The Divorce Course Podcast is hosted by mother–daughter duo Laura Furiosi and family law specialist Lyn Galvin. Together, they break down the complex world of separation and divorce into clear, practical, and empowering conversations. From property settlements and parenting arrangements to dealing with difficult exes, finances, and family court, the podcast gives listeners the knowledge, tools, and confidence to navigate divorce without feeling lost or alone.
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Worried About Your Divorce Lawyer? Delays, Bills and Backpedaling in Family Law Explained
Episode 338
Wednesday, September 30, 2026 • Duration 51:30
🎧 Listen to this episode if…
You've sent emails and heard nothing back for weeks
The strategy has completely changed without a discussion
The family violence you disclosed isn't even in your affidavit
Your lawyer is great at invoices but not much else
You're thinking about leaving your lawyer but don't know the steps
⚠️ Disclaimer: General information only, not legal advice. Based on Australian family law. Always get independent legal advice, and consider all aspects before deciding to leave your lawyer. 🛟 This episode discusses family violence and coercive control. If you're in danger call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).
About this episode: Bad lawyer, bad fit – or a good lawyer having a bad month? Mum and I walk through what a good lawyer relationship looks like, reasonable response times, why strategies change (and when backpedaling is a red flag), what to do when your lawyer minimises family violence, how to question a bill without feeling horrible, the repair conversation to have before you leave, and the exact steps to change lawyers without leaving yourself in the lurch. You're the client – it's okay to ask questions.
⏱️ Timeline 00:00 – Warning Signs Your Divorce Lawyer Might Be the Problem 01:00 – Why Family Lawyers Are Hardworking (And Human) 02:00 – You're the Client: Permission to Ask Questions 04:00 – Legal Disclaimer and Family Violence Warning 05:00 – What a Good Lawyer Relationship Looks Like 06:00 – What Your Lawyer Should Explain Without Being Asked 07:00 – A Good First Meeting: Chronologies and Probing Questions 09:00 – Over-Promising Lawyers and the Polaroid Analogy 10:00 – How Long Should You Wait to Hear Back? 11:00 – Busy Lawyer vs Neglectful Lawyer 13:00 – Never Miss a Court Deadline 15:00 – Radio Silence? The Email to Send the Principal 16:00 – Will Complaining Make My Lawyer Hate Me? 17:00 – Trust and Full Disclosure 18:00 – The Dot-Point Chronology Trick 19:00 – Illegal Activity and Legal Professional Privilege 21:00 – Section 128 Certificates 22:00 – Affairs, New Partners and Why Lawyers Don't Judge 23:00 – Strategy Changes and Backpedaling 27:00 – Defensive Lawyers and Letters of Advice 28:00 – When Lawyers Gatekeep Family Violence 29:00 – Section 43: Safety Over Everything 30:00 – The 2024 Reforms: Is Your Lawyer Up to Date? 34:00 – What a Normal Legal Bill Looks Like 35:00 – What You Can Question in a Bill 38:00 – The Repair Conversation 39:00 – Meeting the Principal and Testing Their Reaction 41:00 – Project Managing Your Case 43:00 – Leaving Your Lawyer: Pause the File, Check Timing 44:00 – Find Your New Lawyer First 45:00 – Outstanding Bills and Court Portal Access 46:00 – Rapid Fire: Second Opinions and Support People 48:00 – Step In, Step Out 49:00 – Is It Though? Why Questioning Is Everything
If this helped you work out whether your lawyer is the right fit, please subscribe, like and share so others can find it too.
All our best, Laura & Lyn – Your Guides By Your Side
The Narcissist Playbook: 10 Patterns of Manipulative Exes in Divorce
Wednesday, September 23, 2026 • Duration 40:56
🎧 Listen to this episode if…
Your ex is rewriting your shared history in lawyer's letters or affidavits
Money is disappearing before your property settlement
You suspect secret super, hidden cash, or crypto
Your ex has turned your family or your own accountant against you
The person who hurt you is now playing the victim
You want to know these patterns are predictable and you're not alone
You suspect your ex is a narc
⚠️ Disclaimer: General information only, not legal advice. Based on Australian family law. Originally recorded in 2021 – laws may have changed. Always get independent legal advice. 🛟 This episode discusses family violence and coercive control. If you're in danger call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) | Lifeline 13 11 14.
About this episode: From the vault over 300 episodes back to one of the very first and most requested episodes we ever recorded. Mum draws on 35+ years in family law to open up The Narcissist Playbook: the 10 patterns she sees again and again with controlling and manipulative exes in divorce. If the playbook existed, it would have two chapters "I only care about me" and "I tell lies." Once you can see the patterns, you can see the next move coming.
⏱️ Timeline 00:00 – From the Vault: Why We're Replaying The Narcissist Playbook 01:00 – Family Violence Warning & Disclaimer 02:00 – The Two Rules of the Narcissist Playbook 04:00 – Pattern 1: They Rewrite History 07:00 – How to Prove the Lies: Photos, Receipts, Credibility 09:00 – Pattern 2: Spending Money Before Property Settlement 10:00 – Add-Backs: How Wasted Money Gets Counted 11:00 – Pattern 3: Secret Super, Bank Accounts and Hidden Cash 12:00 – Crypto and Digital Wallets 13:00 – Positive Credit Card Balances and Gambling Accounts 14:00 – Pattern 4: Undermining You With Family and Kids 16:00 – Building Your Support Group 17:00 – Pattern 5: Playing the Victim and DV Cross-Applications 18:00 – Keeping a Diary of Coercive Control 21:00 – Pattern 6: Parent of the Year Transformation 22:00 – Toys, Trips and Trash Talk: The Cost to Kids 24:00 – Genuine Change vs Performance 25:00 – Pattern 7: They Re-Partner Almost at Once 26:00 – Recruiting the New Partner Into the Campaign 27:00 – When the New Partner Wakes Up: Witnesses and Subpoenas 28:00 – Pattern 8: Turning Joint Professionals Against You 30:00 – Get Your Own Accountant and Team 31:00 – Pattern 9: Claiming Credit for Your Contributions 33:00 – Why Judges See Through It 34:00 – Pattern 10: Reversing the Blame 35:00 – How Courts Catch the Lies 37:00 – New Court Rules: Responding to Their Affidavit 38:00 – The Ten Patterns Recapped 39:00 – Reviewer of the Month: Free 30-Minute Consult With Lyn
The Truth About House Valuations in Divorce (And the Dirty Tricks)
Episode 338
Wednesday, September 16, 2026 • Duration 44:08
🎧 Listen to this episode if…
You've been told to "just get the house valued" but nobody's explained who, how, or what it costs
Your ex reckons the house is worth a completely different number
Your ex won't let a valuer through the door – or is stalling on purpose
You separated years ago and don't know which date the house gets valued at
You're heading into mediation and need a number that holds up
⚠️ Disclaimer: General information only, not legal advice. Based on Australian family law. Always get independent legal advice for your circumstances. 🛟 This episode discusses manipulative and controlling behaviour. If you're in danger call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).
About this episode: You can't divide the property until you know what it's worth. Mum and I unpack appraisals vs valuations, the panel-of-three process for choosing a single expert valuer, the joint letter, the seven-day rule that stops a stalling ex, the dirty tricks people pull, and the date trap – your house is valued at mediation or trial, not the day you separated. Plus strategies for every personality type, from amicable to manipulative and controlling.
⏱️ Timeline 00:00 – What Is Your House Really Worth in Divorce? 01:00 – Why a Valuation Is the Foundation of Property Settlement 02:00 – Legal Disclaimer 03:00 – Why Property Division Is a Mathematical Exercise 04:00 – Rates Notices and Numbers That Don't Count 05:00 – The "Willing But Not Anxious" Test 06:00 – Appraisal vs Valuation: Why Court Wants One Number 07:00 – The Divide-By-Four Trick for Appraisals 08:00 – Selling, Keeping or Being Bought Out 09:00 – Consent Orders With a Formula 10:00 – Keeping the House: Agreed Number or Single Expert 11:00 – Dirty Tricks: Half-Finished Renovations 13:00 – Avoidant Exes Living in the House 14:00 – The Valuer vs Agent Tactic 16:00 – The Panel of Three: Choosing a Valuer Fairly 17:00 – The Joint Letter to the Valuer 18:00 – The Seven-Day Rule That Stops a Stalling Ex 19:00 – Single Expert Valuers: What You're Signing Up For 20:00 – Retrospective Valuations 21:00 – What a Valuation Costs and Who Pays 23:00 – Getting Your Ex to Pay 24:00 – What Happens on Valuation Day 25:00 – Falling House Prices and Timing 26:00 – Do You Need to Be There? 27:00 – Do It Before Mediation 28:00 – What If You Disagree With the Valuation? 29:00 – Shadow Valuers and Cross-Examination 30:00 – When the Valuation Comes in Below the Mortgage 32:00 – The Date Trap: Value at Mediation, Not Separation 33:00 – Building a Wastage Argument 34:00 – Falling Markets and Updated Valuations 36:00 – Why Court Won't Punish Market Timing 37:00 – Court-Ordered Sales and Auctions 39:00 – Rapid Fire: Mortgages, Equity, Selling Costs 41:00 – Valuing the House Without Your Ex's Permission 42:00 – Amicable and Avoidant Exes 44:00 – High Conflict: Single Expert Takes the Fight Out 45:00 – Manipulative Exes on Inspection Day 47:00 – Delay Tactics and Final Thoughts
Domestic Violence in Custody Battles: The Creep Strategy Exposed
Episode 336
Wednesday, September 9, 2026 • Duration 53:27
🎧 Listen to this if…
Your ex keeps saying supervised visits are "going well" so it's time for unsupervised
You got a lawyer letter that says "this won't look good for you in court"
You're being pressured into an agreement your instincts say isn't safe
You've been told "you'll be accused of alienation"
Your ex has done a online course and now claims they've changed
You want to know what the courts are saying about supervised time and safety
⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning
This is general information only it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your specific situation. Always consult a lawyer about your circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded. This episode discusses family violence, coercive control and child safety. If you are in danger, call 000. For support: (1800 737 732).
⏱️ Timeline
00:00 – The Creep Strategy
02:30 – Separated Under One Roof
04:00 – What Supervised Visits and Contact Centres Are
15:15 – Does Refusing Unsupervised Time Look Bad in Court?
17:00 – The 50/50 Myth Busted
19:15 – The Trap: Agreeing to Unsupervised Time
22:45 – An Ex Who Refuses Supervised Time
25:15 – Dorval & Augustin [2025]:
27:30 – Drew & Mason [2025]:
29:20 – Bergsberg & Hyde [2026]:
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Divorce Negotiations Stuck? 10 Ways to Move the Needle
Episode 335
Tuesday, September 1, 2026 • Duration 49:34
🎧 Listen to this episode if…
- Your divorce negotiations have stalled and every message gets "no" or no reply at all - Your ex keeps delaying and you can't work out why - You're stuck arguing over percentages and getting nowhere - Your ex is "sitting pretty" with no reason to settle - You're wondering whether it's time to send that final warning letter
⚠️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only it is not legal advice. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances.
🛟 Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode touches on coercive control and controlling ex-partners. If you're in danger, call 000. Confidential support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) or Lifeline (13 11 14).
Have your negotiations stalled? In this episode, Mum and I go through 10 practical ways to move the needle when your divorce feels completely stuck in three phases. First, the soften-and-unstick approach: diagnosing why your ex is stalling, repackaging your offer, getting off percentages, and showing them how the settlement will actually happen. Then smart pressure: keeping a live offer on the table, treating terrible offers as data, letting the law do the arguing, and making the maths impossible to ignore. And if none of that works, we show you how to make staying stuck expensive from spousal maintenance to the notice of intention to file, the warning letter Mum describes as "an unblocked drain" for stalled negotiations. No one stays stuck forever and we're here with you every step of the way.
⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – Divorce Negotiations Stuck? 10 Tips to Move the Needle 01:00 – Three Phases: Soften, Smart Pressure, Make Stalling Expensive 02:00 – Why Divorce Negotiations Stall in Almost Every Case 03:00 – The Four Divorce Personality Types That Get Stuck 05:00 – Tip 1: Diagnose Why the Stall Is Happening 06:00 – Tip 2: Change the Packaging, Not the Offer 08:00 – Tip 3: Get Off the Percentages 10:00 – Why 50/50 Means Nothing Without Agreed Values 12:00 – Tip 4: Show the How, Not Just the Outcome 15:00 – Tip 5: Keep a Live Offer on the Table at All Times 17:00 – Making Offers When Disclosure Is Missing 20:00 – Tip 6: Treat Terrible Offers as Data and Bank Every Concession 23:00 – Tip 7: Let the Law Do the Arguing 25:00 – Finding Family Law Cases on AustLII and the Court Website 26:00 – Tip 8: Make the Maths Impossible to Ignore 29:00 – The 2% Spiral: When Arguing Costs More Than It's Worth 31:00 – Tip 9: Remove the Comfort Funding the Stall 33:00 – Spousal Maintenance: Not Sitting Pretty Anymore 35:00 – Tip 10: The Notice of Intention to File 38:00 – What Happens After You Send the Warning Letter 40:00 – Recap: All 10 Tips to Unstick Your Divorce 43:00 – Mindset: No One Stays Stuck Forever 48:00 – DIY Divorce Blueprint: Doors Closing
Building Your Divorce Support Team: Who Belongs in Your Corner?
Episode 334
Wednesday, August 26, 2026 • Duration 01:04:39
🎧 Listen if you…
Are exhausted from justifying your divorce to everyone around you
Have family pressuring you to "keep it amicable" or reconcile
Suspect your ex has recruited your friends, in-laws or family
Aren't sure your lawyer is actually in your corner
This is general information only, not legal advice always consult a lawyer about your circumstances. This episode discusses family violence and coercive control. In danger? Call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).
You can do everything right in your divorce and still be exhausted because of the people standing around you
00:00 – Divorce Support Team: Why the People Around You Matter
02:30 – Why You Never Plan Your Team (But Should)
03:30 – Lyn's Divorce 40 Years Ago: Judgement in a Country Town
04:30 – Your Ex Is Not on Your Support Team
06:00 – Family Members: Who Helps and Who Hurts
08:00 – "Keep It Amicable" Is Code for "Just Give In"
09:30 – When Family Cares More About How It Looks
10:30 – Family Violence: When Family Pressure Becomes Unsafe
11:00 – It's Not Your Job to Explain Coercive Control to Everyone
12:00 – The One Loyal Family Member Who Saw Behind the Mask
13:00 – What to Say to Pressuring Family Members
14:30 – In-Laws: Pausing Even the Good Relationships
17:00 – Enabler In-Laws and When to Distance Fast
19:00 – Family Violence Orders: When Family Contact Breaks the Rules
20:30 – Friends: Who Rolls Up Their Sleeves vs Who Stays "Neutral"
🔗 Resources
4 Ways to Agree in Divorce or De Facto Separation but Only One Is Legally Binding.
Monday, August 17, 2026 • Duration 45:02
🎧 LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF…
You and your ex wrote something down, signed it, and you think it is sorted
You spent a full day in mediation and signed a heads of agreement
You have a parenting plan sitting in a drawer and you are relying on it
You are about to sign something and you are not sure what it actually means
Your ex agreed to something and has now changed their mind
You want to know how to lock an agreement in so it cannot be undone
⚠️ General information only, not legal advice. Australian family law, and laws may have changed since recording. Always get your own independent legal advice.
🛟 This episode discusses coercive control, post-separation abuse and signing under duress. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732.
⏱️ EPISODE TIMELINE
00:00 – Is Your Divorce Agreement Actually Legally Binding?
01:00 – Welcome, Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Warning
02:00 – The Four Ways People Reach an Agreement in Divorce
03:00 – Kitchen Table Agreements: Why They Are Not Enforceable
04:00 – Your Property Pool Is Valued Later, Not at Separation
05:00 – The Lotto Case: Post-Separation Money Is Still Shared
06:30 – You Cannot Split Superannuation Without Court Orders
08:20 – Stamp Duty, Refinancing & the Exemption You Lose
11:00 – No Clean Break: They Can Always Come Back for More
12:00 – Time Limits Keep Running While You Wait
13:40 – What a Kitchen Table Agreement Is Actually Good For
15:00 – Recap: The Six Risks of a Private Divorce Agreement
16:10 – Mediation: Is a Signed Heads of Agreement Binding?
🎧 EPISODES MENTIONED 📚 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Healing After Coercive Control: Getting Yourself Back After Divorce
Episode 332
Wednesday, August 12, 2026 • Duration 01:07:41
You left. So why doesn't it feel over yet?
🎧 Listen to this episode if…
• You've left, but the healing and closure you expected haven't arrived yet
• You can't tell which parts of your anxiety are trauma and which parts are just you
• Your body still reacts even though it's been months or years
• You're frightened of repeating the pattern with someone new
• You're still second-guessing your own judgment and decisions
• You want to know where to turn for support and what actually helps
Part six, the final episode of our coercive control series, is all about you. Clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova joins Mum and me on the trauma that stays in your body, the window of tolerance and how to widen it, the shark cage, why coercive control has been called a cult of one, and how long recovery really takes.
Guest: Krasi Kirova, Clinical Psychologist.
⏱️ Episode Timeline
00:00 – Healing After Coercive Control: Getting Yourself Back
02:00 – Disclaimer and Family Violence Trigger Warning
03:00 – "Which Parts Are Trauma and Which Parts Are Me?"
05:00 – What Trauma Really Is: What Happens Inside You
06:00 – Complex Trauma vs One-Off Trauma Explained
08:00 – "My Body Is Still in the Trenches" a Year On
09:00 – The Window of Tolerance and Why Yours Narrowed
11:00 – Calming Your Nervous System in the Moment
12:00 – Widening the Window: Rest, Sleep and Movement
17:00 – Sensory Tools vs Daily Practices: What Helps Most
19:00 – Co-Regulation: Why You Heal Around Safe People
🎧 Episodes Mentioned
Property or Parenting First? Does the Order Actually Matter in Divorce Negotiations?
Episode 331
Tuesday, August 11, 2026 • Duration 51:12
🎧 Listen to this episode if…
• Your ex has said they will not discuss money until parenting is agreed
• You are not sure whether to sort property or parenting first, or both together
• You are separated under one roof and nothing is moving
• You have been handed an offer with a 24-hour deadline and it feels like pressure
• Your ex has suddenly started pushing hard for 50/50 after showing little interest
• You are heading into mediation and want to know what to do if they ambush you
⚠️ Disclaimer & Support
General information only, not legal advice. Australian family law. Always get advice about your own situation.
This episode discusses coercive control and financial abuse. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732. Lifeline 13 11 14.
Episode Summary
"I am not discussing property until parenting is sorted." It sounds like a rule. It is not.
Mum and I unpack whether the order matters, where property and parenting really overlap, the time limits you cannot miss, and the eight stalling tactics we are seeing right now – the hostage swap, the circle walk, the 50/50 care play, the disclosure drip, the attrition strategy, the mediation ambush, the generosity trap and weaponised urgency. Plus the interim property distribution most self-represented people have never heard of.
⏱️ Episode Timeline
00:00 – Property or Parenting First? Why Your Ex Wants to Control the Order
02:00 – Where Property and Parenting Actually Collide
04:00 – Why Some Exes Insist on Parenting First
06:00 – When Stalling Becomes Coercive Control and Economic Abuse
07:00 – Property Time Limits: De Facto vs Married Explained
09:00 – Can You Run Property and Parenting Together? Yes
🎧 Episodes Mentioned Links & Resources
How Do I Prove Coercive Control? The Evidence That Actually Counts
Wednesday, August 5, 2026 • Duration 01:13:28
You know it was abuse. But written down, each moment sounds small. This is the episode about proving it.
Part 5 of our six-part coercive control series with clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova. Mum and I work through your questions on affidavits, evidence, police reports and what the family court is actually looking for.
LISTEN IF YOU...
- Have kept notes for a year and worry they sound petty
- Have been told by a lawyer that coercive control does not matter
- Reported to police and were dismissed because there was no stalking or tracking
- Are writing an affidavit and do not know what to include
- Are still being controlled through emails, handovers and admin after final orders
- Are terrified of going back to court
This is general information, not legal or psychological advice. It reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your situation. Always get independent advice.
This episode discusses coercive control, family violence, financial abuse and sexual betrayal. If you are in danger call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732.
00:00 - Explaining Coercive Control When No One Believes You
01:00 - Series Recap and Meet Clinical Psychologist Krasi Kirova
02:30 - Legal Disclaimer and Family Violence Trigger Warning
03:50 - Stacy: How Do I Make My Notes Matter in Court?
06:00 - Why Each Incident Sounds Petty: The Puzzle Piece Problem
07:00 - Death by a Thousand Cuts: Proving Cumulative Harm
09:30 - When the Judge Spots the Pattern Themselves
10:30 - What Courts Look For: Coercive Control and the Property Pool
🎧 Episode mentioned: Finance and Financial Planners (with Pedro)
📞 1800 RESPECT — 1800 737 732 | Lifeline — 13 11 14 | Police — 000 🌐 www.thedivorcecourse.com.au – free resources + DIY Divorce Blueprint ✉️ Questions: thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com or DM @thedivorcecourse ⭐ Review the podcast each month for a chance to win a free 30-minute chat with Lyn
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All our best, Laura & Lyn – Your Guides By Your Side
🎧 Episodes Mentioned Take the Divorce Personality Quiz (Ep 302) → https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/take-the-divorce-personality-quiz-learn-why-your/id1503451022?i=1000748290587 Percentages in Divorce Property Settlements Explained (Ep 214) → https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/percentages-in-divorce-property-settlements-explained/id1503451022?i=1000729446519 Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers (Ep 64) → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/costs-family-court-and-calderbank-offers/id1503451022?i=1000575595095 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress (Ep 165) → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/divorce-dynamic-balancing-power-progress/id1503451022?i=1000666075743
🔗 Links & Resources 📞 1800 RESPECT — 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support) 📞 Lifeline — 13 11 14 🚓 Police — 000 (immediate danger) 🌐 The Divorce Course — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au 🎓 Podcast blog & notes — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog 🎓 Enrol in the DIY Divorce Blueprint — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enroll
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All our best, Laura & Lyn Your Guides By Your Side Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST
23:00 – Judgy Friends and the Gossip Collectors
25:00 – Screenshots to Your Ex: The Social Media Trap
26:30 – Don't Forget the Fun Friends: Finding Glimmers of Joy
28:30 – Online Support Groups: The Risks Nobody Talks About
30:00 – Commenting Publicly About Your Case: Court Consequences
32:00 – The Tom Holland Rule for Handling Criticism
32:45 – Choosing a Lawyer: What the Right One Looks Like
36:00 – Lawyer Red Flags: Gatekeeping Your Story (Episode 166)
37:00 – Brave Lawyers vs Lawyers Afraid of Court
38:30 – The Three As: Affability, Availability, Ability
39:30 – Why You Need Your Own Psychologist
41:00 – Emotion-Driven Strategy: The Most Expensive Mistake
42:30 – Kids and School: One Contact Person + the Counsellor
45:30 – Church and Faith Communities: Support or Pressure?
49:00 – Your Kids Can't Be on Your Team
50:00 – Bad Podcasts, Reddit and Wrong Information
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18:40 – Settler's Remorse: Why One in Five Deals Fall Over
20:00 – When Your Ex Uses Mediation to Waste Your Time
21:00 – Why Mediation Feels Official When It Is Not
23:00 – How to Prepare Before You Walk Into Mediation
24:00 – Parenting Plans: Are They Legally Enforceable?
25:00 – What a Judge Actually Does With Your Parenting Plan
26:30 – Parenting Plan or Consent Orders: How to Choose
29:00 – Coerced Into 50/50? Stepped Parenting Plans Explained
31:00 – Pressured to Sign a Plan Before They Move Out
33:30 – Consent Orders: The One Agreement That Is Enforceable
35:20 – Contravention: What Happens If They Breach the Orders
36:40 – The Disclosure Catch That Can Undo Your Consent Orders
38:00 – Why Parenting and Property Orders Stay Separate
39:20 – Rapid Fire: Fraud, Duress & Recorded Conversations
40:40 – Which Agreement Suits Your Divorce Personality Type?
42:40 – Baby Steps: Final Thoughts & Next Steps
Consent Orders or BFAs: Which Would You Choose? – https://share.google/BNQYdg1fGEoB1cD3l
Farmer & Bramley – the lottery win after separation case
Woodland & Todd – the property pool is assessed at the date of hearing
Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) s 90 – stamp duty exemption on transfers made under a court order
📞 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
📞 Lifeline – 13 11 14
🚓 Police – 000 (immediate danger)
🌐 The Divorce Course – www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
🎓 Blog & Podcast – www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
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22:00 – "How Do I Trust My Own Judgment Again?"
24:00 – Trust Is Built in Small Increments, Not All at Once
26:00 – How Capable People End Up There More Than Once
28:00 – The Shark Cage: Building Your Own Protection
30:00 – Red Flags and Writing Your Own No-Go List
33:00 – Testing a New Partner and Knowing Your Alarm Bells
37:00 – Krasi's Research Call-Out: Share Your Experience
39:00 – "Will I Ever Understand Why He Did This?"
42:00 – Still Living by Their Rules: Coercive Control as a Cult of One
44:00 – Rebuilding Autonomy and Learning to Tolerate Guilt
48:00 – Untangling Self-Blame and "The Part I Played"
52:00 – How Long Does Recovery Actually Take?
54:00 – Post-Traumatic Growth and What Becomes Possible
59:00 – Where to Turn: Services That Can Actually Help
01:03:00 – Closing the Series and the Cushions
Ep 323 – Coercive Control vs a Bad Relationship https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/coercive-control-vs-a-bad-relationship-how-to-tell/id1503451022?i=1000774925805
Ep 324 – Coercive Control Separated Under One Roof https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/coercive-control-while-separated-under-one-roof-how/id1503451022?i=1000775886114
Ep 325 – Financial Abuse and Coercive Control https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/financial-abuse-and-coercive-control-when-money/id1503451022?i=1000776879697
Ep 326 – Coercive Control and Your Kids https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/coercive-control-and-your-kids-how-to-protect-your/id1503451022?i=1000777679728
Ep 330 – How Do I Prove Coercive Control? https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/how-do-i-prove-coercive-control-the-evidence-that/id1503451022?i=1000779988943
Ep 216 – The Post-Divorce Glow-Up https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-post-divorce-glow-up-steps-to-emotional-recovery/id1503451022?i=1000731905804
Ep 322 – Survival Mode in Divorce: 3 Anchors https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/survival-mode-in-divorce-3-anchors-to-steady-yourself/id1503451022?i=1000773944015
Family Law Act 1975 – s 60CC, s 71B, s 79 | Federal Circuit and Family Court – www.fcfcoa.gov.au
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Your Guides By Your Side
Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST
14:00 - Your Affidavit Is the Proof, So You Have to Say It
14:20 - Anonymous: Should Infidelity Go in My Affidavit?
18:00 - DARVO Explained: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender
19:00 - Win: Can I Use Voice Memos and Home Security Footage?
21:40 - Legal Gatekeeping: When Your Lawyer Says It Does Not Matter
26:00 - How to Change Lawyers Mid-Case Without the Confrontation
28:00 - Katina: The Police Dismissed My Coercive Control Report
30:00 - The Empower You App and Finding a Station That Listens
33:20 - Roberta: Protection Orders When He Explains Everything Away
35:00 - Why Criminal, DV and Family Courts Do Not Talk to Each Other
37:00 - Samantha: Post-Separation Control After Final Orders
41:40 - Grey Rock, Escalation and When to Get a Risk Assessment
43:30 - Coercive Control Versus Ordinary Co-Parenting Conflict
46:30 - Admin Burden as Control: Fix It in Your Parenting Orders
50:00 - Jenna: When His Lawyer Becomes the Mouthpiece
54:00 - Lee: Fear of Court and a Teenager Who Will Not Visit
58:00 - Court Fear Is the Last Hook They Have Left
01:00:00 - Gina: What Evidence Is Actually Enough?
01:02:00 - Thresholds: Therapist Versus Police Versus Family Court
01:04:00 - The Marathon Analogy: Kicked, Then Blamed for Slowing Down
01:06:00 - Never Stop Documenting Until the Behaviour Stops
01:12:00 - The Magistrate Who Knew What Coercive Control Was
01:14:30 - Krasi's Conference Talk and Next Week: Healing
EPISODES MENTIONED
DARVO in the Family Court - https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=-YgsXkz8ybMB_lkr
Documenting Coercive Control - https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=SY_8UNT5puZ7Uj_F
Reporting to Police, Step by Step - https://youtu.be/s7vH5a9y7cA?si=sm1ReJaVxsvqKlNS
1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
Lifeline - 13 11 14
Police - 000 (immediate danger)
The Divorce Course - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
The Divorce Course Podcast - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Empower You app - free documentation app run by NSW Police
Krasi Kirova - clinical psychologist and board-approved supervisor
Share your experience anonymously for Krasi's conference talk: [LINK]
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