Explore every episode of the podcast The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
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Of Course Tone Matters
28 Oct 2026
00:13:21
Some people say that their partner is "tone policing" when they refuse to listen to angry, loud words. Instead of this, look inward and take accountability for your own mood regulation!
Is Rejection Sensitivity Sabotaging Your Relationship?
25 Oct 2026
00:13:36
Rejection sensitivity can create a tense and awkward relationship. Here's how to figure out if your rejection sensitivity is harming you and how to think differently about it!
Not Every Couple Is Meant To Stay Together... And Not All People Are Meant To Be Married
17 Oct 2026
00:17:05
Some people think that couples therapists are on the side of staying married no matter what. This isn't the case! In fact, there are many situations where people would be healthier and happier apart.
Stemming from a discussion in the secret group (join us with link below), I discuss how changing your identity can change your choices and your marriage!
Don't Argue Online! Even Though I Get Paid When You Do
07 Oct 2026
00:16:11
We sometimes make the mistake of assuming that people fight online because they care deeply about the particular topic they are arguing about. Not the case! The comment is simply the place where something else is playing out. And what is it? Well listen and find out!
Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it matters. Many couples struggle with repair because of shame, defensiveness, and/or avoidance. Here's what to do and what not to do!
Cognitive Surrender Isn't Just With AI... It's With Your Overfunctioning Partner
27 Sep 2026
00:13:48
I read about how AI is causing "cognitive surrender," meaning you don't even try to think for yourself because AI can do it readily and confidently for you. This also happens in codependent relationships, and I've seen it in both genders of underfunctioners. Take back your ability to think, execute, plan, and do things for yourself and your family!
Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30!
You Can Be Sex Positive And Still Not Allow Teenagers To Have Sleepovers With Their Significant Other
24 Sep 2026
00:18:50
There was some discussion about this in the secret group. Reality is that you can be sex positive and open while also having some boundaries. Here's my thoughts on this as a mom of teenagers and a psychologist!
Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30!
In this alliteratively titled episode, we discuss how being rigid about your preferences, routine or beliefs can harm your relationships with other people. This includes your marriage, your friendships, and your family.
Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30!
A clarion call to stop making your partner feel bad for feeling stressed by parenting. It is NORMAL to feel stressed by raising kids and when you imply it's abnormal, all you're doing is making your marriage worse.
Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30!
Quitting Porn Does Change The Frequency You Want Sex
14 Sep 2026
00:14:52
Got a comment that watching porn doesn't impact frequency that men want sex, although the commenter could see it might impact the type of sex men want (eg more novelty). Yet, it impacts both! This is a free way to make your sex life and marriage much better.
Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30!
Both men and women can be know it alls, and this ruins relationships with partners, kids, friends, and coworkers. If you think you know more than others, here's why your spouse may be frustrated and pull away.
Misery Loves Company: When Talking To Your Friends About Your Marriage Makes It Worse
03 Sep 2026
00:13:36
When you complain about your marriage to similarly situated friends... does it help? Or is it co-rumination that makes things worse? It depends, and I dive into this entire topic on today's episode.
If you think your partner is the main problem in your relationship and your main problem is you're frustrated by how objectively bad/avoidant/irritating they are... listen up!
Many people, especially "producers" and those who feel deeply aligned with their careers, fear retirement. Here's a new way to think about this stage of life and what I've seen to help many clients!
Here's what I think as a psychologist and mom of three. Also, if you or someone you know needs support, free and confidential help is available right now. You can call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline at 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262) 24/7, or reach the Postpartum Support International HelpLine at 1-800-944-4773.
You'll Be Disappointing People For Your Whole Life
13 Aug 2026
00:13:52
When my son recently had to say no to a school activity in favor of other activities, he was worried about disappointing the person in charge. I said this line to him and it came out funny, but it is 100% true for all humans. It is useful to think about this as a fact of life, and something you need to come to terms with in order to lead an authentic and meaningful life!
So many people think the solution to all their marital problems is to change their partner. After all, they think, shouldn't my partner WANT to improve? Yet somehow, no matter what incremental progress your partner makes toward your goals, whether that's more sex, more conversations, or anything else, nothing will fall into place until you accept them for who they are, or decide that you can't.
When You Micromanage Your Partner, Your Anxiety Never Goes Away
07 Aug 2026
00:15:09
By micromanaging your partner's behavior, whether in the home, with the kids, or in other arenas, you are never giving yourself a chance to do "exposure therapy" for the anxiety that their way of living will cause irreparable harm. It won't! All this and more.
Do You Overfunction With Your Kids And Partner Because You Can't Tolerate Their Negative Emotions?
02 Aug 2026
00:11:52
You may think you have a lot of frustration tolerance and grit, but you may not be considering your inability to tolerate your partner or child struggling, even in small ways. When you overfunction to prevent them from ever experiencing frustration or irritation, you are stopping them from learning how to handle life activities and the negative emotions that you can't control!
Some men think their issue with their marriage is a libido disparity, but the reality is that it is much deeper. Women who are scared of "adulting" and shy away from an adult role tend to also not want much sex. The major issue in these marriages is that the man takes over everything or almost everything in the home and tells himself that this would be ok if there was more sex, but there isn't and won't be until the actual issue is discussed: the parent/child dynamic.
In this child centered world, parents struggle with giving advice to their kids. Why, and what sorts of things do I hear from adult clients about parents who never proffered advice?
When You're Wealthy, You Change From A Wild Animal To A Pet
17 Jul 2026
00:14:13
Why? Because you are no longer hungry in any sense. You thus turn to meeting your needs for pleasure and comfort, becoming your own pet. But if you are a wild animal at heart, this transition is anything but easy.
5 Questions To Ask Yourself To Be A Better Partner
13 Jul 2026
00:13:13
In this episode, I cover five questions that you can ask yourself in order to introspect deeply about what kind of partner you are, and how you may have unintentionally contributed to your current relationship issues. Each of them makes you really look inward, and think about what you may have been glossing over for years, your own weaknesses as a partner, and how they may have led you to whatever unfulfilling dynamics currently exist in your relationship!
Rewatching/Rereading Shows/Books You Used To Love Can Be A FREE Catalyst of Growth!
10 Jul 2026
00:14:06
This is something I love to do. It can be a fascinating way to explore your own psyche and to bond with your spouse as well. And it's free and easy! All in today's episode.
Special Guest Lenore Skenazy of Free Range Kids And Let Grow on Our Culture Of Anxious Parenting!
07 Jul 2026
00:30:32
Welcome to this amazing episode with Lenore Skenazy, the wonderful author of a book I loved as a younger mom, Free Range Kids, and the President of Let Grow! One of my favorite topics is the anxious culture of overparenting, and we dive into how this impacts kids and ways to change and give our kids healthy levels of independence and freedom!
Do you recognize yourself, your partner, or your parents/inlaws in this? Here is the person who acts like they are the scrappy underdog in all interactions, from going to the grocery store to cooking dinner for their family. Why are people like this, how can you interact with them more successfully, and how can you understand yourself better and improve in this dimension if this hits uncomfortably close to home?
Should You Discuss Negative Life Events In Your History With Your Kids?
29 Jun 2026
00:13:38
There's a lot of nuance to the topic of whether you should tell your kids about negative things from your past, including poverty, abuse, parents' mental health issues, or more. How can you navigate the balance between authenticity and care with your children during these topics, and how does your approach change over time?
Here's what I think about why men are lonely, including some thoughts about society now vs a generation ago, as well as some practical strategies to increase your circle. IF YOU'RE INTERESTED IN THE MEN'S GROUP, it starts June 23. Email us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up or learn more here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group
I always discuss how if you're depressed or have ADHD, you may get less done than other people, and it doesn't mean you're lazy. But you know what, some people are truly lazy! And that is OKAY.... except if you're a super productive person married to one. Here's how to understand what "laziness" really is and how to think about it in a more objective way.
Both partners in this dynamic suffer and end up with lower self esteem, even though we usually think the preoccupied attachment/pursuer partner suffers more. How does this dynamic impact both partners negatively?
I've discussed the self-made man before, as this is a common type that I get as a therapy or coaching client. This is about the self-made women! Some differences and some similarities. And how does this woman behave in intimate relationships?
When You Say Your Job Is More Important Because It Pays More
06 Jun 2026
00:16:39
Common dynamic with men who say because they are the higher earner, everything should move around their schedule. Some of them even want their wives to quit their jobs because their priority is her to not be stressed... so that she can be a better companion to them, even if her job is meaningful to her. All about jobs and money and why earning more doesn't mean you're better, on today's episode!
Women Who Like Romance Novels/Movies: The Two Types
03 Jun 2026
00:14:32
Women escaping into romance novels or online relationship content is not healthy IF THEY ARE THE PURSUING PARTNER. This fake media raises expectations beyond what a man can provide in the natural universe, and increases the distance between what she wants and what he can give, just like porn does for men.
But some women don't at all want more romance and are the avoidant partner, not the preoccupied one. In this case, romantic movies are like cotton candy for the mind, predictable and easy to consume. There it's no personal identification or yearning involved in the viewing. Instead it's like someone unathletic who hates the cold watching Olympic skiing, or watching detective shows despite not at all wanting to be a detective or involved in a crime! All this and more.
There are certain relationship dynamics that I have seen crop up when the wife is a teacher. This adds to my episode on relationship issues when the man is in IT, a lawyer, a doctor, or a CEO/entrepreneur. Listen up for common issues that I've observed in my many clients who are teachers!
Emotional Hangovers: Why Do You Feel So Terrible After An Argument?
26 May 2026
00:13:54
What's an emotional hangover? I didn't make up this term but it resonates with many people who haven't understood why they feel so awful the day or even week after a fight. Today we learn all about what this is, who gets them more than others, and how to avoid them.
Wouldn't it be great to be married to someone who is good at everything? Well, my caseload is filled with high achieving men with marriage issues, so I guess it's not that simple. Today I discuss what's bound to be a classic episode... The King Midas Problem in marriage and in the bedroom!
Why does optimizing your sex life never work, even though it works in other aspects of your life? A wake up call to the high achieving men who just can't make their wife do what they wish she would, despite how "it would be better for both of us."
When Your Wife Decides She "Doesn't Have Any More F's To Give"
15 May 2026
00:13:41
This is a common phrase from women at midlife. "I don't have any more F's to give!" "I realized I don't give a flying F anymore" etc etc. What does this mean and how does it look different for preoccupied vs avoidant vs secure women?
Bad news: if you think you're not, you're probably picking up on something real. But you may be able to increase how interesting you are with these really practical tips and reframes!
Producers Vs Consumers: My New Framework For Understanding Compatibility
09 May 2026
00:14:13
Do you like to create in your spare time, which I call a PRODUCER, or do you like to enjoy what others have created, which I call a CONSUMER? Make music/food/crafts/projects/money? Or attend concerts, watch TV, listen to music? Today we discuss what happens when a producer marries a consumer, and when two of each marry one another!