Explore every episode of the podcast The Gathering Room Podcast
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| Joy Is the Only Strategy | 29 Aug 2024 | 00:30:46 | |
Can you remember times when you’ve experienced pure joy? CONNECT WITH US
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| Your Best Next Step | 22 Aug 2024 | 00:31:52 | |
There’s a saying Martha likes that goes, “A hundred years before you were born, God drew a circle around the place you're standing now." In other words, you are here because you are meant to be here—but from this place, you can literally go in any direction! So what is the best next step for you to take? That’s what Martha is talking about on this episode of The Gathering Room podcast. She shares all of the things she’s been “nerding out” over in her quest to discover her best next step: the adjacent possible, liquid networks, and what Dylan Thomas called “the force that through the green fuse drives the flower.” The “adjacent possible” means something that can happen but hasn’t happened yet, and we humans are in an adjacent possible right now—it’s possible to fix everything that is broken, given the technologies we have and the ideas that we come up with. Martha says that when there's a big thing that wants to happen, the information and ideas necessary to come up with it are hidden in a kind of mosaic: We’re all equipped with different fragments that only make sense when we come together. “Whenever I am close to a best next step,” she says, “the hair on my arms prickles a lot. I feel sort of guided to certain books. I get obsessed with songs and I look them up and the lyrics give me ideas, and I am drawn to certain other people.” Martha shares how to sense when something wonderful is coming—something delicious and delightful and exhilarating and new that you've been preparing for your whole life—and allow the intelligence of nature to show you your best next step toward it. If you’re ready to take that best next step, be sure to tune in for the full episode, where Martha also shares the best next step she’s most excited about in her own life. Don’t miss it! CONNECT WITH US
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| Listen Again: Want Out? Lean In! | 13 Jun 2024 | 00:31:33 | |
How do you respond when you’re in a painful situation and there’s no way out? The answer is paradoxical. Come learn how to do it with this week’s Gathering Room! CONNECT WITH US
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| How to Have a Breakthrough | 03 Mar 2022 | 00:30:50 | |
In the Gathering Room this week, Martha tells you how to keep moving towards your heart’s desires, even when they seem unattainable. Also, some juicy listener questions in this episode! (Originally aired, February 27, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| How to Make Everything Better | 17 Feb 2022 | 00:30:12 | |
Life is full of ups and downs, and most of us get pretty knocked around by it. In this Gathering Room, Martha teaches us a simple psychological step that can instantly make suffering diminish and happiness increase. Listen to learn how! (Originally aired, February 13, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Gift of Embarrassment | 10 Feb 2022 | 00:32:33 | |
This week on the Gathering Room, Martha takes on embarrassment, which ensues when we reveal truths the ego would rather hide. We can react by hiding more (increasing shame) or watching our embarrassment calmly. Try the second option, and you’ll see your ego burning up in real time, leaving you freer. (Originally aired, February 6, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Slow is Fast | 03 Feb 2022 | 00:31:58 | |
In this week’s Gathering Room, Martha talks about a concept that seems paradoxical in the context of our speed-obsessed culture. Look at that thing you think you need to do. Look at the time you’re estimating it will take you. Now double that time. What happens? (Originally aired, January 30, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do | 27 Jan 2022 | 00:31:13 | |
Martha had an unexpected encounter with a wild animal this past week, and it gave her some insight about what to do when you’re freaking out. Listen in to learn the significance of “pulling over,” the role of co-regulation in dealing with fear and trauma, and the answers to listeners’ questions. (Originally aired, January 23, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| How to Have a Wild Inventure | 20 Jan 2022 | 00:29:39 | |
Martha is joined this week by Rowan Mangan (https://www.instagram.com/rowan_mangan/) to talk about Ro’s concept of “Wild Inventures,” the idea of reframing our lives according to what is true within us instead of borrowing dreams from the culture. Have a laugh and learn some new skills with Martha and Ro as they talk past adventures, Ro’s passion for kidney beans, and the stillness that comes once you’ve peeled back all the layers of your identity. (Originally aired, January 16, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Grit Magic | 13 Jan 2022 | 00:31:03 | |
We hear a lot about flow and ease, and these things are WONDERFUL. Yet part of what makes our human experience worth having is grit. Doing whatever we can to achieve something that our soul craves. Enter GRIT MAGIC. Start it when you don’t feel ready. Send your work in before you feel it’s complete. Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor. Learn how to harness your own grit magic today! (Originally aired, January 9, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Planless Plan For the Year Ahead | 06 Jan 2022 | 00:31:33 | |
In this week’s episode, Martha talks about living life the way an improv comedian works on stage. There is no set script, just as there is no set of absolute conditions that we’ll encounter through the coming year. Instead, we can follow the basic rules of comedy. Watch to find out how! (Originally aired, January 2, 2022) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| How to Take a Break - Really | 02 Jan 2023 | 00:30:16 | |
How good are you at taking a break? This week, Martha explains that taking a break starts with letting go of our resistance to what we’re really feeling. Then all kinds of magic can reach us! (Originally aired, December 12, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Holiday Survival Tools | 09 Dec 2021 | 00:30:16 | |
At this time of year, some of us feel joy… while others are mostly feeling dread. If you’re in the second group, watch this week’s Gathering Room. Martha helps you make the worst of the holidays into the best. You can find a link to Dysfunctional Family Bingo in the show notes. (Originally aired, December 5, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Listen Again: The Way Back to Happy | 06 Jun 2024 | 00:29:30 | |
You’ve heard of the fight and flight reflexes, but what about flop and fake? Flop and fake (also known as fawn) are two of the other responses in the polyvagal system, a theory about how our nervous systems adapt to stress and the environment. Fake/fawn is a people-pleasing response, and flop means you just lie there unable to drum up motivation. In this special “Listen Again” episode of The Gathering Room, Martha’s talking about polyvagal theory and how to regulate your nervous system when it gets hijacked by fight, flight, flop, fake, or freeze. One of the things polyvagal theory says is that we can never go into a calm, alert state unless our nervous systems are interacting with one of four things: self, others, nature, and spirit. The good news is that Martha has a process to help you do exactly that! If you’re feeling frazzled, overstimulated, or overwhelmed and you need some relief, tune in and let Martha guide you back to your center of calm. With a few prompts, you can start to regulate your nervous system and become conscious of the beauty, joy, and love all around you. CONNECT WITH US
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| How to Change Everything | 02 Dec 2021 | 00:30:30 | |
Stories. They have more power over us than we might think. But we can choose (yes, CHOOSE) to retell stories in ways that can re-train our brains! Join Martha for this week’s Gathering Room and learn how to teach the fear triggers of the brain to chill out. Just in time for the holidays! (Originally aired, November 28, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Light at the End of the Tunnel | 18 Nov 2021 | 00:30:08 | |
This week on the Gathering Room, Martha goes into the light. She talks about the shift from a bleak and difficult worldview to an experience of life that feels joyful and safe. She calls this the light at the end of the tunnel—but reminds us that the tunnel is one we have to dig ourselves. (Originally aired, November 14, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Hidden Path to Peace | 11 Nov 2021 | 00:28:03 | |
In this week's Gathering Room, Martha talks about the fear that can affect us without our conscious minds ever knowing why. A sight, smell or sound associated with negative experiences in the past can put us into fear or anger without a single verbal thought entering our minds. She explains how to remove the triggers that cause these deep and difficult fears. (Originally aired, November 8, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Go Where You're Sent | 28 Oct 2021 | 00:32:55 | |
This week on The Gathering Room, Martha talks about intuition: how to nurture it, what it feels like, and why you should do what it says! Hear some top stories about times Martha followed her intuition and went where she was sent…and the large and small consequences of these moments. (Originally aired: October 24, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Elder, Not Older | 21 Oct 2021 | 00:33:12 | |
This week on the Gathering Room, Martha digs into the difference between getting older and becoming an “elder” of society. Learning to be an elder means aging in reverse—starting from a place where you feel cramped and stiff and then moving into more and more fluidity, joy, and playfulness. (Originally aired: October 17, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Thing About Pain | 14 Oct 2021 | 00:31:24 | |
What’s the thing about pain? This week Martha talks about what Alan Gordon calls “neuroplastic pain” and some techniques for dealing with pain using only your brilliant brain! Plus, your questions and a Gathering Room huddle for all our peeps going into surgery this week. (Originally aired: October 10, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| How to Keep On Keeping On | 07 Oct 2021 | 00:29:55 | |
This week, Martha offers some counterintuitive advice for how to keep going even when our goals feel far-off or the present moment feels difficult. Spoiler alert: the answer is all around you right now. (Originally aired: September 27, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Turmoil of Transition | 30 Sep 2021 | 00:30:38 | |
This week, Martha discusses the often tumultuous experience that accompanies a quantum leap in personal growth. Tune in to hear how bad skiing is the perfect metaphor for life changes, how our brains develop new skills through sudden leaps of insight … And how an anonymous mystical text from the 14th century probably holds the solution to your latest personal faceplant. (Originally aired: September 27, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| How to Ask | 23 Sep 2021 | 00:31:07 | |
In this week’s Gathering Room, Martha talks about the art of asking. How to ask for what you want—whether it’s love, breakfast, or the fulfillment of your wildest dreams—is hard. And our culture has taught us to misunderstand what happens when you ask for what you want. Martha explains how the “calculus of matter” is misleading and how if we can recalibrate into the “calculus of magic,” life can become truly miraculous. (Originally aired: September 19, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Riding the Maelstrom | 09 Sep 2021 | 00:30:44 | |
In this week’s Gathering Room, Martha talks about the times when change picks us up and throws us around. When we reach these “maelstroms” in our lives, Martha says, the key is to surrender as we might in the experience of being dumped by a wave. When the mind surrenders control, we become open to all the natural processes that our souls want to enact through us. (Originally aired: September 5, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Listen Again: Martha with Dr. Dick Schwartz | 30 May 2024 | 00:35:03 | |
For this special “Listen Again” episode of The Gathering Room, Martha is sharing her conversation with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the brilliant creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a wonderful therapeutic model that Martha loves using! IFS provides an optimistic, empowering framework to help us focus on the different “parts” of our personalities so that we can shift into a state characterized by curiosity, calm, confidence, and compassion. Tune in for their conversation about Richard’s latest book, YOU ARE THE ONE YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR: APPLYING INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS TO INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS, which is available at all major retailers. If you’re interested in learning more about IFS, you won’t want to miss this one! CONNECT WITH US
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| Finding Second Sight | 02 Sep 2021 | 00:31:39 | |
Martha shares the secret of her own “second sight”—how being a visual artist has changed the way she physically sees the world. Using her own most recent paintings, Martha explains how she sees when she uses the left hemisphere of her brain versus the right. We all have this ability to turn on second sight, Martha says, and to see the infinite light within every material form. (Originally aired: August 29, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Gathering Room: Why and How to Hope With Dr Jill Bolte Taylor | 26 Aug 2021 | 01:01:43 | |
In this very special, hour-long Gathering Room, Martha talks to her friend and hero Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor about a subject we all need to hear more about: HOPE. Jill talks about hope in microcosm (the neural networks of the brain), while Martha looks at how the exact same systems and processes function at the macro level of groups of people and ecosystems. (Originally aired: August 22, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Transformation of Consciousness is Now | 12 Aug 2021 | 00:30:41 | |
Martha has believed all her life that a transformation of human consciousness would take place in her lifetime. Over the decades, she’s met more and more people who share this inexplicable belief that a mass “awakening” could change humanity’s future. In this week’s episode, Martha talks about what this transformation might look like and the hope it offers us at this particularly troubling time in history. (Originally aired: August 8, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Tuning Yourself to Joy | 05 Aug 2021 | 00:29:35 | |
When a guitar string is plucked, the note will spontaneously resonate with another guitar nearby—provided they are tuned the same. In today’s episode, Martha uses this metaphor to explore the ways that life creates resonances for us when we tune ourselves in certain ways. Martha gives tips for tuning yourself to joy, if this is the frequency you’d like to see matched in your life. (Originally aired: August 1, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Gathering Room: On Being an Empath, with Anita Moorjani | 29 Jul 2021 | 00:30:50 | |
On this very special Gathering Room, Martha was joined by Anita Moorjani. Anita’s new book, Sensitive Is the New Strong, is a must-read for people who identify as empathic or highly sensitive. In their Gathering Room conversation, Martha and Anita talked about why the world needs its empaths now more than ever, and how to develop a self-love that means we are equipped to give our gifts to the world. Anita’s best tip for this? Learn the art of receiving. (Originally aired: July 25, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Get it Wrong in all the Right Ways | 22 Jul 2021 | 00:29:26 | |
We’re often told it’s pointless to beat ourselves up for making mistakes, but Martha takes it a step further and says that error isn’t just useful, it’s crucial to getting things right. Making mistakes leads to learning and can also lead to discovery and reinvention. She points out that accidents and missteps led to the discovery of penicillin, photography, even potato chips! The discussion wraps with an exercise to retrain our brains to notice the good in every gaffe. (Originally aired: July 18, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| A Little Healing Magic | 15 Jul 2021 | 00:27:59 | |
In his book Break Through Pain, meditation expert Shinzen Young says that pain separates us from the divine, and learning to handle it skillfully is akin to grinding it into sand. In this conversation, Martha is recovering from surgery and describes using Young’s book to map and define her pain. She explains that pain is nature calling us to return to our bodies, but it doesn’t necessarily equate to suffering. There is magic in our minds that can transform pain into wisdom. (Originally aired: July 11, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Treasure in Every Problem | 24 Jun 2021 | 00:31:23 | |
We may conceptualize creativity as a free-flowing stream, but Martha points out that constraint is an excellent source of creative inspiration. When we have all the time and resources in the world, we feel aimless … but given an hour and a socket wrench, we can change the world! Martha shares examples from her own life, showing how every time she faced a situation full of constraints, it catalyzed a creative leap. Every problem contains the raw material for its own solution. (Originally aired: June 20, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Gathering Room with Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor | 17 Jun 2021 | 00:32:10 | |
The Gathering Pod welcomes neuroanatomist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor to talk about her new book, Whole Brain Living, which Martha describes as “brain science from a user’s perspective.” In 1996, Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain causing her to lose the ability to walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. Then she rebuilt it back to full function over the course of eight years, emerging with a truly transcendent worldview. (Originally aired: Jue 13, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Don't Avoid the Void | 10 Jun 2021 | 00:31:39 | |
Most people in our community have explored meditation, centering prayer, or other forms of spiritual contemplation … and may have come face to face with THE VOID. (Dun dun dunnnn.) Martha explains that when people encounter nothingness, they often feel fear and despair. Her own first experience with finding the void through meditation felt that way, but in this discussion she explains how we can transform our relationship with the void into one of creativity and genuine joy. (Originally aired: June 6, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Listen Again: How to Spark the Magic | 23 May 2024 | 00:34:31 | |
Are you in the mood to make some magic? Martha is! And in this special “Listen Again” episode of The Gathering Room, she’s sharing inspiration from Suzanne Eder’s book, What You Want Wants You, to help you reconnect with your true desires so you can follow the path to your soul’s fulfillment. While our culture teaches us to associate desire with selfishness and even depravity—a.k.a. “base desire”—Eder’s book says this is a misinterpretation. Instead, real desire is an expression of the one soul that is the basic ground of being for all of us. As Martha elaborates, we’re all pure divine essence, and to be in physical form is to perceive an apparent separation between ourselves and all other things. The truth, however, is that we are all one. Tapping into that truth and being kind to the self are the ways we spark magic. To learn how to drop the illusion of separation, get in touch with your true desires, and start creating a life that works for you like magic, don’t miss the full episode! CONNECT WITH US
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| The Cure for Overwhelm | 03 Jun 2021 | 00:31:03 | |
As we move toward life after Covid, many of us are feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed. We’re facing a deluge of decisions demanding attention, causing bottlenecks in our brains that make it impossible to focus on anything at all. Martha explains that the Practical Wayfinding: Creativity Mindset is the answer. Instead of allowing us to freeze up, it helps us remain curious, explore our options, and focus on building solutions. She offers us a few hacks to help us access our creativity under duress. (Originally aired: May 30, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Mess For Success (Why It’s Good to Screw Up) | 27 May 2021 | 00:30:25 | |
As any artist will tell you, creativity is rarely tidy. Lately Martha has been expressing her creativity by drawing and painting, relishing the trail of brushes, rags, and sketchbooks she leaves in her wake. Then, after working intently on one canvas, she decided she’d RUINED it … before she remembered that before order, there is chaos. When we decide to build something beautiful out of our lives, it will be messy. And when we see the mess, we are very close to success. (Originally aired: May 23, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The One Simple Skill that Makes Bad Times Shrink and Good Times Grow | 20 May 2021 | 00:32:26 | |
While promoting her new book, Martha found herself tapped out and exhausted. She quickly realized she hadn’t been using the one skill that helps her manage the rollercoaster of life: non-attachment. In this conversation, Martha explains that despite its somewhat uninviting name, this skill makes our good times last longer and go deeper, and makes our bad times easier to weather. She also explains how it relates to spiders and tells us how to apply it to our daily lives. (Originally aired: May 16, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Good Guess Mountain and Why It Is Messing Up Your Life | 29 Apr 2021 | 00:33:46 | |
Ever think if you just try harder or achieve more, you’ll FINALLY feel whole and happy? Martha warns us that this is a misconception shoved at us by culture, which insists that fame, money, and accomplishment are the answers to everything. In reality, doing things that don’t feed our souls will be unfulfilling. We must go back to the first principles of what we love, back to the fundamentals of our true nature, to find activities and ideas that will be deeply rewarding. (Originally aired: Apr. 25, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Magic Stories from the Cutting Room Floor | 22 Apr 2021 | 00:30:38 | |
In this conversation, Martha reveals several freaky-deaky stories that she couldn’t quite squeeze into her new book, The Way of Integrity! She talks about finding and moving to her ranch in California, meeting a massive rattlesnake, a very unusual flock of turkeys, how she acquired her own personal labyrinth, and more. (Originally aired: Apr. 18, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Getting off the Roller Coaster | 15 Apr 2021 | 00:29:18 | |
Just before the release of her latest book, The Way of Integrity, Martha describes feeling pulled in many directions and drifting away from her true self! She describes the ups and downs of preparing to release a huge creative project into the world, and her realization that she must get off the roller coaster of human emotion and back into the truth of her spirit. When your mind, heart, soul, and body are all telling the same story, everything in life flows more easily. (Originally aired: Apr. 11, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Managing Problem Relationships | 01 Apr 2021 | 00:34:29 | |
Martha identifies as a codependent: someone who helps others even when helping is to her own detriment. Since many of Martha’s listeners have similar personalities, she shares a coping technique she formulated after reading Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. People who don’t experience empathy, such as narcissists and psychopaths, are very hard for codependents to understand. Managing these relationships means acknowledging that empathy and reasoning are absent, and acting accordingly. (Originally aired: Mar. 28, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Signs of New Life | 25 Mar 2021 | 00:31:51 | |
This conversation took place right after the Spring Equinox, a time when day and night are equal in length. Martha points out that this is a time of transition and a reminder that life can be experienced cyclically if we so choose. She adds, though, that while we are experiencing spring again as part of a cycle, we are also experiencing this particular spring for the very first time. Perhaps it’s time to start an entirely new life, with fresh eyes and an open heart. (Originally aired: Mar. 21, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Safe Side of Fear | 18 Mar 2021 | 00:29:32 | |
In an interview with Inspire Nation podcast host Michael Sandler, Martha explained that living with integrity WILL bring fear into your life. You’ll realize you’ve been betraying your authentic self to coddle people around you. We all do this because social pushback is frightening! Then Michael described the edge between destructive fear and fear we feel despite being safe. Martha offers an exercise to approach that edge safely. (Originally aired: Mar. 14, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Using Your Creativity for Good Instead of Evil | 11 Mar 2021 | 00:30:00 | |
After hearing Brene Brown declare that “unused creativity is not benign,” Martha and her family decided to hold a Creativity Day … but when Martha sat down to paint, she found it terrifying and overwhelming! This is because culture trains us to value activities done for money or to help others over activities that help us build meaningful and joyful lives for ourselves. Martha challenges us to push the edge of creativity, past any blocks, until we can feel the euphoric flow. (Originally aired: Mar. 7, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Your Spiritual Brain | 16 May 2024 | 00:32:44 | |
Have you ever experienced synchronicity? As Martha defines it in this episode of The Gathering Room, a synchronicity is any event or experience that seems to confirm or indicate that the universe is not random—that there's something making all this happen. Martha has been re-reading The Awakened Brain by Dr. Lisa Miller, who writes about synchronicities and what she calls a “spiritual docking station” in the human brain. What Dr. Miller found in her research is that when people are open to the idea of spiritual realities like synchronicities, they have access to much more physical and mental health, and they’re more resilient and more resistant to anxiety and depression. Martha says that when she opens the docking station of her own brain, it feels like a loving, beautiful presence is able to move through her. It gives her the experience of seeming to do things herself but also relax into being moved by a loving, creative force. It’s only when we relax our nervous systems, Martha says, that we can feel the consciousness of the universe because the consciousness of the universe does not respond to anxiety and desperation. It responds to joy, love, and trust. To learn how to keep your spiritual docking station open so you can look for synchronicities in your own life, be sure to tune in for the full episode. Martha will also guide you through her Silence, Stillness, and Space meditation to allow those synchronicities to start showing up! CONNECT WITH US
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| Making a Fresh Start | 25 Feb 2021 | 00:32:22 | |
We cannot force fresh starts. They come when they want to come, and they always begin inside of us. Martha describes the feeling of being “fed up” as crucial to catalyzing sweeping change, but also explains the concept of being “full fed.” A caterpillar cannot become a butterfly unless it is full fed, meaning plump enough to sustain its transformation. Fresh starts in our own lives must be similarly resourced or true metamorphosis simply cannot occur! (Originally aired: Feb. 21, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| The Problem with Overgiving | 18 Feb 2021 | 00:31:33 | |
Although many of our cultural stories focus on generosity, selflessness, and giving MORE, Martha uses this episode to stress the importance of reserving resources for ourselves. She points out that when we overgive we may actually prevent people from learning and growing on their own. (And, of course, WE end up drained and exhausted.) Giving should feel joyful, and when it doesn’t, we can absolutely dial it back. (Originally aired: Feb. 14, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||
| Holding Boundaries | 11 Feb 2021 | 00:30:03 | |
How do you cultivate vulnerability while maintaining healthy boundaries with others? Striking this balance is especially complicated if we keep ourselves emotionally wide-open or utterly closed-off at all times, tendencies that many sensitive people favor. When we’ve been repeatedly hurt by people or systems, it can be hard to know who and how to trust. Martha offers tactics and resources for connecting with others and sharing ourselves in healthy, safe ways. (Originally aired: Feb. 7, 2021) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. | |||