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Exploring THE Spiritual Art (For Your Closure)

Why did I begin the Free to be Show?

What makes you feel that are not free to exist?

For the final episode of my podcast, I am speaking freely about the most normalized form of narcissistic abuse and how you alchemize it.

When you experience narcissistic abuse your personality splits into your authentic self and your representative, your mask. It is clinically called Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously known as multiple personality disorder, is a complex psychological condition caused by many things. These include severe trauma during early childhood (usually extreme, repetitive physical, sexual, or emotional abuse). It's also known as split personality disorder. Reference 

Interestingly there exists a normalized version of this that may lead to a mental health issue over time for BIPOC in general but especially Black women. The first capture of this phenomenon was in the 1903 book, “The Souls of Black Folk,” written by the late civil rights leader W.E.B. DuBois spoke about Black people surviving by highlighting the need for Black Americans to recognize their double-consciousness, or the two parts of their identity: their Blackness and their “Americanness” — or how they were viewed by white Americans. DuBois talked about double-consciousness, and that’s what code-switching is now,” Dr. Barlow adds. “You had to, for your survival, exhibit that double-consciousness.” Reference Jodi Ann Burrey talks about showing up as your “authentic self” at work as a Black woman is the same as not wearing a custom to a Halloween party in her TED talk The Myth of bringing your full authentic self to work.

This is the beginning of generational trauma or taught imposter syndrome. Because you are always proving to the world that you are someone you are not. And I say all of this to say that the greatest form of narcissistic abuse that occurs is institutionalized racism. Although the “official” dots have not been connected in the American Psychological Association publication created on September 1, 2021 and last updated January 24, 2023 Psychologists are working to develop more effective ways of promoting Black men’s mental health

“Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper. Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper while keeping a distance from my brother because I don’t trust him further than I can see him. It’s believing the cops don’t care about you. It’s learning how not to doubt yourself because when you’re born everyone else already does.”

—Poet Prentice Powell, written following the fatal police shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, in 2014

“We should place less emphasis on whether Black men are resistant to therapy,” said Stevenson, “and more on understanding the contexts in which they already feel comfortable talking about their feelings and traumas. If a Black man is able to find a treatment that is culturally responsive, that he understands, and that embraces the uniqueness of his difference, he is more likely to use that service.”

And my work is to heal the souls of Black women because they are the pillars of society, the Black crumbling family. As you can see it is a cellular recalibration that has to...

This is an excerpt from my series published now as a course, 13 Days to Multi-Orgasmic Aging. This is day three about your choices and understanding the power of that.

Listen as I share how I chose to create my first birth story. In my ignorance I chose body -mind wisdom over fear. Reflect on your birth story if you have had a child. Mostly listen for the power and gifts of honoring choices that elevate your each and every heartbeat and breath.

#bodywisdom #replnishme #detachedlove #multiorgasmicaging #multiorgasmic #cordeliagaffar #intimacy #selfnurturing #selflove

Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and  CEO of Cordelia Gaffar Enterprises, is a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast.

Cordelia's journey led her to rediscover many ancient body wisdom mindfulness practices, intertwining from aboriginal cultures across the globe. The result? The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022 after two years of client studies and five years of research.

This transformative methodology empowers women to be fully expressed and completely embodied in her natural leadership merging ancient wisdom for total well-being. Cordelia's approach builds on her Replenish Me (™) process, featured in "Detached Love" (2020), promoting self-nurturing through food, movement, and sleep.

Now, she offers Embodiment Experiences in intimate group coaching and retreats, inviting women to a journey of self-discovery and replenishment. Cordelia is a former CFO and veteran home educator to her six children, three of whom have graduated going on to serve in the US Navy and become entrepreneurs in their own right. Subscribe to the Free to Be Show as we explore joy, enlightenment, and the transformative power of Cordelia Gaffar's wisdom.

In this beautiful heart to heart conversation between two divorced moms, Galeema shares her shifts in gratitude, loss, grief, love and so much more. She speaks of implementing all that she has encouraged others towards. This is Healer thyself exploration and mirror of the depth of womanhood.

Mother of four amazing children, Galeema (pronounced Haleema) Davids is committed to showing Muslim women their immeasurable worth and purpose; she does this through her coaching practice. 

Galeema has authored Soft & Strong and Enlightened Queen, He's Not Your Man, as well as other books, all focusing on bringing women back to connecting with their deeper selves.

Connect with her at linktr.ee/galeemadavids and follow her here instagram.com/davidsgaleema

#cordeliagaffar #galeemadavids #muslimsingemoms #divorce #grief #loss #love #bestsellingauthors #thefreetobeshow #podcast #repleinishme #theultimatejoygoddess #femininity

Previously published on the Life Coach Radio Network and Replenish Me Show 9/12/2018

We all have a role to play. We all came out of the earth, however way you want to see it, for a divine reason. Our lives are more than just about us, and the relatively small perspective that most of us choose to take on on a daily basis. Many women are living half lives, half expressed, half baked. So many women are suppressing themselves now! It is time for women to allow themselves to really blossom. Trees and flowers never stop themselves from growing, they become ridiculously tall or bushy or wildly colourful and flamboyant. So too should women grow and bloom. Whether into great Oak trees or Daisys. Whether you serve to add beauty or to be the bridge to a greater understanding.

The healing begins with our perspective of sexuality. We will dive into how It is the worldly expression of our spiritual existence.

Instagram: @khemiyah Website: www.khemiyah.com

This journey of Alchemy + Purpose promotes willful self elevation, empowerment and wholeness. It encourages the balancing of the feminine and the masculine, the deep waters of introspective work and the blue flame of action taking.

Khemiya is a well of creative and holistic nourishment that serves to guide you in developing your own personal Alchemy kit that works perfectly for you and your journey.

It is often said that we give what we once needed and wanted for ourselves, as well as what we still need and also want. It is also said that we give to others what we feel that we were blessed to receive. I would say both are true, and the purpose of Khemiyah is to both provide what was missing, as well as what I was blessed enough to receive.

Khemiya is here to facilitate your journey through this current space and time through holding space, tarot, 1:1 coaching and of course sharing via the blog.

Originally published on November 29, 2018 on Life Coach radio Network on the Replenish Me Show.

Did you know that there are 7 types of rest? I didn't either untill I attended Dr. Dalton's workshop at the Success Women's Conference in September. You are in for a treat. Spend an hour with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is an author, speaker, and board-certified internal medicine physician. She has an active medical practice in Alabama (near the Birmingham area). She received her B.S. in Biochemistry at the University of Georgia and graduated with honors from Meharry Medical College in Nashville. She has been an adjunct faculty member at Baker College and Davenport University in Michigan teaching courses on health, nutrition, and disease progression. Dr. Dalton-Smith is a national and international media resource on the mind, body, spirit connection and a top 100 medical expert in Good Housekeeping Doctors’ Secrets. She has been featured in many media outlets including Women’s Day, Redbook, First For Women, MSNBC, and Prevention. She is the author of Set Free to Live Free and Come Empty (winner 2016 Golden Scroll Nonfiction Book of the Year and 2016 Illumination Award Gold medalist). Her newest release is Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity, including ground-breaking insight on the seven types of rest needed to optimize your productivity, increase your overall happiness and live your best life. She has shared her tips on merging faith and medicine with over 16,000 health care professionals to encourage the current and next generation of doctors to treat the whole person. Learn more about Dr. Saundra at IChooseMyBestLife.com.

This is an episode from my previous show called Replenish Me on the Life Coach Radio Network.

Carolyn Freyer-Jones has been coaching men and women in creating greater success, joy, and fulfillment for over fifteen years. Her coaching work emerged as a result of the value I received from the Master’s Degree Program in Spiritual Psychology at the University of Santa Monica.

Swinging from intense inadequacy in her relationships to being controlling, she dove deep into spiritual perspective, a deeper connection to Self, and to purpose.

She discovered the perceptions and beliefs that her mother, father and two brothers did not love her (or not in the way I thought they should) were slowly dismantled. The pain transformed into Self-compassion, gentleness and a more loving, open-hearted and supportive way of being.

After the birth of her daughter, Lucinda in 2008, she started to have a vision for what a life of full-time coaching could look like and how it could allow me to have a more flexible schedule where my work time could be built around my daughter’s life

In November of 2010, she launched her full-time coaching practice. Within Soul-Centered Professional Coaching Program at the University of Santa Monica and  had the privilege of developing the University of Santa Monica’s Soul-Centered Professional Coaching Program with Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick, Steve Chandler, Michelle Bauman, and Stephen McGhee, and I was one of the lead faculty members for the Program for 3 years.

She has now launched CFJ Coaching Success School My husband, John and I have been married for over 20 years. One of our favorite things to do is to spend time with our 10 year old daughter Lucinda, laugh, avoid cleaning the house, travel, and drink coffee.

Tanja Bogataj is an experienced international coach and consultant in the field of empowerment, impact and leadership (www.tanjabogataj.com), she's a Founder and practitioner of #bepowerfulandfree approach, and a Host of #bepowerfulandfree Platform for sharing power and leaders stories to inspire and empower. She's a passionate thinker, learner, teacher, connector, improver and achiever.

Tanja has developed herself in the fields of law, political sciences, management, leadership, and coaching. She possesses more than 20 years’ worth of experience working with top leaders and managers in the public and private sector. She works with individuals, professionals, leaders and teams from different walks of life in the private and public sector. Her specialty is helping people to tap into their endless potential to learn, create and thrive.

She's been in coaching since 2011, but became a professional coach 3 years ago, when she completed her 18years long successful career as being professional official in the Government of Republic of Slovenia.

Beside leadership and transformational coaching and consultancy experiences in last 3 years with leaders and teams from all walks of life, she has more than 15 years of experiences in public policy sector, more than 10 years of working in top-level leadership positions in public administration (Director general for Urban development, State secretary for Environment, Green economy, and Public administration), and more than 10 years of using coaching in leadership. She initiated a Framework program of Slovenia towards Green and Circular economy and led Green partnership when she was State secretary, responsible for the Environment and Green economy.

In her coaching and consultancy practice she uses holistic and authorised #bepowerfulandfree approach and method. Being a strong believer in humanity, equality, sustainable approach, and people’s endless potential to learn, improve, and create, she has created a platform #bepowerfulandfree while making a difference (https://www.bepowerfulandfree.com) as a medium for mutual learning, inspiration and empowerment.

She's a Female wave of change (www.femalewaveofchange.com) Ambassador for Slovenia and Balkan region coordinator.

“Don’t share million dollar ideas with 1 cent minds”

Diving into whether the beliefs that you operate under are yours, your money mindset, your win-win heartset, Chelsea shows great leadership in leaning into her pain to see how powerful you truly are. Then once you have responsibility, responsibility comes choice.

Listen for key takeaways if:

You are in the beauty industry

You are desiring to have a social responsible focus

You are new to business

What it looks like to be a multi passionate socially responsible  entrepreneur. During our interview Chelsea reveals that she is embarking on creating a new brand and possibly creating a hijabi athletic wear as one of her blue ocean ideas. She shares some golden nuggets on social media marketing and not overwhelming yourself.

Follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/beauty_business_association/

And visit her website https://www.beautybusinessassociation.com/

Coming from a background of privilege Brian had to free himself from privilege, entitlement and materialism to approach life from a place of love and service. Listen as Brian shares his journey to be intentional about seeing humanity in the most beautiful way.

Listen to resilience out of respect

Listen to how he using his privilege to be an ally

We define what is racism vs prejudice

“White men resist racial bias as a whole”

Brian Ford is the host of Self Improvement Daily (more than 5.5 million downloads), Co-Founder of For Purpose (www.forpurpose.com), TedX Talk titled "Do it for the story". Grew up affluent and found happiness in other things. Big moment of awareness going to college. Realized the privilege I have and in justifying why I had it found that my purpose was to help others gain access to the opportunity I inherited. Brian feels that, “If people can hate for no reason then they can love for no reason.”

If and when he writes a book, he says”It will be about facilitating the flow of value through humility.”

Here are some highlights to listen for:

- Listen for roots of deconstructing the psyche of a people

- Monetizing blackness

-https://spmgmedia.wordpress.com/2020/01/17/devils-punchbowl-an-american-concentration-camp-so-horrific-it-was-erased-from-history/

- How the healing can begin

He is the author of six published history books, two of which are best sellers. He has received numerous writers awards, including "The Nat Turner Book Of The Year Award", at the Nat Turner Library in South Hampton, VA. He is also a highly sought after lecturer at numerous universities including Howard University, and NC State.

Mr. Jordan’s journey began as a child seeking the closest neighborhood library. Back in 1989 some great mentors at the Israelite Hebrew school piqued his interest in fascinating unmentioned history. This experience changed his worldview and self-perception. Through his research he discovered that Black history grossly misrepresented and made it his life’s work to not traditionalize himself with the “American” way. It also began his journey to  spiritually disconnect from the public school taught him and opened his mind to understanding.

You can get copies of his books on Amazon.com. Frank Zaaqan Jordan

https://www.amazon.com/Say-Can-You-See-Unmentioned/dp/B08MSKDBVD/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=frank+zaaqan+jordan&qid=1610593941&sr=8-2