#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs in kink. Listen now and start unlearning the lies about BDSM.

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#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun, kinky parts. Loved it? Follow Deborah’s 'Better Sex Podcast' and subscribe for more real talk.

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#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode, we're sharing why the format is shifting, what’s ahead for the YouTube and audio versions, and exciting updates like the Kink Bundle and my upcoming book. Don’t miss it—subscribe and share!

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#011: Hop on with Alesandra as she previews the upcoming year for Dom Sub Living. Alesandra, a prominent figure in the BDSM community and the podcast's energetic host, highlights her plans for 2024. She discusses podcast updates, the launch of a new channel, free online events, and the famous Kink Bundle. Subscribe to the podcast and stay updated on all the exciting new developments for 2024!

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#010: Discover the untold truths and personal experiences of prominent figures in the BDSM community in our groundbreaking roundup episode. Join host Alesandra as she shares her raw, honest insights alongside experienced guests. These real-life kinksters delve into crucial topics, like the need for community, the essence of communication, and dispelling misconceptions. Tune in and absorb the wisdom these amazing guests have to offer.

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#009: Are you struggling with a failing D/s relationship? Tune in as Alesandra delves into the common pitfalls and offers expert advice for reigniting your dynamic. In this episode. Alesandra shines a light on the intricacies of D/s relationships, offering her expertise in mastering and living the BDSM lifestyle. She also addresses the complexities of failing D/s relationships, tackles issues of self-blame, and shares insights on overcoming challenges such as "vanilla" life interference, mindset vs. skill focus, and topping from the bottom.
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008: Are you ready to take your BDSM relationship to the next level?

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Join Alesandra as she reveals the crucial steps she and her partner took to establish a 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) dynamic! Alesandra discusses the use of safe words, the importance of a written contract, implementing daily and weekly check-ins, and creating a schedule with specific rituals. She emphasizes the value of open communication and invites you to explore your own desires and roles in D/s relationships. Get ready to dive deeper into the world of BDSM!

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007: What happens when a Dom experiences doubt?

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Join Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, as they delve into the challenges and rewards of being a Dominant. In this episode, Jay shares insights into maintaining consistency as a Dom, managing Dom drop, and building trust in intense scenes. They discuss the importance of open communication and explore the role of discipline in a dynamic. Alesandra and Jay offer practical tips and share personal stories that will resonate with both experienced and aspiring Doms.
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#006: Discover how to keep your Dom/sub dynamic thriving during the hectic holiday season! In this episode, Alessandra shares tips on creating meaningful traditions and rituals to maintain your D/s dynamic during the busy holiday season. Learn about real-life traditions that she and others do during this time of year to stay kinky. Get inspired and personalize these traditions to make them your own!

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#005: Have you ever felt too nervous to attend a BDSM event? Listen to this episode of Dom Sub Living as host Alesandra shares her personal story and busts common myths about being a part of the BDSM community. Learn how to overcome limiting beliefs and embrace your unique desires in the BDSM lifestyle. Don't let these myths hold you back!

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#004: Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living!

Alesandra discusses why now is the perfect time to dive into the world of Dom/sub dynamics and BDSM. She addresses common excuses for delaying and presents three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Alesandra highlights the increasing acceptance of alternative lifestyles, the accessibility of training and support, and the potential risks you may not have thought about that could change the future landscape.

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Don't wait any longer to explore BDSM. Take action now and embrace your desires by starting your journey into the Dom/sub lifestyle.

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003: On this personal and revealing episode, Alesandra shares her journey from a vanilla relationship to becoming a full-time submissive and BDSM instructor.

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Alesandra explains the reasons why people venture into BDSM, debunking myths and highlighting the importance of personal growth and self-discovery. Discover the challenges and rewards involved in D/s relationships, and why it's crucial to understand your ‘Why’ in exploring this dynamic.

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002: Are you ready to unlock the power of BDSM? Dive into this episode of Dom Sub Living and discover how this lifestyle can transform your entire life.

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Alesandra discusses five compelling reasons why BDSM is necessary and how to incorporate it into your life. From spicing up your love life to exploring desires in a safe environment, each point invites you to discover the multiple benefits of D/s. She also introduces a free kink quiz to help you understand your personal kink identity.

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Share your quiz results with us on social media and join the conversation.

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#100 Think kink is simple? After 100 episodes, we're revealing 10 hard-earned lessons that go beyond floggers and fantasy.

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From tackling judgment to finding community, discover truths that shape real D/s dynamics and mental health. Don’t miss this milestone episode of raw stories, freebies, and celebration!

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001: Unlock your true potential in the world of BDSM, break free from societal expectations, and embrace the Dom/sub lifestyle!

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Join your kinky guide, Alesandra, a 10-year veteran of the lifestyle and founder of Dom Sub Living.  In this long-awaited episode, Alesandra shares her journey and highlights what the show is about, who it's for, and the importance of embracing BDSM as a lifestyle. Get ready for personal stories, advice, and tips on becoming the best Dom, sub, or switch you can be.

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#099 DDLG isn’t just cute outfits and bedtime routines—it’s a deep, powerful dynamic that blends nurture, structure, and trust.

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In this episode, we're breaking down what being a babygirl, little, or middle really looks like, plus the differences between DDLG and DDBG. Listen now and join the conversation.

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#098 Spankings aren’t cutting it anymore.

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In this episode, we're sharing 5 Dom/sub punishment ideas that actually work—yes, even for masochists. From writing lines to orgasm denial, we're breaking down what to use, when to use it, and why some punishments backfire. Don’t miss #3—it changed everything.

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#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living unapologetically kinky, and what it really means to be a Dom or sub in everyday life. Listen now!

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#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up.

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We're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping consent to using fear instead of leadership. You'll learn how to spot red flags and what real D/s dynamic should look like. Doms (and subs), listen up!

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#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what no one tells you.

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#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong?

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We're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punishment-first training to ignoring a Dom's emotional needs. If you've ever felt like you're doing BDSM “wrong,” this is the truth you’ve been waiting for.

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#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?”

If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even without a partner. Tune in now to start owning your role with confidence.

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#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp!

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#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves for every scene and why yours matter just as much. Reflect on your own and share them with us after listening.

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#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.”

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Is Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened the door for millions? In this deep dive, we're breaking down what it got wrong (and very wrong), what it got right, and why it still matters. Hit play and get ready to move beyond fiction.

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#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands?

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We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control.

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#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.”

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In this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriving.

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#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention?

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We're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex.

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#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous?

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We're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong.

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#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes.

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#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again.

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We're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink! 

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#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle?

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Turns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriting the rules of control, discipline, and connection.

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#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way?

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In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that cracked open years of trauma.

Ready to explore healing on your own terms?

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#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget?

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In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable?

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#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can turn any scene into a sacred experience.

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#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think.

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We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to healthy, multi-dynamic relationships.

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#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub?

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It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI subs with no real surrender to AI Doms missing true intuition, we're diving into the future (and risks) of tech in kink.

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#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives?

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We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whether you're leading or letting go, there's a lot to consider! Got an opinion? Tune in and join the friendly debate.

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#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either.

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Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way that makes your submissive feel safe, secure, and deeply connected to you.

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#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes!

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Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play, communication, and more. Hopefully, at least one of these tips will be a game changer for you!

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#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new.

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Alesandra and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological side of things like power play. Whether you're new to bondage or a seasoned pro, there's something here for everyone. Plus, learn how bondage can bring you closer and boost your dynamic. Listen now and transform your BDSM journey!

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#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think!

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We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also explore role-based dynamics like DD/lg and the broad world of BDSM. Whether you're new to the scene or a seasoned explorer, there's inspiration and insight for everyone. Get ready to discover your next favorite kink!

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#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques!

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Ever wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experiences! Explore contrasting sensations, the magic of slowing down, and creative tools like frozen grapes. Plus, uncover the unexpected power of breath, voice, and sensory deprivation in your play. Get ready to upgrade your BDSM scenes!

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#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone!

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We're revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic with confidence!

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#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship?

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In this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink, navigating D/s dynamics with kids, and why communication is key in a power exchange relationship. Plus, Alesandra shares how she went from Beauty Blogger to BDSM Educator.

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#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and practice that makes play feel natural and fun. Listen now to learn how real Doms grow confident in every scene.

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#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology.

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We're unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve into why anticipation feels so good, the allure of taboo desires, and how kink can serve as emotional release and even healing. Join us and discover what makes BDSM exciting beyond the physical!

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#070 Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom.

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Join us as we debunk myths surrounding 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) and share our journey into this fulfilling dynamic. Explore the foundational steps: from education, defining roles and boundaries, to creating contracts and establishing rituals. Learn how TPE can empower both partners through trust and communication. Could this be the missing piece in your relationship puzzle? Follow along and step into your own TPE journey today!

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#069 "When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before."

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In this episode, we explore the deep meaning of collars in a D/s dynamic, the practical aspects of wearing them 24/7, and the emotional significance they hold. Learn about different types of collars, why Alesandra chose her particular one, and tips for creating your own coloring ceremony. Curious about wearing a collar 24/7? Tune in now for insights and tips on embracing this powerful symbol in your D/s relationship!

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#068 Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You’re not alone—but you can bring it back!

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We're sharing why losing the spark is so common and the key reasons it happens—like routine overload, lack of communication, and external stress. You’ll learn actionable strategies to reignite the fire, from revisiting your foundation to adding variety and deepening your connection. Plus, you'll get practical tips to overcome common objections and start small changes today.

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