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Living in the space beyond cancer05 Nov 202500:43:15

When life changes – through a cancer diagnosis, treatment and the slow rebuild that follows – it can feel like a wave knocks you off your feet. In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Darelle Gengasamy about the moment everything shifted, the surge of despair, the pull of purpose and the everyday choices that helped her find steadier ground.

They explore the shock of diagnosis, the need to find a next step, and how reconnecting with personal values can bring direction when life feels uncertain. Darelle speaks candidly about accepting help, the power of community during COVID lockdowns and how small acts of care helped her rediscover meaning and identity.

This is a conversation about adapting to change with compassion – finding strength through connection, curiosity and the courage to keep shaping life in new ways.

Highlights & key moments 

 00:00 The wave hits – shock, self-blame and anchoring to purpose
 03:22 Hospital in lockdown – facing sepsis, uncertainty and isolation
 05:00 Breaking bad news – the “wall of water” moment
 07:18 Regaining power – “What’s the plan?” and saying yes to support
 12:02 Threat, drive, soothe – why relentless doing needs balance
 15:23 Receiving help – identity shifts and letting the village in
 17:08 Values as compass – keeping family at the centre
 19:44 Acts of service – small helps that rebuild confidence
 23:01 The Choice Pause – Acceptance Pause practice
 25:04 Recovery and reflection – rebuilding confidence after treatment
 27:18 Flexibility and experimentation – workarounds, setbacks and new doors opening
 32:49 Comparison trap and recognising your own needs
 35:23 Protecting energy – permission to decline what overwhelms
 37:16 Learning self-compassion – and why a supportive team matters 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david) and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

About the guest

Darrelle is an experienced GP with a passion for supporting mental health and wellbeing. She works as a GP and as a Lead Clinician with NHS Practitioner Health.  Currently completing her coaching qualification, she has developed a growing interest in supporting doctors with neurodivergent traits. At the age of 39 she was diagnosed with complex Stage 3 bowel cancer. This experience deepened her understanding of her core value of supporting others and how that value positively influences her own wellbeing. Grateful for the care and community that supported her recovery, she continues to focus on helping others find strength, purpose and connection beyond adversity. You can contact her via Instagram (@wellbeing_in_practice) or Linkedin

References

ESMO Patient Guide on cancer survivorship

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Finding Space with Intrusive Thoughts or a Busy Mind29 Oct 202500:39:00

When the mind feels crowded — with worries, doubts or intrusive thoughts — it can be hard to find calm or clarity. These thoughts are far more common than many people realise, whether they appear as part of anxiety, OCD or simply everyday life.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with CBT therapist Josh Munn about how to find space when your mind feels busy. They explore why intrusive thoughts arise, how they can pull us into loops of rumination or self-checking, and what helps us step back, respond kindly and focus on what truly matters.

The conversation offers clear explanations, relatable examples and a Choice Pause led by Josh — a short grounding practice called Dropping Anchor that you can use whenever thoughts start to spiral.

Highlights & key moments 

00:00 Opening reflections – compassion first and one small values-based action
00:46 Intrusive thoughts – myths, maintenance loops and why response is key
01:53 Understanding the journey – early work with anxiety and OCD and supporting others to feel understood
06:02 How fears become sticky – and the unhelpful cycles that follow
07:03 Mental compulsions – rumination, analysing, checking feelings and seeking reassurance
08:11 How worry and doubt can block presence and joy in relationships
11:45 Why pushing thoughts away can make them stronger
12:20 How attention reinforces what the mind focuses on
15:16 Making space – noticing thoughts and choosing what matters most
18:43 The Choice Pause – Dropping Anchor grounding practice
27:19 Seeing thoughts as thoughts – not facts or commands
36:36 Closing reflections

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  She is the founder of The Choice Space therapy and wellbeing hub, and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here

About the guest

 Josh is a CBT, EMDR and ACT therapist with a deep passion for supporting people living with anxiety, OCD and ADHD. He sees therapy as more than symptom reduction — it’s about helping people reconnect with their values, find freedom from unhelpful cycles and build lives that feel meaningful. Josh brings warmth, curiosity and genuine care to his work, sharing insights and practical tools to make evidence-based strategies more accessible to those who need them. You can connect with Josh via instagram and TikTok or through his website.

Reference

Hinuma S et al. Front Psychiatry. 2025;16:1520496

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Finding Strength Beyond Invisible Disability22 Oct 202500:35:09

When life changes — through serious illness, trauma or invisible disability — it can feel like the ground has shifted beneath us. In this powerful episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee about her journey through diagnosis, grief and identity loss, and how she found strength, self-compassion and a renewed sense of purpose. 

They explore the concept of post-traumatic growth, what it means to find yourself again and how aligning your choices with your values – even in small ways – can create a new, more authentic path forward.

Amrita speaks with honesty about the stigma of hidden disability in medicine, the fragility of being disbelieved, and the empowering process of reclaiming her story through research, coaching and connection.

Whether you’re living with an invisible illness, supporting someone who is, or a clinician supporting others, this episode is a gentle reminder that healing isn’t about returning to who you were – it’s about discovering who you are now.

What we cover

 00:00 Connection, courage and self-worth
 01:51 Finding meaning and rebuilding life after illness
 04:43 Becoming the patient – facing vulnerability and identity change
 07:24 The emotional impact of being unseen and disbelieved
 10:46 Grief, acceptance and the strength that follows loss
 13:11 Naming experiences – how words reduce shame and restore confidence
 14:50 The Choice Pause – the values compass
 16:32 Post-traumatic growth, recovery and purpose
 19:22 The linear flow – staying centred on what matters when life feels turbulent
 25:29 Everyday choices – protecting energy and setting healthy limits
 28:50 Finding support – the power of connection and understanding
 33:57 Closing reflection – courage, compassion and choosing what matters most 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  She is the founder of The Choice Space therapy and wellbeing hub, and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here

About the guest

Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee is a GP, positive psychology practitioner, coach and disability advocate whose work focuses on post-traumatic growth and invisible disability. Her research explores how doctors find growth after life-changing illness, and she leads national advocacy for inclusion through her role as co-chair of the Disabled Doctors Network. Recognised with awards from the University of East London, the RCGP and Pulse magazine, she combines clinical expertise with a compassionate, human approach to recovery and wellbeing.  

Listen to her TEDx talk.  You can find her research here

You can contact her at LinkedIn and Your Wellbeing Doctor

FB /Insta: @yourwellbeingdoctor  X: @yourwellbeingdr

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Self-Acceptance and Belonging With Dyslexia15 Oct 202500:41:35

What changes when we stop trying to fit in and start allowing ourselves to be who we really are?  In this episode of The Choice Space Podcast, Dr Lee David talks with Liz Evans, The Untypical OT  – occupational therapist, parent and advocate for neurodivergent families. They explore how to live authentically with dyslexia, the emotional impact of late diagnosis and the sense of relief that comes from finally understanding yourself.

They discuss how masking, perfectionism and shame can take hold when differences go unrecognised  – and how self-acceptance, humour and simple strategies can restore balance. Liz shares her personal journey from struggle to strength, and the lessons she’s learned about parenting, belonging and building a life that works with, not against, the way her brain works.

A compassionate, grounded conversation for anyone learning to drop the mask and embrace difference  – in themselves or someone they love.

What we cover

  • Why late diagnosis brings relief, anger and unexpected grief
  • The hidden toll of masking on mental health
  • The shift to self-understanding and acceptance
  • Practical tools to make everyday life easier
  • Humour and flexibility in family life
  • Letting go of perfection and owning strengths
  • Belonging in neurodivergent communities

Key moments

00:00 Emotional rollercoaster of late diagnosis
 02:40 What occupational therapy really means
 06:33 Why joy and fun are essential occupations
 10:12 Masking and shame
 19:37 The Choice Pause –  connection and acceptance
 23:08 How honesty builds trust and connection
 26:48 Anger and grief that come with understanding
 32:27 Belonging, community and self-acceptance
 38:29 Everyday tools to lighten the cognitive load
 40:23 Two simple choices to carry forward

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  She is the founder of 10 Minute CBT and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here

About the guest

Liz is a dyslexic solo parent in a neurodiverse family and an occupational therapist. She helps neurodivergent parents protect against burnout through a neuroaffirming, trauma and sensory-responsive lens, supporting a shift from survival and overwhelm to greater calm and capacity. You can find Liz on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. She’s also the host of The Untypical Parent Podcast, for neurodivergent families finding their own way of doing things differently.

References

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Permission and Choice: Freedom to Live Well08 Oct 202500:40:10

What would change if you gave yourself permission — to rest, to say no, to ask for help or to feel what you truly feel?

In this episode of The Choice Space Podcast, Dr Lee David talks with psychiatrist and therapist Dr Caroline Walker, founder of The Joyful Doctor and author of Permission: How to Feel, Heal and Thrive in a Challenging World. They explore why many people struggle to give themselves permission to prioritise their needs, emotions and boundaries — particularly in high-pressure settings like healthcare.

The discussion highlights the importance of acknowledging and allowing the full range of emotions, setting boundaries that support wellbeing, and practising self-acceptance. Dr Walker offers practical ways to begin giving yourself permission in daily life, encouraging a more balanced and sustainable approach to wellbeing.

This is a thoughtful, practical conversation for anyone who finds it easier to care for others than themselves.

What we cover
· The hidden power of permission — and how to reclaim it for yourself
· How culture, upbringing and role-modelling shape everyday choices
· Practising saying no and asking for help in small, safe steps
· Permission to feel: space for anger, sadness or fear without overwhelm
· Cognitive load, HALT and why constant information drains energy
· Finding your own path to self-care rather than following “shoulds”
· Standing in the centre of the whirlwind — staying calm when life feels full

 Key moments

00:00 What permission is and why it keeps showing up in clinical work
 07:20 From rigid rules to flexible, values-led choices
 10:20 HALT-C and naming needs in the moment
 12:40 Cognitive load, phones and replenishing vs draining “rest”
 15:30 Personal fit: designing wellbeing your way
 21:45 Saying no and building boundary “muscle” safely
 31:45 Negotiating at home: problem-solving without losing the why
 33:45 Meeting emotions without being swept away
 38:22 Two permission-based choices to use today

 About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. She is the founder of 10 Minute CBT and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn. And you can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here

About the guest

Dr Caroline Walker is a psychiatrist, therapist, speaker, trainer, writer and coach. She is founder of The Joyful Doctor – supporting overworked and under-appreciated doctors to move beyond ‘just existing’ and take steps towards a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life and career, free from fear or judgement. She lives in Kent with her family and is an international role model for doctors with mental health challenges.

She is author of the book Permission: How to feel, heal and thrive in a challenging world, drawing on personal experience, professional insight and stories from her doctor-patients to offer a compassionate guide to better mental health 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

From Burnout to Balance: Choices that protect our wellbeing01 Oct 202500:40:19

What happens when achievement stops feeling fulfilling and starts draining every ounce of energy? In this powerful conversation, former paediatrician Dr Jess Morgan joins Dr Lee David to explore the hidden early signs of burnout, why it can be so hard to slow down and how to rediscover a more sustainable way of living and working.

Jess shares her personal journey from NHS medicine through burnout and beyond – describing the subtle warnings she missed, the “hero narrative” that kept her pushing harder and the identity shift that came when she stepped away from clinical practice. Together we look at:

  • Spotting the signs early: loss of joy in everyday pleasures, creeping cynicism, relentless mental overdrive and the urge to stay busy to avoid uncomfortable feelings
  • The hero trap: how perfectionism, people-pleasing and proving ourselves can feed exhaustion and make it harder to set limits
  • Redefining identity: moving beyond professional labels and reconnecting with different parts of ourselves – the playful, creative, reflective sides that help us stay whole
  • Practical ways forward: therapy, supportive colleagues, setting and keeping boundaries, and small positive rituals that bring back energy and meaning

Lee and Jess also discuss the bigger picture: how compassionate leadership, realistic workloads and role-modelled balance at work can protect wellbeing far more than token gestures.

This episode includes The Choice Pause – What Matters, a short guided practice to help you breathe, notice and make space for what’s important.

Whether you’re feeling stretched thin or simply want to prevent burnout, this conversation offers grounded insight and gentle, doable steps:

  • Start tiny – even 10 minutes of joy or stillness counts
  • See “no” as a doorway to a deeper “yes” for what truly matters
  • Listen with compassionate curiosity to the different parts of yourself and what each needs

If you’ve ever wondered how to slow down without losing who you are, this episode will help you reclaim energy, choice and a more balanced way to live and work.

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. She is the founder of 10 Minute CBT and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn. And you can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here 

About the guest

Dr Jess Morgan has carved out a flexible and varied career that incorporates many of her different interests. She worked as an NHS paediatrician for over ten years before leaving clinical medicine in 2019 and retraining as a primary teacher. Alongside her work in the primary education sector, Jess is a speaker, writer and facilitator, using both expertise and lived experience to lead national change and improve the wellbeing and working lives of health professionals.  More than anything though, Jess is a wife and a mum and loves nothing more than a wet and windy walk with her family or pulling on a wetsuit and diving into a lake. 

Reference

Tang VL et al. Sci

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Finding choice through perimenopause, ADHD and burnout24 Sep 202500:43:55

In this episode
Dr Lee David is joined by psychologist Dr Lindsey Roberts to explore how perimenopause and ADHD intersect — from burnout, sleep disruption and emotional swings to masking, hyperfocus and the boom-and-bust cycle. Lindsey shares her late-diagnosis story, the role of joy, creativity and time outdoors, and why flexible, person-centred workplace support matters. Together they look at practical ways to protect energy — pacing, varied forms of rest, planning supports and compassionate self-talk — alongside the value of joined-up menopause and ADHD care.

Who this episode supports
Anyone navigating perimenopause (with or without an ADHD diagnosis), colleagues and loved ones who want to understand, clinicians supporting wellbeing, and leaders building flexible, neuro-inclusive teams.

What we cover

  • Perimenopause and ADHD: why the overlap matters, and why midlife can raise new diagnoses
  • Burnout, boom-and-bust & masking: how hyperfocus and “pushing through” backfire
  • Work that works: autonomy, flexible hours and portfolio careers that protect energy
  • Rest that actually rests: different “zones” so our thinking brain can switch off
  • Food, planning & fatigue: easing cognitive load on low-capacity days
  • Self-talk & acceptance: from harsh criticism to neutral acceptance and kinder structure
  • Two-track care: joined-up menopause support alongside effective ADHD care

Key takeaways

  • Support both tracks. Menopause care and ADHD care are distinct yet interconnected.
  • Boundaries for hyperfocus. Creativity thrives with planned pauses and recovery.
  • Rest is not the same as stop. Choose the rest your brain needs today.
  • Make life easier on hard days. Prepare defaults and simple routines.
  • Soften the inner voice. Swap self-blame for neutral acceptance and gentle structure.

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. She is the founder of 10 Minute CBT and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn. And you can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here 

About the guest

Dr Lindsey Roberts is a Chartered Psychologist with over 20 years of  experience in the health and neuropsychology sectors having worked across the NHS, academic, pharmaceutical industry and the charitable sectors in teaching, research and knowledge exchange. Lindsey loves to make a difference to people’s quality of life whether through one-to-one support or tailored interventions that spread to support many. To-date, Lindsey has brought in, or been a part of a team, who have brought in just under £2m in research grant funding for applied research in healthcare.

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Reference

Chapman L, Gupta K, Hunter MS et al. J Atten Disord. 2025;29:706. doi:10.1177/10870547251355006 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Finding choice when self-doubt gets in the way17 Sep 202500:44:15

In this engaging conversation, Lee and Dr Nik Kendrew delve into self-doubt, the complexities of imposter syndrome and the pressures of perfectionism. They explore practical strategies for managing anxiety, the importance of focusing on the process rather than the outcome, and the value of community and connection in overcoming challenges. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the significance of self-compassion and the power of small choices in fostering personal growth and resilience.

Takeaways

  • Imposter feelings are common and can affect anyone.
  • Self-doubt often leads to procrastination and inaction.
  • Breaking tasks into smaller steps can reduce overwhelm.
  • Focusing on the process rather than the outcome is key.
  • Mindfulness techniques can help manage anxiety.
  • Recognizing emotional states is crucial for self-awareness.
  • Community support can alleviate feelings of isolation.
  • Embracing imperfection can lead to greater creativity.
  • Small choices can lead to significant changes over time.
  • Self-compassion is essential in managing stress and expectations.

Chapters
00:00 Understanding Imposter Feelings
05:20 The Challenge of Starting New Projects
10:43 Overcoming Procrastination and Perfectionism
17:44 The Importance of Enjoying the Process
21:48 Navigating Self-Doubt in Professional Settings
25:07 Coping Mechanisms and Brain Space
25:43 Understanding Emotional Curves and Threat Brain
27:38 Finding Calm Amidst Stress
29:39 Self-Awareness and Functioning Well
31:45 Joyful Activities and Micro-Steps
32:40 Mindful Commuting and Self-Care
35:52 Connecting Through Shared Experiences
39:05 Values and Purpose in Podcasting
42:00 Overcoming Perfectionism and Embracing Process
44:45 Making Choices and Taking Action

Sound bites
"We often focus on the one negative feedback."
"It's about building allies in the workplace."
"There's no such thing as failure, only learning."

About Dr Lee David
Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing.  Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. She is the founder of 10 Minute CBT and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn. And you can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here 

About Dr Nik Kendrew
Nik is a GP partner in Kent and former GP trainer with a long-standing interest in how media shapes health behaviour. He believes well-informed medical content can support both the public and busy clinicians, and works to challenge misleading advice online. Nik has appeared on the BBC, ITV and Channel 4’s Steph’s Packed Lunch, is resident GP on Boom Radio and hosts the podcast Boggled Docs. Away from work he enjoys running, spin and cardio HIIT, as well as cooking risotto and making pizza in his home oven.

Reference
Bravata DM et al. Prevalence, predictors, and treatment of impostor syndrome: a systematic review. J Gen Intern Med. 2020;35(4):1252-1275. 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Trailer: Welcome to The Choice Space25 Jul 202500:03:20

In this short trailer episode, I’m introducing The Choice Space — a podcast for busy people who want to pause, reset and make wiser choices in the middle of everyday life. 


You’ll get a flavour of what’s coming — from solo episodes to expert interviews — all grounded in real-life experience, clinical insight and tools that actually work. And we'll discover how even a small pause can open up more freedom, clarity and direction — especially when life feels full or overwhelming.

Whether you're listening on the move or taking five minutes to yourself, I hope this space helps you breathe, reflect and take your next step with intention.

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Why Becoming A New Parent Can Feel So Hard24 Jun 202600:43:32

Becoming a parent is one of life's biggest transitions. Alongside the practical changes of caring for a new baby can come profound shifts in identity, relationships, emotions and mental health.

In this episode, perinatal psychologist Julianne Boutaleb joins Dr Lee David to explore why this period can feel so challenging and why many new parents are surprised by the intensity of the experience. From changes in the brain and heightened sensitivity to uncertainty through to sleep deprivation, relationship changes and the loss of the village that once helped families raise children, the conversation explores some of the reasons life with a new baby can feel harder than expected.

Julianne explains how modern parents often place enormous pressure on themselves to get everything right. They discuss perfectionism, social comparison and the belief that we should somehow instinctively know how to care for a baby. The discussion highlights why babies do not need perfect parents and how the idea of "good enough" parenting may be more helpful than many people realise.

The episode also explores the importance of connection and support. Julianne reflects on the role of partners, family, friends and wider communities in helping parents navigate the emotional ups and downs of early parenthood. She explains why asking for help can be difficult and why many parents mistakenly believe they should be able to manage alone.

Lee and Julianne also discuss perinatal mental health, including anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts and birth trauma. They explore how to recognise when additional support may be needed and why early support can make a meaningful difference.

This is a thoughtful conversation about the emotional realities of life with a new baby and a reminder that finding this period difficult is often a reflection of the scale of the transition rather than a sign that something has gone wrong.

And you can read Julianne's poem, Little Stranger, here in in our blog.

Key moments

00:00 The reality of becoming a parent
03:05 Why the transition feels so challenging
06:17 Uncertainty and loss of control
08:53 The support new parents need
12:07 Comparison and parenting pressure
17:00 How parenthood changes the brain
19:58 Why babies don't need perfect parents
23:58 The importance of a village
29:19 Small moments of support and kindness
31:22 Recognising perinatal mental health difficulties
36:24 Growth and change through parenthood
38:27 Choice Space takeaway

About the guest

Julianne Boutaleb is a consultant perinatal psychologist and founder and clinical director of Parenthood In Mind. With more than 24 years' experience across the NHS and private practice, she specialises in supporting parents and parents-to-be with perinatal mental health difficulties including anxiety, depression, birth trauma, PTSD, tokophobia, reproductive loss, fertility treatment, attachment difficulties and relationship challenges. Julianne has a particular interest in the impact of birth trauma on parents, couple relationships and parent-infant attachment, and has extensive experience teaching and training health professionals in perinatal mental health, attachment and early years wellbeing. She works with individuals, couples and families using a range of evidence-based approaches including CBT, ACT, compassion-focused therapy and attachment-based interventions.

You can contact her via the Parenthood in Mind Website, LinkedIn and Instagram

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

How ADHD Can Be Missed in Quiet Women17 Jun 202600:42:32

Some women spend years wondering why everyday life feels more difficult than it seems to for other people. They may appear calm, capable and organised on the outside, yet privately struggle with overwhelm, overthinking, self-criticism and exhaustion.

In this episode, Dr Lee David is joined by Gabrielle Treanor, ADHD coach, author and founder of the Quiet ADHD Club, to explore how ADHD can be missed in quiet, introverted and sensitive women.

Diagnosed herself at 48, Gabrielle reflects on why many women do not recognise themselves in common ADHD stereotypes. The discussion explores how ADHD may be hidden behind competence, people-pleasing, perfectionism and a lifelong effort to appear as though everything is under control.

The conversation looks at masking, rejection sensitivity, burnout, hyperfocus and the impact of living for years without understanding why certain aspects of life feel harder than they seem to for others. It also explores the relationship between ADHD, menopause and the inner critic, and how understanding what is happening can bring relief, self-compassion and a different way of viewing ourselves.

Practical strategies are woven throughout the discussion, including creating space for joy and creativity, recognising rejection sensitivity, using movement to support regulation, managing time blindness and building compassionate approaches that reduce pressure rather than adding to it.

This is a thoughtful conversation about self-understanding, compassion and recognising ADHD beyond the stereotypes.

Key moments

00:00 Finding the quiet ADHD story
01:58 Gabrielle's late ADHD diagnosis
05:30 How ADHD can look different in women
08:56 The hidden inner experience of ADHD
12:25 Perfectionism, masking and the inner critic
14:05 Burnout and unmet potential
18:46 Why joy matters for the ADHD brain
23:07 Rejection sensitivity and relationships
29:40 Self-compassion and regulation
35:04 Time blindness and overcommitting
37:55 Hyperfocus and healthy boundaries
40:59 Movement as a regulation tool

About the guest

Gabrielle Treanor is a coach, writer, author and podcaster based in Wales, specialising in supporting introverted and sensitive women who discover – or suspect – they have ADHD later in life. Diagnosed herself at 48, Gabrielle hosts the Quiet ADHD Club, works one to one with coaching clients, and has an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology. She is the author of The 1% Wellness Experiment and host of the Pressing Pause podcast. She is also creating the Better Read Book Fest – the UK’s first literary festival dedicated entirely to wellbeing books.

You can connect with Gabrielle via her website, Instagram and LinkedIn

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Exploring Patterns of Premenstrual Distress15 Apr 202600:43:37

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Sally Doust, GP and women’s health specialist, about premenstrual distress, including premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). The conversation explores how hormonal changes across the menstrual cycle can affect mood, energy, sleep and emotional sensitivity – and why these patterns are often overlooked or misunderstood.

They discuss the wider context of women’s health inequalities, including the lack of research and the ways this can affect recognition and treatment. Sally explains how changes in oestrogen and progesterone interact with the brain and body, and why premenstrual symptoms can look very different from one person to another.

The episode also looks at how to tell when symptoms may be cyclical, why tracking patterns can be so helpful and how recognition itself can reduce self-blame. There is thoughtful discussion of PMDD, including the severity of symptoms some women experience and the importance of feeling believed and supported.

Lee and Sally also explore practical support, from cycle tracking and self-compassion to lifestyle changes, supplements and medical treatment options. This is a grounded conversation about understanding patterns, widening choice and responding with more care and clarity.

Key moments
00:37 Introduction
02:48 Women’s health inequalities
04:27 Hormones across the cycle
08:52 Hormones and the brain
11:16 What PMS can look like
14:22 Cyclical patterns and timing
16:42 Choice Pause – changing mood and energy
25:35 Understanding PMDD
31:35 Supportive choices for PMS
35:29 Treatment options
41:52 Cycle tracking takeaway
42:50 The 30 – 30 – 30 approach

About the guest

Dr Sally Doust is a GP with a specialist interest in women's health and medical educator. She works in the NHS, in private practice, and at Brighton and Sussex Medical School. In her GP work she found many women had adverse experiences of healthcare because of gender biases and lack of research into women's health - this inspired her to specialise in this area and remains the key purpose of her career. She holds diplomas in obstetrics and gynaecology (DRCOG) and sexual and reproductive healthcare (DFSRH). She is a member of the Primary Care Women's Health Society and the British Menopause Society. For the past two years she's been a delegate for the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women.

You can connect with Sally on LinkedIn.

Here is a link to the NAPS PMS guidelines

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Getting Unstuck From the Success Trap08 Apr 202600:38:38

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Nic Malcomson, integrative psychotherapist, about the success trap – the pattern where strengths that once helped us thrive can gradually become rigid and exhausting.

The conversation explores how early success, positive feedback and high standards can shape identity over time. When life becomes more demanding or circumstances change, the same qualities that once worked well can begin to create pressure, self-doubt and a fear of slipping.

Lee and Nic discuss how this can show up in different ways – from ongoing over-striving and perfectionism to a deeper sense of feeling stuck after a setback. They reflect on the link between performance and self-worth, and how difficult it can be when identity becomes tied to always coping, achieving or getting things right.

The episode also explores Nic’s idea of fallible flourishing – a more compassionate and realistic way of thinking about growth, motivation and thriving. Together, they consider the value of naming the pattern, recognising the role of environment and finding space for being human rather than endlessly performing.

This is a thoughtful conversation about pressure, identity and self-worth, offering a kinder and more sustainable way to think about success.

Key moments

00:00 Why naming it matters
00:29 Introducing the success trap
01:30 Nic’s own experience
04:27 How identity develops
06:37 Burnout and breakdown
07:03 Chronic, acute and stuck patterns
11:01 Why setbacks can help
13:37 Ideal lived self and feared self
19:08 The importance of normalising
26:54 Under, over and optimal motivation
31:49 Fallibility and connection
33:18 Environment and supportive change

About the guest

Nic Malcomson is an integrative psychotherapist who has delivered more than 5,000 therapy sessions for doctors through NHS Practitioner Health and in his private practice, Eudemedics: Well-being for Doctors. He developed the Fallible Flourishing Model, which explores how early experiences of success can later create psychological traps around performance, identity and self-worth, and how these patterns can shift towards more sustainable flourishing. 

You can connect with Nic on LinkedIn or through his website: www.eudemedics.com 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Balancing Body and Mind in Menopause01 Apr 202600:44:18

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with GP and menopause specialist Dr Carys Sonnenberg about the complex ways menopause can affect emotional wellbeing, physical health and everyday life.

Menopause is often described in terms of hormones alone, yet the experience is rarely that simple. In this conversation, Lee and Carys explore how hormonal changes interact with sleep, stress, lifestyle habits and wider life pressures. Many women find themselves navigating fluctuating moods, disrupted sleep and changes in concentration at the same time as managing work, family responsibilities and other demands.

The discussion highlights how menopause is highly individual. Some women experience few symptoms, while others notice significant changes in mood, anxiety or energy. Understanding these differences can help create a more compassionate and personalised approach to care.

They also explore practical ways of supporting wellbeing during this time – including the role of lifestyle medicine, cognitive behavioural strategies, nutrition and hormone treatment where appropriate. Rather than focusing on a single solution, the conversation reflects on how multiple approaches can work together to support women through the menopause transition.

This is a thoughtful conversation about complexity, choice and self-understanding during a significant stage of life.

Key moments

00:00 Emotional symptoms in menopause
02:22 Mood changes and mental health
04:01 The six pillars of lifestyle
09:10 Habits, coping and awareness
12:21 Hormones and brain chemistry
20:27 CBT approaches for menopause
28:35 Hot flushes and thoughts
32:28 Breathing and stress regulation
37:37 Nutrition and neurotransmitters
41:01 A small wellbeing choice

About the guest

Dr Carys Sonnenberg is an NHS GP and British Menopause Society menopause specialist. She founded Rowena Health, an online service providing holistic menopause care for women. She is trained in CBT and nutrigenomics and is co-author of Women’s Health Made Easy, due to be published in 2026. Carys is also a member of the Primary Care Women’s Health Society wider committee and contributes to education through national conferences and webinars.

You can contact her via her website, or on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram: @drcaryssonnenberg

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Choosing Good Enough in Family Life25 Mar 202600:44:29

Modern family life can leave parents feeling pulled in all directions – trying to support their children, manage daily pressures and make the right decisions in a world full of advice, expectations and opinions about getting it right. In that context, the idea of being a good enough parent can feel both reassuring and like an important reset.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by clinical psychologist and author Dr Tara Porter to explore what good enough parenting really means, and why it matters for children’s mental health and family wellbeing.

They discuss how modern parenting has become increasingly outcome-focused, with pressure around education, activities, behaviour and getting things right. Tara reflects on how these pressures can make parenting feel like something to optimise or perfect – and how aiming for the messy middle instead can help families find more flexibility, balance and connection.

The conversation also explores relationship-based parenting, including the importance of showing up, staying present and allowing for rupture and repair. Rather than aiming to be endlessly calm or perfect, Tara highlights the value of authenticity, emotional competence and adjusting as children grow and change.

They also discuss the idea of being firm and kind – holding boundaries in a way that is guided by values rather than control. From phones and screens to everyday family life, the episode looks at how parents can stay connected while still offering structure, guidance and care.

This is a thoughtful conversation about easing pressure, focusing on what matters and finding a more compassionate, realistic way to parent.

Key moments

00:21 Good enough parenting
02:16 Where the idea comes from
03:33 Pressure, culture and modern life
06:39 The messy middle
13:13 Relationship-based parenting
19:26 Rupture and repair
29:46 Being firm and kind
32:04 Values and boundaries
36:13 Emotional competence
42:18 Lead with relationship

About the guest

Dr Tara Porter is a clinical psychologist and author with 28 years’ NHS experience working with children, adolescents and families, specialising in eating disorders. She now works privately in London, with a particular focus on the adolescent and young adult years. Tara has a strong interest in mental health in schools, contributing to the Anna Freud Centre’s Schools in Mind project, writing for TES and teaching in schools. She is also an Associate Tutor at UCL and the author of several books including You Don’t Understand Me and Good Enough: A Framework for Modern Parenting.

Connect with Tara via LinkedIn or Instagram @drtaraporterpsychologist

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Strength Through Challenge in the Mountains18 Mar 202600:45:56

Spending time in the mountains can offer something rare in modern life – space to think, to feel and to see our lives from a wider perspective. For many, the outdoors provides not only challenge and adventure but also regulation, clarity and meaning.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by adventurer and Mind Over Mountains founder Alex Staniforth to explore how time outdoors can shape resilience, perspective and everyday choices.

They discuss how early experiences of illness, bullying and feeling different can shape self-belief, and how discovering the mountains offered Alex a sense of safety, possibility and purpose. The conversation explores how stepping beyond familiar limits – outdoors or in daily life – can build confidence and coping capacity.

The episode reflects on Alex’s experiences on Everest and the lasting impact of the Nepal earthquake, including making sense of trauma and finding meaning through helping others. Rather than viewing resilience as toughness alone, the discussion highlights values, connection and self-compassion in sustaining wellbeing.

They also explore nature’s role in mental health – widening perspective, supporting presence and creating opportunities for connection. Alex shares how this led to Mind Over Mountains, combining outdoor activity with psychological support to help people build lasting tools for wellbeing.

This is a grounded conversation about finding strength through challenge, living in line with what matters and using small, intentional choices to support resilience and wellbeing.

Key moments

00:33 Challenge, perspective and resilience
03:18 Early experiences and self-belief
07:29 Finding safety and possibility in the mountains
11:50 Values, purpose and challenge
15:15 Connection, solitude and restoring energy
20:14 Creating space through the outdoors
23:07 Everest, survival and the Nepal earthquake
27:12 Trauma, meaning and long-term recovery
35:59 Nature as therapy and Mind Over Mountains
39:14 Nature's impact on wellbeing and connection
42:14 Supporting mental health with time outdoors 

About the guest

Alex Staniforth is a record-breaking adventurer, ultra-runner, speaker and founder of the mental health charity Mind Over Mountains. By 19, he had survived two Mount Everest disasters, and has lived with epilepsy, mental ill health, a stammer and bullying since childhood. He is the fastest person to climb all 446 mountains in England and Wales under human power and is the author of Icefall and Another Peak.

Connect with Alex: 

Website, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram @alexstaniforth_

Mind Over Mountains 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

The Emotional Power of Literature and Stories11 Mar 202600:40:49

In a world of constant notifications and competing demands on our attention, many of us feel too busy to read. Yet books and stories offer something increasingly rare – a quiet, immersive space where we can reflect, feel and make sense of our experiences.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by Dr Charley Baker, Associate Professor of mental health at the University of Nottingham, to explore how literature helps us understand psychological distress, identity and experiences that do not fit neatly into clinical language.

They discuss reading as an active process that can restore energy, broaden perspective and deepen empathy. Stories allow us to encounter complex emotions, stigma and trauma from the inside, in a space that feels safer and more intimate than other media.

The conversation explores how literature can help us find language for difficult experiences, challenge preconceptions and strengthen connection – with others and ourselves. They reflect on the role of fiction in clinical understanding, the value of poetry and shorter forms when concentration is low, and how sharing books can become an act of care that strengthens relationships.

Rather than presenting reading as something we should do, this episode invites a gentler approach – noticing what draws us in, allowing ourselves to stop when a book does not connect, and recognising that stories can meet different needs at different times.

This is a grounded conversation about how literature can support understanding, connection and emotional wellbeing.

Key moments

00:57 Why reading offers a different kind of space in a fast-paced world
02:18 Charley’s journey into literature, mental health and the health humanities
04:18 How stories build empathy and broaden perspective
06:03 Immersion, representation and feeling understood through fiction
10:58 Literature and understanding self-harm
15:11 Finding language for trauma and complex experiences
17:19 Choice Pause – opening space for creativity and curiosity
19:57 Reading as nourishment and active recharge
23:32 Sharing books as connection and enacted kindness
31:07 Listening to our needs and finding our own relationship with reading
33:48 Audiobooks and new ways of accessing stories
39:44 Permission to stop reading what doesn’t connect 

About the guest

Dr Charley Baker is an associate professor of mental health at the University of Nottingham. Her work explores literature, mental health and the health humanities, focusing on how stories support understanding of distress and lived experience. Her clinical interests include domestic abuse, violence against women and girls, self-harm, suicide and OCD, and how narrative approaches can support people experiencing distress.

Instagram: @CharleyBakerTheBookPusher

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Reframing What It Means To Be Selfish04 Mar 202600:43:35

For many people, the word selfish is linked with guilt and a sense of having done something wrong. It’s often understood as putting yourself first at the expense of others, which can lead to a habit of placing your own needs last.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by Suzy Reading, psychologist and author of How to Be Selfish, to offer a different perspective. Suzy reframes selfishness as allowing your needs, feelings and limits to matter, rather than being overridden by everyone else’s.

Together, they explore why many caring people label themselves as selfish for resting, setting boundaries, expressing emotions or asking for support. Guilt is examined as a signal of values and care, not proof that something is wrong, and how quickly self-criticism can take hold when expectations feel relentless.

They discuss how selflessness is often learned early, shaped by family roles, cultural messages and ideas about being “good”, particularly for women and parents. Lee and Suzy reflect on how neglecting our needs can lead to exhaustion and burnout, and why attending to ourselves supports healthier relationships.

The episode also explores boundaries as practical ways of taking responsibility for wellbeing. Suzy shares simple tools drawn from psychology, movement and nervous system regulation, alongside a Choice Pause to help listeners check in during moments of pressure.

This is a reflective conversation about developing a kinder relationship with yourself and letting go of the idea that worth is earned through self-sacrifice.

Key moments

00:00 Why selfishness is associated with guilt
04:09 Reframing selfishness as allowing your needs to matter
05:27 Selflessness, identity and putting yourself last
07:09 Guilt as a signal of care and values
09:32 Depletion, exhaustion and burnout
11:43 Where fear of selfishness comes from
13:24 Parenting and modelling emotional honesty
16:06 What boundaries are and how they work
18:38 Requests, agreements and responsibility
26:06 A simple grounding practice
31:49 Noticing nourishment and awe
37:27 Kind self-talk

About the guest

Suzy Reading is a chartered psychologist and self-care and self-advocacy expert with three decades of experience across psychology, yoga and personal training. She supports people to develop sustainable habits and heal their relationship with self. Suzy is the author of The Little Book of Self-Care, The Self-Care Revolution, Self-Care for Tough Times and her latest book, How to Be Selfish.

You can connect with Suzy on LinkedIn and Instagram - @suzyreading

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Creating Space Around Body Image25 Feb 202600:42:38

Concerns about our bodies are common and part of being human. For some people, they remain occasional worries. For others, they begin to take up more attention, influence mood and shape everyday choices about food, movement, relationships and confidence.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by Joanna Silver, a psychologist specialising in eating disorders and body image difficulties, to explore why appearance-related distress can become so persistent – and what can genuinely help.

They discuss body image as something that exists on a continuum, from everyday dissatisfaction to more intense distress that narrows attention and reduces quality of life. Joanna explains how self-worth can become overly linked to weight or shape, why comparison often increases distress, and how cultural messages, family language and social media all shape how we relate to our bodies.

Rather than framing body image as something to fix or eliminate, the conversation approaches it as a relationship – one that can soften and become more balanced over time. They explore why change is rarely linear, how shame thrives when concerns stay hidden, and why curiosity and kindness are often more helpful than self-criticism.

The episode also includes a Choice Pause – a short, guided moment to help create space from comparison and reconnect with what matters in the present moment.

This is a compassionate, practical discussion about understanding body image distress and finding steadier ways to care for our bodies, even on difficult days.

Key moments

00:39 Why body image concerns are common and when they become more distressing
03:50 When self-worth becomes tied to appearance
07:12 How family, culture and language shape body image
09:16 Comparison, social media and increased distress
11:26 Signs body image concerns may be affecting daily life
15:27 Shame, secrecy and the value of talking
19:31 The Choice Pause creating space from comparison
22:04 Relating to body image as a relationship
28:47 Shifting focus from appearance to function
35:15 Body distress as a signal
40:34 Small steps towards a kinder relationship with the body 

About the Guest

Joanna Silver is a Counselling Psychologist who specialises in working with people affected by Eating Disorders, Body Dysmorphic Disorder and body image problems.  She works as the Lead Psychological Therapist at Orri, a treatment centre for people with Eating Disorders.  I am passionate about bringing compassionate, evidence-based conversations about mental health and body image into the public space.  

You can connect with Joanna via Linked in

Beat eating disorders charity

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Finding Connection Through Singing18 Feb 202600:38:43

There’s something quietly powerful about singing alongside other people. Music is known to support emotional wellbeing, and singing in a group brings breath, sound and attention together in a shared space. Shared voices and shared rhythm can create a sense of connection and ease, even when life feels busy or full.

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Glen Harvey – musician and long-standing choir leader with Rock Choir – about what he has observed over many years of bringing people together to sing, and why community choirs often become meaningful spaces for wellbeing and connection.

They explore how singing supports both body and mind through breath, posture and movement, and how it can help people feel more present and settled without needing to analyse or fix anything. Glen shares why people from very different backgrounds are drawn to choir, and how a sense of belonging often develops naturally when the focus is on the shared experience rather than performance.

The conversation also touches on the thoughts that can sometimes hold people back, such as self-criticism or worry about getting things wrong, and how community singing gently shifts attention away from judgement and towards being in the moment together.

Highlights & Key Moments

00:00 Singing as a shared experience
02:08 Glen’s journey into choir leading
03:49 Why singing together feels different from singing alone
05:16 Stress, breath and the physical effects of singing
08:04 Posture, breathing and confidence
10:22 Thoughts that can hold people back from singing
13:10 Letting go of perfection in performance
18:40 The Choice Pause – settling with sound
22:13 Attention, anxiety and staying present
26:03 Music as a way of quietening a busy mind
27:00 Why people come to choir
29:37 Inclusivity, kindness and feeling safe in groups
33:21 A simple music-based takeaway

About the Guest

Glen Harvey is a versatile musician and choir leader with advanced skills as a vocalist, pianist and guitarist. He trained at the Academy of Contemporary Music and first became known as a semi-finalist on Pop Idol in 2003. He's been leading Rock Choirs for over 16 years, spreading harmonies and laughter across Hampshire, Berkshire, Northern Ireland and soon the Republic of Ireland. 

A master of turning strangers into friends and choirs into families, he’s sung everywhere from Abbey Road to Wembley, for audiences of up to 20,000 people, from royalty to George Clooney. At home in Farnham with his wife Lisa and their three children, Glen swaps his microphone for gardening gloves, gym gear or a dinner menu. Whether on stage or in the garden, he’s all about growing joy – one song, one laugh, one memory at a time.

Connect with Glen: Instagram @glenharveymusic

Find out more about Rock Choir via their website

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Moving Beyond Shame Around Our Identity11 Feb 202600:39:17

Shame is rarely spoken about openly, yet it quietly shapes how many people see themselves and relate to others. It can affect how safe we feel, whether we believe we belong and how harshly we judge ourselves. For many people, shame grows from repeated experiences of feeling different, criticised or not quite fitting in.

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Simon Lyne – CBT therapist with specialist experience in shame, identity, sexuality and trauma – about how shame develops, why it can feel overwhelming and how it becomes closely tied to our sense of self.

They explore shame as a deeply human response linked to our need for connection and acceptance, often shaped early in life through family relationships, school experiences and social messages. Simon describes how shame differs from guilt and how it can drive patterns such as perfectionism, people-pleasing, withdrawal or anger as ways of coping.

The conversation also looks at the cumulative impact of repeated comments, assumptions and experiences of exclusion, particularly for LGBTQIA+ individuals and others from marginalised groups, and why this makes shame harder to shift through individual effort alone.

Alongside this, Lee and Simon discuss how compassion – from others and towards ourselves – can help dismantle shame, supporting values-led choices, connection and resilience.

This is a grounded conversation about naming shame gently, finding safe relationships and creating room for self-acceptance in everyday life.

Key moments

00:00 Shame, identity and belonging
03:08 What shame is and why it runs so deep
06:14 Shame and the sense of being fundamentally wrong
09:50 How shame shapes behaviour in adult life
11:23 Why shame thrives in secrecy
14:09 The impact of repeated exclusion and micro-messages
15:31 Compassion as a way of softening shame
18:39 Choice Pause – a moment of self-kindness
28:57 Guilt versus shame and self-blame
37:46 Choice Space Takeaway – small steps towards kindness and connection

About the guest

Simon Lyne is an accredited CBT therapist, psychosexual psychotherapist, and published author practising within the NHS and private practice. His specialised areas include shame, sexuality, working with queer communities, and relational trauma. He combines CBT with EMDR and compassion-based approaches, offering nuanced, client-centred support.

https://simon-lyne.squarespace.com/

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

The Hidden Emotions Behind Clutter10 Jun 202600:39:35

When does clutter become more than too much stuff?

For many people, clutter is simply a practical challenge. But for others, it can become linked to grief, shame, overwhelm, changing identities and life experiences that are much harder to untangle than the possessions themselves.

In this episode, Dr Lee David is joined by professional organiser and author Lesley Spellman to explore the hidden emotions behind clutter. The conversation looks beyond the practical task of tidying and asks why it can feel so difficult to let things go in the first place.

They discuss how possessions can become connected to memories, hopes for the future and versions of ourselves that are hard to leave behind. The episode explores why clutter may build up during periods of stress, poor mental health, trauma or loss, and why simply trying to become more organised rarely addresses what is happening underneath.

Lee and Lesley reflect on the role of shame and self-criticism, how clutter can affect confidence and relationships, and why many people find it difficult to ask for help. They also discuss the comfort that possessions can sometimes provide, and how that comfort can gradually become something that limits the life we want to live.

The conversation explores why small, manageable steps are often more effective than dramatic clear-outs, how confidence can grow through practice and why understanding the emotions attached to our belongings can make change feel more possible.

Rather than focusing solely on creating a tidier home, this episode reflects on how creating space in our environment can sometimes create more room for connection, wellbeing and the things that matter most.

Key moments

00:00 When clutter becomes a comfort
01:29 A house full of clutter
04:05 Shame and isolation
06:14 Understanding the emotional side of clutter
09:41 Clutter, safety and control
11:30 Clothes, identity and life changes
13:14 Building your decluttering muscle
15:02 Finding your bigger why
19:58 Grief and letting go
26:49 The power of community
28:36 Why small steps matter
31:26 What changes after decluttering
36:41 Where to start

About the guest

Lesley Spellman is a professional organiser, author and co-founder of The Declutter Hub, a global online membership supporting thousands of people to declutter and simplify their homes. She co‑hosts The Declutter Hub Podcast with Ingrid Jansen, a show ranked in the top 0.5% of podcasts worldwide with over 3 million downloads and more than 400 episodes. Lesley is co‑author of Reset Your Home and also runs The Clutter Fairy, a successful professional organising service operating across the North West and Midlands in the UK. With 16 years of hands-on experience, she helps people move from overwhelm and guilt to calm, confident living.

You can contact Lesley via Instagram, Facebook, or the Declutter Hub website

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Changing How We See Weight And Health04 Feb 202600:38:58

Weight is often treated as a simple matter of willpower or discipline, yet for many people it carries a heavy burden of shame and judgement. Conversations about weight can feel exposing and personal, making it harder to seek support or make changes that genuinely improve health.

In this episode, Dr Lee David is joined by Dr Hussain Al-Zubaidi – GP and lifestyle medicine specialist – to explore why shame is so closely linked to weight, and why focusing only on the number on the scales often misses what really matters.

They discuss obesity as a complex, long-term health condition shaped by biology, genetics, environment, stress, sleep and social context, rather than personal failure. Hussain shares insights from his clinical work, including how stigma – sometimes within healthcare itself – can undermine confidence, motivation and access to care.

The conversation looks at why behaviour change is rarely linear, how self-criticism can derail progress, and why compassionate, realistic approaches are more likely to support long-term health. They also discuss weight-management medication – when it may be helpful, why it attracts stigma, and how informed decision-making can support wellbeing.

This is a thoughtful discussion about shifting the focus from weight to health, understanding the forces that shape our choices, and finding kinder, more sustainable ways to care for our bodies.

Key moments

00:00 Health gained versus weight lost
02:02 Personal experiences of shame and weight
03:33 Why weight is seen as a personal failing
05:30 Stigma, bias and their impact on care
07:19 Self-criticism and behaviour change
10:33 The value of shared support
12:44 Why advice alone rarely leads to change
15:40 The wider drivers of obesity and environment
22:38 Understanding weight-management medication
27:11 Making health decisions without shame
30:46 Why change is non-linear
33:18 Environments that support healthier choices
37:10 Measuring success through health, not scales 

About the Guest

Dr Hussain Al-Zubaidi is a GP with an extended role in lifestyle medicine and personalised care lead for the Leamington PCN. He is the RCGP lifestyle and physical activity champion, heads the UK’s first PCN-based fitness club, appears as a TV on This Morning and GMB and is parkrun’s Health Partnerships lead. He is also a trustee at ThinkActive, sits on the advisory board for Swim England and leads the Red Whale Lifestyle and Obesity medicine courses. Outside work, he’s is a keen triathlete who has represented his country.  

You can find Hussain on Instagram and LinkedIn

Find the Red Whale obesity medicine course 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Rethinking Our Relationship With Alcohol28 Jan 202600:43:12

Alcohol is woven into many people’s daily lives as a way to unwind, connect or mark the end of the day. For some, it can also become a way of managing difficult emotions, stress or disconnection, often without feeling like a “problem” in the traditional sense.

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Navneet Singh – psychotherapist and addiction specialist – about how people develop relationships with alcohol and why those relationships can be hard to change, even when drinking starts to feel unhelpful.

They explore what alcohol offers emotionally and socially, and how it can act as a short-term way of regulating feelings such as overwhelm, shame or boredom. Navneet describes how drinking patterns are often shaped by earlier experiences, trauma, identity and the need for connection.

The conversation also looks at why knowledge alone is rarely enough to create change, and how boredom, disconnection and loss can increase the pull towards alcohol. Together, they reflect on the role of compassion, curiosity and supportive relationships in creating more choice and flexibility around drinking.

This is a thoughtful discussion about understanding what alcohol does for us, noticing patterns gently and finding alternative ways to meet underlying needs.

Key moments

 00:00 Exploring our drinking patterns
 02:13 How alcohol fits into culture and social interaction
 04:50 Language, shame and why labels can get in the way
 07:18 Alcohol as pleasure, avoidance and emotional regulation
 12:46 Trauma, shame and alcohol as an unhealthy medicine
 16:29 Why change is hard and often slow
 17:56 Boredom, disconnection and the pull towards alcohol
 23:48 Choice Pause – creating space around urges
 27:09 Why support and community are so important
 40:12 Choice Space Takeaway – inquiry, connection and small steps 

About the guest

Navneet Singh is a psychotherapist, group facilitator and addictions specialist. He works with NHS Practitioner Health and in private practice, bringing an integrative approach shaped by clinical experience, leadership roles and long-term personal recovery.

 His earlier career in hospitality and involvement in establishing a residential rehabilitation programme in India inform his understanding of high-pressure environments and culturally sensitive care. He holds an MSc in Addictions from King’s College London, is a registered member of UKCP, BACP and Addiction Professionals, and works with clients in English, Hindi and Punjabi. 

You can contact Navneet via his websites:

 www.addictionsrecovery.co.uk
www.navsinghpsychotherapy.com

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Finding a Way Through Winter Low Mood21 Jan 202600:44:50

Winter can be a difficult time for many people. Shorter days, less light and increased pressures at work and home can affect mood, energy and motivation, making everyday life feel heavier and harder to manage.

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Helen Garr – Medical Director at NHS Practitioner Health – about finding a way through low mood in the winter months. They explore why winter often amplifies stress and emotional strain, and how expectations around productivity and “pushing on” can clash with what our bodies and minds really need at this time of year. 

The conversation looks at permission, balance and self-awareness, offering practical ways to check in with ourselves, recognise early signs of struggle and understand when extra support may be needed. Together, they reflect on the value of movement, light, connection and small, nourishing actions, as well as compassion, psychological safety and supportive relationships. 

 This is a thoughtful discussion about understanding winter low mood and finding realistic, compassionate ways to care for ourselves – and knowing when and how to reach out for support. 

Key moments

 00:00 Why winter can make low mood harder to manage
 02:10 NHS Practitioner Health and its role
 04:24 Hope, recovery and supporting healthcare professionals
 05:23 Psychological safety and workplace culture
 08:10 Being your “best self” under pressure
 10:57 Why winter amplifies emotional stress
 14:40 Permission, balance and expectations
 17:35 Checking in with yourself and noticing early signs
 25:18 Talking openly about hopelessness and suicidal thoughts
 28:21 The Choice Pause –  pace for positive action
 32:42 Support, connection and “your crew”
 43:42 Choice Space takeaway – simple steps to support winter mood 

About the guest

Dr Helen Garr is Medical Director of NHS Practitioner Health, a national service supporting Healthcare professionals with mental health and addiction difficulties.

She is a GP and recognised leader in wellbeing and mental health, with a background in psychology and nursing. Helen has worked extensively in student health at the University of Nottingham Health Service and continues to work in out-of-hours general practice.

She is a former Public Health England Clinical Champion for physical activity, a former Director of the British Society of Lifestyle Medicine, and currently serves as Wellbeing Lead for Nottinghamshire LMC. Helen is known for her engaging speaking style and commitment to compassionate leadership in healthcare.

Outside of work, Helen enjoys open water swimming (mainly in the summer), running half marathons (slowly) and walking her chocolate Labrador, Eileen.

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Making Sense of Grief and Loss 14 Jan 202600:42:20

Grief is something most of us will encounter, yet it remains rarely talked about. It can follow the death of someone we love, but also the loss of health, identity or relationships. When grief arrives, it often brings a complex mix of emotions that feel overwhelming or unexpected.

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Professor Lucy Selman – a leading researcher in palliative and end-of-life care at the University of Bristol and founder of the Good Grief Festival – about what grief really is and how we can better understand and support it.

They explore grief as a natural human response rather than a mental health problem, looking at why it can involve emotions far beyond sadness, including anger, guilt, shame and relief. Lucy explains how grief is shaped by relationships, culture and identity, and why naming grief can bring relief and permission to respond with compassion rather than self-judgement.

 The conversation also challenges common myths about grief – including the idea that it follows a neat timeline – and introduces the dual process model to explain how people move between mourning and everyday life. Together, they reflect on the importance of connection, self-care and practical support, as well as when additional help may be needed.

This is a discussion about making space for grief, understanding its many forms and finding ways to live alongside loss with kindness and flexibility.

Key moments

00:00 Why we struggle to talk openly about grief
02:13 What grief is and the many forms loss can take
04:50 Naming grief and why it brings relief
09:46 Understanding grief with the dual process model
13:25 Guilt, self-blame and compassion in bereavement
16:49 How we start making sense of loss
20:19 Why grief isn’t linear
23:52 Noticing loss with compassion
26:12 When grief becomes more complex and support is needed
30:17 Day-to-day self-care during grief
34:23 How to support someone who is grieving
40:12 Presence, compassion and practical support

About the guest

Lucy Selman is professor of palliative and end of life care at the University of Bristol. She has spent over 20 years researching psychosocial and spiritual aspects of serious illness, communication and decision-making, family caregiving and bereavement. Her work focuses on grief and how people are supported through illness and loss. Lucy is on LinkedIn and X.

The Good Grief Festival (Website, Instagram, LinkedIn) offers courses for bereaved people and professionals, including a new course for GPs and primary care clinicians.

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Letting Go Of Christmas Pressure In Neurodivergent Families10 Dec 202500:41:12

Christmas is often portrayed as joyful and effortless, yet many families experience something far more complex. Sensory overload, disrupted routines and shifting expectations can build pressure quickly, and for neurodivergent families these challenges can be especially pronounced. Old roles and stories can also resurface, adding emotional weight to a time that comes with more noise, movement and change than usual.

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Lucy Rigley – clinical psychologist and specialist in neurodivergence and family wellbeing – about why Christmas can feel demanding and the small, workable choices that can make it easier.

They explore sensory differences, routine changes, how family dynamics can intensify at this time of year and why preparation and acceptance can ease overwhelm. Lucy offers practical ways to balance different needs within a household, communicate with wider family members and create traditions that support wellbeing rather than trying to match external expectations.

This is a conversation about understanding real needs within a family – and letting go of pressure so there is more room for calm, connection and authenticity in a season that can feel busy for everyone.

Highlights & key moments

00:00 Introduction – why Christmas brings hidden pressures
 00:36 The sensory load of the festive season
 07:15 Balancing varied needs within a neurodivergent household
 10:38 Co-regulation and why adults’ wellbeing shapes the day
 14:25 Future-you planning and small choices that ease pressure
 17:02 Involving children in problem-solving and creative ideas
 18:27 Social media, comparison and finding people who get your life
 23:21 Authenticity over perfection – celebrating real family moments
 28:36 Communicating with wider family without escalating conflict
 34:43 Naming disappointment and making space for mixed feelings
 36:18 Routines, safe spaces and reducing festive demands
 39:14 Choice Space Takeaway – acceptance and preparation for calmer days

About the guest

 Dr Lucy Rigley is a clinical psychologist, therapist, trainer and lecturer with over a decade of experience supporting people and organisations around mental health and neurodivergence. After working in the NHS since 2013, Lucy now runs an independent practice offering therapy, assessment and consultation for children, families and neurodivergent people. Her work focuses on autism, ADHD, trauma and parenting – helping individuals, families and systems such as schools to understand needs with compassion. Alongside clinical work, Lucy lectures and trains practitioners, and is committed to making psychology accessible through workshops and community projects, including parent wellbeing sessions in play cafés.

You can contact Lucy via her website, Instagram (@drlucy.co.uk) or Facebook

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Space To Support Health Professional Survivors of Domestic Abuse03 Dec 202500:40:20

In support of #NHSDAAD – NHS Domestic Abuse Awareness Day on 10 December 2025

 Domestic abuse is an issue that affects people across every part of society – including those who work in healthcare. Many clinicians quietly carry experiences of fear, control or unpredictability while still showing up to care for others. Rates of domestic abuse are thought to be around three times higher in health professionals than in the general population, yet it can remain hidden and hard to talk about. 

In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Anoushka George – Manchester GP and member of a national advisory group improving domestic abuse awareness in healthcare – about the realities facing clinicians who are surviving abuse. Together they talk about why recognising what’s happening can be so difficult, how subtle patterns can build over time and the pressures that make it harder for clinicians to reach out for support. 

They explore the role of shame, fears around judgement or professional reputation, worries about confidentiality and the internal pressure many clinicians feel to cope alone. They also discuss what can help: noticing early signs, keeping factual records, speaking with trusted people, accessing safe and confidential support and offering gentle conversations when we’re concerned about a colleague. 

This is a compassionate, practical conversation about understanding the realities faced by health professionals living with domestic abuse – and about creating space for recognition, care and safer choices when someone feels ready. 

About the guest

Dr Anoushka George is a GP in Manchester with a strong commitment to improving awareness and education around domestic abuse in healthcare. Since 2022, she has been part of a national advisory group working to highlight abuse within the healthcare workforce, and build collaboration across key organisations, including RCGP, NHS Practitioner Health, BMA, GMC, RMBF and IRISi. You can connect with her on LinkedIn.

Support and information about domestic abuse

Doctors Association UK: NHS Domestic Abuse Resources

Women’s aid

NHS Practitioner Health

Refuge 

National Domestic Abuse Helpline 

SafeLives  

Bright Sky app  

Phrida study

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Inside the Gut-Liver-Brain Connection 26 Nov 202500:38:18

When the gut–liver–brain connection becomes disrupted, energy, mood and long-term health can all feel harder to sustain. Changes in the microbiome can influence immunity, inflammation and even how the brain processes stress. In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with Professor Debbie Shawcross – hepatologist and leading researcher in chronic liver disease – about how the gut, liver and brain communicate and what helps this system stay in balance.

They explore the role of the liver, how the microbiome functions as a complex community and why diversity in diet, movement and daily habits matters. Debbie shares emerging research on the microbiome in chronic disease, including the PROMISE trial on faecal microbiota transplantation, and offers simple, realistic choices that can support metabolic health, mood and resilience.

This is a conversation about understanding the body’s interconnected systems – and how small, compassionate choices around food, alcohol and movement can strengthen wellbeing in meaningful ways.

Highlights & key moments

00:00 Introduction – the gut–liver–brain connection
 01:53 Debbie’s background – from gastroenterology to microbiome research
 04:04 The liver’s role – metabolism, detoxification and whole-body health
 05:58 What the microbiome does – diversity, immunity and mental health
 09:54 How antibiotics, diet and lifestyle shift microbial balance
 11:15 Nutrition choices – fibre, colour and reducing ultra-processed foods
 13:29 Alcohol – how it affects the gut, liver and mood
 17:03 The impact of alcohol on sleep and emotional processing
 18:30 Apples, pectin and supporting microbiome diversity
 20:19 Choice Pause – tuning into your body
 22:14 Research insights – repairing a ‘sick’ microbiome
 24:00 Faecal microbiota transplantation – safety and potential benefits
 26:46 Alcohol-producing bacteria and cravings
 28:25 Small, affordable dietary changes that make a difference
 32:03 Exercise – benefits for the microbiome, liver and mood
 35:15 Micro-movements and reducing sedentary time
 36:47 Final reflections – movement, mood and looking after the microbiome

About the guest

Dr Debbie Shawcross is Professor of Hepatology and Chronic Liver Failure at King’s College London and Consultant Hepatologist at King’s College Hospital. A specialist in hepatic encephalopathy and cirrhosis, she is EASL Secretary General, chairs the BSG Research Committee, and is Clinical Advisor to the British Liver Trust. Her research investigates the gut-liver-brain axis and microbiome in chronic liver failure, leading European trials of faecal microbiota transplantation, including the NIHR-funded PROMISE Trial. A long-standing advocate for gastroenterology training and mentorship, she has held key leadership roles with the BSG, Health Education England and charities supporting liver and digestive health.

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Active Choices To Support Adult Sleep19 Nov 202500:43:57

When sleep becomes unpredictable, every part of life feels more difficult. Tiredness can drain patience, confidence and emotional steadiness – and for many adults, sleepless nights create a cycle of worry and frustration that’s hard to break. In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with occupational therapist and CBT-i specialist Louise Berger about how adults can understand their sleep more clearly and make small choices that genuinely help nights settle again.

They explore what drives sleep, why it becomes difficult and how anxiety, over-effort and disrupted routines keep patterns stuck. Louise shares practical evidence-based strategies that support adult sleep – from resetting unhelpful habits to easing night-time worry and rebuilding confidence in the body’s natural rhythm.

This is a conversation about choice, change and compassion – recognising that sleep can improve, that pressure makes it harder and that adults deserve support without blame or rigid rules.

Highlights & key moments

00:00 Introduction – why adult sleep becomes difficult
  03:28 What sleep does – physical, cognitive and emotional health
 05:55 Why worry about sleep makes nights harder
 07:20 Sleep quality – what it really means
 10:00 Why night-time waking is normal
 11:49 CBT-i explained – the science behind effective change
 13:40 Stimulus control – resetting the bed–sleep connection
 14:55 Scheduling sleep – why less time in bed can help
 16:27 Sleep hygiene – what matters and what doesn’t
 17:34 Common myths – blue light, screens and sleep stages
 21:13 Practical boundaries – choosing what helps you wind down
 24:30 Night-time worry – why the brain is different at 3am
 27:03 Worry time – scheduling thinking with compassion
 31:18 Stress and sleep – preventing long-term problems
 36:08 Sleep trackers – why data can mislead
 40:12 Choice Space takeaways

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david) and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

About the guest

 Louise Berger is an Occupational Therapist specialising in sleep and leads the Insomnia Clinic at the Royal Surrey County Hospital – one of the few UK NHS services dedicated to insomnia treatment. She focuses on turning sleep science into practical support, delivering training, mentoring and public speaking and contributing to national guidance to improve access to care. Alongside her NHS work she offers private sleep coaching, lectures on the University West England Sleep Medicine course, is a trustee for the British Society of Pharmacy Sleep Services and sits on the communications committee for the British Sleep Society. 

You can connect with Louise on LinkedIn or contact her directly at louisebergersleep@proton.me

References

CBTi - JAMA Psychiatry 2024;81(4):357-365

Impact of blue light - Sleep Med Rev 2024;76:101933

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Making space for sleep in family life12 Nov 202500:35:59

When sleep is broken, everything feels harder. Fatigue affects patience, confidence and emotional balance – and in early parenthood, rest can feel like a distant dream. In this episode, Dr Lee David speaks with sleep consultant and mum of three Caroline Jones about finding realistic, compassionate ways to support both infant and parent sleep.

They explore how small changes, shared support and self-trust can make a big difference – and why flexibility matters more than following fixed rules. Caroline shares practical ways to restore balance, from understanding sleep science to building healthy routines that work for each unique family.

This is a conversation about calm, confidence and connection – recognising that good sleep supports the whole family’s wellbeing and that every parent deserves rest without pressure or comparison.

Highlights & key moments
00:00 Introduction – when sleep struggles impact mental health
02:25 Caroline’s story – twins, exhaustion and discovery
05:29 The pressure cooker – coping with fatigue and finding freedom outdoors
06:52 Choice in parenting – trusting your instincts and finding what works
07:06 Evidence matters – what research really says about infant sleep
09:02 Sleep architecture – why broken sleep hits parents hardest
11:26 Permission to rest – why parental wellbeing supports connection
12:00 Attachment, security and sleep training – what the research shows
13:20 Making sense of sleep training methods and consistency
16:22 Parent anxiety, perinatal illness and emotional readiness
19:27 Why shared support and small changes make a big difference
22:35 Common myths – overtiredness and “sleep breeds sleep”
24:35 Following your baby’s cues and unique sleep needs
27:50 Sleep in older children – building confidence and security
31:44 Resilience and independence – loving choices at night
33:32 Choice Space takeaways – trust yourself, and rest is strength

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david) and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

About the guest

 Caroline Jones is an OCN Level 6 Certified Sleep Consultant, mum of twins plus one, and self-confessed sleep geek. She supports parents with evidence-based, compassionate guidance to navigate infant and family sleep, and leads Your Sleep Mentors – a programme for training and supporting other consultants. Caroline believes sleep isn’t a luxury but essential for mental and physical health, and is passionate about challenging myths and grounding her work in solid evidence. Website: www.thesleepremedy.co.uk
Email: info@thesleepremedy.co.uk
Instagram: @thesleepremedy

Reference

Sci Rep 2025;15:24076

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Why Movement Matters In Midlife03 Jun 202600:36:54

What if movement in midlife is less about performance – and more about protecting the life you want to live?

In this episode of The Choice Space Podcast, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Juliet McGrattan – former GP, runner, coach and author of The Runner’s Guide to Menopause – about why movement becomes especially important during midlife and menopause, and how to approach it in a way that feels realistic and supportive.

For many women, movement suddenly feels harder. Energy, motivation, recovery, aches and pains, changing bodies and busy lives can all affect how exercise feels. Others may feel unsure where to begin, particularly if movement has never felt enjoyable or part of their identity.

Lee and Juliet explore the many ways movement can support health and wellbeing during midlife – from improving mood, managing stress and supporting social connection, to reducing future risk of conditions such as heart disease, type 2 diabetes and frailty. They discuss why strength, mobility and balance become increasingly important during menopause, and how small, sustainable changes can make a meaningful difference over time.

The conversation also reflects on the pressures women often place on themselves around exercise. They discuss moving away from comparison, body shame and perfectionism, and instead finding ways of moving that feel flexible, enjoyable and personally meaningful – whether that means running, walking, strength work or simply starting where you are.

This is a thoughtful conversation about meeting your body where it is, valuing movement for what it gives back, and building habits that support the life you want to keep living.

Key moments
00:00 Why movement feels harder
04:16 Barriers to exercise in midlife
05:29 Why movement matters for health
09:14 Running as a gift to yourself
11:23 Making running feel enjoyable
13:07 Walking as a starting point
14:12 Listening to your body
16:59 What rest days really mean
19:12 Choice Pause – meeting your body where it is
21:05 Celebrating small wins
22:39 Staying motivated to move
29:14 Strength, mobility and ageing well
35:17 A small first step into movement

About the guest
Dr Juliet McGrattan is a former GP, award-winning author, international speaker and coach who helps women improve their health and wellbeing through movement. Once an inactive mum and GP, Juliet’s own journey into running led her to become a marathon runner and passionate advocate for women’s health through exercise.

She now combines medical knowledge with a practical, accessible approach to movement, helping women feel stronger, healthier and more confident in active lives. Juliet is the resident health expert for 261 Fearless and Women’s Running magazine, co-founder of the UK charity 261 Club UK.

SShe is the author of several books including: Sorted: The Active Woman's Guide to Health (2017), and The Runner’s Guide to Menopause: Your essential toolkit for strong, happy and healthy training was published in March 2026. 

You can connect with Juliet via her website, Instagram, Facebook or LinkedIn

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

How Stress Becomes Burnout Via The Nervous System27 May 202600:44:05

Many people recognise times when it becomes harder to switch off. We may feel constantly under pressure, more emotionally reactive or as though we are just about keeping up. But sometimes ongoing stress can begin to shift into something else – where we feel more exhausted, detached and less able to think clearly or recover.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Claire Plumbly, clinical psychologist and author, about how stress can sometimes progress into burnout through its impact on the nervous system.

The conversation explores the difference between stress and burnout and how burnout may develop when the nervous system stays under pressure for too long. Lee and Claire discuss the green, amber and red states of the nervous system and how understanding these can help make sense of why coping may suddenly feel harder – or why we may feel more disconnected, overwhelmed or shut down.

They also reflect on why burnout is often about more than work alone. Caring responsibilities, parenting, menopause, challenging relationships and the pressure to keep going can all add to the load we are carrying. The discussion explores why feeling heard matters when life feels overwhelming, and practical ways to support recovery – including building small pauses and transition points into busy days.

This is a thoughtful conversation about stress, burnout and recovery, offering a more compassionate and realistic way to understand why coping can sometimes start to feel harder.

Key moments

00:00 The tennis ball machine analogy
02:46 Stress versus burnout
05:47 The tipping point into burnout
08:01 Burnout beyond paid work
10:47 Burnout and the nervous system
16:37 Green, amber and red zones
18:33 Why we need green to think
22:13 Burnout and trauma parallels
27:07 Relationships and nervous system safety
35:08 “Wow, that’s a lot”
40:02 Transition points and reset

About the guest

Dr Claire Plumbly is a clinical psychologist, author of the Amazon bestseller Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You, and founder of Plum Psychology – a psychology practice for overcoming trauma, burnout, anxiety and low self-esteem. Claire and her team are trauma-trained psychologists offering therapy, workplace workshops and EMDR intensives. She is based online and in Taunton, Somerset.

 You can connect with Claire via her website, Instagram, YouTube and LinkedIn 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Why Trauma Often Goes Unseen20 May 202600:44:22

Many people live with patterns of anxiety, stress or physical symptoms without realising that past experiences may still be shaping how they feel today.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Susanna Petche, GP and founder of Trauma Sense, about why trauma is often missed – and how it can affect both mind and body in ways that are not always obvious.

The conversation explores how trauma is frequently minimised or overlooked, both by individuals and within wider systems of care. They discuss how experiences that were never fully acknowledged can continue to influence how safe life feels, how we relate to others, and how we see ourselves.

They also reflect on how trauma responses can show up in everyday ways – through anxiety, physical symptoms, or reactions that don’t seem to make sense. This includes the role of the body in holding stress, and how triggers can operate outside of conscious awareness.

They explore how trauma can remain unrecognised for many years, sometimes being understood as anxiety, depression or physical health problems. This can make it harder for people to make sense of their experiences, and to find the right kind of support.

The discussion highlights the importance of being seen and believed, and how simple, human responses can support healing. They explore the role of self-compassion, curiosity and body-based approaches in helping people begin to make sense of their experiences.

This is a thoughtful conversation about recognising trauma, offering a more compassionate and realistic way to understand ourselves and others.

Key moments

00:00 Personal experience of trauma
04:16 Why trauma is often missed
05:03 Minimising and dismissing trauma
07:28 Trauma and loss of safety
09:17 Why validation matters
10:12 Trauma, shame and self-blame
17:36 Signs of trauma responses
21:57 Understanding triggers
24:01 The Choice Pause
27:46 Self-compassion and healing
32:05 Starting to make sense of trauma

About the guest

Dr Susanna Petche is a GP with over 25 years’ experience and the founder of Trauma Sense. Her work focuses on improving understanding of trauma and its wider impact on health. She integrates insights from neuroscience, functional medicine and coaching to support individuals and professionals. Through her teaching, speaking and clinical work, she aims to bring greater awareness to how trauma can be recognised and understood in everyday life.

You can contact Susanna via her website, Instagram and watch her TEDx talk

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Why We Need to Talk About Men’s Mental Health13 May 202600:41:43

Many men don’t grow up being shown how to recognise, name or talk about their emotions. So when life becomes challenging, there often isn’t a clear way to make sense of what’s happening or how to respond.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Chris Hemmings, therapist and founder of Men’s Therapy Hub, about why men’s mental health can be harder to recognise, talk about and support.

They explore how men are often socialised to disconnect from emotions, making it harder to understand what’s going on or to ask for help. This can show up through behaviour rather than words – irritability, withdrawal, overworking or isolation – where something feels wrong but is hard to explain.

The conversation also reflects on the role of shame, both culturally and internally, and how this can delay men seeking support until things reach crisis point. Alongside this, they discuss how connection, curiosity and compassion – from friends, family and wider society – can begin to shift this.

Chris shares practical ways men can start to take small steps, including building awareness through behaviour, opening up gradually and finding spaces where it feels possible to be heard without judgement.

This is a thoughtful and grounded conversation about understanding men’s mental health with more compassion, and creating space for earlier support and connection.

Key moments

00:00 Feeling alone in struggle
01:37 Chris’s story and coping patterns
04:18 Why men suppress emotions
07:06 Strength vs flexibility
09:33 Crisis before seeking help
12:05 Supporting boys and listening
17:49 Why men come to therapy
23:37 Choice Pause – heavy moments
26:17 Behaviour as a signal
30:28 Reaching out for support

About the guest

Chris Hemmings is a therapist and coach who specialises in working with men. He’s the founder of Men’s Therapy Hub, a directory of male therapists for male clients. Before training to be a therapist he was a BBC journalist, writing and making documentaries about men, masculinity and mental health. He’s also the founder of M-Path, who go in to schools across the UK speaking to students about what it means to be a man.

Connect with Chris via his website, and Men’s therapy hub via Instagram, YouTube and LinkedIn

No Man's an Island podcast

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Small Steps To A Happier Life06 May 202600:45:44

Many people spend years chasing the next goal, hoping life will feel better when they finally arrive. But what if feeling happier works differently?

In this episode, Dr Lee David is joined by Mark Williamson, Director of Action for Happiness and author of a new book about how to make life happier.

They explore why happiness is often misunderstood as something we reach through success, achievement or finally getting everything in place. Mark shares why many people fall into the trap of “I’ll be happy when…”, and how this can keep fulfilment feeling just out of reach.

The conversation looks at a more realistic path to wellbeing – including where we place our attention, the habits we build and how small repeated actions can shift the direction of daily life. Lee and Mark discuss mindfulness, gratitude and why noticing what genuinely helps matters more than chasing perfect routines.

They also reflect on the importance of relationships, kindness and listening well. Mark explains why connection remains one of the strongest predictors of long-term happiness, and how even small everyday interactions can have wider ripple effects.

This is a thoughtful and grounded conversation about creating a happier life through realistic choices, meaning and everyday moments that often go unseen.

Key moments

00:00 Kindness and ripple effects
01:21 Introduction
02:09 What happiness really means
07:45 The “I’ll be happy when” trap
12:21 Agency and values-led choices
16:29 Mindfulness in daily life
21:51 Gratitude and noticing good
29:00 Tiny habits that last
32:38 Why relationships matter
35:28 Listening and reducing conflict
43:20 Choice Space takeaway
45:04 Being interested, not interesting

About the guest

Dr Mark Williamson is the Director of Action for Happiness and has led this social movement from an idea on paper to a thriving community with over 800,000 members in 100+ countries. He was previously Director of Innovation at the Carbon Trust, Senior Manager at Accenture and worked at Hewlett-Packard Labs and Orange. 

Mark’s new book, Make Life Happier: 23 Practical Ways to Feel Better, Find Meaning and Make a Difference was published in April 2026.

You can follow Mark on LinkedIn, Facebook, X, Bluesky, TikTok and Instagram

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Making Sense of Worry When Life Feels Uncertain29 Apr 202600:44:55

Many people seem to be managing day to day, while privately dealing with a mind that rarely switches off. Worry can go round in circles – replaying conversations, looking for reassurance, imagining what might go wrong or trying to feel certain about an uncertain future.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by GP and author Dr Martin Brunet to explore why worry happens, what keeps it going and what can help when it starts to take over.

They discuss the role of uncertainty in anxiety, and why the mind often responds to uncertainty by producing more thinking rather than more clarity. From health anxiety to fears about loved ones, they explore how checking, reassurance seeking and repeated mental reviewing can bring short-term relief while keeping the cycle alive.

Martin shares practical ways to respond differently, including shifting from “what if?” to “even if”, using planned worry time, and learning how to calm the body through breathing and inner tone of voice. The conversation also explores his memorable character Wilbur – an anxious companion who is trying to protect us, but often uses unhelpful methods.

Together, they reflect on a more compassionate relationship with anxiety – not handing it control, but not fighting it endlessly either. They also explore the value of taking laughably small steps towards the life that matters to you, even when fear is present.

This is a warm, practical conversation about understanding worry, building flexibility and creating more choice in the moments that matter.

00:00 Why worry feels so powerful
01:05 Understanding anxiety differently
03:32 Fear, avoidance and self-judgement
06:09 Anxiety as one part of us
06:56 Meeting Wilbur
11:40 Patience instead of criticism
13:44 Health anxiety and symptom checking
18:07 What if versus even if
25:07 Choice Pause – moments of uncertainty
31:39 Using worry time well
35:04 Breathing and calming the nervous system
41:14 Laughably small steps forward

About the guest

 Martin Brunet is a GP, speaker and author with an interest in communication and mental health. He works three days a week as a GP and spends the rest of his time writing, teaching and posting about mental health on social media, where he has been surprised to find that his @doc_martin_gp accounts have built a large following. His first book, The GP Consultation Reimagined, a Tale of Two Houses, was published in 2020 and outlines the Two Houses model for the consultation. Your Worry Makes Sense, his new book on anxiety and burnout, was published in 2025 for a general readership. 

You can connect with Martin on Instagram and TikTok

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

Sexual Health and Intimacy for All Bodies22 Apr 202600:44:38

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Samantha Evans, sexual health and pleasure expert and co-founder of Jo Divine, about sexual health, intimacy and how our relationship with our bodies can change across life.

The conversation explores how changes in hormones, health and life experiences can affect desire, comfort and confidence. They discuss how common issues such as vaginal dryness, irritation and reduced sensation are often misunderstood – and how small, practical changes can make a meaningful difference.

They also reflect on why sexual health is still difficult to talk about, both for individuals and healthcare professionals. Samantha shares insights into how shame, lack of education and cultural messaging can prevent people from seeking help, and why open, informed conversations can support both physical and emotional wellbeing.

The discussion highlights the importance of inclusive language and avoiding assumptions about age, identity or relationships. It explores how intimacy can take many forms and how people can reconnect with their bodies – and with others – in ways that feel right for them.

This is a thoughtful and practical conversation about understanding change, reducing self-judgement and finding new ways to approach intimacy across different stages of life.

Key moments

00:00 Why sexual health matters
02:30 Common intimacy concerns
06:00 Vaginal dryness and irritation
09:30 Ingredients and product awareness
12:00 Inclusivity in sexual health
14:30 Why it’s hard to talk about sex
18:00 Intimacy, grief and loss
21:20 Myths about desire and arousal
23:30 Aging, identity and assumptions
25:10 Body image and confidence
27:30 Self-criticism and kindness
29:00 Choosing intimacy on your terms

About the guest

Samantha Evans is a sexual health and pleasure expert, former nurse and co-founder of Jo Divine, an online company specialising in skin-safe, irritant-free sexual wellbeing products. She works with healthcare professionals across the NHS and private practice to support patients with sexual function, intimacy and pleasure, including lubricants, vaginal moisturisers and appropriate products. Samantha is also a writer and educator, producing practical resources that help normalise conversations about sex and support people to explore intimacy in ways that work for them. She collaborates with cancer and menopause charities, delivers training and webinars for healthcare professionals, and has contributed to media discussions on sexual health, including appearing in Sex, Myths and the Menopause. 

You can connect via the Jo Divine website, Facebook or Instagram: @samtalkssex and @jo.divine

10% discount code for Jo Divine: CHOICESPACE (£5 minimum spend on full priced products excluding P&P) ENDS 30/6/26 

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david 

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