This week, Kate is joined by Candice Bull, Divorce Specialist at amicable, to unpack what a prenup is and why you might need one.

Prenup 101

Kate and Candice talk through everything you need to know about prenuptial agreements - what they cover, how long they last and whether they’re automatically legally binding. They explore how to make sure a prenup is fair for both partners and why these agreements are not just for the wealthy.

Candice also shares why more couples are choosing prenups today, how often they need to be updated and how to start this conversation with your partner.

Here are some points covered in this episode:

• What a prenup is and what it includes
• When to update your prenup
• How to keep things fair when one partner has more money
• Why prenups are becoming more common among younger couples
• Top tips for discussing a prenup together

Candice Bull from amicable

Candice is a Negotiation Divorce Specialist and part of the Negotiation Team at amicable. After qualifying as a family law solicitor in 2019, she gained invaluable experience in private family law practice. Passionate about supporting couples through separation, Candice is dedicated to empowering them to make informed decisions about their future and guiding them through constructive negotiations which are kind, collaborative and truly amicable.

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#LegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by Susie Giles and Liz Harrington from Family Flow, and Anthony Syder from amicable, to explore what being truly amicable looks like when relationships end.

Amicable divorce: expectation vs reality

Kate and her guests discuss how Family Flow supports women through separation with a compassionate, trauma-informed approach, and how amicable helps couples navigate divorce. Together, they dive into why an ‘amicable separation’ is often more of an aspiration than a reality, how things can shift from calm to conflict when solicitors and finances get involved, the common concerns women face when using joint divorce services and how to create a fairer balance around money. Anthony also shares what support couples can expect from amicable’s experts during negotiations, and we wrap up with practical tips for staying amicable - and redefining your relationship post-split.

Family Flow and amicable

Susie Giles is a trauma-informed coach specialising in separation, divorce and family wellbeing. ICF-trained and grounded in evidence-based approaches, she supports individuals - particularly mothers - in navigating the emotional and practical complexities of family breakdown with clarity, confidence and compassion. Her work is informed not just by professional expertise but by lived experience. Alongside her coaching, Susie offers specialist guidance on post-separation communication, co-parenting and keeping children emotionally safe through transition.

Liz Harrington is a Somatic Trauma Therapist and coach with over 12 years’ experience supporting women through the complex aftermath of toxic relationships, coercive control and high-conflict divorces. Her work is deeply informed by both her professional expertise and her personal journey - including the power imbalances she has witnessed and lived through, pre- and post-divorce. She is currently finishing a bold, potentially controversial book that challenges the systemic issues within the divorce landscape - from how professionals handle family breakdown to the wider cultural forces at play.

Anthony Syder is a Negotiation Specialist and the team lead for amicable's financial consent order drafting team. His areas of interest include the voice of the child in separation and diverse families. Anthony was previously an accredited family mediator and also sat on the board of the Family Mediators Association.

More divorce resources:

You can learn more about Family Flow on their website and you can listen to the previous episode of The Divorce Podcast with Liz Harrington on your favourite platform.

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#LegalBit

In this mini-episode, Kate talks about something many people experience but rarely talk about openly: when your ex ends the relationship or marriage without giving you a real reason why. This might bring up a lot of difficult feelings, and without closure, it may feel like it’s impossible for you to move on with your divorce. 

About the episode:

Kate starts off by exploring why your ex-partner might want to separate but can’t give you a reason why. She then explains why moving on is so important, even though it seems nearly impossible at the beginning. Kate finishes by sharing some actionable tips for dealing with the lack of closure, from acknowledging your feelings to getting the support you need.

Here are some of the points covered in this episode to help on your divorce journey:

• Why your partner wants a divorce but can’t give you a real reason
• Why it’s important to move on
• Tips for getting closure that your ex-partner can’t provide 

More resources:

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might be the topic of our next podcast!

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 

#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate was joined by Helen Adam and Kate Stanley to talk about language and divorce.

About the episode:

Kate and her guests discuss the power of language in shaping and reforming social issues and apply this to divorce and separation. The language that is used in policy and in wider society, has a real impact on people who are separating. They explore the changes in language brought in with the Children’s Act, and the move away from ‘battle language’ towards cooperative language, as well as the changes in language brought in with 'no-fault divorce' earlier this year.  Finally, Kate and her guests look at other social issues and how shifting the language has had a positive effect.

About our guests:

Helen Adam started her work with separating families as a solicitor in London.  These were pre-Children Act days, with battles over custody and residence. Following a career break, she retrained as a mediator and founded Wells Family Mediation. Helen is also chair of the Family Solutions Group (FSG).  The FSG presses for coordinated political oversight and funding for separated families.  Helen is currently part of an FSG sub-group who are reviewing the language used ‘in the system’ for families who live apart. They will be making recommendations for change away from adversarial vocabulary to language which is more family-focussed, promoting child welfare and safe outcomes for all.

Kate Stanley is Executive Director of FrameWorks UK – a not for profit communications and research organisation that helps mission-driven organisations achieve the social change they seek.  From 2011, Kate served as Board Director at NSPCC, for nearly ten years.  Previously, Kate was Deputy Director of the leading thinktank, the Institute for Public Policy Research, where she worked closely with academics and organisations to influence government social policy and practice. She has published widely on social policy and advised a wide range of governmental and non-governmental organisations including the University of Glasgow and UK Research and Innovation, and served on the Steering Group on Early Years advising the Duchess of Cambridge on her work in this field. Kate started her career in international development charities, including Save the Children, working in the UK and overseas. She was awarded a Clore Social Leadership Fellowship in 2010, is a Fellow of the British American Project, and former trustee of Hope and Homes for Children. She holds an MA in Social Anthropology from the University of Edinburgh.

P.S. We're sorry about the sound quality of Kate Stanley's audio. There was a problem with the recording equipment, and it's not up to our usual standard. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate was joined by Scottish actor and comedian, Wendy Wason, to talk about her divorce and navigating life after separation.

 About the episode:

Kate and Wendy discuss Wendy’s first marriage and subsequent divorce, which took place when her children were still young. They look at the impact her parent’s divorce had on how she managed her own separation, including her need to avoid conflict at all costs. Wendy talked about how stand-up presented a lifeline both financially and emotionally, although she described the difficulties that come with being a working single parent, particularly around organising childcare. They also explore Wendy’s blended family with both she and her ex-husband remarrying and the benefit of being able to sit down with a new partner and discuss how to navigate parenting in a new family setup.

About our guests:

Wendy has had many notable appearances across Theatre, Stand-up, Film and TV including roles in Coupling, The IT Crowd, Midsomer Murders, Sherlock, and Outcast. She is a mother of three and went through her own divorce in 2007 and has since remarried.

You can find follow Wendy on social media here. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate was joined by Mark Groves to discuss self-growth and healing following breakups, separation and divorce.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and Mark explore how to heal from a breakup or a separation. They also looked at the context of marriage and relationships, including how society perpetuates ‘bad’ breakups by reinforcing shame and guilt on those going through them. Mark explained the paradox of not having ‘important’ conversations, out of fear of losing that relationship, when in reality, silence often contributes to relationship breakdown. They looked at whether the way people deal with breakups is gendered and how we could do more to help cultivate healthy relationships individually and as a society. They agreed that a relationship ending is not a failure, but rather an opportunity for self-exploration and growth.

About our guests:

Mark is a Human Connection Specialist, speaker, writer, and motivator. Mark founded Create The Love a platform that guides people to design the life and love they long for, following on from his own rock bottom when his relationship ended. He hosts The Mark Groves Podcast and has a significant following on social media where he shares his insight into relationships. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#EmotionalJourney

In this second myth-busting episode, Kate was joined by Tracey Moloney, known to many as The Legal Queen on Tiktok and other social media platforms.

About the episode:

This is the second time Tracey has joined Kate on the podcast, so if you haven’t already, listen to their first episode (#58). For a number of years, she worked exclusively with clients that qualified for legal aid and specialised in children and financial matters following separation and divorce.  She was Head of the Family Department for a nationwide legal firm, where she was responsible for a team of 28 legal advisors. Tracey trained solicitors in her role as training principal and is an associate lecturer in family law at the University of Bristol. She aims to provide a clear explanation of people’s legal rights and help them to navigate the legal system. She shares her knowledge on TikTok, Instagram and YouTube as 'The Legal Queen' on all matters related to Family law.

They spent this episode busting common divorce and separation myths such as; whether divorces will be automatic with the introduction of no-fault divorce, whether you ‘need’ to split your pensions or inheritance when you separate, why you may need to disclose your finances on divorce and myths around children and custody. This episode covered the most commonly asked questions about divorce and separation in easy digestible snippets. Watch this space for future myth-busting episodes.

You might be able to hear Tracey's dog in this episode!

About our guests:

For a number of years, Tracey Moloney worked exclusively with clients that qualified for legal aid and specialised in children and financial matters following separation and divorce. She was Head of the Family Department for a nationwide legal firm, where she was responsible for a team of 28 legal advisors. Tracey trained solicitors in her role as training principal and is an associate lecturer in family law at the University of Bristol. She aims to provide a clear explanation of people’s legal rights and help them to navigate the legal system. She shares her knowledge on TikTok, Instagram and YouTube as 'The Legal Queen' on all matters related to Family law. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate was joined by James Hayhurst and Adam Colthorpe to discuss Dads and divorce or separation.

About the episode:

This episode started with Kate, James and Adam looking at some typical issues faced by Dads following on from a divorce or separation. What emerged was a clear set of gender-specific issues, routed in society, and a real need for reform, particularly in the workplace. They also explored the value of early intervention and limiting the negative impact of separation on families and children in particular.

About our guests:

James is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of the Parents Promise.  He has a background in Marketing and PR but was compelled to set up the Positive Parenting Alliance having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the scale and numbers of children affected. James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation and so in May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations the Parents Promise was launched. Backed by over 20 organisations including Only Mums & Dads, the children’s mental health charity Place2Be, Relate, Black Mums Upfront and our very own amicable, the aim of the Alliance is to effect important cultural change around separation in the UK and beyond. 

Adam is the Director of Co-parenting for Dads Unlimited, a men’s mental health charity working with fathers who have gone through family separation and male victims of domestic abuse to help improve the outcomes for the men and the people they care for. He is the author and facilitator of the Co-parenting Programme ‘5 Steps to Co-parenting Success!’ which has been improving the lives of separated families for the last 4 years. He has two children which he co-parents with his ex-wife.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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#Coparenting

In this first myth-busting episode, Kate was joined by Tracey Moloney, known to many as The Legal Queen on Tiktok and other social media platforms.

About the episode:

Kate and Tracey spent this episode busting common divorce and separation myths such as whether or not you need a solicitor to get divorced, when a financial order is needed in divorce proceedings, if common-law spouses exist and whether cohabiting couples have rights to property. This is part one of two myth-busting episodes, so keep an eye out for part two.

About our guests:

For a number of years, Tracey Moloney worked exclusively with clients that qualified for legal aid and specialised in children and financial matters following separation and divorce.  She was Head of the Family Department for a nationwide legal firm, where she was responsible for a team of 28 legal advisors. Tracey trained solicitors in her role as training principal and is an associate lecturer in family law at the University of Bristol. She aims to provide a clear explanation of people’s legal rights and help them to navigate the legal system. She shares her knowledge on TikTok, Instagram and YouTube as 'The Legal Queen' on all matters related to Family law. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate was joined by Dr Angharad Rudkin a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce and separation from the perspective of children.

About the episode:

In the episode, Kate and Angharad explored how children of different ages and genders deal with divorce and separation and the delayed impact this can have in their later life. Angharad explained the idea of ‘re-grieving’ and the benefits revisiting a separation can have for children, even years later.  They also looked at the different types of conflict and how in all its forms this can have a significant impact on children. They discussed the importance of including the other parent in your child’s life, even if they are no longer physically present. Finally, Angharad set out some useful tips on effective ways to tell your children that you’re separating, why parents often experience ‘guilt’ after they separate and what society should be doing in the future to redress the stigma that exists around parental separation.

About our guests:

Angharad is also an expert for the Metro's relationship column, offers training and consultation for family lawyers and worked as a lecturer on the Clinical Psychology doctorate at the University of Southampton for 12 years. Angharad was consulting editor for ‘101 Questions Answered about Separating with Children’ and has recently published a book for children on how to cope with their parent’s divorce, The Split Survival Kit, written with children’s author  Ruth Fitzgerald. Angharad is also passionate about communicating her work and believes key messages around child and family wellbeing should not be limited to the clinic room or the classroom.

Click on the link to find out more about Angharad's new book 'The Split Survival Kit: 10 Steps For Coping With Your Parents' Separation'.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate was joined by comedian, actor and broadcaster Samantha Baines to discuss her divorce.

About the episode:

Kate and Sam began by exploring her separation which started off on an amicable footing but turned sour during divorce proceedings when solicitors got involved and two sides were created. Sam opened up about how difficult she found the initial aftermath and emotional fallout after her husband left and the difficulties the pandemic brought to the process. They looked at the challenges of healing after divorce as well as how rewarding Sam found it was to rediscover herself through working, sex, dating and self-exploration after the divorce.  Sam discussed her own journey with her mental health and how she has found both therapy and medication useful in helping her to cope. Finally, they talked about Sam's wonderful podcast The Divorce Social which she created in part to help with her own emotional recovery and is a fantastic resource for others going through a similar thing.

About our guests:

Sam is an award-winning comedian, actor and broadcaster with many shows and appearances to her credit including The Crown, Call the midwife and Magic Mike Live. She is also the host of The Divorce Social podcast and has written for various publications including The Guardian, Time Out, Huffington Post, Stylist Magazine, The Pool, Standard Issue and has a column in Modern Woman Magazine.  Sam’s debut children's book Harriet Versus the Galaxy was listed in the Independent's Best Children's Books of the Year 2019 and in the Book Trust's Great Book Guide 2020. She has a second children's book The Night the Moon Went Out which was released last summer. Sam is also an Ambassador for Royal National Institute for Deaf people, is a Phonak HEARo and has spoken to MPs at the House of Commons about hearing issues, as well as fronting the RNID cinema subtitles campaign. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate was joined by Sara Davison, to discuss navigating the emotional process of divorce, separation and breakups.

About the episode:

In the episode, they begin by discussing the different types of divorce coaching all the way from amicable, which helps couples navigate the legal and financial process of divorce, to coaches like Sara, who help with the emotional and practical process of picking up your life after a breakup. They explored Sara’s own difficult journey through divorce which has shaped her career as a divorce coach. She offered some fantastic tips in terms of approaching divorce and stressed the importance of dealing with your current emotional state, but also looking to the future to help set yourself up in the best way possible. They also discussed the various flaws in the legal system and the need for future reform, particularly around children’s proceedings. This episode is full of helpful advice if you are confronted with a divorce, separation or breakup and aren’t sure where to start in terms of the emotional journey.

Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health and abuse.

Organisations who can help: 

• Your local GP
• Mind - mental health charity
• Samaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258
• Refuge - Domestic abuse charity for women
• Men's Advice Line - Domestic abuse support for males 
• YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19
• Is your life in danger? - dial 999
• Outside of the UK? Search for help here

About our guests:

Sara is best known as The Divorce Coach but she’s also a best-selling author and worldwide media commentator on the topic of divorce and separation. As an NLP Master Practitioner, Sara combines 26 years’ coaching experience with her own personal experience of marriage breakdown to help clients cope with challenges including heartbreak, betrayal, conflict, confidence building, co-parenting, being effective in the workplace during divorce and dating again. Sara also hosts her own podcast, Heartbreak To Happiness,  designed to help men and women struggling with the pain of relationship breakdown.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate was joined by author and journalist Rosie Green to discuss her journey from heartbreak to happiness. 

About the episode:

In the episode, Rosie talks to Kate about her marriage, painful separation and subsequent divorce. She talks about the importance of friendships, and how some friends might be better to lean on than others when you are going through a separation or divorce. They explore how Rosie has navigated co-parenting with her ex, the importance of finding productive and healthy ways to cope with a separation, dating post-divorce and finding happiness in new relationships.

About our guests:

Rosie has written for Red, The Times, The Telegraph and The Mail on Sunday and is the relationships expert on This Morning. Through her book, writing and Instagram she aims to help others navigate their own breakups and take them with her on the journey from rock bottom to reinvention. 

You can find out more about Rosie’s book ‘How to heal a broken heart’ by clicking on the link. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#SeparationStories

In this World Entrepreneur Day exclusive episode, Kate is joined by Pip Wilson, CEO and Co-founder of amicable, and Ruth Handcock, CEO of Octopus Money, to explore what happens when entrepreneurship meets emotional change — and how building businesses around separation, money and human kindness can transform lives. 

 About the episode: 

Pip starts by sharing what sparked the idea to co-found amicable and change the way people divorce. We’ll hear why Ruth and Octopus Money chose to back amicable and how this aligned with Octopus’ goals. Pip, Kate and Ruth all talk about how values like kindness, resilience and emotional intelligence shape meaningful companies, and dig into the link between money and separation, the myths that hold people back and what it really takes to disrupt an industry. Kate, Ruth and Pip finish with practical and emotional tips for anyone going through a separation — and advice for budding entrepreneurs ready to build something that matters.

A summary of what we cover:

• Pip’s reasons for starting amicable
• Why Ruth and Octopus Money backed amicable
• How human values can help companies disrupt industries
• The often-missed connection between finances and separation

About our guests:

Pip Wilson is the Co-founder and CEO of amicable, where she leads the charge in transforming the divorce and separation process. A highly successful tech entrepreneur, director and start-up mentor, Pip takes overall responsibility for driving amicable forward, including defining its innovative tech strategy to automate and improve the end-to-end journey, making amicable the kindest and best way to divorce or separate. Her entrepreneurial journey includes co-founding Bluefin Solutions, an SAP consultancy, which she successfully exited to Mindtree in 2015. Beyond amicable, Pip is a proactive angel investor, actively supporting and promoting female-led businesses. She has also contributed significantly to philanthropy, having served as a trustee for multiple charities including as Deputy Chair of the RSA. 

Ruth Handcock is the CEO of Octopus Money, a money advice brand for everyone. She believes everyone should be able to get help with their money, regardless of how much they earn or are able to invest and was awarded an OBE for services to financial services and investments in 2025. Ruth has been part of the Octopus Group since 2018. Before Octopus Money, she was CEO of Octopus Investments, an asset manager with £13bn under management. Ruth's career has spanned roles that have included zoology, strategic consultancy, finance director for Barcardi’s Martini & Cognac portfolios, founding employee of a challenger bank and working in Sierra Leone for the Ministry of Trade. Ruth currently serves as a non-executive director of Aldermore Bank. As a state-school educated kid from Lincolnshire, Ruth is passionate about social mobility. She was Governor at Bolingbroke Academy, a non-selective state secondary school for 6 years. 

Today marks the introduction of no-fault divorce. In this episode, Kate was joined by Clive Coleman to discuss the change in law, the media narrative around it and future reform in the divorce space.

About the episode:

Clive has also been through his own divorce, which he talks about in this episode. Kate and Clive also look at how the media has previously covered divorce, its responsibility in sparking change, as well as future reform. Clive responds to criticism around no-fault divorce from religious groups and where to go to find information about no-fault divorce.

About our guests:

As the BBC’s Legal Correspondent between 2010 and 2020, Clive was the face and voice of legal coverage and analysis across the BBC news output on radio, television and the website. Drawing on his years as a practicing barrister, he covered a vast range of domestic and international legal stories and issues including 2019’s momentous Supreme Court prorogation case, Brexit, the growing courts' backlog, the Barclay brothers ‘Ritz’ dispute, GDPR, the VW emissions scandal, phone hacking, Sir Cliff Richard v BBC, and the Hillsborough tragedy inquests.

Prior to becoming BBC Legal Correspondent, Clive was for six years the presenter of Radio 4’s flagship legal analysis programme ‘Law In Action’, and presented a raft of BBC programmes including Panorama ‘The Death of Kiss and Tell’, on the rise of privacy protection under the Human Rights Act. He has also been a columnist on ‘The Times’ and written for ‘The Guardian’ and ‘The Independent’. His time in journalism has given him a comprehensive knowledge of the media landscape, and a privileged insight into the justice system, the legal profession and civil and criminal law. Clive has an in-depth knowledge of how news stories work, are managed and affect the lives and reputations of those involved. His litigation training and experience in practice has given him a particular insight into news stories involving those going to law or seeking to avoid legal action, and the role of the lawyers advising and representing them.

Clive is also an acclaimed writer for theatre, television and film. His credits include, the play ‘Young Marx’ which opened Sir Nicholas Hytner’s Bridge Theatre in 2017, ‘Chambers’, his BBC sit-com starring John Bird and Sarah Lancashire, and the film ‘The Duke’ starring Helen Mirren and Jim Broadbent, released in February 2022. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate was joined by Louise Oliver to discuss sorting out your finances when you get divorced and the value a financial planner can add to this process.

About the episode:

This is a longer episode full of tips and advice on finances and divorce. Kate and Louise start by exploring how a financial planner can help during a divorce and the importance of each person really understanding their current financial situation at the outset of the process, to make better-informed decisions about any proposed settlement. Louise talked about the work a planner does to ‘stress test’ potential settlements and looking at what is needed to ensure money lasts a lifetime rather than just the near future. Other topics they covered were; business valuations, considering life insurance if maintenance payments are being paid, the notion of 'fair' and financial abuse. 

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Louise has worked in the financial services sector for over 30 years and is a Certified Financial Planner and a Chartered Wealth Manager.  Throughout her career, she has regularly featured as a financial expert in the media, including BBC breakfast TV, BBC radio 4, Moneybox and local radio.  Louise also appeared as an expert for a BBC Panorama and has won awards for Female Financial Adviser of the Year (South West) and Role Model of the Year in Financial Services. Louise enjoys working with families and individuals to help them to navigate through life’s changes. A particular focus has been with regard to divorce, business sales and bereavement.       

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#Finances 

In this episode, Kate was joined by Laura Friedman Williams and James Preece to discuss sex and dating after divorce.

About the episode:‍

Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children

Kate and her guests discuss sex and dating after divorce or separation. Laura explains why she thinks that being single again after a divorce is a gift, and an opportunity to have sex with confidence. James also provides his tips on how to use dating apps safely and how different genders approach sex after divorce and separation.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Laura is a mother of three children and author of the recently published book Available: A Very Honest Account of Life After Divorce, which has been a #1 bestseller on Amazon and has featured in The Financial Times, Cosmopolitan, Vogue, and The Daily Mail. 

James is one of the UK's leading Dating Experts and Dating Coaches. He is regularly featured in the Independent, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, and The Guardian. He is also an official dating spokesman for the UK government and the author of 15 bestselling dating books. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by Hatti Suvari to discuss the upcoming change in divorce law to a no-fault system.

About the episode:

Kate and Hatti discuss the upcoming changes in divorce law to the new no-fault system which will be introduced on the 6th of April 2022 and the issues that exist within the current system, including why having to blame each other from the offset, makes for tricky negotiations of finances and children arrangements. They explore the common myth that unreasonable behaviour or adultery has a bearing on financial settlements, when in reality this only impacts a financial order in very extreme cases. Hatti talks about how the change in terminology should make divorce more accessible as people may feel more comfortable navigating the divorce process by themselves. They also look at potential criticisms of no-fault divorce and Hatti addresses the fact that divorces will take longer.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Hatti is the CEO of Red Bar Law LLP and the founder and host of the very popular Get Legally Speaking podcast. Hatti’s podcast focuses on making legal knowledge more accessible to ordinary people and has had almost two million downloads in the past two years. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate was joined by Professor Lisa Doodson to discuss stepfamilies following on from separation and divorce.

About the episode:

Kate and Lisa began by exploring what a ‘step or ‘blended family' is, as well as some typical challenges faced. Lisa talked about her own experience of being a stepmum and shared her tips on introducing biological children to stepchildren, as well as the importance of listening to your children and taking time when doing this. They discussed the notion of drawing boundaries and ways of coping with certain obstacles such as an uncooperative ex.  Lisa shared her tips about choosing your battles, not falling into the good-cop, bad cop cycle, setting realistic expectations and what to expect from children of different ages and genders.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Lisa is a chartered psychologist and founder of HappySteps, a consultancy providing training and advice to both professionals and stepfamilies directly.  As an expert in the field, Lisa frequently contributes to TV documentaries and comments in the press.  The most recent being the BBC documentary following Rio and Kate Ferdinand on their journey to become a stepfamily.

As part of her PhD she conducted an extensive study on stepfamily wellbeing and has published several books on the topic including ‘How to be a Happy Stepmum’ and ‘Understanding Stepfamilies: A practical guide for professionals working with blended families’.  Lisa has also developed a range of evidence-based materials, including workshops and courses that she delivers to stepfamilies and family professionals. All services, research and educational materials are managed through her website.

More resources:

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In this episode, Kate was joined by Clare Reilly from PensionBee and Anna Dunne from amicable to discuss pensions on divorce.

About the episode:

In the episode, Kate, Clare and Anna discuss the various types of pensions available to individuals and the key differences between them. They explored the typical issues that might arise during divorce in terms of pensions and the ways in which they can be dealt with as part of a divorce financial settlement, such as off-setting, sharing, and less commonly -  through pension attachment orders. They reviewed how overseas pensions offer further complexity when it comes to divorce proceedings as these can be difficult to value and split. They also discussed the decisions individuals need to make when dealing with a pension award in their divorce and the fees which are involved in this.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Clare is Chief Engagement Officer at PensionBee, a leading online pension provider. PensionBee's mission is to make pensions simple so that everyone can look forward to a happy retirement. It helps consumers combine, contribute and withdraw from their pension, all in one place. Clare focuses on helping PensionBee transform the pensions industry to better serve consumers, such as the UK’s first Open Banking - pension integrations and launching one of the UK's first mainstream fossil-fuel-free pensions. 

Anna has worked in family law for over 16 years, 11 of which as a family law solicitor. She has a thorough knowledge of dealing with finances upon divorce and separation and oversees the drafting of consent orders at amicable.

More resources:

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#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate was joined by Helen Thorn, a comedian, author and co-host of the podcast –  The Scummy Mummies.

About the episode:

Kate and Helen discuss the break-up of her marriage during the first lockdown, and what she felt the hardest part about getting divorced was. Helen explained, why it was so important for her to have her husband’s adultery noted in her divorce petition and her view on the approaching change in the law to a no-fault system. Kate explored how Helen manages to make her co-parenting relationship work when it’s clear there is a sense of betrayal, and trust between her and her ex has been clearly damaged. Helen also shared her dating anecdotes and how talking about her divorce helps her navigate the road ahead.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Helen is widely known for her honest and hilarious take on parenthood, being single in her 40s and body positivity. She is co-host of one of the most popular parenting podcasts in the UK – The Scummy Mummies.

Get Divorced, Be Happy is a Sunday Times Bestselling book and follows the first year of Helen’s single life after her relationship of 22 years ends abruptly just before the March 2020 lockdown. Helen shares her roller coaster journey; from the initial shock of separation, the messy months hanging out in her PJs through to the highs of rediscovering sex, rock-solid female friendship and the glorious joy of just being alone.

More resources:

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In this episode, Kate was joined by Toby Hazlewood to discuss co-parenting and nesting arrangements post-separation and divorce.

About the episode:

Kate and Toby discussed his marriage and separation,  how his parenting- arrangement evolved over time, with him and his wife having experimented with multiple co-parenting patterns before landing on ‘bird nesting’. They discussed the various criticisms levelled at this type of shared-care arrangement and also the potential advantages of nesting.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Toby is a father, husband and writer living in the North-West of England. Through his writing, he shares his experiences of co-parenting and the lessons he’s learned, in the hope of helping others who are going through the same thing. Having divorced when his daughters were 7 and 4, Toby and his wife eventually opted for a nesting co-parenting arrangement until his children reached adulthood. 

You can find out more about Toby here. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate was joined by Haifa Barbari to discuss bouncing back after divorce, separation, and break-ups.   

About the episode:

In the episode, Kate and Haifa discussed Haifa's former work as a relationship coach, helping those who are going through a break-up and the impact of lockdown on relationships as well as why divorce rates are higher in the first three years for those who have met through dating apps. Kate and Haifa explored the difference between a broken relationship and one that needs work as well as ‘good break-ups’ and what is meant by ‘conscious uncoupling'.  

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Haifa Barbari is a self-coach who is passionate about empowering healthy relationships with oneself, others and life in general. 

More resources:

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#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate was joined by Joe David, founder of Myna, for a deeper understanding of the implications of cryptocurrency on divorce financial settlements.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and Joe explore the various types of cryptocurrencies currently available in the market exchange, including the less well known NFT’s, as well as the problems surrounding these sorts of cryptoassets. They look at potential ways to trace back transactions,  as well as the volatility of crypto more generally, as well as specific types. They also discussed the apparent void in experts who are prepared to help couples to sort through their crypto assets due to its unregulated nature, however,  agreed that both amicable and Myna would be happy to help if you are divorcing with crypto in your portfolio.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Joe is the U.K.'s leading cryptocurrency accounting expert. His cryptocurrency specialist accountancy business supports entrepreneurs and business owners to take control of their finances whilst gaining insight and educating them on the financial market shifts. Joe believes crypto is the future of finance, and that there’s been no better time to get started. However, from Bitcoin and Ethereum to Monero and Litecoin, he says there’s a lot to consider.

More resources:

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#TheLegalBit

This week, Kate is joined by Jo Thurston from Action for Children's Parent Talk to discuss co-parenting children with neurodiversity after divorce. Jo shares some tools and tips that can make the whole process smoother, helping your children feel included and making sure you and your co-parent are on the same page. Parenting a neurodiverse child means that both parents should focus on effective communication, consistency and understanding to help their child thrive.

About the episode:

Jo starts by defining neurodiversity and giving a quick overview of some of the most common neurodivergent profiles, for example ADHD, autism, dyslexia and dyspraxia. Kate and Jo move on to discuss the nuances of co-parenting neurodiverse kids and how to keep your communication with an ex-partner child-focused. They finish off with some actionable tips to help you in the process.

Here are some of the points they cover in this episode to help on your co-parenting journey:

• The importance of consistency when co-parenting
• How to talk to your children about divorce
• How to smooth the transition between two homes after separation or divorce
• Tips for communicating with your ex-partner, with insights from Jo Thurston from Action for Children’s Parent Talk

About our guest:

Jo is a co-ordinator at Action for Children’s Parent Talk service, which offers free online advice for parents and carers of children aged 0-19. The service also supports families with disabled and neurodivergent young people up to age 25.

Its confidential 1:1 live chat service connects parents and carers directly to an experienced parenting coach for judgement-free practical advice and emotional support, while its online advice content answers to some of the most common parenting questions.

Jo first joined Action for Children in 2018 as a Family Support Worker in a Children’s Centre. She has a background working in schools and pastoral care, with a particular interest in supporting families impacted by SEND. 

More resources:

Visit Parent Talk to read parenting advice or to chat online with a parenting coach. You can also learn more about the charity on Action for Children's website. 

To help your children prepare for handovers, you can use Mum’s House Dad’s House or My Home tools from Elsa Support. 

Thanks for listening - here’s 3 months of the amicable co-parenting app for free! Open this link on your phone, install the app and create your account. Once that’s done, select 'I have a promo code' when setting up your family, enter PODCAST, press ‘apply’ and enjoy staying organised together.

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might be the topic of our next podcast!

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 

#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by Denise Evans and Suzanna Kingsford-Smith to discuss no-fault divorce implementation in Australia and New Zealand.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate is joined by Denise Evans and Suzanna Kingsford-Smith, to discuss no-fault divorce implementation in Australia and New Zealand, and what we can expect from the rollout of no-fault divorce on the 6th of April 2022 in England and Wales. 

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Denise is a lawyer, mediator and arbitrator and has worked in family law for the last 30 years.  She was part of a group that pushed for the out of court Family Dispute Resolution service which assists parents to make care arrangements for their children. She believes that people need to rearrange their lives in a practical way and that systems should support this rather than set up adversarial conflicting approaches. She is grateful for the influence of Māori values and beliefs which are continuing to influence the delivery of justice services in Aotearoa New Zealand.

Suzanna is a divorce coach at amicable and has worked in the area of family law for the majority of her career. Suzanna has seen the full spectrum of divorces from the most litigious to the most amicable and is a strong believer that a healthy amicable divorce can be obtained with the right attitude and guidance. 

More resources:

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#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by Kathryn Colas, to discuss menopause and its impact on relationship breakdown.

About the episode:

They explore what menopause is, how it can impact relationships and the importance of separating the impact of menopause on relationships from other causes of relationship breakdown.   

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Kathryn founded SimplyHormones in 2007 following her own struggle with menopause over the course of 10 years. Simply Hormones offers face-to-face and online workplace training and one-to-one consultation to help women ‘survive’ menopause, both in and outside of work and offer support to managers to better understand this seismic change of life for their staff. Kathryn’s media appearances include the BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, BBC Breakfast TV along with numerous national newspapers and magazines. In 2020 she launched her first book ‘How to Survive Menopause Without Losing Your Mind’ which dedicates several chapters to relationship breakdown and men. 

You can buy Kathryn’s book directly through SimplyHormones, or from all major online book stores. 

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

 More resources:

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#EmotionalJourney

Today is the three-month count down until no-fault divorce is introduced in England & Wales. Kate is joined by Isabel Syred from Her Majesties Courts and Tribunal Services (HMCTS) with an exclusive no-fault divorce update on exactly what will change when the new law is introduced this April. 

About the episode:

Key takeaways:

• The new no-fault divorce legislation is on schedule to take effect on the 6th of April 2022 and will replace the current fault-based system
• The last opportunity to use the current system will be on the 5th April 2022 at 23:59 and the online transition between the systems will be seamless
• You will still be able to submit your application for divorce by post, however, if you wish to apply before the new laws take effect you will need to be mindful of postal delays
• The current facts supporting that your marriage has broken down irretrievably will be removed. These are; adultery, desertion, two years separation with consent, five years separation and unreasonable behaviour
• There will be a change in terminology from decree nisi and decree absolute to conditional order and final order to reduce the legal jargon
• You will be able to petition jointly, removing the need for the acknowledgement of service if a couple choose to do this
• You can still make an individual application for divorce, however, the respondent has up to 14 days to respond to this
• Due to the 20 week cooling-off period between the issue date and the conditional order divorces will likely take a minimum of 30 weeks
• Civil partners will be able to use the new online system to dissolve their civil partnership, which is not currently available at the moment
• There shouldn’t be an impact on existing cases
• Expect further updates from HMCTS in February 2022

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Isabel is the Service Manager for Divorce and Financial Remedy, she has worked for HMCTS for 35 years and her background is mainly in family and civil work. She has worked on Divorce and Financial Remedy specifically for the last five years and moving the process from paper to digital. The digital products currently are well established digital uptake is 89% for people doing their divorce themselves and the majority of solicitors are also using the digital services.

More resources:

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#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by Ash Pugh and Dan Martinez to discuss cryptocurrency and divorce.

About the episode:

Kate, Ash and Dan explore how the cryptocurrency space is developing and its impact on divorce financial settlements. They also discuss the importance of equipping yourself with knowledge if your spouse has cryptocurrency and when you may need expert help if cryptocurrency features in your marital assets.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Ash is the co-founder of New Kids on the Blockchain, a leading content provider specialising in creation and distribution within the exciting and fast-moving blockchain and cryptocurrency space. Over the last three years, award-winning documentary filmmakers, Ash and Lisa have travelled the globe attending key events as media partners and filming the leading influencers, projects and key opinion leaders for both their online content channel, as well as a feature documentary released in 2020. They are currently in post-production on the sequel to this on the rise Of DeFi. The weekly blockchain show features all the news about the global scene and is growing a strong following. 

Dan has over twelve years’ experience in family law, with the majority of his clients coming from word-of-mouth recommendations. Dan has a great reputation and extensive knowledge of the legalities surrounding divorce and separation. He has been a divorce coach at amicable for over a year.

More resources:

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#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by Marcie Shaoul and Anthony Syder to discuss co-parenting at Christmas from two different perspectives: a co-parenting coach and a child of divorce.

About the episode:

Kate, Marcie and Anthony discuss common co-parenting pitfalls around the festive period, how to navigate blended families, what to do about presents and former traditions and the role of extended family. Marcie and Anthony also give their top tips for co-parenting around Christmas.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Marcie is director of The Co-Parent Way, the UK’s only Co-Parent Coaching Practice. She is a thought leader in co-parenting and is responsible for developing a unique coaching methodology that enables parents to get to a place where they can co-parent together effectively after separation. It provides coaching specifically for couples or individuals who are separating and who have kids. Marcie is a member of Resolution and sits on their Parenting After Parting Committee. 

Anthony is a dispute resolution practitioner with experience across multiple sectors including family, employment and commercial. His areas of interest include the voice of the child, diverse and inclusive families and human rights. Anthony currently sits on the board of the Family Mediators Association and is a divorce coach and partnerships lead at amicable.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

Thanks for listening - here’s 3 months of the amicable co-parenting app for free! Open this link on your phone, install the app and create your account. Once that’s done, select 'I have a promo code' when setting up your family, enter PODCAST, press ‘apply’ and enjoy staying organised together.

#Coparenting

In this episode Kate is joined by Dr. Leyla Hussein to discuss how religion impacts divorce.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and Leyla discuss the challenges surrounding her divorce, given her Somali and her husband’s Kenyan heritage as well as why she thinks society should change the narrative around divorce through education and the promotion of healthy relationships. Leyla also discussed why she has chosen to host divorce parties as a form of celebration for her friends.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Dr. Leyla Hussein went through her own Islamic divorce over 15 years ago, and has since spoken out about her marriage, her difficult divorce, finding happiness after divorce and ‘divorce parties’.

Leyla is a psychotherapist, specialising in supporting survivors of sexual abuse. She is an international lecturer on female genital mutilation (FGM) and speaker on gender rights. She is recognised as one of the key experts on this issue globally and is a leading and award-winning international campaigner against all forms of violence against women and girls. Leyla founded The Dahlia Project, the UK’s first specialist therapeutic service for FGM survivors. In 2020, she was elected as Rector of the University of St Andrews for a three-year term, making history as the first Black woman to hold the position. She currently works as the Global Advocacy Director and Deputy Team Leader for the Africa-led Movement to End FGM. 

More resources:

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#SeparationStories

In this episode Kate is joined by Harriet Hadfield to discuss the best ways of co-parenting from different countries.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and Harriet discuss the challenges that come with co-parenting from different countries, as well as some helpful tips to help co-parents cope with this, and separation in general.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Harriet Hadfield is a broadcaster and journalist who’s covered notable news stories for the BBC and Sky News over the past 15 years. Since her marriage broke down suddenly and unexpectedly last year, she and her 3-year-old son Jack have settled on the Isle of Wight to be near her family and to the beach. Jack’s dad lives in Switzerland so they have been learning to cross-border co-parent, made all the trickier during a pandemic.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by Cecilia Corbetta and Judah Racham from Place2Be to explore the impact of divorce on children.

About the episode:

This episode explores the impact of divorce on children, through the expertise of Cecilia Corbetta and Judah Racham from Place2Be.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Place2Be is a children’s mental health charity with over 25 years of experience working with pupils, families and staff in UK schools. Its mission is to improve children and young people’s mental health. Place2Be's vision is for all children and young people to have the support they need to build lifelong coping skills and thrive.

Cecilia is Regional Clinical Lead for London and West. Cecilia joined Place2Be in 2003 and holds national responsibility for Parent Work. She is a BACP accredited counsellor and clinical supervisor with over 17 years of experience delivering counselling, therapeutic services and supervision within schools and private practice.

Judah is Programme Leader for Family Work. He is a BACP registered counsellor, and Parent-training Mentor, who joined Place2Be in 2021. He has over 7 years of experience delivering counselling and therapeutic services for adults and children. Judah has been supporting parents and carers, delivering parent training and supervising parenting practitioners within local authorities and the NHS for over 17 years.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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#Coparenting

In this episode Kate is joined by Maria Boghiu and Graham Landi from Spill to discuss divorce anxiety and methods for coping with divorce.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and her guests discuss the impact of divorce and separation on individuals' mental health. They explore how the feelings of anxiety and overwhelm manifest themselves and what can be done to help manage these feelings. They also discuss useful tools to help individuals mental health when going through a divorce or separation, and when an intervention such as therapy or counselling may be needed.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Spill is a health-tech start-up with a mission to bring high-quality therapy to as many people as possible. 

Maria is Head of Product at Spill, with a background in tech as a software engineer and is currently in the process of re-training to become an existential therapist. She has a small clinical practice outside of Spill, working as a volunteer counsellor in a bereavement service, and offers low-cost therapy.

Graham has spent the last nine years as a practising counsellor and coach, following on from retraining having spent 25 years in the corporate world. His experience prior to counselling has given him an unparalleled insight into both the fundamentals of the human condition as well as the pressures of corporate life. Graham is accredited with the National Counselling Society.

More resources:

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#EmotionalJourney

In this episode Kate is joined by Bec Jones and Anthony Syder to establish once and for all what the difference is between a Divorce Specialist and a mediator.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and her guests discuss their retrospective journeys within family law and their transition from divorce lawyer/ mediator to divorce coach. They also explore the various options open to couples when they divorce, and how to decide which may option may be best for you and your family.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Bec has a background in family law as a family law solicitor with over 8 years’ experience and has also been through her own divorce. She is fantastic at offering pragmatic advice and is a fountain of knowledge when it comes to the legalities around divorce and separation. Bec has been a divorce coach at amicable for over five years and has authored and appeared in a number of articles surrounding divorce, separation and co-parenting and is well known for her tips for maintaining a blended family. 

Anthony is a dispute resolution practitioner with experience across multiple sectors including family, employment and commercial. His areas of interest include the voice of the child, diverse and inclusive families and human rights. Anthony currently sits on the board of the Family Mediators Association and is a divorce coach and partnerships lead at amicable. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#TheLegalBit

In this episode, Kate is joined by Allison O’Brien, a communication and leadership development consultant, to discuss techniques for communicating with an ex-partner or co-parent and why some people might need more time to get on board with the idea of an amicable divorce. 

About the episode: 

Allison starts off by sharing the story of her parents' separation, and then her own experience with a relationship breakdown. She also explains how her professional skills helped her through her divorce and in establishing a positive co-parenting relationship. Kate and Allison go on to discuss the pushback that Allison received after her TED Talk "How to divorce as allies, not enemies" was released and what problems we’re still facing as a society that make the concept of an amicable, collaborative divorce so hard to accept. Allison finishes off with some expert tips on communicating with an ex-partner to remain civil and co-parent successfully.

A summary of what we cover:

• Allison O’Brien’s personal stories about separation
• How professional skills can help improve communication skills
• Overcoming negative perceptions of amicable separations
• Top tips for ex-partner and co-parent collaboration

About our guest:

Allison O’Brien is a communication and leadership development consultant who helps individuals and companies transform how they work through culture, communication and the science of listening. Known for embracing risk and change, her expertise lies in uncovering the insights needed to improve conversations, manage emotions and build genuine connection.

When her marriage of 15 years was ending, she committed to using the same principles she teaches in her work to navigate her divorce without lawyers or mediators involved. As a result, she maintains a solid friendship and collaborative co-parenting relationship with her former spouse. All of which she shares in her recent TED.com talk.

For O’Brien, the power of listening is the key to changing the way people live, love and lead.

More resources:

Get in touch with Allison on LinkedIn, and you can watch her inspiring TED Talk "How to divorce as allies, not enemies" here.

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!

Thanks for listening - here’s 3 months of the amicable co-parenting app for free! Open this link on your phone, install the app and create your account. Once that’s done, select 'I have a promo code' when setting up your family, enter PODCAST, press ‘apply’ and enjoy staying organised together.

#Coparenting

In this episode Kate is joined by Helen Lederer to discuss co-parenting and her life post-divorce.

About the episode:

In this episode, Helen and Kate discuss her divorce, being a single mother and how to 'get back on the horse' after breakups and separation. 

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Helen Lederer is a comedian, writer and actress who emerged as part of the alternative comedy boom at the beginning of the 1980s. She established a stand-up act at the Comedy Store in London and then won parts in episodes of The Young Ones, which had been written by her Comedy Store contemporaries Ben Elton and Rik Mayall. Among her television credits are the BBC2 sketch series Naked Video and BBC One's Absolutely Fabulous.

Helen has been a constant TV presence appearing on a myriad of comedy and panel shows as well as Theatre, taking a role in The Vagina Monologues and Calendar Girls. More recently, Helen launched a new literary prize for comic fiction written by women. Helen is twice married and once divorced and has a daughter from her first marriage.

More resources:

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Kate is joined by Rory the Vet and Oli Juste, dog behaviourist, to discuss all things pet and separation.

About the episode:

Kate and her guests explore all topics related to pets, divorce and separation – from pet anxiety when their owners split to whether ‘petnups’ might be the way forward.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Dr Rory Cowlam, also known as Rory the Vet is a practising veterinary surgeon in the UK. Rory has a popular television presence with a leading role in the CBBC show The Pets Factor now on its 8th series of production. As well as this, Rory has appeared on Blue Peter, BBC Breakfast, Lorraine, CBBC HQ as well as Saturday Morning Mash-Up.

Oli Juste, is a UK based dog behaviourist, who provides positive, modern, ethical dog training with an emphasis on behaviour to dogs and their owners all over the UK & Europe through his 1-on-1 Online Video sessions. Oli, from Channel Four’s Puppy School, also featured in This Morning, The Telegraph, Dogs Today, Metro and Hello Magazine.

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In this episode Kate is joined by Dr. Amy Baker to discuss the effects of divorce on children.

About the episode:

Dr. Amy Baker brings her substantial expertise to talk about the effects of divorce on children.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Dr. Amy Baker has a PhD in Developmental Psychology from Teachers College of Columbia University in the USA and is a researcher, expert, author, and a nationally recognized expert in parent child relationships, especially children of divorce. She is the author or co-author of 8 books and over 115 articles on parental alienation, co-parenting with a toxic ex, and helping teenagers navigate their parent’s divorce. She works as a coach to lawyers and mental health professionals as well as continuing her academic research and working as expert witness in courts.

More resources:

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In this episode Kate is joined by Carl Donnelly to discuss navigating mental health and divorce with comedian.

About the episode:

Comedian Carl Donnelly shares the story of his own divorce and how it affected his mental health.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Carl Donnelly is an award-winning stand-up comedian, writer, and podcaster. He’s been twice nominated for the Edinburgh Comedy Award and appeared on a selection of TV shows such as Mock The Week, and Russell Howard’s Good News. Carl has travelled the world having performed at the Just For Laughs Festival in Montreal, The Melbourne International Comedy Festival, The New Zealand Comedy Festival. In this episode, Carl talks candidly about his divorce and his mental health. 

More resources:

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In this episode Kate is joined by Rosie Wilby to discuss the process of moving on after a separation.

About the episode:

Rosie Wilby shares her thoughts on how to move on after a separation.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

P.s. We're sorry that the sound quality of this episode is not up to our usual standards, we're still recording remotely!

About our guests:

Rosie Wilby is an award-winning comedian, author and podcaster who has appeared many times on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman's Hour and Four Thought. Her first book Is Monogamy Dead? was longlisted for the Polari First Book Prize and followed a trilogy of solo shows investigating the psychology of love and relationships. Her new book The Breakup Monologues is based on her acclaimed podcast of the same name.

More resources:

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In this episode Kate is joined by Zemar Dajani to discuss how to empower yourself after a breakup.

About the episode:

Kate and Zemar discuss the emotional journey of the breakup and how it impacts your life afterwards in this truly empowering episode.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Zemar Dajani is a proud mum of two girls, Dania and Yasmina, who are from two different marriages in two different countries. Zemar’s first marriage in Jordan was very difficult,  after her first divorce she re-invented herself and decided to go to law school. Since qualifying, Zemar has been working as a Commercial Solicitor in London for over 15 years and is also an accredited breakup and divorce coach practitioner.

Zemar’s book "From Breakup to Empowerment" is a guidebook on divorce to provide helpful tips for any person embarking on a divorce in England or America. The book tackles the various steps which may ease the divorce process; it covers topics such as: finances, emotional issues, child custody and maintenance as well as how to start a new life post-divorce.

More resources:

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In this episode Kate is joined by Lucy Fry to discuss how to have an amicable separation based on her own experience.

About the episode:

During this episode, Lucy shares how she and her wife co-parent their son and how they've achieved an amicable split, even with bumps in the road. Thank you Lucy for your realistic and honest insights into relationships and parenthood. 

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About Lucy

Lucy Fry is a writer, author and speaker. Her memoir, Easier Ways To Say I Love You, explores love, lust and loss in all its rawest forms.

Lucy has worked as a weekly columnist at The Sunday Telegraph newspaper and has written articles for publications like The Guardian, Times, Telegraph, Mail on Sunday, Stylist, Psychologies and Women’s Health.

Lucy’s particular areas of expertise include physical, mental and emotional health, and addiction.

You can find out more about Lucy on her Instagram: @lucy_fry_writer

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In this episode Kate is joined by Dee Holmes and Peter Saddington, who are Relate counsellors, to discuss the difficult bit when one of you knows the relationship is over but the other person isn't ready to move forwards.

About the episode:

This episode is about the beginning of a separation. The difficult bit when one of you knows the relationship is over but the other person isn't ready to move forwards. Our guests are Relate counsellors, Dee Holmes and Peter Saddington.

Relate is known as ‘the relationship people’, specialising in counselling for every type of relationship including marriage counselling, LGBT issues, divorce and parenting.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Dee Holmes has worked for Relate since 1997 and trained as a couple counsellor initially and then as a family, young persons and children’s counsellor. Dee has worked in schools and colleges (from 5 to 18 age group) delivering counselling and have often heard and seen the effect of parental conflict around separation can have on young people.

Dee’s current role is part of the team that oversees the clinical governance in Relate , she is also the clinical lead for safeguarding and the lead for children and young people at Relate. 

Peter Saddington is an experienced relationship counsellor and sex therapist who also has experience in family counselling and addiction therapy. Peter has worked for Relate since 1994 and works with couples and individuals who are going through separation as well counselling people through re-building relationships. Peter’s clients can be aged anything from 16 with his oldest client being 93. 

More resources:

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In this episode Kate is joined by Dan Betts aka The Breaking Dad to discuss his journey as a co-parent and a single dad.

About the episode:

Dan Betts shares his story of divorce and co-parenting. Find out more and follow him here.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Dan is a 31-year-old Dad from Hampshire, and co-parent to his beautiful four-year-old daughter Evie. 

Evie’s mum and Dan separated just over two years ago when she was two and have since been navigating the ups and downs of a co-parenting life which as we know can be tough. Dan started to share their journey together on social media in an honest, no-frills and candid way, to show other co-parents who are struggling with parental separation that they aren’t alone. He now has a substantial online following and is known as The Breaking Dad.

More resources:

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In this episode, Kate is joined by James Hayhurst and Dr Angharad Rudkin to discuss the newly launched campaign, the Parents Promise.

About the episode:

Kate Daly, James Hayhurst and Dr Angharad Rudkin discuss the challenges that children and parents face as a result of divorce. They also talk about the newly launched campaign, the Parents Promise.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

James Hayhurst is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of the Parents Promise. Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the scale and numbers of children affected James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation.  In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations, the Parents Promise was launched. Backed by over 20 organisations ranging from the likes of the children’s mental health charity Place2Be to Relate to Black Mums Upfront the aim of the Alliance is to effect important cultural change around separation in the UK and beyond.

Dr Angharad Rudkin is a clinical psychologist with 20 years experience of working with children and families. Angharad is also an expert for the Metro's relationship column and the program tutor for Clinical Psychology doctorates at the University of Southampton and has co-written parenting books and books for children, including consulting editor for ‘101 Questions Answered about Separating with Children’. Angharad is also passionate about communicating her work believing key messages around child and family well-being should not be limited to the clinic room or the classroom and has a wide media profile.

More resources:

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This week, Kate is joined by Jo Thurston from Parent Talk to discuss why summer holidays can be so tricky for single parents and share some simple tips for making them more manageable and fun. Without the school routine and longer days in the sun, it’s an important time to create new memories and enjoy new activities with your children. However, summer as a single parent can be challenging when you’re doing all of this solo. It might involve more schedules, additional childcare and juggling high expectations. 

About the episode:

Kate and Jo start by explaining why summer holidays can be challenging for single parents, and when’s a good time to start planning them. There are also some tips on how not to over-plan! 

Here are some of the points they cover in this episode to help single parents this summer:

• How to navigate holiday costs
• Where you can look for affordable activities to fit your budget and available time
• Communication tips with your co-parent
• Staying flexible and willing to adjust your schedule
• Why involving your children in holiday planning could be a good idea

About our guest:

Jo is a co-ordinator at Action for Children’s Parent Talk service, which offers free online advice for parents and carers of children aged 0-19, or up to 25 where a young person has special educational needs. Its confidential 1:1 live chat service connects parents and carers directly to an experienced parenting coach for judgement-free practical advice and emotional support, while its online articles answer some of the most common parenting questions.

 Jo first joined Action for Children in 2018 as a Family Support worker in a Children’s Centre. She has a background working in schools and pastoral care and has a particular interest in supporting families impacted by SEND. 

More resources:

You can learn more about Action For Children and how they can help you on their website. For parenting advice, visit Parent Talk to explore their resources and have a one-to-one chat with a parenting coach. 

You can also book a 90-minute Separating With Children session with amicable to create a parenting plan for the summer holidays. 

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!

Thanks for listening - here’s 3 months of the amicable co-parenting app for free! Open this link on your phone, install the app and create your account. Once that’s done, select 'I have a promo code' when setting up your family, enter PODCAST, press ‘apply’ and enjoy staying organised together.

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 

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In this episode Kate is joined by Holly Bell to share some divorce advice.

About the episode:

Kate and Holly Bell discuss her book  “I know I don't know you, but... True stories, reflections & advice on divorce" and share some divorce wisdom.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Holly Bell is an award-winning blogger, author and a finalist of the Great British Bake-Off.

Holly is divorced and has three sons and recently released her book, “I know I don't know you, but... True stories, reflections & advice on divorce" after experiencing many women reaching out to her for advice and support. Holly wrote the book to be a bit like a friend, who would advise you on what to do with your wedding ring as well as how to cope with sleeping alone. She believes stigma should be banished from divorce and has sat in too many coffee shops in Leicester advising friends to believe that all divorces can be amicable. 

More resources:

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In this episode Kate is joined by Tamsin Caine to discuss how to budget through a divorce.

About the episode:

Smart Divorce provides bespoke divorce financial planning services to those who are faced with navigating the challenges of divorce or dissolving a civil partnership.

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Tamsin Caine has a background of over 15 years in financial services. 

She began Smart Divorce following her own experience of divorce.  Tamsin now advises people in the same situation as she once was in, helping and empowering them to take back control of their lives and finances.

More resources:

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In this solo episode, Kate shares her journey and why she created The Divorce Podcast and amicable.

About the episode:

Since we've hit the milestone of twenty episodes, we wanted to give you a chance to get to know your host, Kate Daly, a little better. In this solo episode, Kate shares her journey and why she created The Divorce Podcast and amicable. It's short but sweet and we hope you enjoy it learning more about Kate. 

Please note: this episode was recorded before the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, and may mention the previous legal system. For accurate information on the legal process of divorce, please visit amicable.co.uk

About our guests:

Kate Daly is a co-founder of amicable. Kate is a divorce expert and helps couples and separated parents navigate divorce and separation amicably. Kate is passionate about changing the way the world divorces and campaigns for fairer divorce laws and access to justice.

More resources:

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