Just know that the moms you see on social media are highlighting their best moments and it's a HIGHLIGHT REEL.
Ever feel like no matter what you do it's never enough? Let's talk about Mom Guilt in 5 minutes or less today on the 5 minute Mama.
Hi, I'm Elyssa your host and mom of 2, here to real talk with fellow mamas.
Why does mom guilt happen?
Immense pressures from society, cultural expectations and moms place themselves on a pedestal of how they have to be the perfect representation of a mother.
I like to call it Pinterest Moms but we're not here to judge because if you are a Pinterest mom then I envy you.
Social media plays a big role in heightening mom guilt these days. We are exposed to perfectly curated mommy vlogs complete with Alo workout sets and colour matching Stanleys to signify – she's got it together.
To be honest, I have workout sets and a Stanley and I never seem to have it together.
I find most of my mom guilt affects me by not allowing me to be present. What I mean is that I'm always living 2 steps ahead and not living in the moment.
For example, I'm prepping lunch for the next day rather than taking the time to understand how my daughter felt about her day TODAY.
I'm thinking about how I'm going to need to pop back online on my computer while I'm giving my two kids a bath and thinking of how much work I have and when I'm going to eventually go to bed.
The mental load is something else. Is the laundry done? Does my 4 year old have an undershirt for the negative 15 degree day?
And if not how could I have been so forgetful and careless to do something as simple as switch over the laundry?
It's that mental load that plays as a feedback loop in my head making sure I'm the perfect mom and not letting one ball drop.
And what happens after all of this?