inspired him to reconsider how he shows up as a partner, friend, and human. The hope is that this discussion will encourage listeners to explore these same questions in their own lives.

A quick note before we dive in: Sabrina speaks openly about her experiences with violence in her childhood. If this is a sensitive topic for you, please take care while listening or skip ahead as needed. Your well-being is always the priority.

• How childhood experiences influence adult relationship patterns.
• The difference between attachment and connection.
• Setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
• How to navigate modern dating with clarity and self-respect.
• The role of vulnerability and authenticity in creating healthy, lasting relationships.

Have you ever felt like your own body was holding you back from reaching your full potential? Like the very nervous system that keeps you alive was also keeping you trapped in patterns of self-sabotage and limitation? What if the key to unlocking our full potential lies not just in our minds, but in the conscious nourishment of our nervous system

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by Mastin Kipp, a number one best-selling author, speaker, and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™. Recognized as a "thought leader for the next generation" by Oprah Winfrey, Mastin has dedicated his life to helping people create rapid change, connect to their true selves, and live with passion and purpose.

Mastin's journey is a testament to the power of resilience and the ability to transform one's life, even in the face of adversity. From his early experiences in the music industry to his battles with addiction and his eventual transition into personal development, Mastin's path has been one of constant evolution and self-discovery.

In this conversation, they’ll delve into the profound impact of prenatal experiences on our beliefs and behaviors, and how understanding the intricacies of trauma and the nervous system can be a catalyst for personal growth and healing. Mastin will share his insights on the importance of honesty, self-discovery, and the unconventional paths that often lead to the most significant breakthroughs. From the power of hyperbaric oxygen therapy to the importance of a balanced diet, Mastin will share his tried-and-true strategies for supporting healing and growth.

Topics We Break Down

• The importance of being honest about your credentials and how you can serve people.
• The biological mechanisms that are at play when it comes to trauma and the nervous system.
• Why safety is imperative in order for change to be cultivated in any transformational process.
• Some examples of therapeutic practices and processes that are working for people.
• Why trauma isn’t just about what happened but also about what happened after the trauma.
• Trauma responses and lived experiences as unconscious reflexes.
• Nervous system nutrition and how to nourish it to make better decisions under stress.

In a world where traditional relationship structures are being challenged and redefined, the concept of polyamory has emerged as a topic of both curiosity and controversy. In this episode, Dr Scott delves into the intricacies of this multifaceted approach to love and intimacy with Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, coach, and author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non-Monogamy."

Jessica's expertise lies in guiding individuals, couples, and those in multiple-partner relationships to transcend the limitations of reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas. Through her work, she invites us to explore new possibilities in life and love, challenging the conventional norms that have long governed our understanding of relationships.

Dr Scott and Jessica unpack the definition of polyamory and its place within the broader umbrella of consensual non-monogamy. They’ll confront the misconceptions and taboos surrounding this lifestyle, such as the belief that it is rooted in promiscuity or an inability to commit. Together they delve into the concept of erotic blueprints, a framework for understanding our unique desires and needs within the realm of intimacy. Jessica will guide us through the different styles of erotic blueprints, from energetic to kinky, and how understanding our own blueprint can enhance our connections and sexual satisfaction.

Listen in as they embark on this thought-provoking journey, challenging societal norms and embracing the diversity of human connection. Whether you're curious about polyamory, seeking to deepen your understanding of intimacy, or simply open to exploring new perspectives, this episode promises to be an enlightening and transformative experience.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Understanding Polyamory and Ethical Nonmonogamy: Definitions and different styles of consensual nonmonogamy.
• Evolution of polyamory terminology and common misconceptions surrounding ethical nonmonogamy.
• Guidelines for setting up rules and agreements in polyamorous relationships, and recommendations for couples considering polyamory.
• Differentiating between romantic, emotional, and intimacy needs, and understanding how emotional needs drive relational needs.
• Signs of healthy monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, including the significance of self-care.
• Recognizing the difference between avoidance and attachment in relationships, and the concept of an erotic blueprint.
• Navigating parenting within polyamorous relationships and why relationship success should not be defined by longevity.

* This episode explores topics of violence, abuse, and other forms of trauma. If you have the strength to listen, please do so with care.

Trauma is a universal experience that touches all of our lives in one way or another. Whether it's the shattering impact of violence or loss, the insidious effects of systemic oppression, or the lingering echoes of childhood adversity, trauma has the power to shape our lives in profound and often invisible ways. But what if the key to healing trauma lies not just in our minds, but in our bodies? What if the path to recovery is rooted in the very essence of our embodied existence?

In this episode, Dr Scott is honored to be joined by Dr. Peter Levine, the pioneer of Somatic Experiencing® and the developer of a revolutionary approach to healing trauma. Known as the father of trauma therapy, Dr. Levine has dedicated his life's work to understanding the intricate dance between our minds, bodies, and the traumatic experiences that can become lodged within us.

In this conversation, they’ll explore the evolution of our understanding of trauma over the past four decades, challenging the notion that it is merely a brain disorder. Dr. Levine will shed light on how trauma becomes encoded in the very fibers of our being, and how addressing it at a somatic level is crucial for true healing and resolution.

Together they will delve into the power of embodiment, the importance of feeling safe in our bodies, and the gradual process of reconnecting with traumatic sensations. Dr. Levine will share his personal journey of healing, emphasizing the significance of being seen and held in relationships, and the transformative act of sharing one's trauma narrative.

Listen in as Dr Scott and Dr Levine venture into the depths of the human experience, uncovering the profound wisdom of our bodies and the resilience that lies within us all. Whether you're a survivor seeking healing, a practitioner in the field, or simply someone who wishes to deepen their understanding of trauma, this conversation promises to be a powerful and enlightening exploration of the path to wholeness.

To avoid Dr. Levine’s account of sexual assault, please skip the audio between [28:23] and [29:30].

Topics We Break Down: 

• Dr. Peter Levine defines trauma and explains how it’s evolved in the past three decades. 
• How somatic trauma healing didn’t exist before Dr. Levine’s research. 
• The way trauma is held in the body and distinguishing trauma from stress.
• Understanding the value of an empathetic presence in your life after a traumatic event. 
• Semantics: the struggles of bringing a new medical solution into the mainstream. 
• Exploring the concept of being and doing enough and why this is always possible. 

Have you ever felt like the weight of your circumstances was holding you back from reaching your full potential? Like trauma or the negative beliefs instilled in you from a young age were shackling you to a life of limitation? 

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by Nicole Walters, a force to be reckoned with in the world of entrepreneurship and personal empowerment. Nicole's journey is a testament to the power of resilience and the ability to rewrite one's story. From growing up in poverty to building a multi-million dollar business empire, she has defied the odds and shattered the glass ceilings that once seemed impenetrable. Nicole shares her inspiring tale, shedding light on the trauma of poverty and the messages it can send about self-worth.

But this conversation goes beyond just her personal triumphs. Together they will delve into the lies we tell ourselves to compensate for negative beliefs, the impact of childhood experiences, and the pressure of the hustle culture. Nicole will share her unique perspective on finding peace, defining success on her own terms, and the importance of taking bold action and reframing negative thoughts.

Get ready to be inspired, challenged, and empowered as we explore the depths of self-belief, the power of calculated risks, and the art of setting boundaries. Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur, a seasoned professional, or simply someone seeking to unleash their full potential, this episode promises to be a transformative journey into the heart of what it means to own your power.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why collapse can be a totally valid stress response.
• Finding peace beyond the harm of narcissistic abuse. 
• What it takes to maintain the image of success and intelligence in the world.
• Applying statistics and math to create confidence.
• Three bold moves in one power hour.
• Why failure to grow is just as dangerous as failure to launch.
• The incredible value of knowing your strengths.
• Embodying freedom and understanding that it is your birthright.

In a world that often feels heavy and overwhelming, the ability to find humor in the everyday and share a laugh with others can be a true superpower. In this episode Dr Scott is joined by Brian Moller, also known as B Mo the Prince, a multi-talented artist whose observational comedy and relatable sketches have captured the hearts and funny bones of audiences worldwide.

After losing his on-air radio job during the COVID-19 pandemic, Brian embarked on a new path, producing comedic sketches and sharing them online. His work quickly gained traction, being featured in publications like The Boston Globe, Funny or Die, and US Weekly, among others. But Brian's journey is about more than just entertainment; it's about connection, healing, and the transformative power of laughter.

In this episode, Dr Scott will delve into Brian's approach to observational comedy, exploring how he incorporates generational differences and real-life experiences into his sketches. They’ll discuss the varying reactions and perspectives that different generations may have on the same subject matter, and how Brian navigates these nuances with humor and insight.

But their conversation goes beyond the realm of comedy. They’ll explore the responsibilities and challenges that come with being an online personality, and how Brian creates a supportive and positive community for his followers. They’ll discuss the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining a healthy online presence, and using open communication and support to navigate negative comments and heal.

Join in for laugh upon laugh, who doesn't need a laugh? Whether you're a fan of Brian's work or simply someone who appreciates a roaring chuckle, this episode promises to be a delightful and insightful exploration into the world of an artist who refuses to let life's challenges dim his light.

Topics We Break Down:

• The characteristics that define each generation.
• An influencer’s burden of responsibility.
• How the comments section and other negative feedback influence content.
• The way to navigate aggressive online attacks.
• A journey through the creative process.
• An interlude on the modern truncation of language.

Have you ever felt like you were living someone else's life, trapped in a narrative that didn't quite fit? Or perhaps you've experienced the transformative power of taking ownership of your story, rewriting the chapters that no longer serve you, and embracing the authentic self that's been waiting to emerge? 

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Tara Schuster, a best-selling author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive whose journey of self-discovery and healing is as inspiring as it is relatable. Tara's story is one of resilience, of confronting childhood neglect and abuse, and of taking responsibility for her own life through the powerful acts of reparenting and self-care. In this conversation, they’ll delve into the importance of accepting and allowing suffering, and the transformative power of taking accountability for one's own narrative.

But this isn't just a story of pain; it's a story of understanding, forgiveness, and of seeing the underlying pain behind abusive behavior. Tara will share her insights on the process of understanding and forgiving her parents, and the profound impact it had on her own healing journey.

Together, Dr Scott and Tara also explore the practical aspects of self-care, the importance of structure and routine in making life easier, and the need to find one's own point of view, unshackled by limiting beliefs. Tara will encourage us to question our beliefs, to prioritize our values, and to live in alignment with the authentic selves we've uncovered.

Listen in as they embark on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and the reclamation of our stories. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Getting to the root of your trauma and accepting the things that happened in your suffering.
• How acceptance, accountability, and responsibility are not the same as assigning blame. 
• What we can learn from identifying and understanding personal values. 
• Making time for self-care 
• How there is no hack to healing, only discipline and hard work. 
• Trusting the process, introspection, and allowing yourself to make mistakes.
• Living in alignment.

In comedy, where laughter serves as both currency and weapon, the art of navigating perception, identity, and creative expression can be a delicate dance, requiring a good dose of bravery and self-reflection. Joining Dr. Scott is the multitalented Joel Kim Booster, a rising star whose work has both entertained and challenged audiences. From his breakout role in Fire Island to his Emmy-nominated writing and acting, Joel has carved out a unique space in the comedy world by pushing boundaries and defying expectations.

In this episode, Joel delves into the complexities of maintaining authenticity while meeting audience expectations. They explore how his stand-up persona has evolved over the years and the challenging balance between personal truth and public performance. Joel also shares his insights on the shifting landscape of comedy, particularly the nuanced discussions around identity and representation in an industry often resistant to change. Dr. Scott and Joel take a look at the concept of "punching up" versus "punching down” and what it teaches us about the ethics of comedy, before discussing the exhaustion of constantly deconstructing one's identity and the desire for creative freedom.

This conversation isn't just about comedy; it's about the human experience, the complexities of public perception, and the pursuit of authentic self-expression. Listen in, as they dive into the nuances of representation, diversity, insecurities, and forging a life in the public eye. 

• Life as a public figure and the unique challenges that accompany it.
• The strengths of punching up versus punching down in comedy.
• Resistance to defining the rules of stand-up comedy and what is off-limits.
• The concept of clapter and how it differs for left-leaning versus more conservative comedians.
• Unpacking the age of identity comedy and how it is shifting.
• The demands and complexities of representation.
• Dealing with the scrutiny you receive as a public figure and how people perceive you.

In a world where laughter can be a balm and a mirror, the art of comedy has evolved into more than just a source of entertainment. It’s a reflection of our shared experiences, a validation of our struggles, and a reminder that even in the darkest moments, there is room for a little levity. In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Manon Mathews, an actress, comedian, and social media personality whose witty humor and relatable content have captured the hearts of millions. 

With a following that spans platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook, Manon has mastered the art of connecting with her audience through her comedic sketches, observational humor, and sage wisdom. Together, Dr. Scott and Manon will delve into the role of empathy in comedy, exploring how comedians have the power to reflect and mirror the experiences of their audience, creating a sense of validation and understanding. They’ll discuss the challenges of receiving validation, particularly from parents, and how authenticity can be a powerful tool for self-expression and connection.

This thoughtful conversation will also touch on the impact of generational differences, the importance of taking risks, and the significance of self-expression through mediums like dance and movement. Manon will share insights into her creative process, the influence of repetition on audience expectations, and the motivation behind creating content that resonates. Listen as they celebrate the healing power of laughter and the transformative possibilities of comedy. 

Topics We Break Down

• Impressions as a love language.
• The challenge of being an empathic comedian. 
• What differentiates reaction from response: the power of pausing. 
• How parallel play can help to generate trust. 
• What we can learn from the Validation Reflex.
• Debunking the myth that the post-birth experience is bliss.
• How to bring in the witness in your everyday life.

In a world that often demands conformity, embracing one’s true self can be a profound act of courage. In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by spiritual revolutionary, mystic, artist, and international bestselling author, Sah D’Simone. His journey has been nothing short of transformative, and he joins us to give a glimpse into his resilient path through anxiety, depression, and addiction to making an impact by helping others through the same struggles. 

From his grassroots work in orphanages, homeless shelters and rehab centers across the world to his critically acclaimed somatic-activated healing method, Sah’s expertise is rooted in a deep understanding of the mind-body connection and the power of kinesthetic learning. Offering us a glimpse into his book, Spiritually, We: The Art of Relating and Connecting From the Heart, Sah challenges us to shift our mindset, embrace compassion, and selflessness, and understand the power of conflict in deepening intimacy in our relationships.

Dr. Scott and Sah consider what it means to cultivate the superpower of authenticity and what that means for genuine connections, and the magnetization of friendships. Sah shares his insights on the impact of code-switching, the fragmentation of self, and the journey to embracing one’s true identity. Together, they will delve into the paradox of freedom, the illusion of manifesting reality, and the true values that bring meaning to our lives. Tune in as they embrace the messiness, beauty and transformative power of living authenticity. 

• Finding the freest version of your life by embracing authenticity.
• Find a healthy balance between your individual needs and your role in the community.
• Understand freedom as it relates to both yourself and your interactions with others.
• Recognize and appreciate people as complete beings to combat loneliness.
• Addressing Inner Experiences Restoratively: Deal with your inner feelings without blame, and focus on healing rather than punishment.
• Learn to handle conflicts and repairs in relationships to make them stronger and deeper.
• Mastering the art of mirroring and naming your needs to truly meet yourself and others. 

Have you ever bolted awake from a dream so vivid you had to pinch yourself back to reality, or found yourself haunted by a dream so bizarre, that you're convinced your subconscious is trying to tell you something? What is it about these night-time escapades that can feel so real, so intense, and sometimes, so utterly perplexing? Are these dreams merely our brain's nightly cleanup crew at work, or do they tap into something deeper, a universal thread weaving through the collective unconscious?

In this conversation, Dr. Scott welcomes Dr. Michael Lennox, a distinguished psychologist whose insights into the nocturnal mind are as enlightening as they are fascinating. A renowned dream expert, Dr. Lennox works to unravel the enigma of dreams and their significance in our lives. He is known for his work in dream analysis, spirituality, and personal development and has also authored several books on dream interpretation and personal growth. 

Together, they will decode the functionality of dreams, venture into the realm of the collective unconscious, and reveal how our dreams can be a powerful tool for personal growth, healing, and creativity. From the eeriness of precognitive dreams to the empowerment of lucid dreaming, they’re unpacking the mysteries of what happens when we close our eyes at night.

This episode is your invitation to discover the transformative power of your dreams and how they can illuminate the darkest and most mysterious parts of your inner world. Discover the profound intersections of science, psychology, and the spirituality of dreams and investigate the intricacies of the subconscious mind.

 Topics We Break Down

• The physiological function of sleep and transformative power of dreams.
• Learn how dreams connect us to the collective subconscious.
• Find out how to use dreams as a tool for personal development.
• Common dream interpretation pitfalls and the symbolism of dreams.
• Steps to unlocking the somatic healing potential of dreams.
• Insights into whether dreams can also predict the future.
• Taking control of and amplifying your lucid dreams.
• Explore the erotic and sensual side of dreams.
• Daily practices to improve the relationship with your dreams.

In this episode Dr. Scott is joined by the remarkable Amy Morin, psychotherapist and international bestselling author of '13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do'. Together, they’ll explore the foundations of mental strength—how it's about managing thoughts, regulating emotions, and choosing behaviors that align with our best selves. Amy shares powerful insights from her own life, including the death of the two people closest to her-shedding light on how to live fully in the present while honoring our past.

Together, Amy and Dr. Scott discuss individual mental resilience and the mental strength and dynamics for success within couples. Amy helps us unravel the significance of facing problems head-on, the value of transparency, and the necessity of setting healthy boundaries. In a relationship, communication is key, but it's the respect and understanding behind that communication that truly cements a partnership.

Join us as Amy Morin guides us through the principles that can fortify our minds and our connections, making us all the more resilient, empathetic, and mentally strong.

Topics We Break Down:

• Understanding the difference between developing resilience and ignoring genuine feelings.
• Key Behaviors of Mentally Strong People: Highlighting important habits like avoiding self-pity and embracing accountability.
• Learning to release past attachments, even those involving loved ones, to move forward.
• Creating personal success criteria and choosing to learn from others instead of competing.
• Determining which conflicts are solvable and worth your time and energy.
• How secrecy can undermine trust and closeness in partnerships.

Episode Summary: In this special "Best of September" episode, we revisit the most impactful moments from our inspiring conversations with Marie Forleo, Mark Groves, Arielle Schwartz, and Damona Hoffman. Each of these incredible guests brings their unique insights into personal growth, relationships, healing, and empowerment. Whether you're navigating challenges, looking to deepen your connections, or on a journey of self-discovery, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical tools to help you along the way.

What You'll Learn:

• Marie Forleo teaches us how to break free from excuses and start turning dreams into reality, even when time and resources feel scarce.
• Mark Groves dives deep into the complexities of love, revealing why relationships are often so challenging and how we can learn the skills needed to love better.
• Arielle Schwartz shares her personal journey through the non-linear process of healing, reminding us that true healing is about unconditional self-acceptance and returning home to ourselves.
• Damona Hoffman debunks the fairy tale myths about love and relationships, empowering us to redefine what love looks like on our own terms and take charge of our romantic lives.

Key Takeaways:

• Practical steps to live an excuse-free life and make progress toward your dreams.
• How to build deeper, more meaningful relationships by confronting your fears and learning the art of love.
• Insights into the healing process, and how to approach it with self-compassion and patience.
• Why it’s essential to let go of societal myths about love and rewrite your own love story.

If you enjoyed this "Best of September" episode, please subscribe, share it with your fellow Gently Used Humans, and leave us a review! Your support helps us reach more listeners on the journey toward growth and healing.

Have you ever wondered how art could stir revolution and change? Or how the art of drag transcends the bounds of entertainment to become a profound reflection on our humanity?

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the incomparable Peppermint, an actress, singer, songwriter, drag queen, activist, and trailblazing icon. From the stages of New York City nightclubs to the bright lights of Broadway and the fierce competition of RuPaul's Drag Race, Peppermint has not only entertained millions but also been instrumental in paving the way for open conversations about the transgender experience and activism within the LGBTQ+ community. More than a performer, Peppermint embodies courage and authenticity, using her platform to challenge misconceptions, advocate for equality, and inspire a generation.

Join us as we delve into the intersections of art and activism, exploring how Peppermint's work in the entertainment industry serves as a vehicle for change. They’ll  discuss the evolution of nightlife and its role in shaping LGBTQ+ culture, the mainstream acceptance of drag and its implications, and the concerning rise of anti-drag legislation. But it's not just about the challenges; it's about the triumphs, the joy of self-acceptance, and the power of community.

Prepare to be inspired by Peppermint’s story of transformation, resistance, and the art of turning personal trials into powerful messages of acceptance and change. It's going to be a powerful, enlightening, and undeniably fabulous episode that you won't want to miss.

Topics We Break Down:

• Drag’s changing role in mainstream culture across different administrations.
• The conservative playbook for targeting trans people and other minorities.
• Systems of propaganda and discrimination across cultures.
• Dehumanization, reactionary politics, and coming to terms with the non-linear nature of progress.
• The current state of trans rights and trans justice.
• Media, misinformation, and the overwhelming amount of content that people have to navigate today.
• Rehumanization; why it’s crucial for people to have experiences with groups that are being discriminated against.
• Art as activism; how Peppermint is using her voice and her platform to educate others and advocate for change.

Have you ever considered how comedy can transcend its status as a form of entertainment to become a powerful tool for connection and healing? Or how a comedian's journey intertwines with personal growth, relationships, and the challenges of being a public figure?

Joining Dr Scott to discuss all things funny is Laura Clery, an actress, influencer, and comedian celebrated for her distinct style and ability to connect with millions across social media platforms. She is also the author of Idiot: Life Stories from the Creator of Help Helen Smash and Idiots: Marriage, Motherhood, Milk & Mistakes.

Together, they reflect on Laura’s journey and why laughter truly is the best medicine (in more ways than one). Laura opens up about her rise in comedy, from discovering her knack for making people laugh at a young age to mastering the art of online content creation. She delves into how comedy serves as her medicine, helping process challenging experiences and navigate the intricacies of dating and relationships.

Prepare to be entertained and enlightened as they deconstruct the power of humor in creating joy and connection, the role of social media in reaching a global audience, and the importance of self-awareness in personal and romantic relationships. Laura also shares insights into maintaining privacy as a public figure and the transformative journey of understanding one's own protective strategies and insecurities.

Join us for a conversation filled with thoughtful insights and plenty of good laughs. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Systemic inequities in show business and how creating your own content can be used to reclaim power and agency.
• The role of fear in overthinking and the creativity that can stem from underthinking.
• Appreciating different types of humor and the art of making people laugh.
• The therapeutic effects of laughter: stimulating the vagal nervous system and its calming impact on the body.
• The duality of impulsivity: a source of both humor and creativity, yet also a double-edged sword.
• Navigating public divorce, finding humor in adversity, and exploring the triggers within romantic relationships.
• Deconstructing comedy's components: incongruity, timing, relief theory, status shifts, sarcasm, irony, and exaggeration.

In a world brimming with information, why is it that the dialogue around our sexual well-being remains so stifled? Have you ever wondered why conversations about sex and pleasure often feel like navigating a minefield of awkwardness and taboo? How can we break through the barriers of silence to cultivate relationships that thrive on open communication and profound pleasure?

To help answer these questions, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Emily Morse, the bestselling author of Hot Sex and Smart Sex and host of the number one sexuality podcast, Sex with Emily. Emily has dedicated her career to demystifying the world of sex and pleasure, advocating for honest and open communication as the cornerstone for a vibrant sexual relationship. 

Together, they explore the reasons behind our collective hesitation to talk about sex, the benefits of expanding our understanding of what sex can do, and the practical steps we can take to enhance intimacy and pleasure in our lives. They tackle how to address pleasure thieves like stress, trauma, and shame and discuss the power of mindfulness in creating a safe space for those important conversations. Whether you're curious about navigating your desires, exploring fantasies, or simply looking to enrich the sexual aspects of your relationship, you're in the right place. 

Let's get it on.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Boundaries that keep us from talking about sex in a safe, shame-free environment. 
• What it looks like to define sex for ourselves instead of following the scripts handed to us. 
• Communication is lubrication: why learning to talk about sex is the best thing for our sex lives.
• Reframing sex as an opportunity to expand the experiential horizons of your relationship.
• Transformative tools to break down common barriers preventing us from having fulfilling sexual experiences.
• How mindful masturbation can revolutionize your solo and partnered encounters. 
• What it might look like to overcome the humor and awkwardness of role play. 

Have you ever noticed how, as the seasons change, it’s not just the world around us that changes but also our inner landscapes?

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Greg Hammer, a Professor at Stanford University School of Medicine, Paediatric Intensive Care Physician, Paediatric Anaesthesiologist, and Mindfulness Expert. Together, they navigate the essentials of physical wellness, including the rejuvenating power of sleep, the vitality found in movement, and the nourishment provided by mindful eating. Dr. Hammer invites us to explore the spiritual scaffolding supporting our well-being built on the pillars of gratitude, acceptance, intention, and non-judgment. 

This conversation is brimming with insights that promise to illuminate the path to wellness through the changing seasons and beyond with the wise and wonderful Dr Greg Hammer as our guide. 

Topics We Break Down: 

• How the components of spiritual and physical health intertwine to support holistic wellness.
• Neutralizing negativity bias by prioritizing physical and spiritual well-being.
• Foundations of nutrition to support our defense against low-grade stress.
• A simple definition of burnout and how to develop a plan to mitigate the stressors contributing to it.
• Discerning between elements that fall within our control and outside of it and how to embrace mindfulness to stay in the present moment.
• Embracing a practice of accepting and embracing pain in order to reduce suffering.
• How embracing non-judgment supports self-acceptance and kindness towards others.

Have you ever questioned the deep-seated expectations you hold for your children? And for yourself as a parent? Or wonder how the expectations of your own parents affects you now? There are so many parent experts out there - so which one will actually help you to unlock the exact formula for raising strong, resilient kids?

In this insightful episode, Dr. Scott sits down with Dr. Shefali, a renowned clinical psychologist and author known for her groundbreaking work in conscious parenting and family dynamics. Together, they discuss the impact of societal expectations and social comparisons on parenting and the significance of focusing on your child’s self-worth instead of their achievements. They unpack the daily practice of challenging your own expectations, the importance of fostering a sense of self-worth for both parent and child, the value of allowing your children the space to explore their own destiny, the outcomes of fear-based parenting, and much more.

Are you ready for the joy and ease that comes when we let go of control and accept our children for who they truly are? Then this episode is for you.

Topics We Break Down

• Explore the nuances between conscious and unconscious parenting.
• The hidden expectations intertwined with unconscious parenting approaches.
• Why parents need to surrender to their authentic selves.
• Strategies to guide children in aligning with their inherent nature and essence.
• Removing toxic patterns and replacing them with authentic connections.
• Understand the influence and repercussions of the parental ego on children.
• The characteristics of a spiritual warrior in parenting and beyond.
• Allowing your children the space to be disruptive and discover themselves.
• Signs of a healthy parent-child dynamic and the value of conflict.
• Learn the path to gentle feedback between parent and child.

Have you ever considered the power of laughter in battling anxiety? What if anxiety was not just a state of mind but also a condition deeply rooted in our bodies? Could we unravel the complexities of anxiety and find solace in the present moment? Dr. Russell Kennedy, also known as Anxiety MD, joins Dr. Scott today to share his unique blend of expertise in medicine, neuroscience, and stand-up comedy. 

Offering a revolutionary understanding and approach to overcoming anxiety, Dr. Kennedy shares insights from his personal journey, revealing the counterphobic tool of comedy and how this intersects with his medical practice. Together, they challenge the conventional view of anxiety, redefining it as a physical state of alarm that often stems from unresolved trauma. 

Dr. Kennedy guides us through techniques to connect with our inner self and find a sense of safety in the present moment, and together, we explore the essential difference between everyday discomfort and lingering trauma and how focusing on the body’s alarm signals can pave the way to healing. 

• How applying a new understanding to anxiety can facilitate a deeper treatment of its root causes.
• What it might look like to replace dissociative responses with meaningful attention.
• Reframing anxiety as both a mind-body separation and an adult self-child self separation. 
• The complex relationship between cognitive and somatic work.
• How technology facilitates disconnection and results in an inability to metabolize difficult emotions.
• The journey of influencing your internal perception of the external world through expressing emotion. 
• Prioritizing self-connection and witnessing the traumatized child as a roadmap to healing anxiety. 
• Why the cost of never addressing the pain of your formative years is too high to bear.

Ever wondered what lies behind the curtain of the nutritional wellness industry, or considered how the act of cooking is not just preparing a meal, but also a profound expression of self care and creativity?

In this episode, Desiree Nielsen joins Dr. Scott in conversation to share a wealth of wisdom from her experiences as a registered dietician. Desiree is an expert in the world of plant-based nutrition and an author of several best-selling cookbooks, including the newly published Plant Magic. Together, they’ll discuss the impact of social media on diet trends, the importance of tailoring nutrition to the individual, and the need for a critical eye toward the wellness narratives that dominate our culture. 

Desiree offers her insights into the complex layers of nutrition, debunking myths, and teaching us how to sift through the noise to find evidence-based advice that truly benefits our health. This episode serves up insight and laughter, proving that the best meals are not just about what’s on the plate, but also about the conversations that happen around the table. Let’s dig in!

Topics We Break Down: 

• How food can act as the metronome of life before diet culture infiltrates our thinking. 
• The opportunity that mealtimes present to inject happiness and pleasure into an otherwise stressful life.
• What it might look like to strip food of its moral value and embrace flexibility.
• Why a ‘one problem, one solution’ approach to nutrition is fundamentally problematic.
• What it truly means to have a holistic perspective that is in step with evidence-based thinking.
• Redefining healthy eating in a way that focuses on our actions. 
• The radical idea that sometimes wellness makes us feel worse.
• Sifting through the plethora of conflicting health advice online to find what works for you. 

Have you ever found yourself lost in a sea of distractions, struggling to maintain focus? Or wondered about the intricate workings of attention in our brains? How do we understand the fine line between neurodivergence and clinical severity in the context of attention disorders?

Today, Dr. Scott sits down with Dr. Sasha Hamdani, a board-certified psychiatrist, best-selling author, and entrepreneur. Dr. Hamdani brings a wealth of knowledge and personal insight into the complexities of attention and its nuances. From the evolution of ADHD diagnosis to the pioneering creation of the Focus Genie app, we explore the multifaceted nature of attention, including its various types and the challenges it presents in our daily lives.

Join us as they discuss the critical aspects of attention: its definition, the ability to focus, regulate, and transition between topics, and the intriguing relationship between ADHD, generational stress, and trauma. Dr. Hamdani shares her expertise on the capacity for attention, how it varies among individuals, and the potential impacts of overdiagnosis and underdiagnosis in ADHD.

This conversation promises to enlighten and challenge your understanding of attention, providing a deeper appreciation of our brain's complexity and the many shades of normal when it comes to attention-related challenges. Whether you're grappling with focus issues yourself, know someone who does, or are simply curious about the inner workings of the human mind, this episode is not to be missed.

• How a deep understanding of what it means to pay and tend to attention can influence our relationship with it.
• The intricate science of the brain and what makes it unique among the body’s other organs. 
• Appreciating the value of both inclusivity and diagnosis in the context of neurodivergence.
• How behavioral and lifestyle changes can support focus and brain function.
• Overdiagnosis, underdiagnosis, and access to care.
• The influence of traumatic experiences on the brain.
• What self-care, tracking, and problem-solving might look like for people with ADHD.
• How differentiating between four kinds of attention can help us identify our strengths and weaknesses. 

Have you ever felt the pressure to prove that your trauma is more severe than others? Or found yourself in situations where experiences of pain and suffering are compared and contrasted in a competitive way?

Welcome to the Trauma Olympics.

Joining Dr. Scott to unpack this intricate subject are Kai Cheng Thom, MSW, MSc, a certified Somatic Sex Educator and acclaimed author, and Nkem Ndefo, MSN, the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. Together, they explore the different forms of Trauma Olympics, including the troubling trends of one-upping and minimizing others' experiences, and the underlying causes such as capitalism, scarcity mentality, and the quest for validation.

They’ll discuss the negative effects of this phenomenon, such as how it splinters social movements and fosters a culture of constant competition over trauma and they’ll delve into the complex politics of trauma disclosure, examining the pressure to share personal experiences for validation and the crucial right to low disclosure.

This conversation is not just an exploration but also a critical examination of our societal and individual approaches to trauma. Whether you've experienced this phenomenon personally or are seeking to understand it better, this episode offers insights, personal stories, and thoughtful analysis on navigating the challenging landscape of the Trauma Olympics.

Get ready for a profound discussion that sheds light on the complexities and dangers of comparing traumas and the importance of respecting individual boundaries and experiences in the journey of healing and resilience.

Topics we break down

• Deep-seated reasons that people choose to engage in Trauma Olympics and comparative victimhood.
• Ways in which capitalism and the scarcity mentality support the zero-sum game of comparison.
• What it might look like to extract trauma from self-identity and how this relates to healing.
• How competitive trauma is incentivized and the dehumanizing effect of hierarchy.
• The difference between trauma acting as a social glue and trauma becoming a social disruptor.
• Cultivating the capacity to relate to people beyond the sensationalist quality of their story.
• Retiring ourselves from the sport of Trauma Olympics by meeting the underlying need.
• How power dynamics influence competitive trauma and create a barrier to reconciliation.
• What might change if we could communicate in a context where everyone wasn’t stretched so thin.

How do we navigate the fragile threads that bind us to one another and to our past? How do patterns of attachment emerge from the shadows of our upbringing, influencing not just our romantic relationships but also our friendships, our career paths, and our very sense of self?

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons welcomes Dr. Judy Ho, a distinguished Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, tenured professor, and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment'. Dr. Judy, with her profound understanding of neuropsychology, sheds light on how insecure attachments carve anxious, avoidant, and disorganized trails through our lives. Together, they explore the transformative power of self-awareness, self-regulation, and the sacred act of reparenting. This conversation goes beyond discussing the bonds we form with others; it's an exploration of how to reforge the bonds within ourselves, to heal the attachment wounds that hold us back, and to step into a future of secure attachment and limitless growth.

Are you ready to uncover the mysteries of attachment and discover how to navigate the path towards secure connections? Listen in for a profound dive into the heart of human connection and growth.

• The intricate weave of forensic neuropsychology and attachment theory.
• Navigating the emergence of insecure attachment patterns from childhood.
• Understanding the impact of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles on adult relationships and self-identity.
• The transformative power of self-awareness in recognizing and addressing attachment wounds.
• Practical approaches to self-regulation and reparenting for healing attachment issues.
• Expanding the concept of attachment beyond romantic relationships to include friendships and career dynamics.
• The role of emotional bonds in developing a secure sense of self and fostering personal growth.
• Techniques for cultivating secure attachments and enhancing emotional connections.

Dating is HARD. With so many choices at our fingertips, dating apps have become a double-edged sword, offering endless possibilities while simultaneously overwhelming us with options. Do we swipe based on a carefully curated list of desired traits, or do we let our intuition guide us, swiping right on that inexplicable spark of connection? In this ever-evolving landscape where the rules of engagement are constantly shifting, many of us are left feeling lost and uncertain. 

Thankfully, in this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the brilliant Damona Hoffman, dating expert and author, who knows how to make sense of the complexities of human connection. Damona is here to dispel the myths of dating, like the trap of looking for a soulmate or waiting for the right chemistry, offering us tools to help navigate the search for aligned values and lasting intimacy.

In this conversation, they’ll explore the power of vulnerability and self-discovery in creating meaningful bonds, the importance of curiosity in building trust and what it really means for us to each build our own unique love story. They’ll dive into the four biggest dating myths that keep us stuck and learn how to flip the script, prioritizing goals, values, communication, and trust over fairytale fantasies.

So, if you’re ready, let's swipe left on outdated dating myths and swipe right on genuine connection and self-discovery.

Topics We Break Down: 

• Debunking four harmful myths about dating and relationships, and exploring their antidotes. 
• The paradox of choice - how choice impacts the way we interact and communicate.
• How to identify your values, and how to see if they align with your partner's.
• Why repair language (conflict resolution) is just as important as love language.
• Helpful strategies for building trust.
• Diving deeper into the myth of soulmates. 

Have you ever stopped to think about what really makes a relationship work?  What is the secret sauce of relationship success? How much of it is the way we talk and listen to each other?  How much of it is chemistry?   What makes or breaks our relationships? 

In this insightful episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher, and writer, known for her compassionate and direct approach to transforming relationships. Under the mentorship of Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Jillian has dedicated 20 years to teaching others how to revolutionize their relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves.

Together, they explore the crucial elements of respect, trust, and safety in relationships, and the evolving nature of our preferences and priorities as we grow. Jillian shares her wisdom on the art of effective communication, the importance of setting boundaries, and the skill of active listening. They also dive into the often-overlooked potential of breakups as catalysts for personal growth and even touch on the nuances of meeting a partner's parents for the first time.

Listen in to uncover the work and growth necessary for healthy relationships and the vital role of feeling seen and understood by our partners. Whether you're navigating the complexities of a current relationship, healing from a breakup, or simply seeking to deepen your understanding of relational dynamics, this conversation is a treasure trove of insights.

• Trust, safety, and respect as the foundations of a healthy relationship.
• How our relationship priorities shift as we evolve and grow.
• Why boundaries are an essential part of any relationship.
• The consistent awareness and communication that relationships require.
• Discerning between tension, texture, turbulence, and trouble in your relationship.
• Growing together versus growing apart.
• Why you should never fall in love with potential.
• Tenets of thriving relationships: tips for communicating better.
• How even a catastrophic breakup can be an opportunity for transformation.
• Listener Q&A: advice for redefining the spark, meeting the parents, and more!
• What might really be going on when it feels like you can’t get over your ex.

Have you ever felt the transformative power of music not just as a soundtrack to your life, but as a key to unlock deep, personal healing and growth? Can a song, a melody, or a rhythm truly spark a revolution within us, challenging us to confront and transcend the boundaries of racism, mindfulness, and our own potential for change?

Today, Dr. Scott welcomes Grammy-nominated artist, best-selling author, and visionary speaker, Justin Michael Williams for a fascinating conversation about how we, as a community, can harness the emotional impact of music and mindfulness to not just envision, but actively create a world brimming with possibility and devoid of division.

Together, they explore the intricate dance between individual change and collective evolution, shedding light on the role of community and the unifying power of music in the journey towards transformation. Justin challenges us to question the permanence of racism and introduces the concept of "othering" alongside the eight pillars of possibility, offering a fresh perspective on diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts that have fallen short.

Listen in as we tune into the music of transformation, community, and the endless possibilities that await when we dare to listen deeply and act boldly.

Topics We Break Down

• Harnessing Music as a Catalyst for Healing and Growth.
• The Crucial Role of Community in Personal and Societal Transformation.
• Personal Journeys of Transformation Through Melody and Rhythm.
• The Deep Emotional Resonance of Music and Its Healing Power.
• Amplifying Change Through Collective Musical Experiences.
• Envisioning and Working Towards a World Free of Racism.
• Reimagining Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Efforts for Genuine Change.
• Advancing Change by Calling People Forward, Not Out.
• Unpacking the Practice and Benefits of Mindfulness in Transformation.
• Integrating Mindfulness into Everyday Life for Balance and Fulfillment.

There’s a lot of talk about self-love these days but what does it mean to truly love and accept yourself - especially in relationships with others? Could it be that it is the act of embracing our most vulnerable selves that provides a portal to deeper intimacy with others? 

Today, Dr. Scott is joined by the inspiring Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned expert in the fields of relationships, self-worth, and emotional resilience. Dr. Berman shares her personal and professional insights into the transformative power of self-love and the pivotal role it plays in shaping our connections with others. Together, they explore the delicate interplay between pain and pleasure, and the unique concept of quantum sex, where energy and emotion intertwine.

Listen in to uncover the profound impact of self-love not only in our personal lives but in the way we relate to the world around us.

Topics We Break Down

• How to love (and be loved) better by learning to love yourself first.
• Gifts and shadows: why we’re attracted to people who trigger us.
• Fundamental differences between self-esteem and self-worth.
• What it means to give energy through us, not from us.
• Why we have to be fully in our bodies to release pain and experience true joy.
• Grief as a “powerful, impossibly beautiful portal of transformation.”
• Defining quantum sex and our relentless pursuit of intensity.
• Why intertwining energy and emotions is so hot!

We would likely all agree that what we eat can transform our health but do we believe that it could also help us to heal our deepest wounds? 

Dr. Scott’s guest on the podcast today is Elissa Goodman, a true warrior in the world of holistic health and nutrition. Diagnosed with cancer at 32, and having endured the loss of her husband to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, Elissa's journey is not just one of survival, but of profound transformation.

Together, they’ll explore Elissa's passionate advocacy for cleansing diets and the power of plant-based nutrition. Elissa’s belief in the mind's capacity to foster healing underscores the conversation, emphasizing the critical role of trauma and emotional well-being in overall health. Elissa's insights on the importance of listening to our body's instincts and finding personalized pathways to wellness promise to be both enlightening and empowering.

Join us as we unravel Elissa's insights into the healing journey, from facing life's toughest battles to discovering the power of self-love and the role of nutrition in holistic healing. 

• Navigating the superfood crazes and trends.
• Honoring who you are and practicing self-love.
• Talk therapy versus plant-based nutrition.
• The connection between touch and our immune systems.
• Accessibility hurdles of superfoods.
• Demystifying the concept of cleansing. 
• Discovering the synergy between well-being and food.
• Leveraging mindset as a part of the healing process.

Ever wondered how passion and purpose intertwine to shape our lives? Or considered the role of adaptability and vision in navigating our paths? 

In this episode, Dr. Scott explores these questions with John Miles, author of Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. John brings unique insights from his experiences in the Navy and Fortune 50 companies, highlighting the power of long-term vision and the importance of being adaptable. Together, they’ll explore the power of mattering, the impact of loneliness, and the influence of relationships and environments on our sense of self.

Tune in as they connect the dots between passion, purpose, and play to discover how we can all be a little more “passion struck”. 

• How different experiences and exposure enrich our perspective. 
• What play can teach us about ourselves and others in our adult life. 
• How tapping into different sides of your true self supports honing your craft.
• The power of passion combined with perseverance. 
• Allowing your uniqueness to make its impact on the world. 
• Discerning between misalignment and a lack of resilience. 
• The true equation behind the path to happiness. 
• What it might look like to embody other people with the sense that they matter. 
• Finding self-compassion along the journey.

In a world that's rapidly evolving, one aspect remains timeless: the human craving for meaningful connections. But what happens when the hustle of modern life, the echoes of a pandemic, and the complexities of adulthood intertwine, transforming the landscape of friendship? 

In this episode, Dr. Scott dives into the heart of the intricate maze of adult bonding with two extraordinary guides; Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan. Vanessa is a licensed holistic psychologist and bestselling author, using her expertise and depth in Buddhist and yoga psychology to pave the path toward authentic connections. Dené Logan is a marriage and relationship therapist, yoga instructor, and author of the upcoming book, Sovereign Love, where she offers her psychologically informed perspective on reclaiming our true selves in relationships. 

Together, they’ll explore the polyamorous nature of friendships, things that make the cake of friendship so rich, and the importance of emotional intimacy. They’ll navigate the nuances of building community in post-COVID times, the art of making and nurturing friendships in new cities, and the pivotal role of shared experiences and memory keepers in solidifying bonds. We'll challenge societal norms that often overshadow friendships, highlighting the gendered nature of close relationships and the empowering concept of Relationship Anarchy.

If you’re ready to redefine friendship and explore its transformative power in your own life - it’s time to make friends with this week’s guests. 

Topics We Break Down: 

• Building a community in a pandemic of loneliness.
• Adopting a polyamorous approach to friendship. 
• Defining reciprocity and intimacy in the context of friendship. 
• Creating relationship anarchy and deconstructing the heart of what you want and need.
• Reframing trauma-bonding and drama-bonding.
• Generational ideas of resilience and emotional processing.
• Social penetration theory in action through a game of intrusive questions.

In a world where we are so often encouraged to achieve and excel, what magic unfolds when we lean into our perfectly imperfect selves? What happens when we blend laughter and play with the profound work of healing? 

Today, Dr. Scott welcomes Karine Bell, speaker, somatic educator and co-dreamer at The Rooted Global Village, clown-in-training, and somatic abolitionist to transform how we relate to trauma and oppression. With a foundation in community, liberation, indigenous, and eco-psychologies, she takes a decolonial approach to life ― meeting each moment with curiosity, wonder, and a trust in laughter for healing. Together, they explore the importance of embracing healthy shame as a tool for reflection, the impact of toxic shame and the power of embracing our quirky sides for profound personal and collective shifts.   

For a deep dive into the world of clowning, shame, and learning to laugh at ourselves, be sure to tune in for this expansive and compassionate conversation to find out if the serious can be seriously fun!

Topics We Break Down: 

• Learning to embrace the weirdness of being human.
• Accepting the irrationality inherent to the healing process.
• Cultivating spaces where we can truly show up as we are.
• Recognizing shame as a physiological human experience.
• Understanding the key differences between toxic and healthy shame.
• How modern society fails to create conditions for children and parents to thrive.
• The terror of letting go of beliefs about ourselves and expectations for our lives.
• Finding moments of levity and laughter to help us meet difficult challenges.

In a world where the pursuit of perfection often becomes a relentless race, have you ever paused to wonder what truly lies at the heart of perfectionism? Is it an internal drive towards excellence, or a mask for our own feelings of unworthiness, a manifestation of internal shame? 

In today’s episode, Dr. Scott welcomes Dr. Thomas Curran, a world-leading expert on perfectionism, author of The Perfectionism Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough, and associate professor of Psychological and Behavioural Science at the London School of Economics. Dr. Thomas has spent many years studying the cloak of perfectionism and how it negatively impacts our lives. In this episode, he breaks it all down for us, including how to understand the relationship of perfectionism to mental health, the social component of perfectionism, and the paradoxical way it blocks our path to genuine success and joy.

So, whether you've been caught in the snare of self-loathing for not meeting those sky-high goals or you’re simply seeking permission to embrace your beautifully imperfect self, this conversation is for you.

Topics We Break Down:

• Why perfectionism is and what it isn’t.
• The cost of perfectionism and why it isn’t worth it. 
• Why the perfectionist is also the procrastinator. 
• How to find joy in things you don’t do well.
• Vulnerability and how it brings us closer. 

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the quicksand of life's challenges, where every effort to move seems to pull you deeper into struggle? Or perhaps found yourself caught in a cycle of overachievement and overdoing, only to realize it's a shield against unprocessed trauma? This dance of resilience, this balancing act between breaking and rebuilding, just may be where we find our truest strength.

In this episode, Dr. Scott is joined by Dr. Neeta Bhushan, a former cosmetic dentist turned resilience expert and advocate for human connection. Author of the critically acclaimed book, That Sucked, Now What? and Founder of the Global Grit Institute and the Dharma Coaching Institute. Her work has received international recognition, being featured in Forbes, LA Weekly and more, inspiring countless individuals to turn their struggles into opportunities for growth. 

Prepare to be inspired, challenged, and transformed as we unravel the art of turning life’s most sucky moments into stepping stones for growth and self-realization. 

Topics We Break Down:

• What the fuck resilience actually is. 
• What it truly means to be able to sit in discomfort and ‘the stuck’. 
• Navigating over-achievement and resilience.
• Why it’s so dangerous to carry unprocessed emotions and how they manifest in our health. 
• What is behind the tendency to attract people who trigger what we refuse to face. 
• Returning to your own divinity through spiritual and somatic therapies.
• Learning to ask for support and finding value beyond caretaking and hyperfunction. 

What is the true price of admission for laughter that moves you to tears? 

This episode’s guest isn’t just a comedian; she’s a force of nature in the world of entertainment and advocacy. In today’s episode, Dr. Scott sits down with Margaret Cho, a  five-time Emmy nominee and a trailblazer for underrepresented groups who is reshaping the landscape of American comedy.

Together, they explore the curious, subversive edges of Margaret’s comedy, where she addresses the absurdity of culture, life during the pandemic, her love for TikTok and reality shows, and even her fascination with pimple popping. They’ll also dive into how she navigates Asian hate through her humor, her journey of healing from addiction, and the transformative power of choice and finding agency on the road to belonging. 

Are you ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even squirm a little? Join us for a rollercoaster ride of insight and revelations with the incomparable Margaret Cho!

Topics We Break Down:

• The role of humor in healing. 
• Navigating social boundaries in comedic storytelling.
• Approaching life as an evolving work of art.
• How subversive humor develops from the realm of curiosity.
• Using storytelling as a tool to process personal and generational trauma.
• Overcoming addiction through medication, physical activity, and animals.
• Finding agency on the road to belonging.

We’re often told that the path to healing is a straight line from pain to wholeness but what if the journey to reclaiming ourselves is more intricate, more nuanced, and more beautifully complex than we've been led to believe? What if healing is not about reaching a destination, but about compassionately attending to the suffering that has shaped us, and courageously embracing the full spectrum of our human experience?

Today, Dr Scott is joined by Dr. Arielle Schwartz , a clinical psychologist, yoga instructor, and pioneer in the field of resilience-informed therapy. With a deep understanding of trauma recovery, EMDR therapy, and somatic psychology, Dr. Schwartz has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate the nonlinear path of healing, one that honors both the wounds and the innate resilience within us all.

In this conversation, they’ll delve into the intricacies of the healing journey, exploring how trauma becomes encoded in our bodies and how attending to these experiences with mindfulness and self-compassion can lead to profound transformation. Together, Dr Scott and Arielle discuss the importance of creating a safe and accepting inner space, where all parts of ourselves are welcome, and how this radical self-acceptance is key to integrating the fragmented aspects of our being.

But this isn't just about personal healing; it's about reclaiming our power, our agency, and our inherent wholeness. Dr. Schwartz will guide us through the process of taking self-responsibility for our lives, of owning our stories and our potential for growth and the emergence of new possibilities. They'll also explore the evolution of somatic psychology, the power of embodiment practices like yoga, and the importance of integrating science and spirituality in our understanding of the human experience. 

Tune in, as we remind ourselves about the extraordinary capacity for healing that lies within us all.

Topics We Break Down:

• Differentiating between the concept of wholeness and the felt experience of homecoming.
• Cultivating unconditional self-acceptance as you show up for yourself.
• Defining the experiences that form the heart of trauma. 
• How a resilience-informed approach enables you to see the bigger picture. 
• The evolution of somatic therapy from catharsis to mindful attention and presence.
• Experiencing the spectrum of emotion that embodiment facilitates.
• Forging an embodied spiritual path. 
• Healing by bringing buried parts into the present moment.

There’s no question that astrology is having a moment, when even the non-believers among us will openly blame mercury for their technology troubles or saturn for the turbulence in their late 20’s. But what is it about understanding ourselves through the stars that is so compelling? What if astrology isn’t just about predicting our future but is actually a way to feel happier in our daily lives?  

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons is joined by Debra Silverman, Astrologer and Physiotherapist, to unpack the cosmic influences in our daily lives. Debra, author of The Missing Element and the host of The I Don't Believe In Astrology Podcast, views astrology not as a fortune-telling gimmick but as a compass for self-discovery, a playful guide, and a pathway to healing.

In our conversation, we explore the unexpected corridors of astrology and its profound insights into understanding the human condition. We unpack the symbiosis of astrology and psychology, the intricacies of our internal "complaining machine,” the limitations of the human operating system, activating the observer within us, the healing power of dance, and much more. 

Topics We Break Down:

• The intersection between astrology and psychology.
• Examples that demonstrate the value of astrology.
• Patterns of the human operating system.
• Turning on the observer within us.
• Insights into the healing concept of “embodiment.”
• Reconnecting with nature to overcome depression.

Ever find yourself questioning the jigsaw puzzle of health content out three on the interwebs, wondering if that extra bite of processed food is really playing roulette with your brain and gut health? And amidst the cacophony of dietary do's and don'ts, pondering why the dietary heroes and villains of the internet seem to switch roles and ideas almost daily. 

Enter Max Lugavere, a dynamo in the realms of health and science journalism. With bestsellers like "Genius Foods'' under his belt and the potent voice of The Genius Life podcast, Max doesn't just preach health; he bridges the gaps between diet, brain longevity, and delectable culinary choices. Through his lens, the connection between the foods we devour and the vitality of our minds isn't just a notion—it's a symphony, a dance, a harmonious interplay.

In this episode, Dr. Scott speaks with Max about health in the modern age, delving into evidence-based fitness strategies, the controversy surrounding carbs, and the golden triad of being “Happy, Healthy, Horny” to discover what truly propels us towards a state of well-being.

Join us as we disentangle the confusing webs of health advice, champion evidence over anecdotes and prioritize authenticity over trends. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Defining ‘health’ in all its facets and what it truly means to be healthy. 
• Developing resilience through fitness and health.
• The interconnected nature of metabolic, heart, and neurological health.
• What is behind overconsumption, underconsumption, and food quality.
• Returning to our own bodies for information about our health.

Have you ever found yourself laughing at a meme that felt eerily reflective of your own life or contemplated how our endless scrolling through digital feeds impacts our mental health? In an era where the lines between online personas and real-life emotions blur, we delve into the fascinating and often untold stories behind social media fame.

In this episode, Dr. Scott sits down with TikTok sensation Rod Thill to delve into the fascinating and untold stories behind social media fame, where the lines between online personas and real-life emotions blur. As you'll discover, Rod isn't your average content creator; he is a bold storyteller who blends millennial pop culture, humor, and raw honesty to talk about mental health and the realities of corporate life. 

From the intricate challenges of curating content for a diverse audience to forecasting the trends we hope to witness, we delve into Rod's experiences as a social media influencer. Tune in to reveal layers of fame, creativity, and the unspoken realities of navigating the digital limelight with Rod Thill.

Topics We Break Down:

• The essential act of setting boundaries for our well-being.
• Tackling social discourse as a content creator.
• Protecting your peace through self-prioritization
• Navigating the public’s expectations as an influencer
• How millennials are navigating the challenges of being the lost generation.

Ever wondered what it's like to navigate the glittering yet turbulent waters of celebrity and reality TV while striving to stay true to your own story? How does one maintain authenticity when every move is magnified, every choice scrutinized, in the high-stakes world of public life? It's a journey that demands a delicate balance between personal truth and public persona.

In this episode, Dr. Scott dives into these questions with Rachel Lindsay – an author, attorney, and a trailblazer in the realm of media. Known for breaking new ground as the first Black lead on 'The Bachelorette,' Rachel's journey extends far beyond the television screen. Her story is one of navigating fame, forging a path of self-discovery, and using her platform to inspire and lead with purpose.

Together, they’ll explore the challenges of living life in the public eye, the pressures and joys of being a role model, and Rachel’s evolution from reality TV star to a powerful voice in literature and advocacy. Prepare for a heartfelt and revealing discussion, as we celebrate the strength it takes to be a 'gently used human' in a world captivated by celebrity.

Topics We Break Down:

• Keeping up with the pressure of fame
• The power of purposefulness.
• Letting go of caution. 
• Reality TV and the psychological impact of living a performative life. 
• How being on a public platform impacts mental and emotional health. 

Have you ever felt a gut instinct guiding you, an inner whisper about the future, or a tingling alert to danger? Or noticed a string of coincidences that felt almost mystically aligned? Where do these signals come from, and what do they really mean?

In this episode, Dr. Scott welcomes Vincent Genna, a celebrated Psychic Therapist and Spiritual Teacher, renowned for his unique approach in connecting the spiritual with the everyday. Author of "The Secret That’s Holding You Back," Vincent doesn't just use his psychic gifts to explore the unseen; he also addresses the real-life obstacles that keep us trapped in unfulfilling patterns.

Join us as we navigate the fascinating realms of intuition, examining the interplay of vibrations and the balance between earthly desires and spiritual insights. We'll delve into the art of deep listening and learn to honor our inner voice amid the hustle and bustle of our daily lives.

Are you ready to embark on this journey of discovery and enlightenment? Tune in, as we uncover the mysteries of intuition and its powerful role in our lives.

Topics We Break Down:

• The science of intuition
• The brain vs the mind and why we need both
• Moving beyond self-protection mechanisms
• Trusting ourselves
• Discerning the difference between human ambition and intuitive response.

Falling in love, breaking up, the thrilling but often tricky dance of attraction – it's all part of relationships. But what happens when the intense chemistry leads us astray, into repeated pain and harmful patterns, ending in a tough breakup full of heartache? And once we're there, how do we pick ourselves up, heal, and face the challenging world of dating again?

Today on the podcast, Dr. Scott sits down with Amy Chan, an expert in healing from heartbreak and a leader in combining scientific and spiritual approaches for healthy dating. Amy, the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of "Breakup Bootcamp - The Science of Rewiring Your Heart," dives into the messy yet enlightening world of relationships and breakups.

Together, Dr. Scott and Amy unpack the complexities of romantic connections, discussing why we're drawn to certain people, the realness of vulnerability, and how to turn the end of a relationship into a new beginning. They explore how early life patterns affect our love lives and share tips for bouncing back stronger after a breakup.

Tune in for an engaging talk with Amy Chan, where you'll find insights on navigating through heartbreak, embracing the dating scene again, and rewiring your heart for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Topics We Break Down:

• The value of a kind breakup.
• Key tenants of good communication.
• The complexity of chemistry and attraction.
• Attachment theory and repatterning your attachment stance.
• How we heal within relationships.
• The dangers of putting people on a pedestal.
• Strategies for better dating.
• The power of authentic vulnerability.

Have you ever caught yourself in a moment of sheer joy and thought: why can't life always feel like this? Today's guest believes that effortless ease and play is the key to unlocking our inner guide and focusing on what truly matters to us. 

On the podcast today, Dr. Scott welcomes Grace Harry (The Joy Strategist) for a fascinating conversation about rediscovering and fostering joy in our lives. Beyond simply enjoying happiness when it arrives, Grace advocates for infusing joy into the very essence of our daily lives, recognizing its potential to drive profound, systemic change.

In their conversation, Dr. Scott and Grace delve into the art of self-kindness, often reserved for others and the significance of being the architects of our own joy. They explore the deep impact of staying present in our happiness quest and offer insights into shifting from being 'triggered' to living in a state of contentment. This uplifting episode promises to guide listeners through the nuances of maintaining joyfulness, staying present, and fostering authentic connections in life. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Your heart’s job as the joy strategist of your own life.
• How we can take the development of personal joy into creating change in our world. 
• What it truly means to be “triggered” and where the responsibility lies.
• Dangers of losing yourself in order to make others happy instead of prioritizing personal joy. 
• Creating containers of intimacy to facilitate joy. 
• Recognizing over-performance in our own lives. 

Have you ever witnessed the transformative power of a single swipe of bold lipstick or found yourself wondering how TikTok turned the sunburn into the latest beauty trend? Have you ever debated whether makeup is a repressive and exploitative device or a transformative power of self-expression? Is it hurting our mental health or unlocking our creativity? 

Today, Dr. Scott welcomes Carrie Barber, a visionary in the beauty world who has reshaped beauty standards with her transformative approach. From art director for leading brands to trailblazer with MAKE Beauty, her career is a mosaic of innovation and a conscious beauty ethos. This chat delves into planet-friendly beauty, the evolving landscape of clean cosmetics, and the innovative integration of lab-engineered natural ingredients.

Together, they’ll explore the dynamic world of digital-age trends and the deep connections between beauty, mental health, and self-acceptance. Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration into beauty's powerful potential, uncovering how it can be a catalyst for positive change, enriching not only our personal lives but also making a broader impact on the world.

Topics We Break Down:

• How biotechnology is changing the beauty industry
• Qualities of a successful entrepreneur
• The intersection between mental health and beauty
• How growth mindset helps with business (and life) challenges
• Why trust and sustainability are essential for cosmetics brands

What if you were to play a game of hide-and-seek with yourself or pin the tail on the authentic you? What if, in the adventure of discovering who you are, you must get completely lost in the process? All the while dancing with the inevitable existential truths of death, isolation, and meaninglessness- while just trying to get to work on time!

Today's guest is Dr. Sara Kuburic, also known as The Millennial Therapist, an existential psychotherapist whose life narrative is as compelling and intricate as the topics she explores. Dr. Sara brings to the table not just her extensive professional expertise, including her new book, "It's on Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life," but also a rich tapestry of personal experiences. Having lived through wars and navigated complex relationships, she offers a unique perspective on the existential threads that weave through our lives.

In this thought-provoking conversation, Dr. Scott and Dr. Sara delve into the tension between living life authentically and merely performing it. They discuss the balancing act of taking responsibility while finding freedom and examine the interplay of truth, resistance, and the enigma of self-discovery. This episode invites listeners to reflect on authenticity: What does it truly mean? Whose authenticity are we considering? Is it a process of peeling back layers of self-preservation, or is it an unrestrained, bold revelation through the streets of existence?

If you've ever pondered the nature of authenticity and how to embrace it, this episode promises to offer insightful perspectives and guide you on your path to self-understanding.

Topics We Break Down:

• The cost of working against yourself. 
• What authenticity is not. 
• Grasping the suffering that accompanies being human.
• People’s difficult relationship with the truth. 
• Why safety is required for truth and turning inward.

Ever stared down the barrel of a kale smoothie straw and thought, "Is this it – the elixir of life?" Or swallowed up the latest superfood while wondering if the real fountain of youth was something more... substantial? 

In today's enlightening episode, Dr. Scott delves into these questions with Dan Buettner, the National Geographic Fellow and New York Times bestselling author who uncovered the world's Blue Zones—regions where people live extraordinarily long and healthful lives. With the zest of an explorer and the insight of a researcher, Dan pulls back the curtain on how environment, lifestyle, and community weave together to create the widespread vitality found in these remarkable areas.

Together, they'll decode the lifestyle of super-agers and share the surprising ingredients for longevity that exist, not in some magic supplement, but in the collective recipes of purpose, faith, and connectivity. Dan will share his experiences and learnings from the Blue Zones and illuminate how we can cultivate these principles within our own neighborhoods, transforming them into our very own hubs of health and happiness. Whether you're seeking to add more candles to your birthday cake or simply aiming to enhance the quality of your days, this episode is an essential listen.

Topics We Break Down:

• The role of the environment in willpower.
• How happiness affects longevity. 
• The power of an intentional social circle. 
• Simple changes that make a huge difference in wellbeing. 
• Why purpose matters.

Have you ever felt afraid to embrace parts of your full, messy, multifaceted self? What would it look like to unapologetically own and express the totality of who you are? Or wondered how your life might transform if you gave yourself that radical permission?

In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by the inimitable Marie Forleo, an entrepreneur, writer, philanthropist and unshakable optimist. From her early days bartending in New York to building a multimillion-dollar socially-conscious empire, Marie has defied convention and forged her own unique path by tuning into her inner voice.

In this delightful conversation, Marie shares her hard-won wisdom on overcoming limiting beliefs, cultivating unshakable faith in ourselves, and finding the courage to pursue our dreams against all odds. She also reveals the transformative power of her mantra (and book title), Everything is Figureoutable, which has changed her life and empowered countless others.

Together, Dr Scott and Marie dive into the importance of embracing our multi-passionate nature, giving ourselves permission to experiment and evolve, and trusting the journey even when the path ahead is uncertain. Marie will challenge us to question the excuses we make, to confront our deepest fears, and to take bold action in service of our highest potential.

This episode is a loving kick in the pants and a compassionate embrace all in one. So grab a notebook, get ready to laugh, and let's get ready to figure it all out.

Topics We Break Down:

• Forging a unique path by turning to your inner voice for wisdom.
• The power of movement to help you cultivate self-confidence.
• Tools of creation that you can rely on to access higher intelligence.
• Practical techniques to help you learn the language of your intuition.
• 3 simple rules to help you apply the Figureoutable Philosophy and become unstoppable.
• Why you already have everything you need to achieve anything you desire.
• Advice from Mother Nature for when it feels like you’ve hit a plateau.
• How to use “fuck you fuel” to fire yourself up for success!

Have you ever felt lost in the vast wilderness of relationships, chasing a trail of breadcrumbs, hoping they might show you the way? Have you ever wondered if there’s a reliable map, maybe a magical compass, to navigate through the complex dance of partnership without sacrificing a piece of yourself in the process? Or just asked yourself… “What is a healthy relationship, and how do I maintain it?”

In today’s episode, Dr. Scott sits down with therapist, facilitator, and coach, Dené Logan as they explore the rich terrain of relationships. With her nuanced approach blending depth psychology and a profound understanding of human connection, Dené illuminates the journey of self-nurturing and building genuine bonds. As we embark on the quest of understanding the three pillars of peak connection, she shares her insights on the true essence of couples therapy, the keystones of a flourishing relationship, and the difficult but rewarding work of reparenting ourselves.

From the power of embracing your true self and spotting your tribe to the art of balancing in relationships, join us as we journey deep into the relational landscape. 

Topics We Break Down:

• Nurturing through strength-based approaches.
• Constructing thriving relationships.
• Graceful relational transitions.
• Avoiding romantic reparenting.
• Navigating breadcrumbing in dating.
• Unpacking harmful pedestal placement.
• Exploring evolving definitions of love.

Have you ever found yourself lost in the enchanting world of a fairy-tale romance, losing sight of your own identity? Have you ever brushed off a heartfelt compliment, doubting its authenticity, or deflected it as a means to avoid accepting it? In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with Vanessa Bennett, a licensed holistic psychotherapist, facilitator, codependency expert, podcaster, and Mama to help uncover how our past shapes the way we see and experience the world. 

Vanessa is the author of the best-selling relationship book It's Not Me, It's You, which offers readers profound insights into the essential elements of enduring and healthy relationships. Vanessa is renowned for her holistic approach which incorporates her years of experience and a deep understanding of Buddhist and psychological principles. She is also the co-host of the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, which explores the depths of human experience, combining psychology of the soul, yogic psychology, and mindfulness to help others live authentically and connect with their inner selves. 

Throughout their conversation, Vanessa skillfully peels back the narratives we write to protect ourselves, revealing those glistening “golden shadows” - the strengths and virtues we often overlook. Together, they navigate the intricate landscape of codependency, those delicate relationship dynamics that can leave us feeling adrift. They unearth the reasons behind our relentless quest for acceptance in others, the ebb, and flow of relationships, the hurdles that often obstruct genuine opportunities for validation, and much more. If you are seeking embodiment and the path to self-acceptance, then this episode is for you.

Topics We Break Down:

• Societal values and how they influence self-acceptance.
• Weaponizing positive attributes.
• Consequences of seeking outside validation.
• Codependence and interdependence in relationships.
• Friction as a path to well-being and self-acceptance.
• Therapeutic role-playing techniques.

Ever glanced at the food pyramid and thought, 'How am I supposed to climb that?' Everywhere you turn on social media, another food guru is dishing out bold, sometimes confusing advice about what we should and shouldn't eat. You might've wondered: whose food rules am I supposed to follow? And those oh so tempting carbs — are they our culinary friends or foes?

In this delicious episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Jenna Werner — a registered dietitian, nutritionist, and owner Happy, Strong, Healthy. Explore the age-old love affair with the perfect body, how it's changed over time, and its influence on our meal choices. From the pull of trending diets to the empowering message of anti-diet culture, from the secrets of the "blue zones" where folks live the longest to the exciting world of intuitive eating — this episode promises a tasty journey for both your mind and soul.

Together, they tap into the whispers of our digital age — the double-edged sword of social media, where hyper-connectivity often masks isolation and where extremes scream loudest in the echo chambers. Unearth the magic (and mystery) buried in nutrition; you’ll find your own delectable 'foodgasm.' Whether you're seeking a sprinkle of wisdom, a dash of laughter, or a full course of introspection, this episode is a feast not to be missed.

Topics We Break Down

• Weight stigma, skinny privilege, and the nuances of external validation.
• The indispensable role of community in a holistic healthy lifestyle.
• Empowering personal expertise in understanding our own bodies.
• The fluctuating landscape of nutrition: from diet fads to food pyramids.
• Balancing physical health with mental well-being.

Have you ever gazed up into the vast expanse of the night sky, and defiantly murmured, 'Hey, you're not the boss of me,' but deep down felt an inkling of doubt? Are those twinkling constellations just  glittering lights, or do they possess an ancient wisdom that molds our personas, sways our relationships, and even nudges us when we stand at life's crossroads? Or is it possible that we are just searching the heavens for a reflection of our own hopes and fears, desperate for a narrative that makes meaning out of life’s chaos.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons invites you to a hilarious, insightful, and playful fireside chat with astrologer Colin Bedell. Together, they navigate the connections between astrology and psychological archetypes, unraveling the kaleidoscope of human nature. With his infectious charm, Colin paints a vibrant picture of how the cosmos might serve as a guide without dictating our path. But they also navigate the trickier waters, asking: At what point might we risk giving up our power, letting stars or spiritual guides dictate our identity and decisions? And when might these very forces help us rediscover our authentic selves?

This isn't just any chat about the cosmos; it's a lively dance between skepticism and belief, science and wonder. So whether you're in the mood for some hearty laughter or a starlit introspection, this episode promises a delightful, flirtatious romp through the universe.

Topics We Cover

• Moving beyond single truths and prophecies.
• The role of archetypes in decoding human behavior patterns.
• The intersections of astrology and psychology
• Universal truths, confirmation bias, and the Barnum effect.
• The healing potential of astrology in relationships