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The ENM DNM

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Frequency: 1 episode/16d. Total Eps: 24

Welcome to The ENM DNM, the podcast where we have deep and meaningful (DNM) conversations about ethical non-monogamy (ENM).

Whether you're curious, practising, or deep in the trenches of polyamorous life, this show holds space for all the messy, joyful, complex realities of ENM.Each episode dives into different themes, from getting started, to communication struggles, identity, dating stories, and how ENM intersects with the wider (often mononormative) world.

You’ll hear honest stories, personal experiences, and the occasional bit of swearing, laughter, or tea-spilling.This isn’t a how-to guide. It’s not prescriptive. It’s a space to reflect, connect, and hear how others are navigating ENM in all its forms.

We're queer-run, community-focused, and proud of the diversity of voices we platform.

Want to join our community chat?

Find links and info at Ko-fi.com/ENMDNM

Follow us and share the show with your polycules, metamours, mates, or anyone trying to figure out how to love more than one human at a time.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Skirt Club and the Grey Areas of ENM

Season 1 · Episode 11

Tuesday, April 21, 2026 • Duration 46:32

In this episode, we step into one of the more complicated spaces sitting alongside ethical non-monogamy.

We’re joined by Genevieve, founder of Skirt Club, to talk about what the community is, who it is for, and why so many women find themselves drawn to it while still not always seeing it as non-monogamy.

From there, the conversation opens out into something much bigger: bisexuality, curiosity, marriage, secrecy, permission, exclusivity, and the blurred line between sexual exploration and relationship structure.

We talk about the women who come to these spaces, what they are often looking for, and why experiences with other women can be understood very differently from other forms of non-monogamy, even when the overlap is clearly there.

We also get into the harder questions around safety, consent, trauma, inclusion, and the tension that can exist when a space is trying to hold multiple realities at once.

This episode is about women-only spaces, sexual identity, community, and the messy grey areas that appear when desire, liberation, and ENM don’t fit neatly into the same box.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos?

Support the podcast here

Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it.

Come say hi: socials

Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Halaxy

We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. hello@enmdnm.com

Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Lily Allen's West End Girl: A Raw ENM Reaction

Season 1 · Episode 10

Tuesday, April 14, 2026 • Duration 01:41:15

In this episode, we do something a little different.

We listen to Lily Allen’s West End Girl track by track and react to it in real time, using our own experiences in ethical non-monogamy as the lens for the conversation.

As the album unfolds, so does a bigger discussion about heartbreak, agreements, jealousy, attachment, communication, and the messy space between what people say they want and what actually happens in practice.

Rather than trying to give definitive answers, we let the songs lead us. Some moments are funny, some are uncomfortable, and some hit surprisingly hard.

What follows is a raw conversation about love, betrayal, power, desire, and the difficult questions that can sit underneath non-monogamous relationships when things stop feeling clear.

This episode is part album reaction, part relationship analysis, and part honest reflection on what can happen when intimacy, hurt, and uncertainty all collide.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos?

Support the podcast here

Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it.

Come say hi: socials

Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Halaxy

We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. hello@enmdnm.com

Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM

Season 1 · Episode 1

Wednesday, July 9, 2025 • Duration 01:03:49

Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM

How We Found Ethical Non-Monogamy and What It Means to Us Curious about how people actually get into ethical non-monogamy? In this very first episode of The ENM DNM, we sit down with our full crew – Adam, Leonie, Ed, Ari, and Jacqui – to share how we each found our way into ENM, polyamory, or something a little harder to define. From queerness and curiosity to dissatisfaction with monogamy, our journeys into non-traditional relationship structures are deeply personal, sometimes hilarious, and always real. We unpack the words that have shaped us – like polyamory, relationship anarchy, and ethical non-monogamy – and how labels can be both empowering and frustrating. Whether you're still figuring out what label (if any) fits you, or you're happily dancing outside the boxes, this one’s for you.

What we talk about in this episode:

How we each came to non-monogamy, and why
Why labels like polyamory, ENM, and RA can be useful… or not
What communication, consent, and boundaries look like in real life
Early challenges and moments of growth
How queer identity, community, and self-discovery intersect in our relationships

Mentioned in this episode:

ko-fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and help us keep going 💛
yarnn.au
hausofdizzy.com
kinyalerrk.com.au
clothingthegaps.com.au
Decolonise Yourself Card Game by Aretha Brown

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Join our community on Discord (coming soon!)
Support us on Ko-Fi
Subscribe or follow wherever you get your podcasts
Share this episode with your polycule, your curious mates, or your queer book club

Next episode: Navigating The Early Days of ENM– we’re diving into the messy first six months of non-monogamy and how we survived them.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Your support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:Email us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: We’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Intro episode

Season 1

Tuesday, July 8, 2025 • Duration 04:14

Welcome to The ENM DNM Hey friends! This is a quick intro to The ENM DNM – a podcast where we have deep and meaningful conversations about ethical non-monogamy.

I’m Adam (he/him), a counsellor, youth worker, and community member, and this podcast is just people sharing their real experiences of ENM.
No advice, no preaching—just honest chats.

If you like what you hear and want to support the pod (and help me offer free or discounted therapy to those who need it), you can join the Discord by chucking in a few dollars on Ko-fi. It really helps. Thanks for being here. Let’s get into it.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?

ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.com

Your support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.

Come say hi or follow along:
Instagram
Tiktok
Email us!

Want to book a counselling session with Adam?
Get in touch here: Halaxy

We’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.

Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos?

From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s story Part 2

Season 1 · Episode 9

Tuesday, April 7, 2026 • Duration 01:16:56

In Part 2 of Leonie’s story, the conversation moves from background into becoming.

We explore what happened after the rules started to loosen: the slow unfurling of sexuality, the complexity of identity, and the often messy gap between what non-monogamy is supposed to look like and what it actually feels like to live it.

Leonie speaks openly about moving from a conservative faith background into a much broader world of intimacy, queerness, friendship and connection.

We talk about the difference between attraction and compatibility, the challenge of unlearning old conditioning, the reality of dating in ENM spaces, and how non-monogamy can open up not just relationships, but entirely new ways of understanding yourself.

This episode is about fluidity, directness, friendship, desire, and the ongoing process of working out what connection really means when you no longer fit inside the old rules.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos?

Support the podcast here

Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it.

Come say hi: socials

Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Halaxy

We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. hello@enmdnm.com

Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Hosted on Acast. See for more information.

From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s story Part 1

Season 1 · Episode 8

Tuesday, March 31, 2026 • Duration 01:09:02

From Conservative Faith to Non-Monogamy: Leonie’s Story Part 1

In Part 1 of Leonie’s story, we go right back to the beginning. Leonie reflects on her childhood, her deep sense of spirituality, and the role conservative faith played in shaping how she saw herself, community, belonging and the world around her.

Together, we unpack the difference between genuine spiritual connection and organised religion, the comfort and healing that faith can offer, and the ways control, conformity and social expectations can quietly shape a person’s life. Leonie speaks openly about what it was like to move through rigid religious spaces, the pressure to be “good”, and the turning points that led her to question the path she had been given.

This episode is a conversation about spirituality, identity, community, freedom, and what happens when you begin stepping off the track that was laid out for you.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?

you can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.com

Your support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.

Come say hi or follow along:

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Email us!

Want to book a counselling session with Adam?

Get in touch here: Halaxy

We are back!!!

Season 1 · Episode 7

Sunday, March 22, 2026 • Duration 37:33

It’s been a while, but WE ARE BACK!!

The ENM DNM looks a little different now. It’s just the two of us, Adam and Leonie, which brings a new format, a new energy, and a bit more space to let the conversation go where it naturally wants to.

In this episode, we reintroduce ourselves, reflect on what’s changed since the last run of episodes, and talk about what this next chapter of the podcast is going to look like.

We unpack why we’re doing this, what kind of conversations we want to have, and why this podcast has never been about pretending to be experts or handing out gold stars for “doing ENM right”.

From here on, this podcast is about honest conversations, lived experience, the messy bits, the funny bits, and creating a space where people can feel a little more seen in the realities of non-monogamy.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?

ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.com

Your support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.

Come say hi or follow along:
Instagram
Tiktok
Email us!

Want to book a counselling session with Adam?
Get in touch here: Halaxy

We’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.

Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Episode 6: ENM: The Good, The Bad, and The Fugly

Season 1 · Episode 6

Wednesday, July 30, 2025 • Duration 40:03

Episode 6: The Good, The Bad, and The Fugly

From cute friend dates to chaotic sex parties, we’re ending Season 1 with our wildest, weirdest, and most heartfelt dating stories. In this final episode of the season, we swap stories from the frontlines of dating while ethically non-monogamous — the good, the bad, and the downright fugly. We reflect on what counts as a date in ENM, how online dating compares to meeting people in community, and the beautiful chaos of navigating sex parties, group dynamics, and slow-burn connections. There’s vulnerability, laughter, and a lot of honest talk about what it’s really like to date, connect, and grow while living non-monogamously. What We Talk About:

Dating while polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous
Why some of the best dates are platonic
Online dating red flags and bios that make us swipe away
First-time sex party nerves (and snacks)
The pressure (or not) at ENM social events
How community-based connections feel safer and more authentic
One piece of advice we’d give to anyone starting out in ENM

Mentioned in This Episode:

ko-fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and help fund free therapy and support groups
The E&M DNM Discord – connect, learn, and share in a supportive space (access via Ko-Fi)

Love what you hear?

Follow, review, and support the pod over on Ko-fi — every little bit helps us fund free and subsidised therapy and support groups for ENM folks.
Join our Discord to connect with other non-monogamous, queer, and curious humans from all walks of life.

And stay tuned — we’ll be back with Season 2 soon. Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, dating, friendship, and community.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?

ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.com

Your support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:Email us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: We’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Episode 5: Communication, Boundaries & Agreements in ENM

Season 1 · Episode 5

Wednesday, July 23, 2025 • Duration 01:18:09

Episode 5: Communication and Boundaries

What does “good communication” really mean in ethical non-monogamy — and how do you know if you’re setting a boundary or just trying to control someone? Intro Paragraph:
In this episode of The ENM DNM, we unpack the layered, often messy world of communication and boundaries in ethical non-monogamy. We explore how mismatched expectations, emotional triggers, people-pleasing, and different processing styles impact our relationships. You’ll hear real-life stories of things gone right (and wrong), how we define “good communication,” and what happens when boundaries are unclear or unspoken. Whether you’re new to ENM or years into your journey, this conversation is packed with honesty, reflection, and insight into what it takes to build trust and connection in non-monogamous relationships.

What We Talk About:

How we define “good communication” in ENM relationships
Why listening is the most underrated communication skill
Emotional regulation and learning your own processing style
What a boundary actually is (and what it’s not)
When communication isn’t enough and a relationship ends
Common challenges like unmet expectations and miscommunication between partners and metamours
The difference between boundaries, agreements, and rules
Learning from past relationships and becoming “version 2.0”

Mentioned in This Episode:

ko-fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and join our private community
Polysecure (book)
The E&M DNM Discord – connect, learn, and share in a supportive space (accessible via the Ko-Fi link)
TED Talk: “John Francis: Walk the earth ... my 17-year vow of silence | TED
Miriam Margolyes Meets The Sistergirls Of The Tiwi Islands | Miriam Margolyes: Almost Australian

Love what you hear?

Follow The ENM DNM on your favourite podcast app and leave us a review — it really helps new listeners find us.Support the pod and our work in the community at ko-fi.com/enmdnmJoin our private Discord space to connect, share, and grow alongside others in the ENM community.Next episode, we’re talking about dating stories — the good, the bad, and the fugly.Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, communication, and community. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Your support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:Email us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: We’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

Episode 4: Coming Out… or Not: ENM and the People We Love

Season 1 · Episode 4

Wednesday, July 16, 2025 • Duration 01:21:05

Episode 4: Families, Friends, and the (Mono) World

World What happens when you’re living ethically non-monogamous — but your friends, family, or workplace aren’t? In this episode, we unpack the messy, beautiful, and often awkward moments of coming out in a monogamous world. We talk about the choices we make around who to tell, how we tell them, and why some of us don’t tell anyone at all. From religious upbringings and conservative families to tricky friendship dynamics and professional boundaries, this episode dives into the real-life impact of being ENM in spaces that might not understand it. Whether you’re fully out, quietly navigating disclosure, or somewhere in between, this conversation holds space for it all — with vulnerability, reflection, and a little bit of sass. What We Talk About:

Coming out as ethically non-monogamous to friends, family, and colleagues
Navigating disclosure in conservative or religious families
Balancing identity, safety, and authenticity in the workplace
Friendship shifts, chosen family, and community support
How queer identity, culture, and values shape ENM disclosure
The emotional labour of educating others about ethical non-monogamy

Mentioned in This Episode:

ko-fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and join our private community
Polysecure (book)
The E&M DNM Discord – connect, learn, and share in a supportive space (accessible via the Ko-Fi link)

Love what you hear?

Follow, rate, and review the podcast — it really helps more people find us.
Support us and access our private Discord via Ko-fi.

Next up: we're diving into dating stories — the good, the bad, and the fugly. Don’t miss it. Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, communication, and community.

Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making more gorgeous chaos?

ou can support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here: Ko-fi.comYour support helps us make the podcast and also contributes to our broader mission of funding free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise be able to access it.Come say hi or follow along:Email us!Want to book a counselling session with Adam?Get in touch here: We’re also keen to hear from potential collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners.Please note: this podcast is for conversation, reflection and shared experience. It is not a replacement for therapy, medical advice or crisis support.

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