Explore every episode of the podcast The Feminist Dating Show
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| 248. “I’m 44 and It Feels Too Late” to "I'm worth it" Live Coaching Session | 02 sept. 2025 | 01:00:20 | |
“I’ve never had a relationship last a year. It feels like I missed my window.” That’s what Jennifer told me at the start of this session. She felt behind. Like it was too late to have the love story she wants. Like she had somehow run out of time. And if you’ve ever looked around and thought, Everyone else got the memo on how to do this. I didn’t, this episode is going to speak directly to you. Together, we work through: – The fear that your best love story is already off the table – The weight of “Nobody picks me” – What happens when old thoughts make new dating hope feel impossible – How to use the SOFT method to feel your feelings and rewire your beliefs, without bypassing the hard stuff By the end, Jennifer says: “It’s not over. I’m worth it.” And she means it. 🎧 If you’re a late bloomer who’s still hoping it’s not too late, press play now. 💥 Ready for more support? Start here: → Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist → Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook → Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book Follow Lily everywhere: | |||
| Don't call yourself a "Late Bloomer"? This is still for you. | 27 août 2025 | 00:06:10 | |
When I renamed the podcast The Late Bloomer Show, some of you may have wondered: “What if I don’t feel like a late bloomer — is this still for me?” I recorded a mini podcast episode talking about exactly that:) Listen here. Here are my hot takes: 🌱 "Late bloomer" to me means feeling "behind" in any way. To me, late bloomer isn’t about the amount of experience or inexperience— it’s about the feeling of being behind where you thought you “should” be. That feeling is so real, and this community, podcast, and movement is here to remind you: you are right on time. 🌱 If you do identify as a late bloomer, I'm right there with you, I did, too. I'm so excited to usher in this new era of the podcast. 🌱 And if the phrase "late bloomer" doesn’t resonate with you, that’s okay too. Because if you’ve ever felt pressure, shame, or that nagging sense of being “too late, too much, or not enough” — then this space was built for you, too. ✨ This mini episode dives into exactly what The Late Bloomer Show is for — and why it’s for you, whether or not you use that label. 💜 | |||
| 247. “I Stayed Long After I Knew It Was Over… Now I’m Starting From Scratch (Again)” Live Coaching Session | 26 août 2025 | 00:55:54 | |
Are you afraid that raising your standards means you’ll be alone forever? Today on The Late Bloomer Show, I’m coaching Marissa, who stayed long after she knew her relationships were over—because she thought starting from scratch would be worse than settling. In this episode, we dig into: ✨ Why we shrink our needs to keep relationships ✨ The guilt that keeps us stuck for years ✨ How to believe what you want in love actually exists ✨ The exact shifts helping Marissa trust herself and ask for more If you’ve ever worried you’re “asking for too much,” this conversation will help you see your love life—and your worth—in a whole new way. Work with Lily: 🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist Get the book, “Thank You More Please”: datebrazen.com/book
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| 246. Behind the scenes of our name change- (“The Late Bloomer Show”!) | 22 août 2025 | 00:24:49 | |
“More is possible than you currently realize.” ✨ Big news ✨ The Date Brazen Podcast is now The Late Bloomer Show 💜 This change is for every late bloomer who’s ever felt behind, too much, or too late. For anyone who’s been told to shrink or settle. For everyone who needs to hear: 🌱 You are not alone. 🌱 You are not too late. 🌱 What you want is possible. In this vulnerable episode of The Late Bloomer Show, Lily opens up about the rebranding of her podcast and what it truly means to embrace the late bloomer identity. This conversation is more than just a name change, it’s about creating a space where late bloomers can feel seen, supported, and empowered. Lily shares why community matters so deeply, how self-compassion changes the journey, and why feminist perspectives are essential in reframing what it means to be “behind.” Work with Lily: | |||
| 245. “Why do I have to do all this work just to be given a chance?” Live Coaching Session | 12 août 2025 | 00:56:59 | |
“Why do I have to do all this work just to be given a chance?” | |||
| 244. Get Over The Fear of Rejection (Rejection Resilience Side Quest!) | 05 août 2025 | 00:34:12 | |
If rejection makes you want to hide under the covers and never date again—this episode is your roadmap back to brave action.
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| 243. "Why would they like ME?" Busting This Late Bloomer Myth | 29 juil. 2025 | 00:23:03 | |
Ever catch yourself thinking: “Why would they like me? What’s wrong with them for wanting me?” ✨ Why this belief is so common for late bloomers
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| Episode Spotlight: The Complete Guide To Finding Love On A Dating App | 22 juil. 2025 | 00:27:35 | |
Think dating apps are the only way to find love—but secretly hate them? | |||
| Episode Spotlight: How to get over the fear of dating | 15 juil. 2025 | 00:23:04 | |
Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we’re tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you’ve ever thought, What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I’m not enough?—this one’s for you. I’ll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassion, community, and a whole lot of self-trust. Because here’s the truth: fear is normal, and it doesn’t have to be in the driver’s seat. You don’t have to be fearless to find love—you just have to be willing to take messy, brave action toward what you want. Hit play, and let’s reframe your fear into power. Takeaways: ✨ Self-compassion isn’t just nice; it literally helps your body handle stress better. ✨ Feeling afraid to date? That’s human. You’re not alone. ✨ Messy action beats overthinking every time. ✨ The right person won’t need you to perform or say the perfect thing. ✨ If you desire more, it’s because it’s possible for you. Let’s go get you what you want. 💫 Get your free Essence Based Preferences Guide here. Work with Lily: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| Episode Spotlight: Your Mid-Year Dating Plan: From Late Bloomer to Main Character | 01 juil. 2025 | 00:36:45 | |
This episode is your mid-year reset, late bloomer style. Whether you've been dating with no luck, stuck in swipe fatigue, or haven't dated in 15 years, this seven-step feminist dating plan is your guide to attracting the best relationship of your life. ✨ How to create your Essence-Based Preferences to vet potential dates ✨ The IRL dating plan that actually works (even if you're socially anxious) ✨ What to say on dating apps and how to write a profile that’s magnetic AF ✨ And why what you want isn’t too much—it’s the key to finding the right match
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| Episode Spotlight: Finding love as a queer late bloomer, building self-trust, and healing after heartbreak | 24 juin 2025 | 00:41:05 | |
In this vulnerable and wisdom-packed episode, Lily sits down with Liz, a former Main Character Dating client, to talk about what it really takes to come back to yourself after a heartbreaking, sudden breakup—and how that healing work can lead to the most aligned love of your life. Together, they discuss:
Whether you’re newly single, starting to date again, or exploring your sexuality later in life—this conversation will meet you with compassion, truth, and the reminder: you’re not too late, and you don’t have to settle. Work with Lily:
RSVP here- https://www.datebrazen.com/training 🔗 Learn about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 TikTok | |||
| 242. “I Want Love—But I’d Like to Skip Dating, Please”-- Live coaching session | 17 juin 2025 | 01:05:51 | |
Today's podcast episode is a coaching session with Michelle. She's in her 50s, divorced after a 24-year marriage, and getting back into dating after being with one person her whole adult life. In this raw and powerful coaching session, we unpack the overwhelm of dating apps, the anxiety of being “naive,” and the pressure late bloomers feel to already know how dating is supposed to work. Michelle shares how: → Dating apps make her feel panicked in 3 minutes or less → She’s afraid she missed the memo on how to flirt or date → All she really wants is a partner to laugh with at a family campsite, but dating feels like an IMPOSSIBLE way to get there. We talk about self-compassion, letting go of judgment, and what it means to stop settling—not just for the wrong relationship, but for a miserable dating life.
📺 Or watch the video version on YouTube! (@datebrazen)
Work with Lily: 🔗 Free Live Training on June 17th: datebrazen.com/lets-go 🔗 Learn about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 TikTok | |||
| 241. “I Stayed for a 4-Hour Date I Didn’t Want to Be On” — Live Coaching Session for Late Bloomers | 10 juin 2025 | 01:02:17 | |
In this very first live coaching session on The Date Brazen podcast, you’ll meet Ellie—an amazing, big-hearted late bloomer who's never had a romantic relationship, and who thought dating was something she missed the memo on. Sound familiar? Together in this episode we explore:
If you’ve ever felt behind, unchosen, or like you’re "too late" to find what you want—this episode is for you. 🎉 And don’t miss Lily’s free live training: ✨ 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" ✨ on June 17, 2025. Sign up at datebrazen.com/lets-go
Work with Lily: 🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 TikTok
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| Episode Spotlight: How to Shoot Your Shot (Even If You Feel Awkward) | 03 juin 2025 | 00:38:08 | |
Does the idea of making the first move in dating make you feel awkward AF? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to shoot your shot as a late bloomer—without spiraling into self-doubt or waiting for someone else to make the first move. You’ll learn: ✅ The mindset shifts that make it easier to take bold action in dating ✅ Why making the first move 100% of the time is a game-changer for attracting the right relationship ✅ How to bounce back from rejection (without losing your confidence)
Work with Lily: 🔗 Free Live Training on June 17th: datebrazen.com/lets-go 🔗 Learn about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 TikTok | |||
| 240. Late Bloomer Series: Feeling undesirable? Here’s what to do about it | 27 mai 2025 | 00:13:04 | |
If you’ve ever feared that you're not attractive or desirable because it’s never happened before, this episode is a must-listen.
Lily breaks down the internalized fears many late bloomers carry—and how to reframe those thoughts with compassion, context, and confidence using her signature ACK mindset tool (Acknowledge, Compassion, Kind Reframe). You’ll also get a powerful challenge to reconnect with your body and spark self-trust this week.
🎧 Prefer to watch? Head to YouTube for the full episode.
📆 And don’t miss Lily’s free live training on June 17th: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer – save your seat now: datebrazen.com/lets-go
Links + Resources: 📚 Buy Lily’s book Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book 💖 Work with Lily: datebrazen.com 📱 TikTok | |||
| 239. Late Bloomer Series: How to Flirt | 20 mai 2025 | 00:24:44 | |
If flirting feels awkward, forced, or like a foreign language—especially because you feel “behind” in dating—this episode is your new playbook. Lily breaks down her step-by-step approach to flirting IRL with courage and ease. You’ll learn how to strike up a conversation, gauge interest, and shoot your shot—without spiraling or second-guessing yourself. 📺 Want the visual breakdown? Watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@datebrazen Don’t miss Lily’s FREE June 17th, 2025 training: ✨ 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer ✨ You’ll learn how to: ✔️ Release shame about being a late bloomer ✔️ Build rock-solid confidence in what you want ✔️ Start dating successfully this summer RSVP here: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go 📚 Grab Lily’s book Thank You More Please: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow Lily on: ✨ Tiktok Learn how to work with Lily: https://www.datebrazen.com | |||
| 238. Late Bloomer Series: How to Start Dating (If You've Never Dated) | 13 mai 2025 | 00:34:11 | |
Are you a late bloomer wondering, “How the hell do I even start dating?” In this episode, Lily breaks down the exact 6-step roadmap to go from anxious and avoidant to confident and aligned in your love life. You’ll learn how to drop shame, claim your essence-based preferences, use dating apps with boundaries, and build your IRL dating strategy—messy and awkward and powerful.
Here’s how to work with Lily: ✨ On Demand Training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a Late Bloomer ✨ Buy her book: Thank You More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book ✨ Download the free "Create Your Essence-Based Preferences" Guide HERE
Follow Lily on: ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube | |||
| 237. Late Bloomer Series: How to Tell a Date You've Never Been In A Relationship | 06 mai 2025 | 00:27:06 | |
In this kickoff to the Late Bloomer Series, Lily gets real about how to tell a date you’ve never been in a relationship—without spiraling, oversharing, or self-abandoning. If you’ve ever felt behind in love, this episode will help you embrace your story, communicate with confidence, and stop making your dating history mean something it doesn’t.
✨ Grab Lily’s book Thank You, More Please + get the bonus Podcast Listening Guide: https://datebrazen.com/book
Get on the waitlist for Main Character Dating: https://www.datebrazen.com/waitlist
Learn how to work with me: https://www.datebrazen.com/
Follow me on ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube
🎧 Full show notes + transcript at: https://datebrazen.com/podcast | |||
| 236. How To Stop People Pleasing (And Build A Stupidly Joyful Life) | 29 avr. 2025 | 01:17:30 | |
Are you tired of living for everyone else's expectations... and ready to step into your own dang spotlight? 🎬✨ In this behind-the-scenes episode, I’m sharing practical tools to stop people-pleasing for good — and start building the stupidly joyful, self-trusting, main-character life you’re meant for. Inside this episode:
If you’re feeling the heart pull to live bigger, braver, and more joyfully — the doors to Main Character Life are open right now. 🎟 Apply for Main Character Life (closing May 2!): HERE This is my six-month small group mastermind where you'll learn to:
Work with Lily: Learn how to work with me: https://www.datebrazen.com/ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book
Follow me on ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube
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| 235. You Deserve More Than “Fine”- Katie’s Story of Wanting More—and Getting It | 22 avr. 2025 | 00:56:25 | |
| 234. Go From Shrinking To Confident Main Character Energy | 15 avr. 2025 | 00:39:56 | |
In this episode, we’re diving deep into Main Character Energy — what it is, why it matters, and how to start building it (even if you’re shy, introverted, or feeling wildly behind). Join us for the free live training on April 23rd: ✨ Stop People-Pleasing + Build a Stupidly Joyful Life ✨ You’ll learn exactly how to cultivate Main Character Energy — and get a behind-the-scenes look at the 6-month mastermind, Main Character Life. Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on: ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube | |||
| 233. How Jackie Went From Burnt Out Background Character-- to a Magnetic, Joyful AF Life | 08 avr. 2025 | 00:54:17 | |
She Moved Abroad, Quit Her Job & Took Her Life Back: Jackie’s Main Character Energy Story
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| Episode Spotlight: My Qualifying/Disqualifying Questions Strategy So You Never Go On A Bad Date Again | 01 avr. 2025 | 00:36:49 | |
In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. | |||
| Episode Spotlight: "How Can I Stop Being Lazy In My Dating Life?" | 25 mars 2025 | 00:17:34 | |
In this week’s episode of the Date Brazen Podcast-- Episode Spotlight: "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?", I’m teaching you exactly what you need to do instead of falling for the productivity myth. (which will lead to better outcomes for your dating life!)
What you’ll learn in the episode:
✨ How to ditch the idea that “doing more” will get you better results in dating. ✨ How to do the most POWERFUL tiny steps in dating to get the biggest results. ✨ Why embracing self-care and giving yourself permission to slow down is key. ✨ How to redefine dating success on your own terms—and why that’s your real path to finding the right people for you. ____________
WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| Episode Spotlight: How to Bless and Release The Wrong People Without Mind Drama | 18 mars 2025 | 00:32:29 | |
In this episode, I walk you through my Blessing and Releasing strategy: a powerful step-by-step method to let go of the wrong people and make space for the right ones. Because holding on to what isn’t meant for you? That’s keeping you from what is.
Here’s what you’ll learn: ✨ How to identify who to bless and release (and why it’s essential). ✨ The mindset shift that will help you actually move on. ✨ Why setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love. ✨ How to embrace abundance instead of settling out of scarcity. ✨ The truth: You are worthy of what you desire in love. ____________
WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| Episode Spotlight: Where Do I Even START With Dating? | 11 mars 2025 | 00:16:37 | |
In this episode, I break down exactly how to start dating with confidence, self-care, and intention.-- especially if you've never dated before!
You’ll get a step-by-step guide to move past fear, own your desires, and create a joyful dating life on your terms.
Here’s what you’ll walk away with: ✨ How to start dating from a place of power (not pressure). ✨ Why your thoughts are not always facts—and how to shift them. ✨ The "Thank You More Please" challenge to clarify what you really want. ✨ How to release perfectionism and embrace the messy, fun, real parts of dating. ✨ The truth: You are uniquely qualified for the right person. _________ WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| Episode Spotlight: Owning Your Preferences is a Feminist Act | 04 mars 2025 | 00:23:48 | |
If you've ever been told you're too picky or need to be more open, this episode is for you. Your preferences aren’t the problem—they’re the key to dating with more joy and ease. I break down how to define your essence-based preferences so you can stop wasting time on the wrong people and start attracting the right ones.
✨ Get free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training
Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 232. Sexual liberation, self-permission, and getting messy with Brandon Kyle Goodman | 25 févr. 2025 | 00:49:50 | |
This week, I’m joined by the brilliant Brandon Kyle Goodman—writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate—to talk about breaking free from shame, embracing curiosity, and giving yourself radical permission to be messy in your self-discovery. If dating has ever made you feel like you need to “get it right” before putting yourself out there, this episode is your permission slip to do it your way.
🎧 Listen now and start reclaiming your power!
Brandon Kyle Goodman (they/them) is a writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate. They’re best known for their work on Netflix’s smash hit and Emmy nominated animated comedy series Big Mouth and its spin-off Human Resources; Amazon’s Modern Love, Hulu’s Plus One, and ABC's Abbot Elementary. Goodman is also a co-host of the new E! network awards season after show "RE!CAP". And every Thursday you can hear episodes of their iHeart podcast Tell Me Something Messy; a sex-positive show with the intention of destroying shame around sex by talking about sex. Connect with Brandon: 🌍 Website 🎙️ Tell Me Something Messy Podcast
This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 231. How To Shoot Your Shot 100% of The Time | 18 févr. 2025 | 00:18:11 | |
If you’ve ever hesitated to put yourself out there because what if they say no?, this episode of the Date Brazen Podcast is for you. We’re flipping the script on outdated dating rules that keep you passive and stuck. Instead of waiting, I’m teaching you how to co-create the dating life you want, how to shoot your shot like a boss, and actually enjoy the process (yes, really). Here’s what you’ll learn: 💥 Why I DON'T believe in the advice "If he wanted to he would" 💥 Why "shooting your shot" is a dating superpower 💥 The confidence shift that makes asking for what you want feel good This episode is all about bold moves and big results. Listen now and start shaping your love life on your terms.
✨ Main Character Dating is now open for enrollment. Join now. ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 230. How To Get Over The Fear Of Dating | 11 févr. 2025 | 00:23:04 | |
Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we’re tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you’ve ever thought, What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I’m not enough?—this one’s for you.
I’ll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassion, community, and a whole lot of self-trust. Because here’s the truth: fear is normal, and it doesn’t have to be in the driver’s seat.
You don’t have to be fearless to find love—you just have to be willing to take messy, brave action toward what you want.
Hit play, and let’s reframe your fear into power.
Takeaways: ✨ Self-compassion isn’t just nice; it literally helps your body handle stress better. ✨ Feeling afraid to date? That’s human. You’re not alone. ✨ Messy action beats overthinking every time. ✨ The right person won’t need you to perform or say the perfect thing. ✨ If you desire more, it’s because it’s possible for you. Let’s go get you what you want. 💫 Get your free Essence Based Preferences Guide here.
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 229. Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone’s Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease | 04 févr. 2025 | 00:22:50 | |
In this week’s Date Brazen Podcast episode, Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone’s Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease, I’m breaking down my 3 step process to exactly how to flirt, know if someone’s into you, and ask them out with ease.
Here’s the deal: 💡 Flirting is a learnable skill. 💡 Awkwardness? It’s just a sign you’re human (not a dealbreaker). 💡 With 10 seconds of courage, you can change the course of your dating life.
In this episode, we'll dive into: ✔ What IS flirting? Like, what actually is it and how can you do it YOUR way. ✔ How to become rejection-proof. ✔ A simple 3-step approach to make flirting feel natural. ✔ SOFT practice for tough times
If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start shooting your shot, this episode will be your new dating secret weapon. Let's do this!
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 228. How to build confidence and agency in your dating life with Julie and Yue of the Dateable Podcast | 28 janv. 2025 | 00:54:37 | |
Today on The Date Brazen Podcast, I'm talking to Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu-- dating and relationship experts and co-hosts of Dateable, one of the top podcasts on modern relationships, featured by The New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily.
Tune into this episode to hear-
Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable and the co-hosts of the podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They’re also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview. Julie brings her background in human-centered design and qualitative research, while Yue shares her experience as a dating coach. Together you can find them at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/ and @dateablepodcast. Their book How to be datable comes out January 28th, 2025- TODAY! Get Julie and Yue's book at howtobedateable.com And learn about their work at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 227. You can't say the wrong thing to the right person, here's why | 21 janv. 2025 | 00:17:15 | |
In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily unpacks her favorite piece of dating advice: You can't say the wrong thing to the right person. This 15 minute episode will free you from so much anxiety and worry in your dating life, so you have more time and energy to shoot your shot with confidence. Takeaways
This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.
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| Episode Spotlight: The complete dating detox guide | 14 janv. 2025 | 00:22:29 | |
Enjoy this ep spotlight! This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| 226. Creating your pleasure goals for 2025 with Susan Hyatt | 07 janv. 2025 | 00:43:53 | |
In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily engages with Susan Hyatt, a master certified life coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. They discuss Susan's mission to empower women through her Bear process, which emphasizes self-care, body wisdom, and breaking free from diet culture. The conversation explores the importance of creating a thriving environment, embracing pleasure, setting boundaries, and taking bold actions in midlife. As they approach the New Year, Susan shares insights on goal-setting and the significance of living a pleasure-centered life, encouraging listeners to overcome obstacles and embrace their potential.
You'll learn:
This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨
Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. | |||
| Corrected Episode Spotlight: Late Bloomer guide to releasing worry + finding love | 20 déc. 2024 | 00:36:49 | |
We're taking a break for the holidays (coming back Jan 7th, 2025) so enjoy this ep spotlight! This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨ Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences. Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires. You’ll learn how to:
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| 225. Your Complete 2025 Dating Plan: How to go from "late bloomer" to finding the right partner with confidence | 10 déc. 2024 | 00:35:07 | |
In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, building a unique dating profile, and fostering community support to enhance the dating experience. The episode encourages listeners to take control of their dating lives and believe in the possibility of finding the right relationship.
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This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season. If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.
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| 224. The Loneliness Fix | 03 déc. 2024 | 00:20:16 | |
In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resilience, offering practical advice for managing loneliness and fostering emotional well-being. You’ll learn:
This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season. If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year. Links: | |||
| 223. Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This is for you. | 26 nov. 2024 | 00:22:30 | |
Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you. Yes, it’s that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don’t want to answer! This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying “pass the peas” to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way. You’ll learn:
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| 222. Healing from co-dependency, people pleasing, and perfectionism in your dating life with Victoria Albina | 19 nov. 2024 | 00:41:10 | |
Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life. Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions. We get into:
Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily Show notes:
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| 221. SOFT practice for tough times | 12 nov. 2024 | 00:14:13 | |
I’m diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you’re feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I’m here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy. Whether it’s political stress or personal struggles, this episode is for anyone who needs a reminder that you deserve care, kindness, and support. Links: The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/ | |||
| Episode Spotlight: How to create your essence-based preferences | 05 nov. 2024 | 00:27:08 | |
We’re airing a popular episode about claiming your essence-based preferences. Lily takes you through what essence-based preferences are, how they can transform your dating life, how to know if you’re being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode you’ll want to come back to again and again! Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode:
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| 220. Slow burn vs. "The Spark" | 29 oct. 2024 | 00:21:46 | |
“Should I give them another chance, or should I ‘just know’ if they’re right?” Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a “slow burn” or “spark” to be worth pursuing. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating. ✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking. ✨ When you’re just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt! ✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry. Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it’s a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let’s make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you! Links: | |||
| 219. Election Dating Survival Guide | 22 oct. 2024 | 00:23:10 | |
How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You’re in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values. Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations. You’ll learn:
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| 218. How to build main character identity (and stop being the "best friend") | 15 oct. 2024 | 00:30:31 | |
Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight. We’ve all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about rejection. Or maybe you’re in that “good enough” life rut: a good job, good friends, good vacations... but deep down, you know you’re ready for great. This episode is all about ditching the people-pleasing and stepping into your main character era. You’ll learn:
It’s not about being perfect. Even main characters make mistakes—but they’ve got the tools to get back up. So, give yourself permission to be a little messy and start owning your story today. Links: Show notes:
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| BONUS: From paralyzed to launching her dream business with Mastermind client, Laura | 10 oct. 2024 | 00:41:13 | |
Ready to crush it and take your dreams to the next level? This episode is ALL about that! We’re diving into Laura’s epic journey of leveling up her life, how she tapped into her MCE (yep, Major Character Energy), and broke down her big dreams into totally doable, bite-sized steps. And guess what? It worked! You’ll walk away feeling fired up, knowing that what you want is not only possible—it’s practically calling your name. This is your sign. Time to hit play, step into your power and go after what you want. We get into:
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| 217. From comfort zone to a joyful, main character life with Mastermind client, Katie | 08 oct. 2024 | 00:54:44 | |
Ready to stop playing small and start living big? This week, Mastermind client Katie shares how she embraced main character energy, stepped out of her comfort zone, and began living a joyful AF life! From ditching self-doubt to creating a social life that lights her up, Katie talks about the bold moves she made—like taking a sabbatical and going on solo adventures. It wasn’t easy, but she trusted herself enough to push past fear and take massive, rewarding actions. We get into:
Don’t miss out on the chance to take control of your own story! Tune in and step into your main character energy. Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes:
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| Bonus: From burnout and overworking to setting boundaries with work and creating more space for joy and connections with Mastermind client, Juliet | 03 oct. 2024 | 00:34:12 | |
Do you feel like you're burning the candle at both ends with nothing left for yourself? In this bonus episode, Lily chats with Juliet, a client from the Main Character Energy Mastermind, about how she transformed her life by setting boundaries at work and making room for joy and meaningful connections. Juliet’s story is all about taking back control and living fully to share how stepping into her power completely flipped her life around. From feeling burned out and isolated to creating deep friendships and a fulfilling love life, Juliet’s transformation is nothing short of inspiring. We get into:
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| 216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself) | 01 oct. 2024 | 00:48:51 | |
Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life’s momentum. Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clear plan of action so you can confidently take bold steps toward the life you want, without the exhausting mental spirals. What if overthinking was just a roadblock on your journey to becoming the main character in your own story? This is your invitation to shift into that energy, giving yourself permission to trust, transform, and take massive, messy action. You’ll learn:
Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Show notes:
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| 215. How to ask for exactly what you want, nurture big dreams, and overcome your fear | 24 sept. 2024 | 00:47:11 | |
Want to know how to ask for exactly what you want, nurture your biggest dreams, and crush your fears along the way? You’re in luck! Lily and her guest break down how to tap into your main character energy and own every aspect of your life. We get into:
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